Moulding, Inspiring, Nurturing and Empowering Teenagers
7TH Special Edition
daySaturday, June 10th, 2017
1. I AM ....................................... 18. I AM A JOY TO MY PARENTS AND
2. I AM A CHRISTIAN SIBLINGS
3. GOD LOVES ME 19. I AM A VALUABLE ASSET TO MY WORLD
4. JESUS PAID THE PRICE FOR MY SINS 20. I KNOW ALL I NEED TO KNOW TO
5. THE HOLY SPIRIT LIVES IN ME BECOME ALL GOD CREATED ME TO BE
6. THEREFORE, I AM BLESSED 21. I WILL MAKE GOD PROUD
7. I AM FORGIVEN 22. I WILL ENJOY MY LIFE HERE ON EARTH
8. I AM RIGHTEOUS 23. I WILL TAKE MANY PEOPLE TO HEAVEN
9. I LOVE GOD WITH ALL MY HEART WITH ME
10. I LOVE EVERYONE LIKE CHRIST DOES 24. I AM INDEED BLESSED
11. I AM HEALTHY 25. I AM GOD- CRAZY
12. I AM WEALTHY AND PROSPEROUS 26. I AM LOVE ORIENTED
13. I AM BOLD AND SUCCESSFUL 27. I AM PARENT - HONOURING
14. I AM INTELLIGENT AND CREATIVE 28. I AM SEXUALLY PURE
15. I HAVE THE MIND OF CHRIST 29. I AM COURTESY CONSCIOUS
16. I WILL ACHIEVE ALL MY DREAMS 30. I AM INTEGRITY INCLINED
17. THE WORLD WILL CELEBRATE GOD 31. I AM EXCELLENCE DRIVEN
IN ME 32. I AM EVER LEARNING
33. I AM ALWAYS CONFIDENT
Graphics: 34. I AM MEDIA WISE
Bolu Akindele +234 815 986 5113
Raising Teenagers to be just like Jesus in word and Deed.
To, by the help of the Holy Spirit,
save and equip 1 in 20 teenagers across the world, equipping
him/her to be able to save and equip the other 19
To achieve this, we would: MINE FAMILY MEMBERS:
1. Yearly increase the distribution of Mine Magazine To achieve the following:
within Ngeria, then to other nations 1. We will set the pace by living holy
2. We will become word addicts
2. Hold regular outreaches/forums within and outside 3. We will become Prayer and Fasting Addicts
Nigeria 4. We will be people of integrity
5. We will be people of love
3. Conduct regular Bible studies and prayer times to 6. We will be hardworking
build up the teenagers 7. We will be people of FAITH
8. We will live in GRACE
4. Organise extensive personal (one-on-one)
evangelism MINE SONG
I am the one the Lord is waiting for
5. Reach out to less privileged teenagers across the To change my world, I need a change inside
world with food, clothes, education, healthcare, Use me Lord to change my world
counselling and THE GOSPEL Change me Lord to change my world
I heartily congratulate you that you are holding this edition of
MINE magazine in your hand. As you can see, we are
celebrating seven years of God's backing in the proclamation of
the dignity of virginity and the sanity of the choice to remain sexually
pure. The World Virginity Day, which is celebrated every second Saturday
in June, is fast becoming a landmark where young people thank God 'they made it another year'!!! In the world
today, it is 'abnormal' to be a virgin and be sexually pure. But God is raising the loudest voice, through MINE
Teenage Ministry, to redeﬁne the standards. He is also raising a fresh and unalloyed generation of males and
females who would make virginity and sexual purity the norm. These are the last days, God is pouring out His
Spirit on all ﬂesh, He has given us visions and dreams and one of the dreams is this- one day, the table will turn
and sexual purity would be the norm, the trend that everyone wants to identify with and virginity would be
In this edition, members of the Ministry, from different families within and outside Nigeria, have written
poems, their personal stories and lessons or messages that would remind you that you are not alone, inspire
and empower you to take and keep your stand. Please read through the lines, it is a compilation of different
shades and colours of help and you can be sure there is something in it for you! The theme for this year's
edition is 'Love Over Lust'. To the virgins in the house, please know that you are not alone, don't be pressured
to let it go before the right time. To those who have lost it, you don't have to continue to listen to lies of the
devil rather know that you are loved, you are not condemned and you can still live a life of love.
We apologise to those who are following the stories - 'The Veil' and 'Never A Chance'. They will be continued in
the next edition, by God's grace.
Few Ministry updates:
- MINE Magazine production is ongoing. We would continue publishing and distributing it FREE (both in soft
and hard copy) across the globe.
- The Ark, our church arm, is moving on in GRACE. We have moved to Lekki and now hold services on Sundays
(9-12noon) and Wednesdays (5:30-7:30pm) at Monarch Gardens. 2, Osapa road, Osapa-London, Lekki. It is a
church for teenagers and young adults, like you!
- Different daily, weekly, and monthly activities hold in the different families across the world. Please see MINE
Contacts on Page 4 to ﬁnd out if we have a family close to you.
- Please feel free to connect with us on social media. Just search “Mine Teenage Ministry” on any social media
That would be all for the ministry updates for now. To reach us via email, please message
Enjoy your read!
Happy World Virginity Day 2017!!! See you next year with your trophy of victory!!!
I love you!
National Coordinator, MINE Teenage Ministry
+234 802 434 1167 @virtuousoak (IG)
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I will start by saying fornication is not a weakness, it's a the devil is under your feet. Yes he is like a roaring lion
SIN. What you call a thing is what it becomes. but then, we resist him and he ﬂees (you know how she
Fornication seems to be a big deal and an 'impossible- did it in the movie 'War Room'). Chase him out of your
get-over' for some people because of what they have life, your space, stop his workings in your life, USE THE
termed it. Some things have been watered down so WORD! When a person has headache and wants to take
much so that fornication and a whole lot of vices have drugs, he ﬁnds paracetamol, in the same vein, when you
been termed weakness. What an excuse! So he keeps have issues in life, be it sexual immorality, lying, stealing,
'trying' to get over the weakness that keeps getting over masturbation, etc, you must ﬁnd the word of God that
him. You need to be realistic and call it what it is, see it addresses it, catch the light in it, believe it like you
the way God sees it, hate it the way God hates it. Then, believe your skin colour because God cannot lie, neither
and only then, will you be angry enough to resist it. You is He a careless talker. This is not rocket science and this
have to resist it like you realize the consequences, resist is not someone being too hard or judgemental or not
him like you would if you realize he was HIV positive, understanding (the way it is said these days 'you will not
resist her like she was Delilah, resist/ﬂee fornication like understand'). This is truth from the Word,this is a piece
scriptures says to: for every one who is tired of the normal and is ready to
Hebrews 12:4 (NIV) - In your struggle against sin, you deal with it…YOU DON'T HIDE A SIN YOU ARE READY TO
have not yet resisted to the point of shedding your DEAL WITH! SEXUAL PURITY IS POSSIBLE IN THIS 21ST
blood. CENTURY,THERE ARE STILL VIRGINS IN THE LAND (that
1Corinthians 6:18 - Run from sexual sin! No other sin so sounds like an epic movie..hahaha). I am a witness, I
clearly affects the body as this one does. For sexual decided when I was 16 to be sexually pure. I didn't stop
immorality is a sin against your own body. there. I made a covenant with God that MY FIRST KISS
One thing I know is that God will not ask us to do what WOULD BE ON MY WEDDING DAY AND SEX AFTER MY
He knows we can't do. You are saved, dead to sin and WEDDING. I am 27 this year and still waiting in white
risen to righteousness. We have Zoe, the life of Jesus, a (don't worry,wedding will happen soon, get your tummy
higher Life. That Life knows no sickness, that Life knows ready for rice..hahaha).
no weakness. His Spirit in us quickens our mortal bodies, Now it's not just I who made it this far, I know a whole lot
His spirit in us gives us the ability to control self so who have made it safe to marriage and a whole lot who
DON'T THINK YOU HAVE BEEN OVERCOME WITH SUCH are still waiting in white and a whole lot more who were
A TEMPTATION THAT is peculiar to you because in lost and tossed in sexual sins and eventually took a stand
every temptation, He says, there is a way of escape. for sexual purity and are keeping up. If you are not
Don't sit there brooding and wishing, get up and do saved, keeping yourself is an almost impossible task.
something about it. Knowledge is power and the truth Although some moralists still discipline themselves to
makes you free. When you know and encounter the achieve this, but to them it's an effort in futility as the
redemptive power of Jesus, the packages His death and most important thing is their lives in Christ and their
resurrection delivered to us, you can't stay weak, you bodies in honour of Him. Receive Jesus, you need Him.
wouldn't even say it because the power of life and death Sex in itself is not sin as it was created by God and there
lies in the tongue, you create your happenings. is no evil in God. The problem is timing! As the Holy Bible
Where you place the devil, there he stays. When you see puts it, there is time for every thing under the sun…and
him and his works of iniquities as so big and mighty that the right time according to the creator is in Marriage.
you need a year to deal with it and many fastings, Look through scriptures, from Genesis to Revelation-
"prayerssss" and anointing oils, (I DO NOT take these Sexual Immorality is one thing God detests and He still
things for granted), it stays so. You need to understand does. When He says it, He means it and He says FLEE!
your place in Christ. You need to absorb the truth that #nosum
WITH SEXUAL PURITY AYOKUNLE KAJENRO
LUTH, LAGOS, NIGERIA
When Uncle Timi called me Youth Church 'Freedom Court' that I am and thereafter TEAR THE MAGAZINE I
and told me that my family presently worshipping. JUST BOUGHT WITH THE STOLEN
here in LUTH (that is Let me take you back a little. I used to MONEY TO SHREDS. I was tearing it
CMUL/LUTH Chapter) is to present two watch Pornography some few years because I didn't want anyone to see me
articles for the 53rd edition of MINE back which started immediately after my and most importantly, I didn't want
Magazine, geared towards the World secondary school days (that period of them to see the porn magazine. My only
Virginity day 2017 and that the deadline seeking for admission into the saving grace was that I never knew what
was the next day, I humbly felt that we University). I was at home idle and was MASTURBATION was and as a result, I
should be able to pull that through looking for a movie to watch but since didn't partake in that if not - It could
because we have bloggers and talented there was none, I sought to get from my have been a worse scenario for me.
writers amongst us that could write neighbour- a young guy of about my Thereafter, an occurrence happened
extensively on Sexual Purity. Thus, I age who gave me a video tape to watch which made me shiver. I had one of the
didn't consider writing anything at all, I and in my excitement, I ran to my house Post UTME exams to write and was
felt my guys were superbly capable of and slotted in the ﬁlm since I was the preparing for it, which made me read
handling it. only one at home. Right there in the into the night. On a fateful day, around
sitting room, the scene that met my eyes 11pm or approaching midnight
Something interesting happened that was gory- anal sex, oral sex and lots of thereabout, I had my books in front of
evening when climbing the stairs to my moaning sounds ﬁlled the room. Almost me but my mind was not in the books.
own room in the hostel (the very last immediately, I was very erect yet I was Since my parents and siblings were fast
room on the topmost ﬂoor) – I heard disgusted (two absurd feelings) but asleep, I went to the video player and
within my spirit that it would be better if strangely enough- I couldn't just go to inserted a movie that had lots of sex
I shared my story and my very recent the video player and stop the movie. I scenes inside. I was watching it alone at
struggle on sexual purity which was on was curious to see what would happen night when suddenly light went off. I was
till some few days ago. The battle was a next till I ended up watching the whole rest assured that it would soon return
really serious one for someone of my length of the movie and I watched it because I had observed that they usually
calibre that thought I was really again and again till the whole scene restored it almost immediately.
