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It’s not
over yet
Cecelia Ahern’s latest book returns to a much loved
character – and Hollywood is calling once again

“I wrote this year, as soon as continues to enthral readers written a series before and I
I found out I was pregnant around the world since its knew it was a series so I was
I started writing a book publication in 2004. Now, 15 preparing for further stories
because I wanted to take years on we’ve been treated whereas this was funny to
maternity leave and that to Postscript, a sequel set go back and figure out how I
doesn’t exist in my career. I seven years after where lead would continue when I had
started writing one just after character Holly finds herself no intentions of ever telling
Roar so I’ll start editing that drawn back into her past. She the story again. I had to think
in the usual time of May next meets the PS I Love You club, about it in way more ways
year so I’ll be able to take quite a group of diverse characters than I ever did with a story.”
a break.” who are seeking Holly’s input
into their own version of the Unlike some of her other
It’s the day before letters sent by her husband characters – Laura in Lyrebird,
Cecelia Ahern finishes her Gerry seven years before. Sabrina in e Marble
promotional work for her Collector – she describes Holly
latest publication, Postscript, “It was kind of long and as ‘ordinary’ but not in a
and three weeks before her epic,” Cecelia says when negative way.
third child is due (she gave speaking about Postscript’s
birth to daughter Blossom on journey to publication. “It was “When I create characters
October 5). After speaking probably the most challenging they’re quite quirky or
with Woman’s Way, she’s book I’ve ever had to write but unusual, all these kind of
heading to Penneys to pick up I say that, not in a bad way. different people. And she is
a nightie for her hospital stay. ordinary; something horrific
“I love a challenge and I was happens to her but it’s not
is is the woman Cecelia is, really looking for something by her own design. I was
down-to-earth, warm and that I hadn’t done in a book wondering how I could make
funny, especially when it yet and that’s why this really her exciting to me now as the
comes to talking about books. appealed to me. I got my idea, writer I am now. I did choose
I wanted to tell the story from to do the seven years later
You may have been living the perspective of people because you know the theory
under a book-free rock if you who’ve been told their life is that every seven years you
hadn’t heard of PS, I Love You, limited, and I knew I wanted evolve to become a different
Cecelia’s debut novel that Holly to be guiding people and version of yourself, mind and
analysing her own journey. I body. I knew I couldn’t create
knew what I wanted to write her from scratch but I can
but I needed to read the book bring her to the next version
again and figure out who of herself and I really enjoyed
Holly was, which characters doing that. She admits she’s
would I keep and lose, where less naïve, certainly stronger,
the holes were in PS, I Love more stable and settled
You, what did I not explain or and more selfish, which I
what did I hint at that I could love about her, she doesn’t
take further. necessarily want to jump in
and help these people.”
“I felt I was doing a real
study of my own book. I had In art imitating life, in the

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REAL LIFE

“It’s a way for me to spread
the message, I’d rather get
people to try and give it a
chance and give a few simple,
small changes that could
make a huge difference, a go”

By Niamh Shields colours.” wanted to get my nails done, but in order to truly promote and believes running is a
Taking matters into her not so much now with time. her message and connect great tool to relieve any stress
We work so hard you want with customers Pat wanted she may have felt throughout
own hands Pat decided to to have a little down time to have a real-life presence, her day.
source more vibrant and and have a product that a bricks and mortar shop in
fun sustainability products makes you feel good. So, we Dublin that not only stocks “I love spending time
in the country for both her started there and the range sustainability products but with my kids, they’re good
and other people wanting to expanded to toothbrushes, will also hold a variety of free for reality and keeping me
protect the environment, this sanitary products so that workshops to help educate grounded. I love running, it
was the start of Reuzi online. it feels the exact same, you customers on protecting the is a great way to clear your
are just making a better environment. mind, to re-set for whatever
“The business idea came difference. It’s an area that is ahead of you.”
when I went on maternity we all want the best things “It’s a way for me to spread
leave last year, and I said for our skin, our hair and the message, I’d rather get With endless goals, in the
to Stephen that I wanted to our bodies but everything is people to try and give it a future Pat hopes to spread
start something. [I said] ‘I covered in plastic. We need chance and give a few simple, the message of sustainability
have this idea that there are to try and make a conscious small changes that could throughout Ireland and
people out there like me that effort to find alternatives for make a huge difference, a ultimately would like to open
want beautiful things but that kind of thing that isn’t go. When people often see up more shops nationally.
don’t want to waste more going to want to harm the things face to face it’s easier
money or impact negatively environment.” for them to understand my “I would love to see
the environment.’ I wanted intentions and my message. sustainability becoming
to put something like that Pat’s drive and We are going to be running part of the school
together because I always determination comes from workshops and talks at the curriculum, kids learning
had friends asking me where her mother, Maria Elisa, who shop, it’s free to come. You about sustainability and
did I get this product or taught her the importance of can learn how to make your understanding that it goes
how can they become more determination and resilience. own body butter or how to beyond the tress and the
sustainable and from there avoid food waste by doing ocean. It’s all about us as
the whole idea was born.” “My mother is a business batch cooking and hearing a humans interacting with the
woman, she has always been few tips from the experts and environment that gives us
Pat curates an abundance a business woman. She is guest speakers.” everything we need.” WW
of everyday items that are very inspiring from the point
eco-friendly such as hair, of view that she always says, Life is extremely busy and Check out Pat’s online store,
skin, menstrual and oral ‘If you commit to something, chaotic; however, in her www.reuzi.ie or pop into the
care products to kitchen, deliver.’ I remember my free time she loves to spend shop at 1a, Brighton Road,
bags and household first few weeks in Jamaica, quality time with her boys Foxrock Village, Dublin 18
products, all designed to I was so homesick, and I
display personality as well really didn’t like it and my
as primary functionalities, mum told me that because
protecting the environment. I signed the contract I have
Pat recently introduced an to stay. That obviously is
array of self-care products very inspiring because you
into her range, as she learn to be very resilient
believes every woman should and learn to try your best in
feel good with the product regard to fears, doubts and
they are wearing. insecurities.”

“As a woman I am very The online shop has gone
much into looking after my from strength to strength
own skin, hair, and I always

WOMANSWAY.IE 17

AAUgoNnTy

I LOVE MY HUSBAND BUT AM SO
ATTRACTED TO A MAN AT WORK
Columnist and trained counsellor Fiona Caine offers advice

I am happily married and he kissed me on the cheek and years together, the demands Make time to go out
have been for 22 years. I love asked if I’d like to go out for of family life and work has to dinner, see a play, go
my husband and certainly dinner with him soon. meant things have become dancing or spend a romantic
don’t want to leave him, he’s a little dull or routine- weekend away - and if
a good man and he and our Here, again, I should have bound? Might you also have you can make some dates
children don’t deserve that, said no and told him that I am started to take each other a spontaneous surprise for
so why am I even thinking already married, but I didn’t. for granted? each other, so much the
about having an affair? Now I am in a complete state better. Then look for ways
– what do I do? I really do If you think this is the case to simply talk to each other
A man started working at still love my husband and we and you genuinely want to more - turning off the TV
my company three months have a great marriage, so why stay happily married, you occasionally will help.
ago and I am really attracted am I behaving like this? are going to have to put some
to him; so much so that when S. H. distance between you and I know it can be very
he talks to me, which is often, this new man. You’re also companionable to sit and
I find it hard to concentrate on FIONA SAYS: COULD IT going to need to work hard watch a good programme
anything. BE THAT YOUR MARRIAGE at putting some of the spark with a loved-one but, unless
NEEDS A REBOOT? back into the relationship you are careful, this can
He must know how I feel with your husband. become a dull routine in
because he invited me out I suspect you are finding all which very little gets said.
for a drink at lunchtime last this attention rather exciting To avoid becoming stale, Finally, try to give each
week. I went along thinking and new. And what’s not to all relationships need care, other compliments more
it was a general office get- like about having fun with attention and an occasional often and, if you love each
together but, when I got someone who is charming reboot, so consider putting other, say so occasionally.
there, I realised that we were and whose sole focus for a a little romance and Some of this might seem
alone. At that point, I should while seems to be you? excitement back into yours. a little obvious but you’d
have made an excuse and be surprised how often
gone back to the office, but I The only problem is, you’re You could start by dating people neglect this simple
didn’t. I stayed, and we had a married and already love your husband again - re- relationship maintenance.
bit too much to drink. another man. But, when explore things you probably In time, this new man’s
was the last time you felt did more of when you first charms should seem a lot
He was good company and this excited about your got together, and I don’t less appealing.
we laughed a lot and, after marriage or your husband? just mean sex, though this
lunch as we got up to leave, Is it possible that, after 22 is important.

