PositiveTribe Magazine - November 2018

Positive Tribe Magazine

Contributors

Duane Cummings
Alan Cohen
Marc Allen
Candi Parker
Teresa Velardi
Janie Lidey
Debby Montgomery Johnson
Rev. Diana Kennedy
Debi Payne
Kathleen O’Keefe-Kanavos
Laura Frontiero
P. J.
Kathryn Hathaway
Laura Reeves
Karen Mayfield
Judee Light
Tasha Chen
Bryan Ward

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November 2018

From The Publisher

Welcome!

We are so happy and grateful that you are here!

We each have so much to be thankful for. Even if we are being
challenged by physical ailments, financial worries, relationship stresses,
or workplace drama; we each have so much that makes us blessed.
Thanksgiving and this season is such a great time to focus on what we
have, instead of what we don't have. What we have is abundant! Inside
and out.
It really is all in how we look at it. The key is to recognize what it feels
like to be positive and then to do your best, as much as you can, to be a
vibrational match to that feeling. As you are feeling it, then it has to be
your experience.
May your days unfold in the most positive and magical ways.

In Joy! Candi Parker

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Staying Positive Living in
in a Gratitude

Negative World Janie Lidey

Welcome to
Positive Tribe

Candi Parker

Little Known Benefits
for Aging Veterans

Kathryn Hathaway

Thank You Be Grateful for
for Everything Your Body

Judee Light Laura Frontiero

Horses Helping To a Friend Who
Veterans Heal is Struggling

Teresa Velardi Marc Allen

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What’s Inside - continued

An Attitude of Grateful for Being
Gratitude Goes the Passenger
a Long Way
Debby Montgomery
Rev. Diana Kennedy Johnson

How Gratitude So You Want to
Brings You be a Billionaire
More Money
Duane Cummings
Tasha Chen

Dream Queen What are the
Chances?
Kathleen O’Keefe
Kanavos Alan Cohen

Beyond Coping Everyone Matters!

Laura Reeves P.J.

By Janie Lidey Living in Gratitude

Gratitude can transform common days into
thanksgiving, turn routine jobs

into joy, and change ordinary opportunities into
blessings.

William Arthur Ward

Janie Lidey is a professional Do you know the power that gratitude holds in its
speaker, Emmy award- ability to bring your dreams to life? Have you ever
winning songwriter, started your day by saying thank you, whether to
Grammy award-winning God, the Universe, or whomever you feel like
music educator and being grateful to, and then seen more blessings
Amazon #1 best-selling and miracles than usual show up for you? Do you
author. In December of have a system for living in gratitude? Do you have
a system for helping raise gratitude in others? Do
2017, Janie was diagnosed you spend time on a daily basis meditating,
with stage 4 metastatic journaling, or praying?

breast cancer. When her Speaking words of gratitude before you even let
doctors told her that this your feet hit the floor in the morning will change
was incurable, she simply the outcome of your day. I have developed the
told them that didn’t work habit of setting my alarm for ten minutes earlier
for her. On April 27, 2018, than I actually need to get up, hitting the snooze
just 5 short months after button, and then lying in bed thinking about all the
being diagnosed, Janie is things I have to be grateful for. Whether I am glad
about something as simple as the fact that it is a
cancer free. sunny day or I am thankful for something as
critical as having a medical test come back with
Janie and her husband good results, starting my day in gratitude helps lift
Sean currently live with their me up and out of bed in the morning with a
brighter disposition.
son Tristan in the log home
they built on a hillside in Once I hop up for the day, I open my journal and
Alaska. They share their write three things I am grateful for. I like to follow
yard with an occasional that with three things I am going to be grateful for
in the future (intentions) and then try to feel the
moose, black bear, brown gratitude flowing through me as if those things
bear, and lynx but their
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favorite 4-legged friend is
their yellow lab Beaver.

www.janielidey.com
.

Living in Gratitude Continued

have already happened. This tends to raise my vibration yet a little higher.

Gratitude Journal Sample

I write a G for “Gratitude” at the top of my page, and then I write three things that I
am grateful for. Here is what that might look like:

G
Today I am so thankful that I have time to allow great ideas to flow through me

for my new book.
Today I am super excited and grateful for the invitation to speak and sing at the

Radiating Hope Fundraiser in San Antonio, Texas.
Today I am so grateful for the beautiful, sunny day we are going to have.

Then I write a D for “Dreams,” and I write three dreams I would like to see happen in
my future. I write them as though they have already happened and I am feeling the
gratitude I would feel in that moment.

D
Today I am really thankful that my books and music are creating hope and

healing for millions of people around the world.
Today I am grateful that money is flowing freely into my life so that I can do all

the projects I am excited about doing to create positive change in the world.
Today I am so grateful that my cells are completely healthy, and I continue to be

cancer free.

I am blown away at the events that occur in my life when I am diligent about my
morning gratitude pages. It is amazing how new songs seem to just freely stream
through me, money shows up seemingly out of the blue, I get invited to speak and
sing at big events around the country. . . As Glenn Morshower said in the Foreword
for my Leap of Faith book, “We are shown time and time again that it is done unto us
according to our faith. Does this mean that we get every little thing we wish for?
Absolutely not! We are simply implementing the law of thought equals outcome.
What we focus on increases exponentially.”

At times our own light goes out and is rekindled by a spark from another person.
Each of us has cause to think with deep gratitude of those
who have lighted the flame within us.
Albert Schweitzer

Lately, in my desire to quench my thirst for knowledge and understand gratitude on a
deeper level, I am finding a lot of material that supports how being grateful on a daily

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basis helps bring the things we want most in life closer to us. What I would love to
see more of is a message that supports how showing gratitude for others will also
bless us more in our own lives, and will raise the vibration of the people around us.
The deeper I go on my journey with gratitude, the more I start to wonder about its
power. What would happen if each of us were to commit to writing one note of
gratitude to someone each day, no matter what? It only takes a moment to write a
little note of thanks, and it can be hand-delivered, mailed, or sent through one of the
numerous social media outlets. What if people started acting more kindly because
they received your note, and it raised them up a notch in their own walk with
gratitude? You can write a note to a family member, a friend, a coworker, a store
clerk, a teacher . . . the list is endless.

Using the habits from my Leap of Faith book, what if we acted as if it were a global
daily requirement for every capable human being to write a note of thanks to
someone else before the day’s end? And what if we were to begin it now and then
watch as a myriad of gratitude started showing up in the world? And what if we were
to dream big and assume that in doing these daily notes of gratitude, we were
changing the vibration of love, peace, and happiness on our planet? And what if we
threw our just imagine habit into the equation and required everyone to spend time
each day thinking about a planet filled with grateful people?

When I applied for my job at East Anchorage High School in 1993, one of the
questions the principal asked me was, “What is your philosophy on discipline?” He
said he had heard that even my very large choir classes at the middle school where I
taught didn’t seem to have the typical discipline problems that tend to occur,
especially with young teenagers. I, of course, answered with the more formal
discipline policy I had in place, but then I told him the truth about why I really felt like
kids were well behaved and respectful in my classes.

I had made a commitment to write a note of gratitude to at least one student a day.
Even on super busy days, I would carve out a moment in my morning to jot a quick
note to a kid and then hand it to them at some point during the class period. The
note might say, “Just a little note to tell you how much I love having you in my class.
Thanks for always showing up. Have a great day! Love Mrs. Lidey.” Apparently,
those kids that received a note started sharing its content with their classmates,
because pretty soon it was evident that other kids were waiting for the day that they
would get their note. Because they really wanted their own special note from Mrs.
Lidey, they started showing up with enthusiasm-plus and shining their best light. And
because I saw the positive effect it was having on so many kids, it made me feel so
much more gratitude in my own day. I have run into so many students over the years
that have told me they pinned my note of thanks on their wall and that it stayed there

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all the way through high school. Some still have that note tucked away in their wallet,
purse, or drawer.

I have this theory that if one person can go out of their way to show compassion,
then it will start a chain reaction of the same.
Rachel Joy Scott

I am so grateful for this opportunity to wish you all big Blessings & Miracles in your
day. I challenge each of you to lift someone up today by sharing a note of gratitude
with him or her. Please remember to share a word of thanks to anyone in your world
who is a veteran and HAPPY THANKSGIVING!

Daily Habit Action Steps

• Set your alarm for ten minutes earlier than you need to get up and just rest in
gratitude for those ten minutes.

• Buy yourself a new journal and spend ten minutes in the morning writing the three
things you’re grateful for, followed by your three dreams, and then feel those
dreams as though they have already come true.

• Choose at least one person each day to say thank you to.
• Choose at least one person each day to write a note of thanks to and either hand-

deliver it, mail it, or use social media to get it to them.

