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KKEONRDSHRAAK



My beloved Kendra Fligg Korshak
was born on Tuesday, December 5th, 1972
and left this earth on Sunday, March 13th, 2016.



Goddamn, Philip—I thought to myself,
you lucky “so-and-so.”

This is your wife.

This is who she is.
This is what she does.
And you have a front row seat.

Forever.

and so we will sing!

“Breathe it out.”

“Walk it out.”

...to remember she
who touched us all
and made each life

a little better
than before

She did it

through song . . .



She did it through

laughter,

and so we will

laugh!

“Dance, sing,

floss and travel.”

She did it through

love,

and so we will

love!



Kendra was
all about
that balance
between
Rock and Uke.

Alice Cooper, in fact, signed her main workhorse uke—

“UKE SKYWALKER.” When she told him that she

played metal on a uke, Alice Cooper said it couldn’t

be done. Her journal entry from that day states, in

capital letters… “CHALLENGE ACCEPTED,

ALICE COOPER!”

KENDRA’S POSSE—Kendra kept her friends close to her
heart. She revealed herself slowly, carefully. Her longing
for sisterhood, for family, was a particularly strong
current. There are many, many women from whom
Kendra drew strength. She liked smart women. Funny
women. Not always bold but always powerful.

Real power, Kendra knew, was in
VULNERABILITY. She had an amazing

talent for making a place of safety for someone else’s
vulnerability, where they could be open about it.
Kendra welcomed it and saw it as power and integrity
and treated it as such. Whether you were her friend
from childhood or her friend from a season past,

Kendra loved you, and you knew it.







Rainbows & Lollipops

is the title of the first full song Kendra wrote. She was
making fun of herself, sort of, in her approach to writing
lyrics and how silly she thought her lyrics were. But, the
truth of the matter is that Kendra loved rainbows. She
loved sweetness. She loved beauty. She loved light. Of all
of her photographs, the majority of them are capturing
distinct moments of absolute beauty. As if she was
saying with her camera­—

“That’s it! Stay RIGHT there, please!”

I am always looking
for rainbows for her,
for prisms and light…

knowing that’s where she is.



The flash of lightning stops
Everything around it, my heart stops
Holds space and time, when
I would rather be holding you, beloved Kendra

I can say goodbye to Italy, where the moon
Was honey, when our love was young.
I can say goodbye to Brooklyn, to Coney
When our youth peeled away, revealing
You to me, and me to you.
I cannot yet, I cannot yet
Say goodbye to you.

And yet you have gone, my love
Gone like lightning, illuminating everything
And gone, gone before I knew
You are everything I ever knew
All I knew of Love.
My love, my wife, my partner,
My most beloved friend.
And left behind are images scattered
Memories pressed like dried flowers
And the open sky where you reside

I cannot yet, I cannot yet
Say goodbye
And so I roar, and so I thunder
And so I wreak havoc and rage
And I cry, demanding this
World be fair, more fair than this:
This world that gave you to me
That gave me Love for 21 years
That changed who I am, how I stand
How I sleep, how I see the sky.
How lucky am I to have known you at all
To have known Love, to have journeyed
These 21 years by your side
To know, to know, you are there
Even when the lightning is gone
There is still the sky.

I cannot yet, and yet now must
Say goodbye — goodbye, my love.