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POOR SLEEP IS REALLY FIONA SAYS: sleep-inducing hormone AGONY AUNT
STRESSING ME OUT RE-SETTING SLEEP melatonin. They advise
PATTERNS TAKES WORK switching them of at least GETTING FED UP WITH
It doesn’t matter what half and hour (and preferably MY NEGATIVE FRIEND
time I go to bed, I always Once established, disturbed an hour) before bedtime.
wake up after about three sleep patterns can be very My friend and I were, at
hours and find it extremely difficult to break - but there Finally, make your bedroom one time, inseparable –
difficult to get back to are a few simple steps you as sleep-friendly as possible but she’s not the person
sleep. I usually end up can take to maximise your by cutting out as much noise she was. Even my
either reading on my tablet, chances of sleeping. and light as possible. husband, who gets on
watching TV or catching up with everyone, struggles
on emails. I have also done Firstly, fix set hours for These steps should help, but to cope with her. She’s
the housework at 4am! sleep and stick to it. If you if your sleep continues to be constantly moaning and
can’t sleep, so be it, but try to disrupted, it may be a good nothing is ever right.
Eventually I get so tired that remain in bed. idea to discuss some treatment
I do fall asleep, sometimes options with your GP. She goes on at me
on the sofa. If it’s a work day, Set aside 30 minutes or about what she thinks is
I must be up at 7am and am so before sleep for winding wrong with my life but
usually over-tired and grouchy. down. This could involve actually, I’m really happy
doing some meditation or and love my husband.
Then I struggle to get light yoga exercises. It might She was bridesmaid at
through the day and sometimes also involve simply reading our wedding last year
have to sleep as soon as I get or listening to some music. and she seems to have
home, only to then be wide changed since then.
awake at midnight and unable The last things you She’s paranoid about her
to sleep again. should be doing are reading boyfriend, who she thinks
on a tablet, watching TV is seeing someone else.
Please help, I am getting or doing your emails.
really stressed by this and I am Many experts believe that I really don’t want to
worried that my job is starting the blue light emitted hurt her feelings, but I
to suffer. by these devices affects am not sure I can cope
D. B. the production of the with much more of this.
C. F.
I’M DUE TO MARRY sexually exciting boyfriend your relationship and seeing
BUT HAVING would be hard not to miss! No how he responds. It might be FIONA SAYS: IS SHE
DOUBTS BECAUSE doubt he brought passion and that he’s just inexperienced JEALOUS OF YOUR
THE SEX IS DULL thrills to your life but, as you and needs a little help to HAPPINESS?
admit, that all came with a big explore the relationship in
I’m due to get married later down-side - his unreliability. more spontaneous ways. It sounds as if your
this year and, fond as I am of wedding might have
my fiancé, I’ve realised he’s a Having doubts before a After that, you need to been a trigger for
bit boring. wedding is perfectly normal ask yourself a few searching your friend to start
- it’s a major life-decision, questions. First, is your fiancé thinking about what’s
The physical side of our after all. capable of becoming the sort wrong with her life.
relationship is comfortable of man who could provide the Seeing you settled
but a bit dull, and I suppose I You need to decide, level of excitement in your with a loving partner
cannot help but compare him though, if you really do find relationship that you seem to emphasises the fact that
to my last boyfriend. He was your fiancé boring, or if it’s need? If you think not, then she isn’t.
more than a bit wild and sex just by comparison to your could you adapt to a long-
with him was unpredictable and ex-boyfriend. Instead of term relationship without the How you deal
exciting. He wasn’t someone comparing the two of them, spontaneity and passion you with this depends on
anyone should marry, as he compare your fiancé to other seem to crave? whether you still value
was far too unreliable, but I do men you know or have known. her friendship. The
miss the spontaneity that he Once you know the answers very fact that you’ve
brought to things. If you still think he’s boring, to those questions, I think written to me suggests
then consider whether you you’ll know what to do. that you still care about
I suppose what I am saying is, could find ways of spicing up her, so perhaps it’s time
I am having doubts about getting to sit her down and tell
married. Should I be concerned? her of your concerns.
C. H.
A lasting friend IS
FIONA SAYS: DOUBTS hard to come by and
ARE NORMAL – BUT perhaps deserves some
YOU NEED TO BE HONEST help in getting through
WITH YOURSELF this rough patch.

Your wild, unpredictable, WOMANSWAY.IE 19

Parenting news Ask THE

EXPERT

As new research shows over
half of parents report their kids
feeling stressed, here are some
practical steps for the whole
family to take.

YOUR According to research published EXAMINE YOUR OWN BEHAVIOUR go?” It also makes sense to ask the
ROUND-UP by BookTrust, 53 per cent of school what they are doing to help.
OF ALL parents said in the past 12 Kids pick up on your moods and
THINGS months their child has shown behaviours like sponges, so it’s key to SPEND TIME TOGETHER
CHILD signs of emotional stress or have a look at your own stress levels.
FOCUSED anxiety. More than two in five “Do you stress and show strain? Do For Sunderland, spending quality
parents with children aged four you ever take time to rest and relax?” time together is key. “Ideally spend
to 11, said their son or daughter asks Hayman. “Model good behaviour an hour together at bedtime. Invest
has angry outbursts at home, by taking care of yourself and don’t in really soothing bedroom lights so
with over a third saying their sweat the small things.” you can set the scene when they go
child cries more than usual. upstairs, and make it a really calm,
Censuswide conducted the Mental health expert and director of soothing place to be,” she says.
research; questioning 3,003 education and training at the Centre “Read a story to your children right
parents of children aged four to for Child Mental Health, Dr Margot up to age 12, or when they don’t
11. As parents, seeing your child Sunderland advises staying on top of want you to any more.”
anxious or stressed can make your own stress levels and finding out
you feel powerless, but there are what helps calm you down, whether A lot of experts agree on the
things you can do both on your it be yoga, massage or reading a benefits of reading to your child.
own and as a family to help the book. “Even better, go into therapy or Catherine Roche, chief executive
situation. First, it’s important counselling yourself,” she says. “Just of the Place2Be charity, says:
to understand why your children talking to your partner won’t work.” “We know from our experience
might be stressed. Parenting that reading with your child in a
expert Suzie Hayman explains: HAVE OPEN CONVERSATIONS warm, non-judgmental manner
“Kids pick up stress from four WITH YOUR KIDS can be an excellent way to open
main areas: Parental anxiety up conversations about emotions,
and pressure is one. A demand Mental health is slowly becoming de- feelings and behaviours and help
from their school is another. stigmatised, and a lot of this is down children to feel less alone.
Expectations from their friends to having open conversations about it
is the third. And seeing what is – something you can start doing early “As a parent it can sometimes be
happening in the wider world can on with your kids. hard to have these conversations,
add a further layer.” but using characters in books can
“Help your children build resilience help start a dialogue. Reading
by talking through their worries,” together can help you spot worries
Hayman advises. “Are they and anxieties before they are
reasonable? Can they do something magnified.”
to mitigate, or should they simply let

