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Text Acknowledgements Meg’s story on pages 224-225 kindly shared with permission. ‘Face Your Fear’ game on page 231-34 from Stand Up for Your Life. Copyright © 2002 by Cheryl Richardson. Reprinted by permission of the author. ‘Forgive Yourself’ exercise on pages 245-47 from https://www.rickhanson.net/forgive-yourself-now/. Copyright © Rick Hanson. Reprinted by permission of the author. Reneé’s story on pages 255-256 kindly shared with permission.
Acknowledgements Writing this book and working with the wonderful team at Pan Macmillan has been an absolute joy. Huge thanks to Ingrid Ohlsson for giving me the nudge I needed to write this book. I’m especially grateful that you encouraged me to share my work in this way and write in my own voice. Thank you to Naomi van Groll for your creative direction, your kindness and for working so closely with me to make every aspect of the book the best it could possibly be. Thank you to Brianne Collins for your wonderful edit and to Rebecca Lay for your help with permissions. Thanks also to Candice Wyman and Adrik Kemp for getting the book out into the world and to Belinda Huang and Milly Ivanovic for keeping things humming away in the background. Huge thanks to the lovely Kelly Exeter for so generously supporting me with writing and research while you were in the midst of a great challenge of your own. A big thank you to Lydia Batts for the beautiful watercolour painting on the cover and to Emily O’Neill for your lovely design work. Special thanks to my dear friend Catherine Morey-Nase for reviewing the inner critic chapter and for the hours spent chatting about all of the concepts I’ve included in the book. You are such a kindred spirit and your friendship is the greatest gift.
Thank you to Carrie Hayward for checking the ACT and CBT chapters for accuracy and for being such a generous and kind colleague and friend. To Robert Rabbin, who is no longer with us, thank you for making me believe I had something to say and for teaching me to be brave enough to stand on a stage in front of hundreds of people without fear. I miss you greatly every day. Thank you to Barb Long for your wisdom on our weekly walks. What a blessing to have had you in my 25 km zone during lockdown. Thanks to Trish Weston for being my go-to person for anything to do with books and personal development. I wish you every success with Bibliocoach where you combine both. Thank you to my parents for your open-minded thinking and for encouraging independence. I’m so grateful to have had the freedom to choose my own path. And the biggest thanks to my own little family who are always so patient when my time is taken up with writing. To Chris, for the endless cups of teapot tea, for cooking on the nights I worked late and for taking care of the chickens and the garden while I’ve had less time to get outside. How lucky I am to have you. To our gorgeous girls Elsa and Meg, for listening to my ideas, for your belief in me, for making me laugh and for your abundance of love and support. And huge thanks to Toby and our precious grandchildren Oscar and Milla, for being a constant source of joy. And finally, deep gratitude to my dearest friend Karen Ramaekers, who was kind enough to let me share the story of her beautiful girl Reneé in the final chapter. Meeting you both changed my life.
About Kate James Kate James is uniquely qualified to help people with important life issues like building confidence, finding purpose and clarifying personal strengths, values and needs. Having experienced a few career changes herself, she understands the dissatisfaction in people unsure of their personal or career paths. As a sought-after mindfulness expert, with over 30 years of meditation practice, Kate helps her clients focus on what really matters. She facilitates workshops and retreats online, in Melbourne and Byron Bay, and continues her own studies into positive psychology, Acceptance and Commitment Therapy (ACT), mindfulness and self-compassion. Her teaching draws on the science and psychology of meditation and her aim is to make mindfulness accessible and enjoyable for people from all walks of life. Her one-on-one clients range from lawyers to artists, entrepreneurs to corporate leaders. Most are creative in some way or want to learn how to be. All are down-to-earth, sensitive and insightful people who have an interest in living their own version of a purposeful and meaningful life. Many are transitioning (or have transitioned) out of corporate roles into their own creative startups. Kate has first-hand experience of the life balance challenge, having spent the past 32 years juggling marriage, motherhood and a successful career. Kate is the author of five bestselling personal development books including Be Mindful and Simplify Your Life and Create Calm. Her guided meditations have been listened to over three million times on the free Insight Timer meditation app.
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