S19 Mentor Handbook

Mentor Guide

SPRING 2019

Sponsored by Student Support

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Program Campus Resources

Welcome Contact Info.

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Calendar

Fall semester

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Mentoring

Principles and skills

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Logistics

Training

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How to Begin

Life Coach Steps

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Goal Guide

Resources

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Heber J. Grant Peer MENTORING
AT BYU-IDAHO

Welcome and thank you for serving as a Heber J. Grant peer
mentor this semester. We hope you are ready to bless the lives
of students here on campus, in addition to being blessed and
changed as a result of your service.

In Heber J. Grant’s early years, he faced debilitating financial
circumstances, a broken home, and rejection from social
circles. His determination and incredible triumphs are
the inspiration for this peer-mentoring program. His life
experience is evidence that unfortunate circumstances or hard
times do not determine our future - we do.

The mentees that opt in to have a mentor come from a variety
of backgrounds and challenges. Some have faced difficult
challenges in the past, some are currently struggling with an
aspect of student life, and some simply desire to improve. All
of these students are prayerfully paired with their mentors
and we firmly believe the Lord has placed your mentees in
your life for a reason. It is up to you to discern and lift them in
ways they most need.

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The mission of HJG Peer-Mentoring at BYU-Idaho is
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Letters of Appreciation

Jason Ragland - Program Director

Dear Heber J. Grant Mentors,

Being in this program has truly blessed my life.
I am honored to work alongside you mentors to
help bless the lives of many. Being a mentor will
never be easy, but I can promise it will always be
worth it. Your mentees need you and you need
them. One of the best definitions I have heard
for sacrifice is, “Giving up something good for something great.” I can
promise you that as you sacrifice for your mentees all semester long,
you will be blessed with the guidance and strength that you need
to serve. I am so grateful that there are people as wonderful as you
mentors out there that are willing to serve like this. Thank you for every
second you spend serving and have a great journey!

Kimball Benson - Student Support Coordinator

Dear Heber J. Grant Mentors,

How grateful we are for your willingness and
desire to serve your fellow brothers and sisters
here at BYU-Idaho this semester. This will
obviously require some sacrifice of time that
may have been used for homework, jobs, social
activities, and even Netflix. :) However, every
semester, mentor after mentor testifies that as
they dedicate time to serve their mentees with all their hearts, the Lord
multiplies the remaining time in their week to help them accomplish
everything they need to in their lives. I give you the same promise.
You cannot lift another without lifting yourself and as you serve these
awesome students, your lives will be better academically, socially, and
spiritually. May God bless you in your service!

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Semester Calendar

WEEK 1 M T W R F S
22 APRIL 23 24 25 26
27
FIRST DAY
OF CLASSES MENTOR
REPORT DUE

WEEK 2 29 30 1 May 2 34

WEEK 3 District meeting 1 COMPLETE
GOAL REPORT
6789 DUE

HJG ACTIVITY

10 11

MENTOR
REPORT DUE

WEEK 4 13 14 15 16 17 18

WEEK 5 District meeting 2 MENTOR
REPORT DUE
20 21 22 23
24 25
WEEK 6 27 28 29 30
MENTOR
MEMORIAL DAY District meeting 3 REPORT DUE

WEEK 7 34 56 31 1 June

Stewardship Interviews MENTOR
REPORT DUE

78

COMPLETE
GOAL REPORT
DUE

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WEEK 8 M T W R F S
10 11 12 13 14
15
District meeting 4
MENTOR
REPORT DUE

WEEK 14 WEEK 13 WEEK 12 WEEK 11 WEEK 10 WEEK 9 17 18 19 20 21 22

MENTOR

REPORT DUE

24 25 26 27 28 29

District Meeting 5 MENTOR
REPORT DUE
1 July 2 3 4 5
6
INDEPENDENCE
DAY MENTOR
REPORT DUE
8 9 10 11 12
13
MENTOR 18 19
APPRECIATION COMPLETE
DINNER GOAL REPORT
DUE
15 16 17
20

22 23 24 25 26 27

FINALS FINALS

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ENTORINPrinciples
& Skills

our purpose SELF-RELIANCE

PresidentGrantwaslongknownforestablishingtheChurchwelfareprogramonthe
principleofself-reliance.Thisprinciplegoesfarbeyondtheimportantideaofspending
lessthanyoumake.Self-reliancealsoimpliesanethicofpersonalresponsibility,rather
than sit back and wait for people to do things for you, actively seek those resources
yourselfandusethemresponsiblyanddeliberately.TheLordhasgivenallofusatthis
universityabundantresources,butHeexpectsustouseouragencytoact,toengage,
and to become agents unto ourselves.

AsaHeberJ.Grantmentor,yourpurposeistoassiststudentsinbecomingmoreself-
reliant in each aspect of their lives. You accomplish this purpose through being:

a Life Coach • a Guide • a Friend

You are a life coach to your mentees as you set goals and make plans with
them to improve academically, spiritually, socially, emotionally, physically,
and financially. As a guide, you lead them to campus resources such as the
tutoring center, financial aid office, and applicable workshops. In being a
friend to your mentees, you support them in their endeavors and encourage
them to become better students and disciples of Jesus Christ.

“Independence and self-reliance are critical to our spiritual
and temporal growth. Whenever we get into situations

which threaten our self-reliance, we will find our freedoms
threatened as well. If we increase our dependence on anything
or anyone except the Lord, we will find an immediate decrease

in our freedom to act. As President Heber J. Grant declared,
‘Nothing destroys the individuality of a man, a woman, or a

child as much as the failure to be self-reliant.’”