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visual perception and spatial insight.
See https://smarttoysandgames.co.uk for more information

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By Niamh Shields Competition PARENTING

To celebrate the launch of the 2019-20 Glenisk’s Official Irish rugby trading WILD GIRLCHILDREN'S BOOK OF THE WEEK
cards - which includes 74 new cards, as well as 50 bonus try cards, hidden
inside special packs of GO-YOs yogurt tubes - Glenisk is giving one lucky by Helen Skelton
fan the chance to win a signed rugby jersey plus one month's supply of (Walker Books)
Glenisk vouchers and an official Irish rugby trading cards collectors album
pack. To enter, answer this question and complete the form on page 43 Helen Skelton, BBC
or use the competition email: How many bonus try cards are available to presenter for the World
collect? Best of luck. Aquatics Championships
and the Olympics, is also
My First Totem by SmartMax a real-life adventurer.
She's kayaked the
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Buzz Lightyear and the whole gang is out on DVD on rare talent of blending facts and instructions
October 14 and Blu-Ray on October 21. without patronising young readers.

Delightfully illustrated and with her report-
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WOMANSWAY.IE 21

GRANDPARENT rights

Becoming a grandparent is one of life’s joys. However, there are Access can also be applied for
many who, for a multitude of reasons, are denied contact with if a grandchild is in the care of
their grandchildren and a growing number are turning to the TUSLA.
courts for help. So do grandparents have rights? WW finds out...
‘Access’ contact can mean
It’s estimated that more than been acrimonious. time consuming, emotionally having the right to spend time
one million grandparents The distress and loss many stressful and can put a lot of with a child or to communicate
in the UK and Ireland are strain on an already fragile by letter, telephone etc.
being denied, or are unable to grandparents feel can be family relationship.
maintain, relationships with enormous. Especially for older You can engage a solicitor to
their grandchildren. people and those bereaved. In What the law says make an application on your
such cases, their grandchildren behalf, or you can make the
Sadly, it's when families are are often a lifeline and the Family courts do recognise application yourself. You may
going through difficult times loss of the relationship can be the invaluable role that be entitled to legal aid.
that grandparent contact is heartbreaking. grandparents have to play in
most likely to be cut off. their grandchildren’s lives. If the application goes ahead,
Grandchildren may also the court will base its decision
This can be due to the suffer emotional harm if they The Children and Family on the best interests of the child
breakdown of the parent's suddenly lose regular contact Relationships Act 2015, gives and will consider the views of
relationship, the death of with their granny or grandad. parents, relatives (defined as the child, where possible, given
one parent, domestic abuse a grandparent, brother, sister, his/her age and understanding.
incidents or a falling out. The sad truth is that uncle or aunt of the child)
grandparents do not have an and certain other qualifying The court will also
The paternal (on the automatic right to contact people, rights to apply for consider:
father’s side) grandparents with their grandchildren and access to children. › The applicant’s connection
are most likely to be affected, in some cases are left with no
as fathers are still generally other option than to turn to In situations where › with the child. of the
less likely to be awarded the legal system. grandparents are not allowed The risk, if any,
custody of children in a family to have contact with their
breakdown and therefore Taking the matter to court grandchildren they can apply application disrupting
find it much harder to stay in should be the last resort for to their local District Court for
touch, especially if the split has anyone seeking contact with an access order. the child’s life to the
a grandchild. It can be costly,
extent that the child

would be harmed by

the access.

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› The wishes of the child’s mother-in-law, daughter-in- If there has been a divorce those in dispute meet with a
law relationship. and your daughter-in-law third party who helps them to
› parents or guardians. or son-in-law has custody negotiate an agreed resolution.
Whether or not an access Even in the happiest of of the children, invite them
families it can be a complex for coffee in a neutral place. Write a letter, or send
order is necessary. relationship, and when babies Put your personal feelings an email to the parents,
are born most daughters about the marriage or suggesting this (again keep a
It’s important to remember instinctively turn to their own relationship breakdown aside copy).
mothers for support, leaving and remain calm, friendly
that you do not have a the paternal grandparents and unemotional. Keep the The Family Mediation
feeling excluded. conversation about your Service is provided free of
legal right to see your grandchildren. charge by the Legal Aid Board.
And when a bitter divorce or There are a number of Family
grandchildren until an access separation occurs, sometimes, Show them that you miss Mediation Centres around the
daughters-in-law are keen to your grandchildren and that country.
order has been granted. make a complete break from they will be missing you.
their ex’s family. Talk about the emotional and Of course, should you
In most cases, a court will practical support you can offer prefer, you can use a private
In all of the above situations, your grandchildren as they mediator.
check first to see if you have the first thing to do is make come to terms with the family
contact with the parents, by breakdown. In the meantime
tried to secure access outside phone, email or letter, in a
friendly calm matter. (Keep a Remind the parent or parent Send your grandchildren
of the court, so it makes sense record of all correspondence that you are important person birthday cards or keep them
as, if you end up having to to the children and can help (and any birthday gifts) in a
to try reach agreement less make an application to the them maintain some stability collection box so that when
court, this will show that you at this difficult time. Reassure contact is restored, they will
formally before resorting to have tried to resolve the matter them that you still consider see that you never stopped
amicably.) them very much part of loving them and thinking
legal means. your family, no matter what about them.
And if you may have the causes of the divorce or
Building bridges accidentally been at fault, relationship breakdown. Continue to write to them,
swallow your pride. Think email or phone – if the parents
So what’s the first thing you tactically and act tactfully. Don’t take sides, no matter have refused you contact, it's
should do if you are unable You’re not going to mend what the situation is, and be wise to tell them you intend
to have contact with your the situation by standing on prepared to agree to their to keep in touch in this way,
grandchildren? your principles. terms. As you start to rebuild so that the child doesn’t feel
your relationship with your under pressure to keep secrets.
It’s important to understand Apologise and tell them how grandchildren – and them –
the reason for the relationship important your grandchildren contact will naturally increase. Keep the relationship open
breakdown. If you can’t see are to you and that you want to and remind the parents how
an obvious reason – divorce, put the situation right by any Mediation useful you can be, and of
separation, death, domestic means possible. your role in keeping the child
abuse incidents etc. – ask If communications have in touch with other family
yourself is it possible that I It may be hard, but you completely broken down, members, such as cousins they
have upset one or both of the have to accept the fact that often mediation through a may have forged friendships
parents? your grandchildren’s parents professional can prevent court with.
or guardians are in control of proceedings.
You may be entirely unaware the situation. And remember - your
of hurt or offence you may Mediation is a process for grandchild's awareness that
have unintentionally caused by The only thing that matters resolving disputes where you want to be in touch and
a seemingly innocent remark is seeing your grandchildren that the relationship matters to
or action. again, and them seeing you. you can be a big boost for their
self-esteem at such a tough
Perhaps whatever you time.
may have said or done
was misreported or After all, in most family
misunderstood, perhaps even conflicts the victims, as they
by the grandchildren. are in so many wars, are the
children. WW
The most common reason
for grandparents being denied
access to grandchildren
is when there has been a
breakdown in the delicate

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Locall: 1890 615 200, tel:
066 947 1000; www.legalaidboard.ie
Free Legal Advice Centres
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Take 10 minutes to… PRACTICE SURRENDER a seasoned yogi. Here author Jilly Shipway shows how
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Surrender is one of the most powerful practices that we can by connecting with the cycle of the seasons and the
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ourselves from stress and worry, but we also move into You’ll learn how to best work with
acceptance of the things we can’t control and in this acceptance, the challenges and opportunities
we find a deep sense of presence and peace. Surrender is a that each season brings and you’ll
simple practice that has far-reaching benefits and the best thing learn how to develop your own
is, you can start practicing it today. Think of one thing in your unique seasonal rhythm. Filled
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to feel those uncomfortable feelings. Now, ask yourself: What exercises, meditations and more,
would it feel like to just drop this? What if I just decided to be this is a must-read for anyone
calm in this situation? You should feel a deep seeking more equilibrium.
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SELF-CARE

MINDFUL MOMENT Take 10 minutes to… Rest
RELAXATION
Treat yourself to a beautiful mindful So often we put rest on the backburner, but

moment with one of the most relaxing it’s impossible for us to feel our best if we don’t

pieces of classical music ever composed. incorporate it into our lives on a regular basis.

