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’TIS THE SEASON
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Page 110 MIRACLES

Real-Life Stories of Hope

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CONTENTS

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54 Drama in real life HealtH

Cover story Don’t Go into the The Double Triple
Volcano A triple transplant is
THE SEASON FOR When a honeymoon among the rarest of
FAMILY MIRACLES hike to the rim of a medical procedures.
jungle crater ends with In one 48-hour stretch,
A mother’s eerie pre- a fall, the bride must a team of doctors
monition. An uncle’s get her injured hus- performed two of them.
unusual joyride. The band medical care—
sweet wait for a dad’s by herself. By BryaN smith
holiday treat. If you from chicago
need a little extra By Nicholas huNe-BrowN
warmth this year, these 96
three wonderful stories 78
will do the job nicely. your money
inspiration
ted + chelsea cavaNaugh 2020 Holiday
Finding the Silver Shopping Guide
Lining In this most unusual
Many of us have discov- year, the gift of giving
ered a new appreciation will feel especially good.
for life’s simpler joys. These tips will help.
RD readers share theirs.
By Jody l. rohleNa

96 106

first person

Use a Hankie, Dude!
He has used a pocket
handkerchief all his
life—and was ridiculed
for it. Now, this famous
author says his habit
has found its moment.

By scott turow from
the washiNgtoN Post

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Reader’s Digest Contents

Departments

6 Dear Reader 10
8 Letters

EvEryday HEroEs
10 The Caped

Crusaders’ Tailor

By lauren DiamonD

12 Bye-Bye,
Medical Debt

By amy marturana
WinDerl

14 Depression
Discussions

By KimBerly goaD

QuotablE QuotEs
18 Billie Eilish,

Jimmy Dean,
Kerry Washington

your truE storiEs
20 There Really Is a

Santa, and More

How to
22 Quiet the Family

Complainer

By lisa fielDs

On the Cover on the cover: Jim craigmyle/getty images
(tree), Dainius/getty images (footprints).
Family Miracles: Real-Life Stories of Hope ..........54 this page: alexanDria mooney
Stay Positive Every Day............................................78
2020 Holiday Shopping Secrets ............................96
Heroes in a Year of Virus ..........................................10
A Cure for Bellyachers..............................................22
Music Grows Your Brain! .......................................110
13 TV Streaming Answers .......................................48

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I Won! Humor The Genius
30 A Nationwide Ugly Section
16
Sweater Contest Life in These 110 Oldies but
United States Feel-Goodies
The food on
your plaTe 32 by Jeremy D. larson
34 I Am Onions All in a Day’s Work from pItchfork.com
by kate lowensteIn
anD DanIel GrItzer 52 114 Brain Games
Laughter, 117 Word Power
We found a fIx the Best Medicine 120 Photo Finish
37 Keep Cup Holders
83 110
Clean, and More Humor in
Uniform
neWs from The
World of medIcIne 95
40 It’s OK to Overeat, Laugh Lines
and More

deparTmenT of WIT
44 Prowling for

Dust Bunnies

by mary roach

13 ThIngs
48 The Ultimate

TV Guide to
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by emIly GooDman

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DEAR READER

Good to Go

“D ude, drive safe,” I said at for facts. Right now, reading this, he’ll frnm tnp: cnurtesy bruce kelley. matthew cnhen
the door of my son’s tiny old almost certainly drop a hilarious line
Subaru, which I’d helped reminding me it wasn’t perfect.
him pack to the brim. Neil was mov-
ing 1,000 miles away, to Nashville. But dude, it was perfect. So many
“You know I love you.” moments, I felt how good his open-
ness made me feel and how it made
“Love you, too, Dad,” he replied, me more open in return.
looking me in the eye. “I’m good.”
My family knows I’m spectacular at
And he was. sentimentality—I cry like a baby over
When Neil came home in 2019 af- dumb rom-coms. But gratitude in the
ter a humbling final year in college, moment, not so much. That’s an emo-
Susan and I didn’t much know him. tion I feel too late, along with regret at
He didn’t know himself either. But we things unsaid, connections dropped.
were all willing to connect on an hon-
est level. Susan and I listened better. Not in 2020. When he drove away, I
He got sober and healthy in mind and teared up a little, but not the way I do
body. Gradually, we felt like a team. when emotions denied flood in too
The quarantine, which struck six
months in, only helped us. We got into late. We’d said everything we felt.
a day-to-day rhythm and learned how I was just so happy for him. That’s
to back each other up. Neil had my silver lining for 2020, and I’ll
asked Susan to teach him to cook, never forget it. Turn to page 78
and now he got serious, preparing
dinners for us that they had imag- for some of yours. And thank
ined together. We talked about you, as always, for reading.
the movies we watched, books
he was reading. Mornings, he Bruce Kelley,
and I would go on hikes and editor-in-chief
talk about stuff I don’t talk
with anyone about. Write to me at
My droll son is a stickler [email protected].

