RESOURCES
FOR PARENTS
A Resource by CFL Education
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CONTENTS
Introduction - 3
Objectives - 4
Media Reports - 5
5W1H of sharing Sexuality
Who Shares - 6
Why Share - 7
When & Where to Share - 8
What to Share - 9
How to Share - 16
Quick Tips for Sharing - 17
More Resources - 19
Register for More! - 21
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INTRODUCTION
Catholic Family Life has put
together this educational
resource to impress upon
parents (and other adult
caregivers) the need for
sharing a values-based
sexuality teaching with our
children.
Currently, there are too
many mixed and confusing
messages that our children
are confronted with daily
especially via social media.
To stamp out the confusion,
we have to start now and
share progressively.
OBJECTIVES
WHO, WHY, WHEN,
WHAT, HOW to speak
to your child about sex
and sexuality?
Why YOU are the
primary educator of
sex and sexuality to
your child?
The CONSEQUENCES
of a child that is ill-
advised and ill-
informed about sex &
sexuality
MEDIA REPORTS
There are numerous news
reports about the general
trend of sexual attitudes
among the young in our
society.
WHO SHARES
and educates our young on
matters of sex and sexuality?
YOU!
As parents/adult caregivers, the
onus is on us to be the PRIMARY
educator on this matter.
NO outsourcing
NO to being awkward
NO treating it as a taboo
topic
NO to saying one is not
equipped
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WHY SHARE
Its either YOU educate or
the Internet will
M i s i n f o r m a t i o n a b o u t
s e x m o r e l i k e l y
t o e n g a g e i n h i g h
r i s k s e x u a l b e h a v i o u r
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WHEN &
WHERE to SHARE
NOW
is the time to share!
ANYWHERE &
EVERYWHERE
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WHAT to SHARE
AGE-APPROPRIATE
GUIDE
G U I D E
0-3 Years 4-6 Years
Naming of body Bodily functions
parts and self care
Privacy of Basic biology of
genital parts reproduction
Body safety and
Sexual identity
inappropriate
Value of touch
marriage Biological
differences
between boys
and girls
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WHAT to SHARE
AGE-APPROPRIATE
G U I D E
GUIDE
7-9 Years 10-12 Years
Appropriate Physical bodily
social boundaries changes
Personal Value of
conscience and relationships
differentiating
Sexual
between right
abstinence
and wrong
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WHAT to SHARE
AGE-APPROPRIATE
G U I D E
GUIDE
13-15 Years 16-19 Years
Physical and Dating -
emotional boundaries &
attraction & purpose
boundary-setting
Vision of
Respect for the marriage
opposite sex
Sexual integrity
Valuing yourself
and health
(inc body)
Postive self-
image &
personal virtues
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WHAT to SHARE
OUR VALUES- BASED
Y
A
O
O
B
L
PLAYBOOK
K
P
You are
more than
Attraction a label
We are
It is exploring
natural
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WHAT to SHARE
OUR VALUES- BASED
PLAYBOOK
P L A Y B O O K
I have
Dating value
My Body
is ME
Your Body
is YOU
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WHAT to SHARE
OUR VALUES- BASED
Y
A
B
K
O
O
L
PLAYBOOK
P
1 Partner
Marriage for life
Choose
It is a wisely
commitment
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WHAT to SHARE
OUR VALUES- BASED
PLAYBOOK
P L A Y B O O K
Giving not
Sex using
1 + 1 = 3
It is
magical
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HOW to SHARE
• Short & small but
crucial talks
• Seize every teaching
moments
• Repeat and reinforce
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Quick Tips
for sharing
1. Plant the seed - start
young – start now
2. Progressive and age
appropriate teaching
3. Relationship – parent &
friend
4. Small Talks Not The BIG
talk
5. Teachable moments
6. Create safe environment
of learning and question
asking (“askable" &
“listening” parent)
7.Be real – be respectful
of body & opposite
gender
8.Be honest and
intentional. Do not
assume.
9.Practice what you
preach (not – do as I
say, not as I do)
10.Know the relevant
material. Be able to
explain and carry out a
conversation with your
child (books / talks etc)
11.Patience and
commitment. Repeat
and reinforce 10 times.
More Resources
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