First, Love Yourself - U12

First, ISSUE
2021
-
2022

Love Yourself

THE JOURNEY OF SELF LOVE

OSCAR WILDE BEYONCE DATO SERI VIDA

To love oneself is Your self-worth is I am fun,
the start of a determined by you. You I am pretty,
I am beautiful,
lifelong romance. don’t have to depend I'm a queen.
on someone telling you
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LAW036

Table of Contents

EDITORS NOTES 1
Who We Are 3
Short Message 4
Short Self Reflection 5
Music Recommendations

HIGHWAY TO SELF LOVE 6
What is Self Love? 9
Steps to Self Love 12
Kintsugi 17
References

Table of Contents

GO EASY ON YOU 18
Self Compassion 21
Affirmation 23
Gratitude Journal 24
Mental Diet Concept 29
References

LOOK AFTER YOURSELF 30
6 Signs You Lack Self Love 31
31
Perfectionism 32
You have a poor self-image 33
You experience negative self-talk 34
You avoid self-expression

You Treat Your Mental and 35
Physical Health Poorly 38
You Settle for Less
References

Table of Contents

SELF LOVE AMONG INFLUENTIAL
INDIVIDUALS

Self love Among Influential 39

Individuals


Abu Hamid Al Ghazali 40

Theodore Roosevelt 41

Zeno of Citium 42

References 45

CONCLUSION 46
Short Self Reflection 47
Editor's Final Message

WHO WE ARE

Elmus Zechary Tonduyuk Solibun (2022588869)

My hobbies are making music, playing games, and reading
manga and manhwa. I also do sports, such as rugby, and was

a track and field athlete back in highschool.



Some fun facts about me are, I'm the first child, and first
grandchild of the family. My favourite song is 'I hear a

symphony' or the cover of 'Eleanor Rigby' by Cody Fry

Muhammad Abdul Aziz Bin Ibrahim (2022392775)

My hobbies are watching Japanese anime, leisure gaming and
all forms of learning that gives me beneficial knowledge,
skills and experiences. I can speak 4 languages - Malay,
English, Arabic and Japanese.


I also enjoy going places and I seek a blessed and fulfilled
life

Muhammad Ferhadz Fansuri Bin Mohd Khairol
Azmi (2022596639)

My friends always told me that
unpredictability is my trait.

It's hard to describe me in one word. As for hobbies I have quite
a few that I love ranging from watching shows and playing
sports.


My motto in life is to live a blissful life with no regrets.

WHO WE ARE

Nor Adilah Faizah Binti Mohamad Anuar

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my WHISPERS are loud. I could not specify myself as an introvert
or extrovert. One of my biggest pet peeves is when someone

replies me super late frequently. And you know the dude up there

sayin he can speak 4 languages, well it's the similar case here.
Well, the rest of me is you for you to find out.

Aiman Syafiq Bin Abdul Rashid (2022598063)
My hobbies are reading an
d watching MMA fights. My

strengths are I'm a teamplayer and easy going.



Fun fact, I prefer physical books compared to e-books
because e-books feel fake, I'm a big fan of the Joe Rogan
Experience Podacast and an Avid Lo-Fi Hip Hop listener

Muhammad Abdul Hafiz Bin Azli (2022555597)

First and foremost, I would like to
thank our lecturer, Madam Fida, for

giving us this opportunity to participate in this social campaign. Not
to mention, my dearest teammates who have constantly helped each other

and given their full cooperation in making this e-magazine. This e-
magazine is very close to me as I believe that each and every one of us
must have experienced and gone through some incident or phases in our
lives that makes us feel insecure or have self doubt. I used to see the
whole idea of self-love as a petty thing, however then only I realised

how important it is for our self growth especially in building the
foundation for self esteem. It might take months, years, perhaps even
decades for us to just simply accept who we truly are. As many of us, I
struggle in accepting myself especially when I started comparing myself
with others and having ups and downs in life. I sincerely hope that our

readers could understand about self love better at the end of this
magazine.



