Things Parents Do

Vera Thomas, MA
Training Consultant

Coach/Poet

Presents

1

What do
you wish
you had
been told

A Day in the Life
Of

Sarah

3

Sarah

• Ordinary girl
• There are things she likes

and doesn't like
• There are things that she is

good at doing
• Things that she's not so

good at
• She has friends and a family

that she loves.

Sarah

• When people are nice to Sarah,
she's happy, and when they're not,
it hurts her feelings.

• There is one very special thing
about Sarah though –

• When you hurt her feelings…

You can actually
see that she's hurt.

A day in the life of

Sarah

7 A.M.



That
HURT
Sarah!

Breakfast



That
HURT
Sarah!



That
HURT
Sarah!

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That
HURT
Sarah!

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That
HURT
Sarah!

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That
HURT
Sarah!



That
HURT
Sarah!





That
made Sarah
feel better!

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That
made Sarah feel

better!

That
Made Sarah

Happy!

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That
Made Sarah

Happy!



That
Made Sarah

Happy!



That
Made Sarah

Happy!



Four Things
Parents Do that

Crush Self-
Esteem

Psychology Today by Jeffrey
Bernstein Ph.D

Yelling
and

Hitting

Dwelling on
Past

Conflicts
Psychology Today by Jeffrey
Bernstein Ph.D

Injecting Guilt
Psychology Today by Jeffrey
Bernstein Ph.D

Speaking with
Sarcasm

Psychology Today by Jeffrey
Bernstein Ph.D

Yelling
and

Hitting

The three types of yelling

• Stern, loud talking—
“raising your voice.”

• Caused by anger and rage
• Good yelling when danger

lies ahead

Impact of yelling

• Can make behavior

problems worse
• Yelling changes, the way

their brain develops
• Can lead to depression

Impact of yelling

• Has effects on physical

health
• Can cause chronic pain

Arthritis, bad headaches,
back and neck problems,
and other chronic pain.

Impact of yelling

• Setting ourselves up for a
lifetime of
SHOUTING MATCHES

Parents Who Yell
at Kids

Train Kids to Yell

How to Keep From
Yelling at Kids

Remember young
children aren’t trying
to push your buttons.
Give them the benefit

of the doubt.

Consider that yelling
teaches children that
adversity can only be
met with a raised and

angry voice.