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23 P’s of enjoying Parenthood

Parenting basically depends on our perception. Our
perception towards our life, our family, our kids, our work
life, our surroundings and how we perceive each and every
thing on this planet. This book will surely change your
perception towards everything. From today onwards, you
will see yourself differently and you will make a difference
in others life too.

The basic fundamental of all these P’s is the perception of
a parent. Yes friends, our perspective depends on many
factors like our past events, our belief system, our society
and our upbringing.

 So friends, are you ready to bring out that change
in your perception?

 Are you ready to think from a broader perspective
today onwards?

 Are you ready to bring out a major transformation
in yourself today?

 If yes, then let us proceed with a broader and wider
perception.

So, Parents, let us learn 23 P’s of Parenting and implement
them in our day to day life for desirable results.

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1. PLANNING

Planning starts right from the day you decide to have a
baby, isn’t it? Parents need to plan on how it is going to be
right from the pregnancy period till the baby is raised up
(say 20 – 25 years of the age). You got to make the child
independent and this doesn’t only involve financial
planning. All small plans makes up to huge results. Small
planning such as just in case if both the parents are working
which is the normal scenario today, we must think who and
how to handle the household chores, how to balance both
the life, professional and personal as this is the major
responsibility of the parents to take over the charge right
from the start and not let the child suffer due to your
decision.

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Many families as on today are nuclear and both parents are
working. So parents need to define the roles and
responsibilities jointly to have a smooth life considering the
emergencies. Frankly speaking, you need to be mentally
and physically strong for this decision as you cannot be
dependent on anybody or you cannot hold anyone
responsible for your child’s upbringing.

Planning will enhance smooth functioning of your daily
routines and will keep your relationships intact with
everyone in the house. All the house members must equally
support each other to have better results and so
communicating the roles in a specific manner is very
important.

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2. PERFECTION

“If you look for perfection, you'll never be at peace.”

What is perfection by the way? Do you think anybody
is perfect on this planet?
Perfection varies from person to person. It totally depends
upon the expertise or the capabilities a person has in
oneself. It is we who define perfection as per our needs,
requirements and other factors like our social or cultural
background plus our society.
Parents, believe it or no, perfection doesn’t exist at all.
Nobody is perfect on this planet. And if you look out for
perfection, you will never be able to enjoy the existing form
of anything whether it is your child, your family, your
environment, your work, your relationships and your entire
life. Expecting perfection will only lead to complaints and
you wouldn’t get anything out of it. And expecting perfection
from your child is very wrong. Moreover, we have seen
many parents expecting their child to be perfect in all the
fields whether academics or non - academics.

Is this really possible?

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Please think for a moment and answer the questions to
yourself.

 How were you raised by your parents?

 What were your parents expecting from you and what
have you turned out to be today?

 Are you perfect in all the aspects?

Perfection depends on the way we see at things and we
define perfection as per our convenience. Please note that
every single task you do, you do for bringing happiness in
your life which matters a lot and for that you must learn to
enjoy whatever you are today, whatever you have today
with you and whatever situation you are in today.

Teach your child to be happy and spread happiness in his
or her whole life. Our job is to just keep practicing till we get
the knack of any job and do it with entire self like giving our
100 percent to it and develop passion towards the job so
that at the end of the day you stay contented.

The best way to live life is to accept things as it is, to accept
people as they are and to accept your child the way god has
blessed you with. But this doesn’t mean that you should not
give the required support or necessary infrastructure to your
child to build his / her life the way your child wants to…

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Remember,

If you cannot change things or situation in the manner you
desire, you must learn to accept the way it is. If you learn
this art, you will win half the battle of your life.

Acceptance is the key to happiness.
“To err is human, to forgive, divine.”

Since it is your child, you need to bless him / her and for
that you need to learn to forgive.

Please note
“Only peaceful minds can bless someone with love,
happiness and positive vibes”.

