LISA web 3

JeffCoLivingTM©

Art, Entertainment & Lifestyle March / April / May - 2016

Art of Close By Cross-Country
David Uhl Skiing & Snowshoeing

Lots of horsepower Craft Beers
& Wines
of JeffCo

Shopping & Dining in

Jefferson County

“Gateway to the
Rocky Mountains”

... and so much more!

Barry Ebert Reverend Barry Ebert, Youth Director
and Assistant Minister at Mile Hi Church
A Teacher of in Lakewood recently reminisced about his
Love and Logic career and passions, but mainly one passion
in particular… teaching Love & Logic
14 JeffCo Living • March • April • May 2016 • www.JeffCoLiving.com parenting workshops. In 1991, Rev. Ebert, in
the early days of his nearly 25-year career
at Mile Hi Church, was handed a cassette
tape entitled, “Helicopters, Drill Sergeants
and Consultants.” Little did he know he
was about to embark on a personal and
professional journey, one that would inspire
him, help his family and define his career.

The now classic audiotape was made in
the late 1980s by Jim Fay and Dr. Foster
Cline, the same two men who coined the
term “helicopter parent” and was the
foundation of their very successful and
world-renown parenting skills organization
Love & Logic based in Golden, Colorado.
Fay began his career as a teacher and in
1968 he was told by a superior that his
“drill sergeant” approach was not an
effective teaching style. About to lose his
job, he searched for another way to inspire
his students but found little information
on the subject. Later, as a principal in
Evergreen, he befriended local child
psychiatrist, Dr. Foster Cline. Together,
they formulated an empathic approach to
teaching and parenting and before they
knew it a company was born. Today, Love
& Logic workshops are taught by more than
20,000 instructors in schools, churches, and
military bases all over the world.

When Ebert received the tape, he was
working as a junior church coordinator and
was intrigued by the empowering message
and the way it was delivered, with clarity
and humor. As the father of two toddlers,
he decided to ask Jim Fay to come speak at
the church. Everyone in attendance loved
the speaker and the parenting techniques he
passed along. Ebert took the Love & Logic
workshop twice and then decided to teach
the concepts himself, something he’s been
doing for over 20 years.

Ebert opens his workshops by saying
“If you’re here today looking for a way
to control your child, you need to ask for
a refund.” The reason is, it’s about the
parents, not the child.

Fay and Cline believe there are three
types of parents. A helicopter parent
never wants their child to struggle so they
step in to solve all their problems and do
everything they can to protect him/her from
any negative feelings. This type of parent
will often say things like, “When are you
going to learn? I have to always clean up for
you!” The drill sergeant is demanding and
thinks that punishment and pain are the

Jesse, Gabriel, Stephanie and Barry Ebert

only ways to teach a child. “Do this or else!” is a common phrase. Teaching self-reliance is just one of the many themes Ebert
The consultant, on the other hand models good behavior and stresses in his workshops. He says that parents today are often
allows their child to experience life’s consequences while guiding caught between old parenting methods and new situations – such as
him/her to become independent and think for themselves. deciding the role technology should play in our lives.

Ebert, along with Stephanie, his wife of 30 years, embraced the When his oldest son turned 12, the Eberts decided to get rid of
consultant approach while raising their sons Jesse and Gabriel. their television. For the next ten years, both Jesse and Gabriel found
Apparently that approach has paid off. there was more time to pursue their passions and the family became
stronger and more attentive to each other as a result.
Whether they’re relaxing at Devil’s Thumb Ranch in Tabernash,
Colorado where son Jesse works as a lodging manager or sleeping Although he knows the same tactic is not realistic for every
on the floor of a tiny 42nd Street apartment in New York where son family, he advises families to take an occasional break from
Gabe calls home, Ebert says it’s as if they’re hanging out with their technology and experiment with a longer hiatus if you believe it
best friends. Both sons followed their passions in life - Jesse is an is negatively affecting relationships. Plan some fun activities to do
avid snowboarder and loves living and working in the mountains. together as a family. And above all, be present with your children.
Gabe, a Juilliard graduate, won a Tony Award in 2013 for his
portrayal of Mr. Wormwood in the Broadway musical, Matilda. Family is everything to Ebert and he believes he is doing exactly
He has begun acting in movies and television and recently appeared what he was meant to do in life. The core teachings of self-
on NBC’s The Blacklist. expression and self-reliance that he passes on to parents are exactly
what he’s been teaching the youth within his church ministry for
It goes without saying that Ebert’s sons learned how to be both the last 25 years. In recognition for his work with the “giant souls in
successful and self-reliant. And isn’t that what every parent wants little shoes” he was recently given the 2016 Youth Champion Award
for their child? Sure. But how do you get there? by the Centers for Spiritual Living. Although he is deeply honored
to be recognized by his peers, he says it’s truly fulfilling to see kids
Among other principles, Love & Logic teaches parents how to he taught in Sunday school grow up to be great parents who are
lovingly encourage their kids to solve their own problems and let passing along the wisdom of Love and Logic to a new generation.
the child, not the parent, deal with any consequences that arise.
Parenting this way produces more self-reliant, self-assured and In addition to being a great teacher, youth minister, father
capable young adults. and husband, Ebert is an accomplished songwriter with five
CDs to his credit. To find out more about Barry, his upcoming
Before cell phones, iPads and video games, kids spent more time Love & Logic workshops or to purchase his music, visit
outside, away from their parents finding their own way in the www.barryebert.com.
world. But today’s generation spends more time inside and is more
likely to have protective parents who don’t want them to stray too — Lisa Langley
far from home and experience the world without their help
or expertise.