'standing'. I remembered this scripture could play in my mind and also I began Unfortunately, this day was different,
when writing this and can only shake my to imagine a whole lot of things - I the light was not restored quickly and
head: 1Corinthians 10:12 -Let him that couldn't get the images out of my mind. interestingly, I also slept off. It was my
thinketh he stands, Let him take heed, That marked the beginning of my battle Dad that woke me up saying that I slept
lest he fall'. with pornography. Since I had to return off when I was supposed to be reading.
It dawned on me to share my own recent the movie back to the neighbour to He then asked if I was watching a movie
struggles with sexual purity to avoid my parents from seeing it, the because he noticed that the video player
encourage the younger ones because lustful desires were so strong that I was on. I immediately feigned ignorance
everybody thinks I am standing 'strong' could trek a far distance to buy a and denied outrightly that I wasn't
and even I also thought so too till I fell pornographic magazine at a road watching any movie. My Dad then went
into the 'pit' once again. junction which most times was from the to the Video player and pressed the Play
money stolen from my Mum's purse. At button to the movie that was already
It all started all over again when I was times, with that stolen money, I would inside the player. I was already awaiting
given the Spectranet Modem loaded board a taxi to get the magazine and the worst—in terms of beatings, abara,
with much Data by my Boss, Pastor and after perusing the contents of the igbati, iforun, igbati oloyi and all. In all
Mentor- popularly called Pastor B' to aid magazines in my room, all alone, honesty and to be candid, to my utmost
in my job as the Administrator of the carefully looking at the nude images, I surprise, I can't tell what might have
Redeemed Christian Church of God would retain all the images on my mind happened because the movie refused to
play. I still can't fathom what happened administrative duties to watch porn and that I have abandoned ignoring the
that day till this very moment that I am I FELT VERY WEAK AND SORRY yet I porn sites. Another conscious thing I did
writing this. It was so surprising to me couldn't help myself- I was just feeling was that I did not put on the Internet
because I still watched some scenes drawn towards it. It drained me Modem unless I had something
from the movie some few minutes ago spiritually, I couldn't go for my early important to do online. God is powerful
so why didn't it play when daddy (a very morning prayers again. I was hooked and cannot be 'boxed', it took the lyrics
intelligent Engineer for that matter) and couldn't believe myself. I would of a simple but powerful song to cleanse
pressed 'play'. I got saved from the watch the porn very well, then later me in the strangest place- the
combined beatings of my dad and mum delete it or to be sure, clear all my bathroom, from someone's phone that
that day because they felt I wasn't browsing history from the cache. Yet I the individual might not even know that
watching it but something dawned on would still go back to it again. I told God used his phone to bring me healing.
me that- Really, it's as if, Jesus really some elderly friends in church to pray God has healed me and right now, I
loves me! for me because it seemed I have gone believe I am ONCE AGAIN SEXUALLY
Upon gaining admission to the back to my vomit, but it was as though PURE overcoming the LUSTFUL DESIRES
university, I tried to stop but it was still the prayer didn't work because after the OF THE FLESH. I am ﬂeeing all
creeping up occasionally till I came vigil we had, I still watched it the next appearances of evil as commanded by
across MINE Magazine and read La day.I was feeling very bad because I am the scriptures, my own appearance of
Conferencia by Timilehin Adigun. I the coordinator for my chapter and I evil is Pornography. Yours could be
changed completely and became believed that I had overcome this, only Clubbing, Partying, rocking a lady, Sex
fervent for God through my talking for it to resurface. And here I was,I was Chatting on Whatsapp or 2GO, sending
drum involvements as an preparing to take the MINE Friday your nude pictures to a friend and
instrumentalist/musician amongst meetings that we used to have. I was masturbating while the other person
other functionalities. (I just had to tell glad when on the Friday few minutes to sends theirs or it could even be a
you this brief history so you could our meeting, I was sent on an important bisexual/homosexual affair with that
understand where I was coming from). errand by my Pastor in preparation for relative of yours. You need to FLEE.
Lagos Shift Auditions. This enabled Don't negotiate or think that: 'I can
Now to the present, I am the delegating to one of my members to handle it'.
Coordinator of MINE Teenage Ministry take over- I was quite glad because I Now, I can boldly go for a secondary
in College of Medicine, Lagos University didn't want to pretend. I felt so happy school outreach without any feeling of
Teaching Hospital (CMUL/LUTH within me that I was 'unavoidably' guilt or immorality within me. Are you
Chapter) and we go for outreaches to excused. I had mentioned it to a few of in my shoes, fervent for God yet
secondary schools (both public and my members last week that I was struggling with some issues? If you are
private), teen churches, tutorial centres battling with pornography at the battling with pornography, it is the
a whole lot with myself spear-heading meeting but I never knew that it could devil that brings the doubt and the
the team, winning souls for Jesus Christ go on for another whole week. Thus for pain with those feelings of 'Chai, I have
and telling them also about Sexual 2 whole weeks I was crazily hooked and done this again, would God forgive
Purity. I knew I had a weakness but I it was hell- I couldn't achieve any other me?' Don't welcome those feelings,
thought I had overcome it because I thing needed for me to do. God has forgiven you, and you need to
stayed clear of movies (most of the one I really told GOD to help me, although I embrace this great gift of
these days that had numerous sex said it casually because I found it difﬁcult righteousness and of His forgiveness.
scenes and nude scenes). I would to pray on my own. I could only pray With my experience, I am able to share
scrutinize whatever it is that I watched. fervently when I was with a group of in the feelings of those that have had
But the DEVIL IS VERY SUBTLE AND HE IS people. Then something happened one sex and want to break free from these
VERY PATIENT. That's why, I would morning, I was in the bathroom in the addictions. Most of them really desire
implore us to always WATCH AND PRAY. students hostel when I heard a song to be free but it is not so easy, they
being played by another student in the just keep falling back. It can only be
Now back to my initial story, I was given bathroom too. The song was a simple God that can minister to them and use
a fully loaded internet modem for my song with a line - 'I am no longer a slave a word or a similar testimony to bring
work, which also implied that with this to sin; I am a child of God'. Immediately, I healing to their souls. Brethren, stop
amount of data, I could view videos on RECOGNIZED THAT 'YES, THIS IS FOR judging that fellow you are looking at
the internet at my leisure. It all started ME' and I consciously sang the song and with a bad eye, show them that love
with me viewing all these immoral claimed it to myself saying repeatedly and tell them that they can break free
dancing that is being shown on the that I am no longer a slave to sin but I am only with the help of Jesus Christ. God
internet of young teenage girls and guys a child of God. I prayed right there in the Bless You all.
rocking/grinding themselves, then to bathroom and suddenly I felt the peace
twerking videos of nude/semi-nude of God. On getting back to my room that Happy World Virginity Day 2017!!!
ladies and before I knew what was morning, I consciously stopped Sexual Purity Rocks!
happening- I was already watching porn watching and even with the internet Love over Lust!
videos. It was worrisome because I was modem still full of data, I concentrated
using the internet modem meant for my on other cogent and serious matters #nosum
Dear Girlfriend, that way, but many times I cannot help OLUWAFUNMITO ODEFEMI
I really love you from the depth of my it. Maybe it is my fault, maybe it is not, I ABUJA, NIGERIA
heart. Love in its truest form — not the really do not know.
selﬁsh lust for personal gratiﬁcation that The world around doesn't seem to help is the reason for this letter.
we have become so used to. You are either. Everywhere I turn to, your species I promise to continue to love you, to
beautiful, smart and funny. You give me is synonymous to nothing else but an cherish you, to care deeply and
that “butterﬂy in my stomach” feeling object of sexual gratiﬁcation. Billboards, genuinely and to treat you with all the
whenever I'm with you. adverts, music, even movies — all the purity that you deserve.
But today, my dear friend, I have time it stares me in the face and there If I tell you say I love you o, e no mean
something to tell you. I struggle a lot. I seems to be no way to escape. say your body be my own o.**
know you may have no idea, but some I must deﬁne my own truth. I must This post is dedicated to every girl. You
times, I think of you as being not more question all that I see and hear that deserve to be loved, not just for what
than an object of physical pleasure. belittles your dignity. I must ﬁlter out the you can give, but for who you are.
Something inside of me tells me you are noise. I must make my own decisions
more than that and I should not think from my inner convictions. That decision ** Nigerian pidgin meaning “If I tell
you I love you, it doesn't make your
body is mine”
OSAKWE GIFT, stay sexually pure until marriage... it's everyone, male and female alike are
LUTH, LAGOS, NIGERIA more than a purity pledge, it's more willing to keep. Why? Because
than staying out of temptations , it's fornication is a sin and also because
Virginity means different things more than a promise to your parents or you're the temple of the Lord. The Lord's
to everyone... for some it is the famous chastity ring. dwelling place should not be reduced to
something they have to keep till When someone bears the name "virgin" a place that satisﬁes ﬂeshy fantasies.
marriage , for others a pledge of purity there should be a personal conviction to I've not chosen to remain sexually pure
they have sworn to and for some others remain undeﬁled, unstained, pure, a joy because of my mother's counsel nor
it means not having sex. in your heart knowing you've preserved for fear of my father, neither have I
I grew up Christian, had all the doctrines yourself as a worthy sacriﬁce to the done so because I want to save myself
taught, went to church regularly every Father. The whole point of Virginity is for marriage.