Therefore, I specifically chose the topic for my article to help the
readers to identify a few basic signs of lack in self-love that you might

have. So, I hope y”all enjoy reading this magazine and do not forget to
share it with your friends and family!

Short

Message

What you need to know before reading this magazine....

Hello there! This is a message just for you dear reader,
The theme of this magazine as you m
ay have guessed is about self love.
I hope that you read this magazine with a thought in mind, and that is



"This is a journey."



Yes, this might just be a magazine, and there might be a million magazines
just like this, but at this moment, right here and right now you're reading
this magazine specifically, and this message which is just for you dear reader,
is telling you that by picking this up and reading what lies in between the
pages, you are going on a journey of self discovery and self realisation, and

hopefully by the end, you end up with self love.



This magazine was made for our assignment from the LAW036 course, and
it couldn't have been done without the cooperation and hard work from each
and every member. As mentioned, the reading this magazine should feel like a
journey for the reader, but for us who made this magazine, it felt a journey
of our own. After reading up and researching so much on 'Loving Yourself', we

were able to relate the article to what we learned in LAW036 class,
touching on topics such as self esteem. I believe every single member has
changed in their own way, and have understood more on the topic of 'the self',
for the better, after making this magazine. In the end, the most important

lesson we learned is;



First, Love Yourself.



- Elmus

Short Self Reflection

How much do you love yourself?

AM I HAPPY WITH MYSELF?

How satisfied are you with yourself?

EARN TO

PT MYSE LOVE AND ACCE DO I HAVE HIGH OR
LOW SELF ESTEEM?

How confident in yourself are you?

WHAT DO I THINK ABOUT SELF LOVE?

What is your opinion on 'loving yourself'

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Music
Recommendations

We made a playlist just for you!

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HIGHWAY TO
SELF LOVE

Ferhadz Fansuri

Consider the love stories you've Self-love involves completely accepting
seen or read in movies, books, oneself, treating themselves with kindness and
wattpad, webtoons or even on respect, and nourishing one's own growth and
welfare. It also includes how one treats self and

Instagram.

has own ideas and sentiments about one's
Do movies like Titanic's 'Jack and own.
Rose', To All the
Boys I've Loved

Before's 'Lara Jean and Peter
Kavinsky' come to mind? Self-love has become a buzzword in recent
years, but it's often misunderstood to mean

buying your favourite bottle of wine, taking a
We're usually fed love stories about bubble bath, and engaging in activities that
two people sometimes with a lack of involve pampering oneself. Self-love in its most
diversity but there's a whole world of fundamental form is finding yourself beneath

untold love stories about another all the layers of conditioning, external
crucial relationship: our relationship influence, self-criticism, learned and
subconscious walls that have been built up, all
with ourselves. to unveil who you really are, to ultimately really

What is Self Love? embrace your own persona.




You are the only person you Relationships have less power than self-love
would spend every second of since you're accessible for yourself through
thick and thin, as most people refer to it. It is
every day of your life with.
Humans require assistance in not usually the most straightforward
developing a loving relationship relationship, however. It takes a lot of practice,
with themselves. It can be a
long and complicated process, patience, compassion, and learning and
but it will make room for more relearning. There are a variety of things you
can do to improve your self-esteem. The inner
enjoyment and freedom. beauty needs to be woken up trapped with no


light and looking to quench its thirst .

CLAIREL ESTEVEZ

ONCE UPON A TIME,
I LEARNED TO LOVE MYSELF.
IN A WAY THAT NO ONE ELSE,

WILL EVER DARE TO DO.

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Make peace with your insecurities

Recognise and forgive yourself for almost any remaining insecurities you may
have. You're only human, so it's natural to have doubts or be insecure
regarding specific things.

By removing your self-judgement for not embracing every single part of
yourself, you stop beating yourself up by simply expressing the insecurity and

move on. Feeding your insecurity would lead to a severe obsession.

