Made4More Magazine

MADE4MORE

ISSUE 2 | MARCH 2017

DEALING WITH MOVING SPRING
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made4more

Made4More Ministry CREATIVE DIRECTOR LISA LOGAN
Toronto | Pittsburgh  MANAGING EDITOR LISA D'SOUZA
FEATURES EDITOR KAYLA FAHERTY
For speaking engagements, prayer RECIPES EDITOR CHRISTINA ROSATI
requests or volunteer opportunities
email us at: [email protected].

For online exclusive content, visit www.made4moreministry.ca.

05 Table of
Contents
Dealing with
Desolation 04 Lenten Reflection
05 Dealing with
07
Desolation
Moving Forward 07 Moving Forward in
in Friendship
Friendship
20 08 Forgiveness: The

Spring Styles Springboard to a
2017 Deeper Relationship
10 What Heartbreak has
26 Taught Me
12 Spring Styles
Recipes for Your 14 Spring Recipes
Spring Palate 16 Living in La La Land

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Lenten

Reflection

We are now approaching "Laetare Sunday", the mid-way point for Lent. It's a time
to look forward to the joy that is coming, the dawn of a new day. However, the
Lenten journey is not over quite yet. For many of us, it may have started off with

exuberant enthusiasm and grand resolutions but by this time, many are ready to
put up their feet with a tube of neapolitan ice-cream and turn away from any soul-
stretching. For those who are enduring mid-Lenten blues, a splash of water and a

reflection on the Stations of the Cross can offer a quick remedy.

Here are 2 things to help you remain spiritually hydrated for rest of
your Lenten journey.

Recollect & Reflect

If you're struggling in keeping up with your Lenten promises, it turns out, you’re
not alone. Even the holiest saints struggled with penance and holy living. St.

Josemaria Escrivá tells us: “To defend his purity, St. Francis of Assisi rolled in the
snow, St. Benedict threw himself into a thorn bush, St. Bernard plunged into an icy
pond…” This is why in this half-way point we must recollect. Remind yourself of the
spiritual promises you made at the beginning of the season. Reflect and thank God

for all he has accomplished in you so far and ask the Holy Spirit to help you

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DEALING WITH God reminds me daily of my poverty.
Poverty isn't just lack of money, it can be a
DESOLATION lack of health, lack of love, lack of peace, lack
of light. Unavoidable suffering can lead to
By Lisa D'Souza either resentment or layers of meaning that
are meant to mold us in virtue and faith or
Inspiration from this blog came from Carlo we suffer in order to teach us something.
Carretto's Summoned by Love. When I experience spiritual dryness, I'm
learning to pay attention. God is stretching
God has engraved your name on the palm of your heart for a reason. In desolation, give
His hands. You are never forgotten. But up the promise of good feelings as the
sometimes it can feel that we are. We can benefit of prayers. If we are in a relationship,
get stuck in a rut, and the pressures of work we cannot just leave when the feelings run
and relationships. It can be hard to see God out. Love has to be a choice.
in our problems. He can feel a million miles
away. The thing with us is "we do not It is difficult because everything happens in
perceive God when He acts, but we shudder silence - the transition, the growth, the
when He says nothing" (Carretto). God is not stretching. God's silence is a sign of your
far away. He is right there in your mess. maturity in faith. If the silence frightens you,
it is because we are plagued by noise. We
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want God to come down on a cloud but make decisions in consolation and in a state
God loves to act in silence. God wants us of peace. So be faithful to prayer and wait
to thirst. Like Christ who also experienced in the silence.
thirst, God wants to make us like His Son.
We are in the desert to elevate our faith 2. Be Honest with Yourself and God - ask
and increase our desire. The tension, the yourself these questions: Where do I stand
silence, the uncertainty. Embrace the before God? Am I frustrated by a lack of
tension. love, a lack of understanding or a lack of
God’s presence? Be honest of where you
1. Fidelity in prayer - Relationships are a are at. Let God know how you feel. Vent.
commitment – sadly commitment is Cry. Be angry. Be raw. Say to God: "I don't
dwindling and has lost its meaning. We feel anything anymore! I don't see anything
need to put work into our relationship anymore!"
with Him. In prayer, speak first to God on
each thing you are worrying about or "Always make decisions in
feeling and then take the time to listen! consolation and in a state of peace.
Don’t obsess, say your worries to God So be faithful to prayer and wait in
once and then listen to Him and pay the silence."
attention to the stirrings of your heart. If
you find yourself obsessing and going Work with God, don't try to bypass Him or
back to those worries, read the Bible, pray do it without Him but work side by side in
the Lectio Divina or Divine Office for the dryness. Spiritual desolation trains us to
inspiration. He may speak to you through become daughters of God. Unexpectedly, in
a person, through a song, a movie, book the stillness, we will acknowledge God as
or in the Mass readings. He’s waiting for our father and that will be the moment that
you. St. Ignatius said that when in transformation begins. Focus on being a
desolation, don’t change anything, and beloved daughter of God. That identity is
don’t make any life decisions. Always yours forever.

