The Insider - April 2020

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VOL. 4, NO. 4 APRIL 2020

WYNMOOR MANAGEMENT TAKES ACTION!
By Fred J. Michael, Director of Association Affairs

Wynmoor Community Council is names, unit address, mailing address the closing and alternate locations. lem should contact a member of
continuing to take steps to protect  The scheduled Meet, Eat & your Board of Directors to schedule
its residents from the rapid spread (if different) and emergency contacts a service call.
of the Coronavirus. All indoor and Greet BBQ events have been post-
a majority of the outdoor activities (names and phone numbers). You  All aerobics classes have been
in the Wynmoor community will be poned until further notice. suspended until further notice.
suspended until at least April 15th. can supply this information by re-  The weekly Tuesday morning
 Bingo at Temple Beth Am on
Here is the latest news: sponding to this email. Management Committee meeting, Mondays and Wednesdays has been
 The New Resident office in the  The Main Pool complex and cancelled.
Administration Building is closed the April 1st Budget and Finance
until further notice. New residents the 18 village swimming pools are  Morning bus trips for grocery
wishing to obtain a barcode should Committee and the April 2nd Board shopping Monday through Saturday,
email a copy of your vehicle regis- open for residential use. The pools and the Monday afternoon Publix
tration to Fred Michael at fredm@ of Directors meeting have all been shopping trip, will continue uninter-
wynmoorcc.org. Once your vehicle are safe to use. rupted. The buses will run at no more
is processed Wynmoor security will  Bistro 19 remains open for cancelled. than 25% capacity. The afternoon
come to your parking lot and place  Visitation to all Council of- mall trips Tuesday through Friday
the barcode on your vehicle. breakfast, lunch and dinner. Outside have been suspended. The Tuesday
 The Wynmoor Real Estate fices will be limited to authorized and Sunday dinner bus trips have
office will be closed until further dining only. They are now offering staff only. Residents should con- also been suspended.
notice.
 The ice machines at The Cove take-out and delivery. To place an tact us via telephone or email with Updates will be made as necessary.
and adjacent to the Main pool grills You’re are encouraged to take the
will be emptied and unavailable order or for more information, call your concerns and we will respond necessary steps to keep you and your
until further notice. family safe during this health crisis.
 Residents should make sure Bistro 19 at 954-969-2825. promptly. Limit your visitors and exposure
your personal information is cur-  The Thursday night festivities  The Comcast, AT&T and to others. We appreciate the coop-
rently updated in our database. eration of those residents who have
Please provide us with the your at The Cove have been suspended Homestead Exemption gatherings recently traveled on cruise ships and
out of the country to self-quarantine.
until further notice. The Cove facility have been suspended until further Your neighbors appreciate your con-
sideration.  
itself and the adjacent BBQ area are notice.
 The Wynmoor Handyman
open for residential use.
 We have been notified by service has been suspended.
 All inside pest control service
Northwest Medical Center that the
Doctor’s office at The Clubhouse will be halted until further notice.
will be closed until further notice.
The office will notify its patients of Residents with a pest control prob-

Scammers Will Take Advantage Of Virus Message Needs
To Be Expanded:
Coronavirus Concerns
By Insider Staff
By Scotty Leamon

Public Safety Information Officer, Coconut Creek Police Department

Scam artists will try to take advan- far, according to the FTC, involve During the past month, the main touched items. After using a paper
message provided by the Florida De- towel, tissue or napkin it is important
tage of these Coronavirus, or COV- phony charity requests, bogus claims partment of Health to is to wash your to throw it away. Do not use it again.
hands for 20 seconds. However, ac-
ID-19, concerns. While, at least at the that they’ve found a Coronavirus vac- cording to our Broward County Com- 2. Washing Hands – should be for
missioner, Mark Bogen, the Florida at least 20 seconds and it should be
time of this writing, we have had no cine, and “phishing” scams. If you’ve Department of Health is failing to tell done throughout the day.
our residents many important things:
reports of Coronavirus-related scams never heard of “phishing,” I’ll explain 3. Stay away from crowds. Keep
1. “Don’t Touch.” Whether you your distance.
here in Coconut Creek, I suspect that it later. are getting gas or paying groceries
with your credit card, one of the 4. Eating at a Restaurant – when
will change in the coming weeks. On March 9th, the FTC said it had most important things is to not touch you arrive at the table, wipe down the
anything with your skin. Everyone table, the chair handles and anything
Hopefully no one will get scammed, sent a warning letter to seven differ- should use tissue, napkins or paper else you may touch. When you leave,
towels when touching gas pumps, wash your hands.
especially regular readers of this col- ent companies, basically telling them elevator buttons, credit card ma-
chines, door handles, grocery carts, According to Bogen, this virus is
umn, but that does not mean you won’t to stop contacting people with wild restaurant chair handles, hand rails very contagious. “We were told that
for stairs or any other commonly thousands of people have the virus
get a scam phone call or email where claims that they could treat or prevent and do not know they have it. Many
people who are infected and feel fine
they’ll try. the spread of Coronavirus. So keep are still infecting those around them.”

The Federal Trade Commission that in mind if you get any phone

[FTC] was the first to sound the alarm calls, or receive anything in the mail,

on this scam several weeks ago. Now or your email inbox. If anyone tries to

they have an entire web page based tell you they have a special cream, pill,

on all the latest fraud related activity or herbal tea that’ll treat COVID-19,

they’ve been seeing regarding the just ignore them.

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A Treatise On Losing A Gold Bracelet Once An Adult, Twice A Child
By Herby Teicher By Lil Miller
Dedicated to Irwin Markman; one of the finest human beings to ever walk The time has come when age had come to an end and childhood begins
this earth… again. I would rush home from work, getting cookies, pies or fruit breads
in the oven before my company came for the holidays having everything
I am not one who has great interest in jewelry. My wife Linda, however, always ready and waiting for hungry mouths. My “pinwheel” cookies “date
and nut” were gone before they hit the table. Today it’s a memory, because
likes to dandify me whenever we have an event to celebrate. my daughters now have me sit shawl around shoulders for chills, slippers
on my feet. While my daughter cuts the beautiful roast giving me a smaller
Many years ago, she bought me a gold bracelet. For special events she would amount then giving me a kiss saying, “enjoy mom, it’s your turn now.” I did
note a glass of milk instead of champagne. Wow, so this is what it has come
dress me sartorially, bedeck me with my stylish watch, the gold bracelet and to now. Summit to it my friends, it’s a great feeling. Thanks for sharing. I
finally anoint me with a splash of Paul Sebastian eau de cologne. I felt almost love you.
regal enough that I could hobnob with the likes of Prince Charles. Over time
The Basement
I grew sentimentally attached to the bracelet.
By Marian Broder
We recently went to visit friends in the land of Boca Raton, and I wore My husband said he wanted to talk to me. “Marian, I have something to
all the regalia. Upon returning home I realized that the bracelet no longer say that you might not like to hear. Please do not be upset with me. It is not
adorned by wrist – I had lost the bracelet! a criticism.”
Wow! I couldn’t imagine what he was going to say. I couldn’t remember the
In early times I would have been devastated and inconsolable. Now as an last time he started a conversation like this. We both sat down at the kitchen
table. All major conversations in our family take place around the kitchen
octogenarian, I adopted a new strategy to deal with crisis. I remember what table. “It’s time for us to clean your mother’s stuff out of the basement.”
He was right. The basement was filled with my parents’ furniture and
I learned from my best friend. Irwin and I have known each other since the stuff. We moved to a smaller home eight years ago. While we had used their
first day of Kindergarten. We have both retired, twenty-five years ago, we furniture in our larger, previous home, there was no room for it now.
began a new ritual; that we would have almost daily telephone conversations. “It’s easier to clean out when there are two of us. We should do it when

Much of our conversations were about the trials and tribulations of going Continued on page 10

through life. I was searching for a path to a world of serenity.

One day when I was particularly distraught, he told me about a colleague
who counseled him when he was having his difficulties. His colleague
listened and then addressed succinctly to Irwin’s angst with the following

proclamation: “The only thing that matters, what what you make matter.” It

took a while for me to absorb this simplistic philosophy. Finally, it had now

become by mantra.

Ergo: In the eternal scheme of life it does not matter to me that I lost the

bracelet. For now I know – What matters is what I make matter!

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TOP 10 THINGS TO
AVOID TOUCHING!

While it is still very important to wash your
hands throughout the day, I suggest the use of

PAPER TOWELS, NAPKINS OR TISSUES
WHEN TOUCHING THE FOLLOWING:

1. Door handles
2. Credit card machines
3. Elevator buttons
4. Chairs that have handles
5. Grocery carts
6. Restaurant tables – wipe before using
7. Gas pumps
8. When asked to provide zip code – on gas pump
9. Stair hand rails
10. When a waitress gives you a pen to sign – hold it with tissue