Accept that perfection doesn’t exist
and accept your “flaws”

We're all so unique and beautiful. You're distinct, and indifferent from another person. Whenever we believe we are 'less
than' others since they have things we don't, or that they are somehow 'better' than us, our self-love weakens. We have to

consider that you don't know everyone's story when you keep comparing yourself to others. The concept of perfection can
feel unavoidable in our increasingly image-obsessed culture. Perfection, on the other hand, is a completely abstract concept
that does not exist in reality. You'd probably receive 100 different notions of perfection if you asked 100 people to define

the perfect woman.
Furthermore, even the "ideal" models in magazines don't appear exactly like they do in magazines. Even after a team of
make-up artists, spray tanners, personal trainers, and personal chefs collaborated to get their desired image, they are
extensively airbrushed. So, why do we believe that "perfection" is feasible or achievable if those who have all the support in

the world and are paid to look immaculate need to be airbrushed?

Discover what is important to you


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Grow in ways that support what’s
important to you

Explore and grow through what is truly important to ALWAYS REMEMBER FOLKS!
you once you've discovered it. Register in a course, join a YOU CAN ONLY PERFORM
THESE STEPS EFFECTIVELY
community, or simply set aside some "you time" to ONCE YOU ARE AWARE OF
spend exploring your ideas in your own mind. These YOURSELF, AS WHAT WE
activities will nurture your soul, transform you into a ARE TAUGHT IN THE 'SELF
simply stunning person, and enable you to fall in love AWARENESS THEORY'!

with yourself.



A person with soul, passion, and a drive to be the best
version of themselves. A person who is wonderful in

every way, but is becoming ever more beautiful each day
in the ways that matter very much to them.



The “you time” is relatively important speaking your
experience as it enables myself to nurture new skills
which is martial arts which i give importance to as it is
an activity that drives me a person with adrenaline and
connects me deeply in ways that i found it unimaginable

to define the euphoric feeling that I experienced.

RINSE AND REPEAT

Self-love is an ongoing conscious choice,

never a destination.

Check in with yourself on a daily basis to
ensure that preceding insecurities, or new
ones, aren't developing into obsessions.
Remind yourself to accept your
imperfections, reassess what is important to
you, and develop new ways to support
those principles. It's essential to remember
that self-love doesn't imply that you have to
like everything there is about yourself most
of the time; that's unrealistic.

Self-love is about deciding to give our
energy to the things that make us happier,
stronger, and more satisfied instead of
allowing those thoughts to consume us. It's
also about identifying and then dismissing
the conception of our destructive nature
that exists in ourselves.

To have Self-love, we need to have Self
Knowledge. By taking a step back and
giving time for introspection to think about
who we are, and in turn about what we
want, we can understand what is required
to achieve Self-Love.

KINT金S
継UGI
The art of loving yourself

Kintsugi (from the Japanese words Kin Legend has it that kintsugi began in Kintsugi is based on the wabi-sabi
and Tsugi, literally "golden joinery") is Japan in the late 15th century when philosophy of Japanese Zen, which
the Japanese skill of repairing broken Ashikaga Yoshimasa, a Japanese finds beauty in imperfections instead
ceramics with lacquer dusted or Shogun (warlord), smashed his of perfection. Imperfection,
mixed with powdered gold, silver, or beloved Chinese tea pitcher. He sent brokenness, roughness, and asymmetry
platinum, transforming it into it back to China for repairs, but the are all valued in this culture. The basic
something more beautiful than the Chinese craftsmen used unpleasant principle of kintsugi and wabi-sabi is to
original. If your bowl, glass, or vase metal staples to fix it, which recognise that breaking a ceramic
were to break and shatter into displeased Yoshimasa. As a result of bowl is not the end of its tale, but rather
smithereens, you would probably this tragedy, Japanese craftsmen an important step in shaping it into
throw them away with regret and began looking for a more attractive something more beautiful than it was
even fury. With Kintsugi, however, this manner of restoration. They before.
is not the case. Kintsugi is a Japanese employed liquid gold to reassemble
technique for repairing broken the parts that were fractured,
artifacts by adding value to them by resulting in stunning artwork that is
outlining the breaks with gold or silver finer than the original.
lines.This art in my opinion,could be
used as a metaphor of life

FORGIVENESS AND SELF

LOVE IN KINTSUGI.