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Moving
Forward in
Friendship

BY KAYLA FAHERTY

“No one has greater love than this, to lay down one’s life for
one’s friends.”  John 15:13

Do you have a bosom Does she encourage you to 3. Change your perspective.
friend? You know, someone be the best version of Make your friendship one of
you are connected to, who is yourself? Is she a positive your priorities. Put your
loyal no matter what. influence? Does she let her friend first. Place her
Someone you can count on light shine brightly? needs Place her needs above
to stand beside you during Determine who you would your own. Let it be obvious
the good times and the not- like to foster a closer to her how much you care
so-good times. Someone friendship with. about your friendship. Find
who journeys alongside you, out what is important to her
a companion you can share 2. Be honest. Get real with and encourage her.
with. Someone who knows yourself. Do you often forget
who you are and loves you to return a call or text? Are 4. Take the first step. Pick up
still. Wouldn’t you like to be you usually late? Do you talk your phone and call her.
that friend to someone else? too much? Is it hard for you Write her a letter. Reach out
Each of us can discover our to open up and be genuine? to her. Catch up over coffee.
kindred spirits and become Recognize your weaknesses. Invite her over to talk. Ask
the friend we wish we had. And then work on them. her about her life, the little
Friendship requires Create a to-do list and add things and the big things.
mindfulness, and sometimes returning a call to it. Write And listen, really listen.
we all need to take a step your date on the calendar. Open up your heart.
back in order to Give yourself plenty of time
move orward into deeper, and set an alarm to leave on Not many of us will have the
more genuine relationships. time. Pray about it. Ask the opportunity to literally lay
Holy Spirit to provide the down our life for a friend, but
1. Select your circle. Choose graces necessary. there are so many other
your closest friends wisely. ways to lay down our life.I
can reach out when she
needs me. I can pray for her.
I can see her as God sees
her, through eyes of mercy.

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What Heartbreak restaurants, on weekend trips to the ocean,
Has Taught Me we tried new things together, went to
church together and I became deeply
By: Lisa Logan involved with his family and in love with him.
Little did I know, those seemingly perfect
It’s hard to picture my life without my date nights, vacations, late night Skype
husband Steve, and I can’t imagine what sessions, and consistent “good morning
life would look like if I took a different beautiful” texts, would end up taking me
path, but before my “happily ever after”, through one of the most painful, heart
there were one too many seasons of wrenching, yet completely life altering
heartbreak. Coping with a break up is seasons of my life.
probably one of the worst feelings we
have to overcome. There was one Before this boy and I started talking, I had
particularly heart wrenching breakup that come off a few year dating fast and was so
changed my life forever and I want to on fire for God. I would fill my days with
share it with you to encourage you that worship music, daily Mass, and would read
God has a plan for you no matter what is Max Lucado inspirational posts. I would not
happening right now or has happened in go to sleep without reading my Bible, and I
your past. refused to go out to the clubs to drink with
my friends. I also spent my time in Adoration
Before Steve, I thought I had my entire asking God to heal me completely from
life figured out. In short, I had my dream previous heartaches so that when my
job working as a consultant and I thought, husband came along, I would be whole. I was
I had met my dream guy. However, it did so motivated to stay focused on God,
end, and it ended painfully. I remember because University and dating in the past
the night like it was yesterday. I believed I had taken over much of my life. However,
met a man that was sent to me directly once I started talking to whom I thought was
from heaven. We went to the best my “dream guy”, mostly because he was
"Catholic",
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I lost all of my motivation to Getting over my heartbreak 3. Be free to feel your emotions.
stay connected to God. Reading
my Bible was on the back wasn’t an overnight process, Cry for as long as you need to
burner, I visited the chapel less
frequently and I spent but when I finally did, I figured (don't feel guilty if it's taking
my evening hours calling him
and spare time traveling to visit out that I wanted this breakup more time than you thought!),
him. I stopped reading my
devotionals and spent my to shape me into the woman I and know that you don’t have
mornings Skyping him. I
stopped attending daily Mass, wanted to be. to go through this alone. Call a
and spent my time texting him.
I had replaced all things godly best friend, mom, or sister who
with a boy that had no intention
in keeping me around. I began If you’re coping with a breakup, will let you vent and will give
rejecting the one Man who
would never leave me, nor here’s a little personal advice you sound advice.
forsake me.
from me to you:
After months and months of the
same routine, he made it known 4. Don’t go to social media
that he was nervous to continue
pursuing our relationship. I felt 1. The relationship you were in about it. You know what I’m
confused, insecure, lost,
disappointed, and so far from does not define you, nor does talking about ladies. He does
the path that I thought was my
destiny. I was young, immature the opinion and words of that not deserve your attention. I
and lived for those sappy
butterfly moments. person. This is a choice, do not deleted all evidence of his place