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we decide to do it and not when we have to do it. Going up and down stairs photos which she sent to him.
and bending over gets harder each year. It’s not going to get any easier.” He When she finished touring our house, she talked about the emotions we
was right. I had osteoarthritis in my knees and shoulders. He had it in his
hips and back. might feel about parting with belongings. She urged us to be positive about
giving these things away. She talked about “reframing” the way we might
“As hard as it is to talk about, we know that one of us is going to go first. think and feel. She said, “One of the most powerful tools you can use to
If you go first, I wouldn’t know where to begin with your mother’s stuff. I remove the negative feelings involved from giving away possessions is a
don’t want to burden our kids with it.” skill called reframing. It is the ability to change the way you are looking
at something. When you are faced with a difficult situation, you can bring
There is another issue. You’ve taken wonderful care of me for over 50 about a positive mental shift in viewpoint purely by will. This then opens
years. Except for opening a can of sardines and frying an egg, I can’t cook. up new possibilities that you couldn’t see before. Undreamed-of benefits
You’ve done all the cooking. You’ve also arranged our social calendar and begin to show up.”
activities. I wouldn’t be able to live in this house alone. I’d have to pack up
and move out to a retirement community. They provide meals and activities She encouraged us to change the way we were looking at this. “Instead of
and I wouldn’t be socially isolated. being sad as you think of parting with your mother’s things, she said, “think
about it in a different way.” She suggested thinking instead, “My mother
He was right. All of the sudden the issue changed. It was no longer about me and I have enjoyed these objects in our lifetimes and now it is time to give
and my long-standing reluctance to part with my mother and her belongings. someone else an opportunity to enjoy them.” She urged me to write down
Now it was about what we could do to help us prepare for the next stage my affirmations and put them where I could read them every day. And she
of our lives. We had written our wills, our durable powers of attorney, our added, “Don’t forget to affirm yourself. Give yourself a pat on the back each
health care proxies and our advance directives. I realized that cleaning out is and every time you notice that your reframing project is paying off.” She
an important part of preparedness for the future just as the documents after urged us to begin by making a plan.
I died. Or I could be left alone if he died first. Then I’d have to clean out
everything alone. That was powerful motivation. My husband was absolutely right – it was time to clear out the basement.
By suggesting it, he was taking care of me as well as himself. We had a goal.
For over 50 years we had used my parent’s furniture, dishes, and antique We weren’t getting rid of stuff; we were actively preparing for our next stage
decorative pieces. I loved my parents’ furniture. I combined their things with of life. Together, we confronted reality, made a decision and created a plan
ours. Our home had an interesting eclectic look. Eight years ago, we moved for cleaning out the basement.
to a small ranch house. At the time of the move, some of our children said
they wanted the furniture, so we stored it in the basement. Now they were There Is Peace Somewhere,
all married and had their own homes. My parents’ mahogany furniture was In The World Today!
too large for their homes. Except for a few pieces, none of them wanted the
dishes that have to be hand washed, the silver that has to be hand polished, By Lil Miller
or linen tablecloths that have to be hand ironed. Neither did I. If we would shut off the gizmos and gadgets of high tech today and just for
a short time enjoy the peace of lights and music of the day. Picture the quiet
So where and how to begin? My husband suggested that we call a friend of snowy mountains and their peaks reaching high in the sky with billowy
of his whose business was helping people, especially the elderly, downsize clouds peeking through – a rippling clear brook rushing clean and pure
and move. She came over to our house. She was not very encouraging about through a pine needle crusted floor. The wide, clear, deep ocean reaching out
the value of our things. She said, “Antiques Roadshow has done a disservice to a sandy seashell shore. Palm trees bending in a willowy breeze, waving
to the public. Your mother’s mahogany furniture is out of style. It is called hello forever more.
“brown furniture.” No one wants china dishes, crystal or linens either.” Setting under a tree with rain drops from heaven – pure and clean – pitter
pattering tears of joy to fill the earth quiet and listening to the call of nature
She described our options. We could try to sell everything ourselves. once more!
However, our condo community does not allow tag or house sales. We could How simple life seemed way back when we dreamed of challenges that
sell everything online. We didn’t want to spend hours on the computer. We today are bringing our peace to an end – the only vision mankind has today
didn’t want people coming to our home and we didn’t want to pack and mail
things. We could donate everything. She gave us the names of thrift shops Continued on page 13
that would take our china and furniture. She said that she knew an auctioneer
who might be interested in the Baccarat crystal and the sterling. She took

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is to beat and conquer to the end – no time to feel and see the beauty of long The Many Benefits Of Rude People
ago. Who is going to push that button first so we can start all over again! The By Pete Hardis
creation of earth, could it ever be again? One of the many arguments my wife and I had was the dispute we had
about rude people. My position on the topic was always that rude people
Be still and quiet and listen for the answer of our almighty creator called play a beneficial role in how we live our lives. On the other hand, my wife’s
God. position was that I was an idiot for saying such a stupid thing.
So far, I’m sure that you probably agree with my wife on two counts; that
Small Spender Enjoys Big Mitzvah I’m an idiot and that I’m stupid for saying such a stupid thing. However, I
believe that after you read this you will have no other choice but to agree with
By Irv Kaplan me about the value of rude people, even if you still might think I’m an idiot.
All over Florida, at most street corners, there are homeless men and women. I can give you many examples to prove my point about how the personality
They look tired, hungry and in need of a good cleaning. I can’t help them trait of rudeness can be beneficial but let me give you an example that will
all, but I can help a few. leave no doubt in your mind that I am right.
Twice a week, I go to Wendy’s on Sample Road and Powerline. They offer Not too long ago my wife asked me if it appears to me that she was getting
a $5 special: a choice of two sandwiches -- chicken or burger. fat. Even though it did look to me that she was indeed substantially heavier
The chicken can be prepared any of three ways: spicy, home cooked, or than she was just a few months earlier, in order to avoid having her break
grilled. All are tasty. In addition, a senior coffee or senior soft drink is free, every bone in my body along with bashing my head in I told her, “Honey,
and if you previously bought a special tag for $2, you could enjoy a small absolutely not! You look great! I don’t know how you manage not to gain
free frosty all year every time you order a meal – for a whole year. weight given your huge appetite.”
On each trip, I order the $5 special, a senior drink, the frosty and a cup of A week later we happened to bump into our friends, Fred and Gloria who
water, and take then out to the parking lot where I am always sure to find hadn’t seen in quite a while. At this point I must inform you that Gloria is
someone. a Grand Master Champion in the art of being rude. She is best known, but
I get to feed two hungry people, and I feel great. I am the last of the big not limited to vicious gossiping, lying, cutting people off on the highway;
spenders and get lot of mileage out of my mitzvah (blessing). the extraordinary number of times she gives people the finger; etc. Given all
Then I go back inside and enjoy my own lunch. As this is too much for one these special talents she has in the art of being rude it didn’t take her long to
person, I only eat half the special before returning to the parking lot to share get down to business with both me and my wife.
the rest. What about Mandelbread, you may ask? Sometimes, I share that, too.

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“Pete, boy it must have been a long time since we saw you last. Frank, First Date Friday, Proposal Monday
doesn’t Pete look like he aged so much since then? I can imagine how By Beverly Friend
understandable that is given the horrible marriage you and Sandy have.”
“And Sandy, it’s so nice to see you. I don’t think it’s my imagination, but My most memorable date can be divided into
you certainly look like you put on a lot of weight since we saw you last.”
three parts -- just like the opening lines from in Julius
After saying goodbye to them I thought my wife was going to collapse.
She burst into tears and started screaming, “I hate Gloria! That’s the last time Caesar’s famous Gallic Wars: Gallia est omnis divisa
I’ll ever speak to her! No one that rude has a right to exist!”
in partes tres.
Anyway, over the next six weeks or so I began to notice that my wife was
thinning out quite a bit, and I told her how good she looked. “Of course, I BEFORE: When my good friend Sonya travelled
do. I lost 21 pounds and as I look at myself, if you don’t mind my saying, I
look better now than before I even met you!” from Milwaukee to Chicago in 1958, I hoped that

Stupidly I asked her if what Gloria had said to her had anything to do with she would enjoy her trip so much that she would join
her losing all that weight. “If you think that crazy lunatic had anything to do
with this you are as crazy as she is. I was planning to go to Weight Watchers Jim and Beverly Friend in 1961 me in the big city. Therefore, I arranged for her to
way before we met up with that vial witch. She had nothing to do with what
I accomplished, so get that ridiculous thought out of your head.” The way we were! have many dates.

If you read what I wrote as carefully as I hope you should have, I believe In fact, she was so booked that some days she had two: a date in the
that I proved my point that rude people can be an important and valuable
asset in people’s lives just as Gloria was for my wife. afternoon and another in the evening. Certainly, every weekend was filled. As I

Given all this I strongly urge you to please try not to be rude to rude people recall, I knew nine men named Bernie and am sure she dated several — if not
because you never know how they may be able to improve your life.
all — of them. She was so pleased that she promised she would reciprocate.
As for me, I’ve been getting Botox treatments for the last year, and because
of Gloria’s rudeness I must say that I do look much younger. She had another girlfriend from Milwaukee who had married and now lived

Thank you, Gloria, for being so rude to me! Case Closed! in Chicago. Sonya was sure she would meet Helen’s single brother-in-law
*A note to my Canadian and Snowbird readers: I hope you enjoyed my silly
articles I wrote over the last several months. You will notice that this one is and when she went out with him, she would inquire about his friends and
the only serious one I wrote. Have a safe trip home. I wish you all happiness
and good health! See you soon, Pete. find a date for me. She met Jim when Helen arranged a bridge game with

him and his mother.

Meanwhile, I was on my first job, teaching English at the Navy Pier branch

of the University of Illinois in Chicago and had a colleague named James

Friend. When that very same Jim did call Sonya for a date, she was so booked,

they failed to get together.

Whenever he phoned, I answered, and we chatted because she was never

home. One day, while on the job, he approached me with the words, “So you

are Sonya’s friend.” We had a few nice chats, occasional cups of coffee, and

then he asked me out for a Friday night Halloween costume party.