What do we do when we are in physical

discomfort? Of course, we endeavour to get rid of
it as quickly as possible and take whatever steps
are necessary. When it comes to mental anguish,
however, it appears that we love it. Instead of
finishing the healing process, we overthink things
and relive the worst memories of our lives. We
resent people who have wronged us, yet this simply
makes our lives more difficult.

Forgiveness allows you to be free of those While forgiving, you'll see that the parts of yourself that
crippling emotions. To begin, forgive yourself for were shattered, recovered, and healed are the most
your faults and poor decisions. Then forgive those beautiful and significant part. Kintsugi is about self-
who have caused you pain in the past. Allow acceptance and self-love. Allow yourself to appreciate your
yourself to let go of things you can't control. past, learn from your mistakes, and let go of unhealthy
connections. Then, learn to accept your fears and
vulnerabilities by adoring your gifts that were given to you
as they elevate and enhance your beauty.When you feel
devastated, remember that you can always pick up the
broken pieces and use the golden glue of acceptance, love,
and support to put them back together. Learning to accept
your flaws as a wonderful part of who you are is a crucial
step towards self-love.

This art of 'fixing' a bowl might be able to teach us a lot
about
ourselves. Our wounds, our fissures, our horrific experiences...
It is not the end of the world for us. It moulded us into the
people we are today. Perhaps we can remake ourselves into
something better than who we were yesterday by accepting
our traumas, wounds, and fissures. In perspective, we could
be considered perfect in Kintsugi's eyes by embracing our
own brokenness and imperfection.

ooksB Section A famous blogger cuts through the nonsense to
show us how to stop trying to be "positive" all

of the time but instead concentrate on how to
become better, happier people.

'Milk and Honey' is a poetry and prose anthology
on survival. It explores the elements of violence,
abuse, love, loss, and femininity . The book is
  divided into four chapters, each with its own
function. It is concerned with a different type of
pain. Heal a different kind of pain.

'milk and honey' takes readers on a voyage
through life's most bitter moments, seeking
sweetness in them because sweetness could be
found somewhere if you simply look for it.

What would it be like to be free of constraints
and fly beyond your limits? What are some
things you can do every day to find inner
peace and serenity? The Untethered Soul
answers these questions in a clear but deep
manner.

Self Care
Checkpoint

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GO EASY ON YOU

By: Nor Adilah

HELLO CRITIC, TAKE A SEAT,
A CUP OF COFFEE?

TELL ME WHAT’S ON YOUR MIND?
HOW HAVE YOU BEEN LATELY?
UNHAPPY HUH?
WHAT A TERRIBLE PLACE TO BE!
TELL ME ABOUT IT.
WHAT IS IT LIKE OVER THERE?

I’M SORRY IF YOU’RE FEELING THIS WAY.
OH, I DIDN’T INTRODUCE MYSELF
MY NAME’S COMPASSION!

DO YOU ALL KNOW WHAT
SELF COMPASSION IS?




Compassion is extending compassion to one's self in instances
of perceived inadequacy, failure, or general suffering. Kristin
Neff has defined self-compassion as being composed of three
main elements – self-kindness, common humanity, and
mindfulness.

Self-compassion entails mindful awareness of our negative
thoughts and emotions so that they are approached with
balance and equanimity. When we are mindful, we are
experimentally open to the reality of the present moment
without judgment, avoidance or repression. There are quite a
number of ways to implement self-compassion within yourself.

AFFIRMATION

HAVE YOU EVER HEARD OF AFFIRMATION? What the heck
are AFFIRMATIONS exactly, you think? Do you know words have
extreme power? Affirmations are powerful, positive statements that aim
to direct your conscious and subconscious mind, challenging
previously held unhealthy and negative thinking patterns. When they
are spoken with conviction, they can alter your thoughts, emotions,
beliefs and behavior.

Affirmations have helped thousands of people make important
changes in their lives. They work because they have the ability to
program your mind into accessing and believing the repeated
statements and concepts. By nurturing yourself with positive
affirmations, it further boosts your desire to continue your actions.