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Represent THE UNIVERSITY

As an HJG Mentor at BYU-Idaho, you will be a representative of the university to
yourmentees.Yourattitudetowardsschoolpoliciesandstudentlifewillbeevident
through your words and actions. Avoid speaking negatively about services such as
theUniversityStore,HousingandStudentLiving,etc.Someofthegreatestteaching
you will do as a representative of the university will be the example you set for your
students.Thewayyouspeak,write,dressandpresentyourselfwillbenoticedbyyour
students.Theywillperceiveyourattitudesabouttheuniversitybyhowyoutalkabout
professors, fellow students, the honor code etc.
Thiscanbechallengingattimes.Theremaybemomentsinameetingwithamentee
wherehe/shecomplainstoyouaboutaprofessor,anditcanbetemptingtowantto
agreewiththestudentthat“theprofessorishorrible”or“totallybeingunfair.”However,
youcanstillsympathizewiththestudentandacknowledgethefrustrationtheyare
feeling,butthenhelpthestudentlookforsolutionssuchasencouragingthestudent
tovisitwiththeirprofessortodiscussthesituationandfindaresolution.Youcanbea
friend to the student and still be a loyal representative of the university.
Part of representing the University includes knowing and living the standards
outlined in BYU-Idaho’s Honor Code. On the following page are summaries
of each area outlined by the university. Please become familiar with these
standards so that you can help others to live them. Further explanations can
be found at: byui.edu/student-honor-office/ces-honor-code

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ACADEMIC HONESTY CHURCH ATTENDANCE
We agree to be completely We agree to participate
honest in all our dealings, and serve in student wards
including class assignments and stakes by consistently
and tests. This means attending Sunday services,
we do not plagiarize family home evenings, and
material, fabricate or falsify activity nights.
information, or cheat.
ECCLESIASTICAL
STUDENT LIFE ENDORSEMENTS
There is safety in abiding by We agree to visit with our
gospel standards. We agree bishop annually to certify that
to abstain from behavior we are living in accordance
that conflicts with the CES with the CES Honor Code and
Honor Code, like immorality, BYU-Idaho standards.
pornography, violent or
sexually explicit entertainment DRESS AND GROOMING
or gambling. We also avoid As students and employees
situations which might we agree to live by standards
compromise our standards of being neat, clean and
and tempt us unnecessarily. modest in our dress and
appearance as defined by
living prophets.

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First MEETING

Your first face to face meeting is an important time for establishing
expectations and building a mentoring relationship. What you choose to
talk about and how you choose to address your role will establish a pattern
for the rest of your meetings. If you find it unnatural to bring up goals in
the first meeting and easier to talk about life, that is what your mentee will
expect. If you find it more comfortable to set goals and more awkward to
get to know them personally, your mentee will expect to share goals, but
not friendship. Both of these scenarios produce good fruits, but you will see
the most success in your mentorship if you find a way to balance these two
approaches.
After meeting with your mentee, record important information you want to
rememberinthefuture,suchasmentee’simportanttestdates,weekendplans,or
hobbies.
• Why is it important to make goals a priority in our meetings?
• What are some things I will say or do to create that priority?
• What can I do to still build a friendship while focusing on goals?

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ASK QUESTIONS

In every interaction with your mentees your questions will be essential to
their growth. Questions not only help you as a mentor understand your
mentees, but they help your mentees to understand themselves. Good
questions will lead mentees to self-reflect and receive personal insights on
how they can achieve their goals.
Asking too many questions about your mentee could cause them to feel
interrogated. If you find that your mentee seems hesitant to share or
feels awkward disclosing personal information, consider sharing your own
experiences. If your mentees see that you are open and willing to share
things about yourself, they will feel more comfortable confiding in you as
well. Before asking questions, it may be good to ask yourself “how would I
feel and what would I say if I was asked this question?”

DIFFERENT TYPES OF QUESTIONS CAN ASSIST YOU IN MENTORING, SUCH AS:
• What do you like to do for fun?
• What are some things you want to accomplish this semester?
• What have you tried in the past to reach your goal of being more social?
• What keeps you from getting the grades you want?

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Actively LISTEN

While talking with students, it can be tempting to listen to the first few things
they say and then automatically provide an answer. Often, the first things
they say are only the surface of a deeper concern. Ask follow-up questions.
Restate the problem or pose the question back to them to make sure you
understand it correctly. You will then be more prepared to assist them and
many times, problems will be solved by the students themselves as they talk
through it.
Make an effort to observe facial expression and tone of voice as your
mentee speaks. Noticing these non-verbal cues will help you know how to
bring to the surface any current struggles. If you notice the demeanor or
mood of your mentee change over the course of the semester, don’t be
afraid to address it.

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Find THE ONE

Throughout his life, Jesus Christ taught this principle through His words and
deeds. Likewise, you will learn and teach this principle as you mentor the
students of this campus. Remember that you have been placed with your
specific mentees through sincere prayer and revelation. The Lord knows you,
and He knows the students you’ve been assigned to mentor. You will come
to find that at least one of your mentees came into your life for a specific
reason.

Many students you mentor may either be doing just fine or do not desire
the help of a mentor and that is okay. It is important to be consistent and
diligent in contacting your mentees, as their needs and circumstances might
change throughout the semester. However, if a mentee expresses disinterest
in having a mentor or is non-responsive, pray to know what you should do
for them. You may feel prompted to let them know you’re there for them
and reach out occasionally throughout the semester; or you may feel like it is
best to let your coordinator know of the situation to receive their guidance.
The Lord will guide you in your decision making as you seek for his help.