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I was a bit concerned about telling Sonya, but she bore no grudge and Lessons From A Wise Man
helped me with my costume. As I recall, I went as a black cat in a black dress,
added some trim to my glasses and an orange bow around my neck. We may By Mobolaji Adedoyin
or may not have penciled on whiskers, but I do not remember. All of my grandfather’s philosophies, advices and wisdom are still practical
today, even though he gave them to me over fifty (50) years ago. I hope you
DURING: I looked forward to the evening. Jim was tall, dark and can share them with great-grand-children, grand-children, grand-nephews,
handsome. He fancied that he looked a bit like Cary Grant – and it was not grand-nieces etc. I grew up in an extended family - my paternal grandfather
farfetched. He was also quite bright. Up to that time, I had been meeting two and grandmother lived next door to my parents and four other siblings. I was
kinds of men – brilliant and sardonic or kind and moronic. Jim was intelligent very close to my grandfather especially after my dear mother died young -
and kind – an irresistible combination. twenty months after I graduated from High School.
Unfortunately, my grandfather also passed away eighteen months later at
I had been dating two other men who also had possibilities (an eye doctor, the age of 102. Within those eighteen months, between my mother’s death
an engineer). They tended to ask me out for alternate Saturday nights. Jim and his last breath on this earth, I became even closer to him. He shared
snuck in on a Friday. many experiences and wisdom with me. It took several years before I fully
understood or experienced some of his advices. I actually experienced and
What I recall most about that night was that we couldn’t stop talking, used one of his advices twenty-one (21) and forty-eight (48) years after he
and we spent most of the evening engrossed. I can’t recall any of the other discussed it with me. I could remember vividly where we were and when he
guests, what they wore or what we ate or even if we played any games. I gave me one particular advice, I will share with you.
don’t remember much of the content of our intense conversations, but one I learned how to play soccer from the day I started to walk. In High School,
passage was memorable. He told me that his father had died when Jim was I was fairly a good player but my small stature was and is still a disadvantage
only 12 and that when he met the girl he would marry; he would like to take in that sport. Soccer involves lots of pushing and elbowing during a game. A
her to his father’s grave in Rosehill Cemetery to introduce her. I wondered tiny player like me can get hurt easily. I remember our coach in High School
if I would be that girl. always told us not keep a ball for more than ten seconds before we passed
it to another player. That tactic was even more important for me if I did not
This was on a Friday night; Monday, Jim proposed. want big players to elbow or run into me. On the day my grandfather gave
AFTER: I didn’t accept until the following Thursday -- after calling me a particular advice, which I am about to discuss, I was returning home
Boston to check with a friend who had attended grad school at the University after I played soccer with my friends. It rained a bit while we were playing
of Chicago with Jim. She gave him high praise and advised, “Go for it!” and since we played on a muddy field, I was dirty and my new soccer shoes
Our first date was on Halloween, we got engaged on Thanksgiving, and
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were also covered with mud. My grandfather thought I was in a fight. After I right back. He did not respond in any way. When I returned, about two minutes
greeted him, he said, “Come, don’t go, sit down, I have something to tell you.” later, the cashier had just started to checkout a lady in front of me. I tried to
get back in line in front of the giant but he wouldn’t move. He said, “What
He got up, proceeded to pour water from a pitcher into a glass, walked back are you going to do if I don’t move?” Right away, words of my grandfather
flashed through my brain - I had to think fast on how to respond. I had to look
and handed it to me. That was a very profound gesture of love a grandparent up to make eye contact with the giant. I calmly explained that if he wanted
to fight me, I would not fight for free. I told him to get one thousand dollars,
in any country could show to a grandchild. Actually, the glass of water was bring his family and friends and meet me inside Central Park by 75th Street
at 10:00 a.m. on Saturday. If I kicked his ass, I would take his money and if
timely because I was very thirsty. I drank the water and sat down across a he kicked my ass, I would give him the same amount of money. You could
hear a pin drop. Everyone that heard our conversations, including him, had to
table from him. laugh to my unique and strange challenge. After about ten seconds silence, he
moved and let me through to pay before him. That was how I again avoided a
He said, “You have to always use your head to get out of sticky situation bad beating and losing one thousand dollars in front of my family and friends.
that might result in a fight. You are very tiny, and most people could beat you
up and hurt you. Always try to defuse a sticky situation or just walk away.” Here are some of my grandfather’s philosophies, advices, and cautions
young generation of today could use as they try to cope with challenges of
I had a chance to use that advice in New York City nineteen (19) years after life. I used all of them over the past fifty years since I arrived in America.
he gave it to me. The incident happened at a Pizza Restaurant on the upper They are listed at random and not in any particular order of importance.
West Side. The Pizza Restaurant served bagels, coffee and tea in the morning,
between 6:00 - 10:00 a.m., and served lunch from 11:00 a.m. I was at the 1. “You can always “dress down” when you attend a function but it is
difficult to “dress up” at the function”;
restaurant, before 9:00 a.m., to pick up coffee for my Supervisor and a cup
2. “Whatever is good for your health is not supposed to taste too good”;
of tea for myself. I was the only one at the counter and was being served 3. “When you meet people, you are not only introducing yourself, you
are introducing our family”;
by a beautiful middle-aged lady. She poured a cup of coffee, took another 4. “Religion is a personal thing - good people have different views of
God - one religion is not better than another”;
cup and was about to put a tea bag inside a cup when a “Mandingo” man, at 5. “Where ever you are, don’t forget your roots - remember you cannot
change your roots”;
least six feet and three inches tall, walked in. He spoke Spanish to the lady, 6. “Never talk bad about our family to anyone”;
7. “Sometimes you have to be quiet - you don’t have to say a word”;
and she dropped my tea bag, stopped making my tea, and lined up about ten 8. “When you ask question, you may look like a fool for few seconds,
but if you never ask you will be a fool forever”;
cups to pour coffee for the giant that just walked in. I said Miss please could 9. “You are not doing the family any favors by educating yourself - you
you finish making my tea? The giant said, “What are you going to do if she are doing it for yourself”;
doesn’t finish making your tea?’ 10. “You can only be sure whom you love, you cannot be too sure who
loves you”;
At that moment my grandfather’s advice came back to me in a flash. I had 11. “You must always have a plan, as you get older, you may have to amend
to think fast on what to do next - walk out of the restaurant or just take the your plan to realities around you”;
12. “Don’t be afraid or shy to seek help from people - you never know
abuse and keep quiet. I was one hundred percent sure the giant could beat me who would help you”;
May the soul of my grandfather Rest in Peace.
up easily. He worked at a construction site and appeared to be in excellent
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shape. Thank God, something came to me. I said to the giant you are lucky

my wife is Spanish, if not, I would take you outside and kick your ass. The

giant and the lady looked at me and they both laughed. Then the giant said,
“You are a cool guy.” He told the lady to fix my tea and offered to pay for
both my coffee and tea. So, I left the restaurant without broken jaw or swollen

face on that day.

Another incident happened on a Friday inside Pathmark Supermarket in

Brooklyn. It was early in the morning before seven o’clock when I usually

did my groceries shopping. I was and I am still allergic to waiting on line

too long for anything. I worked hard to make money and up till today I don’t

want to work hard to spend it. I was on line at a cashier and I had only two

items to pay for. There was a woman in front of me with about six items and

a “Mandingo” man, at least six feet four inches tall, behind me. I forgot to

pick up a pint of milk for my daughter. I told the giant behind me I would be

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Jordan T. Spohn, AAMS® Financial Advisor For EDWARD JONES (954) 973-0825

How Much Will Market Volatility Really Affect You?

There’s no way to sugarcoat it: If you’re an investor, you haven’t liked what in the financial markets. These vehicles might include Certificates of Deposit
you’ve seen in the financial markets recently. The effects of the coronavirus
triggered a market “correction” – a decline of 10 percent or more ­– and more (CDs), money market accounts and even good old-fashioned U.S. Savings
volatility is almost certainly on the way. But instead of fretting over your
investment statements, you could consider some more positive approaches Bonds, all of which offer the protection of principal and can pay higher rates
to this situation.
than traditional bank savings accounts.
For one thing, ask yourself this: When do you really need the money from
your investment accounts, such as your IRA and your 401(k) or similar But you might also have longer-term goals that can be addressed through
employer-sponsored plan? These are retirement accounts, so, depending on
your age, you may not need to tap into them for 20, 30 or even 40 years. investments that may be somewhat or largely free of the effects of market
If so, your losses may be “paper” ones only for now and aren’t subjecting
you to imminent financial jeopardy. This isn’t to minimize the effect this volatility. For example, to supplement your retirement income, you might
downturn will have on you, of course – it always takes time to recover lost
ground, and there are no guarantees with investing. However, although past consider a fixed annuity, which can provide you with a guaranteed interest rate
performance does not guarantee future results, it is useful to note that, over
its long history, the U.S. stock market has typically trended in one direction and, depending on how it’s structured, an income stream you can’t outlive.
– up – despite serious and sometimes lengthy declines such as we saw in the
Great Depression and, to a lesser extent, the bursting of the “dot.com” bubble Apart from the issue of when you might need money from your investment
of the early 2000s and the financial crisis of 2008-09.
accounts, you might want to ask yourself another question: Just how much
Nonetheless, you may have shorter-term goals – a wedding, down payment
on a home, overseas trip, etc. – for which you need to save. For these goals, of my net worth is tied up in my portfolio? If you’re like many people, you
though, you wouldn’t want to touch your IRA or 401(k), anyway, as you’d
likely face taxes and penalties. Instead, you’ll want your money invested in have other assets apart from your investments. If you’re a homeowner,
liquid, low-risk accounts that will be minimally affected, if at all, by declines
consider your house: Has it dropped in value at all during the recent market

decline? Probably not. Do you still have just as much equity in it as you did

a month ago? You might have even more. In other words, the value of your

investments may have dropped a certain percentage, but the decline in your

overall net worth may well be significantly smaller.

So, here’s the bottom line: Large drops in the financial markets aren’t much

fun for investors – but that doesn’t mean the bottom has dropped out on your

financial future. Keeping things in perspective is a good move in all of life’s

endeavors – including investing.