allow what this person says sink in my life on social media, and

into your heart. The only thing barely anyone asked any

that matters is the truth - that questions.

you are a loved, cherished

daughter of God. 5. Don’t let your past

"I wanted this relationship affect your new
heartbreak to shape me blossoming relationship or a
into the woman I wants chance for a new relationship.
to be." Carrie Bradshaw said it best.
You can’t get to a future if your

past is still present.

2. Think about the big picture. I

know you’re hurting, but this is

just a small blip in the grand

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HOW TO WEAR

SPRING 2017

BY LISA LOGAN

After some internet browsing and magazine flipping,
Spring Style 2017 (SS2017) is all about the stripes,
sneakers, maxi dresses, denim and khaki pants.

Stripes. Blue & white pinstripes, bold stripes, and

nautical stripes are just about everywhere; you can find
them on dresses, skirts, wide leg pants, you name it.
Easiest way to do it for us ladies who live in the burbs' or 
for those busy city gals is to pull out a striped skirt and
add a plain tee, or grab a striped nautical tee and pair it
with denim- done. It can be that easy!

Sneakers. Great news for those of us who want to be

trendy, comfortable and cute all at the same time. Wear
them to your classes or out shopping. Just make sure they
are mostly white and resemble old school Adidas. This
style of sneaker really plays well with maxi dresses.

Khaki pants. Yes I said it. This is the big comeback for

SS2017. If you have khakis tucked away- now is the time
to dig them out! This is a great trend as it can be used for
a day out, night out or even for a work day. Wear a wide
leg khaki and you will be penned the queen fashionista.

Denim is in. Like I mentioned in our last e-mag, frayed,

ripped, wide leg or skinny. It's all in! 

g r e e n sC o l o u r s t h a t a r e m o s t p o p u l a r f o r S S 2 0 1 7 a r e ,

blues, creamsand . I'm sure you can find some of these

tucked away. 

It's not all that hard to be trendy. After a grey and cold
winter, let's bring style back this season ladies!

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Recipes for
Your Spring

Palate

Antipasto Salad

BY CHRISTINA ROSATI

Make Time: 15 Minutes 1. Chop all vegetables Nutrition Per Serving:
Yield: 4 Servings and herbs and place in Calories- 156
a large bowl. Fat- 12g
Ingredients: Carbohydrates- 9g
2 Cups English Cucumber, 2. Add artichokes. Sodium- 247mg
Chopped Don’t pre-rinse the Fiber- 2g
¼ Cup Italian Parsley, olive oil off of them as Sugar- 4g
Finely Chopped it will act as the fat Protein- 4g
3 Ripe Italian Tomatoes, base of our dressing.
Chopped Nutrition Analysis Source:
4 Artichokes, Grilled & 3. Add olives, balsamic Eattracker.ca
Marinated in Olive Oil glaze, oregano, salt,
¼ Cup Italian Olives, and pepper. Mix
Sliced together well.
1 Tbsp Balsamic Glaze
Juice of ½ Medium Lemon 4. Shave Parmigiano-
1 tsp Oregano Reggiano cheese over
½ tsp Salt top and serve as a side
½ tsp Black Pepper dish or lunch salad!
3 Tbsp Parmigiano-
Reggiano Cheese, Shaved