Follow THE SPIRIT

Qualifying for and seeking the guidance of the Spirit will be essential in
becoming an effective mentor. Every student at BYU-Idaho is different and
each comes with unique strengths, weaknesses, and challenges. Sometimes
the needs of your students will be apparent, but often they are not and you
will need the help of the Holy Ghost to know how to serve each individual
student.

In addition to seeking the Lord’s guidance, ask your mentee questions or
discuss their situation with other mentors in your district. As you seek the
Lord and enlist the help of those around you, the Spirit will enlighten your
mind with specific ways to bless your mentees. Each is a son or daughter
of our Heavenly Father who knows them and their needs perfectly. He will
direct you in your labors as you seek His guidance.

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Goal FOLLOW UP

“Extending an invitation without following up is like beginning a journey
without finishing it or buying a ticket to a concert without going into the

theater. Without the completed action, the commitment is hollow.”
(PMG, p.200)

It is the responsibility of the mentees to accomplish their goals; it is your
responsibility as a mentor to follow up on these goals. During your weekly
face to face meeting have your mentees write down their goals in their
Mentee Workbook or discuss their goal progress.

In addition to those weekly meetings, frequent follow up can be beneficial
depending on the needs of your mentee’s goal. This additional follow-up can
be successful as you:

• Ask them how often they would like additional follow up

• Set reminders for yourself of when to follow up with them

When the students you mentor are reaching their goals, compliment them
and encourage them to continue to keep going. If they are struggling with
their goals, express your concern, but also express your faith in them that
they will be able to achieve it as you work together. Regardless of what they
have been doing, your own efforts in following up with them will bless your
mentees and strengthen your relationship with them.

“It is not enough to want to make the effort and to say we’ll
make the effort... It’s in the doing, not just the thinking, that
we accomplish our goals. If we constantly put our goals off,
we will never see them fulfilled.”


-Thomas S. Monson

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seeing god’s hand IN MENTORING

In General Conference several years ago, President Henry B. Eyring shared
his personal testimony of the power of recognizing and remembering
Heavenly Father’s hand in our lives. He explained that when he was a young
father, he was impressed by the Holy Ghost to keep a journal to record all of
the blessings God bestowed upon him and his family each day. As he did so,
he recounted:

“More than gratitude began to grow in my heart. Testimony grew. I became
ever more certain that our Heavenly Father hears and answers prayers. I
felt more gratitude for the softening and refining that come because of the
Atonement of the Savior Jesus Christ. And I grew more confident that the
Holy Ghost can bring all things to our remembrance—even things we did
not notice or pay attention to when they happened.” (Ensign, Nov. 2007)

President Eyring continued his talk by exhorting us to find ways to remember
God’s hand in our lives and the lives of those around us. We add our
testimony to President Eyring’s and encourage you to heed his counsel.
This mentoring program is a part of the Lord’s work. His hands guide this
program and you will receive the blessings promised by President Henry B.
Eyring as you take time to recognize them.

Consider taking a few minutes each day to record your personal answer to
this question from President Henry B. Eyring: “Have I seen the hand of God
reaching out to touch [me] or [the students I mentor] today?”

“God, our Father; Jesus, our Elder Brother and
our Redeemer; and the Holy Ghost, the Testator,
are perfect. They know us best and love us most

and will not leave one thing undone for our
eternal welfare.”

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No Effort IS WASTED

Although some of your mentees may be “Discouragement will
unresponsiveornotwillingtoworkwithyouto weaken your faith. If you
becomeself-reliantdon’tbecomediscouraged. lower your expectations,
Rememberthatyourmenteeshaveagencyand your effectiveness will
make the choice to be mentored or not. Your decrease, your desire
success as a mentor comes from your own will weaken, and you will
commitment and love for your mentees. have greater difficulty
following the Spirit”
YOU KNOW YOU HAVE BEEN A (PMG, p.10)
SUCCESSFUL MENTOR WHEN YOU:

• Recognize the Lord’s hand in mentoring.

• Love mentees and want them to become self-reliant.

• Fulfill responsibilities in attending district meetings, stewardship
interviews, and submitting weekly activity reports.

• Ponder the needs of your mentees and how you can help meet them.

None of your efforts are wasted. There will be times when the students you
mentor avoid you, get busy and cannot meet with you. Even if your mentees
choose to not accept your help, they will remember your kindness and faith
in them. Your example may influence them in ways you will never know in
this life. Continue to do all that is asked of you as a mentor; have faith that
the Lord will magnify your efforts and use them to bless your life and the
lives of those around you.

“One can never tell what will be the result of faithful service
rendered, nor do we know when it will come back to us or to those

with whom we are associated. The reward may not come at the
time, but in dividends later. I believe we will never lose anything
in life by giving service, by making sacrifices, and doing the right

thing.”

