S19 Mentor Handbook - App

MENTOR GUIDE

SPRING 2019

Sponsored by Student Support

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Program Campus Resources

Welcome Contact Info.

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Calendar

Fall semester

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Mentoring

Principles and skills

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Logistics

Training

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How to Begin

Life Coach Steps

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Goal Guide

Resources

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Heber J. Grant Peer MENTORING
AT BYU-IDAHO

Welcome and thank you for serving as a Heber J. Grant peer
mentor this semester. We hope you are ready to bless the lives
of students here on campus, in addition to being blessed and
changed as a result of your service.
In Heber J. Grant’s early years, he faced debilitating financial
circumstances, a broken home, and rejection from social
circles. His determination and incredible triumphs are
the inspiration for this peer-mentoring program. His life
experience is evidence that unfortunate circumstances or hard
times do not determine our future - we do.
The mentees that opt in to have a mentor come from a variety
of backgrounds and challenges. Some have faced difficult
challenges in the past, some are currently struggling with an
aspect of student life, and some simply desire to improve. All
of these students are prayerfully paired with their mentors
and we firmly believe the Lord has placed your mentees in
your life for a reason. It is up to you to discern and lift them in
ways they most need.

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Letters of Appreciation

Jason Ragland - Program Director

Dear Heber J. Grant Mentors,

Being in this program has truly blessed my life. I am
honored to work alongside you mentors to help
bless the lives of many. Being a mentor will never be
easy, but I can promise it will always be worth it. Your
mentees need you and you need them. One of the
best definitions I have heard for sacrifice is, “Giving up
something good for something great.” I can promise you
that as you sacrifice for your mentees all semester long, you will be blessed with
the guidance and strength that you need to serve. I am so grateful that there are
people as wonderful as you mentors out there that are willing to serve like this.
Thank you for every second you spend serving and have a great journey!

Kimball Benson - Student Support Coordinator

Dear Heber J. Grant Mentors,

How grateful we are for your willingness and desire
to serve your fellow brothers and sisters here at
BYU-Idaho this semester. This will obviously require
some sacrifice of time that may have been used for
homework, jobs, social activities, and even Netflix. :)
However, every semester, mentor after mentor testifies
that as they dedicate time to serve their mentees
with all their hearts, the Lord multiplies the remaining time in their week to
help them accomplish everything they need to in their lives. I give you the
same promise. You cannot lift another without lifting yourself and as you serve
these awesome students, your lives will be better academically, socially, and
spiritually. May God bless you in your service!

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Semester Calendar

WEEK 1 M T W R F S
23 24 25 26
22 APRIL 27

FIRST DAY MENTOR
OF CLASSES REPORT DUE

WEEK 2 29 30 1 May 2 34

WEEK 3 District meeting 1 COMPLETE
GOAL REPORT
6789 DUE

HJG ACTIVITY

10 11

MENTOR
REPORT DUE

WEEK 4 13 14 15 16 17 18

District meeting 2 MENTOR
REPORT DUE

WEEK 5 20 21 22 23 24 25

MENTOR
REPORT DUE

WEEK 6 27 28 29 30 31 1 June

MEMORIAL DAY District meeting 3 MENTOR
REPORT DUE
WEEK 7 34 56
78
Stewardship Interviews
COMPLETE
GOAL REPORT
DUE

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WEEK 8 M T W R F S
10 11 12 13 14 15

District meeting 4 MENTOR
REPORT DUE

WEEK 9 17 18 19 20 21 22
MENTOR
REPORT DUE

WEEK 14 WEEK 13 WEEK 12 WEEK 11 WEEK 10 24 25 26 27 28 29

District Meeting 5 MENTOR
REPORT DUE
1 July 2 3 4 5
6
INDEPENDENCE
DAY MENTOR
REPORT DUE
8 9 10 11 12
13
MENTOR 18 19
APPRECIATION COMPLETE
DINNER GOAL REPORT
DUE
15 16 17
20

22 23 24 25 26 27

FINALS FINALS

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ENTORINPrinciples
& Skills

our purpose SELF-RELIANCE

President Grant was long known for establishing the Church welfare
program on the principle of self-reliance. This principle goes far beyond the
important idea of spending less than you make. Self-reliance also implies
an ethic of personal responsibility, rather than sit back and wait for people
to do things for you, actively seek those resources yourself and use them
responsibly and deliberately. The Lord has given all of us at this university
abundant resources, but He expects us to use our agency to act, to engage,
and to become agents unto ourselves.
As a Heber J. Grant mentor, your purpose is to assist students in becoming
more self-reliant in each aspect of their lives. You accomplish this purpose
through being:

a Life Coach • a Guide • a Friend

You are a life coach to your mentees as you set goals and make plans with
them to improve academically, spiritually, socially, emotionally, physically,
and financially. As a guide, you lead them to campus resources such
as the tutoring center, financial aid office, and applicable workshops. In
being a friend to your mentees, you support them in their endeavors and
encourage them to become better students and disciples of Jesus Christ.

