HUMANISTIC PSYCHOLOGY

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CHAPTER 01

UNCONDITIONAL LOVE

There is a chapter that I learnt in my humanistic When I read this and you own my thoughts
psychology course, it's about unconditional love. To for a second, "unconditional love is when a
be frank, I learnt this back when I was revising my person who loves you no matter what would
notes for my final and I asked my lecturer a lot for do little things to make you happy, like
this chapter. Most people misunderstand the meaning sending you flowers with a note or making
of unconditional love. Unconditional love is love that your favourite foods. When they do these
doesn't come with any rules. It's the love you give out small acts of love, they don't expect anything
for free. You don't judge someone by what they do for in return. All they want is for that person to
you. You love them, and you want nothing more than be happy it's already made their day.
for them to be happy. This kind of unconditional love Conversely, it means that you love that
is when you care about someone's happiness and joy person with all your heart”. It means being
and do things for them without expecting anything in selfless in the way you express your love.
return. It means to care about someone from the Love that is unconditional is not limited to
bottom of your heart and through all of their life's ups relationships only. It can happen with our
and downs, whether they are rich or poor, sick or closest friends and family. Think about
healthy. True unconditional love is when you accept friendships, relationships between parents
someone just the way they are, including their flaws and children, relationships between siblings,
and mistakes, and whatever changes they have, you and so on. In all of these relationships, it's
always love them no matter what. important to be aware of the interactions and
try to create a healthy, stable one based on
Conditional and unconditional love differ in whether trust, respect, acceptance, and admiration for
someone is loved no matter what or if they do or don't each other at all times.
do anything. Unconditional love is safe and tolerant.
People who experience unconditional love are
confident in their relationships and know they will
always have support, even if they struggle or make
mistakes. Conditional love lacks trust and stability.
They may also assume they must change to gain
affection.

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CHAPTER 01

UNCONDITIONAL LOVE

In light of this, I want you to know that I love you Hence, bear in mind, I will always support and
without conditions, and that I never, ever question my have your back no matter what. I don't want to
affections for you. You tell me occasionally that I am live with regrets. You are very important to me,
not anything that you deserve, and I tell you the same and I think about you often. Do not even dare to
thing. To the best of my knowledge, life is far too consider the idea that you are unlovable and
short, and death is unavoidable, to spend one's time unwanted as long as I'm still breathing here.
discussing who is more deserving of what. My ability Even if I can't help you solve your problems, I
to express my affection for the person I feel deserves can promise that you won't have to face them
it is the only thing that truly matters to me. Due to a on your own. There is no better friend than a
major variety of factors at the time, I did not have the sister and there is no better sister than you.
opportunity to express my love for you in an adequate Never in the history of mankind would I give up
manner. Since then, a lot of things have changed, and this bond for anything. With that, I end my
I've grown up enough to be able to tell the difference essay with a poem for you in the next section.
between good and poor choices. I have matured to the
point where if there is anything that I want to pursue,
I will fight for it regardless of the circumstances. As I
live my life the way I want to, I have no regrets;
therefore, you shouldn't feel guilty about what I've
done for you. It's my desire to do that. Even myself is
happy to do so by watching you smile with the things
that I've done.

01 | A POEM TITLED
"AFFIRMATION"

I KNOW THAT THERE ARE DAYS WHEN YOU FEEL UNLOVED, HATED, UNDESIRED
BY THE PEOPLE AROUND YOU AND EVEN BY YOURSELF,
THOSE DAYS WHERE ALL YOU SEE IS WHAT YOU LACK, WHAT IS NOT ENOUGH,
DAYS WHEN YOU FEEL UNWORTHY OF LOVE AND EVEN BY YOUR OWN LOVE,
SO WHEN THOSE DAYS COME TO YOU, I WANT YOU TO THINK OF ME AND THE WORDS I'M
ABOUT TO SAY

I’M HERE, WHETHER YOU NEED ME OR NOT,
WHETHER YOU LIKE IT OR NOT, IM HERE, ALWAYS BE
ALWAYS GIVING YOU THE LOVE THAT YOU REFUSE TO GIVE TO YOURSELF,
I'M HERE TO ALWAYS REMIND YOU HOW MUCH I WANT YOU,
HOW MUCH I WANT TO SPEND MY DAYS WITH YOU,
WHETHER IT'S SAD OR HAPPY DAYS,
I’M HERE TO ALWAYS REMIND YOU HOW PRETTY YOU ARE INSIDE AND OUT,
I'M HERE TO ALWAYS REMIND YOU HOW SPECIAL YOU ARE,
YOU ARE THE DIAMOND IN THE SEA OF ROCKS THAT ARE STRONG IN EVERY WAY,
THE BRIGHTEST STAR IN THE NIGHT THAT ALWAYS SHINE IN YOUR OWN WAY,
THAT CAN MAKES PEOPLE TURN AWAY JUST TO SEE YOU,
AND THERE IS NOTHING YOU CAN DO THAT WOULD MAKE ME THINK OTHERWISE,
BECAUSE ALL OF THIS ARE MY UNSPOKEN THOUGHTS ABOUT YOU,
MY UNCONDITIONAL LOVE FOR YOU.