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OGISTIC

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MENTEE ROSTER: STEWARDSHIP INTERVIEWS:
This is a Google spreadsheet Throughout the semester,
that lists the mentees you’ve your mentor coordinator will
been assigned to mentor. schedule a time to meet with
It includes: student names, you individually to assess how
contact information, and other you are doing, as well as your
information such as hometown mentees, and help answer any
and hobbies. Use this sheet to questions you have. You can
connect and reach out to your help make these an effective use
mentees. Make notes here or of time by having an attitude
on your Mentee Worksheets of: What more can I do? Come
of anything you would like to ready to share your mentees
remember about them. This specific goals and what you are
sheet may be updated if there doing to help them.
are mentee adds or drops.
GOAL GUIDE:
HJG NEWSLETTER: This section will walk you
Each week you will receive an and your mentee step-by-
email that contains reminders step through the goal setting
about upcoming events, process. Through the course
tips, campus resources, of the semester, each mentee
and information on campus will set at least two goals - one
workshops and activities being first block and one second
held that week that may be block. You will be asked to
beneficial for your mentees. report the information on these
worksheets during week 2 and 7
MENTOR REPORTS: of the semester.
Each week, you will fill out an
online survey that asks you SUBGROUPS:
to report on your activity with Subgroupsarethesmallergroupof
your mentees, training needs, mentors you were placed in during
success stories, and challenges. the Mentor Training Conference.
You will receive a link via email These groups are designed to help
every Friday morning and mentors support and learn from
complete the form by Saturday eachotherinasmallerenvironment.
at midnight. Adjustmentstothesegroupscanbe
made throughout the semester as
the Coordinator sees fit.

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OW TO BEGI

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Life Coach Steps

Expectations/Evaluation

MenteeWorksheets(MentorWorkbook)

1 - Goals

Goal Guide (pg. 26-47)

2 - Personal Action Steps

Goal Guide (pg. 26-47)

3 - Team Action Steps

Goal Guide (pg. 26-47)

Review, Revise, Restart

Further Explanation (pg. 22-25)

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SAMPLE EVALUATION

On a scale of 1-10, indicate mentee’s confidence level in each of the following areas of
student life. (1= No Confidence, 10 = Very High Confidence)

Academic Physical Spiritual Financial Emotional Social
Ability Health Wellness Stability Health Skills

START OF SEMESTER

MIDDLE OF SEMESTER

END OF SEMESTER

Which of the areas above do they want to focus on this semester?
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SAMPLE GOAL TRACKER

Goal #1 Achieved

Mentee Action Steps

1
2
3

Team Action Steps

1
2
3

Goal Review Date:

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FURTHER EXPLANATION

CONFIDENCE INDICATORS
Use this in your first, middle and last meetings with your mentee to
track their progress. Explain to your mentee:

• Knowing your confidence in these areas helps the University know
what resources to provide to students
• It helps me as a mentor know where we should focus our goals
• Checking your confidence at the beginning, middle and end will help
you see your progress

FOCUS AREAS
Establish these in the first meeting. Once a goal is completed revisit
these answers to know where to set the next goal.

GOALS
Set 1 goal at a time. Step 1 of the Goal Guide gives several goal ideas
for your mentee, if none of the areas seem applicable, create your own
goal. Through the course of the semester, each mentee will set at least
two goals - one first block and one second block.

PERSONAL ACTION STEPS
Mentees complete these small steps on their own, ask frequently how
they are going. Step 2 of the Goal Guide will give suggestions on what
steps to take, but these ideas can be modified as applicable.

TEAM ACTION STEPS
It is your responsibility to schedule out when you and your mentee
will accomplish each suggested task in Step 3 of the Goal Guide. Strive
to make one Team Action Step to take place each week. Activities and
resources can be modified as applicable.

GOAL REVIEW DATE
Decide together when the goal can reasonably be accomplished. On
Review Date, see the following page to walk your mentee through the
Review, Revise, Restart process.

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EXPLANATIONS CONTINUED

GOAL REVIEW DATE
Goal Review sections can be found in the Mentee Workbook’s goal trackers.
Ideally 1 goal should be accomplished each block of the semester, meaning
your first Goal Review Date should be mid-semester. Regardless of when
your Goal Review Date is follow the process below.

Review
• If mentee selects YES, skip to RESTART step

Revise
• If mentee selects NO: skip to RESTART step
• After discussing possible changes here, record final goal
adjustments on a new Goal Tracker

Restart
• After mentee has selected new focus area, have them turn to their
next Goal Tracker. Start again at step 1 for the goal setting progress.

SEMESTER CONCLUSION
Complete this Semester Conclusion with your mentee in your final
meeting, of the semester. The Semester Conclusion can be found on pg.
18 of the Mentee Workbook.

Confidence Improvements

First complete the End of Semester Confidence Levels on pg. 9,

then mark with a check or an x areas that improved over the

course of the semester.



Semester Accomplishments

These can include things that didn’t have to do with their goals, it’s

purpose is to help them focus on the strengths of the semester.

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SAMPLE REVIEW

Review

Did you accomplish your Goal? YES NO

Revise

Do you still want to work on this goal? YES NO

What will you do differently to reach your goal this time?

Restart

Record your mid-semester confidence levels on pg. 9
What area (see Evaluation on pg. 9) will you work on next?

SAMPLE CONCLUSION

Academic Physical Spiritual Financial Emotional Social
Ability Health Wellness Stability Health Skills

IMPROVED

What Most helped my confidence to improve in these areas?

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1
2
3
4
5

2 things I want to keep improving

1
2

OAL GUID Emotional

pg. 29

Academic

pg. 32

Physical

pg. 35

Financial

pg. 38

Spiritual

pg. 41

Social

pg. 44

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STUDENT WORKSHOPS & SKILLS MENTORING
WORKSHOPS

On the next page, you will see a list of workshops from Learn Live Become. These
are interactive and are specifically created for you and your mentee as a part of the HJG
Mentoring Program. It is expected that you attend at least one workshop throughout the
semester.