www.JeffCoLiving.com • March • April • May 2016 • JeffCo Living 15

Into the Snow: Snowshoeing Fun

From Europe to North America to Asia, 2. Golden Gate State Park, Golden
people began using snowshoes over 6,000 Golden Gate State Park offers more than 12,000 acres of dense
years ago out of a basic need to explore
previously unknown territories and to forest, rocky peaks, and aspen-rimmed meadows connecting
maintain a continuous food supply in with miles of trails. Winter will find visitors cross-country skiing,
winter. With vast regions of the world snowshoeing, sledding, ice fishing and ice skating. Five cabins and
snowbound for much of the year, hunters two yurts are available year-round. Parks pass required.
emulated successful winter travelers like
the snowshoe hare, whose oversized feet Beginning at 9,000 feet, Snowshoe Hare Trail is a moderate
enabled them to move quickly over deep to difficult 3 mile loop gaining 320 feet in elevation and features
snow. The great success of snowshoes Dude’s Fishing Hole. Start and end this trail at the Aspen Meadow
was first observed by European explorers Campground but if you want to extend your hike, take Mule Deer
traveling with Northeastern tribes such Trail to Panorama Point by following the spur near the end of the
as the Huron and Algonquin, which loop.
led subsequent trappers, hunters, and
surveyors to adopt snowshoes as their own. Directions: Check in with Visitor’s Center at 92 Crawford Gulch
– Snowshoe.com Rd., Golden to buy a park pass and inquire about trail conditions.

Skiers and winter enthusiasts come to 3. Meyer Ranch Park – Jeffco Open Space, Conifer
Colorado from all over the world to enjoy Meyer Ranch, near the town of Aspen Park, is close to civilization,
our incredible winter wonderland. While
those of us who live here are familiar but also provides a backcountry atmosphere. The entire park is
with the magnificence of Aspen, Vail, on the north-facing mountainside, so the availability of snow is
Breckenridge, and Crested Butte, how virtually guaranteed.
many of us look in our own backyard
for opportunities to enjoy the Colorado Sledding is great here too!
winters? Jefferson County is home to two
state parks, a portion of the Pike National There are four trails in this park but one with the best views is
Forest and over 230 miles of trails within Ole Ski Run Trail, a 1.3 mile jaunt with +632’/-327’ gain and loss in
the Jefferson County Open Space system. elevation. This trail covers the highest point in the park with great
February and March are the snowiest views to the northwest.
months of the year, so what are you
waiting for? Directions: 10508 S Turkey Creek Rd, Conifer. Parking lot is on
the east side of Hwy. 285 approximately one-half mile from the
The following areas are easily accessible town of Aspen Park.
and may appeal to both beginners and
advanced enthusiasts. 4. Staunton State Park, Pine
From high grassy meadows at 8,100 feet to soaring granite cliffs
1. Elk Meadow Park – Jeffco Open
Space, Evergreen over 10,000 feet, Colorado’s newest state park offers ten trails
True to its name, this Evergreen park is the cutting through 3,828 acres of Colorado splendor. Parks pass
most likely place within the Open Space required, $7 daily or $70 yearly. Gates close at 4:30 p.m.
system to view herds of elk. There are
six trails of various difficulty. Meadow Try Davis Ponds Trail for an easy to moderate 2.15 mile hike to
View Trail is 3.1 miles long with a 220 foot the newly-constructed ponds stocked with broodfish rainbow, and
elevation gain at an average 3% grade. This cutbow trout.
trail connects to all others within the park
and is good for beginners. Trailhead is Directions: U.S. Highway 285 south to Shaffers Crossing, about
located at Stagecoach Blvd. parking area. six miles west of Conifer. Turn right on Elk Creek Road and
follow the signs 1.5 miles to the park entrance.
Bergen Peak Trail is 4.7 miles long with
a 2,100 foot elevation gain. It is the longest 5. White Ranch Park – Jeffco Open Space, Golden
trail in the park and ends up atop the White Ranch Park offers a wonderful back country escape and
9,708-foot Bergen Peak offering views of
Pikes Peak, Mt. Evans and the Continental with many north and east facing mountainsides, meaning an
Divide. You can start this trail either from excellent chance for good snow. With twenty miles of trails over
the parking lot or join it at the junction with gentle and rugged terrain, nearly everyone can find a route suited to
Meadow View Trail. their ability level.