Yes, we’re talking about Debussy’s Clair Rest gives our immune system a boost, increases

de Lune from Suite Bergamasque. Chances our happiness, lowers our stress levels and gives

us more energy when we decide to get moving
are you’re already familiar with this piece, again. Even if you’re super busy today, try and
but we urge you to try the following. Find
get just 10 solid minutes of rest in. Sit down, take
a cosy corner in your home (ideally in the
a few deep breaths and relax. Gradually try and WHY DON’T YOU…
evening with soft lighting), put on Clair de
build this 10 minutes up until you’re clocking in a Dance it out?
Lune (you can stream it for free on Spotify
solid afternoon of rest once or twice a week. Your Feeling stressed, tired or
or YouTube), close your eyes and, as you not quite yourself? Turn on
body (and mind!) will thank you for it. some music and dance it
listen to each note, see if you can imagine out. As Taylor Swi said,
‘Shake it o !’ Movement
the moonlight which inspired Debussy is one of the easiest ways
for us to shi our moods,
to write this piece. Allow yourself to so no matter how you’re
feeling, have a boogie. We
relax fully into the present moment and guarantee you’ll be feeling
better a er a song a two.
savour the sounds. If you enjoy this, why Here in WW we’re fond of
a dance at our desks. Our
not make it into a weekly (or nightly) favourite track? What Is
Love? By Haddaway.
ritual? And why not explore some other

classical pieces too?

YTORUYRSIETLF

ENJOY THE ARTS TSWOAHIDYEONSUOIRSMSTEEHTLHEF?ILNAGSCTOTMIMFOERYTOINUG…

According to research commissioned by Arts Council If you can’t remember, then here’s something you can try.
England, the presence of arts and culture has a positive Stand in front of a mirror and look into your own eyes.
impact on a person’s wellbeing, their sense of community Now, tell yourself everything that you needed to hear as
and their satisfaction levels when it comes to their location. a child but didn’t hear. It doesn’t matter what it is, just
tell yourself what you needed now. This practice can be
e research draws on a survey in which 65 per cent of people of immense comfort to us, even as adults and it’s an
said they felt art and culture were good for wellbeing and 49 easy way to build the incredibly important characteristics
per cent said that attending arts events allowed them to feel of self-acceptance and self-compassion. If you find
part of the community. If that isn’t enough reason to visit this practice a little di cult, be patient with yourself.
your local art gallery or theatre, we don’t know what is. Sometimes it can be a little di cult emotionally but
stick with it. If any emotions come up, release them with
gratitude and show yourself kindness.

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GARDENING

WINTER-PROOF YOUR
GARDEN ToptipsfromLotus

Landscape Design

The warmer months are drawing to a natural die back. You don’t want to 4. We often hear of gardeners ‘putting
close and as the cold weather sets in, it’s encourage new growth by cutting back the garden to bed’ for the winter this
time to start thinking about preserving before this time. For the pruning of many is primarily to protect against pests
your garden. After a summer of hard trees and shrubs it is better to wait for and disease. We need to be vigilant and
work pruning, preening and planting it’s them to go dormant - by this we mean make sure that the planted areas are
important to keep as much as possible they have completely lost their leaves kept clear of debris. Most diseases and
intact. Expert Landscape Designer and this generally takes place during the fungal problems are caused by improper
Vyvian White of Lotus Landscape Design colder months of the year. practice. These problems can be spread
has some top tips when it comes to if tools are not cleaned properly. Many
preparing your garden for the harsh 2. The mulching of beds helps to keep problems can be solved, or avoided with
winter months. moisture in and adds to the organic correct maintenance and protection
structure of the soil. Getting the soil of plants. Diseased and infected plants
“Climatic change is affecting how we correct is half the battle - look after it should be removed and burned safely, if
garden. As we are faced with extreme and your plants will reward you. Make possible. They should not be composted
weather conditions, it is important to sure planted areas are weed free before as if this is used as mulch it will seep
work with these changes and conserve applying mulch, use your own mulch or back into the soil and the problem could
water and preserve soil structure. Heavy buy a mini chip compost from landscape re-occur throughout the garden. WW
rains and long spells of dry are not good providers. Avoid large bark chips as these
for the soil, plants or the longevity of can turn the soil acidic and blow around For more information log onto
gardens,” explains Vyvian. “There are the garden. For best results, I would www.lotuslandscapedesign.ie
some simple ways to protect and prepare recommend a good, well composed horse
your garden for the winter.” manure that’s free from weed seeds.

1. It is very important not to prune plants 3. It is better to water for a long period
and shrubs, too early. Most plants will of time and less frequently than splash-
have a flowering period and once they watering every evening. Soil needs to be
have finished flowering they will need to damp for roots to penetrate through the
be tidied up as well as staked. Perennials soil and take hold. A simple irrigation
can be cut back and mulched, but don’t system can be linked to rain harvesting
feel that you need to do everything at tanks to drip-feed plants in extreme
once. Take your time. Many plants can conditions.
be left until the first frost which causes

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ARE YOUR APPLES LOOKING Partner Promotion
MOULDY OR DISEASED?
By Hannah Stephenson
HERE’S HOW TO PREVENT MORE DAMAGE

So, you’re harvesting your autumn apples to find that the crispy
crunch has been replaced by a mouldy mess, maggots have
infested the fruits or scabs have formed on the outside. Here are
a few of the things which may have happened, and how you can
prevent them in future.

1. Codling moth

If you’ve noticed maggots crawling within
the fruits or simply the telltale holes, these are
generally the larvae of the codling moth, which
have burrowed through to the core. The holes
lead to secondary rots, which can happen quickly.

Andrew Salisbury, RHS principal entomologist, advises: “Put
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scent of the female, which attracts males in, and will give you an
indication of numbers, but doesn’t usually give any good control
on its own.

“The only treatment available is an insecticide spray. You need
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before they enter the fruit, which can be tricky. It is normally
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2. Rosy apple aphid

“This has been a problem this year,” says
Salisbury. “This aphid overwinters its eggs on
the tree, they hatch in the spring and you get
dense spring colonies which cause leaf curling.
The blackish eggs aren’t really noticeable on the
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fruit remains small and is often pinched at the base.”

3. Canker

Check your tree branches for signs of canker, a fungus which
makes the bark shrink back in flakes and crack, usually in
concentric rings and spreads each year if not addressed.
Leaves will die and fall and if the branch is badly infected, it
may die off. If it gets into the main trunk, it can kill the tree.
Unfortunately there is little you can do apart from pruning out
affected shoots and branches, and cutting out cankers from
stems.