“Independence and self-reliance are critical to our spiritual and tempo-
ral growth. Whenever we get into situations which threaten our self-re-
liance, we will find our freedoms threatened as well. If we increase our

dependence on anything or anyone except the Lord, we will find an
immediate decrease in our freedom to act. As President Heber J. Grant
declared, ‘Nothing destroys the individuality of a man, a woman, or a

child as much as the failure to be self-reliant.’”
-L. Tom Perry

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Represent THE UNIVERSITY

As an HJG Mentor at BYU-Idaho, you will be a representative of the university
to your mentees. Your attitude towards school policies and student life will
be evident through your words and actions. Avoid speaking negatively about
services such as the University Store, Housing and Student Living, etc. Some
of the greatest teaching you will do as a representative of the university will
be the example you set for your students. The way you speak, write, dress
and present yourself will be noticed by your students. They will perceive
your attitudes about the university by how you talk about professors, fellow
students, the honor code etc.
This can be challenging at times. There may be moments in a meeting with
a mentee where he/she complains to you about a professor, and it can be
tempting to want to agree with the student that “the professor is horrible” or
“totally being unfair.” However, you can still sympathize with the student and
acknowledge the frustration they are feeling, but then help the student look
for solutions such as encouraging the student to visit with their professor to
discuss the situation and find a resolution. You can be a friend to the student
and still be a loyal representative of the university.
Part of representing the University includes knowing and living the standards
outlined in BYU-Idaho’s Honor Code. On the following page are summaries
of each area outlined by the university. Please become familiar with these
standards so that you can help others to live them. Further explanations can
be found at: byui.edu/student-honor-office/ces-honor-code

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ACADEMIC HONESTY CHURCH ATTENDANCE
We agree to be completely We agree to participate
honest in all our dealings, and serve in student wards
including class assignments and stakes by consistently
and tests. This means attending Sunday services,
we do not plagiarize family home evenings, and
material, fabricate or falsify activity nights.
information, or cheat. ECCLESIASTICAL
STUDENT LIFE ENDORSEMENTS
There is safety in abiding by We agree to visit with our
gospel standards. We agree bishop annually to certify that
to abstain from behavior we are living in accordance
that conflicts with the CES with the CES Honor Code and
Honor Code, like immorality, BYU-Idaho standards.
pornography, violent or DRESS AND GROOMING
sexually explicit entertainment As students and employees
or gambling. We also avoid we agree to live by standards
situations which might of being neat, clean and
compromise our standards modest in our dress and
and tempt us unnecessarily. appearance as defined by
living prophets.

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First MEETING

Your first face to face meeting is an important time for establishing
expectations and building a mentoring relationship. What you choose to
talk about and how you choose to address your role will establish a pattern
for the rest of your meetings. If you find it unnatural to bring up goals in
the first meeting and easier to talk about life, that is what your mentee will
expect. If you find it more comfortable to set goals and more awkward to
get to know them personally, your mentee will expect to share goals, but
not friendship. Both of these scenarios produce good fruits, but you will see
the most success in your mentorship if you find a way to balance these two
approaches.
After meeting with your mentee, record important information you want to
remember in the future, such as mentee’s important test dates, weekend plans, or
hobbies.
• Why is it important to make goals a priority in our meetings?
• What are some things I will say or do to create that priority?
• What can I do to still build a friendship while focusing on goals?

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ASK QUESTIONS

In every interaction with your mentees your questions will be essential to
their growth. Questions not only help you as a mentor understand your
mentees, but they help your mentees to understand themselves. Good
questions will lead mentees to self-reflect and receive personal insights on
how they can achieve their goals.
Asking too many questions about your mentee could cause them to feel
interrogated. If you find that your mentee seems hesitant to share or
feels awkward disclosing personal information, consider sharing your own
experiences. If your mentees see that you are open and willing to share
things about yourself, they will feel more comfortable confiding in you as
well. Before asking questions, it may be good to ask yourself “how would I
feel and what would I say if I was asked this question?”
DIFFERENT TYPES OF QUESTIONS CAN ASSIST YOU IN MENTORING, SUCH AS:
• What do you like to do for fun?
• What are some things you want to accomplish this semester?
• What have you tried in the past to reach your goal of being more social?
• What keeps you from getting the grades you want?

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Actively LISTEN

While talking with students, it can be tempting to listen to the first few things
they say and then automatically provide an answer. Often, the first things
they say are only the surface of a deeper concern. Ask follow-up questions.
Restate the problem or pose the question back to them to make sure you
understand it correctly. You will then be more prepared to assist them and
many times, problems will be solved by the students themselves as they talk
through it.
Make an effort to observe facial expression and tone of voice as your
mentee speaks. Noticing these non-verbal cues will help you know how to
bring to the surface any current struggles. If you notice the demeanor or
mood of your mentee change over the course of the semester, don’t be
afraid to address it.

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Find THE ONE

Throughout his life, Jesus Christ taught this principle through His words and
deeds. Likewise, you will learn and teach this principle as you mentor the
students of this campus. Remember that you have been placed with your
specific mentees through sincere prayer and revelation. The Lord knows you,
and He knows the students you’ve been assigned to mentor. You will come
to find that at least one of your mentees came into your life for a specific
reason.
Many students you mentor may either be doing just fine or do not desire
the help of a mentor and that is okay. It is important to be consistent and
diligent in contacting your mentees, as their needs and circumstances might
change throughout the semester. However, if a mentee expresses disinterest
in having a mentor or is non-responsive, pray to know what you should do
for them. You may feel prompted to let them know you’re there for them
and reach out occasionally throughout the semester; or you may feel like it is
best to let your coordinator know of the situation to receive their guidance.
The Lord will guide you in your decision making as you seek for his help.