This article was written by Edward Jones for use by your local Edward

Jones Financial Advisor. -Edward Jones. Member SIPC

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Dinner, Interrupted What Goes Around Comes Around
By Michael Rosen
A few years ago, my wife and I along with some friends, were waiting for By Lawrence E. Correia
an outside table at a very nice restaurant in The Promenade shopping center I am from a good-sized family of nine children and I am the oldest of the
here in Coconut Creek. It was a warm March evening and all the tables were clan. In the summer of 1956, my father had just received his Masters Degree
occupied. from Bridgewater State College and wanted to take his family on a vacation
After a few minutes, as we were being shown to our table, we couldn’t help to upper state New York.
but notice the flashing lights of an EMT truck and a lot of action at the table At this time my family numbered eight children, my mother and father and
next to us. The couple there seemed in quite a bit of distress and the EMTs godmother to my brother Eddie. Can you imagine packing 11 people, plus
took the man away on a gurney. food, a gas camping stove, clothes, tents and other items in a station wagon?
The woman at the table, understandably, was quite upset and was mumbling As you can well imagine sardines had nothing on us.
to herself as she was fumbling with bags, pocketbooks and the bill. We asked We left New Bedford, Massachusetts on a Friday evening and drove to north
if we could help and she said that the restaurant had given her the bill and she to Bangor, Maine and spent the evening at a park in tents. The following day
was trying to get everything in order. She was very, very, upset. we arrived in Quebec City and took in the sites. Later the same day we drove
We asked what had happened and she said that the food was just served, to the Cathedral of St. Anne DuBaupre, where my father wanted us to take
and her dinner companion complained of chest pains. She said the restaurant special of a wall lined with crutches of those who prayed for divine help and
called 911, the ambulance arrived, and they took him to the hospital. The received it. The next day we went to Montreal and toured the city. When we
restaurant also put the uneaten meal in takeaway boxes and gave her the bill! completed the tour, my father headed for upper New York State, where we
She was very, very upset. spent the evening at a campground.
We offered to help her with the packages to her car. She gratefully accepted. The next morning, we headed for Frontier Village, while on our way my
As we were getting things organized, she said “I guess I should go to the father stopped at a roadside rest area that had picnic tables and a fire pit for
hospital?” cooking. While unpacking to make a meal for the family, mother realized
All of us looked at her astonished! Huh? Why wouldn’t you go? that we did not have any water to make Kool-aid for us to drink. Noticing
She said that this was a blind date! She doesn’t even know his last name! a farmhouse about a half a mile down the road she handed me a blue and
A friend of a friend set the date up and she has no idea how to contact his white water cooler and gave me explicit instructions. She said, “Larry, I want
relatives. you and your brother Steve to go to the farmhouse and politely ask whoever
We recommended that she go to the hospital and try to be as much help as answered the door, if they could spare some water so we could have Kool-
possible. We doubt if there was a second date in the offering! aid to drink.” She also added, “Make sure you say please when you ask for

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WOODSHOP
By Ernie Fleury

Mel, Fred, Tracy Steve and Marvin have successfully completed President Karl
Georgi’s 4 evening Red Badge course. These people have demonstrated proficiency
in the proper use of all the major power machines in the shop by producing a very
challenging foot stool. The popular Cutting Board classes are running full with 4
members in each class. Norman, Mel, Cynthia and Fred have completed the first
class, learned a lot, and had fun. Each member completed at least 2, and in some
cases have started a third board. The course meets 3 evenings for two hours and
the cost is $60. The wood for the first board is included in the fee.

Jeff Green asked the Woodshop to make 6 wood rummy cube boards. He liked
them so much he took 12. There are 4 in the display window in front of the shop.
Joe Bauer and his wife live in Canada and have traveled extensively throughout
Europe and Asia. Joe created this illuminated 36” Japanese lantern made from
Honduran mahogany with opaque rice paper glazed windows for their living
room. Doc Howard Lepolstat created a one of a kind Mickey calendar for his two
grandchildren to be used as a countdown to their upcoming visit to Orlando. Everett
Yankie completed his black cherry bowl with ebony spleens and surrounded by
dogwood flower relief.

Ennio Ruggi, a former shop teacher from upstate New York is a journeyman
member of the shop. He is a gifted man who is always willing to share his
knowledge. The photos are an example of the simple but useful treasures he creates
from cut-off pieces of hardwoods found around the shop. A 24” 8 stacked hardwood
lamp made from aromatic cedar, walnut, cherry, maple, padauk and mahogany. His
favorite is the birch wheel with spruce handles. John and Grace Chessa bought a
new television, so john had to make a new cedar shelf to place it on.

Karl Georgi has an extensive display of his craftsmanship, made mostly from
timber recovered from the golf course.

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water and remember to say thank you.” when my brother Steven asked my son Larry and I to join his family for
Well, my brother and I started down the road to carry out our assigned task, Thanksgiving Dinner. As we were settling down to enjoy a great turkey dinner,
I told my son that I didn’t think he truly believed the stories I had relayed
when I noticed that the driveway leading to the farmhouse was much further to him. So, I challenged him to ask my brother Steve to verify if the stories
down the road, while a shorter route was through an open field occupied by were true or not.
cows. As we crossed the field to the farmhouse, I noticed that one of the cows
seemed somewhat agitated. At first, I thought nothing of it and continued to At first my son was hesitant to accept my challenge, but with further
complete our errand. prodding on my part he accepted. I also added that the stories he related also
include my brother, because if he were not present in the story he could not
When we reached the farmhouse, a lady opened the door before we could verify their authenticity. Though reluctant at first, my son asked Steve, “Uncle
knock and asked, “May I help you boys?” We told her very politely what our Steve did you and my father have an incident in New York state regarding a
need was and she took our cooler and filled it to the brim. We thanked her bull that could have injured or killed my dad?”
politely for the water and proceeded to return across the field to our picnic site.
Steve looked at his nephew with a smile on his face and stated that it
As Steve and I were about to cross the field, I became concerned about was absolutely true. He also stated, “Here I thought I had gotten away with
the agitated cow. So, I said to my brother, “Look Steve, if that cow makes something, until I saw the look on my father’s face. It was not the look of
any advances toward us, I would make noises to distract him so you would anger, but one of fear and dread of what could have happened to your dad.
have a chance to get to safety on the other side of the fence.” I also added, Our father emphasized that we are brothers and have to look out for each
“Steve once your safe please make some noise to distract the cow so I can other, especially if we are in trouble.” Steve continued, “As I am thinking of
get to safety.” He replied, “Okay Larry I’ll do it.” this incident I can still feel the cuff on the back of my head as a reminder of
that lesson.”
Well, the first part of my plan worked like clockwork. The only problem
was that once Steve was safe, he just stood there and laughed watching me “Is it true,” Larry asked, “that both my grandparents taught you and my
trying to outrun and escape this cow. Somebody in heaven or my guardian dad the story about the hand and its relationship to the family?” Steve again
angel must have been looking out for me. Next to the fence was a large rock, answered that it was true. “Did grandpa actually take the family to the Cape
which I headed for and once I got there, I leaped using the two gallon water Cod National Seashore to play king of the mountain?” Again Steve said it
cooler as extra impetus to carry me over the fence. was true, in fact he added, “Your dad, my brother Eddy, my sisters Kathy
and Terry and I would try to knock down our father from the top of the sand
Needless to say, I landed on soft wet and mushy ground covering my pants dunes. This was our dad’s way of teaching us that we are a family and should
and shirt in mud. always unite as one.”

The Moment Of Truth Steve also stated, “I believe that every summer weekend dad took us to
Cape Cod to go swimming at Old Silver Beach. No matter whatever plans
By Lawrence E. Correia we made for ourselves, they had to be canceled, because our dad demanded
I am a proud father of a 35-year-old son, who is a very talented young that we spend the weekend as a family.”
artist. His work is done on canvas, paper, wood and glass. Although we live
a continent apart from each other (He lives in Portland, Oregon and I in My son (Larry) took in all that my brother said and then slowly looked
Fort Lauderdale, Florida) we are still close and contact each other by phone toward me. His eyes were wide with amazement and his lower jaw sagged
regularly. Today my son trusts and believes what I tell him as truths designed as he slowly turned his head from side to side. He said, “Dad I guess I have
to help and guide him. to believe you. I only thought they were stories to entertain, but now I realize
This was not always true. There was a time, in my son’s teenage years, they are true. I only thought you were a teacher who had an uneventful life.
when he thought the stories, I told him were fairy tales to entertain him when Instead you are an amazing dad who I have to believe in.”
he was younger. He felt his dad, who was a schoolteacher, wouldn’t have
experienced all these things. Remember my son was a teenager and these This Thanksgiving dinner not only brought my family together but also
stories had to be fairy tales. I have often wondered how many parents had strengthened the bond between myself and my son.
experienced this dilemma, in relation to their children.
My son’s moment of truth occurred in November 1999. It happened WHAT A GREAT DAY.

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I was so angry with my brother that I said, “Steve I am going to kill you full circle. This incident taught my brother and I three very important lessons:
and then beat the living daylights out of you.” I proceeded to chase him all 1st - My siblings are the closest individuals in my life, 2nd - We need to
the way back to the picnic area where he hid behind my father for protection. always be protective and caring for one another and 3rd - Whenever you do
When my father saw how muddy I was, asked, “Larry tell me what happened something wrong and think you’re getting away with it, remember what goes
and why are you so angry with your brother?” around has a nasty habit of smacking you right in the kisser.

Told my dad what had happened, and he believed my story but felt that This year (2013) for my 70th birthday, my four brothers and four sisters
since my brother and I are city folk, that we were probably chased by a calf. gathered to pay me an honor as the patriarch of the family, both our parents
are now with the Almighty. It is amazing that in this crazy cockeyed world,
All through lunch I glared at my brother and wanted to wring his neck. with my family spread thousands of miles apart, we can happily find the time
My father sensed my anger and decided to end this foolishness after lunch. to gather to celebrate our unity as a family.
It took a while to pack food, equipment and people back into station wagon,
but once that was accomplished, we started down the road. When we reached Growing Old
the area of the field, my father asked, “Larry which animal chased you?” I By Lil Miller
pointed out the agitated cow, he then asked Steve if this was the animal and Growing old with aches and pains of long ago. It’s not so bad when you
my brother smiling said, “Yes.” think of how you got there! A world of wisdom and knowledge of long ago,
brought tears, sadness and joy – make it all able to bare.
My father did something I had never seen him do before. He slammed on A marriage of would have been 76 years – 56 years that you and hubby
the brakes and stopped the car, turned around and cuffed my brother on the enjoyed! ‘1945’ a marriage in heaven as the bomb was dropped on Japan! It
top of his head. In a face showing both fear and dread, he said, “Steve don’t was a time of sadness, poverty, sacrifices and love to hold this land we all love.
you ever leave your brother stranded in a field, that is a bull, Larry could Against aggressors of waring worlds, Japan and Germany – I am a survivor.
have been killed.” “Your brothers and sisters are the closest beings on this Our aches and pains of today are just an afterglow to all those who remember
earth to you. Don’t you ever forget that.” My father turned in his seat and when! We have earned the right to grow old. I am reaching 93 years is not so
proceeded to drive without uttering another word, yet his face showed the old! Smile…Smile…I love you…
intense fear of the possibility of losing was for him.