CANCER UNPLUGGED #8 - SHARING MY GRATITUDE

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Three Simple
Secrets of
Success

Marc Allen

Where Healing Lives

Alan Cohen

Little Known Benefits for Aging Veterans

Generations of Americans have answered the
call to serve our country. Our servicemen and
women have served our country in every corner
of the globe to create a safer world for our
citizens and our families. We thank them on
Veterans Day and every day for their service to
our country.

Kathryn A. Hathaway is a Today, for many of these Veterans the battle
VA accredited attorney continues. Now the adversary is rising healthcare
and the managing costs that meet and exceed the retirement
income and savings they once thought would be
shareholder of Hathaway more than adequate.
Sprague Law, P.A. based
The Good News: Congress has set aside funds
in Tallahassee, Florida. to continue thanking Veterans for their service in
With more than 30 years their old age. Veterans with limited income who
are over 65 or younger if totally disabled due to
of legal experience, nonservice connected disabilities may qualify for
including estate planning, a Veterans Pension.
probate, asset protection,
and consumer bankruptcy, The Bad News: The VA does not publicize these
she is 100% committed to benefits. The information is available on the VA
website, but you have to know to look for it! Most
helping individuals live Veterans and their families who need funds to
lives of financial pay for their care do not even know that these
pensions exist.
abundance, protecting
their assets and families, Three kinds of benefits are available:
recovering from financial
Service Pension. The VA provides a
setback and rebuilding monthly cash payment to wartime Veterans
their financial lives after or their spouse/surviving spouse who meet
challenges. Visit the firm active duty and discharge requirements,
at www.HathawayLaw.net. who are either 65 or older or disabled, and
As part of her personal who have limited income and assets.

mission, Kathryn has
created Being the

Phoenix®, an organization
dedicated to helping

people rise from the ashes
of financial ruin.
Come see us at

www.BeThePhoenix.Net.

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Pension with Housebound Allowance. A slightly higher monthly
payment is available to wartime Veterans (who meet the same service
requirements as Service Pension) but who are confined to their home for
medical reasons.

Pension with Aid and Attendance. The highest monthly benefit is
available when a wartime Veteran or surviving spouse requires the
assistance of another person to perform activities of daily living, is blind
or nearly so, or is a patient in an assisted living facility or nursing home.
This benefit, often referred to simply as "Aid and Attendance" is the most
widely known and talked-about benefit as it offers the highest possible
income.

Eligible Veterans may qualify if they:

• Are over the age of 65 and/or unemployable due to disability
• Served at least 90 straight days, at least 1 of which during active

conflict. Veterans serving post 1980 have a longer service requirement.
• Received honorable, medical or general discharge
• (and for the Aid and Attendance Benefit) are now disabled with medical

diagnosis that he/she requires assistance with 2 or more ADLs
(activities of daily living such as eating, bathing, getting dressed,
toileting, transferring and continence)

Not only may the Veteran be eligible, but the Veteran’s spouse or surviving
spouse may also be eligible.

Even better news:

• Benefit is tax-free
• Paid directly to the Veteran or Qualified Spouse
• Helps defray rising healthcare costs
• Never has to be paid back
• Law provides exemptions to help Veterans to qualify

How much is the Aid and Attendance benefit worth, you ask? Enough to make
a big difference in affording the care the Veterans need and deserve.

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2 Veterans (married) $2846/month $34,153 annually
1 Married Veteran $2127/month $25,525 annually
Single Veteran $1784/month $21,531 annually
Surviving Spouse of $1153/month $13,836 annually
Veteran
$1408/month $16,902 annually
Healthy Veteran (spouse
needs care)

In order to qualify, the VA has many complicated financial requirements relating to
both income and assets. More information is available at
https://www.benefits.va.gov/pension/. Many nonprofit organizations are available
to assist Veterans and their families in completing the application process.

Having heard about these financial requirements, many Veterans and their
families mistakenly believe that they have too much to qualify for the benefits, so
they don’t even apply. What they need to know is that through the use of available
exemptions and proper planning (provided for in the law) most Veterans can
qualify for benefits without having to completely spend down all their savings
before applying.

A VA accredited attorney can advise Veterans and their families whether through
the use of estate planning including creation of something called Veterans Trusts
a Veteran could become eligible. Creating Veterans Trusts is difficult and should
only be undertaken by a VA accredited attorneys. Find an accredited attorney in
your area by going to https://www.va.gov/ogc/apps/accreditation/index.asp.

Effective October 18, 2018, there is now a 3-year look back period for transfers
into these trusts, much like the current Medicaid 5-year look-back period. It is
urgent that Veterans and their families plan ahead if it appears that mounting
health costs will soon exceed the Veteran’s income in order to avoid spending all
the family’s assets on healthcare. Act now to assist your beloved Veteran in
obtaining the benefits of our country’s gratitude.

We all thank you for your service, dear Veterans.

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Horses Helping Veterans Heal

By Teresa Velardi Besides “Mr. Ed,” a show about a talking horse that
aired during the sixties, many of us might think
Teresa Velardi horses are just for riding and “trimming the grass”
in the pastures they occupy. Not so! Do you know
Teresa Velardi is an horses are actually used therapeutically to help
Author, Editor, Speaker, heal trauma? There are several organizations in
the area where I live that are using horses to treat
Potter and an heal people of emotional trauma. For this article
Transformational Life and to honor and give gratitude to those brave
Coach. She helps to bring enough to go to war and protect our freedoms, I
out the greatness within want to focus on our Veterans.
you as you discover that
you already have the Equines for Freedom, a 501c(3)corporation, is
ability to shift every aspect located in Northeastern Pennsylvania and is
of your life into high gear! supporting Veterans in breaking free from the
Uncover the Dynamic symptoms of Post-Traumatic Stress Disorder
person within and wake up (PTSD)using horses to bring healing. Through a
to your most powerful, somewhat unconventional, yet one of the most
highly effective treatments available; Eye
prosperous and Movement Desensitization and Reprocessing,
passionate life. (EMDR) Equines for Freedom offers clients a
Learn more about Teresa nontraditional approach to therapy. This therapy
at www.teresavelardi.com combines a licensed mental health professional, a
certified equine specialist, and a therapy horse to
email her at create a research-based treatment model which
[email protected] strives to resolve emotional difficulties caused by
disturbing, difficult, or frightening life experiences.

In 2015, Ann Marie Lewis, a licensed psychologist
of twenty-five years, who knows that this is her life
calling, co-founded Equines for Freedom with
Heather Stage, an equine therapist. Together, each
with their own skillset and passion for the work
they do, they formed this life-giving, trauma healing
not-for-profit organization.

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Their mission at Equines for Freedom:

To provide equine-assisted PTSD treatment to current and former U.S.
service members, regardless of the source of trauma or their

characterization of service, at no charge to the service member.

Ms. Lewis says, “The horses are an integral part of
treatment. They are not for riding. As prey animals,
they are highly alert and can sense anxiety. The
horses’ presence keeps the veteran grounded in the
present reality while they are working through and
reviewing past traumatic moments to reshape the
emotions tied to them.” She also states, “a thorough
examination of each individual history is completed to
identify all parts of the trauma.”

Each veteran chooses a nickname for his or her horse
to create neutrality, so the actual name of the horse
will not affect the treatment process. “This helps to
avoid coincidental associations with names that might
have an unpleasant meaning in a veteran’s past,”

Ms. Lewis said. “Our job with the EMDR is we want them to bond with the horse so
when we get into the processing of the trauma, the horse can actually nurture them
while they deal with the uglies of the past.”

Equines for Freedom has three therapist teams, and currently has the capacity to
work with up to 25 people. They have graduated eighteen veterans thus far.
What is EMDR?

According to the EMDR International Association, Eye Movement Desensitization
and Reprocessing (EMDR) therapy is an integrative psychotherapy approach that
has been extensively researched and proven effective for the treatment of
trauma. EMDR is a set of standardized protocols that incorporates elements from
many different treatment approaches. As EMDR is a mental health intervention, it
should only be offered by properly trained and licensed mental health clinicians.
EMDRIA does not condone or support indiscriminate uses of EMDR such as a "do-
it-yourself" virtual therapy.

At Equines for Freedom, the therapeutic team uses what is known as Equine
Assisted EMDR (EA-EMDR) which includes the horse being part of the

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continued

therapeutic process. Sarah Jenkins is the person who created the process of
EA-EMDR which was approved by EMDRIA. Sarah trained the founders and
the treatment team members of EFF. To learn more about Sarah and this
powerful modality, visit www.dragonflyinternationaltherapy.com

Does EMDR really work?