Follow THE SPIRIT

Qualifying for and seeking the guidance of the Spirit will be essential in
becoming an effective mentor. Every student at BYU-Idaho is different and
each comes with unique strengths, weaknesses, and challenges. Sometimes
the needs of your students will be apparent, but often they are not and you
will need the help of the Holy Ghost to know how to serve each individual
student.
In addition to seeking the Lord’s guidance, ask your mentee questions or
discuss their situation with other mentors in your district. As you seek the
Lord and enlist the help of those around you, the Spirit will enlighten your
mind with specific ways to bless your mentees. Each is a son or daughter
of our Heavenly Father who knows them and their needs perfectly. He will
direct you in your labors as you seek His guidance.

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Goal FOLLOW UP

“Extending an invitation without following up is like beginning a journey
without finishing it or buying a ticket to a concert without going into the

theater. Without the completed action, the commitment is hollow.”
(PMG, p.200)

It is the responsibility of the mentees to accomplish their goals; it is your
responsibility as a mentor to follow up on these goals. During your weekly
face to face meeting have your mentees write down their goals in their
Mentee Workbook or discuss their goal progress.
In addition to those weekly meetings, frequent follow up can be beneficial
depending on the needs of your mentee’s goal. This additional follow-up can
be successful as you:
• Ask them how often they would like additional follow up
• Set reminders for yourself of when to follow up with them
When the students you mentor are reaching their goals, compliment them
and encourage them to continue to keep going. If they are struggling with
their goals, express your concern, but also express your faith in them that
they will be able to achieve it as you work together. Regardless of what they
have been doing, your own efforts in following up with them will bless your
mentees and strengthen your relationship with them.

“It is not enough to want to make the effort and to say we’ll make
the effort... It’s in the doing, not just the thinking, that we accomplish
our goals. If we constantly put our goals off, we will never see them
fulfilled.”


-Thomas S. Monson

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seeing god’s hand IN MENTORING

In General Conference several years ago, President Henry B. Eyring shared
his personal testimony of the power of recognizing and remembering
Heavenly Father’s hand in our lives. He explained that when he was a young
father, he was impressed by the Holy Ghost to keep a journal to record all of
the blessings God bestowed upon him and his family each day. As he did so,
he recounted:
“More than gratitude began to grow in my heart. Testimony grew. I became
ever more certain that our Heavenly Father hears and answers prayers. I
felt more gratitude for the softening and refining that come because of the
Atonement of the Savior Jesus Christ. And I grew more confident that the
Holy Ghost can bring all things to our remembrance—even things we did
not notice or pay attention to when they happened.” (Ensign, Nov. 2007)
President Eyring continued his talk by exhorting us to find ways to remember
God’s hand in our lives and the lives of those around us. We add our
testimony to President Eyring’s and encourage you to heed his counsel.
This mentoring program is a part of the Lord’s work. His hands guide this
program and you will receive the blessings promised by President Henry B.
Eyring as you take time to recognize them.
Consider taking a few minutes each day to record your personal answer to
this question from President Henry B. Eyring: “Have I seen the hand of God
reaching out to touch [me] or [the students I mentor] today?”

“God, our Father; Jesus, our Elder Brother and our
Redeemer; and the Holy Ghost, the Testator, are
perfect. They know us best and love us most and will
not leave one thing undone for our eternal welfare.”

- Ezra Taft Benson

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No Effort IS WASTED

Although some of your mentees may be “Discouragement will
unresponsive or not willing to work with you to weaken your faith. If you
become self-reliant don’t become discouraged. lower your expectations,
Remember that your mentees have agency and your effectiveness will
make the choice to be mentored or not. Your decrease, your desire
success as a mentor comes from your own will weaken, and you will
commitment and love for your mentees. have greater difficulty
YOU KNOW YOU HAVE BEEN A following the Spirit”
SUCCESSFUL MENTOR WHEN YOU: (PMG, p.10)

• Recognize the Lord’s hand in mentoring.

• Love mentees and want them to become self-reliant.

• Fulfill responsibilities in attending district meetings, stewardship
interviews, and submitting weekly activity reports.

• Ponder the needs of your mentees and how you can help meet them.

None of your efforts are wasted. There will be times when the students you
mentor avoid you, get busy and cannot meet with you. Even if your mentees
choose to not accept your help, they will remember your kindness and faith
in them. Your example may influence them in ways you will never know in
this life. Continue to do all that is asked of you as a mentor; have faith that
the Lord will magnify your efforts and use them to bless your life and the
lives of those around you.