Sunday, even swore off boys not just marriage or reducing the risk of My conviction stems from the fact that
throughout high school. teenage pregnancy and sexually this is my heavenly Father's will for us
To some mothers I'm probably the transmitted diseases. as Christians and for this reason I have
perfect Christian child , the one they Virginity should be something chosen this NOSUM patht.
pray for but that doesn't make me
Virginity goes beyond just choosing to
I became a member of MINE entered into relationships with the was putting myself at a risk and
Teenage Ministry in 2015 after my wrong guy and for the wrong exposing myself to guys or men that
graduation from secondary school. I reasons. For one of the would want to take advantage of
attended the B.A.L.L (Bible And relationships, it was as though we me. It got really tough that I was
Leadership League) camp and had it set from the beginning that denied so many things like money,
sexual purity was a hit talk during we were going to do the wrong stuff freedom, missed a whole lot of
the camp. Then and there I realized but thank God, I came back to my purposeful events especially the
that I being sexually pure is a big senses early enough and I quit the BALL 2016. Finally, after some
deal for myself, my body and for relationship. For the other Daddy-daughter sessions, he saw
God. I made a decision to stay sexual relationship, getting intimate was my view and decided to support me
pure till marriage NO SUM. Ever not part of the plan at all but there in the race. I love you, dad.
since then, I have been trying my was a night that the guards were
best. taken off and though we did not go One way of overcoming sexual
too far, I felt so ashamed of myself purity for me is by having a daily
When I got into the University, and depressed. But thank God, I confession not just Purity
staying sexual pure became more regained my conﬁdence when I confessions but confessions
tasking majorly because there are so turned to God. directed at the renewing of the
many distracting things, events and mind. God's grace is very important
people. I have enjoyed the help of I know there is also a challenge with to staying sexually pure. Reading of
sexually pure friends, the constant openly declaring your stand for the Bible, listening to inspirational
reminders in church and the purity or your being virgin. My Dad, and motivational messages by
foundational home training, these whom I love so much, challenged people who have gone ahead and
have helped me to stay strong. me some days to World Virginity proven that sexual purity is still
Staying sexually pure is a decision. Day 2016. He wondered why I would possible help a great deal too!
want to advocate sexual purity
For me, my struggles came when I especially because he feared that I
SOWUNMI OREOLUWA, UKRAINE
I, Oreoluwa vow today to respect my sexuality as a precious gift from God to be used for my happiness
according to the plan of God. I vow today that I will not have sexual intercourse with any person except
the one whom I've committed myself in marriage. I will learn to act responsibly and reasonably, to be
aware of the probable and possible consequences of my actions and to make my decisions accordingly. I
will not put myself in any situation-time, place, activities and my companions in which I will be tempted to
go beyond my personal sexual limits and those of my intended. So help me God! #nosum
CHERYL BELL, USA
Twelve years is a long time to it's great! I loved it and would still these concerns, my biggest fear had
go without something I was have my share of it had the Lord not yet to be realized. I grew up Christian
once used to getting on the shown me what He desires and so, I am sure you assumed that I was
regular. Sex is natural and expects of me. What's so special afraid of God Himself, right? Nope!
something no one feels they should about losing your virginity? You My mom put all fear and trembling
go without, so, they don't. They think it's fun and games. I know in me and as far as I was concerned,
don't think about the consequences when I lost mine, I'd felt I'd done this her knowledge of my deed far
and repercussions of their decisions. big accomplished thing. However, outweighed that of the All Knowing
They only concern themselves with that feeling was short lived. I was God. In my assumptions of her
that “loving feeling” in the moment. terriﬁed as all of my worst fears were knowing, I started self diagnosing
That moment, that people are so coming true. I assumed I was going pre-pregnancy. I smelled foods to
fond of and feel they need nor can to be pregnant because the see if I would get sick. Being a young
live without, will be long gone...like protection wasn't really used overweight teen, I consistently ate
every other moment. Your state of properly. He told me that he'd be wrong but didn't think I'd be
virginity- GONE! Your peace of careful with me and he'd be there. capable of identifying symptoms, so
mind- GONE! Your self respect and He acted like he didn't know me the I tried to search for more than
worth- GONE! It's all gone in very next day. The news getting out unusual cravings as far as foods
seconds but you will have the rest of that I was a whore was constantly on were concerned. I also thought I'd
your life to wonder what would have my mind as I tried to pinpoint what have kicking in my belly. Aww snap!
happened had you not gone to the people were thinking when they Yup, I knew I was pregnant. No. I was
next level. looked at me. I feared that I would a hypochondriac! To ﬁx it, I'd used a
not be able to combat the rumors as broken dresser drawer board to hit
What's so special about sex? worry tormented me. With all of myself in the stomach multiple times
Well, with someone you like or love,
per day to get rid of whatever was beautiful part of myself being overly mind to go in a positive direction,
there. The ﬂuttering didn't stop. consumed mentally. It wasn't worth the negatives will come looking for
Finally, I couldn't take the stress of it, it. you. If you have a goal you need to
so I told my mom I was raped. She reach and you're serious about it,
became quiet. Instead of the beat So, I ask you again: what's so people who feel they can't reach
down I expected from her silence, special about losing your virginity to their own goals, will persuade you
she made an appointment to get me randoms or your signiﬁcant other? that you can't either. You'll lose too
checked out. If it came up that I was My boyfriends were great but am I if you let that foolishness creep in.
pregnant, the next stop was going to with any of them? No. The randoms Don't gravitate to people, places, or
be at the abortion clinic. Now, I'd had their pros and cons but the cons things you know mean you no good.
heard my mom make several far surpassed the pros being I was a Lose the inkling that you even need
negative statements about people play thing to them; they then any of them as much as it is within
who have abortions, but she was became a play thing for me, worthy your power to do so. What you need
willing to take me to get one. I to be hurt, as I was a siren that lured is time to get to yourself, sit down,
couldn't comprehend it all. What I men in to my every beck and call. My and think. If and when it's time for
did ﬁnally understand was that I ﬁrst time was crazy and my you to let go of what and whom you
unnecessarily caused myself stress personality and activities changed assume you need, you will do so. It
and I wasn't even pregnant. I didn't due to it. I lost from each event at gets easier with time to let go of
know what to do with myself. Help different points in their duration. whom and what should not be a
for me would never come because I What have you lost? Some sleep? A factor in our lives. The fact is that
was beyond help, dealing with the piece of mind or pride? Some self somebody needs you to survive and
respect, power, or support? Your
esteem issues that I already faced. signiﬁcant others or partners? I lost to tell your story so that the next
Adding sex to my repertoire was not all of these and you may have lost person can get free of what is eating
an intention. I really wished I'd some, too and you know what? It them up inside. What? You thought
waited and let my ﬁrst time be with hurts...a lot. I know you may not you were living life for yourself?
my husband but I'd never know that think so, but it's O.K. Like all the Nothing could be further from the
feeling. Instead I wished that other moments I named, these will truth. The whole world is watching
feelings of fear, anger, torment, also pass and the thoughts will be a you so live to the best of your ability.
guilt, and shame that came with my thing of the past. If you can get to a The stakes on the table are high and
having sex would disappear. I point where you can accept this, it's your life that you are gambling
remembered feeling like this was you're well on your way. If you think with. God will step in if you allow
one of the worst things I'd ever done about it, you'll realize you aren't Him. He will keep you if you want to
at the time. Feeling dead inside, I missing or losing out on anything. be kept.
was a lost cause. My mood was way
off and I didn't talk much after. I was Here's a funny thought: Please wait!
scared to death. Scared of my mom decide to lose! Lose the negative
and what she would have thought thoughts that try to control you. #nosum
and scared of the rest of the world Lose the men or women who come
who may or may not accept me for into your life claiming love when it's
doing what everybody was doing. all lust. Lose everything and
Who's going to want me now? everyone that's brought you down.
Nobody because I destroyed a Believe me, when you make up your
#NOSUMCHALLENGE08 Sexual Purity entails your Values which guide your
Attitudes, your attitudes determine your Choices,
LILIAN your choices dictate your Behaviour, which in turn
IDO EKITI, NIGERIA becomes your reality and ﬁnally leads you to your
*OH ! SEXUAL PURITY*
ALL I think of when I look at my generation...
I wonder what it is all about and how important it is...
Hmmm, let's check out the word *Virginity*
It is just like a trophy
It is a treasure hidden in the vault of your life,
protected by the helmet of your virtues, values and
I tell you It's not old school but
it's the new cool
Do you know God supports it and encourages it?
You are in charge of you .
You are responsible for you!
It's better to stand alone because it pays
Keep it then, You will be celebrated for this.
You are not in this alone
I stand for “SEXUAL PURITY”
EBHOTE JOY OSEDEBAMEN
Sad as it may sound, most teenagers LUTH, LAGOS and serve as accountability partners.
both males and females ﬁnd it really Songs of Solomon 2:7 says, “I charge you,
tasking to decide whether to stand sex-related activities. Another major O daughters of Jerusalem, by the gazelle
with sexual purity or stand with the world. oversight is the use of words that are in or by the hinds of the ﬁeld that you try not
One thing is certain, the decision that is relation to sex which the society seem to to stir up my love until it pleases.” Stirring
made at this point determines the steps have accepted, e.g f***k, a**h**le, these up love involves romance, kisses or other
taken by the same teen before adulthood. terminologies may have been tagged actions which teenagers call ﬁrst base.