Basically practising affirmation would refrain ourselves from
involving into upward social comparison most of the time. Sometimes,
we jut gotta lay back and enjoy every little moments in our life.

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1.List all of your negative features ( it can be about you as a
person, how you work or your relationship towards others)

2. Rephrase your negative features as positive affirmations, like
from ‘I know that I am dumb because I am lazy’ to ‘I know I am
smart because I am willing to be more productive as days goes by’

3. Repeat your affirmations regularly



4. Anchor the affirmation into your body



5. Receive your affirmation from an external source ( you can use
apps like ‘self pause’ available on playstore, to help you with your

daily affirmations)

START WRITING YOUR OWN
GRATITUDE JOURNAL



Gratitude is a powerful practice for me!
Sometimes I get caught up in the things I don’t have, and often that

can lead to me blaming myself for not having those things.



.Take time every morning or every night to write things that you are
grateful and happy for having in life. By doing this, you would start

appreciating yourself and discover how precious you and
your life actually are.



There’s a sample of gratitude journal provided to guide you through your
new journey!

Mental Diet Concept

Mental dieting is simply monitoring your thoughts and giving yourself positive content.
Any thoughts, ideas, and anything that empowers you and helps you reach your goals is
good for you, but doubts and limited beliefs are not always welcomed. For example,
suppose you think, "I'm a neat, clean, and organized person." It ’s very easy, isn’t it?

Now, ask yourself. "Is it a useful idea for me? Does it move me towards the person I
want to be? Does it hinder me?`. In this case, this idea is "good." It moves you forward
and helps you progress. On the other hand, the first idea is "I'm the most disorganized
person. My room is cluttered, can't be kept clean and always cluttered. Again, it's a
pretty simple concept. Is that a useful idea?

Is it moving you towards the person you want to be? not really. Of course, these
examples were a bit ridiculous, but even the least important aspects of our lives are great
for making sure that there are so many restrictive beliefs around us!

OUR JOB IS BASICALLY TO GET RID OF THEM AS
EFFICIENTLY AND QUICKLY AS POSSIBLE.





MENTAL DIET HELPS US!

Dealing with Useless Ideas / Limiting Beliefs

Return to the previous example. "I'm the most disorganized person. My room is
cluttered and can't be kept clean, I'm always cluttered and I have to live in a
disorganized house. We found this idea,

What's next? Well, first of all, we have to admit that this is a limited belief. So
whenever we think of such a thing, in our minds, "It's a limited belief, repeat or
give it a name."

Now that you know that this idea isn't true at all, think about what you want and
calm down. In this case, think of you as a neat, clean, and organized person. When
you get back on track, continue from there and stay in the (correct) thinking lane. In

more practical terms than , this exchange will look like this in your head:

"I'm the most disorganized
person . My room is

cluttered and can't be kept
clean, always cluttered
and I have to live in a
disorganized house. "

This is absolutely wrong, it's a
limited belief. I am a naturally
clean, tidy and organized person.
Whenever I pick up something, I put
it back in place. Organization is my

middle name.



It may sound ridiculous, but it's the most effective way to get quick and powerful
results using a mental diet.!

The Takeaway

NOW, let’s sum up what has been discussed here about mental diet!



Mental diets help you monitor your thoughts. Therefore, it helps you decide which
ideas to empower. Of course, you want to move you forward and choose the ones that

move you among the people you want to be.



What if we come across an idea that makes us wonder, just feel sick, or feel the
opposite of what we want? For starters, we are not surprised. In fact, we simply admit
the idea and neutralize it. We can simply call it a limited belief and then move on to

productive thinking or calm down and get back on track.