“One can never tell what will be the result of faithful service rendered, nor
do we know when it will come back to us or to those with whom we are
associated. The reward may not come at the time, but in dividends later.
I believe we will never lose anything in life by giving service, by making

sacrifices, and doing the right thing.”
- Heber J. Grant

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OGISTIC

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MENTEE ROSTER: STEWARDSHIP INTERVIEWS:
This is a Google spreadsheet Throughout the semester,
that lists the mentees you’ve your mentor coordinator will
been assigned to mentor. schedule a time to meet with
It includes: student names, you individually to assess how
contact information, and other you are doing, as well as your
information such as hometown mentees, and help answer any
and hobbies. Use this sheet to questions you have. You can
connect and reach out to your help make these an effective use
mentees. Make notes here or of time by having an attitude
on your Mentee Worksheets of: What more can I do? Come
of anything you would like to ready to share your mentees
remember about them. This specific goals and what you are
sheet may be updated if there doing to help them.
are mentee adds or drops. GOAL GUIDE:
This section will walk you
HJG NEWSLETTER: and your mentee step-by-
Each week you will receive an step through the goal setting
email that contains reminders process. Through the course
about upcoming events, of the semester, each mentee
tips, campus resources, will set at least two goals - one
and information on campus first block and one second
workshops and activities being block. You will be asked to
held that week that may be report the information on these
beneficial for your mentees. worksheets during week 2 and 7
MENTOR REPORTS: of the semester.
Each week, you will fill out an SUBGROUPS:
online survey that asks you Subgroups are the smaller group of
to report on your activity with mentors you were placed in during
your mentees, training needs, the Mentor Training Conference.
success stories, and challenges. These groups are designed to help
You will receive a link via email mentors support and learn from
every Friday morning and each other in a smaller environment.
complete the form by Saturday Adjustments to these groups can be
at midnight. made throughout the semester as
the Coordinator sees fit.

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OW TO BEGI

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Life Coach Steps

Expectations/Evaluation

Mentee Worksheets (pg. 35)

1 - Goals

Goal Guide (pg. 52-72)

2 - Personal Action Steps

Goal Guide (pg. 52-72)

3 - Team Action Steps

Goal Guide (pg. 52-72)

Review, Revise, Restart

Further Explanation (pg. 32-33)

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SAMPLE EVALUATION

On a scale of 1-10, indicate mentee’s confidence level in each of the following areas of
student life. (1= No Confidence, 10 = Very High Confidence)

Academic Physical Spiritual Financial Emotional Social
Ability Health Wellness Stability Health Skills

START OF SEMESTER
MIDDLE OF SEMESTER

END OF SEMESTER

Which of the areas above do they want to focus on this semester?
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SAMPLE GOAL TRACKER

Goal #1 Achieved

Mentee Action Steps

1
2
3

Team Action Steps

1
2
3

Goal Review Date:

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FURTHER EXPLANATION

CONFIDENCE INDICATORS
Use this in your first, middle and last meetings with your mentee to
track their progress. Explain to your mentee:
• Knowing your confidence in these areas helps the University know
what resources to provide to students
• It helps me as a mentor know where we should focus our goals
• Checking your confidence at the beginning, middle and end will help
you see your progress
FOCUS AREAS
Establish these in the first meeting. Once a goal is completed revisit
these answers to know where to set the next goal.
GOALS
Set 1 goal at a time. Step 1 of the Goal Guide gives several goal ideas
for your mentee, if none of the areas seem applicable, create your own
goal. Through the course of the semester, each mentee will set at least
two goals - one first block and one second block.
PERSONAL ACTION STEPS
Mentees complete these small steps on their own, ask frequently how
they are going. Step 2 of the Goal Guide will give suggestions on what
steps to take, but these ideas can be modified as applicable.
TEAM ACTION STEPS
It is your responsibility to schedule out when you and your mentee
will accomplish each suggested task in Step 3 of the Goal Guide. Strive
to make one Team Action Step to take place each week. Activities and
resources can be modified as applicable.
GOAL REVIEW DATE
Decide together when the goal can reasonably be accomplished. On
Review Date, see the following page to walk your mentee through the
Review, Revise, Restart process.

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EXPLANATIONS CONTINUED

GOAL REVIEW DATE
Goal Review sections can be found in the Mentee Workbook’s goal trackers.
Ideally 1 goal should be accomplished each block of the semester, meaning
your first Goal Review Date should be mid-semester. Regardless of when
your Goal Review Date is follow the process below.
Review
• If mentee selects YES, skip to RESTART step
Revise
• If mentee selects NO: skip to RESTART step
• After discussing possible changes here, record final goal
adjustments on a new Goal Tracker

Restart
• After mentee has selected new focus area, have them turn to their
next Goal Tracker. Start again at step 1 for the goal setting progress.

SEMESTER CONCLUSION
Complete this Semester Conclusion with your mentee in your final
meeting, of the semester. The Semester Conclusion can be found on pg.
18 of the Mentee Workbook.

Confidence Improvements
First complete the End of Semester Confidence Levels on pg. 9, then
mark with a check or an x areas that improved over the course of the
semester.

Semester Accomplishments
These can include things that didn’t have to do with their goals, it’s
purpose is to help them focus on the strengths of the semester.

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SAMPLE REVIEW

Review YES NO

Did you accomplish your Goal?

Revise YES NO

Do you still want to work on this goal?

What will you do differently to reach your goal this time?

Restart

Record your mid-semester confidence levels on pg. 9
What area (see Evaluation on pg. 9) will you work on next?

SAMPLE CONCLUSION

Academic Physical Spiritual Financial Emotional Social
Ability Health Wellness Stability Health Skills

IMPROVED

What Most helped my confidence to improve in these areas?