Their times and locations can be found on their website through these steps:

1. Visit www.byui.edu/student-support/learn-live-become
2. Click on specified workshop area
3. Scroll to find workshop title
4. Click the “Save Your Seat” button to sign-up

EXAMPLE: If series section is
Attend LLB’s Life Skills Workshop: Decision Making - 7S not specified, all
parts of workshop
Title series are
applicable.

CAREER SERVICES WORKSHOPS

All workshop details can be found on their website:
www.byui.edu/career-services/career-preparation/workshops

WELLNESS CENTER WORKSHOPS

Visit the Wellness Center located at the Hart building for workshop schedules.
More information can also be found on their website:
www.byui.edu/wellness-center-home

*Note: All other information regarding activities or events suggested in Team Action Steps
can be found by Googling “BYUI” and key words from the Action Step.

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Student and Skills Mentoring Workshops

Discipleship • Rebuilding your Testimony
Workshops • Applying the Atonement to your Life
• Likening the Scriptures
Academic • How Jesus Christs Atonement Applies
Workshops
to your Life
Life Skills
Workshops • Creating a Learning Environment
• Getting the Most out of Class
Financial • Test Taking
Workshops • Patterns for Academic Success

Leadership • Maximize your Time: Focus Funnel
Workshops • Planning and Goal Achievement
• Realizing Your Potential
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• Problem Solving
• Maximize your Time : RAC Method
• Strengthening your Roommate

Relationships and Friendships
• Decision Making - Pugh Matrix
• Decision Making Standard Work
• Decision Making - 7S

• Managing your Money
• Budgeting
• Savings
• International Students
• Debt Management
• Giving Back While in School

• Elevating your Mindset
• Goal Setting
• Choosing a Growth Mindset
• The Power of Yet
• Effective Feedback

EMOTIONAL

1 GOALS

Select one of the goals below or create your own to report on your goal tracker.

Understand Enhance Emotion
Your Behaviors Coping Skills

Improve Your Manage Your
Self Image Stress

Develop Hobbies Create Your
and Talents
+Own
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EMOTIONAL

2 PERSONAL ACTION STEPS

Select 3 of the activities in your box to complete. You may also select action
steps from other boxes or create your own.

UNDERSTAND YOUR BEHAVIORS ENHANCE EMOTION COPING SKILLS

In a journal track your mood Attend a Counseling Center
changes everyday group workshop on Anxiety &
Depression or Abuse
Read “Like a Broken Vessel” Oct.
2013 General Conference Explore the Counseling Center’s
online Self-Help section
Visit MentalHealth.LDS.org to read
& watch personal experiences Set up a 30 minute consultation
appt. with the Counseling Center
Create your own
Create your own
IMPROVE YOUR SELF-IMAGE
MANAGE YOUR STRESS
Start a self-worth journal, write 3
things you did well in it daily Find someone to talk to everyday
about things going on in your life
Buy a planner, schedule out all of
your responsibilities Attend a Counseling Center group
workshop on Stress management
Attend a Counseling Center group
workshop on self-esteem issues Explore the Counseling Center’s
online Self-Help section
Create your own
Create your own

DEVELOP HOBBIES AND TALENTS CREATE YOUR OWN

Buy a planner, schedule out your Select any of the ideas above and
available free time combine them with your own

Practice your hobby/talent for 30 ideas to create actions that best
minutes a day accomplish your goal.

Visit the activities office, explore
how to get more involved
Create your own

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EMOTIONAL

3 TEAM ACTION STEPS

Select 3 of the activities in your box to complete. You may also select action
steps from other boxes or create your own.

UNDERSTAND YOUR BEHAVIORS ENHANCE EMOTION COPING SKILLS

Practice meditating together Go to the gym together

Attend the Counseling Center’s Get Attend the Counseling Center’s Get
Grit Workshop Grit Workshop

Have a discussion together about Makeaplantogetheronhowtobetter
behaviors cope emotionally

Create your own Create your own

IMPROVE YOUR SELF-IMAGE MANAGE YOUR STRESS

Reflect on the past week’s tender Attend a free yoga class together to
mercies learn stress management

Study the scriptures together, Go out for ice cream and a walk or
specifically about God’s love have a heart to heart talk

Sharewithyoumentorwhatsuccesses Reflect on the past weeks tender
you’ve found with yourself each day mercies you’ve witnessed

Create your own Create your own

DEVELOP HOBBIES AND TALENTS CREATE YOUR OWN

Set a date to perform newly Select any of the ideas above
developed talents to each other and combine them with your
own ideas to create actions for
Visit the activities office to explore you to do together that best
activities to get more involved in
accomplish your goal.
Sign up for an intramural sport
together |Mentor Handbook 31

Create your own

ACADEMIC

1 GOALS

Select one of the goals below or create your own to report on your goal tracker.

Improve Your Develop Better
Grades Study Habits

Explore Degrees Manage Your
and Careers Time

Prepare For Create Your
Your Career
+Own
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ACADEMIC

2 PERSONAL ACTION STEPS

Select 3 of the activities in your box to complete. You may also select action
steps from other boxes or create your own.

