Heber J Grant Winter 20 Mentor Guide

Mentor Guide

WINTER 2020

Sponsored by Student Support

03

Program

Welcome

05

Mentoring

Principles and Skills

16

Logistics

Training

18

How to Begin

Life Coach Steps

24

Goal Guide

Resources

46

Campus Resources

Contact Info

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Heber J. Grant Peer MENTORING
AT BYU-IDAHO

Welcome and thank you for serving as a Heber J. Grant peer
mentor this semester. We hope you are ready to bless the lives
of students here on campus, in addition to being blessed and
changed as a result of your service.

In Heber J. Grant’s early years he faced debilitating financial
circumstances, a broken home, and rejection from social
circles. His determination and incredible triumphs are
the inspiration for this peer-mentoring program. His life
experience is evidence that unfortunate circumstances or hard
times do not determine our future—­ we do.

The mentees that opt to have a mentor come from a variety
of backgrounds and challenges. Some have faced difficult
challenges in the past, some are currently struggling with an
aspect of student life, and some simply desire to improve. All
of these students are prayerfully paired with their mentors
and we firmly believe the Lord has placed your mentees in
your life for a reason. It is up to you to discern and lift them in
the ways they most need.

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Letters of Appreciation

Chris Tena Program Director

Dear Heber J. Grant Mentors,

I have been a witness to many miracles in the
Heber J. Grant program. I know of no other
program on campus that exemplifies “finding the
one” as this program does. I have been humbled
by seeing mentors and mentees work together.
There are many miracles that happen each week
because of the effort mentors put in. My favorite
part of the program is meeting with the mentors each semester. My
biggest piece of advice to them and to anybody in the program, mentor
or mentee, is love: Love like you want to be loved and then love like
Christ would love you. Second biggest piece of advice is to have fun!

Kimball Benson Student Support Coordinator

Dear Heber J. Grant Mentors,

How grateful we are for your willingness and
desire to serve your fellow brothers and sisters
here at BYU-Idaho this semester. This will
obviously require some sacrifice of time that
may have been used for homework, jobs, social
activities, and even Netflix. :) However, every
semester, mentor after mentor testifies that as
they dedicate time to serve their mentees with all their hearts, the Lord
multiplies the remaining time in their week to help them accomplish
everything they need to in their lives. I give you the same promise.
You cannot lift another without lifting yourself and as you serve these
awesome students, your lives will be better academically, socially, and
spiritually. May God bless you in your service!

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ENTORINPrinciples
& Skills

our purpose SELF-RELIANCE

President Grant was long known for establishing the Church welfare program
on the principle of self-reliance. This principle goes far beyond the important
idea of spending less than you make. Self-reliance also implies an ethic of
personal responsibility—rather than sit back and wait for people to do things
for you—actively seek those resources yourself and use them responsibly
and deliberately. The Lord has given all of us at this university abundant
resources, but He expects us to use our agency to act, to engage, and to
become agents unto ourselves.

As a Heber J. Grant mentor, your purpose is to assist students in becoming
more self-reliant in each aspect of their lives. You accomplish this purpose
through being:

a Life Coach • a Guide • a Friend

You are a life coach to your mentees as you set goals and make plans with
them to improve academically, spiritually, socially, emotionally, physically,
and financially. As a guide, you lead them to campus resources such as the
tutoring center, financial aid office, and applicable workshops. In being a
friend to your mentees, you support them in their endeavors and encourage
them to become better students and disciples of Jesus Christ.

ASSISTED REFERRALS

As Heber J. Grant mentors, it is expected that we help our mentees to the
best of our ability. We have found that the most effective way to help our
mentees is to not only inform them of the resources that the university has
available, but to help them know how to use them. We do this as we take our
mentees to the resources, and help them know how to set up an appoint-
ment when needed.

For instance, if your mentee needs a tutor, it is your job to help them know
how to make an appointment online, and to know what to do when they
show up to the tutoring center. Instead of just telling your mentee to check
out the International Services office, it is best to take the time to go with your
mentee there.

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Represent THE UNIVERSITY

As a HJG mentor at BYU-Idaho, you will be a representative of the university
to your mentees. Your attitude towards school policies and student life will
be evident through your words and actions. Avoid speaking negatively about
services such as the University Store, Housing and Student Living, etc. Some
of the greatest teaching you will do as a representative of the university will
be the example you set for your students. The way you speak, write, dress,
and present yourself will be noticed by your students. They will perceive
your attitudes about the university by how you talk about professors, fellow
students, the honor code, etc.

This can be challenging at times. There may be moments in a meeting with
a mentee where he/she complains to you about a professor, and it can be
tempting to want to agree with the student that “the professor is horrible” or
“totally being unfair.” However, you can still sympathize with the student and
acknowledge the frustration they are feeling, but then help the student look
for solutions such as encouraging the student to visit with their professor to
discuss the situation and find a resolution. You can be a friend to the student
and still be a loyal representative of the university.

