Girl's Life (April - May 2019)

T H E
B EAUTY
MENSTRUATION: I S S U E



period-care







self-care














demanding products that meet their The good news? Today there are more worth of blood comfortably). Another
standards (clean and organic, ofc) and menstrual activism groups and period plus? They’re cost-effective: Reusable
match their style (pretty and pastel, empowerment influencers—yes, it’s a alternatives eliminate the recurring
please). They’re advocating for menstrual thing—than ever before. And together expense of pads and tampons.
equity (access for all to hygiene products with new period product startups and And let’s not ignore the cute factor.
and information about reproductive brave girls all across the country getting The latest period products aren’t just
health) and to abolish period poverty real, the sense of period shame is *finally* pretty—they’re the ultimate Instagram
(a recent study revealed that 1 in 5 starting to subside. fodder (think: adorbs packaging destined
U.S. girls have either left school early for #unboxing, sometimes accompanied
or missed school entirely because they BRAND TOGETHER by a cheeky set of stickers). Suddenly,
didn’t have access to period supplies). those embarrassing necessities girls were
For a long time, I hated my period. I Spy the shelves at your favorite stores (hi, once so ashamed to be seen with are
saw it as the end of everything: the end Free People and Urban Outfitters) and becoming a trendy status symbol appeal-
of my social life, my comfort, my general it’s clear that a new wave of indie well- ing enough to be displayed on a vanity—
happiness. It took me entirely too long ness brands—many owned and operated and even featured in a feed—instead of
to realize that if I embraced my body, primarily by women—has risen to the shamefully stashed in a drawer or buried
pampered my period and owned my ovu- challenge of setting a new standard for at the bottom of a bag.
lation, I could use my menstruation as an feminine essentials.
opportunity to indulge. When I stopped What matters most? Transparent GLOW WITH THE FLOW
fighting it and actually befriended my labels and organic offerings, for starters.
cycle, it suddenly became so much The ingredients in feminine hygiene Unless you’ve been living in the digital
smoother. And that’s why we’re here now: products aren’t currently regulated by the dark for the past few years, you’ve no
to show you the power, peace and positiv- FDA, and some experts warn that certain doubt heard of mindfulness: the self-care
ity that’s waiting within your period. chemicals used to manufacture tampons, strategy based on slowing down, being
like glyphosate and dioxin, could be present and looking inward. You can prac-
THE STAIN OF STIGMA carcinogenic (aka cancer-causing)—and tice it through meditation…or by putting
therefore shouldn’t come into repeated
on a face mask. (Or lots of other ways.)
First things first: While more menstrua- contact with a highly permeable spot of The concept of menstrual mindfulness
tors than ever are finding power in their the body like the vagina. uses those same principles as a more
periods, don’t be ashamed if you’re, well, Something else to consider? Sus- positive approach to your period: Instead
still ashamed. It’s completely understand- tainability. The desire for eco-friendly of thinking, “Oh no, here comes Aunt Flo
BRAD GREGORY/THE LICENSING PROJECT.COM feminine wellness brand that promotes inserted into the vagina to catch blood, menstrual cycle can become an opportu-
alternatives has led to the popularity of
able to get embarrassed about bleeding.
to ruin the next four days of my life,” it’s
In a study conducted by Blume, a
options like menstrual cups (which are
about switching your perspective. Your
self-care, 63 percent of the 1,000 women
nity loaded with feel-good benefits: It’s a
then washed and reused), washable
time to tune into your body, give yourself
surveyed said they felt embarrassed
napkins (like your normal pad, except you
a break, slow down a bit—and, most
when they got their first periods—and
cleanse and use again) and even period
importantly, treat yourself.
60 percent said their self-esteem plum-
panties (special undergarments designed
to catch and hold about two tampons’
meted around puberty.
More!
GL APRIL | MAY 2019 49

PROMOTION


QUIZ
Will YOU
get your READY TO TRANSFORM YOUR BASIC Be kind to your kitty
BLEEDING INTO A LUXE CELEBRATION OF
period this SELF? FOLLOW THESE FIVE STEPS FOR A
MORE MINDFUL MENSTRUATION…
weekend? In the epic words of Lo Bosworth, founder
1. Understand your cycle. Start tracking of feminine health brand Love Wellness
your period on an app like Clue, where (and reality star of The Hills fame): “There is
you can record your bod’s blood output no reason why you should have 15
and log how you’re feeling. Soon, you’ll products for your face and zero products
be able to look at the calendar to see for your vagina.” Agreed, Lo! Stock up
how your flow affects your emotions— on these v. (v!) important essentials…
Whether it’s your first-ever super handy when you just #cantstop-
flow or just another step in crying and don’t know why. Plus, you’ll
your established cycle, take be able to better plan ahead for the days
this quiz to find out when when you might need a little more R&R Your southern strands
your period might appear... (aka Netflix and nothing else). have been neglected
for far too long. Enter
2. Seek out products that are better for this luxe oil, which
1. Got tummy troubles? your body. Before you stock up for your softens body hair and
❑ ❑ next cycle, research the products you’ll skin with vitamins,
be spending tons of intimate time with. jojoba and tea tree.
2. What’s your emotional Do you know what’s in them? (Be sure to $28, furyou.com
~mood~ today? check for fragrance, which often can be
❑ ❑ irritating.) Is there an option you haven’t
investigated yet? (While tampons are
3. How’s your skin? extremely popular, menstrual cups and
❑ ❑ period panties are cult favorites.)
4. What’s your energy level? 3. Draw a bath. Taking frequent soaks
❑ ❑ while menstruating isn’t based on the
need to keep clean—it’s more about mir-
5. Current cravings? roring your body’s own act of cleansing. For the times when
❑ ❑ Supercharge your shedding process with you can’t carry your
a warm Epsom salt bath, which also can heat pad around on
help fight cramps and aches. (See page your belly…these
Go to girlslife.com/divacup to get 46 for all the bath inspo you’ll ever need.)
your quiz results—and see what’s in your sticky patches adhere
custom period survival starter kit! to underwear and
4. Nourish with nature. Look to Mama keep the ovary area
Earth for a bit of guidance during your toasty for about six
cycle—whether it’s by feeding your bod hours. Ahh.
with hearty veggies and fresh fruit $5, getrael.com
(chock-full of the vitamins and nutrients
you need most right now!), spending
quiet time outside in the calmness of the
woods or soaking up the sun for 15 min-
utes when you’re feeling extra zapped
(just don’t forget the SPF). Girls, you know this:
Basic TP just doesn’t
5. Listen to your bod. You’ve done a lot cut it. (Ever, TBH, but
already—and now it’s time to tune in. especially when you’re
What are you craving? Is it sleep, choco- bleeding.) Stay fresh
late, your comfiest sweatshirt? Give your with fragrance-free
body what it’s asking for. Feeling stiff? wipes that won’t
Try some gentle stretching. Overly emo? irritate your ladybits.
Grant yourself permission to feel those $10, lovewellness.co
Be prepared for your period with the feelings, and understand that they’re
DivaCup! The new Model 0 was designed for likely amplified by hormones. You—and
girls under age 18: It’s comfortable, cost- your body—deserve to rest and reset.
effective, eco-friendly and wearable for up
to 12 hours. Learn more at divacup.com
and follow @thedivacup on Instagram for
period empowerment inspo.

PROMOTION

8 ways

to your kitty to glow


with your

Attacked by aches?
Just stop, drop and flow
rollerball this blend of
aromatherapy oils all
Feeling a little raw around your uterus.
after four days of With a few deep Your period doesn’t need to
pads and panty breaths and some be the end of anything.
liners? Indulge an gentle massaging With a couple quick tips and
aggravated vulva moves, you’ll quickly smart swaps, you’ll be on your
with a calming trio of calm those cramps. way to feeling amazing
chamomile, almond oil $18, meetblume.com *all* month long... Power through
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For days when a heavy flow calls
for backup—or when you want to
skip tampons altogether—these
period-proof panties absorb Reach for relief. Did you know there’s a quick fix
up to 3 teaspoons of blood but to soothe *all* your symptoms—cramps, aches
somehow keep you feeling fresh. 1 and bloating, of course...but even issues like
Magic. $23, shethinx.com irritability? Talk to your parents about picking up
Pamprin to treat and prevent those #periodpains.

Pump iron. When you’re menstruating, blood loss
causes you to lose iron—making you sluggish
2 and sleepy. Up your intake with iron-rich foods
Keep your most like cashews, lentils, dark chocolate and leafy
sensitive skin soft with greens (cocoa-spinach-mint smoothie, anyone?).
a gentle cleanser that Tell that down-there
balances your delicate chafing to chill—and Sweat it out. Exercise = endorphins, which are
pH—so much better choose a natural, your brain’s feel-good chemicals that counteract
than standard soaps, nourishing balm that 3 cramping (so handy!). Short on time? Even a
which can contain sul- soothes irritated, itchy quick walk around the block will do wonders.
fates and other ickies. skin while preventing
$10, thehoneypot.co bacteria buildup. Hydrate, hydrate, hydrate. The more water you
$18, target.com 4 drink, the less bloated and icky you’ll feel. Aim for
six to eight glasses a day, mmk?

Hit it with heat. Hold a warm pad or hot water
5 bottle against your stomach—or soak in a warm
bath—to relax muscles and boost blood flow.

Get your zen on. Whether you do a few downward
These smart supplements were 6 dogs or try a 10-minute meditation, lowering your
developed to strengthen your stress levels also can decrease how painful your
bod’s defense against period pains. periods are. Mind over (menstrual) matter.
THX!! (As always, check with your
doc before popping any pill.) 7 Snag some zzz’s. Aim for at least eight hours a
night—because skimping on sleep will make your
CREDIT HERE $18, mylola.com symptoms more intense, trust. Sweet dreams...


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crushes to














Here’s a final you want to study for—about baes. Like
Latin, they can be kinda tricky. But unlike an actual exam,
there’s no perfect set of answers. Keep reading to decode
everything you ever wanted to know about the one
you’ve got your heart-eyes set on...





EMOTIONAL

ADVENTUROUS COMFORTING DISTANT
FLIRTY
Your girls have no
The best crushes BUSY FACT: People tend problem telling you
aren’t afraid to take Your BFFs have the to drift when they’re everything, but it’s
risks. We don’t mean super supportive thing stressed out or feeling tough for some people Instead of trying to
something super WE KNOW: They’re down pat: a million unsure, so there’s a to open up to a new decode their every
scary or dangerous... busy. But if that’s texts, a matcha run good chance it has GF or crush. Much like smile, sweet remark
but they aren’t always an excuse, it and venting until all nothing to do with how a watched pot or Snap, just have fun.
afraid to go out might be better to find hours. But the best you. Give them a little never boils, pestering The truth is, fretting
on a limb a little. someone who’s a little crushes are just as space and see what them to share feelings over flirting is a waste
Whether they’re more, um, free. Sure, kind. They may take a happens. won’t work—even if of time—so don’t even
telling you how they some people have different tactic—bad you’re just trying to bother. If you click,
feel or coming up wacky schedules…and jokes and LOL-worthy be helpful. They’ll that’s cool. If not, well,
with amaze dates, some just drop the flicks come to mind— hopefully share when now you’ve got a bud
this cutie will keep busy bomb to avoid but they’ll def work to they’re ready. Until who’s quick-witted and
you on your toes. hurting your feelings. make you smile. then, just be there. a blast to be around.