Morals, upbringing and society tend to 'curse words' but as Christians we are not These actions would deﬁnitely cause the
affect our choices as teens but it is only permitted to use curse words. tap of emotions in us to be open and we
logical, right and God-obeying that we still don't want to have sex. Think about
stand with sexual purity. Ecclesiastes 3:1 It is understandable that peers this, Why allow something you don't want
says “for everything, there is a season…….” may mock us, make us feel we are missing to taste of entice and pass through your
No matter the 'right' reasons that society out of the show, but believe me, you aren't nostrils?” Well in my opinion giving a
and our peers have laid down, it is never missing one bit of a show you aren't chance to be enticed by what we don't
the right season to have sex in a supposed to be watching. One thing we want to eat just means it's a matter of time
relationship that is not marriage. Simple should understand is that even our Lord before we begin to compromise eating.
fact, no additions, no subtractions. Jesus Christ whose major ministry wasn't
sexual purity was mocked and cruciﬁed, so Sexual purity isn't just virginity, sexual
Being sexually pure doesn't just we should expect more as teenagers that purity is cleanliness, sexual purity is staying
entail not having sex, it contains a whole have been born to meet what the world uncool when the world's deﬁnition of cool
lot more. It includes avoiding immoral has tagged as norm. Sexual purity is an is sex outside marriage. I choose to stand
thoughts, watching pornography or other internal battle and a decision. It is a for and with sexual purity, you can do the
decision fueled by God's help, a mentor same.
#nosum and an association with people of like
minds who can help to nurture our choices
NDIOK, NDUONYI EMMANUEL
After service one beautiful Sunday morning, I did not My partner keeps disturbing me
feel like going home, the weather was perfect for a "Don't give in, JUST WAIT"
nice walk and the next day was a holiday, so I decided
to treat myself with a walk to the park with a friend. I feel like my hormones are ready
And to get to the park, you will have to cross to the "You won't die, JUST WAIT"
other side of the road, and the only way of crossing
was to wait for the trafﬁc light to turn green for I want to taste it before going into it
pedestrians to cross. So apparently, I had waited for "Just because poison looks appetizing does not mean
over 5 minutes and I felt the trafﬁc light was not it won't kill you, JUST WAIT"
understanding I have to cross ASAP (I have no idea
why I was rushing) and I decided to do myself the What if he wants to touch me very small(*smiles*)
honor to cross while the light was still red, and that's The only touch you need right now is mine, JUST
how one car, from God knows where, came with a WAIT darling"
very high speed, and thank God for legs, I ran for my
life, and when I turned, GUESS WHAT? The light Everybody's looking down on me because I don't
turned green, like I almost got myself killed because I want to do it
just could not WAIT!!! "They will look up to you tomorrow, JUST WAIT"
Let's assume that trafﬁc light is the Holy Spirit giving I did it yesterday and I feel like rubbish
us an indication when to STOP and when to MOVE, "Some rubbish become reﬁned into beautiful
and just because we FEEL we need to move does not products, that's who you are a beautiful product,
mean we are READY to move, because that feeling STILL WAIT"
will ALWAYS come, but still does not mean we are
ready. He's reﬁning you, He's not done moulding you, He's
And just like the trafﬁc light telling you to wait until it's preparing you to be a better person. The hammer
green, this is what the Holy Spirit is telling us; strikes may cause pain, the ﬁre may hurt, the boat may
be shaking, and the trafﬁc light may still be red, just
The waiting may be tiring know that's the process, because when that light
"JUST WAIT" turns GREEN, all you will have to do is walk
majestically, without a problem, into your future
My friends have experienced it knowing well you are fully prepared.
"JUST WAIT" So instead of rushing and being crushed,
JUST WAIT and be fulﬁlled.
WORDEN ENYA She'd played her cards well, stayed put,
Said the words rightly, Their thoughts wondered where
She'd shown her parts well, conscience strayed to,
A diagram drawn brightly, The ﬁrst was a mistake but the
She made HD of her HB, second, the third, the rest were
posterior and anterior, deliberate looks...
Take her BLACK dress LIGHTLY... Not Some people kept on going,
her DARK motives that's ulterior... passion leapt unknowing
She's a queen with a black heart She would accept on going...
Her schemes stay green like the icon Right now, pants down
of Whatsapp... like the caskets off going...
More rounds didn't change the
Attracting sheep to skin that strays shape of that chest,
with sins (scenes) without a six feet deep...
flashback..., His wish would switch, now
On her bed of pleasure and death, His wish would be,
She feeds on bread, Luring them not for the witch he wished...For but
inwith her words, to ask for a king and not a joker,
Turning her doors into walls, would save you the last laugh,
Another checkmate of whots as they He should have thought twice before
bleed unheard... he hooked her,
They had more chances than Yakubu, Now he's passed the last lap,
yet they couldn't ﬂee even for their A ﬁsh on her thigh... But
own good, If Christ is your last TAP then
She claimed she had secrets, and It's a win not a TIE...
was willing to share,
She turned around, giving them a
rear view of herself,
Their hearts raced but their feet
GODWIN BEEGA AHOAME
In every man and woman there exists sex instincts and wants. These instincts may not be of the same strength in all, but they do
constitute a powerful force in all human beings for at least thirty years after adolescence. Like dynamite, sex can be used for
good and for evil -for the glory of God or for the service of the devil. There is nothing inherently sinful in dynamite, it all
depends on how and for what purpose it is used, so it is with sex. Sexual urge becomes stronger and more aggressive as we grow
but God expects us to keep pure from every form of sexual impurity and activity that will stir up sexual urge in us. Instead we
should be ﬁlled with the Holy Spirit and we should serve God in the days of our youth. Youthful lusts and sexual urges are
experienced by everyone; being a Christian doesn't stop you from being tempted so God expects us to keep relying on Him for
help to overcome. By God's grace, I am a living testimony of a youth who has remained sexually pure till date and I will love to
share with you how God has helped me overcome sexually, as a youth who is yet to be married:
1. Discipline and Sobriety - sexual urges are constantly experienced by the male folks so discipline is so indispensable. Don't
depend on your strength rather avoid compromising situations.
2. Avoid bad company- keep your distance from bad friends because bad company corrupts good manners. Staying around
friends who are sexually active only stirs you up sexually and in no time you will ﬁnd yourself doing the same thing as them.
3. Avoid playing too much with the opposite sex - for those of us who are very jovial with opposite sex, it is advisable to limit or
totally avoid physical contact with the opposite sex. Courtesy demands that you respect personal spaces and boundaries. Know
your triggers and avoid them. You are better safe than sorry.
4. Be media-selective - the media is littered with different shades of pornographic videos and images but your will to choose
whether or not you want to view them is still intact. So decide way before you are faced with the temptation that you will fear God
and do what is right not because it is the easy thing to do. Ecclesiastes 12:13 tells us to fear God and keep his command. God's fear
in us will hinder us from doing a lot of sinful things.
I grew up in a humble background with ignorant then but as I grew up I got to became extra careful around guys though
no parental care and attention, which understand the act with my neighbour's I still indulged in the bad habits. I lived in
affected my mental reasoning and child was called Lesbianism. In my so much guilt and many times, wondered
relationship with people. I was brought up neighbourhood then, we had boys that if God could forgive me, I was ignorant of
in a Christian family of eight and I am the indulged in same sexual acts so we often God's love and grace.
last child. My parents are traders that are paired ourselves, male and female to have I got a copy of MINE Magazine in 2011,
more concerned about their businesses, sex. We kept growing this way and we then I read the novella titled 'Personal
they didn't give enough attention to us were enjoying it, doing it when no one Demons' written by Temitola Ojo and
and likewise my elders ones were not was around, mostly Saturdays. There was then I stopped masturbating. Also in
around to cub or advise me. The guiding no one then to correct or enlighten us on 2013, I read the Club Five Edition which
rule in our home is that you can do things Sex . really enhanced my healing process. I
the way you want to but you must be of We left the neighbourhood to our own then started to read Christian Novels and
good character and be religious. apartment few years later (I was 10years), articles. I learnt not to be alone and to see
I was exposed to sex, porn and erotic but what I had learnt and tasted remained the positive side of Life. I read the
feelings when I was 7years old. Due to the with me. At my leisure time, almost always Scriptures at my leisure time to avoid any
ﬁnancial constraints at the time, my home alone, I would ﬁnd myself form of erotic feelings but the day I saw
parents could not afford to buy TV set. I masturbating. I was so addicted to the 2Corinthians 5:17 and Philippians 3:13, I
went to our neighbour's place to see extent any time no one was home, I would was totally delivered from guilt. I was able
movies. Things I watched those times masturbate or read romantic novels. I had to share my experience freely last year
inﬂuenced me and got me exposed to sex a neighbour and a friend then that both with my mentor, Afolabi Abiola, without
at an early age. My neighbour's child that took advantage of me by touching me in any form of guilty feelings. I have learnt to
was then 6years old knew more than I did. sensitive areas when I was alone with leave the past behind and focus on the
She would come any time no one is at them. My parents travelled a lot. I glorious destiny that lies ahead of me.
home to play with me and explain the acts remember a day that my friend came to
she had seen her parents do and the ones my place and almost raped me, all I could
we watched and we usually end up doing do was to scream then he ran away. Ever
the same things. Though we were since my experience with that guy, I
Please Detach (Front)
that I would DAILY, by the help of the Holy Spirit, present my body to
God, a living sacriﬁce. I will keep my mind and body pure to honour
God. I will stay sexually pure; keeping sex until marriage and staying
faithful to my spouse afterwards. I receive grace so to do in Jesus
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#nosum #lol17 #minetm
Beauty for me is not just facial, it is not patiently till you are ready? Will he just sensitive parts of your body are called
based on the physical appearance or engage you in a backyard relationship private which means that they are only
character only but on our sexual purity or would he conﬁdently make his meant for two people you and your
status. As long as you are a virgin, you intention known? Hmmm how I wish to husband. If you let every guy that
are beautiful. drop my pen here but I just cannot. comes your way to touch you, your
Sexual purity can not only be deﬁned as One funny truth about this century, is body literally becomes a public tool.
abstinence from sexual activities, but a that guys no longer see ladies as human Guess what, anything that is being used
state which your heart and thoughts are beings to be loved and cherished rather by the public loses value e.g public
sexually pure. they see them as sex tools only ﬁt for toilet. God never made your body to be
Virginity is a state or condition of never animalistic behavior and majority of like that of the public toilet no no no He
having sexual or sex experiences ladies don't know this truth. So dear made you so unique, and that's why He
.Virginity is the pride of every young ladies, we should not allow ourselves be said your body is His temple. He said
star whether bae or boo. Virginity is the deceived. It pains me a lot that ladies you are the apple of His eyes and you
pride, crown, glory and beauty of every these days follow the deceptive words have been bought with a price (the
female child (teenager and youth). It is a from guys. While all guys are not the blood of Jesus, what a high price?).
treasure, a most priced possession that same, the truth is no good guy will want
is to be treasured because it brings out to have sex with you or harass you or
the worth of the girl child. If a guy tells a want to touch all your sensitive parts
lady that he loves her, would he wait whenever you are with him. Ladies, the
Please Detach (Back)
IKHILE IFUNAYA Humility by God's standards is But sooner or later the man who
UNITED KINGDOM calling yourself who God has called wins
[email protected] you, nothing more or less than that. Is the one who thinks he can!