Part of representing the university includes knowing and living the standards
outlined in BYU-Idaho’s Honor Code. On the following page are summaries
of each area outlined by the university. Please become familiar with these
standards so that you can help others to live them. Further explanations can
be found at: byui.edu/student-honor-office/ces-honor-code

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ACADEMIC HONESTY CHURCH ATTENDANCE
We agree to be completely We agree to participate
honest in all our dealings, and serve in student wards
including class assignments and stakes by consistently
and tests. This means attending Sunday services,
we do not plagiarize family home evenings, and
material, fabricate or falsify activity nights.
information, or cheat.
ECCLESIASTICAL
STUDENT LIFE ENDORSEMENTS
There is safety in abiding We agree to visit with our
by gospel standards. We bishop annually to certify that
agree to abstain from we are living in accordance
behavior that conflicts with with the CES Honor Code and
the CES Honor Code like BYU-Idaho standards.
immorality, pornography,
violent or sexually explicit DRESS AND GROOMING
entertainment, or gambling. As students and employees
We also avoid situations we agree to live by standards
which might compromise of being neat, clean, and
our standards and tempt us modest in our dress and
unnecessarily. appearance as defined by
living prophets.

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First MEETING

Your first face-to-face meeting is an important time for establishing
expectations and building a mentoring relationship. What you choose to
talk about and how you choose to address your role will establish a pattern
for the rest of your meetings. If you find it unnatural to bring up goals in
the first meeting and easier to talk about life, that is what your mentee will
expect. If you find it more comfortable to set goals and more awkward to
get to know them personally, your mentee will expect to share goals, but
not friendship. Both of these scenarios produce good fruits, but you will see
the most success in your mentorship if you find a way to balance these two
approaches.
After meeting with your mentee, record important information you want to
remember in the future, such as mentee’s important test dates, weekend
plans, or hobbies.
• Why is it important to make goals a priority in our meetings?
• What are some things I will say or do to create that priority?
• What can I do to still build a friendship while focusing on goals?

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ASK QUESTIONS

In every interaction with your mentees your questions will be essential to
their growth. Questions not only help you as a mentor understand your
mentees, but they help your mentees to understand themselves. Good
questions will lead mentees to self-reflect and receive personal insights on
how they can achieve their goals.
Asking too many questions about your mentee could cause them to feel
interrogated. If you find that your mentee seems hesitant to share or
feels awkward disclosing personal information, consider sharing your own
experiences. If your mentees see that you are open and willing to share
things about yourself, they will feel more comfortable confiding in you as
well. Before asking questions, it may be good to ask yourself how you would
feel and what you would say if you were asked the same question.

DIFFERENT TYPES OF QUESTIONS CAN ASSIST YOU IN MENTORING, SUCH AS:
• What do you like to do for fun?
• What are some things you want to accomplish this semester?
• What have you tried in the past to reach your goal of being more social?
• What keeps you from getting the grades you want?

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Actively LISTEN

While talking with students, it can be tempting to listen to the first few things
they say and then automatically provide an answer. Often, the first things
they say are only the surface of a deeper concern. Ask follow-up questions.
Restate the problem or pose the question back to them to make sure you
understand it correctly. You will then be more prepared to assist them and
many times, problems will be solved by the students themselves as they talk
through it.
Make an effort to observe facial expression and tone of voice as your
mentee speaks. Noticing these non-verbal cues will help you know how to
bring to the surface any current struggles. If you notice the demeanor or
mood of your mentee change over the course of the semester, don’t be
afraid to address it.

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Find THE ONE

Throughout his life, Jesus Christ taught this principle through His words and
deeds. Likewise, you will learn and teach this principle as you mentor the
students of this campus. Remember that you have been placed with your
specific mentees through sincere prayer and revelation. The Lord knows you,
and He knows the students you’ve been assigned to mentor. You will come
to find that at least one of your mentees came into your life for a specific
reason.

Many students you mentor may either be doing just fine or do not desire
the help of a mentor and that is okay. It is important to be consistent and
diligent in contacting your mentees, as their needs and circumstances might
change throughout the semester. However, if a mentee expresses disinterest
in having a mentor or is non-responsive, pray to know what you should do
for them. You may feel prompted to let them know you’re there for them
and reach out occasionally throughout the semester; or you may feel like it is
best to let your coordinator know of the situation to receive their guidance.
The Lord will guide you in your decision making as you seek for his help.

Follow THE SPIRIT

Qualifying for and seeking the guidance of the Spirit will be essential in
becoming an effective mentor. Every student at BYU-Idaho is different and
each comes with unique strengths, weaknesses, and challenges. Sometimes
the needs of your students will be apparent, but often they are not and you
will need the help of the Holy Ghost to know how to serve each individual
student.

In addition to seeking the Lord’s guidance, ask your mentee questions or
discuss their situation with other mentors in your district. As you seek the
Lord and enlist the help of those around you, the Spirit will enlighten your
mind with specific ways to bless your mentees. Each is a son or daughter
of our Heavenly Father who knows them and their needs perfectly. He will
direct you in your labors as you seek His guidance.

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Goal FOLLOW UP

“Extending an invitation without following up is like beginning a journey
without finishing it or buying a ticket to a concert without going into the

theater. Without the completed action, the commitment is hollow.”
(PMG, p. 200)

It is the responsibility of the mentees to accomplish their goals; it is your
responsibility as a mentor to follow up on these goals. During your weekly
face to face meeting have your mentees write down their goals in their
mentee workbook or discuss their goal progress.

In addition to those weekly meetings, frequent follow-up can be beneficial
depending on the needs of your mentee’s goal. This additional follow-up can
be successful as you:

• Ask them how often they would like additional follow-up

• Set reminders for yourself of when to follow-up with them

When the students you mentor are reaching their goals, compliment them
and encourage them to continue to keep going. If they are struggling with
their goals, express your concern, but also express your faith in them that
they will be able to achieve it as you work together. Regardless of what they
have been doing, your own efforts in following up with them will bless your
mentees and strengthen your relationship with them.