4. Apple scab

If you end up with unsightly, scabby fruit, it’s
likely to be scab, a fungal disease which likes
wet, warm conditions. Its prevalence rather
depends on the weather, but the first signs are
dark brown or green spots on the leaves as well
as blistered shoots.

To control it you need good garden hygiene, so rake up fallen
leaves - both affected and non-affected and prune out damaged
shoots before burning them.

5. Woolly aphid

These are particularly damaging to newer woody growth, causing
distortion. The damage the aphids cause can lead to cankers.
While it may not affect the fruit, a tree infested with woolly aphid
doesn’t look well and can lack vigour.

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KNITTING

Chunky and funky
Snuggly, cuddly and fabulous (we definitely want!)

DROPS design: row from right side = 34-36-37 Rows 3 and 4: Knit all stitches, turn
Pattern po-096 stitches. Insert 1 marker in piece, and knit back. Repeat these 4 rows
Yarn group F or E + E NOW MEASURE PIECE FROM HERE. until collar measures approx. 7 cm on
When piece measures approx. 23- the inner side towards the shoulder,
Size: 25-27 cm from marker (adjust so that cast off. Work the same way over
S/M – L/XL – XXL/XXXL next row is worked from right side), stitches from stitch holder on left
work the first 9 stitches as before, front piece.
Materials: then slip them on 1 stitch holder =
DROPS POLARIS from Garnstudio 25-27-28 stitches remain on needle, ASSEMBLY:
(belongs to yarn group F) work the rest of row. Insert 1 new
1600-1900-2300 g colour 04, medium marker (= mid on top of shoulder) – Sew sleeve and side seam in one, sew
grey NOW MEASURE PIECE FROM HERE! together edge to edge in outer loops of
Work 1 row over stitches on needle. edge stitches to avoid a chunky seam.
DROPS CIRCULAR NEEDLE Slip stitches on 1 stitch holder and Sew collar together edge to edge mid
(60 or 80 cm) SIZE 20 mm – or size put piece aside. back. Sew collar to neckline in the
needed to get 5.5 stitches and 7 rows in back of neck.
stocking stitch = width 10 cm and 10 cm LEFT FRONT PIECE + Sew the buttons on to left front piece.
vertically. SLEEVE: Sew 1st button approx. 45-50 cm up
from cast-on edge, 2nd button approx.
DROPS MOTHER-OF-PEARL BUTTON Cast on and work as right front piece 57-62 cm from cast-on edge. Button
ARCHED but reversed. Cast on new stitches jack through stitches, there is no need
(white), NO 540: 2 pieces for all sizes for sleeve at the end of row from to decrease for button holes. WW
wrong side. Slip the first 9 stitches
INFORMATION FOR PATTERN: from wrong side on a stitch holder, WOMANSWAY.IE 31
work the rest of row. en continue
GARTER STITCH (back and forth): with back piece without slipping the
1 ridge = knit 2 rows. remaining stitches on 1 stitch holder.

MOSS STITCH: BACK PIECE:
ROW 1: * knit 1, purl 1 *, repeat from *-*
the rest of row. Continue with moss stitch on next
ROW 2: Knit over purl and purl over knit. row as follows from right side: Work
Repeat 2nd row upwards. stitches from left front piece + sleeve,
cast on 8 new stitches (= back of
JACKET: neck) and work stitches from right
front piece + sleeve on to circular
Worked in one piece back and forth. needle = 58-62-64 stitches. Continue
Work front piece, cast on for sleeves, back and forth until piece measures
cast on stitches for neck and work 24-26-28 cm from marker mid on top
down along back piece. of shoulder. On next row cast off the
first and last 13-11-9 stitches, cut the
RIGHT FRONT PIECE + yarn = 32-40-46 stitches. Continue
SLEEVE: over the remaining stitches until
piece measures approx. 66-70-74 cm,
Worked back and forth on a circular knit 2 rows over all stitches, then
needle to make room for all the loosely cast off.
stitches. Cast on 21-25-28 stitches
on circular needle size 20 mm with COLLAR:
Polaris. Work 1 ridge in GARTER
STITCH - see explanation above. Slip the 9 stitches from stitch holder
on right front piece back on needle.
en work as follows from right Knit over all stitches with short rows
side: 5 stitches in garter stitch and as follows:
16-20-23 stitches MOSS STITCH - see Rows 1 and 2: Beginning mid front -
explanation above. Continue pattern knit 5, turn and knit back.
like this. REMEMBER THE KNITTING
TENSION! When piece measures
44-46-48 cm, cast on 13-11-9 new
stitches for sleeve at the end of next

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CROCHET

YARN AND MATERIALS (50 sts) (130 sts)
Rowan Handknit Cotton (100% cotton; Change to E. Change to F.
85m/93yd per 50g/1¾ oz ball) Aran Round 5: 3ch, 1tr in same st, *1tr in Round 12: 3ch, 1tr in same st, *1tr in
(worsted) weight yarn each of next 4 sts, 2tr in next st; rep each of next 12 tr, 2tr in next st; rep
1 ball each of shades: from * to last 4 sts, 1tr in each of last from * to last 12 tr, 1tr in last 12 tr, join
345 Cloud (pale blue) (A) 4 sts, join with ss in top of first 3-ch. with a ss in top of first 3-ch. (140 sts)
334 Delphinium (purple) (B) (60 sts) Change to A.
303 Sugar (pink) (C) Change to F. Round 13: As Round 7. (160 sts)
370 Forest (grey-green) (D) Round 6: 3ch, 1tr in same st, *1tr in Change to B.
215 Rosso (red) (E) each of next 5 sts, 2tr in next st; rep Round 14: 3ch, 1tr in same st, *1tr in
309 Celery (pale green) (F) from *to last 5 sts, 1tr in each of last 5 each of next 15 tr, 2tr in next st, rep
40cm (16in) round cushion pad sts, join with a ss in top of first 3-ch. from * to last 15 tr, 1tr in each of last
(70 sts) 15 tr, join with a ss in top of first 3-ch.
HOOKS AND EQUIPMENT Change to A. (170 sts)
5mm (US size H/8) crochet hook Round 7: 3ch, 1tr in same st, *1tr in Change to C.
Yarn needle each of next 6 sts, 2tr in next st; rep Round 15: 3ch, 1tr in same st, *1tr in
from * to last 6 sts, 1tr in each of last 6 each of next 16 tr, 2tr in next st; rep
TENSION sts, join with a ss in top of first 3-ch. from * to last 16 tr, 1tr in each of last
14tr x 8 rows over a 10cm (4in) square, (80 sts) 16 tr, join with a ss in top of first 3-ch.
using 5mm (US size H/8) hook and Rowan Change to B. (180 sts)
Handknit Cotton. Round 8: 3ch, 1tr in same st, *1tr in Change to D.
each of next 7 sts, 2tr in next st; rep Round 16: As Round 9. (200 sts)
FINISHED MEASUREMENTS from *to last 7 sts, 1tr in each of last 7
To fit a 40cm (16in) diameter circular sts, join with a ss in top of first 3-ch. FINISHING
cushion pad (90 sts)
Change to C. Put cushion sides WS facing. Insert
ABBREVIATIONS Round 9: 3ch, 1tr in same st, *1tr in hook into both sides and, using A,
ch chain each of next 8 sts, 2tr in next st; rep make 1ch. Make 1dc in each st, putting
cont continue from * to last 8 sts, 1tr in each of last 8 hook through both sides and joining
dc double crochet sts, join with a ss in top of first 3-ch. sides together, leaving a big enough
ss slip stitch (100 sts) gap to push through cushion pad.
tr treble Change to D. Cont in dc until seam is fully joined
WS wrong side Round 10: As Round 5. (120 sts) together.
Change to E. Fasten off. Sew in ends. WW
Crochet is perfect for making circles Round 11: 3ch, 1tr in same st, *1tr in
and this cushion cover is a project each of next 11 tr, 2tr in next st; rep Crochet Stashbusters by Nicki
I’ve been teaching to all my beginner from * to last 11 tr, 1tr in each of last Trench, published by CICO
students for many years, because 11 tr, join with a ss in top of first 3-ch. Books (£9.99) Photography ©
it is beautiful and easy to make. It CICO Books
uses simple treble stitch and Aran
(worsted) weight yarn. WOMANSWAY.IE 33

