被批评感
推荐的方法组合 被批评感 创建自述：被批评感
被评判/羞耻感 ①
推荐的方法组合 被评判/ 羞耻感 创建自述：被评判/羞耻感
被误解感
推荐的方法组合 被误解感 创建自述：被误解感
不被体谅感
Getting th e Love You Want 推荐的方法组合 ②
推荐的方法组合 不被体谅感 创建自述：不被体谅感
怨 恨 推荐的方法组合 怨恨
创建自述：怨恨
沮丧/无望感 推荐的方法组合 沮丧/ 无望感 创建自述：沮丧/无望感
要点总结
处理人际关系引发的情绪崩溃的方法组合 被遗弃感 被背叛感 被控制感
处理人际关系引发的情绪崩溃的方法组合 被批评感 被评判/ 羞耻感 被误解感 不被体 谅感
处理人际关系引发的情绪崩溃的方法组合 怨恨 沮丧/ 无望感 脚注 ① ②
第9章 巩固你的成功 坏消息和好消息 习惯成自然背后的神经科学
保持习惯的巩固练习 用“智者人格”来保持
用“积极前景”来保持
用“创建自述”来保持 创建自述：坚持练习
你的旧习惯是可以改变的
永久，但不完美 要点总结
附录A 附加资料 参考资料 延伸阅读 愤 怒 The anger workbook
The anger control workbo ok. 焦 虑 Mastering yo ur fears and phobias: Workbook (Treatments that work) The anti-anxiety workboo k: Proven strategies to overcome worry, phobias, panic, and ob session The anxiety & phobia workbook When panic attacks: The new, drug-free anxiety therapy that can change your life Anxiety disorders: The go-to guide for cli ents and therapists The relaxati on and stress reduction workbook Stop obsessing! How to overc ome your obsessions and compulsions The mindfulness and acce ptance workbook for anxiety The OCD workbook: Yo ur guide to breaking free from obsessive-compulsive disorders Hope and help for your nerves
The 10 best-ever anxiety manage ment techniques workbook Don’t panic: Taking control of anxiety att acks 大脑与神经科学 Destructive emotions The emotional brain: The mysterious un derpinnings of emotional life The miracle of mindfulness The mindful brain: Reflection and attune ment in the cultivation of well-being 抑 郁 Feeling good: The new mood therapy The depression wo rkbook: A guide for living with depression and manic depressio n The mindful way through depression: Freeing yourself fro m chronic unhappiness Challenging de pression: The go-to guide for clinicians and patients
巩固关系 Anxious in love: How to manage your anxiety, reduce conflict, and reconnect with yo ur partner. The high-conflict coupl e: A dialectical behavior therapy guide to finding peace, intimac y, & validation. Why marriages succeed or fail The seven principles for making marriage work Getting the love you want: A guide for couples, 20th anniversary edition Getting the love you want workbook Pocket guide to interpersonal neurobiolog y: An integrative handbook of the mind The developing mind: How relationships and the brain interact to shape who we are Ten commandments for co uples: For every aspect of your relationship journey 管理情绪 Beyond the relaxation response
Affect regulation toolbox: Practical and e ffective hypnotic interventions for the over-reactive client Full catastrophe living: Using the wi sdom of your body and mind to face stress, pain and illness The mindful way workbook: An 8-week program to free yourself from depre ssion and emotional distress
附录B 推荐的方法组合 处理人际关系引发的情绪崩溃的方法组合 被遗弃感 被背叛感 被控制感
处理人际关系引发的情绪崩溃的方法组合 被批评感 被评判/ 羞耻感 被误解感 不被体 谅感
处理人际关系引发的情绪崩溃的方法组合 怨恨 沮丧/ 无望感
附录C 人际关系中情绪导火索空白自测表 人际关系中情绪导火索 我有 从不 偶尔 有时 经常 总是 导火索 作为反应的痛苦的想法和情绪
导火索 作为反应的痛苦的想法和情绪 导火索 防卫或拒绝反应 人际关系中情绪导火索 我有 从不 偶尔 有时 经常 总是
导火索 作为反应的痛苦的想法和情绪 导火索 防卫或拒绝反应 人际关系中情绪导火索 我有 从不 偶尔 有时 经常 总是
导火索 作为反应的痛苦的想法和情绪 导火索 防卫或拒绝反应 人际关系中情绪导火索 我有 从不 偶尔 有时 经常 总是
导火索 作为反应的痛苦的想法和情绪 导火索 防卫或拒绝反应 人际关系中情绪导火索 我有 从不 偶尔 有时 经常 总是
导火索 作为反应的痛苦的想法和情绪 导火索 防卫或拒绝反应 人际关系中情绪导火索 我有 从不 偶尔 有时 经常 总是
导火索 作为反应的痛苦的想法和情绪 导火索 防卫或拒绝反应
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