“It is not enough to want to make the effort and to say we’ll
make the effort…It’s in the doing, not just the thinking, that
we accomplish our goals. If we constantly put our goals off,
we will never see them fulfilled.”


—Thomas S. Monson

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seeing god’s hand IN MENTORING

In General Conference several years ago, President Henry B. Eyring shared
his personal testimony of the power of recognizing and remembering
Heavenly Father’s hand in our lives. He explained that when he was a young
father, he was impressed by the Holy Ghost to keep a journal to record all of
the blessings God bestowed upon him and his family each day. As he did so,
he recounted:

“More than gratitude began to grow in my heart. Testimony grew. I became
ever more certain that our Heavenly Father hears and answers prayers. I
felt more gratitude for the softening and refining that come because of the
Atonement of the Savior Jesus Christ. And I grew more confident that the
Holy Ghost can bring all things to our remembrance—even things we did
not notice or pay attention to when they happened.” (Ensign, Nov. 2007)

President Eyring continued his talk by exhorting us to find ways to remember
God’s hand in our lives and the lives of those around us. We add our
testimony to President Eyring’s and encourage you to heed his counsel.
This mentoring program is a part of the Lord’s work. His hands guide this
program and you will receive the blessings promised by President Henry B.
Eyring as you take time to recognize them.

Consider taking a few minutes each day to record your personal answer to
this question from President Henry B. Eyring: “Have I seen the hand of God
reaching out to touch [me] or [the students I mentor] today?”

“God, our Father; Jesus, our Elder Brother and our Redeemer; and
the Holy Ghost, the Testator, are perfect. They know us best and
love us most and will not leave one thing undone for our eternal

welfare.”

—Ezra Taft Benson

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No Effort IS WASTED

Although some of your mentees may be “Discouragement will
unresponsive or unwilling to work with weaken your faith. If you
you to become self-reliant don’t become lower your expectations,
discouraged. Remember that your mentees your effectiveness will
have agency and make the choice to be decrease, your desire
mentored or not. Your success as a mentor will weaken, and you will
comes from your own commitment and have greater difficulty
love for your mentees. following the Spirit.”
(PMG, p.10)
YOU KNOW YOU HAVE BEEN A
SUCCESSFUL MENTOR WHEN YOU:

• Recognize the Lord’s hand in mentoring.

• Love mentees and want them to become self-reliant.

• Fulfill responsibilities in attending district meetings, stewardship
interviews, and submitting weekly activity reports.

• Ponder the needs of your mentees and how you can help meet them.

None of your efforts are wasted. There will be times when the students you
mentor avoid you, get busy and cannot meet with you. Even if your mentees
choose to not accept your help, they will remember your kindness and faith
in them. Your example may influence them in ways you will never know in
this life. Continue to do all that is asked of you as a mentor; have faith that
the Lord will magnify your efforts and use them to bless your life and the
lives of those around you.

“One can never tell what will be the result of faithful service
rendered, nor do we know when it will come back to us or to those

with whom we are associated. The reward may not come at the
time, but in dividends later. I believe we will never lose anything
in life by giving service, by making sacrifices, and doing the right

thing.”

—Heber J. Grant

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OGISTIC

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MENTEE ROSTER STEWARDSHIP INTERVIEWS
This is a Google spreadsheet Throughout the semester,
that lists the mentees you’ve your mentor coordinator will
been assigned to mentor. schedule a time to meet with
It includes student names, you individually to assess how
contact information, and other you are doing, as well as your
information such as hometown mentees, and help answer any
and hobbies. Use this sheet to questions you have. You can
connect and reach out to your help make these an effective use
mentees. Make notes here or of time by having an attitude of
on your mentee worksheets what more can I do? Come ready
of anything you would like to to share your mentees specific
remember about them. This goals and what you are doing to
sheet may be updated if there help them.
are mentee adds or drops.
GOAL GUIDE
HJG NEWSLETTER This section will walk you
Each week you will receive an and your mentee step-by-
email that contains reminders step through the goal setting
about upcoming events, process. Through the course
tips, campus resources, of the semester, each mentee
and information on campus will set at least two goals—one
workshops and activities being first block and one second
held that week that may be block. You will be asked to
beneficial for your mentees. report the information on these
worksheets during week two and
MENTOR REPORTS seven of the semester.
Each week, you will fill out an
online survey that asks you SUBGROUPS
to report on your activity with Subgroups are the smaller group
your mentees, training needs, of mentors you were placed
success stories, and challenges. in during the Mentor Training
You will receive a link via email Conference. These groups
every Friday morning and are designed to help mentors
complete the form by Saturday support and learn from each
at midnight. other in a smaller environment.
Adjustments to these groups
can be made throughout the
semester as the coordinator
sees fit.

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OW TO BEGI

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Life Coach Steps

Expectations/Evaluation

Mentee Worksheets (Mentor Workbook)

1 - Goals

Goal Guide (pg. 26-47)

2 - Personal Action Steps

Goal Guide (pg. 26-47)

3 - Team Action Steps

Goal Guide (pg. 26-47)

Review, Revise, Restart

Further Explanation (pg. 22-25)

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SAMPLE EVALUATION

On a scale of 1–10, indicate mentee’s confidence level in each of the following areas of
student life. (1= No Confidence, 10 = Very High Confidence)

Academic Physical Spiritual Financial Emotional Social
Ability Health Wellness Stability Health Skills

START OF SEMESTER

MIDDLE OF SEMESTER

END OF SEMESTER

Which of the areas above do they want to focus on this semester?
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SAMPLE GOAL TRACKER

Goal #1 Achieved

Mentee Action Steps

1
2
3

Team Action Steps

1
2
3

Goal Review Date:

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FURTHER EXPLANATION

CONFIDENCE INDICATORS
Use this in your first, middle, and last meetings with your mentee to
track their progress. Explain to your mentee:

• Knowing your confidence in these areas helps the university know
what resources to provide to students
• It helps me as a mentor know where we should focus our goals
• Checking your confidence at the beginning, middle, and end will help
you see your progress

FOCUS AREAS
Establish these in the first meeting. Once a goal is completed revisit
these answers to know where to set the next goal.