CUSHION COVER

(make 2 sides)
Using A, make 6ch, join with ss in
first ch.
Round 1: 3ch (counts as fi rst tr), 11tr
in circle, join with a ss in top of first
3-ch.
Change to B.
Round 2: 3ch, 1tr in same st, 2tr in
each st to end of round, join with a ss
in top of first 3-ch. (24 sts)
Change to C.
Round 3: 3ch, 1tr in same st, *1tr in
next st, 2tr in each of next 2 sts; rep
from * to last 2 sts, 1tr in next st, 2tr
in last st, join with a ss in top of first
3-ch. (40 sts)
Change to D.
Round 4: 3ch, 1tr in same st, *1tr in
each of next 3 sts, 2tr in next st; rep
from *to last 3 sts, 1tr in each of last 3
sts, join with a ss in top of first 3-ch.

BOOKS

RECOMMENDED READS Date for your diary
ATHSRINEGADLE OTHNETBHOEDY
TRAIN DINGLE LITERARY
by Tracy Chevalier FESTIVAL,
(HarperCollins) by Frances Brody NOVEMBER 22 24
A Single Thread is a (Piatkus)
cosy slice of English London 1929 and a man’s body This inaugural festival aims to enhance
life in the 1930s, is discovered on a special goods the cultural life of this very famous – and
with an emotional train. He is without any forms of picturesque – peninsula. Geared to arts
complexity that identification so Scotland Yard ask lovers of all ages, attendees can expect
keeps it safely Kate Shackleton if she’ll lend her fiction, non-fiction and poetry in Irish and
outside the realms of cliché. A er services. This brings Kate to Yorkshire English through a series of well considered
moving to Winchester, unmarried and to a crime she must work on with workshops, readings and performances.
typist Violet Speedwell joins a the utmost secrecy. However, with Those appearing include Fintan O’Toole,
group of women embroidering old friends hiding their own secrets Mike Hanrahan, Caroline Foran and Sarah
cushions for the cathedral. Part of and everyone reluctant to talk about Breen and Emer McLysaght (expect the
the ‘surplus generation’ of single the truth, Kate and her team needs to latter’s prosecco-fuelled event to fill
women, Violet is still trying to separate fact from fiction. I have read up fast). Daniel Davey, a performance
carve out a life for herself in the all of this series – this is the 11th book nutritionist who helps elite athletes
shadow of the First World War. – and Kate fortunately shows no prepare to reach optimum performance
Tracy Chevalier o ers an interesting signs of stopping. Every bit as good levels, will be discussing his debut Eat
insight into these women. as the golden age of crime writers. Up, Raise Your Game. Sounds like a
thoroughly interesting weekend.
WTHAEYWARD THE LYING For more information log onto
GIRLS ROOM www.dinglelit.ie

by Amanda Mason by Nicci French IRISH TALE
(Za re) (Simon & Schuster)
This time-shi ing This cra y standalone HER REBEL
thriller slips in and novel by two SELF
out of the 1970s powerhouses of the
and the present day genre begins with Neve by Paula Tully (Orchid
seamlessly. Set at Connolly finding the Press)
a haunted farm in the middle of dead body of a man she knows. She Ireland, 1917, and Dervla
nowhere, and following sisters Loo can’t tell anyone. What would you knows her only way to live
and Bee, it is introduced during the do? Over three hundred pages Neve an adventurous life is to leave the country. Upon
long, hot summer of 1976. Author has to try and make sense of her moving to London, she falls for Edmund, whose
Mason spends her time building discovery, hiding her true feelings father is less than approving of her background.
the character of Loo, who in the from a family already burdened with Unexpectedly, Dervla meets Countess Markievicz
present is now known as Lucy, problems, from work colleagues who and is encouraged to return home, in doing so
and creating the backstory to the have their own secrets, and from a catching the attention of a dangerous group. She
paranormal society that pushes the detective who’s just that little too hopes that Edmund will have enough courage
story forwards. Mason has created interested in her life. I didn’t want to follow her to Ireland – but it is an unsettling
a spooky, twisty tale ideal for dark to put this book down, I was so time. This is Paula’s first novel a er writing
autumnal evenings. engrossed. Thrilling and unnerving Meeting Countess Markievicz and Other Irish
in equal measure. Short Stores.
Both books are available as paperback and
THE MITFORD SCANDAL ebook on www.amazon.co.uk and as
paperback on www.bookdepository.com
by Jessica Fellowes (Sphere)
This is the third of this fantastic series that gives a fictional
context to the lives of the Mitford sisters in the 1910s to
1930s. In it, maid Louisa Cannon, who has already helped
solve murders, is working for the newly-married Diana
Mitford. As they move from countryside to city, murder soon
follows and it’s not long before Louisa is thrown back into
investigating… Alongside someone for whom she has deep
a ection. It reads so well of the time in which it is set, plus it’s
a classic whodunit.

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We visited
MUSEUM OF WOMANSWAY.IE 35
LITERATURE
IRELAND
From an idea that began in
2010 came MoLi, an impressive,
engaging and utterly enjoyable
experience. Newman House’s
Aula Maxima building (Newman House was the original
foundation for UCD) was transformed into a 10,000 ²
exhibition space, dedicated in part to James Joyce, but also
to Irish authors and Irish writing. I was fortunate to be given
a tour by Director Simon O’Connor before MoLi opened and
what an opportunity. Each room and floor o ers a chance to
learn something new about the breadth of Irish writing. From
Kate O’Brien’s living exhibition conducted by an actress (and
relative) to the room where, if you stand under one of the four
pods, you’ll hear poetry – and see it printed on the screen in
front of you. Visitors can take a sample of writing with them to
keep inspired. Watch the short video of Finnegan’s Wake, look
at a 3D model of Dublin locations mentioned in Joyce’s work
plus – my favourite bit – get up close to the famous Copy No.1
of Ulysses and read his notes on the classic text. You can be
inspired by Booker winning author Anne Enright, and there’s
a place for schoolchildren to be encouraged by the power of
words. And the garden! If ever there was a place in which to
read or reflect this is it. It contains two protected trees, most
notably the ash tree that Joyce had his graduation photo taken
against. There’s also The Commons café, run by Domini and
Peaches Kemp, plus a shop dedicated to book lovers. We’re
thinking of moving in, to be honest. A carefully but sincerely
thought out exhibition area for all.
For more information log onto https://moli.ie