AFFIRMATION TEMPLATE

Gratitude journal

DATE:

DAILY AFFIRMATION

HIGHLIGHTS

1
2

3
What am I grateful for today?

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COMPASSION

Look After Yourself

by ABDUL HAFIZ AZLI

6 SIGNS YOU LACK SELF-LOVE

The belief that "I am not loveable" As we all know that self-love is about loving and
frequently causes a lack of self-love. This enjoying who you are. Self-love emerges when
is a fictitious worry, but you'll never you take time to explore yourself and get to know
know if you're too afraid to explore and the true you. Self-love comprises several things
face it. When you don't have enough self- including being kind to yourself, being committed
love, you begin to hunt for love to yourself and caring for yourself. It also means
elsewhere, expecting to find someone accepting yourself as who you are without seeking
who will help you overturn your self- social approval and validation. Therefore, you
judgment and it can be from your should accept yourself regardless of your body
significant other or your friends. size, sexual orientation, and physical appearance
However, the truth is that you are the
only person who can change this belief. But it is easier said than done. It is inevitable that
people face difficulties to truly accept who they
are. Thus, in this article we will help you to
identify 6 signs of self-destructive that may
indicate you are lacking in self-love. In
conclusion, without self - love, one's self esteem
will be at an all time low.

Perfectionism
This often happens when you have an insatiable desire to have everything done perfectly,
which is unrealistic in everyday life. You frequently feel flawed and inadequate, resulting in
low self-esteem. You hide it by behaving in ways you think are acceptable, such as being the
best-dressed person in the room, with never a hair out of place, and requiring faultless
feedback or else feeling devastated. When something isn't done the way they want it to be
done, they invariably blame others.

You experience negative self-talk
Negative self-talk is another branch of self-destructive in which you constantly say harsh
words or insults to yourself.

“I’m a loser.” “I don’t deserve to be happy.”
“Why did I say that? I’m so stupid.”

These are the common examples of negative self-talk that can result from low confidence.
Also, if you regularly insult yourself which can be either internally or in conversation with
others, this may also indicate that you are likely to have low self-esteem. Being unforgiving or
harsh on yourself when making mistakes can be a sign, too. This could also lead to self-hatred
which is more harmful to yourself

You have a poor self-image

Do you call yourself “fat” or “ugly” and judge
how you look when standing in front of a
mirror? If so, it’s likely you think poorly of
yourself and your appearance due to a
negative self-image.

Not feeling confident with yourself and
constantly criticise yourself on things that
you cannot change such as your skin colour,
physical shape (your jaw, heights and facial
features). This could be a major factor that
affects your life as many people think that
they do not fit into the society norms and
beauty standards. Most commonly, people
will be influenced by the idea of “ideal look
& physical or body shape” although it is not
necessarily true. Everyone is beautiful in all
sizes and shapes and no one should feel
ashamed for being themselves.

Therefore, this behaviour could lead to
the culture of rejecting compliments.



Rejecting compliments is another
example of negative self-esteem

You avoid self- It’s a learned behaviour that comes as a reaction
to the negative responses that someone has
expression received and it could be rooted out from lack of
self-love. This is because some people would
It’s not uncommon for people to hide prefer to “put or wear a mask” in a way the
their true feelings, because truly majority of them put on a mask to hide their
expressing yourself can be a very vulnerability. Most commonly, they try to act in
vulnerable act. Some people find ways that conceal their emotions and put on a
themselves avoiding self-expression even brave face so that others will not see the problems
in their most intimate relationships for that they are experiencing in their life.
fear of being dismissed or shamed. Also,
usually when someone is actively Therefore, the majority of the people avoid
suppressing their feelings or going out of expressing themselves out of shame,
their way to not discuss certain topics, it’s embarrassment, or fears of judgment. This habit
called avoidance. This kind of behaviour of “playing small” could also be due to a lack of
creates communication problems that can confidence. Essentially, people would hide
also put a strain on personal relationships. themselves or just simply blend in with others as a
However, this avoidance doesn’t just coping mechanism for feeling insecure.
happen on its own.

You Treat Your Mental and Physical
Health Poorly

Lack of self-love could affect your mental
health when you feel unworthy and
constantly comparing yourself with
others. Maybe you feel like you don’t
deserve love, praise, or a raise at work.
This is directly related to how much you
value yourself and your abilities as well as
your mental well-being. Hence, we should
not look down on ourselves and embrace
yourself more!