GOALS
Set one goal at a time. Step one of the goal guide gives several goal
ideas for your mentee, if none of the areas seem applicable, create your
own goal. Through the course of the semester, each mentee will set at
least two goals—one first block and one second block.

PERSONAL ACTION STEPS
Mentees complete these small steps on their own, ask frequently how
they are going. Step two of the goal guide will give suggestions on what
steps to take, but these ideas can be modified as applicable.

TEAM ACTION STEPS
It is your responsibility to schedule out when you and your mentee will
accomplish each suggested task in step three of the goal guide. Strive
to make one team action step to take place each week. Activities and
resources can be modified as applicable.

GOAL REVIEW DATE
Decide together when the goal can reasonably be accomplished. On
review date, see the following page to walk your mentee through the
review, revise, restart process.

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EXPLANATIONS CONTINUED

GOAL REVIEW DATE
Goal Review sections can be found in the Mentee Workbook’s goal trackers.
Ideally 1 goal should be accomplished each block of the semester, meaning
your first Goal Review Date should be mid-semester. Regardless of when
your Goal Review Date is follow the process below.

Review
• If the mentee selects YES, skip to RESTART step

Revise
• If the mentee selects NO, skip to RESTART step
• After discussing possible changes here, record final goal
adjustments on a new Goal Tracker

Restart
• After the mentee has selected new focus area, have them turn to
their next goal tracker. Start again at step one for the goal setting progress.

SEMESTER CONCLUSION
Complete this semester conclusion with your mentee in your final
meeting of the semester. The Semester Conclusion can be found on page
eighteen of the mentee workbook.

Confidence Improvements
First complete the End of Semester Confidence Levels on page

nine, then mark with a check or an x areas that improved over the
course of the semester.

Semester Accomplishments
These can include things that didn’t have to do with their goals, it’s
purpose is to help them focus on the strengths of the semester.

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SAMPLE REVIEW

Review

Did you accomplish your goal? YES NO

Revise YES NO

Do you still want to work on this goal?

What will you do differently to reach your goal this time?

Restart

Record your mid-semester confidence levels on page nine.
What area (see evaluation on page nine) will you work on next?
Once your new focus are has been selected turn to your next Goal Tracker
and start a new goal.

SAMPLE CONCLUSION

Academic Physical Spiritual Financial Emotional Social
Ability Health Wellness Stability Health Skills

IMPROVED

What Most helped my confidence to improve in these areas?

5 things I accomplished this semester |Mentor Handbook 23

1
2
3
4
5

2 things I want to keep improving

1
2

OAL GUID Emotional

pg. 29

Academic

pg. 32

Physical

pg. 35

Financial

pg. 38

Spiritual

pg. 41

Social

pg. 44

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EMOTIONAL

1 GOALS

Select one of the goals below or create your own to report on your goal tracker.

Understand Enhance Emotion
Your Behaviors Coping Skills

Improve Your Manage Your
Self-Image Stress

Develop Hobbies Create Your
and Talents
+Own
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EMOTIONAL

2 PERSONAL ACTION STEPS

Select 3 of the activities in your box to complete. You may also select action
steps from other boxes or create your own.

UNDERSTAND YOUR BEHAVIORS ENHANCE EMOTION COPING SKILLS

• In a journal track your mood • Attend a Counseling Center
changes everyday group workshop on anxiety &
depression or abuse
• Read “Like a Broken Vessel” Oct.
2013 General Conference • Explore the Counseling Center’s
online Self-Help section
• Visit MentalHealth.LDS.org to read
& watch personal experiences • Set up a 30 minute consultation
appt. with the Counseling Center
• Create your own
• Create your own

IMPROVE YOUR SELF-IMAGE MANAGE YOUR STRESS

• Start a self-worth journal, write • Find someone to talk to everyday
three things daily you did well. about things going on in your life

• Buy a daily planner and schedule • Attend a Counseling Center group
out all of your responsibilities workshop on stress management

• Attend a Counseling Center group • Explore the Counseling Center’s
workshop on self-esteem issues online self-help section

• Create your own • Create your own

DEVELOP HOBBIES AND TALENTS CREATE YOUR OWN

• Buy a planner and schedule out Select any of the ideas above and
your available free time combine them with your own
ideas to create actions that best
• Practice your hobby/talent for 30 accomplish your goal.
minutes a day

• Visit the activities office, explore
how to get more involved

• Create your own

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EMOTIONAL

3 TEAM ACTION STEPS

Select three of the activities in your box to complete. You may also select action
steps from other boxes or create your own.