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By Diana Stone, M.A., Wellness Consultant and Inspirational Writer and Speaker

LIGHTEN UP!
“My choice of a lighter lifestyle has brought me a greater sense of well- down on my hands and knees to REALLY clean. I wanted to wipe down every

being. In a world that often seems stressful and chaotic, that’s a feeling I inch of the baseboards of my closet. This desire to clean was new to me. I

cherish.” like the feeling AFTER a good cleaning but I am not generally drawn to clean

― Lisa J. Shultz, Lighter Living: Declutter. Organize. Simplify. for cleanings sake! Yet somehow the spaces I cleaned felt more expansive

Dear Reader, and more sacred and I wanted to honor these spaces by vowing to only put

Recently I went mad. I couldn’t find a particular file I wanted and it caused things back in that I truly loved and in a manner that I could access with ease.
me to feel completely crazy. Afterall, I thought I was fairly organized so So, I started labeling…. Winter Gear… Family videos…. Fancy purses….
when the file I wanted wasn’t in the first five places I looked, it occurred to
me that either my filing system had gone awry or I was losing my mind or Children’s artwork…. I wondered if I was about to start a new twist on Marie
Kondo-ing my life’s possessions. But she is way more systematic and gentler

both! Instead of taking my usual advice of taking a nap, meditating or going than I was. I was working at a feverish pace as if the clock was ticking (well

for a walk to gain some perspective, I decided to delve deep into my panic. my husband was only gone for 24 hours!) and I wanted instant results and

Ironically the panic wasn’t from missing the file I was originally looking for instant gratification. Happily, I got both! I was on some sort of adrenaline

but more about feeling out of control of my own belongings. I can no longer rush that kept me on task and focused. I do recall caffeine was involved! (I

blame any disorganization on toddlers running about or lack of sleep. My knew it was short lived so I indulged in a few espressos!).
children are older, and I sleep well. I began pulling out every filing cabinet My closets and drawers are now organized, labeled and CLEAN! My filing

I own. I opened every drawer: I began dismantling my closet. It was as if a cabinets have been updated and I’ve let go of so much STUFF. This obsession

power greater than myself was leading this unearthing of my every possession. to have everything clean and tidy and organized has extended into my kitchen.

It helped that my husband had just gone out of town. I prefer to go mad My pantry and refrigerator have never looked better.

without an audience. He would surely notice that everything that was once With all of these changes, I feel more alive, more clear-headed and more

behind cupboards, closets and drawers was now out in the open as if I was present. I can’t exactly explain how or why I got so extremely triggered but

about to host the biggest indoor garage sale ever. I am so grateful that I was. If you get an urge to purge, surrender to it and

Oddly, I spotted the missing file about 30 minutes into my excavation. But LET IT GO! You will be amazed by how liberating it is! With love, Diana

I couldn’t stop myself. More aptly, I didn’t want to stop. Somehow taking Diana Stone, M.A., is a Wellness Consultant and inspirational writer

everything out of everywhere felt liberating. I loved seeing empty closets, and speaker. Connect with her at [email protected] or www.

empty drawers. I felt I could breathe deeper. Then I wanted to clean. Like dianalynnstone.com

Scammers Will Take Advantage Of Coronavirus Concerns
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Now that brings us to vaccines. As of the time I’m writing this, there I promised a few paragraphs above this that I’d explain what “phishing” was

is no vaccine for the Coronavirus. So if anyone contacts you to explain and now it’s time to do just that. Phishing basically means that the scammers

they have a vaccine, and they want a certain amount of money for it, will send you something, usually an email, and try to get you to “click” on it
in order to try and gain access to your computer. They can also “phish” you
it’s a scam. I’m sure once a vaccine is developed, it’ll be all over CNN, by asking you all sorts of questions, hoping you’ll take the bait in the sense
that you’ll give them a piece or two of information they can use to steal your
MSNBC, and FOX News so you won’t miss it. But until then, just un- identity. They may “phish” you by trying to get you to confirm your bank ac-
count number for example. The bottom line is, if you use any type of email,
derstand that any claim of a vaccine is a scam. don’t accept any messages, or click on anything, that you don’t know. If it’s
a strange looking email that you weren’t expect to get- which, quite frankly,
The fraudsters are also trying to hijack the names of all the big health most of them are- don’t open it.
organizations that we do hear a lot about on the TV news, some of those
being the Centers for Disease Control [CDC], and the World Health
Organization [WHO]. Neither of those organizations are sending direct

messaging to us, the folks, at this time. They’re relying on the media The important thing to remember is to do your homework. Listen to cred-

and their websites to do the messaging. The CDC’s website is www. ible sources. Never panic. The fraudsters always seek to take advantage of

cdc.gov. WHO’s website is www.who.int. hysterical people.

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From The Other Side Of The Couch
By Merri Goldberg

LONELINESS...PART 2

At the end of the column last month, about important people in your life who are no longer here. This can occur
immediately or sometimes years later. That is not unusual. It may help
I said that I had expected this to be a to focus on the good times together and all for the things you gained in
the relationship. Perhaps talking or reminiscing with someone who knew
brief article with the premise “if you them. Other ideas from Wynmoor residents include making a gratitude
list. Another resident stressed, knowing tomorrow would be better. Some
feel loneliness go out and meet other suggested watching a TV show that felt like a guilty pleasure you normally
would not have time for like The Bachelor or Hallmark.
people.” I soon found that this was far
Step out of your comfort zone and try new things or join a new group or
too simple, and the article got far too long. Although I don’t usually continue club. It’s hard to enter a place where you know no one. But others in the
group feel that way too. Remember your list and what you can bring to the
a topic, last month we looked at the fact that almost everyone has felt lonely group. You can find others who share your interest and in any case you will
be enjoying the activity. Volunteering may be one of the best ways to meet
at some points in their life. AARP wrote of loneliness as a growing epidemic new people. Programs at the mentoring programs at local schools, which
enable you to give back to the community and feel like you are getting
with serious emotional and physical consequences. Some scientists are something done. You may find other volunteers have similar interests to
yours. You will be doing acts of kindness and will be seeing the kindness
exploring developing drugs to deal with loneliness. So…. what can we do in others.

when we feel lonely? Here are some suggestions from publications, my Learn to value your alone time. Slow down. Go to a special place
and meditate and reconnect with yourself. Follow your breathing. Do
own thoughts, and ideas from Wynmoor residents on how to deal with this something for or with yourself that you enjoy. Take a nap in a sunny place
significant problem. without worrying about what you should be doing. Take positive stock of
your connections and the ones who help you value yourself. Remember a
First realize you are not alone. Loneliness is being referred to as an special place or time in your life. Eat something special made for you alone.
epidemic with millions of others feeling the same. Perhaps a significant Then... reach out.
part of the problem is that when we feel lonely, we usually feel bad about
From the other side of the couch, “Can seeing a therapist help deal with
ourselves, may feel like we are a loser, and may stop reaching out which is a the problem of loneliness?”

position of safety, but only makes things worse. At that time, loneliness may I believe that therapy can be an incredible “graduate school education”
in learning about yourself. But it is also a time when, if the therapeutic
be seen as a permanent state of mind rather than a temporary one, and you relationship is working, you sit across from someone who understands you,
may feel immobilized. Rest assured, it is not a permanent state. values you and has your best interests at heart. This part of the therapy
process, although confined to the hour time together, cannot solve the
What else to do about it? CBT or cognitive behavioral therapy has been problem but can have a huge impact on loneliness, on understanding yourself
and feeling better. Often, this one hour a week, can have a significant impact
suggested as a way of examining the assumptions and beliefs that lead to on deepening and strengthening outside relationships.

these feelings. A home remedy-one resident suggested, writing a list of all

of your good qualities and why someone would want to be with you. Sound
silly? Maybe not, and this list may help jar the immobilized feelings. Realize
this may be a time to make changes and think about whether there are any

additional ways to connect. Contact old friends and work on deepening

old relationships. In junior high school and high school feeling good about

yourself, feeling “popular,” often centered around how big your group of
friends was. Now we realize that you can feel lonely even in a large group
of acquaintances. Look for two, three or four really good friends who share

your interests, ideas, beliefs and values, who are there for you, and who
believe in you. Know that is enough. Realize it is not the quantity of social
interactions but the quality.

Feelings of loneliness can seem to come out of the blue as you think

If you find mistakes in this publication,
PLEASE consider that they are there for a purpose.

We publish something for everyone, and some people

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SUPPER CLUB
By Lynne List
Due to Wynmoor’s lockdown, the Dinner Theater show had to be cancelled.
We were all very sorry and disappointed but our health came first. Arrangements
were made to reimburse ticket holders. Though this was sad news, there is good
news to come. The show for next year has been revealed. The production will
be that wonderful, hysterical musical “Nunsense.”  This is a show everyone
will enjoy.  Watch for the announcement of the dates and details for the sale of
tickets. Hopefully, next year, we will be able to present the drama also. At the
moment, the thoughts are to produce “The Graduate.” You all remember Dustin
Hoffman in the movie. So next year looks like a real winner. Snowbirds, we bid
you a fond farewell. Travel home in safety and health and come back in the fall
in health. Have a wonderful summer.

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Dance Club38
By Tamara Tresniowski

On February 10th we had our Valentine’s Day Dance. We learned the On March 2nd, we had our Hawaiian Night. We learned the Hula. A
Bachata. A fun time was had by all who attended. fun time was had by all that attended.