The EMDR International Association states:

Approximately 20 controlled studies have investigated the effects of
EMDR. These studies have consistently found that EMDR effectively
decreases/eliminates the symptoms of post-traumatic stress for the
majority of clients. Clients often report improvement in other associated
symptoms such as anxiety. The current treatment guidelines of the
American Psychiatric Association and the International Society for
Traumatic Stress Studies designate EMDR as an effective treatment for
post-traumatic stress. EMDR was also found effective by the U.S.
Department of Veterans Affairs and Department of Defense, the United
Kingdom Department of Health, the Israeli National Council for Mental
Health, and many other international health and governmental agencies.
Research has also shown that EMDR can be an efficient and rapid
treatment.

Working with ALL war veterans, starting with those who served
in Vietnam, Equines for Freedom (EFF) treats the veteran as a
whole person, not just a veteran victim of trauma. Any and all
occurrences that may have caused trauma in their lives become
part of the veterans’ experience of healing with the equines.
The horse keeps the vet in the present moment as they work
with the past to heal the trauma.

EFF has had great success with treating veterans from Vietnam, Iraq and
Afghanistan. A common theme among those in treatment is that they have
tried everything, and nothing before this has been effective. They often state
that this treatment model is the first thing that has really helped. The treatment
of these veterans has been extremely successful and therefore we are working
to expand to also treat First Responders through a separately funded program.

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continued

The founders of Equines for Freedom wish to acknowledge their Board of
Directors who have worked very hard to help make Equines For Freedom a
success. Ann Marie Lewis says, “It’s great to have a vision, but unless you
have the support of hardworking people who believe in your mission, the
vision remains just a vision. The Board works very hard speaking, fundraising
and promoting EFF in many ways. Equines for Freedom will celebrate its
three-year anniversary in November, and we are very grateful for the
continuous support.”
In the first three years of service to our military personnel, sixty-five veterans
have entered the treatment program at EFF.
To learn more about Equines for Freedom, visit www.equinesforfreedom.org or
call 570- 665-2483. Equines for Freedom is provided free to any veteran
suffering the symptoms of PTSD.
Funding is provided by donations from individuals, foundations, and
corporations. See our webpage to donate.
Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/EquinesForFreedom/
Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/equines_for_freedom/
Equines for Freedom is a 501c (3) corporation, and donations are tax
deductible.

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Thank You for Everything

By Judee Light Thank you for everything. A radical thought for some!
An unbelievable thought for some.

Thoughts and actions related to gratitude and
appreciation and thankfulness are in the air as
Thanksgiving is coming up.

It is the time of the year that I recall the story about a
Zen master named Sono who taught one simple
method of enlightenment. She advised all who came
to her to say one affirmation many times a day, under
all conditions: "Thank you for everything. I have no
complaint whatsoever.“

Judee Light is a Mindset People from all walks of life came to Sono for healing.
Coach, workshop facilitator, Some were in physical pain; others were emotionally
distraught; some had financial troubles; others were
writer, editor, and seeking soul liberation. No matter what their distress
speaker. She has been or what question they asked, her response was for
them to affirm: "Thank you for everything. I have no
speaking and doing complaint whatsoever."
workshops at Unity
Churches for over 26 Some people left disappointed; others got angry;
years. he loves connecting others tried to argue with her. And there were some
people with other people who did as she said. Tradition said that all who
and resources they are practiced Sono’s mantra experienced peace and
looking for. Judee chooses healing.
to look on the bright side of
life. And she is all about Thank you for everything. I have no complaint
facing her fears, following whatsoever. Imagine what your life would be like if
her spirit, and having fun in you stopped complaining about everything!
her life . . . and inspiring
others to do the same. You
can connect with her at
judee@FeelingUpliftedNow.
com and on Facebook.

Fall is a time of letting go, so let us let go of
complaining. And let each of our complaints fall away
like the leaves on a tree in Fall.

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Most of us have been trained to question, analyze, and criticize everything we
see. But then we end up questioning, analyzing, and criticizing ourselves. And we
miss out on happiness and fulfillment.

At Thanksgiving, many of us get together with our families. Maybe old family
issues may come up and we might be tempted to fall into old patterns. Wouldn’t it
be wonderful if, as we sat with our relatives, we held in mind: "Thank you for
everything. I have no complaint whatsoever." Imagine what this Thanksgiving
would be like if we decided that, no matter how much one family member
complains about another, how much family members bugs us about doing
something they think we should do, or criticizes our kids or our spouse, we would
choose to appreciate and find the good in our loved ones. Indeed, this would
quite a Thanksgiving to remember!

"Thank you for everything. I have no complaint whatsoever." What if we simply
practiced the mantra for an entire Thanksgiving day? And then maybe one day a
week. We might start to feel so good and our lives may become so fulfilling that
we will want to turn every day into a thanks-giving day. It could happen!
Many say that the highest form of prayer is gratitude. Instead of asking Source
for what you want, start thanking Source for what you want in advance, feeling as
if you already have it.

Thank you for everything. I have no complaint whatsoever.
When you feel gratitude or appreciation or give thanks, you are in harmony with
your natural state, which is Love. In that state, you are a vibrational match to
Source. Who woul©dKna’rtenbMeahyfaiepldpy and radiate joy©thKaerenn?M!ayfield
Gratitude and appreciation are simply expressions of love—yet being grateful
and appreciating are often easier for us to do than “loving” because of our
conditioning about love . . . like “love hurts”.

As you intend to appreciate, to be grateful, you are practicing allowing, rather
than resisting. The less resistance you have and the more you allow, the better
your overall health, well-being, prosperity, relationships, and life will be. Gratitude
puts you in an expanded state of allowing where the people, things, and
experiences you desire can flow into your experience. And you’ll find that the
better it gets, the better it gets.

Because the vibration of appreciation and gratitude is a powerful connection
between you and Source, appreciating puts you in a position to receive even
clearer intuitive guidance so that you know clearly what to do in every situation.

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Gratitude is a springboard to spiritual expansion.

You have been asking, and Source has been sending, though when the sending is
still in the invisible, you sometimes mistakenly think it is not coming. Appreciation
puts you in the practice of receiving—letting in your good.

Every time you appreciate something, every time you praise something, every time
you express gratitude for something, every time you feel good about something, you
are vibrationally communicating to Source: “More of this, please. Thank you!” You
need not even speak it out loud or write it down. Source knows your desires.
Appreciation puts you in the vibrational state of magnetic receptivity (you are a
magnet with open arms) and good things flow to you. Flow. To. You!

A Louise Hay affirmation had a profound effect on me when I first read it 25 years
ago, as I felt the truth of it. It was not a belief I was raised with . . . and that
affirmation is: I trust the process of life to bring me my highest good.

Bring me my highest good. I was raised to believe I needed to work hard and earn
whatever I wanted.

When we are in appreciation, good things flow to us and our highest good is brought
to us . . . like on a silver platter! Wow! That doesn’t mean we sit around all day
doing nothing. We do what feels good . . . and take the action we are inspired to
take.

It is becoming clearer and clearer to me that our job is to LOVE and that love is an
action word. Our j©obKairsentMoalyofievlde everything and e©veKaryreonnMeayf.ie.ld. starting with ourselves.

As we love, we are led to take loving actions and do loving things.

The more you appreciate, the better you feel . . . the better you feel, the more you
want to appreciate . . . the more you appreciate, the better it feels . . . it becomes a
victorious cycle.

Once you decide that nothing is more important than feeling good (sometimes it
takes a life-threatening illness to bring a person to this point—don’t wait for that!) . . .
and you decide to intentionally be grateful and appreciate everything and everyone,
the focus of your attention has now become the feeling of appreciation. You
establish a connection between you and what you appreciate that the Law of
Attraction can begin working on immediately, so you start receiving more things to
appreciate right away!

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When you decide to appreciate, appreciation comes back to you. Although you
are really not looking for it to come TO you; you want the feeling of it flowing
THROUGH you.

Any time you have a challenging time appreciating others, it is a sign that you are
lacking self-appreciation.

When you are feeling appreciation, you are in the present moment, in the eternal
now. Your heart opens. You breathe more deeply. Your body relaxes.
Your mind lets go of focusing on what you don’t have and eases into what you
appreciate . . . and that feels good.

This is how people are able to heal themselves.

Appreciation also allows creative energy to flow. I remember a time I went to a
personal development seminar in Seattle . . . I felt so good about what I learned
and so appreciated my time there, that on the flight home, I felt like my mind was a
faucet turned on full blast, as the creative ideas were flowing so fast! Faster than I
could write them down!

There is even greater power when we give thanks together. The shared energy of
a group increases the transformation for each one in the group. I believe the
pilgrims at the first Thanksgiving knew this—if not consciously, intuitively.

Again, remember that Thanksgiving is coming up and many families get together.
Often there is discord among family members. What if this Thanksgiving, before
you get together, y©oKuarleonoMkayffoierldthings to apprecia©teKainrenyMoauyrfieflad mily members? What
if you identified qualities in each person that you like or are grateful for and
focused only on those? Appreciation plays a significant role in the enhancement
of harmony and love in relationships.