UNDERSTAND YOUR BEHAVIORS ENHANCE EMOTION COPING SKILLS

• Practice meditating together • Go to the gym together

• Attend the Counseling Center’s Get • Attend the Counseling Center’s Get
Grit workshop Grit workshop

• Have a discussion together • Make a plan together on how to
about behaviors better cope emotionally

• Create your own • Create your own

IMPROVE YOUR SELF-IMAGE MANAGE YOUR STRESS

• Reflect on the past week’s • Attend a free yoga class together to
tender mercies learn stress management

• Study the scriptures together, • Go out for ice cream and a walk or
specifically about God’s love have a heart to heart talk

• Share with you mentor what • Reflect on the past weeks tender
successes you’ve found with mercies you’ve witnessed
yourself each day
• Create your own
• Create your own
CREATE YOUR OWN
DEVELOP HOBBIES AND TALENTS
Select any of the ideas above and
• Set a date to perform newly combine them with your own
developed talents to each other ideas to create actions for you to
do together that best accomplish
• Visit the activities office your goal.
to explore activities to get
more involved in |Mentor Handbook 27

• Sign up for an intramural
sport together

• Create your own

ACADEMIC

1 GOALS

Select one of the goals below or create your own to report on your goal tracker.

Improve Your Develop Better
Grades Study Habits

Explore Degrees Manage Your
and Careers Time

Prepare For Create Your
Your Career
+Own
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ACADEMIC

2 PERSONAL ACTION STEPS

Select three of the activities in your box to complete. You may also select action
steps from other boxes or create your own.

IMPROVE YOUR GRADES DEVELOP BETTER STUDY HABITS

• Meet with a tutor for a class • Put a dollar in a study jar when you
study for at least 30 min, use the
• Study at least 30 minutes a day money when finals are over
at a set time
• Make a list of 15 min. brain break
• Make a list of all assignments due activities to do to avoid burn-out
the following week and what day
you will complete them • Create a study group
with classmates
• Create your own
• Create your own

EXPLORE DEGREES AND CAREERS MANAGE YOUR TIME

• Meet with professors from majors • Buy a planner and schedule out the
you are interested in time you have for homework

• Visit BYU-I’s Career and Major • Set alarms in your phone to go off
Exploration website to search when it is time to study
possibilities
• Ask a classmate if they want to
• Make a list of skills you have and study or work on an assignment
bring it when you meet with an together, make it a set time
academic advisor
• Create your own
• Create your own

PREPARE FOR YOUR CAREER CREATE YOUR OWN

• Ask a professor about the Select any of the ideas above and
process of applying for combine them with your own
graduate school ideas to create actions that best
accomplish your goal.
• Meet with the internship
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when, and how to get internships

• Watch the LinkedIn
training videos on the BYUI
Alumni webpage

• Create your own

ACADEMIC

3 TEAM ACTION STEPS

Select three of the activities in your box to complete. You may also select action
steps from other boxes or create your own.

IMPROVE YOUR GRADES DEVELOP BETTER STUDY HABITS

• Nightly accountability to one • Meet in the library to work on
another for homework completion homework together

• Set a time to study together • Teach one another what you’ve been
studying for a class
• Spend time making flash cards for
a class together • Spend time making flash cards for a
class together
• Create your own
• Create your own

EXPLORE DEGREES AND CAREERS MANAGE YOUR TIME

• Visit the BYU-I Alumni • Buy a planner and schedule
Office together out your week

• Set up an appt. with an • Evaluate together how time is spent,
academic advisor and determine where the most time
is lost throughout the day
• Attend the career fair together
• Mentor to follow up on a schedule
• Create your own that the mentee arranges

• Create your own

PREPARE FOR YOUR CAREER CREATE YOUR OWN

• Go together to the Career Select any of the ideas above and
Networking Center combine them with your own ideas to
create actions for you to do together
• Attend Career Services workshop: that best accomplish your goal.
Networking and Other Job
Search Strategies

• Attend the BYUI Career Fair
together to explore various
options and internship
opportunities

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PHYSICAL

1 GOALS

Select one of the goals below or create your own to report on your goal tracker.

Change Your Eating Create an Active
Habits Lifestyle

Develop Your Manage Your
Fitness Abilities Stress

Improve Your Create Your
Sleeping Habits
+Own

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PHYSICAL

2 PERSONAL ACTION STEPS

Select three of the activities in your box to complete. You may also select action
steps from other boxes or create your own.

CHANGE YOUR EATING HABITS CREATE AN ACTIVE LIFESTYLE

• Write a plan for next week’s meals, • Sign up for a competitive or
buy and prep them this weekend intramural sport

• Look up a new healthy recipe to • Get involved with outdoor activities
make with your roommates and attend their weekly events

• Choose a food or nutrition habit • Walk/ride your bike to school/work
to eliminate, go the next 25 days instead of driving, or plan to take a
without it, then reward yourself longer route if you already walk

• Create your own • Create your own

DEVELOP YOUR FITNESS ABILITIES MANAGE YOUR STRESS

• Ask a roommate or friend • Download a yoga or meditation
to workout with you a few app to do on your lunch breaks
times a week
• Block out at least 15 minutes
• Sign up for a personal trainer of your day everyday to
through the Fit4Life program workout/stretch

• Download an app that has pre- • Plan a workout to do whenever
designed workouts, schedule when high stress moments arise
you will do them
• Create your own
• Create your own

IMPROVE YOUR SLEEPING HABITS CREATE YOUR OWN

• Ask your roommates to help keep Select any of the ideas above and
you accountable to your desired combine them with your own
sleep routine ideas to create actions that best
accomplish your goal.
• Decide how many hours of sleep
you need each night, plan what
time to wake up and go to bed

• Set alarms to remind you to get
ready for bed

• Create your own

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PHYSICAL

3 TEAM ACTION STEPS

Select three of the activities in your box to complete. You may also select action
steps from other boxes or create your own.