When you study the word of God, You must have a “can do” spirit
you discover who you really are. The because that is what the word of
scriptures liken the word of God to a God teaches. The bible says that you
mirror. But this mirror shows you can do all things (without exception)
what you look like in God's eyes not through Christ who gives you the
yours. When you continually study mighty inner enablement.
the word, you get a clearer picture of You may say, but in reality I am not
yourself and you are empowered to rich, I am not smart, I am not bold,
become your true self: who God says why do I have to deceive myself and
you are. others by saying otherwise. Dear
Culture may teach us to think of friends, the moment you decide to
ourselves in a self-depreciating become a part of God's family by
manner, but that is not what the accepting Jesus into your life, your
word of God teaches. Remember, as reality changes….
a man thinketh in his heart, so is he! The word of God is your new reality,
If you think you are poor, you are embrace it! Let God be true and
If you think you are rich, you are every man a liar. What the word of
If you think you are beautiful, you God says about you is the truth. It
are must be your reality.
If you think you are ugly, you are You are the just, and you live by
faith. Faith is not an option for the
This reminds me of a poem I read believer, even the name we are
many years ago called Thinking or called “believer” speaks for itself.
The Man who thinks he can by Faith is compulsory, you must live by
Walter D Wintle. Little is known of faith. The bible says that anything
the author but the poem had a that is not of faith is sin. So contrary
profound effect on my thinking. It to your thoughts that you are being
goes: humble when you self-depreciate,
If you think you are beaten, you are; you are committing sin because you
If you think you dare not, you don't. are not acting in faith. Faith is calling
If you'd like to win, but you think you those things that be not as though
can't, they were.
It is almost certain - you won't. Remember you are who God says
If you think you'll lose, you're lost; you are, so the next time you read
For out in this world we ﬁnd the bible and see what God calls you
Success begins with a fellow's will in its pages, humility is saying Yes
It's all in the state of mind. Lord, I am what you say I am!
If you think you're outclassed, you
You've got to think high to rise.
You've got to be sure of yourself
before You can ever win the prize.
Life's battles don't always go
17To the stronger or faster man;
You are a girl approaching the adolescent age, do not allow any boy to touch you in private places. You should always cover
yourself up and never let one take advantage of you'.
These were my mother's words to me as a young girl and I took them with me everywhere but at a point, curiosity got a better part
of me. Is it just guys I'm not supposed to allow to touch me? What if I do all of what mum warns me against with myself? That way, I
won't get pregnant and there won't be fear of sexually transmitted infections.
That was the beginning of pornography and masturbation for me. I did as much sexual things as I could with myself. By the time I
gave my life to Christ, I knew I had to drop all those things but I was already neck deep in them. I had to make a choice between
drowning in my weaknesses in silence or cry out and get help. I got to that point where I was really tired of myself and I wanted to
get out of the mess I was already in. I had to cry to God to save me from myself. I was uncomfortable with everything I was doing
because they made me feel really dirty. I made up my mind to stay pure with everything I watched , read and listened to. I stayed
away from anything that had lewd content in it as most of my escapades started with them. I replaced every sexually arousing
novel with Christian ones and consciously tore my gaze and stare off pornographic pictures any time I came across them. It was
really difﬁcult to keep up with the switch of books, magazines and music as I started seeing pornographic pictures I had stored up
in my head in the good stuffs I now watched and read. At that point I took a break from media completely. I stopped watching T.V,
I stopped reading magazines and novels, I stayed away from movies. I got myself soaked in the word and surrounded myself with
people whose words and lifestyle helped me and challenged me to get better. I meditated on the word of God and confessed to
myself always. I bought books about emotional stability and mind renewal. I deleted a lot of pictures from my head and replaced
them with pictures of who I am (a new creature) and things I should do as a new creature. Was that the end of the battle? No! It was
more like the beginning of struggle for me.
There were times I went back to my vomit, there were times it seemed impossible to go on with my resolution. I just wanted to
feed my desire. There were times I went to corners to satisfy my ﬂesh. Those times, I ran back to God, I told myself 'I am the
righteousness of God in Christ', I cried to God for help and strength not to give up. I got to a point where I trusted God with my all,
including my weaknesses.
There were also times I wanted to throw in the towel and quit. Pornographic pictures were ﬂying around, I didn't have to look hard
to ﬁnd them, it was like they came looking for me and my resolution was getting weaker with each passing day and the drive to
ﬁght for it was just not there. But the reminder that I was not going through the process alone, God was with me every step of the
way and He was proud of my progress, fuelled my strength to keep at it. For sure, I was going to come out victoriously.
With God's help and strength, coupled with the loud voice of sexual purity in MINE Teenage Ministry, I've been able to take a
stand and maintain it. Today, I'm a proud advocate of sexual purity, I believe a sexually pure generation is possible - I can see it
emerging already and I so believe a sexually pure you is possible.
#NOSUM So, I just met this guy and mehn, he's perfect. Yea, he's perfect. Perfect set of teeth...and
he's got the perfect lips too....I mean pink lips looking perfectly kissable. And to top it all,
CHALLENGE17 he's TDH...tall, dark, handsome and then the big letter R, he's rich...stinkingly rich. Hey,
lemme stop there and introduce myself. I'm Olusola Peace Taiwo and I'm a crushaholic.
TAIWO OLUSOLA That means I'm addicted to crushing on people. I like ﬁne boys. OK, back to my
IDO EKITI introduction, I'm eighteen years old and I'm a Christian. I know the order isn't right but
LAGOS, NIGERIA don't blame me, I'm just a church goer.
That was me six months ago. What changed me was a conversation I had with my
pastor's daughter. She was going through my phone and she saw numerous pictures of
guys. When she got to know most of them are past 'crushes', she commented they were
good looking and I was shocked. I never expected her to say such. We were classmates in
secondary school and she never had a boyfriend throughout and I'm sure she did not
crush on anyone either. She was surprised when I told her what I was thinking. She smiled
and told me she actually had feelings too and surprisingly she had a crush too.
Then she told me about Philippians 4:8(MSG) -"Summing it all up, friends, I'd say you'll
do best by ﬁlling your minds and meditating on things true, noble, reputable, authentic,
compelling, gracious—the best, not the worst; the beautiful, not the ugly; things to
praise, not things to curse." She said it all starts in the mind. Infatuation, crush, love and
all that. She had simply chosen to renew her mind. She said whenever she starts
developing feelings for a guy, she recalls that verse and then she starts measuring her
feelings and emotions. She believed that once she can't open her mouth and talk to her
mum about those feelings, then she's knows it's not reputable (the KJV puts it as being
'not of good report'). As she had to run an errand for her dad, she summed it up and said
"it's only natural to have feelings because we have hormones but then we can choose to
control it and love that other person the way Christ does”
I rep sexual purity
I rep love over lust
I choose to stand out
As I sit pondering But No!
All at once, They move further and further into sin
I'm thinking Having sex with animals
From creation, God never created Stooping so low and violating the same
Adam body He calls His temple
and Steve but Adam and Eve.. Giving themselves up to uncleanliness
But what do we see? through the lust of their own hearts
Homosexuality everywhere To dishonor their Bodies.
Men leaving the natural use of women
Burning in their lust, one to another But even in this mess
All over the world.. He still loves us
Even most Pastors see no wrong in it For one man's disobedience
Carnality dwelling in the Church. many were made sinners,
So by the obedience of One,
The Creator is beckoning many shall be made righteous.
Asking for purity Jesus came and died
And then He searches for His children Nailed every sin and guilt on the Cross
ENYEREIBE TREASURE, He ﬁnds them amongst the wicked And ﬁnished it on our behalf
NIGERIA Violating themselves and committing That we may present our bodies as
All living sacriﬁces
forms of atrocities Come and let Jesus save you!
And still covering up with so-called
Christianity.. Stand For Sexual Purity Today!!!
He's still yearning for purity
Still speaking to His own image
To come back to His unending love #nosum
CHALLENGE19 OMOLADE OLALEMI
During a family crisis, I because of the promise I had made stop the act if it was leading
promised God that I was to Him earlier on. God had fulﬁlled somewhere else. This, I thought,
going to stay a virgin till his part of the deal, and I had to fulﬁl would ensure a fulﬁlment of the
marriage if He brought my family mine as well. promise I made to God later on, and
and I through that difﬁcult phase. A would prove my love to my then
day after, the issue was miraculously This relationship was a lit one, and I boo. Equation balanced.
resolved. Boy, was I glad!!! In my enjoyed every bit of the time I spent
heart, I thought God had answered with ex-boo. Well, except for the So with a smile on my face,
my prayer because of the condition I time where he was all mushy mushy. whenever boo needed some love, I
gave to Him. That was so wrong of I felt real bad about the fact that I helped him to it. After all, it was not
me, as I came to discover later that couldn't show ex-boo some love in the main act and I could always stop
God helps us no matter what we give return, especially when I had the us if I felt we were going too far.
to Him as a condition. I digressed. means to. What was the use of being However, the smile evaporated one
in a relationship if one party beneﬁts day when I almost succumbed to the
Some years later, I entered into a therefrom and the other doesn't? pleasure - I was that close to giving it
romantic relationship. In that This was one question on my mind. away. All of a sudden I felt really bad.
relationship, my cunning ex was all So one night I thought about the What would have happened if I did
about smooching and the resultant promise I made to God, and the so not stop at that point? Pain and guilt
effect of sex. Funny part was I called love my ex had for me. I enveloped me as I walked soberly to
thought I loved him for it. Not that I decided to compromise. I reassured the church later that evening.
really did, but my misdirected love myself that I was not going to give Rehearsals passed by in a rush and I
for the guy was such that I did so away the cookie, but that I would went home with an heavy heart.
notwithstanding his glaring ﬂaws. I readily give myself to the prelude - How could I have been so silly to
tried to circumvent doing mushy foreplay, if the situation warranted think that I could stop myself if I felt
stuff with him, not because I really it. I resolved also to do all I could to like I was overstepping my
had love for God that would make boundaries? What if I had given it
me not want to hurt Him, but 20mineMAG away? What if he took it by force if I
hadn't stopped him at the last minute?