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1
2
3
4
5

2 things I want to keep improving

1
2

OAL GUIDE Emotional

pg. 29

Academic

pg. 32

Physical

pg. 35

Financial

pg. 38

Spiritual

pg. 41

Social

pg. 44

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STUDENT WORKSHOPS & SKILLS MENTORING
WORKSHOPS

On the next page, you will see a list of workshops from Learn Live Become. These are interactive
and are specifically created for you and your mentee as a part of the HJG Mentoring Program. It is
expected that you attend at least one workshop throughout the semester.
Their times and locations can be found on their website through these steps:
1. Visit www.byui.edu/student-support/learn-live-become
2. Click on specified workshop area
3. Scroll to find workshop title
4. Click the “Save Your Seat” button to sign-up

EXAMPLE: If series section is
Attend LLB’s Life Skills Workshop: Decision Making - 7S not specified, all
parts of workshop
Area Title series are
applicable.

CAREER SERVICES WORKSHOPS

All workshop details can be found on their website:
www.byui.edu/career-services/career-preparation/workshops

WELLNESS CENTER WORKSHOPS

Visit the Wellness Center located at the Hart building for workshop schedules.
More information can also be found on their website:
www.byui.edu/wellness-center-home

*Note: All other information regarding activities or events suggested in Team Action Steps
can be found by Googling “BYUI” and key words from the Action Step.

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Student and Skills Mentoring Workshops

Discipleship • Rebuilding your Testimony
Workshops • Applying the Atonement to your
Academic
Workshops Life
• Likening the Scriptures
Life Skills • How Jesus Christs Atonement
Workshops • Creating a Learning Enviroment
• Getting the Most out of Class
Financial • Test Taking
Workshops • Patterns for Academic Success
Leadership
Workshops • Maximize your Time: Focus Funnel
• Planning and Goal Acheivement
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• Decision Making 8 Wastes
• Problem Solving
• Maximize your Time : RAC Method
• Strengthening your Roommate

Relationships and Friendships
• Decision Making - Pugh Matrix
• Decision Making Standard Work
• Decision Making - 7S
• Managing your Money
• Budgeting
• Savings
• International Students
• Debt Management
• Giving Back While in

• Elevating your Mindset
• Goal Setting
• Choosing a Growth Mindset
• The Power of Yet
• Effective Feedback

EMOTIONAL

1 GOALS

Select one of the goals below or create your own to report on your goal tracker.

Understand Enhance Emotion
Your Behaviors Coping Skills

Improve Your Manage Your
Self Image Stress

Develop Hobbies Create Your
and Talents
+Own
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EMOTIONAL

2 PERSONAL ACTION STEPS

Select 3 of the activities in your box to complete. You may also select action
steps from other boxes or create your own.

UNDERSTAND YOUR BEHAVIORS ENHANCE EMOTION COPING SKILLS

In a journal track your mood Attend a Counseling Center
changes everyday group workshop on Anxiety &
Read “Like a Broken Vessel” Oct. Depression or Abuse
2013 General Conference Explore the Counseling Center’s
Visit MentalHealth.LDS.org to read online Self-Help section
& watch personal experiences Set up a 30 minute consultation
Create your own appt. with the Counseling Center
Create your own
IMPROVE YOUR SELF-IMAGE
MANAGE YOUR STRESS
Start a self-worth journal, write 3
things you did well in it daily Find someone to talk to everyday
Buy a planner, schedule out all of about things going on in your life
your responsibilities Attend a Counseling Center group
Attend a Counseling Center group workshop on Stress management
workshop on self-esteem issues
Create your own Explore the Counseling Center’s
online Self-Help section
Create your own

DEVELOP HOBBIES AND TALENTS CREATE YOUR OWN

Buy a planner, schedule out your Select any of the ideas above and
available free time combine them with your own
Practice your hobby/talent for 30 ideas to create actions that best
minutes a day accomplish your goal.
Visit the activities office, explore
how to get more involved
Create your own

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EMOTIONAL

3 TEAM ACTION STEPS

Select 3 of the activities in your box to complete. You may also select action
steps from other boxes or create your own.

UNDERSTAND YOUR BEHAVIORS ENHANCE EMOTION COPING SKILLS

Practice meditating together Go to the gym together
Attend the Counseling Center’s Get Attend the Counseling Center’s Get
Grit Workshop Grit Workshop
Have a discussion together about Make a plan together on how to better
behaviors cope emotionally
Create your own Create your own

IMPROVE YOUR SELF-IMAGE MANAGE YOUR STRESS

Reflect on the past week’s tender Attend a free yoga class together to
mercies learn stress management
Study the scriptures together, Go out for ice cream and a walk or
specifically about God’s love have a heart to heart talk
Share with you mentor what successes Reflect on the past weeks tender
you’ve found with yourself each day mercies you’ve witnessed
Create your own Create your own

DEVELOP HOBBIES AND TALENTS CREATE YOUR OWN

Set a date to perform newly Select any of the ideas above
developed talents to each other and combine them with your
Visit the activities office to explore own ideas to create actions for
activities to get more involved in you to do together that best
Sign up for an intramural sport
together accomplish your goal.
Create your own
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ACADEMIC

1 GOALS

Select one of the goals below or create your own to report on your goal tracker.

Improve Your Develop Better
Grades Study Habits

Explore Degrees Manage Your
and Careers Time

Prepare For Create Your
Your Career
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ACADEMIC

2 PERSONAL ACTION STEPS

Select 3 of the activities in your box to complete. You may also select action
steps from other boxes or create your own.