If you want appreciation, give out appreciation. Being appreciated charges your
batteries. So does appreciating!

Here are some practices you might want to try:

Write in a Gratitude journal first thing in the morning or right before you go to
sleep, or better yet—both times, counting your blessings.

Take gratitude walks and speak aloud or silently the things you are grateful for.

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Thank You for Everything continued

Give thanks for what you want in advance (a form of affirmative prayer).

Instead of trying to fix things, set things straight, control things, analyze, or figure
out—give thanks for everything. In truth, everything is here to help you, despite
appearances to the contrary.

You will live so much more happily ever after!

Your life will be transformed.

Thank you for everything. I have no complaint whatsoever.

© Karen Mayfield © Karen Mayfield

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How Gratitude Brings You More Money

By Tasha Chen

The number one challenge my clients face when we
begin working together is around manifesting more
money.

My 3 Step POWER Money Manifesting Solution –

1. Start having more appreciation for the money
currently circulating in your life.

2. Look back at the money you have had and be
grateful.

3. Every day align powerfully with gratitude for the
money you desire to attract in the future.

Tasha Chen is the co- WHY THIS WORKS
founder of Science of The Law of Gratitude –the mental attitude of gratitude
Getting Rich Academy draws the mind into closer touch with the source from
which the blessings come. Observe this law in order to
and is passionate get the results you seek.
about guiding
"If your gratitude is strong and constant, the
Entrepreneurs to reaction of Formless Substance [the Universe] will
financial freedom. Her be strong and continuous; the movement of things
coaching has resulted
in her clients creating you want will always be towards you."
~ Wallace D. Wattles Science of Getting Rich
over $37.5 million
dollars in new revenue

in their business by
learning how to apply
the power of Intention.
wwwTashaChen.com

The more grateful you can be for the money you have
the more abundance of money you will receive. And the
more you complain about money the less you will have.

You have to ignore any difficulties around money you
have and think of being grateful. When you are grateful
for money you push all the negative feelings away and
you will bring more money to you. You can’t have

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How Gratitude Brings You More Money conctoinnutineuded

grateful thoughts about money and worry at the same time. If you are not
grateful each time you receive money you will stop the abundance
flowing.
The more joy you feel and the happier you are the more money that will
come to you. As you add gratitude to all the money you receive you will
be able to keep yourself in the feeling of abundance where all your power
lies. The more you can stay with the feeling the more money you will
receive.

Join us for our Annual 3-Day Manifesting Event:
Where Money and Success Gets Manifested –
January 25- 27, 2019
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So You Want To Be A Billionaire, SO

DARN BAD Not all that long ago, it seemed the “popular

financial goal” was to earn six figures, then the
By Duane Cummings scale slid up to a million dollars, and now

the “financial success bar” has been raised yet
again. It now seems that becoming a billionaire is
the new mark to aim for. Regardless of what target
you’re currently trying to hit, I believe acquiring (if
you don’t have them already) the five traits listed
below should aid you in that endeavor, because
billionaires around the globe share them.

Duane Cummings Although, before we get to the traits, you should
know that for me, success is not strictly defined by
Duane Cummings financial achievement. Now with that said, in order
is the founder of to fulfill my definition of success, which includes
freedom, fun, family, friends, and lots of
The Sensational Group. other “F” words that are appropriate here, I must
He is a successful have sufficient funds to “live” within the definition
I’ve created. Fortunately, there were people in my
business owner and has life who taught me the five traits when I was a
been involved in sales child, and they've been a part of my plan ever
and management since. The order in which I’ve shared them here is
not important...only that you employ all of them in
coaching, mentoring and your quest to gain financial abundance.
training for over 25 years.
#1 - WORK For What You Want… Identifying a
Duane is also author of billionaire that never worked for their money is very
the new professional rare. Sure, some of them inherited money, but they
development book, aren’t sitting on a yacht year round spending it. In
The Sensational fact, many people would define them
Salesman. as “workaholics.” Not only did they often hold down
multiple jobs in the early stages of their careers,
He can be reached at they continue to work the same amount of hours or
duane@ more once they "hit the mark" as than they did
early on.
duanecummings.com
#aSensationalLife

@DuaneDCummings

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But not to worry, that doesn't mean you have to sacrifice everything else in your life
to become financially wealthy---perhaps you just need to redefine what “work” really
is. Personally, I "work" on lots of projects but yet I don’t toil and sweat, because I
love what I’m doing. In addition, my wife (who also happens to be my best friend) is
almost always with me, so my marriage doesn’t suffer because we're apart. If you
can find work that you’re passionate about, you’ll wake up inspired and the odds are
you’ll also be healthier and happier.

#2 – Invest Either Time, Or Money In Your OWN Dream… As I mentioned earlier,
many of the billionaires on the planet worked one or more jobs for other people
during their early days. BUT, they did it so they could afford to pursue their own
passions. They regularly invested the time to gain education by taking classes at
night or on the weekends, and also obtained knowledge by having mentors,
applying for apprenticeships, or taking positions that would help them uncover a
deeper understanding of the industry they were interested in. Typically, before a
person has money, they have the TIME…and making a wise investment of that
resource can pay huge dividends later.

#3 - You Never Fail, You Just Learn… Regardless of what you believe about the
word “fail”, billionaires seem to look at each setback simply as a lesson. Many will
even say they’ve never failed. Of course, some of those “lessons” are more costly
than others, but it’s better than the negative stigma attached to the word “fail.”
By eliminating the word “fail” from your vocabulary, you’ll put yourself in the mindset
of being a constant learner, which is proactive and moves you towards your goals
rather than having "failures" that take you away from them.

#4 - Knowledge Is Different Than Education… If you look at a list of billionaires,
many of them don’t have a great deal of formal education. In fact, David
Murdock (known as the founder of Dole Food, Inc.) didn’t graduate high school until
he was in his eighties. Now, before someone gets up in arms, I’m not insinuating
that dropping out of school is the path to becoming a billionaire. It’s simply a fact
that many of the people I researched never received a degree, although they did
prove to be life long learners and are constantly seeking knowledge that will help
them improve. My point is, a formal education is important, but knowledge that will
specifically help you in your chosen area is priceless. As my grandpa used to
say, "Learn how to learn about what you need to learn.“

#5 - You’re Never Too Young To Start… Another thing that was common amongst
most of the billionaires I studied was they started their pursuit at very young ages.

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And when I say young, I mean as children. Kirk Kerkorian, who’s net worth is almost
3 billion dollars started earning money for his family at the age of 9 when he
dropped out of school to become a boxer. Sheldon Adelson started selling
newspapers at the age of 12 and Ingvar Feodor Kamprad, the founder of Ikea
started selling matches at the age of 6 and by the time he turned 10 he was selling
Christmas decorations, fish, and pencils in and around his neighborhood. But, don’t
worry, starting as a child isn't a requirement to becoming a billionaire...just
ask David Duffield who became one at the age of 47.
Now, I know some of you are saying times are different and the opportunities aren’t
there…but I believe, and it’s been proven that nothing can stop someone
(regardless of age) who possesses determination, tenacity, and a dream. In fact,
some would argue there's never been a better time.
At some point in the future, there’s a good chance someone will write a post about
the new standard of becoming a “trillionaire”… and my guess is, the people who’ve
made that list will have had the same five traits we’ve just discussed...and who
knows, maybe you'll be one of the people their writing about.
As always, I wish you all #aSensationalLife.

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Grateful for Being the Passenger

By Debby Montgomery Johnson

Have you ever driven from Southern Florida all the
way to North Carolina and then back home 4 days
later?

Debby Montgomery I have - several times in the last few years actually
Johnson, #1 Best because my hubby, CJ, LOVES to drive. We always
Selling Author, have a great adventure when we travel by car - he
owns the driver seat and I’m the passenger
International Speaker, extraordinaire! It’s a 738.8 mile trip which takes
Radio host and about 11 hours one way. Shall we drive or fly? We
had that discussion but it was really short.
businesswoman, is a
woman on a mission. In If you REALLY look at the time it takes to prepare for
her book, “The Woman a flight and get through the following checklist, why
NOT drive all the way!
Behind the Smile” she
shares her personal Pack up the night before and hide the suitcases
because the cats stress out every time you leave
experience with a love and that brings on a UTI and there’s no time for a
that turned into betrayal quick trip to the Vet. (2 hours)

and financial disaster Drive to and get to the airport two hours early - ok,
and she removes the we have a need to be in the airport WAY ahead of
time – comfort zone. (2 hours 30 minutes)
mask of shame and
shows others how do to Fly, usually not non-stop because the airport nearest
Cashiers is Greenville, South Carolina or Asheville,
the same. She is North Carolina and neither are huge airports, so
available for speaking there is a connection through Atlanta or Charlotte.
(Up to 5 hours)
engagements.
Contact Debby at Wait at baggage claim for your two 50 pound bags,
Debby@TheWoman including an extra large golf bag! (30 minutes)
BehindTheSmile.Com. Rent a car, and finally drive 2 hours to Cashiers (2
hours)

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Sounds like fun, right? Are we there yet? continued

Well, this last time we drove up to North Carolina was because my best friend asked
me A YEAR AGO if her son got married up there, would we attend? Obviously, I said
“Yes, there is nothing lovelier than Highlands/Cashiers, North Carolina in October!”