I resolved to distance myself from boo that day. It wasn't easy because, funny enough, I sometimes felt like doing it
again. Whenever boo called me trying to ﬁnd out why I was distant, I felt like telling him to arrange a place where we
could meet but I didn't. Till now I wonder where the strength came from, as I wasn't so much of a Christian.
During the space, my mentor whom I had refused to have anything to do with for a while, came around and told me
that he was aware of the fact that I had almost made a mistake. He practically said all that I did during my last session
with my ex. I was stunned and ashamed at the same time. He then told me a lot of things. I couldn't ﬁnd the tears but I
knew that tears were falling somewhere else. My mentor didn't condemn me. He told me everything, even the fact
that I had deliberately stayed away from him because of the ﬁre I "desperately" wanted to play with. Even with that,
his tone was soothing and calming. He advised me to opt out of the relationship while I still had the time. I didn't do
this immediately but I eventually did. The Word of God became my constant companion, and I began to heal. The
urges were still there (whether a repeat performance or a completion of what I started, I do not know) but when
confronted with the word of God, they ﬂed. I also ensured that I didn't see boo in a private and enclosed place till I
ofﬁcially broke the relationship up.
All I can say is that the moment I understood the gravity of what I did, mind you not the promise I broke, my mindset
concerning sex changed. Sex is actually a good thing, but it is a good thing to be enjoyed at the right time.
Ecclesiastes 3 says that there is a time for everything. The time for sex is the time during which a marriage in the sight
of God and men has been entered into. Anything done outside this sacred contract will lead to heartaches, anxieties,
guilt and pain.
I'm reminded of the time I was distant from my ex. A funny thing happened- I actually thought I'd get pregnant from
smooching. I was crushed and forlorn. I realised my folly later on when I had my visitor the next month. This is one of
the things premarital sex and foreplay does when it's not done at the right time and via the right manner. You begin
to feel anxious and worried about things like diseases and phantom pregnancies. Truth is, from experience,
abstaining from sex and its companion foreplay gives you a lot of peace that can't be traded for anything in the whole
One also gets to fulﬁl purpose easily. Time spent "doing it" and worrying about consequences therefrom can be
spent doing things for the Lord without guilt or fear. One develops an intimacy with the Lord Jesus and out of this
intimacy stems an ability to do good works (purpose) in the world we live in (see Ephesians 2:10).
Ever wondered why you ﬁnd it hard to spend time with God when you feel you've done something bad? Having
premarital sex and its other unholy forms causes one to feel this way, too. I remember not giving my self to the things
of God while neck deep in premarital sins. I found it hard, actually. I must also note that it was not easy to break free
but thanks be to God who gives me the victory. He sent help when I least expected it, through who I least expected it,
and rescued me even when I ﬂopped. I made the promise on my own accord, broke it on my own accord (Breaking a
part of a promise is tantamount to breaking it all) but He helped me on His own accord. The word of God given to us
by God can never be underestimated, His grace too. By this same grace, I came to understand who I am in Christ, and I
know where to turn to when I feel bereft and discontent.
This loving God is ever ready to help you too. In all your addictions, your compromises, your craziness….you name it.
You just give it all to Him. He's there to help you through it all.(Hebrews 13:5b)
Thanks for reading.
BARRISTER MORENIKE AJAYI
I believe most people are quite familiar with these terms but for the beneﬁt of those who are
not, in simple terms, a crush is a temporary love of an adolescent, a burning desire to be with
someone who you ﬁnd very attractive and extremely special, crushes is the plural form of
crush while crushing is the act itself.
As a teenager, I could refer to myself as the “Queen of Crushes” simply because I have been in
the act even before I was six (6) years old. Strange init? ...lol. Well, I'm sure I wasn't the only one in
this category, so many of us have been there too and have stories to tell as well. I remember my
very ﬁrst crush, he was one of the page boys while I was one of the ﬂower girls at my uncle's
wedding. I was seeing him for the ﬁrst time and I just fell for him on the spot. It was so bad that I
could not walk past where he was seated even when I was pressed and had to use the rest
As I grew older, I learnt a lot on how to handle crushes and with time, I got to understand in most
cases, it's a mere infatuation and really does not last forever. Especially when you get to see the
person in the light of who they really are and not in the fantasy world that you have built around
them where you think they only exist.
Having a crush on someone can actually make you do and think crazy things. I remember one of
my crushes as a teenager. He and his family were new in the church and he was a really cool guy.
I made all efforts to be his friend but none worked. I even went to the extent of being friends
with all his siblings just so that I could get the chance to talk to him someday. One day, I had a
dream and in that dream I was sitting right beside him in church. I felt so lucky to be there and
just then one of my girlfriends came in and chose to sit between us. At that point, the Pastor
announced that we should hold hands with our neighbour and pray, I saw this as a good
opportunity but unfortunately my friend was already sitting between us and he ended up
holding her hands and not mine. I was so angry with my friend in that dream that I woke up still
angry. The funny part of it was that when I got to church and saw my friend, I didn't talk to her
just because of what happened in the dream…lol.
Considering the fact that in most cases this feeling does not last, we need to be careful of our
actions in times like this. So many lives of teenagers have been marred just because of their
vulnerability at this point. As a teenager, the hormonal rush is always on the high side especially
for guys and they are always willing to experiment. A constant renewal of the mind with the
Word of God is the best tool to deal with such situations. Although as a teenager I was not
totally sold out to God, but I had so much reverence for God and this kept me from plenty
I tried so many tactics in order to deal with crushes because I got to realize that at such times,
I'm always vulnerable and can get things twisted. However, the best tactic that has proven to be
true in handling crushes is by living according to the Word of God. This is best summed up in
Psalm 119v 9. In order to live according to the Word of God, you need to know what the Word of
God is and what it says. So the question here is….. How much of God's word do you know?
You've probably looked at me over and over and thought that I have it all together with respect to my sexual urges and how I
'manage' them. Because I boldly slam #NoSUM in your face on my social media pages and slay in my #NoSUM shirt, you
might have concluded that I have it all ﬁgured out in that area. To you, I am like one without blemish.
I'm sorry, but I'll have to burst your bubble. While you will not see many people openly admitting this, I think it's high time your
eyes were opened to see things as they really are. I am an advocate of sexual purity, and I openly declare that fornication, both
in the mind and in the body, is a sin, yet the most prominent of all my struggles as a Christian is the struggle to stay sexually
Don't be deceived. I was once like you, and the fact that I am a Christian and an Advocate of Sexual Purity (ASP), does not mean
that my blood has been replaced with some supernatural form that eliminates temptation to do the very things that I know my
Saviour does not like. In fact, now more than ever, the temptation to give in has become stronger because I am aware of how
wrong it is.
I was addicted to sex, masturbation and pornography before I got born again. Yet, even now, as I know that I am saved and
Jesus has broken the chains of sin and given me permanent victory over it, I still struggle with them. Bitter pill, right? Sorry, it's
the truth. Denying it would merely be deceit both to me and to you who sees me as ﬂawless, but God is not mocked. He sees it
So why am I coming to you looking like a saint? Well, because I am. I am not a saint because I do or don't do certain things; I am
a saint because I have believed in The Righteous One, Jesus Christ, who now declares me righteous and without blemish.
While it may not look like I have made any improvements in this struggle, I will tell you that Jesus has done the work for me.
Now all I need to do is to acknowledge His victory, and as a result, my victory, in this aspect of my life.
Glory to God because the hold of addiction has been broken over me and with the constant renewing of my mind by the word
and unrelenting trust and faith in Christ, I will be rid of that which breaks my heart every time I give in to it.
Declaring my sexual purity even in my struggle is declaring my faith in Jesus to keep me from falling and to continually pick me
up as well. In shouting to the world that I am sexually pure, I am reminded of my commitment to please Jesus and to rely on
Him in every aspect of my life.
So you see, nobody is asking you to just stop deﬁling your body by determining to do so alone. That would be relying on
works, relying on your own ability and like the Bible says, 'You are saved, through faith...not of works, lest any man should
boast' (Ephesians 2:8-9). Jesus is the one who declares us clean! Nobody promised that the road would be easy. I'm just asking
you to trust Jesus to keep you because when you are in His arms, nothing can snatch you from Him. He is the ONLY one who is
able to keep you sexually pure.
Don't be scared, you are not alone. I have these struggles too, but I declare my triumph in my shouts of sexual purity, and more
importantly, now I am in Christ, and I win because He has won.
Triumphant in Christ,
An Addicted ASP
#NOSUM Hey guys,
I am Olushola Adenekan, I am an indigene of Ogun state but I live in the outskirts of Lagos state,
CHALLENGE22 Nigeria . I am an instrumentalist and I am into some other businesses. I am proud to say I am a
virgin because it is what God loves, I see those that believe in it and I am seeing how it could make
Shola Adenekan a marriage sweeter than honey. If you think it's a lie, you can please ask Dr. Love. I choose to be a
virgin because it's right and I don't live a double life. One thing in life that is constant is that you
LAGOS, Nigeria can never lie to yourself.
I knew more about sex than my age mates when I was much younger because of two things - 1.
My mum is a medical doctor. I was privileged to see mothers in labor during childbirth, which led
to some questions and the answers made me know how the baby jumped into mama's belly (Lol).
2. I have a cousin, who is much more older than me. Almost every time, he sent me out whenever
he wanted to watch movies. One unfortunate day, I told him “Brother, if you will kill me today, I
am ready to die because this movie you want to watch today, we are going to watch it together.
Lo and behold, he allowed me and guess what? It was a “colored” ﬁlm and this made me
understand sex more than I ought to at that time. Two things that helped me when I was much
younger was that, one, I loved going to church and they told us how hot hell ﬁre is and anyone
that fornicates will go to hell ﬁre 'you know that kind of ﬁre that burn Mr. so and so house?' (they
gave us different examples to scare us away from committing the sin); and two, my low self
esteem. But as time passed, scaring me with hell did not work again and by this time, I did not
even need to go to the ladies because I had them around me.