CHANGE YOUR EATING HABITS CREATE AN ACTIVE LIFESTYLE

• Eat lunch or dinner together • Learn about intramural sports on
with your mentor campus and sign up for one

• Create a shopping list together • Attend Zumba night together
• Meal prep together
• Create your own • Explore the BYU-I fitness classes,
select one to attend each week

• Create your own

DEVELOP YOUR FITNESS ABILITIES MANAGE YOUR STRESS

• Explore the BYU-I fitness classes, • Attend a free yoga class together to
select one to attend each week learn stress management

• Attend the Wellness Center’s • Explore the BYU-I fitness classes,
workshop: Programming Specific select one to attend each week
Training Goals
• Clean up your apartment together
• Get involved in one of Student
Activities fitness events • Create your own

• Create your own

IMPROVE YOUR SLEEPING HABITS CREATE YOUR OWN

• Explore BYUI’s Counseling Center Select any of the ideas above and
self-help sleep page combine them with your own
ideas to create actions for you to
• Download the Alarmy app to get do together that best accomplish
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each other when it’s time
to go to sleep

• Create your own

FINANCIAL

1 GOALS

Select one of the goals below or create your own to report on your goal tracker.

Explore Financial Budget Your
Aid Options Money

Build Your Resume Search and
& Interview Skills Apply for Jobs

Create a Create Your
Savings Plan
+Own
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FINANCIAL

2 PERSONAL ACTION STEPS

Select three of the activities in your box to complete. You may also select action
steps from other boxes or create your own.

EXPLORE FINANCIAL AID OPTIONS BUDGET YOUR MONEY

• Visit the Financial Aid office • Watch “Budgeting” on Federal
to ask about additional Student Aid’s YouTube channel
financial aid options
• Download Mint or other
• Attend local food banks in your area budgeting apps

• Fill out the BYU-I Scholarship • Ask a roommate to budget with
Application and a FAFSA form you, keep each other accountable

• Create your own • Create your own

BUILD YOUR RESUME & INTERVIEWS SEARCH AND APPLY FOR JOBS

• Take your resume to the Career • Look at the Student Employment
Networking Center for a free review Job Board online once a day

• Set up a free mock interview with • Make a list of places you want to
work, call and ask them when they
• the Career Networking Center hire and the best way to apply

• Visit Student Support or Student • Take your resume around to 7
Activities to explore volunteer different businesses
opportunities
• Create your own
• Create your own

CREATE A SAVINGS PLAN CREATE YOUR OWN

• Create a semester spending plan Select any of the ideas above and
and budget out how much you’ll combine them with your own
save each month ideas to create actions that best
accomplish your goal.
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• Explore BYUI’s Additional
Resources on the Financial Aid
Savings webpage

• Create your own

FINANCIAL

3 TEAM ACTION STEPS

Select three of the activities in your box to complete. You may also select action
steps from other boxes or create your own.

EXPLORE FINANCIAL AID OPTIONS BUDGET YOUR MONEY

• Visit the BYUI Financial Aid • Work with your mentor to
office together create a budget

• Complete the FASFA application • Together monitor and refine your
with your mentor spending habits

• Explore BYUI and Third Party • Write out a simple In and out
Scholarship options expense sheet

• Create your own • Create your own

BUILD YOUR RESUME & INTERVIEWS SEARCH AND APPLY FOR JOBS

• Attend Career Services workshop: • Attend Career Services workshop:
Writing Resumes and other LinkedIn Training
Professional Documents
• Search the BYUI job board and or
• Go together to BYUIs Career Indeed with your mentor
Networking Center
• Attend Career Services workshop:
• Practice interviews with your mentor Interviewing and Accepting the Job
and go over resume together
• Create your own
• Create your own

CREATE A SAVINGS PLAN CREATE YOUR OWN

• Together monitor and refine your Select any of the ideas above and
spending habits combine them with your own
ideas to create actions for you to
• Together work to create specific do together that best accomplish
savings goals your goal.

• Explore BYUI’s Financial Aid
Savings webpage

• Create your own

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SPIRITUAL

1 GOALS

Select one of the goals below or create your own to report on your goal tracker.

See God in Serve More
Your Life

Develop Christlike Improve Spiritual
Qualities Habits

Increase Spiritual Create Your
Knowledge
+Own

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SPIRITUAL

2 PERSONAL ACTION STEPS

Select three of the activities in your box to complete. You may also select action
steps from other boxes or create your own.

SEE GOD IN YOUR LIFE SERVE MORE

• Post a spiritual insight on social • Make a random drop by to your
media weekly ministering brother or sister

• Each night write down how • Visit BYUI’s Student Support to
you saw God’s hand in your explore volunteer opportunities
life that day
• Text a verse of scripture or quote
• Pray each day for the influence of to someone in need
the Spirit and to see God’s miracles
• Create your own
• Create your own

DEVELOP CHRISTLIKE QUALITIES IMPROVE SPIRITUAL HABITS

• Attend Disciple Leader Conference • Watch a Mormon Message when
you first wake up
• Select a quality you want to
develop, plan to do one thing each • Attend the temple and FHE weekly
day that demonstrates that quality
• Read scriptures daily for at
• Find scriptural examples of people least 15 minutes
demonstrating the desired quality
• Create your own
• Create your own

INCREASE SPIRITUAL KNOWLEDGE CREATE YOUR OWN

• Sign up for an institute or Select any of the ideas above and
religion class combine them with your own
ideas to create actions that best
• Meet with and help the local accomplish your goal.
missionaries teach

• Select a topic to study for at least
15 minutes daily

• Create your own

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SPIRITUAL

3 TEAM ACTION STEPS

Select three of the activities in your box to complete. You may also select action
steps from other boxes or create your own.