JITTERY
INTERESTING

GENUINE HEARTBROKEN KIND LOVE

Sure, he’s more adorbs No, they didn’t drink 10
If you’re crushing than Harvey Kinkle. But cups of coffee, they’re
on someone who is if hearing him blather just nervous—because The good ones always
hiding behind a per- If your crush has been on about his upcoming of you. Tripping over do nice things, like lend Even if you’re thinking
sona, you’ll never dumped recently, it’s solo photography show words and fumbling you a pen when you it in your head, most
have a real relation- probably a bad time makes Dad’s soliloquy with books are good show up inkless to people don’t utter the
ship. Sometimes you to present yourself as on stamp collecting signs. One way to bust English. But when they “L” word lightly—and
need to look beyond their girl in shining seem thrilling, then insecurity? Stay laid- go above and beyond neither should you.
who you *think* you armor. Give it time, he might not be your back (think: unfancy (like volunteering at Even if your beau
should be coupled be a good friend...and match. Couples don’t dates and a mix of the spring carnival doesn’t drop I and
up with (think: Mr. you just might be in have to share all the group + solo hang you’re organizing or Love and You, they’re
Popular) to see the the right place at the same interests, but you seshes). That should tossing you compli- probably still super
sweeties who are right time when they do have to think theirs be all you both need ments on your haircut happy you two are a
real, down-to-earth *finally* move past are interesting to to keep calm…and or new dress), they duo. We say...don’t
and truly confident. the past. make it work. date on. could be crushing, too. rush it. Really.


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crushes


















POSSESSIVE
NATURAL
MYSTERY QUIET
OVERCONFIDENT RELIABLE
Your +1 is v. into hang- The shy ones are often
Between Insta sto- ing with you, which the biggest sweeties,
ries, Snapchat, Tik- Relationships can be cool...unless but it can sometimes
Tok and all the other shouldn’t feel forced. There *is* such a thing they want to spend be hard to know what’s They show up when
options, there are If it feels like you and as too much confi- every moment with going on in that nog- they’re supposed to,
about 65,000 ways your BF or GF are dence. If you find your- you, text constantly gin. If you’re crushing can be counted on for
to track the object of struggling extra hard self thinking things and don’t like it when on one, do your best to a pick-me-up and never
your affection. Resist to make something like, “Yes, you told me you chill with other keep your eye on their cancel on plans. Ahh,
the urge to reach out work, it might mean how you caught that friends. Tell them you actions. They’ll likely these are the ones who
24/7—and expect the you two aren’t the pass…12 times,” then need some space and, hint at true feelings are loyal through and
same in return. That best fit. And, hey, you might be crushing if that doesn’t work, through the sweet through. Yay!
way, next time you that’s fine. There are on someone with an break up. This kind things they do, even if
hang, you’ll actually tons of other cuties in inflated ego. And that of behavior is bad they aren’t blaring their
have something to the caf, so take a good can get real old, real news and doesn’t get innermost emotions
talk about. look around. fast. Bo-ring. better—trust. over the loudspeaker.





Some people hide how they’re really feeling Trust is über important in any relationship,
through humor? What? No way! The trick is to so make sure your bond with your BF or GF is
SARCASTIC not take everything they say super seriously. TRUSTWORTHY on solid ground before sharing any personal
stuff. And take it from us—if you can’t trust
Odds are, they’re joking around because they
like you. Feel free to dish it back. them with your secrets, you won’t be able to
trust them with your heart.








VAGUE
UNAWARE
WILD CHILD YOUNG ZANY
X-FACTOR

Sometimes it can “Ugh! Boys are so
You think you’re seem like crushes immature,” said every One of the best parts
girl ever. Girls grow up
dropping tons of
of getting to know a
PHOTODISC/GETTY IMAGES signals to your language. They might Adventurous is Exes are cute. And faster, so feel free to cut crush is finding out
speak another
crush, but they’re
fun. And you two
how fun and random
guys some occasional
awesome (see “A”), but
utter, “You’re cool,”
slack—though you don’t
not catching on.
clicked...past tense.
some people like to
they are. If you’re a
but what does that
mean? Instead of pop-
have to sit through daily
What gives? Stop
push the envelope from
Your ex is your ex for
perfectionist planner,
waiting around
what they try to tell
for them to make ping their words into “This could be fun!” to a reason, no matter burping contests. make a point to go
“This is just stupid and
Google Translator, be
along with a couple
a move. A simple direct. Once they see unsafe.” It’s not worth you. Remember this: of your crush’s kooky
“Hey, want to hang you can be upfront, risking major trouble to A recycled relation- ideas. Spontaneity
out this weekend?” everything else might keep up with a seriously ship rarely works. is part of the fun of
works wonders. snap into place. OOC crush. dating!
GL APRIL | MAY 2019 55

Sure, your crush
may be cuter than
Cole Sprouse and
Lili Reinhart com-
bined. But if that
bae isn’t as sweet
and sincere as they
are snackable?
Take this quiz to
find out whether
Are or “thank u, next.”
it’s time to say
I’m “into you”...




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crushing





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a bad






bae?









BY JIAE KIM

crushes






our crush is absolutely A. Sit silently, hoping that B. Roll your eyes and laugh. their match. If there’s one
adorable. A total gem. what you saw was just an You love his sarcastic sense girl who won’t be swayed by
So of course you’re innocent stretch. of humor. Most of the time. wooing words alone, it’s you.
Ywilling to forgive it B. Ask your partner if he’s OK C. Joke right back and say
when they don’t always say and make a mental note to how lucky he is that you’re 7. You just found out bae told
hi in the halls...or leave your (privately) remind your crush dating him. And, all kidding half the class about your first
snaps on open, right? Not that bullying is acceptable, aside, it’s true. kiss on the walk home after
exactly. When it comes to like, never. the Spring Fling. You…
crushes, are your standards C. Put them on blast for the 5. Uh-oh...you’re starting to A. Feel a little flattered.
super high—or barely off the rude move while helping to fall for your BGF. What do you They’re into you and want
ground? Take this quiz to find clean up the mess. like most about him? everyone to know. No harm.
out if your expectations are A. His hair. Granted he’s B. Pull them aside and ask for
soaring...or simply settling. 3. Two days ago, you had the always flipping it, so it’s no an explanation. It’s so not
best first date ever with a wonder you can’t take your anyone else’s business.
total sweetie. You thought eyes off him. C. Are totally mortified and
1. Your crush commemorates you’d get a text by now, but B. His brain. He’s one of the can’t believe you wasted
the first rainfall of the season it’s been crickets. How long do smartest guys in your class. your time. It’s over.
by pouncing in a puddle and you wait before reaching out? C. His kindness. He’s always
splattering mud all over your A. Not a minute more. They offering you his jacket and 8. We all know cheating is
brand new coral jeans. You… said they wanted to hang opening doors. How could a total deal-breaker in any
A. Laugh it off while secretly again—now it’s on you. you *not* fall for him? relationship...but what move
hoping the stain comes out. B. One more day—you know it’s gets a pass (well, at least the
If not, who cares? It was a a really busy school week. 6. You cannot believe your first time it happens) in your
fun and flirty moment. C. Reach out? You’ve already insane luck when the cutie dating handbook?
B. Let them know they’ll be moved on. If a second date from debate club asks you A. Flirting with your crew.
buying your lunch next was desired, they would’ve out. When you run to tell They’re outgoing, so you
week to cover the cleaning gotten in touch. Bye! your bestie, she… don’t want to make a big
cost. Plus, it’s an excuse to A. Mentions their habit of deal out of, um, friendly
share your snacks... 4. You and your BF are about cheating on past GFs...and behavior.
C. Throw an angry glare and to hit the six-month mark. asks if you are really up for B. Canceling plans at the
cut ties forever. They’re When your bestie asks him getting your heart broken last minute. As long as it
officially off your like list. what he’s getting you, he by another infamous flirt. doesn’t become a regular
semi-jokingly replies, “I’m dat- B. Offers a weak “oh...great...” occurrence, you’ll deal.
2. The cutie from bio “acci- ing her—that's enough, right?” and then casually mentions C. Texting you every morning
dentally” trips your sorta Your response? they were spotted with for your (same) Starbucks
geeky lab partner as he walks A. Nod your head in agree- another girl last weekend. order. Is it really so hard to
by, sending his beaker smash- ment. He’s right, actually. C. Remarks that this serial remember a trenta green
ing to the floor. You… What more do you need? sweetie has finally met tea with one raw sugar?

MOSTLY A’s MOSTLY B’s MOSTLY C’s


BLIND TO BADDIES 20/20 VISION EAGLE EYE
Hate to break it to you, but you’re You know what signs to be cautious RiRi’s rude boys are so not your scene:
into bonafide bad news bears. You of: Blatant displays of disrespect are You steer clear of any and all jerk
may not even realize it, but you’re tops on your “reasons not to date behavior. Easy charm and good looks
clearly drawn to crushes who are up someone” list. And when it comes aren’t going to win you over. And a cruel
to no good. Whether they’re players, to your own bae? You’re laid-back sense of “humor” or unkind actions?
overly flirty or just too wrapped up enough to let a few things slide (like They best not even bother. Thanks to
in themselves to treat you right, the time they got your birthday your high standards, you only date the
these baes have no place in your mixed up with an ex’s—simple mis- worthiest of suitors, which is awe-
world. While it may be flattering take, right?) while still knowing when some. Just remember that everyone
to have the most elusive person in to speak up (like that hurtful “joke” slips up now and then—even you. So as
school pay attention to you, make about how you’re totally hopeless at long as you know you’re crushing on a
kind heart, smile and cut them some
statistics). That happy medium keeps
sure you’re getting the treatment
KATIE YU/THE CW you deserve. And if not? Say see ya… your relationship on even footing. slack—but only occasionally.


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THREE’S A

t seems like every girl we know has
Crowd Iwhat? Or maybe you’ve been dateless
been there: You’re head-over-sandals
for your crush...and then suddenly your
BFF is gaga over the same person. Um,

for ages when, all of a sudden, two guys
ask you to the spring dance. Which prince
to pick? Whether you’re playing tug o’
war between bestie and a bae...or you’re
stuck in the land of mixed emotions, we’ve
got pro *and* real-girl advice on how to
untether from a tangled triangle.

THE TRIPLE THREAT: You confessed your
feelings to a cutie—and they barely blinked.
Le sigh. Then you hit it off with a totally new
person—and *now* your original crush is
suddenly into you. Argh!
PAIR UP: Think before you break out that kissy-
face emoji. “Your instinct may be to back
away from your new crush and jump into the
arms of the cutie you originally liked,” says
relationship pro Brooke Carsner. But
ponder what’s already right in front
of you: Is your current fling kind? Do
































HOW TO HANDLE THE TRICKIEST LOVE TRIANGLES...