I thank God because about the time I wanted to start doing things, that was when one of these
'spirikoko' guys, Caleb, a.k.a Bobo, introduced me to one MINE TEENAGE MINISTRY (in 2011, I
guess) and I enjoyed the ministry because they don't condemn you no matter what. I have faced
different critics about not having sex before marriage. There was a day a lady even called me
impotent just because I told her my stand for sexual purity and #nosum. Though am not yet
married, I know my future wife will actually give birth to a baby boy as our ﬁrst child, lol. No
matter the criticism, I will stand. I raise my hands so high now that I am sexually pure and I am not
afraid to say that because I am not standing alone. You can also choose to stand with us today if
you haven't had sex before, and if you have had sex you can stay away from it starting from now .
I am Olusholafunmi and I stand for sexual purity!
IBISO EUGENE, RIVERS STATE, NIGERIA
But sexual immorality and all impurity or covetousness must not even be named among you, as is proper among saints (Eph. 5:3)(ESV)
Some practical ways to maintain sexual purity . . .
l Practice discipline with your eyes, dress sense, speech, and behaviour.
l Avoid unhealthy intimacy (in words and body language) with the opposite sex.
l Learn to be modest and simple, rather than enticing others and causing them to lust.
l Keep free from emotional entanglements. Guard your heart diligently.
l Do not indulge in mental fantasies.
l Do not indulge in unholy thoughts and desires such as a crush on another woman's husband or another man's wife.
l Do not use sexually explicit language.
l Do not be entertained by off-color humor that legitimize sexual sin.
l Keep far from physical contact that could stimulate illegitimate sexual desires.
l Keep the marriage bed undeﬁled—yours and others'.
l Put high hedges in regard to email and cell phones.
l Do not feed on books, movies, or music that fuel romantic desires that cannot be legitimately fulﬁlled.
l Meditate on and practice Philippians 4:8 in your choice of media and entertainment “Whatever is true, whatever is honorable,
whatever is just, whatever is pure, whatever is lovely, whatever is commendable, if there is any excellence, if there is anything worthy of
praise, think about these things.
l Be willing to do battle when tempted.
l Be accountable. Resolve to be pure and to wait until marriage. It's very difﬁcult to wait once you have tasted it, but the Holy
Spirit makes the wait easier.
l Occupy your mind with the Word of God daily, by making out time to study and pray.
l Remember that you can impact your world positively by maintaining sexual purity and by living out a good example.
You Are Loved!!!
I brought out my laptop, said a silent who is new to or inexperienced in a Ecclesiastes 3:1(God's Word) –
prayer, launched my word ﬁeld or situation. God's original “Everything has its own time, and
processor, and I just sat there staring intention for matters that pertains there is a speciﬁc time for every
at the empty document. I didn't sex was and still is meant for two activity under heaven”
know exactly what to type. I kept novices to learn and become pros
asking myself, what am I going to together. Take note of the word, Everything.
say that has not been said? I felt a lot All of these sexual activities have
had been said already about matters Wait a minute, is God starving us of their speciﬁc time (marriage).
that concerned sex. But in the midst what's rightfully ours? The answer is Ponder on this - when you
of my thoughts, the Holy Spirit drew No! Waiting for the right time for sex eventually get married, you will be
my attention to something. Then I isn't sex-starving. Starving means to living your entire life with your
realized it wasn't about what had suffer or perish from lack of food. It partner, right? Don't you think it'll
been said or yet to be said, it's about also means to deprive oneself or be get to a point where you'll get tired
what He, the Holy Spirit, wants to say deprived of nourishment or of sex? The same thing you are
at the moment. I believe this article something one really needs. So you killing yourself for now? If that's the
is meant for someone speciﬁc and I see, we are not sex-starving. We are case, then why the rush? “But it's just
hope he/she ﬁnds it. Thanks to Mine waiting. Sex is not what we really ordinary kissing nah?” Well, I'm sorry
Teenage Ministry for an opportunity need now. It's worth waiting for! to disappoint you Mr. Handsome
to reach out. Friend, so long as you ain't married and Ms. Pretty, the answer is No you
yet, then everything pertaining sex is can't kiss now! Your novice-kissing
Let's set the ball rolling! not what you need in your life at the partner will be your husband or wife.
*** moment. There are better things to Learning together will mean the
Hello Mr. Handsome, did you know do now. Indulging in them now is whole world to both of you! So keep
that Adam, the ﬁrst handsome man called SIN! your lips and tongue clean for the
on earth experienced everything person. Kissing is worth waiting for.
about sex as a novice? That meant, When you have sex with your Romance is worth waiting for. Sex
no kissing, no romance, no intimate spouse, God is involved. But outside itself is worth waiting for. Craving for
cuddling, etc. Sounds funny right? marriage, Satan is involved, and that these things now is like craving for
Yeah, but it's true. God designed it makes it sin. It doesn't matter what an unripe pineapple fruit. It's
that way. Dear Beautiful Damsel, did societies say, the truth remains that unhealthy and dangerous!
you know that Eve, the ﬁrst beautiful sex and everything that goes with it,
woman on earth just like Adam, outside marriage is a sin against Proverbs 6:27-28 – “Can a man take
experienced everything about sex as God. ﬁre in his bosom, and his clothes not
a novice too? A novice is a person
be burned? Can one go upon hot coals, and his feet not be burned?”
Mr. Handsome? This is for you - “For by means of a whorish woman a man is brought to a piece of bread.” Proverbs
That's what sex outside marriage does to a full-ﬂeshed man. It reduces him not even to a loaf of bread, but to a piece of
Pretty Damsel? This is for you – I wish you knew just how priceless a treasure you were, you wouldn't dare fall so cheap
for a guy just because he looks good, talks nice, and has some little penny in his time-worn wallet. That he bought you
ice cream, meatpie and maybe recharge card in school doesn't mean he has right over you? You are not an emotional
dust-bin for some random guy who cannot control his below-the-belt faculty.
“But he said he loves me and promised to marry me. So we can go ahead, after all we'll still get married”
That's a funny way to think dear. Now ask yourself, do ice cream and bread in quality restaurants, as cheap as they are,
get tasted before payment? Even if they were, you are worth more than bread and ice-cream. That is not something to
debate about. Right? The simple truth is, if he loves you as he claims to, he will respect you enough to wait for you till
marriage. And the hard truth is, if all he sees in you is a sex-tool, then he doesn't love you. He doesn't deserve you
either. Run as far as your legs can carry you from him!
Many times I've heard young people tell me, “I've tried to stop myself but I can't. Each time the urge comes, I lose
control of myself”
Friend, it takes more than trying to stop yourself to actually stop yourself. It takes God alone to stay sexually pure. I
know what I'm saying! There are many married people who are not sexually pure.
Sexual purity goes beyond sexual intercourse. It may be expressed by what you do with your body, but it is ultimately
rooted in your mind, your heart and your soul. If it was all about sex, I would have quickly and happily referred you to a
welder to get a customized iron pant, so you always put it on! And that would have solved the problem at least by 90%.
But you see, it takes more than just abstaining from sex to be sexually pure.
Friend, were there moments when no one was around, and you just began to touch yourself in places you ought
not to only to end up hating yourself for what you did?
Those moments you had in mind to visit a Christian website, but somehow ended up in a pornographic site?
Those moments you saw handsome guys or beautiful ladies in school and your body just began to vibrate
causing all your hair to stand and your head to spin at 360-degrees?
Well, I have news for you. There is a spirit that controls sexual urge, but the good news is, Jesus had subdued it a
long time ago. God is willing to help you overcome it too. It doesn't matter how many times you've messed up.
God is not tired of you. His love has not waxed cold. If you will decide today to quit trying to stop yourself all by
yourself, and let God take His rightful place in your life, I assure you a life above sexual sin. Until you take this
decision, nothing will change. Decide today, and you will be amazed at the wonders of God's grace. He won't
mend your life, he will give you his own life – a new and better one. But, to grow in this grace, you'll need to
constantly and consistently depend on Him everyday, through the study of His word and fellowship with the Holy
Will the urge stop coming? I'll be liar to say yes! The urge will keep coming, but God's grace will empower you to
You and your future spouse will make an amazing novice-team even better than Adam and Eve! *Smiles!*
I see you soaring on eagles wings!
CHALLENGE25 LEKAN AREMO,
I am Aremo Olalekan Oluwatobiloba.
I am a Born again Christian.
I am proud to be a virgin.
I stand for #NOSUM!
That is all everyone knows, but that deﬁnitely isn't all of it. Behind the Rambo facade of ' I stand for NOSUM' is a whirlwind of struggle
against urges that would want me to give in to them untimely and illegitimately.
I wasn't always a sexual purity conscious person, I thought I was but looking back now, I realise I wasn't. It didn't really make any
difference to me. I deﬁnitely didn't plan to have sex while in secondary school, but I didn't hold on to purity as I should. I have been in
sexually compromising situations with girls who had crushes on me while I was in secondary school, but somehow I usually escaped
unscathed. Unfortunately my love for books was rekindled around this time, and I picked up the most available literature I could ﬁnd-
When I started out reading romance novels, and I came across the depth of description of sexual acts and innuendos, I convinced myself
that it wasn't going to affect me in anyway. I was reading the novels to brush my communication skill, right? Well, on one hand, the latter
was correct, my writing improved, my communication also improved. I however can say same for the former. Somehow, I knew I was
exposing myself to literature that would affect my perception of attraction, marriage, and even sex, but it was really tantalizing. If I
couldn't do the real thing, I was allowed to tantalize myself, right? I paid for it later.
It all started one afternoon, as I was walking down the road, a projector suddenly appeared in the sky before me and I became the
audience to a one-man cinema. Before me were the characters I had read in one of the many romance novels, in very erotic positions. As
I realised what was happening, I shook my head sharply willing the images before me to disappear, but they latched on and that started
my ﬁrst major struggle with lustful thoughts.
This was one of the things that I had to immediately deal with as I gave my life to Christ. My heart had to be urgently purged off these
thoughts. I am grateful to God now for salvaging me from this personal demon, if not, choi, a lot would deﬁnitely have impeded my life
walk. Finding Christ helped me begin to put sexual things in perspective, but it didn't stop the urges from coming, neither did it stop the
temptations from advancing.
I remember an experience where I was alone with a certain young girl in a particular work area. This was a girl I knew had a huge crush on
me and obviously didn't hold the same values as I did. Somehow we were together, and I knew I had to make a decision that day. As she
came in, I offered her a seat across me, which she took, but for just a short while. She moved to my seat, and all I could do was sit still and
allow the sweat trickle down.