IMPROVE YOUR GRADES DEVELOP BETTER STUDY HABITS

Meet with a tutor for a class Put a dollar in a “study jar” when
Study at least 30 minutes a day at you study for at least 30 min, use
a set time the money when finals are over
Make a list of all assignments due Make a list of 15 min. brain break
the following week and what day activities to do to avoid burn-out
you will complete them Create a study group with
Create your own classmates
Create your own
EXPLORE DEGREES AND CAREERS
MANAGE YOUR TIME
Meet with professors from majors
you are interested in Buy a planner, schedule out the
Visit BYU-I’s Career and Major time you have for homework
Exploration website to search Set alarms in your phone to go off
possibilities when it is time to study
Make a list of skills you have and Ask a classmate if they want to
bring it when you meet with an study or work on an assignment
Academic Advisor together, make it a set time
Create your own Create your own

PREPARE FOR YOUR CAREER CREATE YOUR OWN

Ask a professor about the process Select any of the ideas above and
of applying for graduate school combine them with your own
Meet with the internship ideas to create actions that best
missionaries to discover where, accomplish your goal.
when, and how to get internships
Watch the LinkedIn training videos |Mentor Handbook 33
on the BYUI Alumni webpage
Create your own

ACADEMIC

3 TEAM ACTION STEPS

Select 3 of the activities in your box to complete. You may also select action
steps from other boxes or create your own.

IMPROVE YOUR GRADES DEVELOP BETTER STUDY HABITS

Nightly accountability to one another Meet in the library to work on
for homework completion homework together
Set a time to study together Teach one another what you’ve been
Spend time making flash cards for a studying for a class
class together Spend time making flash cards for a
Create your own class together
Create your own
EXPLORE DEGREES AND CAREERS
MANAGE YOUR TIME
Visit the BYU-I Alumni Office together
Set up an appt. with an Academic Buy a planner and schedule out your
Advisor week
Attend the Career Fair together Evaluate together how time is spent,
Create your own and determine where the most time is
lost throughout the day
Mentor to follow up on a schedule
that the mentee arranges
Create your own

PREPARE FOR YOUR CAREER CREATE YOUR OWN

Go together to the Career Networking Select any of the ideas above
Center and combine them with your
Attend Career Services workshop: own ideas to create actions for
Networking and Other Job Search you to do together that best
Strategies
Attend the BYUI Career Fair together to accomplish your goal.
explore various options and internship
opportunities

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PHYSICAL

1 GOALS

Select one of the goals below or create your own to report on your goal tracker.

Change Your Eating Create an Active
Habits Lifestyle

Develop Your Manage Your
Fitness Abilities Stress

Improve Your Create Your
Sleeping Habits
+Own

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PHYSICAL

2 PERSONAL ACTION STEPS

Select 3 of the activities in your box to complete. You may also select action
steps from other boxes or create your own.

CHANGE YOUR EATING HABITS CREATE AN ACTIVE LIFESTYLE

Write a plan for next week’s meals, Sign up for a competitive or
buy and prep them this weekend intramural sport
Look up a new healthy recipe to Get involved with outdoor activities
make with your roommates and attend their weekly events
Choose a food or nutrition habit Walk/ride your bike to school/work
to eliminate, go the next 25 days instead of driving, or plan to take a
without it, then reward yourself longer route if you already walk
Create your own Create your own

DEVELOP YOUR FITNESS ABILITIES MANAGE YOUR STRESS

Ask a roommate or friend to Download a yoga or meditation app
workout with you a few times a to do on your lunch breaks
week Block out at least 15 minutes of
Sign up for a personal trainer your day everyday to workout/
through the Fit4Life program stretch
Download an app that has pre- Plan a workout to do whenever high
designed workouts, schedule stress moments arise
when you will do them Create your own
Create your own
CREATE YOUR OWN
IMPROVE YOUR SLEEPING HABITS
Select any of the ideas above and
Ask your roommates to help combine them with your own
keep you accountable to your ideas to create actions that best
desired sleep routine accomplish your goal.
Decide how many hours of sleep
you need each night, plan what
time to wake up and go to bed
Set alarms to remind you to get
ready for bed
Create your own

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PHYSICAL

3 TEAM ACTION STEPS

Select 3 of the activities in your box to complete. You may also select action
steps from other boxes or create your own.

CHANGE YOUR EATING HABITS CREATE AN ACTIVE LIFESTYLE

Eat lunch or dinner together with your Learn about intramural sports on
mentor campus and sign up for one
Create a shopping list together Attend Zumba night together
Explore the BYU-I fitness classes, select
Meal prep together one to attend each week
Create your own
Create your own

DEVELOP YOUR FITNESS ABILITIES MANAGE YOUR STRESS

Explore the BYU-I fitness classes, Attend a free yoga class together to learn
select one to attend each week stress management
Attend the Wellness Center’s Explore the BYU-I fitness classes, select
Workshop: Programming Specific one to attend each week
Training Goals Clean up your apartment together
Get involved in one of Student Create your own
Activities “Fitness Events”
Create your own CREATE YOUR OWN

IMPROVE YOUR SLEEPING HABITS Select any of the ideas above
and combine them with your
Explore BYUI’s Counseling Center own ideas to create actions for
Self-Help “Sleep” page you to do together that best
Download the “Alarmy” app to get
yourself up in the morning accomplish your goal.
Send reminder texts to each other
when it’s time to go to sleep |Mentor Handbook 37
Create your own

FINANCIAL

1 GOALS

Select one of the goals below or create your own to report on your goal tracker.