crushes






you two have a ton of fun and lots in com- I made the right choice,” Kayla says. “I can’t
mon? Do you have feelings for each other? If blame the other one for not being able to
so, “Continue to explore if there is long-term stay friends after all that happened.” Give
potential,” says Carsner. “Let your original the person you don’t pick some space: The
crush know you’re flattered, but it wouldn’t last thing they need is a reminder of their
be fair to ditch your current S.O.” And, hey, 5 TIMES THE runner-up status.
if nothing else, take it as a compliment that
you were the object of two cuties’ affections! TWOSOME ISN’T THE TRIPLE THREAT: Your BFF is in l-u-v with
WORTH IT her new guy, but you know something not-
THE TRIPLE THREAT: You and your ex are so-awesome about him. The secret? He keeps
finally on friendly terms when you’re sud- IF YOU’RE IN ONE OF THESE flirting with...you. Gulp.
denly crushing like crazy...on her best friend. TRICKY TRIOS, IT’S BEST TO PAIR UP: Now’s not the time to be cute or coy.
PAIR UP: It *is* possible to go out with your WALK AWAY—TRUST. Be straightforward and tell this not-so-sweet
former GF’s friend—if you’re smart about talker he needs to knock it off. Now. “If it hap-
it. The secret? Let them handle it, advises THE COMPROMISE pens again, it is your duty as a friend to let
counselor Lisa Bahar. This might sound like a Your #1 guy is taken. Enter guy your bestie know,” Carsner shares. Don’t be
cop-out, but it’s better for your new crush to #2, who you think is “nice” and shocked if she tells him...and then he turns
chat with your former flame. Why? Step into “cute,” but you’re not super into. around and accuses you of having a crush on
your ex’s shoes: If she was talking to one of If you were seriously pining him. (Classic bad-boy behavior, BTW.) Look
your friends, would it make you jealous? The over someone else, don’t rush your BFF square in the eyes and sincerely
answer is probably yes, so proceed with cau- into a relationship with a back- tell her you’d never, ever do that to her. And
tion. Talk to your current crush and tell her it’s up just so you can couple up.  then? Avoid alone time with her guy until he
only fair for her to break the news to her friend proves he’s stepped up his loyalty game.
before things get serious. THE RECYCLED CRUSH
Your BFF rejected him—and now he’s THE TRIPLE THREAT: You and your bestie
THE TRIPLE THREAT: You’ve got your eyes on suddenly blowing up *your* phone. like the same person, but don’t want to hurt
two crushes...and they both happen to like If he’s still checking her out or each other’s feelings.
you. Now what? talks about her 24/7, well, he PAIR UP: This seems like the ultimate heart-
PAIR UP: Listen to your gut. It might be tough, might only be warming up to breaker because it’s impossible to walk away
but if you’re honest with yourself, we bet one you to get close to her.  without someone getting upset—and that’s
of them is more suited to you. When Kayla why some crews go so far as to banish that
H., 17, found herself in this sitch, she decided THE SWOOPER crush for everyone. “My friends and I have
to date one of the guys—and he became a You’re happily flirting with a new a rule: If we like the same person, they are
serious BF. But she admits her friendship crush when another major babe off-limits,” says Isabelle S., 15. The truth is,
with the other boy fizzled out after. “I know starts to stare your way. crushes are contagious in a small circle. If
When it rains, it pours. Don’t you and your girl have fallen for the same
date someone just because person, sit down for a talk. We bet it’ll be
they’re showing a little interest.  obvious which of you is in it deeper—or
maybe bae has made it clear they are way
THE EX-INVASION more interested in one of you. And if you
You and your ex have both moved don’t walk away with the green light? Know
on...or so you thought. Now that that you’re doing a sweet thing by letting
he’s going out with New Girl, your friend have the chance at romance.
you’re missing him like mad.
It’s always hard to see your THE TRIPLE THREAT: You have a mega thing
for the captain of the JV baseball team, but
one-time BF date someone else,
LEFT: STANISLAW PYTEL, TOP RIGHT: APOMARES/ALL GETTY IMAGES c) jealousy or d) all of the above.  PAIR UP: Shove aside your last shred of shy-
you happen to know for a fact he has his eyes
but don’t circle back to him
on Lily, who sits between you two in English.
out of a) boredom, b) revenge,
ness and speak up. “Let the guy you like know
THE FAKEOUT
you’re into him. That way he can consider
Lately, you’ve been getting
you before he takes a chance with someone
butterflies around girls. But then
else,” says Carsner. But she’s not suggesting
you pen a poem. “Asking him to hang out
some guy likes you, and you feel
or letting him know you think he’s great will
pressure to play it straight.
Crushes can be unexpected, so
doesn’t go where you’d hoped it would? Let
don’t rush to get a BF to cover
him know you’re more than cool to be friends,
up complicated emotions. Talk keep you in the front of his mind.” And if it
out your feelings with someone smile and move on. He’ll forget about it in no
you trust.  time and, hey, at least you tried.
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Dear





Carol












Dear I Want a Dog,
My family had dogs, cats and even chick-
ens—which, since I grew up in New York
City’s suburbs, confused our neighbors.
Life is long and I bet you’ll have a pup
someday. But dogs, unlike cats, really do
have to get outside a few times a day.
Try to see your mom’s point of view. Who I WANT A DOG
will walk the dog if you have after-school
or evening plans? And dogs can live for Hi! I really want my family to get a dog, but
decades, so who will walk her when you go my mom doesn’t because she thinks she’ll be
off to college? Having a dog might simply the only one taking care of it. How should I
not be in the cards right now, but if you show her I’m responsible enough to help?
want your mom to come around, voice
your request as maturely as possible. Try,
“I recognize that a dog is a big commit- futures—and that makes sense. I’m still and a compliment or thoughtful question?
ment, but I promise I will wake up extra friends with my ex-boyfriend, yet I don’t Can you say hi to girls and guys one grade
early each morning, rain or shine, to feed think of what he and I have now as unfin- older or younger and to kids who may go
the dog and take him out.” And think ished business—only as a forever fondness. to different schools? As you let more peo-
about that. Are you truly prepared to make As for your question of what to do, the ple into your life, you will feel less anxious
such a promise? School days start early. answer is almost always this: Live your life about your BFF making new amigos. Here’s
and try to be your best self. what never works: complaining to her that
things aren’t the way they used to be or
UNFINISHED BUSINESS forcing her to choose between you and
My boyfriend and I broke up a few IS MY FRIENDSHIP OVER? someone new. And consider asking this
months ago, and we are still friends. I have known my BFF for six years friend to see a movie or have a sleepover
I feel like there’s unfinished business so far. She isn’t hanging out with in another week or two—that way she can
because he always flirts with me. But me lately and I am worried that our see that you’re giving her space, but still
there’s a new girl in his life, too, and friendship might end. Please help! value your friendship.
I’m not sure what to do.
Dear Is My Friendship Over?,
Dear Unfinished Business, Ouch. Friendships shuffle around a lot VAPING COUSINS
There’s often unfinished business when and it’s hard. But just as first romances So, I found out my cousins (ages 12
two people care about each other. You aren’t usually supposed to last forever, and 13) vape. It scares me because I
shared an important closeness, and it’s first friendships also evolve and shift over know the dangers. I told them to quit
fine to stay open to the possibility of time. My hope is that you two can stay but they got mad. I promised not to
reconnecting. Then again, it’s a great big close while allowing yourselves to make tell anyone (especially my parents or TOP PHOTO: CAROL YEPES/GETTY IMAGES
world out there (over 7 billion people!). So, new friends. After all, there’s lots of room aunt) but I don’t know what to do. I
while you and he will always have a happy between Best Friends and Not Friends. don’t want to betray them but I don’t
history, you’ll probably have separate Can you approach new kids with a smile want them to end up addicted, either.

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BY CAROL WESTON

important, so you’re smart to care about died of cancer, I dated a guy only to
your emotional bond as well as their discover he was really toxic and my
physical health. In an extreme situation— grades are dramatically decreasing.
like if you found out that someone were I’d talk to my parents, but they both
suicidal—it would be essential to speak have their own things that they are
up, even if asked to keep a secret. This trying to handle. And I’ve talked to
scenario is less black and white. Let me counselors, but they don’t really help.
say again, bravo for not being tempted by
Juuls or e-cigarettes. And if all this comes Dear Super Stressed,
up again with your cousins, simply say, I’m sorry things are feeling so hard right
“I’m concerned because I care about you.” now. First off, be sure you are getting
enough sleep. Exhaustion alone makes
life stressful. And how awful about your
SUPER STRESSED mom’s friend. I’m sure your mom has
I’m 13 years old, and I’m stressed been sad and distracted, too. My hope is
about everything. So much has hap- that you can keep finding new friends who
pened in the past month: My friend are not mean or toxic. Seek out caring,
became mean, my mom’s best friend good-hearted people who value both












Dear Vaping Cousins, NO PERIOD
I’m so glad you don’t vape. I applaud you I haven’t gotten my period
for taking care of your lungs, and for real- yet, but I have had all the
izing that what may seem like a harmless signs. I’ve had breast buds
habit can become a harmful addiction. for about two years, I’ve
As for what to do, no easy answer. You feel had discharge for like two
bad speaking up and you feel bad staying years and my sister got
silent. Over the years, I’ve gotten many hers at the age I am now.
letters from girls who are concerned What could be the reason
about others who drink or smoke; vaping why I haven’t gotten it yet?
is the new worry. If you have an excellent
relationship with your parents and they Dear No Period,
have a great relationship with your aunt You can’t rush Mother Nature.
(two gigantic ifs), your parents could dis- My best advice is to relax and
creetly say they saw our Q&A exchange, know that you will get your period the moment your body is ready. I was a
and your aunt could be grateful for the late bloomer, and guess what, it made no real difference. You ask, “What
intel and have an effective heart-to-heart could be the reason?” so I’ll point out that girls who are very skinny or very
with her kids. But things are usually athletic sometimes get their periods later than others. But not always.
trickier. Some parents fly into rages and Bodies simply have their own unique timetables, and there’s no specific
RIGHT: JGI/JAMIE GRIL/GETTY IMAGES already know but not know what to do. do or don’t get pimples, etc. Be grateful for all your body does for you—and
some under-react. And your aunt might
reason why some girls hit puberty early or late—or sweat more or less, or
Even when parents speak up in reasonable
take care of it, too. That means doing your best to get enough sleep, eat
ways, it doesn’t miraculously fix problems.
nutritiously and exercise. Still concerned? Ask your doc on your next visit.
What makes your question extra hard is
that your relationship with your cousins is

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Dear Carol






working hard at school and having fun. It’s may have been looking for reassurance part for the environment. You can say to
also OK to confide to your mom or dad: “I as he figured out his own emotions. Next a clerk, “Thanks, but no plastic bag for
know you have a lot on your plate, but I’ve time, take a subtler route. Be the fun and me,” without venting about landfills or
been feeling a little down.” As for grades, funny and smart person you are and let a biodegradability. Me, I use reusable bags as
maybe a teacher or tutor or classmate relationship develop rather than hoping much as possible. And if I’m buying just an
can offer extra help? And please don’t for an early verbal commitment. For now, item or two, I pop it in my purse. (Con-
write off counseling—the right therapist if you stay interested in him, chances are fession: Sometimes I’ll find an avocado in
can make all the difference. he’ll warm up again. If not, there are other there two days after going shopping!) Can
great boys out there. Oh, and a little you help your family or friends or school
heartbreak is the price of being human, become more green? For instance, some
DOES HE LIKE ME? but if you truly feel you’ve been “led on, people blast the heat when they could put
I’ve been having trouble with this boy used and very heartbroken,” work on on a sweater, or turn on the air conditioner
and don’t know what to do. He keeps finding a better balance between being when they could open a window. Don’t be
telling his friends (and mine) that he open and being guarded, and take your judgy or critical, but do encourage those
likes me, and that I like him, too. But time getting to know people. If there’s a you care for to be mindful about not being
when I confronted him and asked if trustworthy adult or counselor to talk to wasteful (e.g., show your crew how easy
it’s true, he says it’s not. I’ve been led about all this, it’s a worthy conversation. it is to refill a water bottle rather than go
on, used and very heartbroken through piles of plastic). If every Girls’ Life
before, so if you have any advice on girl thought about shopping local and
how to prevent this from happening GREEN GIRL started using fewer plastic bags and less
again, I need to know now. Even if my mom just buys a tube of Styrofoam, that alone would be a great
toothpaste, the clerk hands us a plas- start. I’m glad you’re a green girl!
Dear Does He Like Me?, tic bag. I don’t want to rant about
Hang on. Can you put yourself in his how the cashier is ruining the planet, Carol Weston’s latest novel, Speed of Life,
shoes? When he put out the word that but then again, I kind of do. is a year in the life of Sofia, a 14-year-old
he likes you, he was hoping for a smile, New York City girl who is going through a
not the fifth degree. When you asked, Dear Green Girl, rough time and reaches out to an advice
“Do you like me? Is it true?” he panicked. I won’t encourage ranting, but I do columnist. Follow Carol on Instagram (she’s
It may have seemed too direct—and he commend you for wanting to do your @carolwestonnyc) and visit carolweston.com.



WHEN SHOULD I START DATING?
I am in middle school and I think I’m ready to date.
When do you think girls should start dating? Is it
weird to date in middle school?