I eventually stood and moved to an outer ofﬁce which she followed me and decided to lie down on the couch with her on my laps. I
probably would have soaked a towel that cold afternoon. There was so much raging within me, ideas of what was 'perfect' for this
situation ﬂashed through my heart from the romance novels I had read. I struggled with all this within me wondering if I should just try it
or run. Fortunately for me, again, she just got up and left after she got bored with my inaction. I learnt that day that I had to learn to say
NO even when my body is screaming YES.
I also learnt that pure and unadulterated love always wants the best for the next person even if it may not suit what is desired per time.
I joined MINE TM, and I suddenly realised I wasn't alone in this decision to stay virgin till marriage and remain sexually pure too. It was a
relieving one. This reinforced my resolve to keep myself no matter what.
Do I still have sexual urges? Yes! However, I have learnt the importance of pleasing God in my body as much as I do in my spirit. I have
decided to, with the grace of God, keep myself till marriage because I know that is what God would have me do.
I have learnt to respect the opposite sex and defend their purity and virtue. I have learnt to be patient enough to realize that the
urge itself usually are not illicit, however they ask or drive us to give in to them in the wrong ways or at the wrong time. I have
decided that while I wait to walk the most beautiful and virtuous woman down the aisle, I will keep every part of me sexually pure. I
won't allow my eyes stay where they shouldn't stay as long as my neck works. I will continue to allow the word of God renew my
I invite you to this life of purity if you are not living it already. And if you are, enjoy the knowledge that you are not alone in this.
I am Aremo Olalekan Oluwatobiloba.
I am proud to be a virgin.
I stand for #NOSUM!
I love you.
I remember how I used to live my life with a I-don't-care attitude, I really do not mind what people say about me,
even my parents. I felt my life was nobody's business and so I lived it the way I liked. Growing up in a Christian
background was not as sufﬁcient as I thought, I wanted to know more about the world system. I wanted to
experience 'life' as I called it not knowing I was destroying my life.
Entering into senior secondary school boosted my morals on experiencing life as I met some set of friends who
introduced me to the world of sexual relationships. I was happy moving with them as we gisted about parties and
guys. My friends and I had this kind of ''innocent look'' that anyone would not have suspected any immoral thing
amidst us. I met two guys also, though they were my seniors, they gingered me up more as we surfed the internet
together to watch pornography, we even did compete with one another about the craziest porn videos watched. My
life was becoming miserable but I felt my life was experiencing the estactic moments it needed. I was enjoying what I
was into and so I could not even talk to my parents about it.
Before I knew it, I was already masturbating, I wanted to stop but I could not. I was even a worker in my church at this
time but I did not see myself being close to God. I knew it within me that I was so far from God but no one knew that.
The masturbation accelerated, I started having a strange urge and passion to see people naked (females especially).
I started noticing homosexual traits in me. At this point, I knew I needed help but there seemed to be no help coming
forth. I could no longer concentrate on my studies so I started having poor grades. Then one of my secondary school
teachers called me and asked what happened to me. I could not open up as I felt there was no need to because I was
already deep into the immoral act and that God won't even help me talk less of her. I felt I was too bad to be helped
or to even change. Her persuasiveness made me to tell her what I was experiencing. She shared her experience with
me also and told me her life was beautiful just because of Jesus Christ. She told me, “Jesus Christ brings the change
into one's life”. I told her that I had been a worker in my church all the while but I haven't seriously accepted Jesus
into my life as my Lord and Saviour. She led me to Christ and genuinely, I accepted Christ into my life. Since then, my
life has not been the same, His grace found me and transformed my life. Jesus Christ cleansed and purged all
impurities and ﬁlthiness from me and clothed me with His Righteousness. His grace really shines on me, cleansed
my past and gave me a new beginning!!!
You may think you are deep into sin and ﬁlthiness just as I was, thinking that you are too bad to be saved, Jesus Christ
can give you a new beginning if only you allow Him by accepting Him into your life. He will transform and change
you. He came for the sick not the healthy and He is still knocking at the door of your heart, open up your heart and let
His grace shine on you.
AMAKA EUNICE NNAOMA
Hearing a lot of people talk about virginity and sexual purity made me sick at the early stage of my adolescence.
Yes, I was still a virgin but it wasn't because I really loved to but because ﬁrst, I got irritated at the mention of sex
and secondly, because my mom promised to give me “Something special” if I would remain “virgin” till my
marriage. The second reason was enough for me then to remain pure sexually. Until I met MINE TM, I never saw a
better reason to be sexually pure and advocate sexual purity especially publicly.
I was constantly reminded to be sexually pure with (very good) reasons that made sense to me apart from the fact
that it pleases God. I became so glad to have friends who shared same values with me and were proudly proud of it
anywhere. Finally I made an ofﬁcial and a personal decision to remain sexually pure (at age 15) which includes no
kissing, no pornography, no petting, no smooching, no other sexual activities. I asked God for the strength. He
gave me, I was sure. Then, the devil showed up. A neighbour of mine came and after all the 'beating about the
bush', he told me he'd love to have me as his lover. I refused instantly (because there was nothing to go home and
Listen! God knows you and your heart desires. He stands with you and for you when you make a decision to stand
for what He stands for. I knew God stood and is still standing with me (This I learnt from Uncle Timi, in one of our
bible study meetings). Don't think for a moment that as I made the decision, that was all. I had a lot of temptations.
The very one that hurts was my cousin wanting to rape me. He tried so many times but God didn't let him. Another
time, one of my childhood friends came to me and said and I quote “Amaka, whenever you are ready for sex, I am
always available”. He had said this after a lot of pressure from him to have sex with him and that I shouldn't be
afraid. My reply was very simple. “Okay, when I'm ready I will let you know”. I'm still getting ready and I don't know
when I'll be done.
In this journey, I have at some points felt like giving up on my standards and values. There's been pressure from
people. I recall a particular year that all I heard was 'A' is pregnant, 'B' has given birth, 'C' has run away from his
parent, 'D' has impregnated this. I can never forget the very one that happened to a close friend of mine. This same
neighbour of mine that had been a pain on my neck, went ahead to impregnate my friend, his sister. Whenever I
remember this, I have a mixed feeling of happiness that it didn't happen to me and sadness that it had to be my
So many times, I think about this whole experience and I realise that I couldn't be the one keeping myself. It's been
God all the way. Every year, I renew my vow to God. I have never regretted it; not once. It has been tough,
challenging, demanding but God has been my strength through it all. I am 22 and still a virgin. I have decided to
stay pure until marriage. Challenges regardless, I am still standing.
You too can take a stand to remain sexually pure. I assure you that it won't be so easy but believe me, it's worth it.
Don't think you are alone. I know that we are in a world where sex and its activities are everywhere, on the internet,
on billboards, in song lyrics, in music videos, in ﬁlms and on the lips of people. Practically all popular soap operas
have their stories built around pre-marital sex, adultery, homosexuality and their likes; but I believe not-
withstanding that a sexually pure generation is possible.
It begins with you! Yes you!! You can do it! Yes, you can!!
I WON’T DO IT IKANNA OKIM
Really, there is so much to sex fornication is a sin. She didn't want to implications too.
than I can exhaust on this sin, anyway. She decided to wait till Distortion of digestive system as a
page. From whatsapp marriage but all the while, she hadn't result of anal sex. (Gay Bowel
broadcasts to conferences to talk been struggling with anything. She Syndrome)
shows to television programs, a lot didn't even feel she was waiting. When Human Papilloma Virus which distorts
has been said already about sex; both the sexual urges come, she would just the genital tract of both men and
correct and incorrect. So, as it seems, 'Susannate'. Susan was the name of a women.
you've heard so much already about very popular porn series. She would Cancer risk.
sex. Therefore, I want to throw bombs reduce the volume to the least and (source- battlefortruth.org)
here. Don't fret. You won't be harmed. play the video over and over again on
BOMB 1- God started this sex thing. her laptop. She ﬁddled with herself till For sex, what's the big deal?
Yeah! He created it. she got lost in the world of Pregnancy? There are contraceptive
BOMB 2- to God, sex is a beautiful masturbation. In her boarding school, pills. HIV/AIDS? There are condoms.
thing. laptops, phones and other gadgets (Although, there is no 100% safety. It's
BOMB 3- when done outside were not allowed. When the sexual risky), homosexuality? No one will
marriage, this same beautiful thing urge comes, she would just “Janetate”. know. God? He hasn't sent thunder
becomes very disgusting to God. Janet was the name of the hottest from heaven to prostitutes before. So
Dicey? No. There's nothing dicey lesbian in SS3. When Caron does all what can I use to scare you?
about it. It's obvious that God created these, she goes about her life as a Absolutely nothing!
sex speciﬁcally for marriage. So, it's a virgin!
very big deal. I was talking to a friend once and
God bless Pst. Timi Adigun for this At this point, I want to deviate from she said the most shocking thing
movement. Everything in this the biological meaning of sex which is ever.
magazine centres around No Sex Until that sex is copulation. Sex is wider “...you see this sex, there's nothing in
Marriage- NO SUM. Many have lost than that. Sex is anything (anything at it. I wish I was not in a hurry to do it”.
their virginities already and have all) which satisﬁes sexual desires. From What more can I say? It's not worth
decided to stay pure until marriage. this deﬁnition, you can judge whether the rush. It's worth the wait. No one
They are not 'secondary' virgins. They Caron is a virgin or not. Masturbation who has ever indulged in any form
are full virgins (if there's anything like kills self-esteem, it never satisﬁes. It of pre-marital sex has ever been
that.) Virginity is not about the hymen, brings health complications like sexually 'satisﬁed'. If you've been
it's about the heart. However, those painful erection which may affect your waiting, good for you. I'm waiting
who are still 'virgins' still have other ability to sexually satisfy your spouse too. If you haven't, please make the
means of satisfying their sexual when the time is right. decision to stop today. Don't destroy
desires. Wanna know these other Anxiety Disorder the God-made you. Run to God,
means? Then follow me through this When done persistently and for a long there's enough solace there. Jesus
journey. time, it causes lower back pain in old never looks at anyone's mistakes, He
age. ain't interested. Remember that He
Caron was a virgin, very beautiful and (source: owndoc.com) did not condemn the adulterous
attractive with the right amount of It really is not worth it. woman. He won't condemn you
ﬂesh in the right places. Once, the Even while homosexuals portray it as either.
pastor had said from the pulpit that normal, it has serious health It is worth the wait!