Explore Financial Budget Your
Aid Options Money

Build Your Resume Search and
& Interview Skills Apply for Jobs

Create a Create Your
Savings Plan
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FINANCIAL

2 PERSONAL ACTION STEPS

Select 3 of the activities in your box to complete. You may also select action
steps from other boxes or create your own.

EXPLORE FINANCIAL AID OPTIONS BUDGET YOUR MONEY

Visit the Financial Aid office to ask about Watch “Budgeting” on Federal
additional financial aid options Student Aid’s YouTube channel
Attend local Food Banks in your area Download “Mint” or other
Fill out the BYU-I Scholarship Application budgeting apps
and a FAFSA form Ask a roommate to budget with
Create your own you, keep each other accountable
Create your own

BUILD YOUR RESUME & INTERVIEWS SEARCH AND APPLY FOR JOBS

Take your resume to the Career Look at the Student Employment
Networking Center for a free review Job Board online once a day
Set up a free mock interview with Make a list of places you want to
the Career Networking Center work, call and ask them when they
Visit Student Support or Student hire and the best way to apply
Activities to explore volunteer Take your resume around to 7
opportunities different businesses
Create your own Create your own

CREATE A SAVINGS PLAN CREATE YOUR OWN

Create a semester spending plan and Select any of the ideas above and
budget out how much you’ll save each combine them with your own
month ideas to create actions that best
Talk with your bank about investment accomplish your goal.
options
Explore BYUI’s “Additional Resources” |Mentor Handbook 39
on the Financial Aid “Savings” webpage
Create your own

FINANCIAL

3 TEAM ACTION STEPS

Select 3 of the activities in your box to complete. You may also select action
steps from other boxes or create your own.

EXPLORE FINANCIAL AID OPTIONS BUDGET YOUR MONEY

Visit the BYUI Financial Aid office together Work with your mentor to create a
Complete the FASFA application with budget
your mentor Together monitor and refine your
Explore BYUI and Third Party Scholarship spending habits
options Write Out a Simple “In and Out”
Create your own Expense Sheet
Create your own

BUILD YOUR RESUME & INTERVIEWS SEARCH AND APPLY FOR JOBS

Attend Career Services workshop: Attend Career Services workshop:
Writing Resumes and other Professional LinkedIn Training
Documents Search the BYUI Job Board and or
Go together to BYUIs Career Networking Indeed with your mentor
Center Attend Career Services workshop:
Practice interviews with your mentor Interviewing and Accepting the Job
and go over resume together Create your own
Create your own

CREATE A SAVINGS PLAN CREATE YOUR OWN

Together monitor and refine your Select any of the ideas above
spending habits and combine them with your
Together work to create specific own ideas to create actions for
savings goals you to do together that best
Explore BYUI’s Financial Aid “Savings”
webpage accomplish your goal.
Create your own

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SPIRITUAL

1 GOALS

Select one of the goals below or create your own to report on your goal tracker.

See God in Serve More
Your Life

Develop Christlike Improve Spiritual
Qualities Habits

Increase Spiritual Create Your
Knowledge
+Own

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SPIRITUAL

2 PERSONAL ACTION STEPS

Select 3 of the activities in your box to complete. You may also select action
steps from other boxes or create your own.

SEE GOD IN YOUR LIFE SERVE MORE

Post a spiritual insight on social Make a random drop by to your
media weekly ministering brother or sister
Each night write down how you Visit BYUI’s Student Support to
saw God’s hand in your life that day explore volunteer opportunities
Pray each day for the influence of Text a verse of scripture or quote
the Spirit and to see God’s miracles to someone in need
Create your own Create your own

DEVELOP CHRISTLIKE QUALITIES IMPROVE SPIRITUAL HABITS

Attend Disciple Leader Conference Watch a Mormon Message when
you first wake up
Select a quality you want to Attend the Temple and your FHE
develop, plan to do one thing each weekly
day that demonstrates that quality Read scriptures daily for at least 15
Find scriptural examples of people minutes
demonstrating the desired quality Create your own

Create your own

INCREASE SPIRITUAL KNOWLEDGE CREATE YOUR OWN

Sign up for an institute or Select any of the ideas above and
religion class combine them with your own
Meet with and help the local ideas to create actions that best
missionaries teach accomplish your goal.
Select a topic to study for at
least 15 minutes daily
Create your own

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SPIRITUAL

3 TEAM ACTION STEPS

Select 3 of the activities in your box to complete. You may also select action
steps from other boxes or create your own.

SEE GOD IN YOUR LIFE SERVE MORE

Attend Devotional weekly Attend the temple together
Text each other daily tender mercies Attend an event sponsored by Service
Set a time each week to study your Activities
scriptures together Attend HJG’s Service Event
Create your own Create your own

DEVELOP CHRISTLIKE QUALITIES IMPROVE SPIRITUAL HABITS

Study references to Christlike Set a time each week to study your
attributes in Gospel Library scriptures together
Attend Disciple Leader Conference Attend Devotional weekly
Attend Devotional weekly Each week share with each other what
Create your own you learned from your religion class
Create your own
INCREASE SPIRITUAL KNOWLEDGE
CREATE YOUR OWN
Attend Devotional weekly
Each week share with each other what Select any of the ideas above
you learned from your religion class and combine them with your
Read a different General Conference own ideas to create actions for
talk each week you to do together that best
Create your own
accomplish your goal.