IMPROVE YOUR GRADES DEVELOP BETTER STUDY HABITS

Meet with a tutor for a class Put a dollar in a “study jar” when
you study for at least 30 min, use
Study at least 30 minutes a day at the money when finals are over
a set time Make a list of 15 min. brain break
activities to do to avoid burn-out
Make a list of all assignments due Create a study group with
the following week and what day classmates
you will complete them Create your own

Create your own MANAGE YOUR TIME

EXPLORE DEGREES AND CAREERS Buy a planner, schedule out the
time you have for homework
Meet with professors from majors Set alarms in your phone to go off
you are interested in when it is time to study
Ask a classmate if they want to
Visit BYU-I’s Career and Major study or work on an assignment
Exploration website to search together, make it a set time
possibilities Create your own

Make a list of skills you have and CREATE YOUR OWN
bring it when you meet with an
Academic Advisor Select any of the ideas above and
Create your own combine them with your own

PREPARE FOR YOUR CAREER ideas to create actions that best
accomplish your goal.
Ask a professor about the process
of applying for graduate school |Mentor Handbook 33

Meet with the internship
missionaries to discover where,
when, and how to get internships

Watch the LinkedIn training videos
on the BYUI Alumni webpage

Create your own

ACADEMIC

3 TEAM ACTION STEPS

Select 3 of the activities in your box to complete. You may also select action
steps from other boxes or create your own.

IMPROVE YOUR GRADES DEVELOP BETTER STUDY HABITS

Nightlyaccountabilitytooneanother Meet in the library to work on
for homework completion homework together

Set a time to study together Teachoneanotherwhatyou’vebeen
studying for a class
Spend time making flash cards for a
class together Spend time making flash cards for a
class together
Create your own
Create your own
EXPLORE DEGREES AND CAREERS
MANAGE YOUR TIME
VisittheBYU-IAlumniOfficetogether
Buyaplannerandscheduleoutyour
Set up an appt. with an Academic week
Advisor Evaluate together how time is spent,
anddeterminewherethemosttimeis
Attend the Career Fair together lost throughout the day
Mentor to follow up on a schedule
Create your own that the mentee arranges

Create your own

PREPARE FOR YOUR CAREER CREATE YOUR OWN

Go together to the Career Networking Select any of the ideas above
Center and combine them with your
Attend Career Services workshop: own ideas to create actions for
Networking and Other Job Search you to do together that best
Strategies
AttendtheBYUICareerFairtogetherto accomplish your goal.
explorevariousoptionsandinternship
opportunities

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PHYSICAL

1 GOALS

Select one of the goals below or create your own to report on your goal tracker.

Change Your Eating Create an Active
Habits Lifestyle

Develop Your Manage Your
Fitness Abilities Stress

Improve Your Create Your
Sleeping Habits
+Own

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PHYSICAL

2 PERSONAL ACTION STEPS

Select 3 of the activities in your box to complete. You may also select action
steps from other boxes or create your own.

CHANGE YOUR EATING HABITS CREATE AN ACTIVE LIFESTYLE

Write a plan for next week’s meals, Sign up for a competitive or
buy and prep them this weekend intramural sport

Look up a new healthy recipe to Get involved with outdoor activities
make with your roommates and attend their weekly events

Choose a food or nutrition habit Walk/ride your bike to school/work
to eliminate, go the next 25 days instead of driving, or plan to take a
without it, then reward yourself longer route if you already walk

Create your own Create your own

DEVELOP YOUR FITNESS ABILITIES MANAGE YOUR STRESS

Ask a roommate or friend to Download a yoga or meditation app
workout with you a few times a to do on your lunch breaks
week
Block out at least 15 minutes of
Sign up for a personal trainer your day everyday to workout/
through the Fit4Life program stretch

Download an app that has pre- Plan a workout to do whenever high
designed workouts, schedule stress moments arise
when you will do them
Create your own Create your own

IMPROVE YOUR SLEEPING HABITS CREATE YOUR OWN

Ask your roommates to help Select any of the ideas above and
keep you accountable to your combine them with your own
desired sleep routine
ideas to create actions that best
Decide how many hours of sleep accomplish your goal.
you need each night, plan what
time to wake up and go to bed

Set alarms to remind you to get
ready for bed

Create your own

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PHYSICAL

3 TEAM ACTION STEPS

Select 3 of the activities in your box to complete. You may also select action
steps from other boxes or create your own.

CHANGE YOUR EATING HABITS CREATE AN ACTIVE LIFESTYLE

Eatlunchordinnertogetherwithyour Learn about intramural sports on
mentor campus and sign up for one
Create a shopping list together
Attend Zumba night together
Meal prep together
ExploretheBYU-Ifitnessclasses,select
Create your own one to attend each week

Create your own

DEVELOP YOUR FITNESS ABILITIES MANAGE YOUR STRESS

Explore the BYU-I fitness classes, Attendafreeyogaclasstogethertolearn
select one to attend each week stress management
Explore the BYU-I fitness classes, select
Attend the Wellness Center’s one to attend each week
Workshop: Programming Specific Clean up your apartment together
Training Goals Create your own

Get involved in one of Student CREATE YOUR OWN
Activities “Fitness Events”
Select any of the ideas above
Create your own and combine them with your
own ideas to create actions for
IMPROVE YOUR SLEEPING HABITS you to do together that best

Explore BYUI’s Counseling Center accomplish your goal.
Self-Help “Sleep” page
|Mentor Handbook 37
Download the “Alarmy” app to get
yourself up in the morning

Send reminder texts to each other
when it’s time to go to sleep

Create your own

FINANCIAL

1 GOALS

Select one of the goals below or create your own to report on your goal tracker.