All the way north we were consciously outrunning the violent path of Hurricane Michael
which was on a rampage from Mexico Beach, Florida to the Atlantic Ocean east of
Virginia. Our GPS, Lizzie, wanted to direct us up through Atlanta, but the weather
channel said “Stay East” so, in spite of Lizzie yelling “recalculating…make the next left
turn” when we didn’t follow her directions, I-95 became our best route! My job was to
check out Mapquest on my phone, the Weather Channel on CJ’s phone, and to
consider Lizzie barking orders on the car speaker! I’m so grateful I was the passenger
because the ultimate decision maker was my driver, or at least I let him think that!

We really wanted to take some of the more direct, smaller roads west to the mountains,
but the thought of the hurricane coming our way and not having a Hampton Inn, my
favorite, available kept us going north “on the big roads!” I-16 outside of Savannah,
Georgia, had been a terrific route for us last year when we went north, but this time it
looked like a beeline directly into Michael’s path, so we stayed on I-95 north towards
Charleston and then took I-26 west to Columbia, South Carolina and that would be our
resting place – 10 hours from home was a good enough drive for one day. So grateful
for warm chocolate chip cookies, fluffy white pillows and a huge down comforter!

Columbia looked promising when we arrived at 10:00 pm but by 6:00 am the following
morning the Weather Channel and Jim Cantore had Hurricane Michael, soon to be a
Tropical Storm Michael, bearing directly down on top of us. Go figure. We looked out
our 3rd floor window and could see the rain blowing sideways but we heard there was
going to be a lull soon and since ALL the schools and businesses in South Carolina
were closed, we figured it would be a great time to get on the highway and zoom up to
the mountains. Good thinking, at least from the traffic point of view! No one was on the
road except for the occasional 18-wheeler and a few crazy Floridians headed up to
“leaf look” or go to a destination wedding.

I’m really grateful my hubby loves to drive because throughout the trip my mind kept
wandering back to turning around to enjoy a quiet weekend at home where the sun was
shining, the temperatures were near 86 degrees and the breezes were calm. He truly
loves “Driving Ms. Debby!”

We had smooth sailing up Route 107 into Cashiers, although this beautiful scenic route
was all switch back hairpin turns with what looked like railings made of aluminum foil – I

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continued

wasn’t convinced they would hold back our Chevy Tahoe if it decided to deviate from
the intended course! Of course, I knew my driver was a proven expert and he really
didn’t want to journey into any ravines and so far the Fall foliage wasn’t worth any off
road escapades! The comfort of our North Carolina family home was all I could focus
on and thank goodness the sun came out when we drove up the dirt drive!

Hurricane Michael devastated the Florida Gulf Coast and did some damage along the
rest of his path through the Carolinas and Virginia but up in the mountains except for
the 24 hour Weather Channel coverage, you’d never know a storm had been around.
For the next three days the sky was the most exquisite blue with periodic fluff clouds
blowing by. The temperatures were a bit cold – that coming from a former Vermont
Damn Yankee who gets cold walking past the freezer aisles in the grocery store –
and every Floridian up there had long sleeves and wool coats, except for the ones
snuggled tightly together in front of the hotel fireplaces! This was not a wedding to
show off your legs in a short cocktail dress or halter top and those young women
doing that were shivering all the way down the aisle! So grateful for my mother-in-
law’s St. John wool coat with chinchilla collar and cuffs!

The weekend was full of wedding excitement but outside tents with no heaters
provided a cover for the designer buffet tables but all 150 Florida guests were talking
about how cold they were, not how delicious the lobster mac and cheese tasted! In
spite of the evening temperatures, we managed to do our share of sightseeing during
the days. We found every golf course that we could get into – heaven forbid we run
out of golf shirts but long sleeve shirts can’t be found in the South Florida clubs so we
collected several over the weekend! I must admit it was exciting going up and down
the mountain ranges full of cliffs and a variety of trees just waiting to burst into full
colors.

Soon Sunday morning was upon us, and I, once again, became the navigator/
passenger armed with Google as my guide in an 11 hour adventure back to Florida.
Going DOWN the switch back mountain roads at 7:00 AM in the morning with fog
rising up from the valley floor wasn’t my favorite activity because I couldn’t see the
horizon – a trick I learned to quell motion sickness when I had 4 children ready to
throw up in the back seat - but at least we got started before any of the other
Floridians hit the pavement! I’m grateful my driver is slow and steady and not trying to
break the land speed record back to Florida.

One big plus of driving off the Interstate highways is going through the many small
towns. I love seeing America through small towns and yet many times wondered why
people lived there – especially when you might not see a home or store for miles and
miles. What’s the draw?

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continued
At one point CJ and I must have had the same thought at the same time as we
looked out at the cattle/cows in the vast pastures. Ok, what’s the definition of “cattle”
versus “cow”…a Google moment! Here’s the elementary school definition, “One is
for beef and one is for milk.” What an existence…eat, stand around, sleep (standing
up?), poop, and then start all over.

We laughed at the thought “Don’t eat too fast or you’ll be Prime Rib at the closest
Long Horn Steak house! Then again, don’t eat too little or they’ll think you’re sick.”
Not sure either alternative is pleasing to the cattle/cows and we certainly didn’t ask
them!

Who thinks those things, except a couple of butt-tired travelers driving along a
LONG, two lane road through “no-where!” No offense to the country folks – I love
the quiet towns all along the journey and I pondered how the frenetic weather and
news of the day, broadcast from NYC, Washington, DC or LA, really affected their
lives. I try not to let the news affect my daily life too much – it’s definitely a spectator
sport which I limit to an hour/day just because I really only need to see the local
weather! I bet that most of us prefer our local news or no news at all to most of the
national stuff these days! No digression here.

As you can tell, I love being a passenger as long as my husband is the driver. The
long trips give us time to talk – really talk about our kids, our work and most
importantly, our marriage. We hold hands for hours. We look up what’s growing
along the side of the roads. We use our travels as a living classroom and realize
how grateful we are to be living in one of the most beautiful, interesting and diverse
country.

I’m grateful for my friend inviting us to her destination wedding. When you have the
opportunity to go someplace different, say yes. Look at everything with your grateful
glasses on and enjoy the ride. Every driver appreciates a grateful passenger!

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Be Grateful for Your Body

By Laura Frontiero Many celebrities, coaches, authors, teachers, and
speakers of our time are bringing to light the very
By powerful, life-changing concept of gratitude. We
find things to add to our gratitude lists: people
Laura Frontiero is a board- who’ve helped us, situations that brought the
certified family nurse outcome we desired, the weather, and “stuff” we’ve
added to clutter up our lives.
practitioner specializing in But when was the last time you acknowledged your
preventive medicine, gratitude or actually felt grateful for your body?
Most of us take our bodies for granted. We think
lifestyle medicine, and that no matter how we treat our bodies, what we
wellness for over 20 years. feed them, whether we exercise them or not, and
no matter how we care or not care for them, these
She guides her clients magnificent machines we call our bodies will last
through lifestyle changes forever.
while identifying the root
cause of chronic illness. Invincibility and eternity are not part of the plan for
Using her gift of simplifying the flesh and blood vehicles we were given for our
souls to travel in while on this earthly journey. For
complex medical the most part, the body gets no thanks for all it
information into does for us.

understandable, easy to Just think of all the systems that make up the
implement and simple “working parts” of the body. When was the last time
you gave thanks to your heart for pumping blood to
steps, Laura has created, every organ? Or your brain for being the smooth
Your Permanent Weight operator of all your bodily systems? Or your mind
for all the BRILLIANT ideas you’ve had during your
Loss Solution. An expert in life.
her field, she lectures at
medical conferences and "The moment you change your perception
speaks on international is the moment you rewrite the chemistry of

platforms. Laura is also a your body."
member of the Wellness Dr. Bruce Lipton
Council for Ariix, a company
People today are in a constant battle with ideas
dedicated to creating and ways to keep the body working optimally and
efficacious toxin-free

products.
http://laurafrontiero.com

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Be Grateful for Your Body continued

ultimately putting it through the proverbial wringer instead of being grateful for it… just
the way it is. I love what Dr. Bruce Lipton says about perception rewriting body
chemistry. Gratitude can be the catalyst for that change.