Hearts and flowers

Jenny savoured the warm sunshine flowers” figured larger in the children’s began to circulate effortlessly. Jenny’s
as she shepherded her charges lives than her own. Three months AD gaze was caught, mid chat, by the
towards waiting parents. Minutes (After David) she still couldn’t face well-groomed, but slightly paunchy
earlier junior infants had been busily the prospect of socialising. Jenny had profile (too many corporate dinners!)
working on their latest artistic assumed that their low-key, long-term of David, chatting to Breda Brennan.
creations – colourful flowers on relationship was solid but the ambitious The pleasant, motherly principal
lollipop sticks. The bell had been young banker wanted to network more called Jenny over and extolled David’s
the signal to marshal everyone into with business acquaintances. The final acumen regarding the new heating
line while simultaneously cleaning split had been when David suggested system. Jenny’s relief that her private
gluey hands and quelling lollipop that Jenny swap art classes for a more life had never been staffroom gossip
stick duels. The children’s delight in socially advantageous sport and that was short-lived as David was joined
presenting their wobbly creations her bohemian dress sense needed by a glamorous woman. He had the
made the afternoon’s whirlwind refining. David’s social media accounts grace to blush as he introduced the
worthwhile! were constantly being updated, but self-assured Nicole to Jenny and
Jenny was finding it difficult to move Breda. Jenny made excruciating small
As the battalion of buggies and on. Her musing was interrupted by the talk before escaping, fuming at her
scooters dispersed, Jenny felt a arrival of Tom’s dad. Mark Garvin rarely ex’s insensitivity.
tugging at her skirt. Tom’s impish exchanged pleasantries but accepted the
face met her gaze. The high spirited battered flower with genuine delight. Engrossed in her thoughts, she
five-year-old was the instigator cannoned into a tall man, spilling
of many classroom incidents but After they left, Jenny finished tidying wine down his shirt. Apologising
Jenny had a soft spot for him. As his up and was soon leaving an immaculate she realised that her victim was
harassed dad was frequently late room thinking of her Friday night wine Tom’s dad, Mark. A chardonnay
for collection, Jenny had developed and Netflix. Caroline joined her in the car -drenched parent was just as cringe-
a rapport with Tom. On his own he park and Jenny groaned as her colleague inducing as encountering one’s
was chatty and gentle, quite different reminded her that tonight was the PA uber-confident replacement! Mark
from the mischief maker who fundraiser, attendance mandatory! insisted he was only slightly damp
entertained his classmates. Jenny David, financial guru and heartbreaker, and fetched Jenny another drink. On
suspected he was lonely as there was was PA treasurer. Caroline, ever loyal, his return Mark chatted animatedly
just Tom and his dad and the little suggested that they both develop “chalk and Jenny reflected that his laid
boy had revealed that his dad worked flu” but Jenny felt a defiant surge as she -back demeanour contrasted with
long hours. realised that the wine reception was the his normal, strained attitude. As if
perfect opportunity to meet David on her reading her mind, Mark explained
He lit up, however, when he patch. An afternoon’s frenetic activity that a self-employed, solo parent was
mentioned weekend swimming and saw her tumbling, unruly curls swept continually under time pressure and
soccer sessions. into an up style, make-up flawlessly he never had time to compliment
applied and the rooting out of her elegant Jenny on her imaginative art teaching.
Reassuring Tom that his dad was (slightly bohemian!) LBD from the They discovered a mutual passion for
just delayed, the attractive teacher wardrobe’s recesses. art and Jenny became so engrossed in
brought him back to a chaotic conversation that she never noticed
classroom. The aftermath of any art Caroline’s gasp of admiration when David’s departure.
session wasn’t pretty! One colleague they met in the school foyer, told her
dubbed this “the hearts and flowers that she looked well. The school hall was Before parting, Mark invited her to
term,” starting as it did with vivid transformed by soft lighting and floral an exhibition and Jenny’s taxi journey
red Valentine hearts, continuing arrangements and the popular colleagues home was spent recounting their
with Mother’s Day flowers and
culminating in doing something conversation to Caroline. Caroline By Mary Griffin
ingenious with pipe cleaners for predicted a future of “hearts and
Father’s Day. flowers” but Jenny was content to
have forged a new friendship.
Jenny loved the buzz these
activities generated and didn’t PS. Both friends were right. Mark
need any special occasion to became not only a good friend but
paint, as evidenced by the riot one of the most important men in
of colour decorating the walls. Jenny’s life! Not the only important
With her able assistant, Jenny man – that was an honour shared
began restoring order and with Tom!
wryly reflected that “hearts and

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READER FICTION

Little white lies
I had worked hard to get to this Eoin and his husband. Sure they seem
point. I had given so much of my happy but a rich dude wanted to marry in the difference. Not enough in the
time – and everything else – to this my brother at the time he married his difference to remain poor all my life.
man. All the long dinners listening working-class husband. Last week my Whatever brought on that moment
to him going on and on. Rambling brother was short for the groceries. I of doubt I don’t know. Maybe it’s all
about business deals I had no interest had to come to his rescue while holding those romantic stories my mother
in. Ignoring the longing glances he back the obvious: you should have made up as bedtime stories for me
gave to other women and worrying married the other guy. and my brother when we were kids.
any of them would take my pay But I’m not a kid anymore and I
cheque. I had earned the right to My eyes drift across to my soon- know the real world now. It’s all
this moment. This moment standing to-be husband’s mother, father and about status, money and power. Love,
at the top of the registry office in two brothers. To be fair the other two honesty and kindness are overrated.
my big, ruffled white gown that his brothers would have done for me as a If the shoe was on the other foot, this
mother loved but which I thought husband too. But they had both wives toff staring into my eyes in his black,
looked like something from the before I put my plan into action. And pinstripe Louis Copeland suit that his
1800s. So why now as the registrar the mistress doesn’t get as much money father helped him pick would trick
was coming up to the moment the or clout. One of the brothers came onto me too. So Mum, get ready for Chanel,
deal would be sealed was I suddenly me at a family event once but I declined. Eoin, get ready for Tom Ford and me,
getting an attack of conscience? That could jeopardize my chances of a I might just go for a bit of Balenciaga
better life for me, Mum and Eoin. And or Saint Laurent. The choices will
I, who always thought conscience my god the three of us have been to be endless. No more rent worries.
was overrated. I, who thought No more grocery worries. The only
principles were so yesterday and more job interviews, course open days question on our minds will be: The
good, honest people were just plain and dole offices to last us a lifetime. We Hamptons or St. Lucia this summer?
stupid. It clearly shocked a lot of deserve this.
people that this CEO of his own My project over the past two years
business was choosing to marry his So yes, maybe I’m not honest. But (two years? Yes I deserve this!): say
receptionist. It didn’t exactly shock there is a goodness in my intentions. ‘I do’ with a goofy grin. The grin
me. I had started working for him Wasn’t marriage a business deal at the that I pretend to find cute but which
with this end goal in mind. And I beginning of its existence? Sure it was I secretly think makes him look like
had shown much flesh during my a mutual business deal but not much Bugs Bunny. The registrar turns to
working hours to catch his attention. me and says the lines she is supposed
Add into that the flirty glances, the to say to which I reply, ‘I do.’ Only
charming comments. And bingo, here downside is we now have to kiss
we were. It wasn’t rocket science. (something which makes me always
want to roll my eyes) but some things
I take a quick glance at my mother in life you just have to suffer through.
sitting in the front row. She raised I lean in and begin kissing Bugs as
me and my brother on her own. the cheers ring out around the
My father walked away when she registry office.
was pregnant with me and my twin
brother. She has been my rock and
has always done everything by the
book. Where has it got her? A house
she can barely afford to pay the rent
for and a landlord who thinks she is
trying to get out of paying the rent
if she delays two days to pay. I love
my mother but I don’t want to end up
like her. To her right is my brother;