Dear When Should I Start Dating?,
It’s not weird to date in middle school and it’s not weird *not*
to date in middle school. Relationships take time, and it’s
important to be there for the other person not just for fun
stuff (movies, pizza, parties) but also the tough times (like
if they’re going through something stressful such as family
troubles or school disappointments). Notice which people
you feel excited to talk to, and do your best to be a good lis -
tener as you get to know them better. Does the person seem
extra happy to speak with you, too? Wonderful. Then, rather
than ask a flat-out question like, “Do you like me?” or “Do you
want to go out?” consider something safer like, “The weather
looks amazing this weekend. Want to meet at the park on
Saturday?” Have fun and don’t pressure yourself or anyone ROBERT DALY/GETTY IMAGES
else. And if the person you like doesn’t seem to like you back?
Don’t despair. He or she is not the only pretzel in the bag.

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with you?



ARE YOU A
GREAT GAL PAL?
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“The Moment I Knew HERO IMAGES/GETTY IMAGES

We’d Be BFFs”

When you know, you know. Here’s the
exact second GL readers understood that “
their BFF was the real deal…
“ we could just look at “ “ When we auditioned for
She’s equally
ambitious.
She brightens
She was
our school musical and we
my day.
She’s more
sweet from the start. It got to the point where important than were the only freshmen with
callbacks, I knew I was going
We met in kindergarten,
some crush.
and she used to love to braid each other and burst out we liked the same boy and we to be friends with this
girl. —Paige N., 15
my hair. We had an instant
There was this moment when
bond, and we’re just as close laughing, without fail. would get in arguments about
—Ellie G., 14
today. —Marisol L., 13 it. But then we realized we like
each other better than
him! —Dori I., 13

life









here’s no question you’re initiate every adventure, she’ll be secretly
an amazing friend, right? stoked when you hold up your half of the
You threw your girl a killer friendship bridge.
surprise bash for her 13th
and always know her secret RULE #4: YOU KEEP HER
T crush. But sometimes it’s SECRETS WHEN SHE SPILLS.
easy to get wrapped up in your own When it comes to your girl, you know to
crazed life and let your sisterhood slip.
Keep reading to find out if you’re still listen to what she says and stash it away
with lock and key. (Sure, there are excep-
following the golden rules of friend-
ship…or if you need to step up your tions—like if she’s hurting and needs help
or something serious is happening, when
game to be a better bud.
an adult should really step in.) But if she
RULE #1: YOU KNOW WHAT’S reveals her doc gave her a tough diagnosis
or she has hit a rough patch with her GF,
GOING ON INSIDE HER HEAD. you’re not tempted to tell anyone else.
As a true bud, you know your BFF so well Not even in a tricky way, where you cover
you can sniff out a bad day even if she’s up her true ID or pass along that you
pretending things are just fine. Maybe heard “someone” is dealing with whatever.
it’s something in her eyes or the way Gossip? Not your style.
she’s acting a bit distant, but if you’re
sensing something’s off? You check in to RULE #5: YOU’RE GENUINELY
make sure things are A-OK, straightaway. HAPPY WHEN SHE’S HAPPY.
It could be that she’s distracted by her It isn’t easy when the sun’s always shining
upcoming history presentation. Or she’s on your friend. When your bestie is the
miffed about her mom not letting her one who snags the top grades, earns the
go to that party on Saturday night. But prime spots on the sports teams and has a
chances are, you know she’s stressing cute +1, it’s hard to keep jealousy at bay.
before she even has to say “ugh.”
But don’t be overcome with envy or suffer
RULE #2: YOU REMEMBER from sidekick syndrome (when you feel like
everything you do is less awesome than
WHAT’S IMPORTANT TO HER. what she does). When you’re happy for her,
In certain cases, best friends are total twin- it’s a reflection of your own cool confi-
sies: same classes, same extracurriculars, dence. And guess what? She might not say
same social circles. But for friends who it, but she’s probably amazed at how you
don’t share a brain and a band schedule, nail every note in chorus, have read the
it’s crucial to be clued in to—and support— entire works of Jane Austen and always
each other. That means listening when know the hottest bands before everyone
she’s giving you the play-by-play on her else. Duh—your unique attributes are why
softball game—and cheering loudest from she’s friends with you in the first place.
the bleachers when she takes the team
to the state finals. And the support goes RULE #6: YOU’RE ABSOLUTELY
both ways: When you’re running for class THERE WHEN SHE NEEDS YOU.
prez? She’ll be the first to help you paint As a best bud, you understand when your
campaign posters.
girl is going through something major.
RULE #3: YOU UNDERSTAND Whether she’s struggling with an eating
disorder or her parents are in the midst of
“ BIT OF BALANCE. buts about it. Even if she seems like she
THAT FRIENDSHIP NEEDS A
a divorce, you’ll be there—no ifs, ands or
doesn’t need support, head over to her
Bestiehood is a two-way street, and it’s
house with a bunch of daisies and your
not OK to let one-half of a twosome do
phone on silent. Your BFF might have a
all the organizing, the advice-giving or
She isn’t afraid
to be herself.
patch, she can count on you. The truth
who’s been lax, be confident that you,
At our first sleepover, she the sleepover-hosting. If you’re the one million friends...but if her life’s hit a rough
too, can be an A-plus hostess or plan a is, some of the brightest friendships are
grabbed one of my alligator
fun-filled Friday night. While your girl may forged during the darkest times.
hair clips and said in a whisper
never complain she’s the one who has to
scream, ‘Oh my gosh! I love
to pretend these are dragons!
RAAAWR!’ Hilarious!
—Hannah M., 14
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Stop Stressing,
















LET’S GET REAL: Even on a Then, smile. It’ll relax your
good day, stress is almost face and mask any anxiety
unavoidable. But around you may be feeling. Finally,
this time of year—as finals, say to yourself, “Here goes
playoffs and other major my best,” and just do your
events (hello, prom!) loom in thing. And remember, the
the not-so-distant future—the more you prepare for life’s big
pressure just piles on. moments, the better you’ll
So how can you escape be able to handle them: So
unscathed? Here’s our advice practice, practice, practice.
for keeping calm and carrying Eventually, you’ll find your
on—no matter how big the groove under pressure.
stress storm.
STRESSY SITCH: You took a
boatload of honors and AP
STRESSY SITCH: You’re so far courses this semester and, as
behind in Spanish, it’s driving a result, your GPA fell from a
you muy loco. If you don’t do 4.0 to a 3.3. Now, it’s time to
something quickly, you might tell your parents.
not even pass the class.
HANDLE IT: Instead of con-
HANDLE IT: Bring your fronting them with nothing
worries to your teacher’s but negative news, put a
attention. Tell her why positive spin on it. You may
you’re having such a tough not have a 4.0, but you *did*
time—and ask what you can pick up some valuable skills
do to catch up. Maybe she’ll this year—like putting together
offer some extra-credit work an amazing presentation and
or time after school to help writing a killer research paper.
you finally figure out those Then, explain that while your
conjugations. Asking around grades may not be as stellar
about a tutor is a good move, this semester, you now know
too. Whatever you do, don’t how much you can handle
struggle in silence, señorita. academically. Above all,
express that you’re trying
STRESSY SITCH: You choke your best (because you are,
at the worst moments—like right?) and that you under-
standing at the free-throw stand the importance of good
line, preparing to sing your grades. They’ll be impressed
state choir solo or getting up with your achievements—and
in front of the class to give the mature attitude you’re
your oral history report. taking toward learning.

HANDLE IT: When you’re STRESSY SITCH: Two nights
feeling the heat, the best before finals, you’re side-
thing to do is take three deep swiped by awful news (like...
breaths—inhale slowly to a your BF breaks up with you or
count of five, then exhale your parents tell you they’re
slowly to a count of five. separating). Ouch.

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Now! How to stay *all smiles* through




those hectic end-of-year sitches










HANDLE IT: It’s all about HANDLE IT: Sit your parents
getting your head back in down and (calmly) tell them
the game ASAP. You may be why you think it’s better for
totally hurt and completely you in the long run to, say,
shocked, but it’s key to keep work on your shooting skills
plugging away so your grades than spend all summer
don’t suffer, too. Know that researching sustainable energy.
you didn’t do anything to And hear them out, too: They
cause this pain, so don’t beat just want what’s best for
yourself up. Soak in a bubble you, and there is that teensy
bath, journal your feelings chance that they actually know
and try to regain your mental what they’re talking about.
strength. You’ll inevitably Can’t come to terms? Try nego-
have to deal with more sad- tiating: Seek out a similar—but
ness later on—but, for now, shorter—program at your local
look at studying as a welcome community college that’ll
distraction. After all, your life give you enough time to also
may be chaotic, but acing attend basketball camp. That
your finals is something you way, you can please everybody.
can control. Most of all, yourself.

STRESSY SITCH: Prom’s coming STRESSY SITCH: Everyone else
up in a week—but your crush in your class is counting the
hasn’t asked you to go yet. seconds until final bell, but
you’re anxious about school
HANDLE IT: No sweat—just do ending (and the fact that it
the asking yourself! Casually means you’re one year closer
swing by their locker, smile to college).
and say, “So hey, I’ve got an
idea. Why don’t we go to HANDLE IT: Change is scary—
prom together? Could be we’re not going to lie. But the
fun.” Stay cool and casual and reality is that a lot of us waste
friendly—and hopefully they’ll time worrying about things
be into your chill vibe (and that are never as bad as we
flattered, too) and you’ll snag imagine. Next year is probably
yourself a date. And should going to be just as great as this
they be so foolish as to say no one. Actually, it’ll be better:
for some reason? Ask some- The added pressure that
one else or go with a gang of comes with applying to college
your girls and have a blast. also means more excitement
PHOTO BY RAWPIXEL ON UNSPLASH STRESSY SITCH: You were set to things that are in store for
about all of the amazing
you. So stop fretting about
head to basketball camp this
summer—until your parents
what’s ahead. Embrace the
present and tell yourself the
“surprised” you with six
weeks at a sleep-away science
be an unknown adventure, but
program. How are you going best is yet to come. Life may
to persuade them to let you you’ve got the skills to handle
choose ball over beakers? whatever comes your way.
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SLAY THE DAY INTERNSHIP “




WAY I GOT MY
CONGRATS, YOU GOT THE GIG! THE SURPRISING
HERE’S HOW TO SHINE FROM MOMENT ONE...
WORK HARD. “As an intern, particularly when the com-
your time with the company pany’s product or service is Real girls spill on
is limited. Do everything you targeting the next genera- how they got hired.
can to leave a positive imp- tion of consumers. As long
ression,” says InternQueen as you are respectful and
ambassador Alyshia Hull. thoughtful, your boss should “While chatting at a
That means showing up on appreciate your input. party, I mentioned to
5 SMART SECRETS time, staying off your phone, a neighbor that I was