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new daughter. The the regulars had tele- ing endeavor to run
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Mommy. The only win- of dealing with them: BETTER LATE
ner here was the dog. using a shovel to cut off THAN ... CLEVER?
—Maryann Douglass the head after it’s dead.
Ponte Vedra Beach, He spent 40 years in the ✦ Just finished reading
Florida track department of the “Sorry I’m Late” in the
Santa Fe railway, cover- October issue. It re-
We Found a Fix ing southwest Kansas, minded of the time we
The “De-fat Soups and southeast Colorado, lived in New Jersey and I
Stews” fix that recom- and the Oklahoma Pan- went to head to work and
mends filling a ladle handle. Too many en- found a black bear near
with ice and skimming counters with rattlers. my car. I went back inside
it across the top to —William Gamble to call and let my boss
collect fat is too much Urbana, Illinois know why I’d be late. His
work. You can also dip question: “Is it by the
the corner of a paper Word Power driver’s side?”
towel in the floating liq- I truly enjoyed Octo-
uid fat, which will cling ber’s Word Power about —Linda Deane
to the paper towel and nearly identical words Germantown, tennessee
reject the water-based with different meanings.
fluid. I save the paper I recently noticed a ✦ I was a fifth-grade
to use as a fire starter. gaffe made by a TV teacher for years, so I
journalist who said have heard every excuse
—Harold Parks “The anger in this city in the book. One stu-
Minden, Nevada is palatable.” I didn’t dent’s homework excuse
believe anger could be was “The ladder was in
The Snake’s Revenge pleasant to taste. (She of the garage,” which is
This near-fatal encoun- course meant palpable.) what her dad always
ter with a rattlesnake said was as good an
reminded me of my —Pam Camp excuse as any.
father’s similar method Chico, California
—Vicki Kinnison
KeenesburG, Colorado

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EVERYDAY HEROES

Health issues preoccupied all of us in 2020.
Thehealthy.com found people

making a memorable difference.

The Caped
Crusaders’

Tailor

By Lauren Diamond

E very superhero, no matter how had to be tough. “I had an aha mo-
small, needs a cape. That was ment,” Rosenberger says. “Brenna was
Robyn Rosenberger’s motivation a superhero! She needed a cape.”
when she started sewing superhero
capes for kids with cancer, heart de- So Rosenberger sent her one,
fects, and other serious ailments. and Brenna’s mother was delighted.
Rosenberger found ten more kids
It all began when she was making online and sent out ten more capes.
a cape as a birthday present for her Before long, she quit her job at a soft-
nephew. Rosenberger heard of a girl ware company to dedicate herself
named Brenna who was battling a po- full-time to tinysuperheroes.com, a
tentially deadly skin condition called website where people can buy hand-
harlequin ichthyosis. Anyone going made capes for brave kids facing ill-
through what she was going through ness and disability.

10 Dec 2020 ✦ Jan 2021 | RD.com Photograph by Alexandria Mooney

Robyn
Rosenberger

gives a tiny
superhero a much

needed lift.