SEE GOD IN YOUR LIFE SERVE MORE

• Attend Devotional weekly • Attend the temple together
• Attend an event sponsored by
• Text each other daily
tender mercies Service Activities
• Attend HJG’s service event
• Set a time each week to study your • Create your own
scriptures together

• Create your own

DEVELOP CHRISTLIKE QUALITIES IMPROVE SPIRITUAL HABITS

• Study references to Christlike • Set a time each week to study your
attributes in Gospel Library scriptures together

• Attend Disciple Leader Conference • Attend Devotional weekly
• Attend Devotional weekly
• Create your own • Each week share with each other
what you learned from your
religion class

• Create your own

INCREASE SPIRITUAL KNOWLEDGE CREATE YOUR OWN

• Attend Devotional weekly Select any of the ideas above and
combine them with your own
• Each week share with each other ideas to create actions for you to
what you learned from your do together that best accomplish
religion class your goal.

• Read a different General |Mentor Handbook 39
Conference talk each week

• Create your own

SOCIAL

1 GOALS

Select one of the goals below or create your own to report on your goal tracker.

Meet New Adventure
People More

Improve Your Manage Your
Dating Life Social Time

Build A Social Create Your
Group
+Own
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SOCIAL

2 PERSONAL ACTION STEPS

Select three of the activities in your box to complete. You may also select action
steps from other boxes or create your own.

MEET NEW PEOPLE ADVENTURE MORE

• Go to FHE every week • Visit the BYUI master calendar
online and choose something new
• Talk to a new person in to do each week
class everyday
• Go dancing on campus: Latin,
• Search for activities to go and ballroom, swing, country
attend on campus
• Invite friends and ward members
• Create your own to hike R Mountain with you

• Create your own

IMPROVE DATING LIFE MANAGE YOUR SOCIAL TIME

• Google a new date idea • Get a planner and see how much
for every week time you can spend on having fun

• Ask someone on a date or • Set limits on how much social time
start a conversation with a you can have each day
stranger every week
• Make yourself do something social
• Watch “Elder and Sister Bednar - for at least 30 minutes a day
Love” on LDS.org
• Create your own
• Create your own

BUILD A SOCIAL GROUP CREATE YOUR OWN

• Invite an apartment from your Select any of the ideas above and
ward over for dinner combine them with your own
ideas to create actions that best
• Attend FHE every week accomplish your goal.

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to hike R Mountain with you

• Create your own

SOCIAL

3 TEAM ACTION STEPS

Select 3 of the activities in your box to complete. You may also select action
steps from other boxes or create your own.

MEET NEW PEOPLE ADVENTURE MORE

• Plan a game night together • Attend an event put on by
Outdoor Activities
• Have a mentor and mentee
roommate breakfast • Visit Student Activities to see what
activities they have planned
• Visit Student Activities or Student
Support to see how to get involved • Sign up together for an
intramural sport
• Create your own
• Create your own

IMPROVE DATING LIFE MANAGE YOUR SOCIAL TIME

• Plan a double date • Buy a planner and schedule out
with your mentor your week together

• Visit Student Activities to see • Both of you invite friends to go
what social activities you could roller skating on campus
bring a date to
• Find a Student Activity going on
• Invite someone to come to Devo that week and go together

• Create your own • Create your own

BUILD A SOCIAL GROUP CREATE YOUR OWN

• Attend the HJG mid-semester Select any of the ideas above and
service activity together combine them with your own
ideas to create actions for you to
• Visit Student Activities or do together that best accomplish
Student Support to see how to your goal.
get involved

• Host a movie or game night
• Create your own

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ADDITIONAL

! TEAM ACTION STEPS

Here are some ideas additional Team Action Step ideas to implement into your
weekly meetings.

WEEKLY MEETING IDEAS

• Invite them to a lunch, breakfast, or dinner at your apartment
• Go to the HJG Service Activity together
• Find out what they love to do for fun and do it together
• Get together and do your scripture study
• Find a Student Activity going on that week and go together
• Attend the temple together
• Grab lunch together at the Crossroads and talk about your week
• Meet in the library to work on homework together
• Go get ice cream or hot chocolate and talk about how their goal is going
• Invite them to a game night with your roommates and friends
• Go to devotional together
• Find a fitness activity on campus to go to together
• Both of you invite friends to go roller skating on campus
• Go grocery shopping together
• Get together with some friends to play a sport
• Go on a walk around campus together
• Attend a free yoga class in the Hart building
• Visit BYU-I Alumni Office together
• Sign up together for an intramural sport
• Teach your mentor what you have been studying for class

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ESOURCE

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CAMPUS RESOURCES

Academic Advising Office

General advising and class planning, career exploration, and
foundation classes. Visit their website to discover your college
specific advisors.

Location: Chapman Building 101
Websites: www.byui.edu/advising/academic-advising
Phone: 208.496.9800
E-mail: [email protected]

Academic Support Centers

Drop in labs for math, writing, and reading, individual and group
tutoring, interactive tutoring videos, presentation practice center,
quizzes, and tips on their website.