TO LANDING THE GIG paying attention when given VOLUNTEER FOR MORE. “If looking for an internship.
you feel like you’re ready to
instructions and being the
She offered me the gig a
first to pitch in even when take on more tasks, ask for few weeks later. I’ve been
Nix typos. Seriously. the task isn’t exactly excit- additional ways to help or there ever since!”
ing (why, yes, you’d just love
get involved,” offers Hailey
Lauren Berger says she sees letters to stuff goody bags!). Albright, who held intern- —Kristine M., 19
that say things like, “I’m 15 years ships at CNBC, Adidas and
old and I want internship.” We get ASK QUESTIONS. While you Her Campus. “Your managers “I was completing an
it: You’re excited to apply. But be don’t want to bug your boss will be impressed and will editorial test for a spot at
sure to proofread before you hit every 10 seconds, this is your love the extra assistance.” a newspaper. I didn’t have
send. Or, even better, ask a parent time to learn. Don’t be afraid any experience, so I just
or guidance counselor to read your to ask for more details on ASK YOUR SUPERVISOR went with my gut—and I
HOW YOU CAN IMPROVE.
your assignments and tasks
application, too. if you aren’t crystal clear on Constructive criticism isn’t ended up tearing apart
what you need to do. always awesome to hear, but the editor-in-chief’s
Nail the “Tell me about it will help you in the long run. latest article! Luckily,
yourself” question. SPEAK UP. Companies take Plus, shares GL editorial intern they liked my matter-of-
Tasked with talking about yourself? on interns for a reason: Stu- Logan Potter, “your supervisor fact attitude and hired
Keep your answer short, sweet and dents often have a unique will be super impressed you me anyway.”
took the initiative to ask.”
perspective to provide,
to-the-point, briefly explaining why —Logan P., 20
you are the best person to intern at
this company.  “I Googled video produc-
tion places in my area and
Let them know you want it. then ranked them accord-
If you love the company, let them ing to their success and
know. “In a world where people Tumbler location. One day, I put
often flake, employers want people Rifle Paper Co., $33,  on my most professional
who want to work there,” Berger riflepaperco.com dress, drove over to my
shares. Go out of your way at the top choice and walked in
end of the interview to let the com- with my resume. I talked
pany know you are really interested. Pens Boss to the receptionist about
Notebook
Ban.do, $10,  Dormify, $20,  internships, even though
Send thanks. bando.com Babe dormify.com no positions were posted.
After any interview, send a thank-you BFFs Two days later, I got
email (within 24 hours!) to the person called in for an interview.
you spoke with—and be sure to reaf- And I got the job!”
firm your excitement about the job. Pretty pens? Check. —Sarah S., 17
Also reach out to anyone who helped Luxe lunch tote?
you along the way—being gracious Check. All the adorable Portable charger “I told my dad I was look-
Richmond & Finch,
always leaves a lasting impression. (and essential) $39, richmondfinch.com ing at this really awesome
accessories you need internship. It turned out
Sticky notes
Follow up right. Ooly, $8, ooly.com to own your first day? he played football in
You sent off your application and... Check and check. college with someone at
nothing? Don’t panic. Joan Kuhl the company. He put me
Binder clips
suggests waiting a week before C.R. Gibson, $9,  in touch with his former
emailing. (Try something like,“I know crgibson.com teammate, who hired
you’re busy, but I’m interested in me right away.”
interning with you and I wanted to —Ariel D., 20
check in.”) And then? Wait two more Memo board
Typo, $13, 
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Kate Spade New York,
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agonize over every outcome…or pick your
selection in a snap? Take this quiz to find out.


1. The pricey platform sandals guest list. You’ll only attend if your
you’ve been eyeing the last two friends are going, too.
months are *finally* on sale. Prob- C. Shoot an instant “yes” and start
lem is, they’ve only got your size planning your partywear. You’ve
in a not-so-great green. You… been dying for an invite all year.
A. Plunk your cash down. You’re
sure you can make ’em work! 4. Woo hoo! It’s taco day in your
B. Crowdsource by asking four ran- school’s caf. But just as you’re
dom girls in the shoe department about to ask for dos, por favor,
what they think while guarding the the lunch lady plops down a pip-
strappies with your life. ing-hot pizza. Which delish dish
C. Snap a pic, then text it to your do you go for?
bestie. She knows your closet A. Neither. Instead, you hightail
better than anyone, so you’re it to the back of the line to give
going to wait for her yay/nay. yourself more time to consider
this conundrum.
2. Your little sis is stuck between B. Your initial pick—and then throw
two worthy potential dates for yourself a fiesta. You can have
her first-ever spring dance and pizza any old day.
comes to you for advice. You… C. Both. Sure, you might find
A. Sympathize and tell her it’s ulti- yourself in a food coma by fourth
mately her decision, so she should period... but it’ll be worth it.
give it lots of thought.
B. Ask to see some pics and 5. Things between you and bae
choose the cuter one. Really, what are starting to get a bit boring.
else is there to think about? How do you level up the love?
C. Grab a pen and paper and help A. Suggest some fun new date
her make a list of pros and cons. It ideas you two can try together.
helps you every time. Indie film festival, here you come!
B. Gently let them know it’s time
3. The girl you sit next to in chem to part ways. If things aren’t good
just invited you to her big birth- now, then they’ll never get better.
day bash this weekend. You… C. Stick with it. It hasn’t been that
A. Check your sched to see if you long, and maybe you two are just
have any pre-made plans. You going through a phase.
don’t want to double book. Eek!
B. Click “maybe” while you peruse 6. You’re getting an award at IZUSEK/GETTY IMAGES
the names of other invitees on the your school’s assembly and are


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all set to wear your new spring B. Go to tryouts, duh! You’re going
dress. But when you wake up, the to be the next Serena Williams.
weather’s 20 degrees below the Who needs bio when you’re Centre
usual. You… Court at Wimbledon?
A. Go full speed ahead as planned C. Ask your teacher if you can join
and throw on your puffy parka. It’s for an hour and snag just half the
not like you’re walking to school. credits. It’s better than nothing.
B. Default to one of your favorite
winter outfits. Sigh...the dress will 8. In an amazing stroke of luck,
have to wait for sunnier skies. your grandma pops by on your
C. Dig through bins of stowed-away b-day and grants you one prezzie
winter wear. Ugh! Just like when it of your choice. You…
rains at the Oscars, you’re going to A. Debate between a new bag and
need a whole new style vibe. snazzy sneaks before going with
kicks. Yours are almost unwearable
7. Your teacher is offering 15 and you need a fresh pair ASAP.
extra credit points to anyone B. Instantly ask for wireless
who volunteers to help her after earbuds. Your bestie just got them
school. You could use the boost, and you’re jonesing for a pair.
but have tennis tryouts. You... C. Ask if there’s an option to cash
A. Text your mom to help decide. out. It’s such a sweet surprise, but
After all, she’s really the one who you can’t think totally straight
cares most about your grade. when put on the spot.




THE NERVOUS NELLIE 8-13 POINTS
Hey worrywart, dwell much? You take your sweet time when faced
with a dilemma—daunting or not—and would rather have your
friends and fam call the shots because you feel like it’s the easier
option. But let’s face it, you do have a mind of your own. Nix the
habit of agonizing over the what-ifs and regrets and learn to trust
your instincts. And if you make the wrong choice? No big! Tomor-
row’s another day full of more decisions to make.




THE GO-WITH-YOUR-GUT GIRL 14-19 POINTS
High-five, girl. You’ve got a level-headed approach to steering
through tough situations. You have no problem asking others for
advice when needed, but can also rely on your intuition to draw
your own conclusions and opinions. Keep up your sensible approach
to decision-making and there won’t be any issue out there you
can’t tackle. Just be sure to add a splash of spontaneity to your life
once in a while—sometimes being impractical can be fun.





THE SNAP-DECISION SIS 20-24 POINTS
Whoa, speed racer, there’s no decision too difficult for you. You
SCORING know what you want pretty much instantaneously—and are usually
confident in your choices. But sometimes, making impulsive moves
1. (a) 3 (b) 1 (c) 2 5. (a) 2 (b) 3 (c) 1 or rushing to judgment isn’t the best approach, so be sure to mull
2. (a) 1 (b) 3 (c) 2 6. (a) 3 (b) 2 (c) 1 over major choices a bit. Trust us: Asking a bestie or two for their
3. (a) 2 (b) 1 (c) 3 7. (a) 1 (b) 3 (c) 2 thoughts and advice can help you out more than you might think.
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How to be








6 social media
superstars spill the • THE WELLNESS GURU • NAME: Sam Sette BUILD COMMUNITY: It’s all about
secrets to their AGE: 18 interaction. I cannot stress
HANDLE: @healthfullysam
enough how important it is to
success on Insta— FOCUS: My Instagram started as engage with other influencers in
because using the an outlet for recovering from my your community. Commenting
eating disorder. I want to show
on posts, trying out recipes and
’gram for good my followers what being healthy reacting to other peoples’ stories
is #goals really means (physically and is how I created a foundation.
mentally) by sharing advice and
#INSTAHACK: Be honest. There’s
recipes that will fuel their own nothing I value more than
wellness adventures. transparency and vulnerability.
BY AMANDA TARLTON BIGGEST SUCCESS: I met some of We all have bad days—and that’s
WITH ADDITIONAL my closest friends on Instagram. OK! It makes us human. Don’t
REPORTING BY NOËL DUAN It’s crazy to think that despite pretend to be perfect. Stay true
living hundreds of miles away, to yourself and be open with
it feels as if we’ve known each your followers when it comes to
other for years. sharing personal stories.
hink big for a sec:
What are your
greatest goals RN? NAME: Sade Pramberger have the right to block anyone • THE SELF-LOVE ADVOCATE •
TDo you want to take AGE: 21 who’s harassing or upsetting you.
your soap-making biz main- HANDLE: @mythrivingon CREATE A SCHEDULE: When I
stream? Raise money and FOCUS: I remind girls to take time wake up, the first thing I do is
head to the gym to film a work-
to love themselves (self-care is
awareness for a cause you *not* selfish!) and help them see out or take a selfie. Then I’ll write
care about? Publish your their own beauty and worthiness. my post for the day. The key to
being consistent is putting your
BIGGEST SUCCESS: The chance
poetry...or find an audience to work with companies I admire dreams and goals first, before you
(and a buyer, plz/thanks) like Gymshark (I was featured in move on to the rest of your day.
#INSTAHACK: Don’t impersonate
one of their campaigns!).
for your art? HANDLING HATE: Ignore it. This other Instagrammers. It’s fine to
Teens all across the is hard at first, but understand take inspiration, but people
aren’t looking for yet another ver-
that when someone is mean, it’s
world are turning to Insta- likely because of their own neg- sion of a well-known account...
gram for more than just ative mindset. It has nothing to they’re looking for something
memes and #OOTD inspo. do with you. And remember, you new (aka you!).
We’re tapping follow on
six young women who are
using the digital platform to • THE BEAUTY BABE • NAME: Adele Lynch CREATE A NICHE: My Insta-
affect real-life change and AGE: 22 gram really started to pick up
HANDLE: @adelesmakeup
when I found my unique style
make a positive impact— FOCUS: I started my Instagram as and came up with fresh makeup
on both themselves and a way to document my journey looks—from a Monarch butterfly
their audiences. And as a makeup artist. Makeup has wing to abstract graphic liner.
always been therapeutic to me.
FIND INSPIRATION: I’m inspired
whether you want to be a It’s an escape. I want to share by what I see around me. I created
master MUA, slay your side my work to inspire other girls to a blue wave wing after taking a
embrace their own creativity.
walk next to a river.
hustle or campaign for a BIGGEST SUCCESS: It was so #INSTAHACK: Always tag the
cause, anyone (that’s you!) cool when [beauty influencer] brands you use—it helps them ALL PHOTOS VIA INSTAGRAM.COM
find your page, even if you don’t
James Charles re-created one
can become a successful of my looks for a video. Or when have a ton of followers. They
influencer. Here’s how… Anastasia Beverly Hills invited me may choose to share your post or
to an event. Both gave me huge even work with you (that’s how I
opportunities as an artist. got a collab with Instagram!).

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on Instagram









• THE GIRLBOSS •
NAME: Alexa Curtis every day and want it, then you’ll have the
AGE: 21 drive and hustle you need to put yourself
HANDLE: @alexa_curtis out there. You’ll have the confidence to
FOCUS: I show young people that you don’t believe in what you’re building, whether it’s
need to have a ton of money or connections a community, brand or business. Not sure
to achieve big goals. All you need is a strong what your purpose is yet? Start by filling
work ethic and a lot of hustle. your feed with inspiring people, friends
BIGGEST SUCCESS: Landing my own show, and companies. Don’t be afraid to try new
Fearless Everyday, with Radio Disney! things, either. It’s all about trial and error.
GET GUTSY: If you find a cool brand you #INSTAHACK: Be authentic! Your feed
want to work with, don’t hesitate to email doesn’t have to just be a highlight reel.
them cold. There’s no shame in contacting Share the things that really matter to you
someone and sharing your ideas...the worst and don’t be afraid to post both the ups
thing they can say is no. Don’t let the fear of and the downs of your journey. The more
rejection discourage you or hold you back. vulnerable and open you can be with your
MAKE IT HAPPEN: To be successful, you followers, the more they’ll connect with
have to find your purpose. If you wake up you...and the more successful you’ll become.