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Dear Dr. Joy...
By Joy Berke Sanchez, PhD

What habits do you have? What is a habit meeting. Most people are not familiar with this rare neurological disease
anyway? The definition we’ll be using for this and its worse counterpart CIDP, but I had GBS 15 months ago and wanted to
article is any behavior that is done repeatedly volunteer to help the foundation and also have some of my questions about
and automatically that is not under direction of residual issues answered. There were quite a few people present and all were
our autonomic nervous system. So breathing, eager to discuss their experiences, I had a somewhat difficult time relating
although repeatedly and automatically is not on a personal level to the CIPD patients and don’t really know what they
part of what is included here today. So what is included? The obvious were going through. But the GBS people, some of whom were 40 years past
things like smoking, drinking, obsessive eating, gambling, shopping, etc. their acute stage and dealing with many issues, I did understand. However,
of course. But what about things like complaining, sadness, depression that what I found very interesting was the difference in peoples’ attitudes about
is not biochemically produced, anger, worrying, anxiety, negative thinking, issues that many years later were still problematic. Some only wanted to
hypochondria and many others that I can’t think of offhand. On the other side talk about and complain about what was happening to them while others
of that are fun things to do, positivity, smiling, loving others and yourself, with sometimes worse symptoms were feeling blessed and appreciative that
exercise, creative outlets, inner peace and an overall sense of enjoying life. they were in better shape than they were while the disease was active. One
These are all habits. of them even said that they refuse to give in to habitual complaining since
I was speaking to a woman this morning who told me that she worries it cannot help them feel better while appreciating how far they have come
about everything and everyone and that she was just born that way. I actually alleviated some of their pain. Of course the complainers wanted
disagreed and said that I saw her constant worry as a habitual, automatic to once again argue for their limitations and decided that the appreciators
response to almost any situation in her life and that it could be consciously weren’t really dealing with symptoms as debilitating and painful as theirs.
and deliberately changed if she wanted. Another person who thought as I That was the most fascinating part of the meeting for me and of course
did, joined the conversation and said some things that I would probably supported my belief that we create our own reality, especially our feeling
not say to anyone who was not a client. She told the woman that she was reality, by the thoughts we think and the attitudes we hold.
fighting for and defending her limitations and making herself a victim. The
conversation between them got heated and I removed myself from it. It did, If you think you would like to change something you do or feel
however, lead me to think about the habit of worry and anxiety. Was it a automatically, give it a try and let me know what happens. It could happen
default position that over time became her habitual go-to emotion and could very quickly or take a little time. It depends on you. When I realize I am the
it be changed by deliberate intent? I have a position on this but I’d really creator of my own reality it’s very difficult to complain and I feel so much
think it would be great if you all thought about it and decided for yourself. better about everything. I get better and better at it but still can slide back
Another thing I experienced was attending a Guillain-Barre chapter and I’ve been knowing this for over 40 years so be patient with yourself
and keep at it.

Traffic Violations
The speed limit on Wynmoor Circle is 25 mph. The speed limit in the villages is 15mph.
There is absolutely NO PASSING on Wynmoor Circle and all STOP SIGNS MUST BE

observed by residents and guests. All residents and guests are required to abide by

Wynmoor Rules and Regulations.

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Clubs and Activities
Billiard & Pool Club There is also a club member’s newsletter, “The Focus,” that will display
club member’s photos, club activities, and informative articles.
By Bob Horowitz
Wynmoor residents can join the Wynmoor Billiards and Pool Club We encourage people with beginner skills through advanced skills to
to participate in additional fun events. Past events included; Karaoke enjoy and share the benefits of a photography club, and to gain experience
Night, Comedy Club Night, Group BBQ & Dance, Club Pool & Billiard and knowledge to help each other grow in order to achieve and promote
Tournaments, and other social events. photography’s excellence and fun.
Wynmoor Pool and Billiard Club activities are open only to Club members Yearly membership is $10 per person, $15 for married couples. New to the
and their guests*. Any resident can join for $5 per year. For more information club? First meeting is FREE! We will hold small group meetings during the
about the Pool and Billiard Club, to join our e-mail list or to sign up for an off-season. 
event or meeting; email [email protected], or come into the
room and look for event sign-up sheets. You can also join our Facebook Come join us! For more info., call Nancy Landman at 954-979-9894.
page “Wynmoor Poolclub” To join the club; come to a meeting or put your
information, and dues, in an envelope which you can place in the locked Ceramic Club
mailbox located in the poolroom.
Pool Lessons: Put your information, name & phone number, in the locked By Maralyn Deieso
mailbox located in the Poolroom or email us at: Wynmoorpoolclub@gmail. All residents are welcome to stop at the Ceramic Club and get a tour of
com, to schedule lessons. Lessons are Free for Wynmoor Pool & Billiard our Studio by one of our Librarians on duty. We do this Monday through
Club Members only. Thursday from 9:00 a.m. - 12:00 p.m. If you are interested, you can sign up
Wynmoor Pool & Billiard Room: All residents and their guests* are and you will receive a phone call to tell you when the next class will start.
welcome to play at the Wynmoor Billiards and Pool Room located in the Our next meeting will be October 14th in Clubroom A at 9:00 a.m. Please
Wynmoor Country Club building, next to the Library. Boasting 14 tournament mark your calendar. For those leaving us for the summer, have a safe trip and
grade regulation size Pool Tables, 4 heated Billiard Tables and one regulation see you when you return. “Keep Smiling.”
Snooker Table.
This club has been called the best Pool, Billiard, and Snooker venue, public Chess Club Wants You Back In The Game
or private, in all South Florida. Players of all skill levels are welcome. The
room is open 7 days a week from 8:00 a.m. to 12:00 Midnight. By Hillel Cohen
Women’s Pool Team The MzCues: Explore a new activity, make new Did you play chess years ago? Do you play chess on a computer from time
friends and have fun in our AC Poolroom. This is for beginners and advanced to time? Why not get back to the game with real, live, friendly players. The
players. Join us Tuesday’s from 3:00 - 5:00 p.m. All Pool & Billiard Club Chess Club meets every Tuesday from 6:30 - 9:00 p.m. in Card Room I at
Members and their guests* are welcome! the Clubhouse. All levels of players are welcome. There are no membership
*All Events are Free only for Wynmoor Pool & Billiard Club Members dues, no entrance fees and no commitments — just friendly games with
and their guests. Guests must register and pay a guest fee. Non-members can friendly people. Boards and pieces are provided and everyone who wants
join at any event for $5 per year. to play will get a chance. It’s never too late to get back into the game and it
won’t hurt a bit to try.  If you just want to watch, that’s okay too. Consider it
fun exercise—for the brain.

Bocce Clay Sculpture Club

By Lucia Catone By Dolores Nosal
The sport can be played several times a week - Tuesday afternoons from Come play in the clay with us! We’re a group of clay sculpture artists,
3:00 - 6:00 p.m., Wednesday, Thursday and Saturday mornings from 8:00 from beginner to professional and all newcomers are welcome. We’ll even
a.m. -12:00 p.m. If you are interested, it’s very easy to play. We supply FREE provide you with your first piece of clay for free while it lasts. No experience
lessons, balls and lots of fun! necessary. There’s usually someone in the Studio on Tuesday from about
COME and JOIN us at the Bocce Court; it’s only $5 annual membership. 11:00 a.m. to 1:00 or 2:00 p.m.; also Friday Saturday at about the same time,
If you have any questions, contact our President, Shane Moore. or contact Batya at [email protected] or 561-558-3229. The Studio is at
the back of the Main Clubhouse, behind the Billiard Room. Dues are $10 per
Bookies year. Hope to see you there.

By Rhoda Becker Contract Bridge at Wynmoor
We meet the first Tuesday evening of each month, at 7:00 p.m. in Ballroom
C at the Country Club. By Phillip Cummins
It is amazing how personally rewarding it can be to share with others who There are many options for playing duplicate bridge at Wynmoor each week.
have read the same book. We all entertain questions and concerns about an In Duplicate Bridge, a bridge hand is preserved in a holding board, so that the
author’s handling of plot, characters, outcomes, etc. We, at Bookies, attempt to same hand can be played multiple times. This allows for comparative scoring
answer these issues by challenging ourselves to provide our own conclusions. and so it rewards good play rather than just luck. Otherwise, Duplicate Bridge
We welcome YOUR input. Join us. We are open to all Wynmoor residents. is just Contract Bridge, a familiar and very popular card game.
Questions? Call Myrna at 754-231-6368. There are two kinds of duplicate games held at Wynmoor. First, there are
ACBL sanctioned games on Mondays and Wednesdays at 6:45 p.m. (please
Bridge arrive by 6:30 p.m.) and Fridays at 12:45 p.m. (12:30 p.m., please). Second,
there are social duplicate games on Tuesdays and Fridays at 12:30 p.m.
By Phillip Cummins (12:15 p.m., please). Both kinds of Duplicate Bridge games are held in the
There are many options for playing bridge at Wynmoor each week. There East Wing and are organized by the Wynmoor Bridge Club. For help finding
are ACBL sanctioned games on Monday and Wednesdays at 7:00 p.m. There a partner, contact Ruth Berry at 954-970-3456. Remember that arriving a bit
is a Friday game at 12:30 p.m. in the West Wing. Plan to bring lunch and join early helps the director organize the game. Also, please note that currently
others for an informal question and answer session with the director from there is Supervised Play for newer players on Friday mornings at 10:00 a.m.
11:30 a.m. - 12:15 p.m. The Saturday afternoon games have been suspended
until further notice, as has the Saturday morning mentoring program. There Conservative Club
are also social duplicate games on Tuesdays and Fridays at 12:30 p.m. in
the East Wing. There is a Bridge lesson on Fridays at noon. Two notes: For By Perri Cohen
a partner call Ruth Barry at 954-970-3456. Also, please remember to arrive Everyone is welcome to attend. No matter what side of the aisle you may
fifteen minutes before game time to help the director organize the game. sit on our meetings are meant to be informative and up to date with current
events. Refreshments are served, a 50/50 raffle is offered. Any questions
Camera Club please feel free to contact me at 954-579-3118.

