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Acknowledgments

Writing an acknowledgment page is fraught with anxiety. You
suddenly realize: one, just how many people have helped you get
over the finish line; and, two, how fallible your memory is. I know
I’m going to forget someone who should not be forgotten. If
you’re that person, my apologies.

It’s taken me more than four years to get this book written, and
along the way I wrote three versions of it that weren’t very good.
At all. So the usefulness and elegance of this is due to the
encouragement and enthusiasm and talents of a rather large group
of people.

Supportive readers of various sucky versions of the book
include Jill Murphy, Kate Lye, Jen Louden, Pam Slim, Michael
Leckie, Karen Wright, Eric Klein, Molly Gordon, Mark Silver,
Venita Indewey and Gus Stanier, all of whom managed to
encourage me to go on while steering me away from mediocrity.
Suzie Bolotin and Bruce Tracy at Workman said no to earlier
versions, which proved to be astute. Lindsay Miller and Elizabeth
Woodworth helped me ground my work with insightful research.

I’ve had a fantastic editorial and design team. Catherine Oliver
of Oliver Editorial Services stopped me using so many ellipses…
And Capital Letters… and much more. She’s shaped this

manuscript through three rounds of editing, from big-picture
changes to fine-tuning the minutiae (and thank you Seth for the
connection). Judy Phillips brought an eagle eye to the
proofreading. Jesse Finkelstein and Megan Jones of Page Two, my
publishing consultants, have helped us navigate the landscape of
self-publication as savvy professionals rather than stumbling
amateurs. And Peter Cocking has designed a book that has
elegance and style, a book I love for its look and feel, not just for
its content. My co-conspirator Mark Bowden came up with the
book’s subtitle, which is perfect.

Box of Crayons has an extraordinary team of people who we
feel lucky to have help us make our dint in the universe. Thank you
to Charlotte Riley, Denise Aday, Ana Garza-Robillard, Peter
Hatch, Sonia Gaballa, Sylvana La Selva, Ernest Oriente, Rona
Birenbaum, Warren McCann, Frank Merran. A special “hat tip” to
Robert Kabwe of Poplogik, who has helped shape the design of
this book, and to Stan McGee, who helped plan and run the
marketing of the book’s launch.

Box of Crayons specializes in helping busy managers coach in
ten minutes or less, and our programs are delivered by a
wonderful group of master facilitators. Thanks to our current
faculty, Lea Belair, Helene Bellerose, Jamie Broughton, Tina Dias,
Jonathan Hill, Leanne Lewis and Susan Lynne. You can learn more
about each of these lovely people at BoxOfCrayons.biz.

Someone once said behind every successful man is a surprised
woman. Marcella Bungay Stanier, VP of Everything Else, and

Marlene Eldemire, head of the ICU (Internal Crayons Unit), are the
women in this case. Thank you both for your support and love and
encouragement.

About the Author

“My name is Michael. I can hop. Do you want to see me hop?” This
was how the three-year-old Michael introduced himself to
surprised strangers in supermar- kets. Here’s a slightly more
polished version of that.

You can read about Michael’s official accomplishments at
boxofcrayons.biz. If you’re interested in origin stories, Michael
knocked himself unconscious as a labourer by hitting himself in
the head with a shovel, received his first cheque as an author for a
romantic story called “The Male Delivery” and mastered stage
craft at law school when he appeared in a skit called Synchronized
Nude Male Modelling. His real success in becoming a Rhodes
Scholar and going to Oxford was meeting and marrying a
Canadian who refuses to take him too seriously.

LinkedIn is the best place to connect directly with Michael.
He’s the only Bungay Stanier there, so he’s easy to find.



Bring The Coaching Habit into your
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Since 2008 Box of Crayons has given more than 10,000 busy
managers practical tools for everyday coaching. What if your
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A foundation skill

Coaching can increase focus and capacity, reduce overwhelm and
dependency, and drive engagement and impact. But even with the
best of intentions, today’s busy managers find themselves
defaulting to an old-school management approach: tell them
rather than ask them; solve it for them rather than help them
figure it out.

Theory, models and exhortations to “do more coaching” just
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