Explore Financial Budget Your
Aid Options Money

Build Your Resume Search and
& Interview Skills Apply for Jobs

Create a Create Your
Savings Plan
+Own
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FINANCIAL

2 PERSONAL ACTION STEPS

Select 3 of the activities in your box to complete. You may also select action
steps from other boxes or create your own.

EXPLORE FINANCIAL AID OPTIONS BUDGET YOUR MONEY

Visit the Financial Aid office to ask about Watch “Budgeting” on Federal
additional financial aid options Student Aid’s YouTube channel

Attend local Food Banks in your area Download “Mint” or other
budgeting apps
FillouttheBYU-IScholarshipApplication
and a FAFSA form Ask a roommate to budget with
you, keep each other accountable
Create your own
Create your own

BUILD YOUR RESUME & INTERVIEWS SEARCH AND APPLY FOR JOBS

Take your resume to the Career Look at the Student Employment
Networking Center for a free review Job Board online once a day
Set up a free mock interview with Make a list of places you want to
the Career Networking Center work, call and ask them when they
hire and the best way to apply
Visit Student Support or Student Take your resume around to 7
Activities to explore volunteer different businesses
opportunities Create your own

Create your own CREATE YOUR OWN

CREATE A SAVINGS PLAN Select any of the ideas above and
combine them with your own
Create a semester spending plan and
budget out how much you’ll save each ideas to create actions that best
month accomplish your goal.

Talk with your bank about investment |Mentor Handbook 39
options

Explore BYUI’s “Additional Resources”
on the Financial Aid “Savings” webpage

Create your own

FINANCIAL

3 TEAM ACTION STEPS

Select 3 of the activities in your box to complete. You may also select action
steps from other boxes or create your own.

EXPLORE FINANCIAL AID OPTIONS BUDGET YOUR MONEY

VisittheBYUIFinancialAidofficetogether Work with your mentor to create a
budget
Complete the FASFA application with
your mentor Together monitor and refine your
spending habits
ExploreBYUIandThirdPartyScholarship
options Write Out a Simple “In and Out”
Expense Sheet
Create your own
Create your own

BUILD YOUR RESUME & INTERVIEWS SEARCH AND APPLY FOR JOBS

Attend Career Services workshop: Attend Career Services workshop:
WritingResumesandotherProfessional LinkedIn Training
Documents
GotogethertoBYUIsCareerNetworking Search the BYUI Job Board and or
Center Indeed with your mentor
Practice interviews with your mentor
and go over resume together Attend Career Services workshop:
Create your own Interviewing and Accepting the Job

Create your own

CREATE A SAVINGS PLAN CREATE YOUR OWN

Together monitor and refine your Select any of the ideas above
spending habits and combine them with your
own ideas to create actions for
Together work to create specific you to do together that best
savings goals
accomplish your goal.
ExploreBYUI’sFinancialAid“Savings”
webpage

Create your own

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SPIRITUAL

1 GOALS

Select one of the goals below or create your own to report on your goal tracker.

See God in Serve More
Your Life

Develop Christlike Improve Spiritual
Qualities Habits

Increase Spiritual Create Your
Knowledge
+Own

|Mentor Handbook 41

SPIRITUAL

2 PERSONAL ACTION STEPS

Select 3 of the activities in your box to complete. You may also select action
steps from other boxes or create your own.

SEE GOD IN YOUR LIFE SERVE MORE

Post a spiritual insight on social Make a random drop by to your
media weekly ministering brother or sister

Each night write down how you Visit BYUI’s Student Support to
saw God’s hand in your life that day explore volunteer opportunities

Pray each day for the influence of Text a verse of scripture or quote
the Spirit and to see God’s miracles to someone in need

Create your own Create your own

DEVELOP CHRISTLIKE QUALITIES IMPROVE SPIRITUAL HABITS

Attend Disciple Leader Conference Watch a Mormon Message when
you first wake up
Select a quality you want to
develop, plan to do one thing each Attend the Temple and your FHE
day that demonstrates that quality weekly
Find scriptural examples of people
demonstrating the desired quality Read scriptures daily for at least 15
minutes
Create your own
Create your own

INCREASE SPIRITUAL KNOWLEDGE CREATE YOUR OWN

Sign up for an institute or Select any of the ideas above and
religion class combine them with your own

Meet with and help the local ideas to create actions that best
missionaries teach accomplish your goal.

Select a topic to study for at
least 15 minutes daily

Create your own

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SPIRITUAL

3 TEAM ACTION STEPS

Select 3 of the activities in your box to complete. You may also select action
steps from other boxes or create your own.

SEE GOD IN YOUR LIFE SERVE MORE

Attend Devotional weekly Attend the temple together

Text each other daily tender mercies AttendaneventsponsoredbyService
Activities
Set a time each week to study your
scriptures together Attend HJG’s Service Event

Create your own Create your own

DEVELOP CHRISTLIKE QUALITIES IMPROVE SPIRITUAL HABITS

Study references to Christlike Set a time each week to study your
attributes in Gospel Library scriptures together
Attend Disciple Leader Conference Attend Devotional weekly
Attend Devotional weekly Eachweeksharewitheachotherwhat
Create your own you learned from your religion class
Create your own
INCREASE SPIRITUAL KNOWLEDGE
CREATE YOUR OWN
Attend Devotional weekly
Eachweeksharewitheachotherwhat Select any of the ideas above
you learned from your religion class and combine them with your
ReadadifferentGeneralConference own ideas to create actions for
talk each week you to do together that best
Create your own
accomplish your goal.

|Mentor Handbook 43

SOCIAL

1 GOALS

Select one of the goals below or create your own to report on your goal tracker.