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Since 2013, Rosenberger and her Bye-Bye, TawaTchai PrakobkiT/GeTTy imaGes (laPToP), courTesy The healThy (inseT)
small paid staff have sent more than Medical
12,000 handmade capes to kids in all
50 states and 15 other countries. The Debt
capes come in pink, blue, purple, or
red and can be emblazoned with the By Amy Marturana Winderl
child’s initials or specialized patches,
including a heart, a rocket, or a light- I n March 2019, when Sara Cook first
ning bolt. got a letter in the mail telling her
that someone had paid off a chunk
One recipient was eight-month-old of her medical debt, she thought it
Gabe, who was born with a cleft pal- was fake. “It seemed like one of those
ate and Coffin-Siris syndrome, which e-mails you get that says you have a
causes distinct facial features. Rosen- long-lost uncle and you just inherited
berger sent him a red cape with a bright two million dollars,” Cook says. Cau-
yellow G in the center. It was a hit. tiously, she called the number listed
Gabe is now a fixture on the company’s on the letter. What she learned was
social media posts. “The TinySuper- that this was not a scam or even a
hero community has been a wonder- joke. It was 100 percent real.
ful connection to have,” says Gabe’s
mom, Kate Glocke. In fact, two years A remarkable nonprofit called RIP
later, “we still bring Gabe’s cape with Medical Debt had indeed paid $5,000
us to every hospital appointment.” RD toward her bills. The organization
didn’t take care of all the debt she’d
Health-Care Heroes amassed from several back surgeries,
but the former nurse was still awed
To read more stories from by the gesture. “I felt really loved and
our sister site about people blessed,” she says, “knowing that com-
performing extraordinary feats plete strangers just did that out of the
in the world of health, go to goodness of their hearts.”
THEHEALTHY.COM/HEALTHYHEROES.
Craig Antico and Jerry Ashton do
have good hearts. They’re also former
collection agents who have seen how
runaway health-related debt has de-
stroyed lives. “As a collector, you don’t
think about forgiving the debt. You
collect the debt,” Antico says. “I never

12 Dec 2020 ✦ Jan 2021

Everyday Heroes

kevin sturman/courtesy rip medical debt A medical issue shouldn’t endanger individuals and charities that sup-
anyone’s financial health, say Jerry port RIP’s mission. The $5,000 to pay
Ashton (left) and Craig Antico. off Sara Cook’s bill was donated by a
church in Grand Rapids, Michigan.
thought about all the hardship of the Antico says that in 2019, the Christian
people who couldn’t pay. Now I’m try- Assembly Church in Southern Califor-
ing to find the people who need help.” nia raised $53,000, which was enough
to pay off more than $5 million in debt
According to the Kaiser Family owed by thousands of people.
Foundation, a quarter of all adults
say they or a household member have Don’t bother contacting RIP for
had difficulty paying medical bills in help, however. Antico says they used
the past year—and many of them have to let people reach out to them, but
health insurance. In the United States, it was a disheartening experience
if you don’t pay a hospital bill, it will because they weren’t able to help ev-
eventually go to a collection agency, eryone who applied. Instead, RIP re-
which buys the debt at a discount searches potential recipients based on
but owns the right to collect the full three criteria. First, they look for peo-
amount—and we know how unpleas- ple who make no more than two and
ant that process can be. a half times the amount established
as the federal poverty level. Then they
RIP Medical Debt buys debt directly screen for those whose debt (medical
from collection agencies at a steep alone or combined with other debt)
discount, usually paying only a few is equal to 5 percent or more of their
pennies to retire each dollar of debt. gross income. Third, they look to see
Since 2014, the men estimate they’ve whether a person is insolvent.
spent only about $20 million to pay off
nearly $1 billion in personal debts. An- For the people who do qualify, RIP’s
tico and Ashton get their money from help is life-altering. “After their letter,
I realized that my life really doesn’t
stink,” says Cook, who shares her
story with anyone who will listen. “I
may never be able to work as a nurse
again, but I can sit at the school li-
brary and help kids read or serve up
food in the soup kitchen. When peo-
ple do something out of the kindness
of their hearts, sometimes they may
wonder, Does it really make a differ-
ence? I want people to know that this
had a positive impact.” RD

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Depression 550 chapters at high schools and col-
leges. “What I’m most inspired by is

Discussions that my generation and the genera-
tions coming behind me are taking

on mental health as a social justice

issue,” says Malmon. “Our tools are

By Kimberly Goad changing not only their campuses,
they’re changing their families too.”