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BOOK EXTRACT

EVERYDAY UBUNTU

With eyes imbued with Ubuntu We can look into the eyes of example, at first glance including strangers. Reaching
we view our world via a prism somebody begging on the street segregation afforded white outside of ourselves can give us
not only of equality but also and feel compassion rather South Africans lives of what we need to feel fulfilled
of gratitude. We aspire not than judgement. We can thank privilege. ey lived separately, inside. Seeing your fellow men
to be unduly influenced by someone who cleans toilets in well-built communities. and women as your allies (from
others when we form our rather than look down on them the Latin ‘alligare’, meaning ‘to
thoughts and feelings, but we for the service they provide. ey had access to better bind to’) serves us all. Seeing
also acknowledge everyone education and healthcare yourself in other people is a
who has helped us to become Ubuntu refutes the notion than their black counterparts. powerful force for good.
who we are. e parents who that a person can ever be However, these privileges came
give us space and freedom to self-made, because we are all at a great cost to their freedom. Connect mindfully with
experiment with our lives, the interconnected. We should not strangers. We can all be
teachers and mentors who offer be fooled by the myth of the ey gave up many rights for distracted, heavily preoccupied
their wisdom for our journeys, self-made individual, as no one the privilege of power when and feel there is never enough
the friends who encourage us, exists in true isolation. In the they were taught to live in fear time to do everything we either
or the family members who words of the poet John Donne: of black people. ey built high want to do or feel the need to
might have loaned us money. ‘No man is an island.’ walls around their homes and do. We might think there’s no
We feel grateful for where they trapped themselves in need to say a genuine thank-
we are, right here and right e antithesis of Ubuntu is gated communities, afraid to you to the shop owner who
now, as Ubuntu teaches us we the belief that greed, selfishness leave. ey became prisoners has just served us, or we might
are enough. We don’t need to and rugged individualism in circumstances of their own be looking at our phone as the
compare our lives to others’ will provide everything you making. guard on the train checks our
and what they may or may not need to get ahead in life. We ticket. We might not notice
have in them. Instead, we can often hear that we’ll need to ASK YOURSELF: HOW CAN when someone is holding open
be grateful for other people’s stand on the heads of others to YOU SEE YOURSELF IN a door for us, or steps out of
contributions to ours. reach our goals. e workplace OTHER PEOPLE? the way to let us through. Try
in particular can be ruthless to look everyone you come
With Ubuntu in our lives and the Darwinian notion of It can be tricky to give a direct across in the eye. Connect with
we can choose to view others survival of the fittest is still the and concise translation of them. Smile. Say thank you
as our equals, seeing them as rule of thumb for many people. Ubuntu in English. However, with enthusiasm. Notice how
we would want others to see Nelson Mandela explained its this makes you feel and how
us. All too often we observe I’ve often heard my elders say essence in a TV interview with the interactions you have with
only the role people play in the that those who do ill towards South African journalist Tim others change for the better.
world and think nothing more others might think that they Modise in 2006. In simple terms
of them. Ubuntu tells us that personally don’t suffer any he described what Ubuntu Extract taken from
we are no better or worse than negative consequences from meant to him. Everyday Ubuntu:
anyone else. Everyone deserves their actions, but if you look Living Better
to be treated with humanity. deeper, the harm to the ill-doer We all want to belong. It’s Together, The
is there to be seen. human nature to have tribes African Way by
(friends, loved ones, work Mungi Ngomane
Under apartheid, for colleagues, exercise buddies…), (Bantam Press),
but more than ever we also available now
need to learn to live and work
together with everyone,

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HEALTH NEWS

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› Don’t leave it up to the school
THE ACTIVE INGREDIENT IN MOST HAND
and Sex, Relationships and
SANITISERS, ISN’T ALWAYS SUCCESSFUL Health Education.

WHEN IT COMES TO GETTING RID OF › Mind your (body) language.
› It’s NOT ‘di erent for girls.’
THE GERMS IN MUCUS. IN FACT, THE › Respect cultures and communities.
› Don’t scare children about cancer,
OLD-FASHIONED METHOD OF SOAP AND
tell them about prevention.
BByy AAmmyy WWaallll
By Lisa Salmon
WATER METHOD MAY BE MORE EFFECTIVE.

WHICHEVER METHOD YOU USE THIS

WINTER, EXPERTS RECOMMEND CLEANING

YOUR HANDS FOR UP TO FOUR MINUTES

AT LEAST BEFORE YOU RINSE THEM.

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HEALTH FEATURE

SPOTLIGHT ON…

THHEAELCTRHOCSASRBEODRIRDEECRTIVE
On a waiting list? This initiative could help

If you are on a HSE waiting “Only a GP or How do patients apply for › Hip and knee joint surgery
list and anxious of the wait consultant you reimbursements? › Adult tonsilectomy
why not consider the Cross are attending in Patients will be issued a › Diagnostic scopes
Border Healthcare Directive? a public capacity pro-forma invoice, which › Gallbladder removal
This initiative operated by can refer you they forward to the HSE with › ENT procedures
the HSE allows Irish patients for cross border supporting documentation. › Gynaecology treatments/
who are waiting for surgery Again, the cross border
procedures in the Republic of treatment” team at Kingsbridge will › procedures
Ireland to obtain treatment assist the patient with all › Circumcision
in either public or private will meet each patient at their aspects of the paperwork and › Pain injections
settings within Northern initial consultation and assist reimbursement process. Varicose vein treatment
Ireland. Over the last three them with their paperwork.
years around 10,000 patients Should a patient tell their local Is after care included?
have travelled to Kingsbridge Who can apply for this? Does GP prior applying?
Private Hospital in Belfast it cater to public or private Any patient accessing the Patients have the option to
for medical procedures via healthcare patients? Cross Border Directive is avail of a post-op review
the Cross Border Healthcare This is available to all residents required to have a referral consultation at Kingsbridge six
Directive. The Kingsbridge in Ireland whether a public from their own GP so they weeks after their surgery. The
Hospital is ranked in the top patient or privately insured. will know that their patient typical patient pathway is that
10 in the UK for hip and knee However, a private health are availing of it. If, for any they revert back into the care
surgeries and many patients insurance policy does not exceptional reason a referral is of the HSE as if their treatment
have had multiple procedures cover treatment under the not required, a GP would most had been carried out in their
there under the Cross Border Cross Border Directive. Only a likely want to be informed for own local hospital. Non-
Directive. Gareth Crudden GP or consultant that you are reasons of patient care and due provision of follow-up care in
from the initiative spoke to attending in a public capacity diligence. Ireland following treatment
us about the programme and can refer you for cross border abroad is considered a breach
who it is best suited for. treatment. What healthcare treatments of the Cross Border Directive.
are available and which are
What is the Cross Border What is typically the cost? Is not? Where can we get more
Healthcare Directive? travel included or excluded? There is no definitive list of information on the directive?
Every treatment varies in treatments available but
This is a piece of EU legislation cost but the patient is fully generally, any treatment You can speak to one of our
that entitles patients in informed of all costs, including publicly available in Ireland specialised Cross Border
Ireland who require treatment reimbursement, prior to is available under the terms experts by calling 048 9068
or surgery, to access faster accessing treatment. Typically, of the Cross Border Directive. 8858. They will take you
treatment across the border full hip or knee replacement Our expert cross border team through everything whether
in Northern Ireland or surgery costs in the region of will be able to tell patients you are enquiring for yourself,
in another EU state, at £10,000 – £11,250 and cataract if there is any treatment not a relative or friend.
potentially no cost. surgery is £1,955 per eye but available at Kingsbridge.
the majority is refunded by What about Brexit? By Niamh Shields
What is the procedure? the HSE. Travel costs are not Which treatments are the most
covered under the directive. popular? Services like these can be
All applicants are required to The top procedures carried out expected to continue and it is
complete an application form in the hospital would be the believed that Brexit will not
and return it to the HSE. At affect this directive. WW
Kingsbridge Private Hospital, ›foCllaotwarinacgt: surgery
Belfast, a member of our For more information
dedicated cross border team email: crossborder@
kingsbridgehealthcaregroup.
com

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