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SOCIAL

1 GOALS

Select one of the goals below or create your own to report on your goal tracker.

Meet New Adventure
People More

Improve Your Manage Your
Dating Life Social Time

Build A Social Create Your
Group
+Own
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SOCIAL

2 PERSONAL ACTION STEPS

Select 3 of the activities in your box to complete. You may also select action
steps from other boxes or create your own.

MEET NEW PEOPLE ADVENTURE MORE

Go to FHE every week Visit the BYUI Master Calendar
Talk to a new person in class online and choose something
everyday new to do each week
Search for activities to go and Go dancing on campus: Latin,
attend on campus Ballroom, Swing, Country
Create your own Invite friends and ward members
to hike R Mountain with you
Create your own

IMPROVE DATING LIFE MANAGE YOUR SOCIAL TIME

Google a new date idea for every Get a planner and see how much
week time you can spend on having fun
Ask someone on a date or start a Set limits on how much social time
conversation with a stranger every you can have each day
week Make yourself do something social
Watch “Elder and Sister Bednar - for at least 30 minutes a day
Love” on LDS.org Create your own
Create your own

BUILD A SOCIAL GROUP CREATE YOUR OWN

Invite an apartment from your Select any of the ideas above and
ward over for dinner combine them with your own
Attend FHE every week ideas to create actions that best
Invite friends and ward members accomplish your goal.
to hike R Mountain with you
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SOCIAL

3 TEAM ACTION STEPS

Select 3 of the activities in your box to complete. You may also select action
steps from other boxes or create your own.

MEET NEW PEOPLE ADVENTURE MORE

Plan a game night together Attend an event put on by Outdoor
Have a mentor and mentee roommate Activities
breakfast Visit Student Activities to see what
Visit Student Activities or Student activities they have planned
Support to see how to get involved Sign up together for an intramural
Create your own sport
Create your own

IMPROVE DATING LIFE MANAGE YOUR SOCIAL TIME

Plan a double date with your mentor Buy a planner and schedule out your
Visit Student Activities to see what week together
social activities you could bring a date Both of you invite friends to go roller
to skating on campus
Invite someone to come to Devo Find a Student Activity going on that
Create your own week and go together
Create your own

BUILD A SOCIAL GROUP CREATE YOUR OWN

Attend the HJG mid-semester service Select any of the ideas above
activity together and combine them with your
own ideas to create actions for
Visit Student Activities or Student you to do together that best
Support to see how to get involved
accomplish your goal.
Host a movie or game night

Create your own

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ADDITIONAL

! TEAM ACTION STEPS

Here are some ideas additional Team Action Step ideas to implement into your
weekly meetings.

WEEKLY MEETING IDEAS

Invite them to a lunch, breakfast, or dinner at your apartment
Go to the HJG Service Activity together
Find out what they love to do for fun and do it together
Get together and do your scripture study
Find a Student Activity going on that week and go together
Attend the temple together
Grab lunch together at the Crossroads and talk about your week
Meet in the library to work on homework together
Go get ice cream or hot chocolate and talk about how their goal is going
Invite them to a game night with your roommates and friends
Go to devotional together
Find a fitness activity on campus to go to together
Both of you invite friends to go roller skating on campus
Go grocery shopping together
Get together with some friends to play a sport
Go on a walk around campus together
Attend a free yoga class in the Hart building
Visit BYU-I Alumni Office together
Sign up together for an intramural sport
Teach your mentor what you have been studying for class

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CAMPUS RESOURCES

Academic Advising Office

General advising and class planning, career exploration, and
foundation classes. Visit their website to discover your college
specific advisors.
Location: 101 Chapman
Websites: www.byui.edu/advising/academic-advising
Phone: 208.496.9800
E-mail: [email protected]

Academic Support Centers

Drop in labs for math, writing, and reading, individual and group
tutoring, interactive tutoring videos, presentation practice center,
quizzes, and tips on their website.
Location: David O. McKay Library 272 2nd Floor; East Wing
Websites: www.byui.edu/academic-support-centers
Phone: 208.496.4271

Admissions Office

Explore your options for overrides and deferments to make your
assigned track meet your needs.
Location: Kimball Building 120
Website: www.byui.edu/admissions
Phone: 208.496.1300
E-mail: [email protected]

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Career and Internship Services

Resume revisions, practice interviews, locating internships,
assistance with a job search, and networking.
Location: Manwaring Center 127A
Websites: www.byui.edu/career-services,
www.byui.edu/internships
Phone: 208.496.9823
Email: [email protected]

Counseling Center

Explore concerns, resolve difficulties, and receive assistance in
managing life’s challenges in a safe environment with a professional
counselor. Free couple, group, and individual counseling for mental
health, behavioral issues or unmet emotional needs.
Location: SHC 200 - above the Student Health Center
Websites: www.byui.edu/counseling-center
Phone: 208.496.9370
After Hours Emergency: 208.496.HELP or 208.496.4357

Dean of Students Office

The Dean of Students can be your advocate if you experience
unfortunate life circumstances such as missing class for medical
reasons, persisting trouble with a professor or campus office,
serious illness or death of a loved one.
Location: 290 Kimball Building
Website: www.byui.edu/dean-of-students
Phone: 208.496.9200
Email: [email protected]

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