Even though the conversation around self-worth and body image is changing, many
people, especially women, are still having a love-hate relationship with their bodies
from so many perspectives. What to eat, what not to eat, that is the question. If only
this didn’t have so much sugar, or that had so many calories, unhealthy fat… what do
you mean I can’t eat dairy or bread? What am I supposed to live on? Lettuce? Look at
this face… there are no whiskers and if you say anything about my teeth…! You get
the picture. That’s more attitude than gratitude.
The practice of gratitude is an attitude shifter, a mind transformer, and a body re-
shaper. Here are just a few suggestions:

Begin your day writing down at least three people, places or things you are grateful
for. Go a little deeper than the warm bed you just rolled out of and the sun shining
through your window. Breathe for a minute and drop into your heart space before you
write. What are you really feeling grateful for?

Add one thing you like about your body to your gratitude list.

Look at yourself in the mirror… a full-length mirror if you have one. Close your eyes
before the judgmental chatter begins in your head. Take three deep breaths and let
them out with an audible sigh. Go ahead, breathe. Open your eyes slowly and look
yourself in the eyes. Take a good look at those beautiful windows that reflect your
glorious soul. There is no one just like you. Practice looking at yourself with love and
gratitude. Feel gratitude for your winning smile, your hair, your facial features, and as
you get comfortable with the process, scan your image and begin to feel gratitude for
your body. Be grateful for your legs and feet that carry you throughout your day and
your arms that hug your loved ones. Practice being grateful for your belly and your
butt. I know it sounds funny, and nearly impossible for some of us, however, your belly
area is where all the delicious food you eat is processed to give you energy and
vitality. And your butt, well without it, how would you park yourself in a chair to sit at
the table to eat those foods that nourish you?

Honor yourself. Whether you are happy with your body or not, honor yourself with the
gift of gratitude for the body you do have.

You are a one-of-a-kind masterpiece, so…
Take Good Care

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To a Friend Who is Struggling — Are YOU

By Marc Allen the Problem?

Buddha was absolutely right: Life is a bitch, and
then you die. That’s a good translation of the
first of the four great truths Buddha gave us in
his famous first talk. It’s undeniably true, life is
unsatisfactory in so many ways, life is suffering,
but there are other great truths as well,
fortunately, because it is also undeniably true
that there is a state of being that is beyond
suffering.

Marc Allen is he cofounder of There’s a way out of suffering, always. Not only
New World Library, the that: we already know what it is, but we just
keep forgetting it and have to remember it over
author of Visionary Business, and over again. We can sum it up in one
and the publisher of The sentence — grasp it in an instant — and there
Power of Now—has are so many different ways to express it, so
many different words, different paths for different
discovered, through trial and people! All we need to do is remember one word
error, a proven set of or one phrase of guidance that we heard —
perhaps today, perhaps a long time ago. All we
principles that can help each need to do is remember what we already know.
of us live the life of our
Here’s one way to put it — and it’s something
dreams, doing what we love you already know —
to do, while adhering to
Your focus creates your reality.
compassionate, conscious
values. Over the years, he When you’re complaining about something in
your life that is not working — your husband,
has written several other your wife, your partner, your child, your work,
books, including his most your financial situation, your body, your
popular book The Millionaire anxieties, the state of the world, your state of
Course: A Visionary Plan for mind — look at what you’re focusing on: it’s the
Creating the Life of Your half-empty side of the glass. You keep looking at
Dreams; his latest book, The what is not working in your life. You keep

Greatest Secret of All;
Visionary Business: An
Entrepreneur’s Guide to
Success; and A Visionary
Life, which remains one of
the best books ever written
on personal fulfillment.
www.marcallenteachings.com

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the Problem? continued

thinking about your problems, sometimes so much it becomes obsessive. The
same thoughts and feelings keep arising, over and over.

That is the problem — that nearly constant stream of thoughts about your
problems. The problem isn’t out there in the world; it is within you. Who would have
thought that our thinking is the problem? Our thoughts don’t want to go there —
who wants to admit that they’re the problem?

This is a great discovery to make, however, because we can affect and change our
thoughts far more easily than we can affect and change someone else or
something else in the outer world. How do we do that? By focusing on what’s
working, and by focusing on the solutions rather than on the problems.

We know what the problems are. We don’t have to dwell on them or constantly
return to them. We get the problem, very quickly. What’s the best thing to do about
that problem? The intelligent thing to do is to brainstorm with ourselves about
possible positive solutions and even try to imagine what an ideal solution would be
— our “ideal scene” for that situation. And even more importantly, the smart thing to
do is to keep reminding ourselves about the things that are working in our lives.

Focus on what’s working in your relationships. A whole lot of good things have
happened in your past and are happening right now — if you just focus on them.
Be grateful for what you have; be especially grateful for who you are — a body, a
mind, and a spirit that are phenomenal creations of the forces of life. Be grateful.

As Eckhart Tolle says so beautifully in The Power of Now:

Stop looking outside for scraps of pleasure or fulfillment,
for validation, security, or love —

you have a treasure within that is infinitely greater
than anything the world can offer.

Every great sage and teacher says the same thing, in many different words. The
Kingdom of Heaven is within. There is an end to suffering, and we find it within our
hearts and minds.

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An Attitude of Gratitude Goes a Long Way

By Rev. Diana Kennedy

Well, here we are, all ready for the holidays! You
aren’t ready for the holidays? Me neither, but
since I do love this time of year, I am willing to do
what I need in order “get in the mood.”

Rev. Diana Kennedy Truth is that November kicks off the holiday
season and with it come high expectations for a
frenzy of fun, coziness, generosity and festivities.
For many people though, this time of year is
challenging, tinged with sadness, worries and
feelings of depression. Often, at the holidays,
people miss loved ones who have passed or
friends who live far away.

Rev. Diana Kennedy is a Unity The good news about Thanksgiving Season is
Minister, Light Worker and an that research shows us that there is at least one
Artist of Life. Diana is also an powerful way to lift spirits, expressing gratitude
and appreciation. The word “gratitude” is derived
inspirational speaker, artist, from the Latin word gratia, meaning grace or
spiritual counselor, and gratefulness. It out pictures as thankful
appreciation for what we receive whether tangible
contributor to several spiritual or intangible. Gratitude offers a way of helping
publications. Diana especially people connect to something larger than
themselves. I believe it actually assists us in
enjoys supporting others on connecting to a higher energy, a spiritual power,
their life’s journey through the divine. Gratitude amplifies positive feelings
whether the appreciation is applied to the past,
offering visioning processes, present or future.
sacred services, and Radiant
Energy sessions. Please visit Keeping a “book of positive aspects” or gratitude
journal was recommended to me years ago and
her website at is a practice I still draw upon. Counting my
www.RevDianaKennedy.com, blessings and writing them down jazzes my spirits
and uplifts me higher, empowering me and
learn more about her at helping me to feel more creative. Journaling what
www.UnityArtsMinistry.org,

email her at
[email protected],

or connect with her on
Facebook.

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Continued

I am grateful for also offers me a hopeful and optimistic energy that supports me in
times when I am down.

Research in the field of psychology research reveals that gratitude is consistently
tied to greater feelings of happiness. We have probably all noticed in our own lives
that greater happiness leads to deeper connections with self and others, better
health, better productivity and joy. Gratitude helps us focus on the good in our lives
instead of what we lack. Over time, this positive mental mindset expands and
grows stronger, anchoring even more positivity in our lives. Now that is something
to be grateful for.

In order to usher in the holiday season, here are some ways to cultivate gratitude
and appreciation:

Keep a gratitude journal. Start a good habit and write down all that you are
grateful for before going to sleep at night. This will ease your mind and help you
have a more restful sleep. Or, you could start your day with gratitude, listing
everything you are grateful for from the previous day.

Pray or meditate. Spend time in the Silence pondering the good in your life. Allow
yourself to bask in the positive feel-good energy that arises in your heart.

Send a thank you note to someone. Express your appreciation on paper.
Deepen your connection with another person by writing a thank-you letter filled with
juicy details of what you appreciate and how that person has impacted you.
Challenge yourself to write at least one appreciation note per month.

Write a thank you note to yourself. Make a list of all that you appreciate about
yourself. Be kind, be generous, be thoughtful in the list that you make! Grab your
colored pencils and decorate your thank you note with colorful flowers and swirls,
you deserve it!

Thank someone mentally. Don’t have enough time to write? It will boost your
energy to just think about someone who has done something nice for you. Send
them a sweet, but quiet, “Thank you!”