People lacking self-love may treat their Therefore, self-care is incredibly
mental and physical health poorly. This may important even taking small steps will
also be in the form of skipping meals or have tremendous improvements on your
overeating. Such behavior could lead to wellbeing. Thus, learning to eat healthier
serious illnesses like gastric, diabetes and and exercising is important. Similarly,
obesity. Additionally, in most cases they do meditation or partaking in a hobby (or
not take time for themselves and work on both!) are great ways to build upon
building their happiness. On the other hand, yourself. Finally, reaching out and getting
they may also turn to alcohol and other help to deal with addiction is essential to
substances to cope with their feelings. improving

You Settle
for Less

People lacking self-love may settle for
less than what they can achieve. They
may give up their dreams and settle
for something completely different.
Part of this may be due to their fear
of failure, otherwise, a person may
not feel that they have what it takes
and sell themselves short on achieving
what they truly want.

This also indicates the sign of not
being confident and self-doubt.
Usually people will think that they do
not deserve everything although they
have been too harsh on themselves
such as sleepless nights of studying
and overwork. This can be especially
harmful as they may be settling for a
less satisfactory life

CROSSWORD
PUZZLE

WE PREPARE A CROSSWORD PUZZZLE FOR
YOU. HOPE YOU ENJOY!

ANSWERS

DO NOT CHEAT HEHE

1) ENCOURAGEMENT
2) REESPONSIBILITY
3) TAKE
4) YOURSELF
5) PURPOSE
6) EMOTIONS
7) SHAME
8) PROUD
9) SELF ESTEEM
10) JOY
11) FEAR
12) REJECTION
13) EGOCENTRICITY

ALWAYS PUT YOURSELF ABOVE THAN ANYTHING.



References

Mandriota, M. (2021, August 3). 8 Examples of Low Self-Esteem and What to Do. Psych
Central. https://psychcentral.com/health/common-patterns-of-low-self-esteem#low-

self-esteem-examples
-, S. (2020, June 22). 10 Signs you lack of self-love. Psych2Go.

https://psych2go.net/10-signs-you-lack-self-love/

SELF LOVE AMONG
INFLUENTIAL
INDIVIDUALS

BY:AIMAN SYAFIQ

After reading the front
articles,you might have grasp
the basic concept of loving
yourself and self love. But, you
might wondering if there any
influential or famous persons
that have done the same thing
that can be categorized as self
love.

Lo and behold my friend, I will
present to you 3 influential
individuals that have put self
love as a stepping stone for
them in life

Instead of giving you the Hollywood celebrities as examples which are quite
common, I’m instead pick 3 individuals which ranges from one of the greatest
scholar in Islamic world to cowboy turn to a president of a nation and a founder of
a philosophy school.

Abu Hamid
Al Ghazali

You might feel weird after seeing his
name in the list. How could a scholar
that also known as The Proof of Islam
have any relations to the topic of self
love.It’s happen when this great
scholar underwent a spiritual crisis
during his time as a scholar at al-
Nizamiyyah (Bensen, 2021). In 1095 AD,
Al Ghazali’s spiritual crisis cause
impediment to his speech. He believes
it was cause by his worldly desires to
cause this problem. Because of this,Al
Ghazali resign from his position,and
tell others that he wanted to do a
pilgrimage to Mecca.

He leaves his family and divert his From his story we can see that Al
journey from the Holy Land to Ghzali have the guts to leave his
Damascus.During his journey, Al position as a scholar and leave his
Ghazali renewed his belief and spend family to put his spiritual crisis as his
most of his time on spiritual matters main focus.It is a type of self love as
as he believes that it can help him to he discovers what is important for him
solve the spiritual crisis (Hozien, which is his spirituality. It is okay
2001). During his journey,Al Ghazali sometime to take a break from what
finished his magnum opus,The you are currently doing and focus on
Revival of Religion Sciences. After a something that will eventually help
few years, Al Ghazali went back to his you in the long run.
homeland as a new person (Bensen,
2021).