Location: David O. McKay Library 272 2nd Floor, East Wing
Websites: www.byui.edu/academic-support-centers
Phone: 208.496.4271

Admissions Office

Explore your options for overrides and deferments to make your
assigned track meet your needs.

Location: Kimball Building 120
Website: www.byui.edu/admissions
Phone: 208.496.1300
E-mail: [email protected]

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Career and Internship Services

Resume revisions, practice interviews, locating internships, job search
assistance, and networking.

Location: Manwaring Center 127A
Websites: www.byui.edu/career-services; www.byui.edu/internships
Phone: 208.496.9823
Email: [email protected]

Counseling Center

Explore concerns, resolve difficulties, and receive assistance in
managing life’s challenges in a safe environment with a professional
counselor. Free couple, group, and individual counseling for mental
health, behavioral issues, or unmet emotional needs.

Location: Student Health Center 200—second floor
Websites: www.byui.edu/counseling-center
Phone: 208.496.9370
After Hours Emergency: 208.496.HELP or 208.496.4357

Dean of Students Office

The Dean of Students can be your advocate if you experience
unfortunate life circumstances such as missing class for medical
reasons, persisting trouble with a professor or campus office,
serious illness, or death of a loved one.

Location: 290 Kimball Building
Website: www.byui.edu/dean-of-students
Phone: 208.496.9200
Email: [email protected]

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Disability Services

Get accommodations to fulfill your academic needs with services
such as additional time for testing, preferential seating, volunteer
note-takers, and much more.

Location: McKay Library 350
Website: www.byui.edu/disability_services
Phone: 208.496.9210
Email: [email protected]

Financial Aid Office

Help applying for and receiving FAFSA, scholarships, and other
essential financial steps.

Location: Kimball Building 100
Website: www.byui.edu/financial-aid
Phone: (208) 496 1600
Email: [email protected]

Human Resources Office

The Human Resources Office provides students with information regarding
universityemploymentopportunitiesandbenefits,compensation,aswellas
training and development.

Location: Kimball 226
Website: www.byui.edu/human-resources
Phone: 208.496.1700
Email: [email protected]

International Services

Get help understanding and fulfilling the unique requirements
international students encounter such as credit loads, financial aid,
employment, etc.

Location: Manwaring Center 276
Website: www.byui.edu/international-services
Phone: 208.496.1320
Email: [email protected]

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Student Activities

Fun and diverse activities to attend all semester long as well as
leadership and volunteer opportunites to participate in.

Location: Manwaring Center 101
Websites: www.byui.edu/activities
Phone: 208.496.7300
Email: [email protected]

Student Honor Office

Gain a better understanding of the Honor Code, or report an Honor
Code related concern.

Location: Kimball Building 270
Website: www.byui.edu/student-honor-office
Phone: 208.496.9300
E-mail: [email protected]

Student Health Center/Pharmacy

Most often they care for common conditions such as immunizations,
physicals, primary health care, tuberculosis (TB) tests, but they can
assist with referrals to specialists as needed.

Location: 100 Student Health Center
Website: www.byui.edu/health-center
Phone: 208.496.9330
Email: [email protected]

Student Living and Housing Office

The Housing & Student Living Office works with students to help them
make the most of their living situations while attending school

Location: Kimball 240
Website: www.byui.edu/housing
Phone: 208.496.9220
Email: [email protected]

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Student Support

Get involved by volunteering to serve as a mentor, facilitate practical

workshops, participate at Get Connected, give tours to incoming

students, and much more.

Location: Biddulph 222 Heber J. Grant Mentoring
Website: www.byui.edu/student-support Email: [email protected]
Phone: 208.496.1400 Phone: 208-496-1423
Email: [email protected] Office: Biddulph 217

Title IX Office

Title IX of the Education Amendments of 1972 protects people from discrimination
based on sex in education programs or activities that receive Federal financial
assistance

Location: 290 Kimball Building
Website: www.byui.edu/titleix
Phone: 208.496.9209
Email: [email protected]

Wellness Center

Complete wellness assessments, Fit4Life program, muscular strength
and endurance test, nutrition analysis and counseling, fitness trainers,
and wellness workshops.

Location: Hart 174
Website: www.byui.edu/wellness-center
Phone: 208.496.7491
Email: [email protected]

An assisted referral is not only suggesting an on campus
referral to your mentee, but accompanying your

mentee to said referral, or in the very least setting an
appointment up with them.

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REPORTING CONCERNS

Your mentees may share with you important information that is indicative of
potentially serious issues or problems. Below is guidance on what to report
and how to report it.

APPROPRIATE TO REPORT

• Disclosure—direct written or verbal communication from your mentee.

• Observation—noticing the state and overall well-being of your mentee.

BEHAVIORS TO REPORT If the risk of harm is imminent

• Any crime or violations of law. CALL THE POLICE!

• Threats to self or others.
• Harm to self or others.
• Anything that meets Title IX criteria.

WHERE TO REPORT Honor Code violations that
are not a violation of the law
Each week in your mentor report you do not need to be reported
will be asked if there were any concerning to your coordinator.
behaviors reported to you from your
mentee. Submit your concerns there. Always encourage individuals
who have violated the Honor
TITLE IX COORDINATOR Code to self-report.
Nick Rammell
Location: 290 Kimball building You may also choose
Phone: 208-496-9209 to report knowledge of
Email: [email protected] violations to the Student
Honor Office directly.

For further clarification on what you should and should not report, please
ask your coordinator.

Summary

Imminent Risk of Harm? Call the police!
All other Concerns? Tell your coordinator.

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