Count your blessings with friends or family. Pick a time every week to sit down
together and share your blessings aloud. Go around in a circle, one person at a
time, sharing what you are grateful for. Allow the gathering to go on and on and on!
I would love to hear how these gratitude practices touch your life! Feel free to reach
out to me and let me know what you are grateful for and what you most appreciate!

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By Kathleen O’Keefe- Dream Queen
Kanavos
Dream Queen Kat Kanavos answers all your Dream
Questions and helps you with your Dream
Interpretations. Remember your dreams are yours
and only you can truly interpret them so when I help
it will be in the context of, “... if this were my
dream….”

The Dream Queen says, “Ask Me Anything! Tell me
your happiest, scariest, and sexiest dreams and we
will discuss them together here.” Out of respect for
the dreamers in this column only their first names
will be used unless otherwise specified.

Kathleen (Kat) O’Keefe- Dream Question: Where can I find a guide to
Kanavos is an agented symbolism in my dreams?
published author of Dreams
That Can Save Your Life and Although world renowned Psychiatrists Dr. Freud
three-time cancer survivor and Dr. Jung used Universal Archetypes present in
whose guided dreams dreams to see into the minds of their patients to
diagnosed her illness as seen better treat them, dream worlds are unique to the
on Dr. Oz, NBC News, dreamer. In fact, your dream world is as unique to
American Express Open, in you as your fingerprints or DNA. What is frightening
Newspapers and magazines. to one dreamer may be enlightening to another. Take
She’s a Contributing author to the example of a large snake in a dream. It may be
Chicken Soup for the Soul, frightening to someone with a fear of snakes, but it is
TV/Radio Host/Producer- the Kundalini to me- the ultimate rising spiritual
Wicked Housewives On Cape wisdom. If it is a rattle-snake, it may mean there is a
Cod™, the Kat Kanavos Show, warning in the wisdom, “Don’t tread here,” just like
Internationally Syndicated the Texas motto on their Flag that has the rattle
Columnist in BIZCAT360, and snake, “Don’t tread on me.” Sometimes the
Dream Expert Columnist in symbolism can be a play on words.
New Earth Chronicles, Keynote
Speaker and Lecturer who Therefore, although dream dictionaries are based on
promotes patient advocacy and universal archetypes and helpful, they can also be
limiting. Learning your own dream language is the
Spiritual guidance. best way to interpret your dreams. I call it learning
www.KathleenOkeefeKanavos. your Alice in Wonderland “Jabberwocky Talk.”
Nonsense words (perhaps based on jabber) coined
com by Lewis Carroll, for the poem of the same name,
which he published in "Through the Looking-Glass."

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Dream Queen Continued

You hear the words and see the pictures, but they don’t make sense until you learn
your dream language.

Remember; just like any other foreign language, practice makes perfect.
As you the dreamer becomes more in tune with their inner-guidance, you will learn
your own dream language just as I learned mine. In my book SURVIVING
TRAUMALAND: The Intuitive aspects of Healing, I take dreams from my dream
journal and show the reader exactly how to underline the important word, figure out
their meaning according to the context of the dream in order to understand the
message in the dream.

Dream: “I need to ‘GO…!” I will be dreaming, and then in the same dream, I
will have a dream of going to the bathroom in my sleep when I really do need
to go to the bathroom. ~Doug

This is called a ‘break-through’ dream where your body is telling you something
that is real in your waking world, and it breaks through into your dream world. You
may really have a full bladder, and this fact is transmitted into your dream and
becomes part of your dream. It may be a way your master computer-your brain-
alerts you to reality in the dream world. Usually, your brain will awaken you; you will
stumble to the bathroom, do your business, and return to bed, snuggle back into
your same position you were n before you awakened, and often slide back into
your same dream right where you left off. This is called “reentering your dream”
and is a technique many dreamers use to go back into an early morning dream to
retrieve information. In the unfortunate and rare event that you dream you are
actually using the bathroom and do not awaken, you may find yourself waking up in
a wet bed.

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About the Dream Queen: Kathleen (Kat) O’Keefe-Kanavos is a TV Producer/Host
and Author/Lecturer of Dreams That Can Save Your Life written with Dr. Larry Burk,
Foreword by Berne Siegel, which promotes patient advocacy and connecting with
Dreams for success in health, wealth, and relationships. Contact –Kathleen
O’Keefe-Kanavos Website – Public Facebook – Surviving Cancerland Facebook –
Dreams Facebook- Google+ – LinkedIn – Pinterest – Twitter – Youtube- Book 1-
Book2

Dream Research Links: https://amzn.to/2lPkm0p

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What are the Chances?

By Alan Cohen – From the Heart

Do you believe that the universe operates at
random, or is there a higher intelligence that
orchestrates encounters, events, and a stream of
destiny? After observing many uncanny
synchronicities, I have a firm belief that, despite
appearances of haphazardness, a brilliant and
loving hand guides us to our right place at the right
time for the right purpose.

Alan Cohen Sonia, a woman from Paris, attended my Life
Coach Training retreat at a remote area in Hawaii.
Alan brings a warm blend During the program she chatted with another
of wisdom, intimacy, student, Andie, who told her that years ago she
had participated in a six-month French language
humor, and vision to the immersion program in Paris. “I stayed with a
path of personal, woman named Marie St. Ives,” Andie recounted.
Sonia’s eyes bulged. “That is the woman I
professional, and spiritual purchased my apartment from.” After confirming
growth. He loves to extract details, it became clear that Andie had once
lessons from the practical stayed in the very apartment Sonia now owned.
experiences of daily living, What are the chances?

and find beauty in the At another time I went out to dinner with my friend
seeming mundane. Many Bruce, at a tiny restaurant in a small town in Maui.
The restaurant was crowded that night, so patrons
readers and seminar had to sit close to each other on picnic benches.
participants have reported Bruce and I got to reminiscing about our high
school days. “The most meaningful thing I did in
that his teachings have high school was a trip to Africa I took with some
brought them deep other students. We toured around some of the
encouragement and safari parks and got to interface with the natives.”
empowerment, and Bruce then described some details of the trip. At
that moment a woman sitting next to me on the
inspired them to believe in picnic bench leaned over and said, “Excuse me
themselves and achieve for interrupting. I couldn’t help but overhear your
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What are the Chances? continued

story about your trip to Africa. I was on that trip with you.” After comparing notes,
both agreed that they shared the same adventure with a small group of Oregon
high school students. Now, 20 years later, they were seated at the same table in an
out-of-the-way restaurant in Maui. Bruce and I just “happened” to bring up that
subject. A week later the woman sent me an email with a photo of her and Bruce
standing outside the tour bus in an African plain. What are the chances?

A Course in Miracles tells us, “Chance plays no part in God’s plan.” Every person
you encounter, from the family you are born into, to the person with whom you
share a brief elevator ride, to the customer service agent who takes your phone
call, to the clients in your business, to your spouse, to your children, all come to
you as friends and teachers on your spiritual path.

Some empower you with love, and others challenge you. In all cases there is a gift
for you. When you recognize the gift, extract it, appreciate it, and use it, your
journey becomes far lighter and you accelerate your spiritual advancement and
deepen your soul reward.

Wayne Dyer offered the analogy of entering a junk yard and finding a fully-intact
Boeing 747 airplane. “After examining the plane and recognizing the perfect
integration of all of its elements and systems, would you conclude that all of the
intricate pieces came together at random, or would you have to believe that some
vast intelligence orchestrated the manufacture of this highly complex yet
meticulously functional system?”

The engineering of a 747 is a mere pittance in comparison to the engineering of the
universe. I love to garden in a papaya orchard I started from seeds. It is utterly
amazing to me that I can take a tiny papaya seed about 1/10 inch in diameter, plant
it and nurture it, and it grows into a tall tree producing hundreds of delicious
papayas over its lifetime. I look around the orchard of 25 trees and see an
abundance of gorgeous, sweet, nutritional fruit. Who set up that system? No
human being invented a papaya and imbued in it the genetic genius to reproduce
itself forever and feed many people and animals. We can cooperate with the
system and cultivate papaya, but we did not initiate it. God did.

In my book The Tao Made Easy I underscore and celebrate that the universe is
functioning meticulously and there is indeed a plan that works when we tap into it.
We do not have to invent the plan. It is already well in place. We just have to
cooperate with it. Many new age and new thought teachers state, “you create your
own reality.” This is a half-truth. Reality has already been created quite nicely.

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What are the Chances? continued

There is nothing you can do to change it. If you understand it, you would not
want to change it because it is always working on our behalf. What you do create
is your experience of reality. When you align with reality, you thrive in every way.
When you think and act outside universal truth, you grow miserable and wonder
what you are doing here. Our role is not to create reality. It is to find it and ride it
like a surfer rides a wave.
While we aren’t always aware of the brilliance of the universe, occasionally we
have an encounter that gives us a peek into the unspeakably massive 747 we
are all riding. Those moments are cause for faith. We can have confidence that
we are known and loved, and we can relax and can enjoy the ride.