THEODORE He also started to spend more times in the
ROOSEVELT nature which surprisingly help to
improve his health (Milkis, n.d.).After
Theodore who is also known as Teddy dropped out from his study,Teddy pursue
is arguably one of the most influential a career as a Member of New York State
president in the United States of Assembly and from that he rised up
America.His initiative which ranges meteorically in politics untill he became
from the building of Panama Channel the President of United States of America
to destroy the monopoly in United in 1901 (Theodore Roosevelt - HISTORY,
States of America oil and steel 2020).
industry has cause numerous benefits
for American (Theodore Roosevelt - Teddy Roosevelt took a new approach on
HISTORY, 2020). But, before all of self love. As modern perception believe
these,Teddy was just a sickly young that self love is different from self
boy who was suffering with asthma. improvement, Teddy Roosevelt method of
To improve his health conditions, self love put self improvement as a part of
Teddy started to do a lot of physical self love.His initiative to combat his bad
activity which includes weighlifting, health is a way for him to fight his
gymnastic, wrestling and boxing. insecurity.This way shows that he put his
(Milkis, n.d.). attention on matter that is important to
him which helped him grew as a person
and a great political figure.

Zeno of He was heavily influenced by Socrates and
Citium proceed to study under the tutelage of
Crates of Thebes (Mark & Barnes,
The father of Stoicism faced numerous 2011).After a while,he started to teached at
tragedies in his life, but he used all of Stoa Pikole or porch which situated at
that experience to create a new school of Ancient Agora of Athens. (Who Is Zeno? An
philosophy which is still relevant today Introduction to the Founder of Stoicism,
and commonly used by many modern n.d.). Zeno has a very positive view on life
self-help gurus.Zeno who was borned in as he repeatedly said that his failed
Citium which situated in modern day voyage is actually prosperous (Mark &
Cyprus,was actually a rich merchant who Barnes, 2011). It becomes the founding
inherited his father business. (Mark & principle of Stoicism that have positive
Barnes, 2011). During a voyage between view on life and tragedy.
Phoenicia and Paierus, Zeno suffered a
shipwreck and all of his cargo was sunk Zeno resilient and self acceptance are
and it cause Zeno to stayed at Athens important evidences that this ancient
where he was introduced to Socrates philosopher also has certain kind of self
teachings via a book.. (Who Is Zeno? An love towards himself.Self love repeatedly
Introduction to the Founder of Stoicism, highlight the importance to accept our
n.d.). deficiency in life.Zeno might lose his wealth
and career,but through his self love,he
manages to find a way out of his problem
and create a new opportunity in life.

CONCLUSION
FIRST LOVE YOURSELF

All in all,the above examples are proof that we
should implement self love in our life.Different
persons might have different view and
understanding on self love, but it will be
beneficial for all of us. Self love should not mean
that you are being selfish,but instead that you
focus on things that really matter for you.

Self love does not mean that you are slacking
around, but it means that you are constantly
trying to improve yourself. Self love should not
mean that you could not accept your weaknesses,
but it means that you acknowledge it and won't let
it to stop you from thriving. From this, we can see
that self love is highly beneficial and should be
implement by everyone. From the three
influential individuals that I mentioned, they all
have the ability to succeed after undergoing
tragedies and after facing problems in life. Those
events show their high self efficacy due to high
self love. Remember folks, keep calm and love
yourself.

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Introduction — Imam Ghazali Institute. Imam Ghazali Institute.

Retrieved March 15, 2022, from
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biography
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the Writings on his Personal Crisis. ghazali.org. Retrieved
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(n.d.). Daily Stoic. Retrieved March 16, 2022, from
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Short Self Reflection

How much do you love yourself?

AM I HAPPY WITH MYSELF?

How satisfied are you with yourself?

EARN TO

PT MYSE LOVE AND ACCE DO I HAVE HIGH OR
LOW SELF ESTEEM?

How confident in yourself are you?

WHAT DO I THINK ABOUT SELF LOVE?

What is your opinion on 'loving yourself'

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