Meet New Adventure
People More

Improve Your Manage Your
Dating Life Social Time

Build A Social Create Your
Group
+Own
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SOCIAL

2 PERSONAL ACTION STEPS

Select 3 of the activities in your box to complete. You may also select action
steps from other boxes or create your own.

MEET NEW PEOPLE ADVENTURE MORE

Go to FHE every week Visit the BYUI Master Calendar
online and choose something
Talk to a new person in class new to do each week
everyday
Go dancing on campus: Latin,
Search for activities to go and Ballroom, Swing, Country
attend on campus
Invite friends and ward members
Create your own to hike R Mountain with you

Create your own

IMPROVE DATING LIFE MANAGE YOUR SOCIAL TIME

Google a new date idea for every Get a planner and see how much
week time you can spend on having fun

Ask someone on a date or start a Set limits on how much social time
conversation with a stranger every you can have each day
week
Make yourself do something social
Watch “Elder and Sister Bednar - for at least 30 minutes a day
Love” on LDS.org
Create your own
Create your own

BUILD A SOCIAL GROUP CREATE YOUR OWN

Invite an apartment from your Select any of the ideas above and
ward over for dinner combine them with your own

Attend FHE every week ideas to create actions that best
accomplish your goal.
Invite friends and ward members
to hike R Mountain with you |Mentor Handbook 45

Create your own

SOCIAL

3 TEAM ACTION STEPS

Select 3 of the activities in your box to complete. You may also select action
steps from other boxes or create your own.

MEET NEW PEOPLE ADVENTURE MORE

Plan a game night together Attend an event put on by Outdoor
Activities
Haveamentorandmenteeroommate
breakfast Visit Student Activities to see what
activities they have planned
Visit Student Activities or Student
Support to see how to get involved Sign up together for an intramural
sport
Create your own
Create your own

IMPROVE DATING LIFE MANAGE YOUR SOCIAL TIME

Plan a double date with your mentor Buyaplannerandscheduleoutyour
week together
Visit Student Activities to see what
socialactivitiesyoucouldbringadate Both of you invite friends to go roller
to skating on campus

Invite someone to come to Devo Find a Student Activity going on that
week and go together
Create your own
Create your own

BUILD A SOCIAL GROUP CREATE YOUR OWN

Attend the HJG mid-semester service Select any of the ideas above
activity together and combine them with your
own ideas to create actions for
Visit Student Activities or Student you to do together that best
Support to see how to get involved
accomplish your goal.
Host a movie or game night

Create your own

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ADDITIONAL

! TEAM ACTION STEPS

Here are some ideas additional Team Action Step ideas to implement into your
weekly meetings.

WEEKLY MEETING IDEAS

Invite them to a lunch, breakfast, or dinner at your apartment
Go to the HJG Service Activity together
Find out what they love to do for fun and do it together
Get together and do your scripture study
Find a Student Activity going on that week and go together
Attend the temple together
Grab lunch together at the Crossroads and talk about your week
Meet in the library to work on homework together
Go get ice cream or hot chocolate and talk about how their goal is going
Invite them to a game night with your roommates and friends
Go to devotional together
Find a fitness activity on campus to go to together
Both of you invite friends to go roller skating on campus
Go grocery shopping together
Get together with some friends to play a sport
Go on a walk around campus together
Attend a free yoga class in the Hart building
Visit BYU-I Alumni Office together
Sign up together for an intramural sport
Teach your mentor what you have been studying for class

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CAMPUS RESOURCES

Academic Advising Office

General advising and class planning, career exploration, and
foundation classes. Visit their website to discover your college
specific advisors.

Location: 101 Chapman
Websites: www.byui.edu/advising/academic-advising
Phone: 208.496.9800
E-mail: [email protected]

Academic Support Centers

Drop in labs for math, writing, and reading, individual and group
tutoring, interactive tutoring videos, presentation practice center,
quizzes, and tips on their website.

Location: David O. McKay Library 272 2nd Floor; East Wing
Websites: www.byui.edu/academic-support-centers
Phone: 208.496.4271

Admissions Office

Explore your options for overrides and deferments to make your
assigned track meet your needs.

Location: Kimball Building 120
Website: www.byui.edu/admissions
Phone: 208.496.1300
E-mail: [email protected]

|Mentor Handbook 49

Career and Internship Services

Resume revisions, practice interviews, locating internships,
assistance with a job search, and networking.

Location: Manwaring Center 127A
Websites: www.byui.edu/career-services,
www.byui.edu/internships
Phone: 208.496.9823
Email: [email protected]

Counseling Center

Explore concerns, resolve difficulties, and receive assistance in
managing life’s challenges in a safe environment with a professional
counselor. Free couple, group, and individual counseling for mental
health, behavioral issues or unmet emotional needs.

Location: SHC 200 - above the Student Health Center
Websites: www.byui.edu/counseling-center
Phone: 208.496.9370
After Hours Emergency: 208.496.HELP or 208.496.4357

Dean of Students Office

The Dean of Students can be your advocate if you experience
unfortunate life circumstances such as missing class for medical
reasons, persisting trouble with a professor or campus office,
serious illness or death of a loved one.

Location: 290 Kimball Building
Website: www.byui.edu/dean-of-students
Phone: 208.496.9200
Email: [email protected]

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