Alan Cohen is the author of many popular inspirational books,
including the bestselling The Tao Made Easy. Become a certified
professional life coach through Alan’s transformational Life Coach
Training beginning February 1, 2019. For more information about
this program, Alan’s books and videos, free daily inspirational
quotes, online courses, and weekly radio show, visit
www.alancohen.com .

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By P.J. Everyone Matters!

I’ve heard it said: Society is a ruin that exalts the
philosopher and downgrades the garbage collector.

After hearing and understanding what was being
said—that everyone matters—I consistently look for
every opportunity to sincerely thank the janitors and
cleaning crews anywhere I am: airports, corporate
buildings, or hotels. No matter where I am, or whom
I’m with, I make a genuine effort to smile and, at least,
say, “Thank you” and, if possible, I ask how they are.

Despite his physical More often than not, though, I create the opportunity to
disability, P.J. is an say, “Thank You for what you’re doing! You’re really
important in this world; without you, our world would
international traveler, be dirty, and a mess, so I wanted you to know how
adventurer, author, much I appreciate you and your efforts. Thank You!”

martial arts instructor, I have literally brought cleaners to tears. I’ve been
former wheelchair hugged; thanked back; told, “Thank YOU! No one has
athlete, amateur ever said that to me;” and I’ve watched many, many
watercolorist, cleaners lift their heads higher, knowing someone
sees them, appreciates them, and recognizes them as
Professional Speaker and having real value in this world.
International
It’s a game changer for some people, and it allows me
Transformation Coach— to feel that genuine sense of really caring about
who focuses on results! others!

Additionally P.J. has been You know, our garbage collectors are not the only
inducted into the National group that tends to get overlooked. There’s another
under-recognized and under-appreciated group in our
Hall of Fame for People world, and a common saying about them: “no one
with Disabilities and was appreciates the warrior until the enemy is at the gate.”

nominated to carry the
Olympic Torch through

Tucson in 2002.

In so many ways, it’s true. These people who are
willing to put their lives on the line for others and, yet,

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Everyone Matters! continuecdontinued

t.hey’re sometimes forgotten or not recognized, validated, and appreciated. Our
veterans, around the world, have made significant sacrifices, and it’s important to
accept that not everyone can do every job. It takes a very special person to put
their life on the line, like someone who joins the military.

Let’s be honest, no one—OK, very few people—like war, including, if not
especially, those who actually go to war and watch their friends and innocent
victims fall. At the same time, some of the most beautiful pictures are those of
military personnel kneeling down, talking with, and giving a small gift to a little
boy or girl in the country the soldier is deployed.

Veterans are that special kind of people—the people who put their lives on hold
to be of service to a larger whole.

They’re the kind of people who don’t quit when things get tough. Life is not easy
in the military; early mornings, few liberties, people telling them what to do and
leaving them very little choice but to obey their orders, and often they’re removed
from their families for extended periods of time—sometimes not knowing IF they
will ever see their loved ones again. Still, these people voluntarily sign-up
anyway!

What kind of person does this?!

Someone who has a deep sense of loyalty, courage, and commitment to service.
They’re called “servicemen” and “servicewomen” for a reason. What would our
world be like if we had more people who were service-minded? I’m confident our
world would be filled with more loving-kindness, generosity, and appreciation.

Appreciation and gratitude are interesting words; they’re so similar to each other
and, yet, just different enough to be mentioned. And it’s valuable to understand
the difference.

The origin of the word “appreciate,” means to “appraise” something; in essence,
it’s setting a “value” for something, or someone. The REAL value is not externally
determined, but internally by each person. What’s fascinating is how the value,
or appreciation we have for something, or someone, will be heavily influenced by
the perspective from which we look. Much like the quote above referencing
appreciation for the warrior when the enemy is at the gate; we may not
appreciate the value the veteran has brought to our lives until we’re faced with a
need they are uniquely equipped to address.

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Everyone Matters! continued continued

There is a beautiful concept within the different branches of the military that no
soldier shall be left behind, and Dan Lipinski, a U.S. Representative for Illinois,
carries it even further when he suggests we think of our veterans similarly, “as a
nation, let it be our pledge that when they return home, we leave no veteran behind.”
What would it look like if we personalized this concept even more by individually
recognizing the value we see in each human being, who was also a veteran? How
would we see them if we remembered their voluntary willingness to do the hard jobs
most of us would rather never have to do? What could it do for our sense of
community?
And while appreciation of our veteran’s efforts and actual service is clearly
important, our gratitude may be even more impactful!
Gratitude is the outward expression of that appreciation we feel. And just as my
sincerity brings tears and a sense of real personal-value to the garbage collectors of
our world—our mutual respect and appreciation can change the life of a single
veteran anywhere in the world when we simply say, “Thank you.”
If you have the opportunity, please look at our service men and women, next time
you’re in their presence, and offer a word of gratitude. A simple “Thank You” for their
willingness to exchange an easy life for the difficult one; for their courage to step
forward where others might be scared, and for their commitment to honor what they
believe in . . . Service.

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Beyond Coping

by Laura Reeves

For anyone coping with a debilitating illness or
condition, day to day tasks can seem utterly
overwhelming. So attempting to work, care for family
and/or friends or have a social life (sigh!) can seem
impossible. Having been there and done that, allow me
to offer some useful suggestions to live beyond coping
and into a freer life.

5 Strategies to Reduce Overwhelm and Increase
Freedom :

Laura L. Reeves is a 1. Be honest with yourself.
certified business
coach, consultant, Oh yeah, yeah, I’m honest about my capacity, etc. Or
trainer, writer, and are you? What emotions are you suppressing to put on
speaker. She has the ‘happy face’ for your loved ones? What coping
strategies are you enacting on the sly? Brutally
started more than 9 evaluate what you are physically, mentally, emotionally
different businesses and spiritually capable of sustaining over the long
in her career and has term. Write that down! Now really listen to your ‘gut’
intuition and make a firm determination of how much
worked in aviation, and what time you can parcel out to others beyond
government, health your own personal daily care. Now post it and stick to
care and non-profits. it! But most importantly, forgive yourself when you
‘fail’ your predetermined allotments. Be gentle….after
Laura has been in all you are with everyone else!
business for over 40
2. Ask for Help or Support.
years and has
learned to be joyfully This is sooo hard! We want to help everyone else and
creative in the most gut it out like a good soldier. But every good soldier
needs R & R to rest, resupply and refocus on their
difficult and mission. There are large numbers of assistive agencies
outrageous of for nearly every condition out there. Help and
information is a click away online and extensively listed
situations. in the local phone book. Ask friends

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Beyond Coping continued

or family for some respite care. Can they help do your dishes, some light
housework, stay with your children, etc.? Have ‘that’ conversation with your
employer if it is safe for you to do so. Ask about flexible hours or reduced hours if
financially feasible or telecommuting options. Be bold and advocate for yourself as
fervently as you do for others.

3. Plan as You Can.
Now there is a four letter word that most everyone dreads! As the old saying goes:
those who fail to plan, plan to fail. While there is truth in that aphorism it is more
important to note that a daily list is a plan. Write down your aspirations, desires or
ideas on a daily basis. Use an online journal or if you prefer old fashioned pencil &
paper, and make notes on what you would like to accomplish that day. You can list
these items at specific times of day or for later in the week or even next month.
THE most critical thing is to write it down. And refer back to number 1) Forgive
yourself, if you can’t scratch through every item on your list for that day.
Congratulate yourself every day for making a list!

4. Learn/Educate Yourself About Triggers.
Since you’ve already made a daily list (right?!), consider keeping a brief journal of
how you felt physically, mentally, emotionally for that day. Did you eat something
that set you off physically? Was talking to that ‘friend’ the incident of the day that
put you in a depressive funk or generated some anxiety? Did you beat yourself up
for not getting to that daily list? Relax….make notes and move on. Be kind and
unwind! Knowledge of what triggers you to react in a detrimental way can be very
liberating. It is freeing to know that avoiding those specific triggers can make your
life better in a very real way.

5. Laugh.
Yep, Proverbs 17:22 says “A joyful heart causes good health, but a sorrowful mind
dries the bones.” So who wants dry bones?! Certainly not me! People that others
see as humorous or funny are attractive in a very elemental way. They see life in a
positive frame that colors all their interactions with both themselves and others.
Watch comedies (Three Stooges, anyone?), read jokes, call your funniest friend
and talk or hang out. Find the humor in every situation that you can. Laughing often
and long has both physical benefits as well as the emotional and mental upside.
Besides, always having a smile on your face makes people wonder what you’re up
to!

So in summary: be realistic, be specific, be gentle, be kind, be funny and most of
all be positive!

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