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3. PLEASE / PLEASURE
Parents should understand that we are not here to please
anyone, rather we need to express ourselves. Pleasing
everyone is just not possible. Majority of the kids in joint
family system faces this kind of pressure, where
grandparents dominate the home rules and parents are not
able to raise their child in their manner. Many daughter in
laws are busy correcting or rather connecting with their in -
laws and doesn’t pay heed to their children in the manner
they should be attended. Here, parents feel that family
needs to be pleased and this is one of the major reason kids
suffer.
Please understand that it is really not possible to please
everyone.

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Slowly and gradually, we also then start expecting from our
children that they would continue the trend of pleasing the
elders in the house. Here is where their feelings gets
curbed. Kids are unable to vent their thoughts and they feel
suffocated where they can neither express nor impress
others. They have to please at the cost of their pleasure.
Let us see “How to handle such situation”.

Parents must understand that their child is their prime
responsibility and taking decisions for them is their right.
They must listen to all and implement what is needed or
what is desirable for their kid as they know their child from
inside and outside. Here both the parents must have
synchronization in the way they feel, they think and they act
to get positive results.

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4. POSITIVE
A child doesn’t understand what is positive and what is
negative. He only follows the parents. So, it is very essential
for parents to remain positive since bringing the child on this
earth was their decision as parents and now they have to
take things responsibly and positively.
Let us understand it with an example.

Many a times, it does happen that child says NO to
everything, may be due to fear / insecurity / lack of
confidence / lack of motivation / lack of appreciation or could
be any kind of hesitation.
So, as a parent, you need to teach your child to say YES. It
is a process where the child needs to be tackled by positive
words again and again. Here the pep talk too comes into
picture. A self - talk can be taught to the child to stay
positive.

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Daily positive affirmations must be enchanted to get a positive mindset.

Remember don’t expect this to happen overnight like
if you ask the child to say YES and he would say and

things would work. No, it doesn’t work that way.
The whole process needs to be worked upon
carefully and wholeheartedly.

Let us understand this with the help of a situation.

Parents must not use the word NO in front of the child.
Suppose, if your child comes to you and says, Mom / Dad,
I want you to play with me now as I am feeling bored. Now
that you are too busy and you cannot join your child and if
you say directly NO, it would result into negative feelings
and resentment in your child.

“How to handle such situations”.

Rather you can use positive words, such as “Wow, I think it
is going to be amazing or it’s really a great idea, let me finish
my work quickly and play together. We shall be having a
great time today”.

Parents, did you notice how a positive response can
change the mindset and the situation can be very well
managed. If you would have said NO, I am busy right now,
it would have led to many negative thoughts in your child’s
mind but now that you have tackled it positively, the child
would remain very excited and he may also end up
supporting you to finish your work.

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Majorly, you can also use questions which doesn’t require
a Yes or No answer. Rather give options like,
What would you like to eat today for meal, capsicum or
Brinjal?
It will gradually change the thought process of your child
and would result into positive response.

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5. PROMISE
Parents need not forget that becoming a parent is only your
choice and so to enjoy the feeling of being parents, you
need to promise yourself to put in your dedicated efforts in
nurturing this relationship. The behavior of your child may
be negative or unappreciable at times. But it is you who
must handle situations in a very tactful manner and never
give up.
Similarly, do remember, if you promise anything to your
child and do make it a point to fulfill it.
Let us take an example here:

You are very excited today as you had a very exciting work
day or you got an increment or some good news. Now in
that excitement, you go to your child and you tell him / her
that we shall be going to Goa for a vacation and you have
unknowingly promised your child while talking to him / her.

Now your child is very excited and would be planning for his
/ her vacation day and night. Now that the summer vacation
arrives and you are stuck in your official meetings /
conferences and you are not able to fulfill your promise, it
may hamper your relationship with your child.

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So, parents, do remember,
Never Promise when you are sad,

Never promise when you are happy,
Never promise when you are angry and
Never promise when it is out of your reach.
You got to be really very careful while committing yourself
as making a promise and living up to it will definitely portray
yourself as a good mother or a good father and it will make
your child a good human being too.