By Nancy Landman Current Events Club
Membership is open to all Wynmoor residents with an interest in
photography, regardless of their skill level or type of camera. The club offers By Susan Myers
instructional programming, entertaining multi-media presentations, informal Please join us weekly as we discuss current topics that are important to
critiques, field trips, and small group mentoring. all of our members and friends. Topics include politics, events within the

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Clubs and Activities
Wynmoor community and around the world. We meet every Tuesday from Health & Wellness Club
11:00 a.m. until 12:00 p.m. in the Multi-Purpose room located by the Main
Pool. Our discussions are varied and informative and you can join us for a By Hope Myers
group lunch following each meeting. No charge for Members, Guest fees are $3. Any questions and information
call Hope Myers 954-971-9538.
A special dedication goes to our former chairperson, Daisy Sheridan, who
led this group for many years. Her memory is a blessing for all who knew her. Ladies Circle

Dance Club By Jo Bakalar
In May, we will meet Debbie Silverman, daughter of Gerri Silverman.
By Tamara Tresniowski She has written a book entitled Protecting the Rabbit Ears Generation. This
Membership is $5. Entry is $1 for Members and $3 for Guests. Coffee book describes true stories of frauds and scams committed against seniors
and cake are served each week. Come join us. and contains tips on how to protect your family. Come listen to Debbie, share
her stories, and learn how to be aware of the latest scams.
Democratic Club If you would like to know more about the Ladies Circle, please contact our
President Harriet Lopez at 954-960-9411.
By Stan Grossman
The Democratic Club of Wynmoor meets on the first Tuesday of the month Latin Women’s Club
in the Clubhouse Ballroom at 2:00 p.m. Please come and join us. We have
very interesting speakers, discussions and sometimes, debates. Please come By Minerva Nazario
and join us. Bring a friend. The Latin Women’s Club meets the last Tuesday of each month from 2:00
- 4:00 p.m. in Classroom 4 of the East Wing. Our dues are $15 per year.
Eastern European Club Refreshments served. All our meetings are held in the Spanish language.
For those celebrating a birthday or anniversary this month, we wish you
By Antol Nisen good health, peace & love, and many more years to celebrate. For more
We are happy to announce that the Eastern European Club will be meeting information about the club please call Ms. Minerva Nazario at 954-532-3156.
every 2nd Sunday of the month in the Grand Ballroom A. Join us for
some fun, dancing, happy times, and new-found friends. We are calling all Nature and Arts Club
Wynmoor residents from the former Soviet Union, etc. to come and party
together. All of our meetings are conducted in Russian. Membership dues are By Elinor Weinstein
$10, annually. We are happy that so many new residents decided to join our Nature and Arts Club...Breakfast Meetings…Exciting Monthly Programs…
club. Call for information 954-975-8176 or email easteuroclub@gmail. com. Interesting Trips…
I look forward to hearing from you. Nancy Moskowitz, President at
Fishing Club [email protected] or 954-973-2181.

By Eddie Kopple Needlework Click
Everything is winding down. We are having our closing dinner at the
Texas Roadhouse. By Barbara Bilello
All members, please make sure we have your e-mail address, so we can If you are new to Wynmoor and want to make new friends come and check
keep you informed of what is happening in the months you are not here. us out. We are a friendly group of ladies always looking to make new friends.
We wish our snowbirds a safe trip home. Enjoy your summer. We hope to You don’t have to know how to knit or crochet. Come and see what we do!
see you when you come back. As of now, our first meeting will be October Some of our ladies love to chat and everyone is welcome.
5th, subject to change. We will keep you informed. If you have yarn that you know longer need we will gladly pick it up. Call
For the rest of us who will be here, we will like to get together once a Barbara 754-222-6375. Hope to see you all there!
month at Bistro 19, (pay for yourself). We will e-mail time and date. Just let
us know who is staying in Wynmoor. Any questions, call Eddie 215-429- Pennsylvania Club
6138 or Sue 954-933-3991. If you leave a message use code word fishing.
By Marilynn Stoloff
Fun With Friends The Pennsylvania Club meets at 10:00 a.m. in the West Wing. We want
to know what your summer plans and vacations will look like. We started
By Lou Kravitz arranging our yearly Pizza party. Details to be announced.
Any questions, call Lou Kravitz 646-864-7568. Thanks to everyone, we
have had a great season... Pickleball Club

Hadassah By Mayda Coombs
Our snowbirds have started heading back north. Where did the time go?
By Toby Gordon Could it be that we’ve had so much fun this season that it just flew by? March
To all of our snowbirds who are starting to journey to your summer home, was packed with loads of fun. We had a great turnout, forty-four participants
have a safe journey, stay healthy and return to us ready to start our season played in the March tournament. The matches were a lot of fun to watch and
with a bang! The Program Chairpeople are busy working on next season’s everyone had a great time. Our club celebrated our oldest members birthday.
agenda and they promise a full season of varied programs. Any suggestions Joe Kupferberg turned 92 and still plays Pickleball every day.
are welcome. Please speak to Ronnie Weber at 954-979-5693 or Toby Bindler Pickleball is great exercise and loads of fun. If you would like to learn how
at 954-979-1860 with your ideas. Your input is most welcome! to play, we give FREE lessons to Wynmoor residents on Mondays, 3:00 - 5:00
SORRY, the Spring Luncheon was sold out. All those who attended had p.m. We even supply the paddles and balls. Come on down to the courts to
a wonderful time. To those that were not able to attend due to the sell-out, see what you’re missing.
next year please get your reservations in faster! Even with some of the snowbirds leaving, the fun doesn’t stop. We will be
SAVE THESE DATES: Our next Card Party is June 3rd. Natalie Gorelick having another BYO Dinner on the 17th. For more information check out the
at 954-984-1673 can be contacted for further information or find our flyer bulletin boards in the pavilion at the Racket Center.
on the carousel outside of the business office. Better yet - form your table If your interest in becoming a member the dues are only $10 per person
and let Natalie know to reserve one in your name when you call. The cost for the year.
of an afternoon of food, fun, and of course, your favorite game is still $18,
which includes your dairy box lunch. Pottery Club
REMINDER: Please support Hadassah by purchasing certificates for any
occasion from Bernice Riback. She can be reached by calling 954-984-1703. By Bob Simco
Trees for any occasion may be purchased through Beverly Alexander who This year’s upcoming class offerings include a New Member Orientation
can be reached at 954-969-1701. Beautiful cards for all occasions may be with Donna Kozlowski, a full day workshop entitled “Treasures of the
obtained through Lenae Herman who is reachable at 954-657-8579. Your Clay Studio,” Basics of Wheel Throwing taught by Susan Vladeck, Teapots
support is greatly appreciated. Constructed with Slabs taught by Carmen Martins, Construction of Handles,

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Handles and More Handles taught by Dan Listwan, Tessellation (repeat Wynmoor Golf Association
patterns for surface decoration) taught by Jan Miller and Soft Slab Boxes
taught by Diane Karmiol. By Rich D’Alessandris
October 27-29th will be our outing to the Marriott Hutchinson Island Hotel.
If these opportunities peak your interest and you like the idea of getting your Information and sign-up sheet will be available in the Golf Shop.
hands covered with cool, wet clay you may want to contact our membership As always, we welcome new members. For more information, please call
chairman Bob Simco via email at [email protected]. Bob will happily or stop by the Pro Shop.
answer your questions on prospective membership.
Wynmoor High Roller Bowling League
We are a friendly, welcoming group of potters at all levels of experience.
Often it is our own experienced members that teach and nurture those new By Angela Hirshenson
to working with clay. We meet at AMF Bowling Alley, State Road 7, Margate. We are a senior
league and bowl for 32 weeks on Tuesdays. Come join us and have some fun.
Shuffleboard Club All Wynmoor residents are welcome. For more information, contact Angela
Hirshenson at 954-917-6961.
By Michele Epstein
The club hours are Monday and Saturdays at 10:00 a.m. and Thursdays Wynmoor Hurricane Emergency Net
at 7:00 p.m. Dues for the 2020 season have remained the same at $5 for the
year. See Marion Ridley about getting a new membership form and then By Gerry Stoloff
turn it in with the $5 Dues. OK, everyone, this is your final warning: Please turn in your radios at the
Security Office, any weekday between 9:00 a.m. - 12:00 p.m., from now until
Stone Sculpture Club Tax Day, April 15th. This is so that members of the Wynmoor Amateur Radio
Club can thoroughly test & tune all radios for the coming hurricane season.
By Gilbert Savitzky Save the date – Monday, June 22nd at 9:00 a.m. – for the WHEN Kick-off
We welcome our new members. We are offering classes of two sessions, 2 Meeting. As usual, it will be held in Grand Ballroom C. Wynmoor is again
hours each to get you started on your adventure in stone. Anyone interested providing the breakfast!
in trying their hand carving stone, please contact Gil Savitzky at 954-979- Following that meeting, you’ll be able to claim radios for next season’s on-
0774. Explore the ancient art of stone carving and meet some of the most air check-ins. Remember, this is the ONLY in-person group training meeting;
talented neighbors you will ever have. after that, all contact will be over the radios.
Be sure to view our display in the glass showcase at the clubhouse, To any newcomers, welcome. The purpose of this group is to provide
opposite the Medical Office. These are just some examples of the talented emergency communications to Security, Police or Fire Rescue after a
artists working in marble, alabaster, soapstone, etc. We meet on Wednesdays hurricane comes through and power is out for an extended period. Consider
at 10:00 a.m., and the room is available to members on other days as well. this: After 24 hours without AC power, all your phones (Comcast, AT&T
Fiber Optic, or cellphone) will have run out of power. If your elevator is
Tennis Club kaput and you can’t call anyone, WHEN volunteers are your last point of
emergency contact!
By Shelly Propper You don’t need prior experience: Wynmoor loans you a CB radio and
Join us for upcoming tournaments, lessons, breakfasts on Wednesday antenna for your car, and we’ll teach you proper communications practices
mornings and of course our regular round robins on Monday, Wednesday and & net discipline. Last year, over 20 people joined for the first time, so you’ll
Friday mornings at 8:00 a.m. We still have an Active Night Tennis Group on be in good company.
Monday, Tuesday and Thursday evenings beginning at 6:30 p.m. We are so So, everyone, please give Sue a present, by turning in your radio to Security
happy to see the courts buzzing again. We will play tennis first, then meet soon! If you’re unable to do so, please contact Gerry Stoloff at 954-973-4899.
where we will serve coffee and don’t forget dues are due. It’s only $12 for
the season.