• THE WORLD TRAVELER •
NAME: Crystal Kei locations when I’m wearing a really good
AGE: 18 outfit, and spacing them out. That way I
HANDLE: @fashionbycrystal can constantly keep my feed fresh *and*
FOCUS: I started my own style and travel still have time for a life outside of Insta.
account after being inspired by other PROCESS PRO PICS: I’ve found that edited
fashion bloggers—and I wanted to show images perform a lot better. I’ve found
that teens can have awesome experiences amazing apps that can completely change
(and closets!), too. the vibe of a shot. VSCO and Lightroom
BIGGEST SUCCESS: Being invited to a are two of my faves (and they’re free!).
fashion show as a VIP—and some of the #INSTAHACK: Engage your audience.
really cool collaborations I’ve gotten to do To cultivate a loyal and supportive
with partners like Spotify. following, it’s really important to reply
CLEVER CONTENT: Still being in high to comments and messages. And post
school, I don’t have a lot of time or money frequently. You don’t need to be traveling
to constantly create new content. I tackle somewhere exotic or going to a fashion
this by stockpiling pics when I travel or show to take pictures—your everyday life
even just snapping pics in different can be just as interesting!




NAME: Hannah Alper just be a bystander, or you can use it to • THE ACTIVIST •
AGE: 16 take a stand and share your passions to
HANDLE: @thathannahalper create positive change. Some of the most
FOCUS: I raise awareness for causes I care powerful movements of our generation—
about—from gun violence to homeless- like March For Our Lives, Zero Hour and,
ness—and share ideas and tangible actions more recently, Greta Thunberg’s climate
people can take to get involved. When strike—have been built by young people
girls see someone their age creating on social media.
change, they know they can do it, too. #INSTAHACK: Hashtags! They empower
BIGGEST SUCCESS: Whenever I post about us, bring us together, amplify causes and
things that matter to me and people let us know that we’re not alone. When
respond with likes or thoughtful com- people see a hashtag trending, they feel
ments, I know that they’re listening—and comfortable adding their voice. And the
that the issues matter to them, too. That’s more targeted the hashtag, the better.
my definition of success. Pick ones that will actually reach the
MAKE A DIFFERENCE: You have a choice people who are interested in your content
when it comes to IG: You can use it to (#EndGunViolenceTogether > #Vote).



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8 POWERFUL
HACKS TO BOOST YOUR
BRAINPOWER











BY JESSICA D’ARGENIO WALLER

health








uess what? Staying on top of 3. TAKE A TECH TIMEOUT
your academic game requires Smartphones are amazing for many
more than just focusing in class reasons: You can instantly connect
G and studying harder: It’s all with your friends, you’re always
about taking care of your brain, too. entertained and you never get lost. YOUR ULTIMATE
Why? Experts say your noggin actu- But our dependence on devices
ally continues to develop until you’re may be damaging to our brains in Smart Snack
well into your 20s—much later than was the long run. “Spending lots of time
previously thought. Meaning you’ve got on smartphones and computers This twist on trail mix is fab fuel for
a good window of time to develop habits can make us irritable, unfocused, your next cram session.
now that’ll make your brain function anxious and forgetful,” says child
faster in the future. How to do just that? psychologist and nutrition special- ½ cup walnuts
Try these genius tricks to nail everything ist Dr. Nicole Beurkens.
from speedier study sessions to mega Which is why it’s super impor-
memory boosts. Brilliant! tant to help your brain reset by
taking screen breaks throughout ¼ cup pistachios
the day. Start by putting away your
1. START MONO-TASKING phone during meals (yep, that’s
Much to the dismay of busy babes every- three times a day). Leave it in
where, neuroscientists across the board another room so it’s totally out of
agree that the brain still can do only one sight—and out of mind.
thing at a time really well. Which means For a serious screentime detox, ¼ cup goji berries
that mastering multitasking is, TBH, a download an app like Flipd (flipd- 2 tablespoons
myth. Increase concentration by doing app.co), which lets you lock your semi-sweet
homework in a quiet, distraction-free phone for a set period of time. For chocolate chips
zone (no Netflix in the background, a less drastic move, try Freedom 2 tablespoons
please). If you can’t stand the silence, (freedom.to), which blocks certain hemp hearts Combine all
ingredients in a
cue up a chill Spotify playlist (anything sites for a bit so you can’t, you Mason jar and shake
that puts you in a good mood brings know, spend two aimless hours in an or stir to mix.
the best bennies). Instagram rabbit hole.
Your new goal is mono-tasking: the
art of concentrating on just one task—or 4. NIX NOTIFICATIONS
subject—at a time. When you’ve ticked Another simple step to scaling back
one box off your to-do list, move to the screen time? Silence those notifications. news alerts and text notifications. If you
next. Lost your place or got distracted? Recent research shows that we’re actually cut the tether to your tech temporarily,
Set a timer for two minutes and close addicted to those chimes and dings, as your brain will have a fighting chance at
your eyes to reset your mind. they set off a dopamine loop that keeps maintaining focus and thinking deeply.
us wanting and needing more stimulation
2. WRITE IT OUT and instant gratification. 5. SNOOZE SMART
It’s super easy to fall into the trap of So when you’re studying or really need Here’s one way to get smarter overnight:
tapping out all your reminders into the to focus, turn off your Instagram updates, Sleep more! Experts say that a good
Notes app on your phone. But studies night’s rest can rev up your memory and
show the physical act of putting pen allow your brain to process information
to paper better engages the memory DRINK UP more efficiently.
centers of your brain—especially when it And if you stay up ’til the wee hours?
comes to list-making. You’ll be more foggy and groggy, not to
So instead of setting calendar The brain is incredibly sensitive mention stressing and having a tougher
to dehydration—even slightly
reminders for your homework assign- below-normal water intake can time concentrating the next day, says Dr.
ments, logging all your endless to-do’s in result in feeling dizzy, foggy, Carolyn Dean, brain health expert and
the Todoist app and typing up your study headachey or fatigued—so make author of 365 Ways to Boost Your Brain
guides in Google Docs, grab a pretty pen sure you’re getting your daily 8x8 Power: Tips, Exercise, Advice. Just be sure
(eight glasses of 8 ounces of H O).
(or four) and your fave notebook. Once you 2 you’re getting the recommended amount.
write things down, you’ll be much more Your goal: Nine to 10 hours nightly is
likely to actually recall your entries from what you should be aiming for, even (and
x8
memory. (Check out our bullet journal especially) on weekdays.
inspo at girlslife.com/iti.) Continued on page 86

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Which workout
SWEAT Experts weigh in.
is the best fit for
your feelings?






THE







MOOD BY AMANDA TARLTON








hen you’re feeling
down, it can be
tempting to curl up
on the couch with
Wa pint of cookie
dough ice cream and binge
old eps of Gilmore Girls. And
sure, a pity party feels good
in the moment. But it doesn’t
really make you any happier—
or healthier—in the long run.
The better-for-you boost?
Exercise. It might be the last
thing you feel like doing, but
squeezing in a sweat sesh
is more effective at making
over your mental state.
“Exercise has been proven
to increase serotonin, which
helps your brain regulate
your mood, sleep and appe-
tite,” explains Alex Silver-
Fagan, a Nike master trainer.
You can even take it one
step further by matching
your workout to your mood.
So to help you stop sulking
and start slaying, we asked
four fitness pros for the best
ways to exercise depending
on how you feel…
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body













WHEN YOU’RE FEELING WHEN YOU’RE FEELING WHEN YOU’RE FEELING WHEN YOU’RE FEELING
STRESSED OR ANXIOUS INSECURE ANGRY OR FRUSTRATED SAD
PERFECT PICK-ME-UP: PERFECT PICK-ME-UP: PERFECT PICK-ME-UP: PERFECT PICK-ME-UP:
POUND REV UP GRAB YOUR MASTER YOUR
THE PAVEMENT THE RESISTANCE BOXING GLOVES YOGA MAT
Turns out you *can* run away Need to slay that summer job Jab, cross, kick, repeat. When it Take it from Drake: Sometimes
from your problems—sort of. interview? Cultivate killer con- comes to releasing pent-up frus- it’s truly best to just be in your
Going for a jog (or any cardio, fidence with weightlifting (your tration...boxing packs a punch. feelings . Or, rather, flow through
tbh) has brain-boosting benefits body weight counts, too!). As Cary Williams, an Olympic- them . “When you’re sad, you
like promoting the production of Fun fact: Strengthening level boxing coach and CEO of want to feel all of the sadness,
endorphins, the chemicals that sessions just once a month can Boxing & Barbells, explains, “You process it and then release it,”
make you feel happy and calm. boost self-esteem in teen girls. feel like you’re beating up what- says Silver-Fagan. “Yoga gives
Even better? Hitting the tread- “Feeling physically strong = ever it was that angered you.” you the safe space to do that.”
mill or the trail also gives you feeling confident,” says Darin Even some of our fave celebs And don’t let the low-impact
time to process your probs. Hulslander, owner of This is are in on the empowering movements and slow pace fool
“On a run, you’re alone with Performance personal training exercise trend (looking at you, you: Holding each pose, even in
your thoughts, which forces you in Chicago. “There’s no better Shay Mitchell and Gigi Hadid). a beginner sequence, requires
to be at one with yourself. And confidence boost than lifting a And for good reason: Combining a lot of balance (aka core
the actual movement of ‘moving heavier weight or nailing your strength and cardio, it’s a full- strength) and flexibility.
forward’ shifts your mentality first pullup.” body workout that also makes
and brightens your mood as you feel like a total boss babe. TRAINING TIPS : Start with a simple
well,” says Meghan Takacs, a TRAINING TIPS : When you’re work- sun salutation sequence (watch
master trainer at Aaptiv. ing out at home, body weight TRAINING TIPS : You don’t need our how-to on girlslife.com/iti) to
exercises can be just as effective expensive equipment to reap the center yourself.
TRAINING TIPS : Not a huge fan of as pumping iron. Hulslander sug- boxing bennies at home. Williams Then, move into some
running? Opt for a high-intensity gests creating your own circuit by suggests shadowboxing, where you heart-opening poses (that’s a
interval training (HIIT) workout combining four to five full-body spar with an imaginary opponent. fancy way of saying backbends),
instead, which will keep both your exercises (think: pushups, bridges, Make sure to stay light on like camel pose or upward-fac-
muscles and mind moving. planks, squats, lunges). your feet, shuffling them from ing dog, as part of a soothing
To customize your cardio Do six to eight reps of each side to side the whole time to stretching routine.
routine, pick explosive exercises move for a total of three sets, keep your heart rate elevated. Adding a few minutes of deep
like burpees, jump squats or resting no more than 30 seconds To ensure your form stays breathing before or after your
high-knees. Set a timer for 15 to in between sets to really feel the on point, Williams recommends flow also can make you more
20 minutes, then do each move burn. If you’re more advanced, watching YouTube videos (peep mindful. Hulslander suggests
for 30 seconds, followed by 45 add weights or resistance bands our faves at girlslife.com/iti) to the 4-7-8 technique: Breathe
seconds of rest. to your workout for an increased perfect those anger-alleviating in through your nose for four
Bonus: The more focused degree of difficulty. jabs and uppercuts. seconds, then hold it for seven
you are on what’s coming next, before breathing out through
the less you dwell on whatever is your mouth for eight. Repeat four
GOOD-VIBE GEAR
stressing you out. times. Ahh, instant zen.
For some major mental mojo, opt for accessories in happy hues like pretty pinks, blissed-out blues and lovely lavenders.