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Roasted Balsamic
& Herb Sweet
Potatoes

BY CHRISTINA ROSATI

Make Time: 1 Hour
Yield: 6 Servings
Ingredients:
3 Large Sweet Potatoes, Peeled and Chopped
2 Tbsp. Olive Oil
1 Tbsp. Balsamic Glaze (Reduction)
¼ or ½ tsp Salt
¼ tsp Oregano
½ tsp Paprika
½ tsp Garlic Powder
¼ tsp Thyme

1. Pre-heat oven to 400 degrees. Peel and chop
sweet potatoes into 1.5 inch slices or wedges.
2. In a large bowl add sweet potatoes, olive oil,
balsamic, salt, oregano, paprika, thyme, and garlic
powder. Stir Together.
3. Place a sheet of parchment paper on a large
baking tray/pan. Pour the coated sweet potatoes
onto the baking tray.
4. Roast in oven for 35- 40 minutes.
5. Serve and Enjoy!

Nutrition Per Serving:
Calories- 112
Fat- 5g
Carbohydrates- 17g
Sodium- 239 mg
Fiber- 2g
Sugar- 4g
Protein- 1g

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Living in

"La La Land"

By: Lisa D'Souza

Oscar buzz and my girlfriends' “Honeymoon stage” where in a similar relationship like
Mia’s and Sebastian’s, the
excitement motivated me to everything is rosy and illusion of love can be
deceptive. Sometimes we
watch La La Land this past exciting. But eventually real think illusions are better than
reality. But true love isn't easy,
week. I was moved and dazzled life sets in. Playing house gets it must be fought for. Reality
can be felt, tested, and
by the music and the raw boring and when sacrifice is experienced. Illusion is only
momentarily experienced and
emotion. There are several involved, it gets then gone forever. When we
are interested in someone, it
themes the movie explores: love, uncomfortable. Mia and can be easy to have
fantastical expectations and
freedom, dreams, fear and Sebastian never define the live in a "la la land" instead of
focusing on reality. Reality is
seeking. I wanted to discuss relationship so they don't unpredictable, painful and we
are caught in a tension of who
some of the questions that came know what they mean to each we are and who we want to
be.
to mind as I watched the movie other. The long distance, and

and journeyed with the the pressure of their careers

characters. becomes overwhelming and

their commitment to each

Do I love the Illusion or the other is uncertain. They don't

reality? know if they should prioritize

their dreams or each other. It

The main characters, Mia and is true that we want to be

Sebastian, fall in love and are believed in. We want to be

literally in a “la la land” where understood. Love is layered

love seems instant and things but the characters just skim

seem easy. They are in the the surface. But when you’re

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Should I stay or should I go? club or leave, she says she wants to go,
she pauses and smiles at Sebastian to
At the end of the movie, Mia sees acknowledge his part in her past and she
Sebastian years later and she is a famous makes peace with it. Mia leaves with her
actress, happily married mother and husband and embraces her new life.
happens to enter Seb’s jazz club with her
husband. Mia is faced with a dilemma- do What do I Desire?
I succumb to nostalgic regret and pine
for Sebastian? Do I rack my brain and This movie is nostalgic for the glamour of
wonder: what could have been? Or do I the traditional and yet pines for the
politely acknowledge the memory and limitless opportunity of the modern. The
the intimacy and move on? I feel great characters crave for the traditional- bring
respect for Mia when she is asked by back the old, bring back the Jazz, the
her husband if she wants to stay at the manners, the class, the old movies, the
chivalry. In a modern culture that
"worships everything and values nothing",
Mia and Sebastian ache for more. They
ache for a legacy. They want to be
remembered and they want to be loved.
Our yearning for beauty, love, music, and
to fulfill our dreams point to what we are
made for. Feel the ache. Soak in the
desire for the infinite because it is what
we are made for. The key sign that we
are alive and are feeling our humanity to
the core is the restlessness that we feel in
our bones.

We can’t ever have it all and that’s okay
but as long as we strive for what is true,
good and beautiful and dare to hope, we
will be just fine. So “here’s to the ones
who dream… here’s to the hearts that
ache.”

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