Directions: 32391 Stagecoach Blvd.,
Evergreen, CO 80439. Take I-70 West to
CO-74 S/Evergreen Parkway. Turn right on
Stagecoach Blvd.

18 JeffCo Living • March • April • May 2016 • www.JeffCoLiving.com

Try the White Ranch Loop, a 4.6 mile moderately rated trail with
an elevation gain of 941 feet.

Directions: 25303 Belcher Hill Rd., Golden. Take Hwy. 93 north
from Golden approximately one mile to Golden Gate Canyon Rd.
Travel west 4.1 miles to Crawford Gulch Road (Hwy. 57). Follow
signs to White Ranch Park.
6. Flying J Ranch Park, Jeffco Open Space, Evergreen

Enjoy the peaceful three-mile Shadow Pine Loop among
old-growth Lodgepole pine, ponderosas and Douglas Fir. Located
nearby was the migration route known as the Ute Trail used
by Native Americans for centuries and later Euro-American
prospectors as a passage through the Foothills.

Directions: 9509 County Hwy. 73, Evergreen. Travel south from
Evergreen on County Hwy. 73 for 6.8 miles to the main trailhead
entry road.

Some words of advice for first-time snowshoers:
Be fit. Aerobic conditioning is a good way to make sure you’re
up to the challenge.
Rent snowshoes from a local ski shop for your first experience.
Wear insulated, waterproof hiking boots with wool or synthetic
socks.
Dress in layers made of wool or synthetic materials: Base layer
– long underwear, insulating layer – polyester fleece and outer
layer - waterproof, breathable jacket and pants. Cotton, when
wet, does not retain heat.
Wear gloves, hat, sunglasses and plenty of sunscreen to protect
you from burning UV rays which are especially intense when
reflected off the snow.
Pack a backpack with plenty of water, high-protein snacks such
as nuts or trail mix and fruit.
Most important—have fun! You live in an area of supreme
beauty with incredible opportunities for winter activities.

­—J­ake Fresco, Lisa Langley, Brian Serff - Photos: Brian Serff

www.JeffCoLiving.com • March • April • May 2016 • JeffCo Living 19

JeffCoLivingTM©

Art, Entertainment & Lifestyle Nov / Dec / Jan - 2015-16

JeffCoLivingOn-Line TM ©

ECoxvepAraagrnetd,eEdntertainment & Lifestyle March / April / May - 2016

Buffalo Bill From the mountains
to the plains,
LLIEFGEE&ND covering all of
beautiful Jefferson
• Great Live Music Shopping & Dining in County, Colorado!
• Amazing Individuals
• Holiday & Winter Events J“ReGfofeacr..sk.toaeynnwCdMaosouyonmuttyuonchttamhioenres!” JeffCo LivingCloseByCross-Country
Skiing & Snowshoeing
Art of TM ©
David Uhl Art, Entertainment & Lifestyle
Craft Beers
Lots of horsepower

We’re focused on & Wines May / June / July - 2016
bringing you the best
that JeffCo has to offer. of JeffCo
From interesting stories
and events, to quality Shopping & Dining in
businesses and opportunities.
Jefferson County

“Gateway to the
Rocky Mountains”
... and so much more!

This publication is made possible by our proud
sponsors. We invite you to stop in and visit
these establishments and show your support.

If your business or organization would like to Shopping & Dining in Sensational
be a part of our May - June - July issue, JeffCo
please contact us today at: “JReGffoearcstkoeynwCMaouyonuttyontthaiens” Hot Spots

[email protected] ... and so much more! • Art
720-507-4311
P.O. Box 745026 • Music
Arvada, CO 80006 • Hiking & Biking
• Museums
• Photography

www.JeffcoLiving.com

Like Us On Facebook