Active Minds’ peer-to-peer edu-

A lison Malmon cation techniques are
was a freshman more important than
at the University ever. The American

of Pennsylvania when College Health Asso-

she got a call from her ciation’s 2019 National

mother that would College Health As-

change her life: Her fun, sessment found that

outgoing older brother, 45 percent of students

Brian, had taken his reported feeling so de-

own life. pressed in the previous

When Malmon re- 12  months that it was

turned to school after difficult to function;

Brian’s funeral that 66 percent felt over-
spring of 2000, she was A family tragedy turned
Alison Malmon into a crusader whelming anxiety; and
for mental health care.
still grieving. But when 13 percent seriously
she looked for help on considered suicide.

campus, there was no place to turn. Malmon’s goal has always been to

Back then, says Malmon, “students destigmatize mental illness, down to

weren’t encouraged to talk about their the language we use to talk about it.

mental health. I started reflecting on An example that hits close to home:

the fact that there was an immense the word suicide. You don’t commit a Emma Edick/courtEsy activE minds

need to get that conversation going.” heart attack or cancer, says Malmon.

She was only 19 and had no expe- “Suicide is the only death where we

rience with mental health issues, but use that pejorative word of ‘commit-

that didn’t stop her from launching ting,’” she says. “If we take that word

Open Minds at Penn. Now, 20 years out of our vernacular, we can make

later and with a new name—Active significant changes in how we think

Minds—it is the largest young adult about suicide to the point where peo-

mental health advocacy organiza- ple reach out for the help they need as

tion in America, with more than soon as they need it.” RD

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LIFE

in these
United States

“Will you stop referring to my failed diet as ‘Donutgate’!”

I used to run into this “Well, hello, George!” response to COVID-19.
one guy at the coffee —Bill Craft A billboard outside
shop who never could Edwardsville, Illinois announced: “Sorry,
remember my name. we’re clothed!”
To prod his memory, My last New Year’s —Kathleen O’Hagan
I pulled out a dollar resolution was to lose Congress, Arizona
and said, “My name is ten pounds. I missed
Bill, just like this one- it by 15 pounds! After my wife and I
dollar bill.” —William Cavico took our seats at a res-
Villa Park, Illinois taurant, the waiter ar-
“Got it,” he said. rived to take our order.
A few days later, our A strip club near where First, he let us know
paths again crossed. my daughter lived shut that the special of the
This time he gave me a its doors for a while in day was twin lobsters.
big, confident greeting:

16 Dec 2020 ✦ Jan 2021 Cartoon by Scott Masear

Three-year-old and dad start OH,
assembling a new toy in living room. CHRISTMAS TREE!
Three-year-old emerges and says to
me, “Mommy, what’s a nightmare?”

—Twitter@TheRealDradch (Rachel Dratch)

muritl dt stzt/Gttty imaGts My wife was not im- out of tanks and ✦ Putting up the Christ-
pressed. “That’s silly,” waiting for a delivery.” mas tree this weekend
she said. “How can you As she walked away, because life with a
tell they’re twins?” she muttered, “This toddler isn’t dangerous,
—Kevin McCormick wouldn’t happen if messy, and terrifying
Montclair, New Jersey patients would just enough already.
stop using ’em all up.” —Twitter@DadandBuried
Husband: Don’t be —Phillip Radcliffe
angry at me, but I acci- Largo, Florida ✦ How to Decorate
dentally spilled grease a Christmas Tree When
all over the oven. I called to congratu- You Have Kids:
Me: How about I won’t late my parents on 1. Unpack ornament.
be angry at you, but their 24th wedding 2. Drop so that it
you have to clean it. anniversary. shatters into a million
Husband: I’d rather you pieces.
be angry at me. “So, next year’s your 3. Repeat.
—Linda Goldfinger 25th,” I said to my step- —Twitter@Lhlodder
Los Angeles, California mom. “Is that silver, or
wood, or what?” ✦ Wow, my kids are
A serious lung problem decorating the heck
landed me in a rehab “Guts, I think,” she out of this small lower
center, connected to replied. left section of our
oxygen 24 hours a day. —Lynedde Combs Christmas tree.
One day the oxygen Norfolk, Virginia —Twitter@simoncholland
ran low, so I asked an
attendant for a fresh Got a funny story ✦ Me: I hate putting
tank. about friends or fam- up the Christmas tree
ily? It could be worth every year.
“You’ll have to wait,” $$$. For details, go to Seven-year-old: So why
she told me. “We’re rd.com/submit. do you take it down?
—Twitter@XplodingUnicorn
(Jamts Brtakwtll)

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