Outdoor Voices,
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Skinnydip
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April Showers












BY AMANDA TARLTON


’s finally Saturday and you can’t wait to spend the up with the best boredom busters for beating bad-weather
weekend soaking up some spring sunshine…until you blues, from dreamy DIYs to energy-boosting activities. Pick
ITopen the curtains and realize it’s raining—again. the perfect plan based on your stormy-day sidekick (your pals,
But a few showers don’t have to, well, pour on your parade. your fam, your bae or even if you’ll be singin’ in the rain solo)
To help brighten up even the dreariest of days, we’ve come and, remember, there are scores of sunny skies ahead.

SQUAD SESH FAM JAM


Pick a Pinterest project. Time to stop pinning and start Make breakfast in bed. Treat yourself—and your fam—to
doing. Decorate mugs with metallic Sharpies, distress an old serious brunch #goals with this super simple hack: Pop
pair of jeans (so cute for spring!) or make a pretty present for some canned cinnamon roll dough in a waffle maker, bake
Mother’s Day. Look for cute craft inspo at girlslife.com/iti. for three to four minutes, then drizzle with icing.
Set up a Slip ‘N Slide. Who said you have to stay inside all Go “camping.” Cozy up inside a blanket-fort-turned-tent
day? Roll out the Slip ‘N Slide in the backyard, pop on a in the living room while you listen to the rain. When it gets
swimsuit and see who can slide the farthest. dark, take turns telling spooky ghost stories. Scariest one
Go on an indoor scavenger hunt..Grab your gals and hit the gets an extra s’more!
mall for an adventurous afternoon. Split into two teams and Cue up the karaoke. Put that wireless mic you got for
make a list of things you have to find or complete, like a pho- Christmas to good use with a family lip-sync battle. Hear-
to of you in a version of Cheryl Blossom’s iconic lewk (think: ing (or watching) your dad belt out “Shallow” will be *so*
red, black and fierce all over). First team finished wins! totally worth it.
Throw a cocoa party. (It’s the new tea party, duh.) Cute cups Bust out the board games. Challenge your fam to a good
+ fun toppings + whipped cream = a super sweet soirée. old-fashioned game night. Choose from classics like
Don’t forget the marshmallows and fresh-baked sugar cook- Monopoly or Scrabble, or scope out something you’ve never
ies for the perfect pairing. played to become a new fave (Apples to Apples anyone?).


DATE DAY SOLO SCHED


Compete in a cook-off. Find out who will be crowned queen Soak up some suds. Bath bomb? Check. Cucumber-infused
(or king) of the kitchen by participating in a little friendly water? Check. Snuggly robe and slippers? Check. All that’s
competition. Pick a recipe to try or stage a Chopped-style left is 30 minutes of uninterrupted “you” time for some
challenge by whipping up original dishes with rando ingre- serious spa vibes—see our best tub time tips on page 46.
dients. And the judges? Your parents and sibs, ofc. Revamp your room. Channel your inner Marie Kondo and
Throw your own film festival. Slip into sweats, then pick a clear out any clutter for a spruced-up space. As the organi-
movies-and-munchies theme (we heart sipping homemade zational guru says, if it doesn’t “spark joy,” get rid of it. We
butterbeer while binge-watching Harry Potter). A movie mar- see a color-coordinated closet in your future!
athon is the perfect excuse to snuggle up to your sweetie.
Go to YouTube school. Whether it’s finally nailing that
Jump around. Burn off excess energy together with a trip smoky eye or learning how to speak French, take advan-
to the nearest indoor trampoline park. Not only will you tage of an open afternoon by taking notes on YouTube
feel like a kid again, you’ll get a workout in, too. Win-win. tutorials (find some of our faves at girlslife.com/iti).
Play with pups. The only thing cuter than your crush? A Sneak in a sweat sesh. Barre, boxing, cardio dance…no
four-legged friend. Ask the local animal shelter if they need matter what your fave workout is, there’s a way to hack it
any volunteers to cuddle with kittens or puppies. You’ll be at home. Search Instagram for inspo or lace up your sneaks
bonding with your boyf *and* giving back at the same time. for a pavement-pounding run in the rain.



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SECRET GARDEN THE GLOSS BOSS FASHION AND BEAUTY

SHOPPING GUIDE
Continued from page 18 Continued from page 37 Credits for pages 10-23 and 30-35.
straddling two style worlds. “One thing Today, Zandra donates up to 10 percent of All other credits on the page.
about this profession is that you get a lot her profits to support girls education, serves A New Day • Target, target.com
of clothes for free, so my closet is a weird as a United Nations Foundation ambassador
space. On one end there’s tons of my old, and travels around the country to speak Apt. 9 • Kohl’s, kohls.com
raggedy stuff,” says Sophia, who lives for about equality and opportunity for young Basic by Priv • styleforthepriv.com
dark jeans, big sweaters and stripes. “And women. She also recently launched “Science Candie’s • Kohl’s, kohls.com
on the other, there’s just that one Prada Behind It,” an initiative for middle and high Claire’s • Claire’s, claires.com
dress from the It premiere that I haven’t school students that uses beauty product Experimental Jewellery Club • experimentaljewelleryclub.com
worn again since.” formulations to explore aspects of STEAM FashionPass • thefashionpass.com
(science, technology, engineering, art and
True to her closet’s offerings, she math). The program also offers a business Free People • lulus.com
keeps her style pretty low-key on the day component, where Zandra teaches the basics
to day. Case in point: She arrived on set of a biz plan and how to pitch a product. Hat Attack • hatattack.com
in a pair of black Dr. Martens. They’re “Running my business has provided me Haute Rogue • hauterogue.com
classic and bold all at once—just like the with so many opportunities—and it’s impor- Honey Punch • lulus.com
sleuth she plays on-screen. tant to share those experiences with other Jordache • lulus.com
“Nancy is such a strong girl,” Sophia says girls,” Zandra explains. Each year, she hosts an JouJou • select Meijer, macys.com
of the book-based character. “When she event for International Day of the Girl in her Kipling • kipling-usa.com
first came about in the 1930s, she was so hometown of Buffalo, N.Y., that’s dedicated to LC Lauren Conrad • Kohl’s, kohls.com
different from the females who were being exposing young women to entrepreneurship,
written at the time. She’s just so independ- technology, science, the arts and wellness. “I Levi’s • lulus.com
ent and intelligent, which I really admire.” want them to see all that life has to offer so Lulus • lulus.com
Nancy’s ingenious attitude very much they can make good choices for their futures Matisse• lulus.com
mirrors Sophia’s IRL fashion sensibility. and become anything their hearts desire.” Mudd • Kohl’s, kohls.com
“I have this really oversized plaid blazer Others Follow • othersfollowclothing.com
with shoulder pads, and I’m obsessed EXTENDING HER EMPIRE Rainbow Shops • rainbowshops.com
with it. When I got it, I wore it with these This year, Zandra’s company is estimated to Skechers • select Skechers retail
white pajama pants that have vertical earn a million dollars in pure profit—and it’s So • Kohl’s, kohls.com
blue stripes. Everyone stared at me, but only the beginning for this beauty boss.
On her 18th birthday, she launched a
I didn’t really care. I loved it.” new line called Zandra XVIII (that’s “18” in Sole Society • lulus.com
The trend Sophia’s still not so sure Roman numerals), her more elevated collec- The Bee & The Fox • thebeeandthefox.com
about? Fanny packs. “It’s not that I don’t tion of skincare essentials with a chicer feel T.J.Maxx • T.J.Maxx, tjmaxx.com
like them, I do! I just don’t understand (like glass bottles, rose gold accents and Unionbay • unionbay.com
why people wear fanny packs as bags and sleek, singular words of inspiration) that’s Vans • vans.com
not as a fanny pack. It’s like, they know aimed at girls growing out of their teen Wild Fable • Target, target.com
what a fanny pack is, but they’re too years. “I want the company to reflect who
afraid or embarrassed to wear it the right I’m becoming,” Zandra says. Worthington • JCPenney, jcpenney.com
way,” she explains. “I have multiple fanny Also on the horizon is an expansion into Xabi Jeans • xabijeansla.com
packs and I wear them around my waist— hair care (inspired by requests from her PHOTOS FROM PAGES 6-9: Haley Lu Richardson: Jay L. Clen-
because that’s where they’re supposed to customers) and an apparel and accessories denin/Los Angeles Times/Contour by Getty Images. Jack
be! It’s not a tiny purse you hold!” collaboration with her older sister, Mercedes Dylan Grazer: Maarten de Boer. Asher Angel: Michael Becker.
Soon, thanks to Nancy Drew and the Cunningham, 25, dropping this summer. Lennon Stella: Eliot Lee Hazel. Pretty Little Liars: The Perfec-
tionists: Freeform/Kurt Iswarienko. Marvel’s Cloak & Dagger:
Hidden Staircase, you’ll see Sophia sport- Zandra’s advice for other entrepreneurs? Freeform/Alfonso Bresciani. Chilling Adventures of Sabrina:
ing another unconventional accessory: After witnessing the skincare industry Diyah Pera. Austin Brown: Bubba Sellars.
a longboard. The actress learned to ride— change so drastically since the launch of her
and dance on—a longboard especially for own business (clean, natural products were
the flick just days before filming started. the exception back then—now they’re the Girls’ Life (ISSN 1078-3326, Vol. 25, Issue 5) is published
bimonthly by Girls’ Life Acquisition Corp.,
She pulled it off without a hitch, ofc, new standard), she suggests thoroughly 4529 Harford Road, Baltimore, MD 21214 (410-426-9600).
researching your product’s space to see
which she does with most things—includ- where things are going in the next five years. Basic subscription price is $19.95 (USF). Periodical postage
paid at: Baltimore, MD, and additional mailing offices.
ing her fashion choices. “When the market inevitably changes, you All submissions become property of Girls’ Life magazine
“People say my style is very inter- want to be ahead of that curve,” she says. and Girls’ Life Acquisition Corp. Reprints of Bill & Dave
and And How Was Your Day? are available by sending
esting,” Sophia muses. “I try to pull off “Younger entrepreneurs have the flexibility $1 to the address above. Bill & Dave and And How Was
things that most people would normally to take risks. Use that to your advantage.” Your Day? are trademarks of Girls’ Life Acquisition Corp.
never, ever think to put together. But Most importantly? Be proud of yourself for Entire contents ©2019 Girls’ Life. All rights reserved.
POSTMASTER: Send address changes to Girls’ Life,
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The
STEPMOM OR ADORED GList 6. Get mom + daugh-



YOUR #1 FAN. BEST
FRIEND. ROLE MODEL.
ter manis. Coordinate
CALL HER WHAT YOU
colors to be tip twins
WANT, YOUR MOM,
splurge, pair your polish
AUNTIE IS A V. SPECIAL and, if you’re able to
with a pretty pedi, too.
PERSON IN YOUR LIFE. BY AMANDA TARLTON
HERE ARE 10 WAYS TO 7. Put pen to paper.
REMIND HER OF THAT
THIS MOTHER’S DAY… Find a cute card—or
DIY your own—then
write a message to
1. LET HER SLEEP IN. You your mama inside.
don’t have to ask if she’ll
pick you up from regionals
on Saturday rightthissec- GIVE HER ALONE
ond, promise. And when 8. TIME. Your mom
she’s finally done dozing... loves you, duh, but
sometimes she just
really wants some
peace and quiet. Offer
to babysit your little sis
for the afternoon so she
can snag some R&R.