Wynmoor Amateur Radio Club WLGA Wynmoor Ladies Golf Association

By Gerry Stoloff By Karen Beckman
We meet every Friday morning at 9:00 a.m. in the Multi-Purpose Room all WLGA members are looking forward to a beautiful spring to enjoy sunshine
year round. At 10:00 a.m., we move to the “Ham Shack” located in Room and friendship on Tuesday mornings. If you are a lady golfer, stop in at the
118 on the West end of the Administration Building, so that we can conduct Pro Shop for information on our organization and available tee times. We
our “on-the-air” Snowbird Net – keeping our seasonal members current on would love to have you join us. The March championships are completed,
Wynmoor activities. and our Winners were:
We’re still working on wiring the “Shack” for higher speed Internet to Championship flight, 1st place Jeannie Lee, Runner up, Barbara Hyer • “A”
feed the two HP desktop PCs. Wi-Fi signals from the neighboring access flight, 1st place Gloria Penberth, Runner up, Jamie Kuchuk • “B” flight, 1st
points are being blocked by our concrete & metal walls, so we’re just going place Carol Skop, Runner up Lorraine Dunleavy.
to have to get creative. All were honored at our joint annual banquet held Mid-March. It was great
We’re also going to be busy for the next month as we’re testing the CB fun joining the Men’s league for dancing and celebrating. Golf Grin: There
radios & their antennas for this hurricane season’s Wynmoor Hurricane are two kinds of bounces... a bad bounce, and a bounce just the way you
Emergency Net (WHEN), starting on July 8th. meant to play it!
Visiting Amateur operators are welcome to operate from our station,
just bring a copy of your “ticket” (license) along with you. Of course, we Wynmoor Video & Film Club
welcome you to join WARC – no dues charged, and you get your own key
to the Shack! By Phil Guterman
For further information, please contact Gerry Stoloff WA3HDI at 954- We meet the third Thursday of every month at 10:00 a.m. in the Video
973-4899. Room located opposite the West Wing. We are always ready to tape a short
script that you may have which involves 3 or 4 actors maximum. We’re also
JOIN A CLUB prepared to tape any of your club’s activities. We can help if you’ve taken
video on your cell phone and would like to put it on our computer and use
our sophisticated editing system where we can add music, narration, sound
effects and color correct any over or under exposure.

FREE POOL/BILLIARD LESSONS
By Bob Horowitz
Ralph Rubin, Wynmoor Pool & Billiard Club Tournament Director is available for lessons from beginner to the advanced
player.
To sign up for FREE lessons put your information (Name & Phone Number) in an envelope which you can place in the
locked mailbox located in the Poolroom or e-mail us at [email protected]
There is no cost for lessons for all Pool & Billiard Club Members. Membership is $5/year.

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On Wednesday, April 22nd, we are going on an outing to the Morikami Mu-
seum and Gardens. Morikami is considered the only museum in the United

States dedicated to the living culture of Japan. Morikami offers Lush tropical

gardens   and one trip you don›t want to leave your camera   behind
for. Join us for a docent-led tour with Lunch included. Cost-$42.

CClaumbera
By Nancy Landman

Spoonbill
Adele Berenstein

Trees of a Feather
Ari Hochman

Elec Trick
Norman Cohen

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POETRY

A Has-Been or A Never-Was?

By Larry Band
Here next following is my latest buzz
Activating my mind in a moment serene
Concluding that it’s better to be a has-been
Than a never-was.
What’s the difference? You ask.
A has-been engages in and completes life’s task
And at the end of his time here on this earth
He leaves a legacy of some value and worth.
But a never-was, although physically and

mentally present
Rarely experiences Mankind’s rhythmic rise and

descent,
On any plane other than his own self-

aggrandizement
And rejects helping others as a needless

impediment
To the vision of his selfish and empty fulfillment.
So, is it better to be the former than the latter?
The vicissitudes of life as seen through history
Is descriptive of Mankind’s repetitive joys and

misery
And as such, suggests that it really doesn’t

matter.
But I disagree, as to me it does.
I cannot exist as a never-was
It is in my genes to live fully and altruistically in

my skin
As I did in the past, but do now as a retired

happy has-been.

My Lighthouse

To my wife on International
Women’s Day, March 8th

By Larry Band
She is my own, my very own,
Her heart, her smile, her laugh, - my home;
No meanness flaws her,
No hatred gnaws her.
Engrossed in spirit and in form,
As wife and mother,
Friend and lover,
All superbly high above the norm.
She is my luminescent and my guiding lighthouse

beam
Shining brightly, highlighting the realities of my

dream.
Always beautifully aglow when on rough seas or

on a calm shore
She is the light of my life, and I certainly could

not love her more.

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Service Equals Reward
By Sheriff Gregory Tony

Changes Toward Internal Accountability

When I took office, I made it a priority to restore public trust the Professional Standards Committee and the formation of a
and strengthen the relationships between law enforcement and new Use of Force Review Board, which will be tasked with
reviewing use of force for consistency with BSO training and
the communities we serve. To be successful as a public safety policy and making recommendations as to whether further
investigation or training is needed.
agency, we must hold ourselves to the highest standards of
These changes promote a more accountable and timely
professionalism and accountability. review of questionable use of force that guarantees due process
for deputies, while making sure that the process is clear and
Over the past year, we have made great progress. We have shows accountability to the public. The Use of Force Review
Board will allow for a quicker evaluation and referral of those
increased training, adopted a more proactive community cases deemed in need of further review by Internal Affairs.
With these changes, I am sending a clear message to my deputies that
policing practice, instituted neighborhood support teams, egregious use of force will not be tolerated under my leadership. Make no
diversified our command staff and improved our recruitment mistake; when my deputies do the right thing, I will always support them
of new public safety professionals. These changes are the first and have their backs. As an organization, we are committed to excellence
of many in my continued efforts to enhance our service and and will demonstrate professional public safety practices the public and good
policing require.
strengthen community partnerships and public trust. These programs I instituted and the changes I am making inside BSO’s
disciplinary process are met with the intention to hold ourselves more
Another key to building public trust is policing ourselves in a professional accountable but also serve as part of my dedicated effort to bringing BSO
and accountable manner. During my first year as sheriff, I participated in the closer to the communities we serve.
disciplinary system and found that too often, the findings of the internal review
process simply did not reflect the standards we must live up to as public safety
professionals. As a result, I rejected the recommendations of the Professional

Standards Committee and terminated four deputies for use of excessive force.

Building upon this experience, I have begun to make the necessary changes

at the Broward Sheriff’s Office to improve our internal investigations

process. The improvements include the appointment of new members to

SEE SOMETHING SAY SOMETHING

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C conut Smile Care Exemptions Express

Beth M9.5R4e-5in84s-t9e5in00, D.D.S. If you purchased a new home and made it your permanent residence
[email protected] prior to January 1, 2020 you may file for tax year 2020 Homestead and
other exemptions until September 18, 2020. The timely filing deadline for
954-584-95003880 Coconut Creek Parkway, Suite 200 • Coconut Creek, FL 33066 Homestead and all other exemptions was March 2, 2020 with an extended
late filing deadline of September 18, 2020.
drbeth-@Loccaotedcaocrnosus frtocmaWryenmsmoori-le.com
Representatives from our office are out in the community assisting property
NEW PATIENT SPECIAL $45.00 owners with exemption filing. Our staff visits homeowner associations
and participates in community events to help residents apply for tax-saving
Includes: Exam (D0150), Full Mouth X-rays (D0210) and Dental Cleaning (D1110) exemptions and answer any questions. Please visit our Exemptions Express
calendar to see where we will be throughout the community each month:
EXPIRES 4/30/20 https://web.bcpa.net/ExemptionsExpress/calendar

15% Off All New Treatment For Wynmoor Residents Only Broward Counts – United States Census 2020
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Every ten years, the U.S. Constitution requires the Census Bureau to count
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FREE CONSULTATION Data collected from the 2020 Census will impact the distribution of
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communities across the country for federal assistance programs such as
Medicare and Medicaid, hospitals and nursing homes, housing vouchers,
schools, roads, Supplemental Nutrition Assistance Program (SNAP),
Children’s Health Insurance (CHIP), Head Start, emergency services, and
much more. The 2020 Census count will also determine our number of
representatives in Congress and impact the redrawing of state legislative
districts. 

You should have received a postcard mailed to you in March with a unique
code and instructions explaining the Census and how to respond online. You
can respond online (recommended), by phone or by mail. To respond by
mail, please call 1-800-923-8282 or 301-763-4636 to request a paper form.
If you are hearing impaired, the Census Bureau has prepared an instructional
video in American Sign Language. You can also respond in English by TDD
at 844-467-2020.

For questions regarding the Broward County Census, please call 954-357-
6634 or you can email their office at [email protected].

Come Home
To Your Spiritual Home

Temple Beth Am
By Linda Storfer
According to all meteorologists, April is the month that we traditionally
have “showers” which is very true at Temple Beth Am in Margate. Beginning
with our Communitywide Passover Seder on Wednesday, April 8th at
sundown Rabbi Samuel Kieffer, Senior Rabbi at Temple Beth Am will be
conducting a very special Seder at 7:00 p.m. Although the holiday is fast
approaching a few places at the table still remain and it is not too late to
make your reservations and join us for a unique experience rich in tradition,
Glatt kosher cuisine and social camaraderie.
On Sunday afternoon at 2:00 p.m. on April 19th, we are pleased to present
Dr. Robert Watson, lecturer, author, renowned speaker and professor who
will be speaking on a topic that is on everyone’s mind nowadays “ANTI-
SEMITISM-Yesterday, Today and Tomorrow.” There is no charge for this
event but reservations are a must. Our annual Yom Hashoah program with
candle lighting by survivors, poetry, reading of children’s writings from
the concentration camps and featured speaker Dan Morris will be held on
Monday, April 20th at 7:00 p.m. Don’t miss this very moving and poignant
program which is public event and open to the entire community. And
finally, we end the month on a very festive note with an enormous birthday
party for ISRAEL-YOM HA’ATZMAUT ISRAEL with delicious food, live
entertainment, and dancing. If you love a lively party, you must join us and
celebrate with us.
For information about these or any other programs at Temple Beth Am
please call our office at 954-968-4545 or drop by the synagogue located at
7205 Royal Palm Blvd., Margate. You can also check our website at www.
beth-am.org for the latest up to date information.