9. Teach her
BRING HER BRUNCH something—then
2. IN BED. Avocado Do all your
toast + fresh-squeezed SHOWER HER let her teach you.
orange juice = one very 4. WITH COMPLI- chores...and Show Mom how
happy mama. (Bro, you’re MENTS. Fill a jar with 5. all of hers. to use Insta Stories
on dish duty.) all the reasons you Whether it’s wash- (finally!) in exchange
love Mom written on ing her car, cleaning
tiny strips of colorful for learning how to
The Republic of Tea cardstock. She can the bathrooms make Grandma’s
“Queen Bee” tea, $15, or taking out the
papersource.com. pull one out when- secret spaghetti
Mug, $10, Anthropologie. recycling, make sure
ever she needs some sauce.
cheering up. Mom doesn’t have
to lift a finger.
10.


3. Plan the perfect party.
Tea for two, plz. Cue
4: ANAMARIATEGZES/GETTY IMAGES. bunches of blooms and
all the pretty pastels,

queen-worthy cuppas
(peep our spring sip inspo
at girlslife.com/iti).
Say “I love you” and give her
a big hug. Simple as that.

GET SMARTER



Continued from page 79 wear glasses, look into picking up a pair 8. MOVE YOUR MUSCLES
Our favorite sleep hack? Rock those with blue light blocking lenses, like the ones That sweat sesh won’t just make you feel
cozy socks. Seriously, though: The from Felix Gray (shopfelixgray.com). fab—it can make you more intelligent,
National Sleep Foundation says that too. A first-of-its-kind study released in
wearing socks at night can help you fall 7. GET DIFFUSING January by Columbia University professor
asleep faster. Weirdly, warm tootsies Essential oil aromatherapy can be, uh, of neuropsychology Dr. Yaakov Stern
signal to the brain that it’s bedtime. essential to your mental health. How? shows that daily exercise helps with
A whiff of these super-powered scents critical thinking, decision-making and
6. BLOCK BLUE LIGHT can affect your brain chemistry and lead memory retention.
If you often lie awake at night wondering to improved clarity, says holistic health Personal trainer Olyvia DuSold says
why you can’t fall asleep, blue light may coach Jessica Rosen. the key to brain-boosting benefits is
be to blame. That’s the high-energy wave- Dab a couple drops on a handker- switching things up: Rather than sticking
length emitted by screens and electronic chief or use a diffuser in your room (we to the same fitness routine, try new work-
devices (and also the sun), and it’s known like Ellia Dream Ultrasonic Essential Oil outs and activities that challenge your
to keep your brain alert at night by block- Diffuser, $30, ellia.com). Try eucalyptus, brain to form new connections. Sports
ing melatonin, the hormone that makes peppermint or cinnamon for an amazing like rock climbing and classes like yoga
you sleepy. Turn down the bright stuff energy kick. require you to constantly think through
in your bedroom by powering down your Need a major mood-boost? Go for new problems and poses. More of a
phone and computer every evening, or orange, bergamot, grapefruit or lemon. runner? Try hitting the trail to create new
leaving them in another room altogether. Big test tomorrow? Look to rosemary and movement patterns as you go from point
And during the day? Install a blue light patchouli to work their magic on your A to point B. The bottom line: Try a new
blocking app like f.lux. And even if you don’t memory and increase focus. thing…your brain will thank you for it.

FOOD FOR THOUGHT



NOSH YOUR WAY TO A SHARPER NOGGIN






IF YOU NEED TO: IF YOU NEED TO: IF YOU NEED TO: IF YOU NEED TO:
MEMORIZE FRENCH GET A GOOD PLOW THROUGH RECALL YOUR
CONJUGATIONS NIGHT’S SLEEP YOUR CALC MONOLOGUE FOR
EAT Spinach BEFORE THE PSAT HOMEWORK THE SPRING PLAY
Packed with folate, EAT Pumpkin EAT Avocado AUDITIONS
which helps funnel seeds Packing a hefty dose EAT Eggs
blood to the brain, These magnesium- of brain-friendly Choline and cholesterol,
spinach has been rich snacks naturally compounds, avocados both found in eggs,
shown to boost maximize melatonin can help you process play a key role in your
cognitive function for a deep and information faster. brain’s memory and
and memory. restorative snooze. information retention.




IF YOU NEED TO: IF YOU NEED TO:
ACE THE CLASS DEBATE FIND FOCUS IN A LATE-
EAT Salmon NIGHT STUDY SESH
Rich in omega-3 fatty acids (the IF YOU NEED TO: EAT Dark chocolate
brain’s building blocks), this pink fish DELIVER YOUR SGA SPEECH Theobromine, an antioxidant
is the ultimate brain food. Aim for two EAT Berries found in cocoa, improves
servings of wild-caught salmon weekly Blackberries, blueberries, blood flow to the brain (similar
to help balance your mood and think raspberries, strawberries and goji to caffeine, but sans jitters).
more clearly. Not into seafood din- berries are incredibly high in anti- Look for chocolate that’s at
ners? Consider a fish oil supplement oxidants, which help keep your least 70% cocoa. Try Hu Hazel-
such as Nordic Naturals Ultimate mind sharp and are a healthy nut Butter Dark Chocolate (4
Omega 2X Teen ($30, amazon.com). source of glucose (aka brain fuel). for $25, hukitchen.com).





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A case of karma





ARIES When it comes to your fate SAGITTARIUS
The weather isn’t this month, we’ve got you, uh, covered Green juice? Check.
the only thing New sneaks? Check.
heating up right with these cosmic cases. Happier, healthier
meow, Aries. With you? Check and
more than one BY AMANDA TARLTON check. When it
sweetie sending comes to bettering
you major heart your bod (and your
eyes, you’ll have mind), you’re on
your pick of the crush pack—so a roll, sporty Sag. All that hustle
take your time and don’t settle. totally deserves a girls night with
After all, you deserve a partner- your besties. Sushi optional.
in-crime as adventurous and Casery, $32, thecasery.com
awesome as you are. Casely, $24,
getcasely.com CAPRICORN
TAURUS You’re seriously
sparkling this
Self*care*over* spring, Cap—and
everything. Whether others are taking
it’s treating yourself notice, includ-
to a mani or simply ing your crush.
rolling out your Embrace your new-
yoga mat every found confidence
morning, focus on by starting a convo with that
what makes you cutie in homeroom or leaving a
happy this month, Taurus. You’ll fire emoji on their latest Insta pic.
need your energy for the super Skinnydip, $25, us.skinnydiplondon.com
busy summer headed your way.
Iphoria, $60, shopbop.com AQUARIUS
GEMINI Visions of beaches
and bikinis have you
You, blend in? Uh, more than ready for
never! You were warmer weather.
born to stand out Good news: It’s
and shine, Gem, so LEO never too early to
step into the spot- You’ve got the greatest girl gang, LIBRA start planning your
light (er, the selfie *fur* real. Your gal pals have Home is where the heart is, Libra, summer vacay.
light) by audition- always stood by you—and now it’s so pretty up your pad this month by Make a bucket list for you and
ing for the dance time for you to return the favor. rearranging your furniture, adding your gal pals, apply for a part-
solo or volunteering to organize Be there when your bestie needs cute DIY decor or decluttering your time gig at the ice cream shop or
the spring formal. No matter a sympathetic ear to vent to or a closet (does it spark joy?). Time to post a #tbt poolside pic on your
what you do, you’ll not only rock personal cheerleader before her turn that pretty Pinterest board into Insta. Let the countdown begin!
it, but look #flawless doing so. final exams. BFFS 4EVR! Forever 21, a rad reality. Kate Spade New York, Forever 21, $7, forever21.com
LuMee, $70, lumee.com $7, forever21.com $60, katespade.com PISCES
CANCER VIRGO SCORPIO You’ve got your
Slow and steady Blame it on watch- Self-proclaimed head in the clouds,
wins the race, ing To All The Boys boss babes unite! Pisces—in the best
Cancer, especially I’ve Loved Before Between being a way possible. You
when it comes to one too many star student and have big dreams,
love. Instead of times, but you’ve taking on lead- like starting a
rushing to change got your eyes set ership roles in homemade candle
your status, start on your own Peter. your extracurrics, biz or applying for
as friends first. This spring, don’t it can feel like that amazing internship at the
Whether it’s the cutie from youth be afraid to pull you’re forever arts center. Taking those first steps
group or even your BGF, be a Lara Jean and ask him out IRL. busy (le sigh). Make sure to take may feel overwhelming, but as
patient—and a spring fling might Even a simple “Want to get fro-yo a break from time to time, too, long as you focus on one small step
just bloom into a full-fledged LTR. after school on Friday?” will do. to snag some much-needed R&R. at a time, you’ll be golden. Velvet
Rifle Paper Co., $34, riflepaperco.com Rebecca Minkoff, $35, rebeccaminkoff.com Ban.do, $20, bando.com Caviar, $34, velvetcaviar.com

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ODE TO AWKW ARD


That awkward
(lunch) moment



My BFF and I were at when…
a street festival when
we spotted our fave
ride: the Ferris wheel.
When we got to the
top, we saw a big
group of our friends
and waved and yelled
at them in order to
get their attention. As
we started to go back
down to the bottom,
a huge gust of wind
blew up the front of ...you’re so focused
my dress and every on your crush you
single one of them don’t notice you’ve
saw my underwear. dropped hummus
—Melanie L. down your shirt.
—Everly C.

...you see a bunch of
I was accepted into the district honors classmates you don’t
band and was chosen to narrate part of a normally eat with sitting
song! In order to get to the microphone at your lunch table—then
to say my lines, I had to walk through the realize you showed up to
pitch-dark backstage and come around to the wrong lunch period.
the front. As I was returning to my chair
after reciting my part, I ran right into a —Mary F.
rogue mic stand that was in my path. I fell
over and a ton of equipment came crash- ...your bestie cracks a
ing down with me. It made so much noise Jenna Raine’s joke just as you take a
debut EP, Nen, is
the band stopped playing. I felt horrible available now. drink of water and you
for ruining the concert. —Corinna C. have no choice but to spit TOP LEFT: CSONDY. TOP RIGHT: STEVE DEBENPORT. BOTH BY GETTY IMAGES. RAINE: AUGUST REINHARDT.
it out everywhere.
For my 13th birthday, my parents let me —Victoria S.
have a boy-girl pool party and my crush
came! We were playing around in the Famous #F AILS ...you get really excited
pool and—in an attempt at flirting—I hit about pizza day in the
him in the face with a pool noodle. He
got a bloody nose and didn’t talk to me “Back when I played softball, my team caf—but then drop your
for a week. —Sailor S. made it to the championships. On tray in front of everyone
tournament day, we played game after before you can even take
I bought an adorable pair of leggings and game—and I always batted first. During a bite. —Lara V.
decided to wear them the next day for our last game, just as I was going up to
a presentation I had to give. Everything bat, I realized I *really* needed to go to ...you accidentally flick
went off without a hitch—until the Q&A the bathroom, but there was no time. peas at your crush while
session when one of my classmates asked The good news: We won the game! The trying to scoop them up.
me, “Why do you have a huge tag on your bad news: I definitely peed my pants in Oops! —Cali M.
butt?” Apparently, I’d left the size sticker front of the whole team right after.”
on. *Not* cute! —Ashley B.

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CONTEST: DRAW YOUR DREAM UMBRELLA!
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Then, submit it for a chance to win a wondrous
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May 31 to see the winning design.


veryone’s afraid of something. Example? Archie Plumby—
the star of the whimsical new novel Archie of Outlandish—isn’t keen
on looking up into open spaces. The not-so-common phobia makes
life for the 20-year-old writer a tad treacherous. Enter: his trusty
umbrellas. Striped or spotted, large or small, Archie’s convenient
canopy goes wherever he goes…to the beach, to work and—just
maybe—on a date with the cute new girl in town. But the question
is…can a boy who’s lived his entire life under cover look up long
enough to find love?













Visit girlslife.com/archie for printable umbrella templates and additional entry options via social media and more.
Or, simply submit your design by email (send a photo to [email protected]) or by snail
mail (Girls’ Life, Attn: Archie Plumby, 3 South Frederick St. #806, Baltimore, MD 21202).

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