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6. PAMPER
Many parents, pamper their child for getting things done
which is even called bribing. For instance, nowadays,
Social media has taken all the charge. A child shows
resentment in eating food and parents give their mobile
phones so that the child remains distracted and it becomes
easier for the parent to feed their child.

I don’t like to
eat this meal

Parents, must understand that these are the occurrences
which takes place unknowingly but lingers in the mind of the
child all the time. This is how a child learns to manipulate
with your emotions. Now, the child very well knows that if
he doesn’t eat food, you would give your cell phone to him
/ her and he / she would enjoy but you will notice by the time
he / she grows up, he has got so much used to it that it
becomes very difficult for you to confiscate the cell phone
or make him get rid of this habit. This addiction of your child
can lead to restlessness, hyper tension, anxiety and major
ailments.

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Wow ! I can
manipulate mom
in this manner.

These meal tantrums becomes a real headache especially
for mothers when they also have to cook separate meal for
their child as per choice. Pampering your child here is equal
to bribing your child to eat his meal.
Let us see how to handle this situation at childhood.
When the child is not eating food, there are ways to get him
/ her distracted like the very old traditional technique was to
tell or read out story books and keep repeating them till you
feed the child. Indulge your child in small games like block
games or any board games while feeding your child.

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The best way is also to keep aside the food if the child
doesn’t want to eat. He / She will definitely eat when he /
she feels hungry. Avoid pandering whims and fancies of
your child and inculcate good habits right from the
childhood.

Pampering your child with his / her favorite meal during
regular intervals is good but over pampering would lead to
bad habits or addictions.

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7. PREACH
Preaching means teaching. Teach your child good habits,
moral values. Teach them the difference between living and
non - living things and how they should be treated. How
living things have emotions and how they could be hurt if
not behaved properly.
Look out for occasions where you can indulge them in noble
causes. For instance, nowadays many parents like to
celebrate their child’s birthdays at old age homes /
orphanage so that the kids too learn and enjoy the joy of
giving.

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It is rightly said that:
We make a living by what we get,
But we make a life by what we give.

Nurturing these values right from the childhood results into
a groomed responsible personality as an adult. Yes, a
human being with sentiments and an empathizing nature.
This is how a child learns to respect each and everyone in
the society. A sense of gratitude towards parents, elders
and society will be developed.
It will finally help you in grooming a next generation kid.

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8. PRACTICE

By Practice here, we mean, practice whatever you preach.
You, as parents are the role models for your child.
Parents are the first teachers / gurus on this planet and
hence education starts from home.
So let us take the earlier example of your child celebrating
his birthday at an old age home / an orphanage. Here, to
imbibe these values, you need to first set an example by
celebrating your birthday at an old age home / an
orphanage.
Yes, parents, you need to practice whatever you preach.
This is how your child will learn to behave well / take
initiatives, start possessing leadership skills and empathize
with you and others.

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If we want our child to be raised in the manner we were
raised, we need to put in little more additional efforts as we
had no distractions or competitions earlier which is now
their major challenge.
Today’s kids are facing these issues and many other
challenges to deal with. So, let us practice our preaching
and make it very simpler for them to merely follow your
footsteps.

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9. PAUSE
By pause, here, we mean that as parents, you need to
understand the importance of taking pauses in your life like
in your thought process, in your behavior, in conversing with
your child and in your actions.

Children often observe you all the time and they learn from
these observations. So it is very essential to know what to
speak, what not to speak, what to do and what not to do,
how to behave and how not to behave. Whenever kids are
around, be very careful in all these aspects. Consider them
as CCTV’s at your surveillance as they tend to capture
these learnings and use them either to develop themselves
or to manipulate you.

For instance, if you are using your mobile phone at the
dinner table, then your child will surely carry forward the
same trend when he grows as an adult. Home rules must
be made for all at home and all the members must follow
them holistically.

So, parents,
Always take a pause while thinking about your child
And never take hasty decisions.

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Take a pause while talking to your child as he would be
repeating your words one day. Take a pause when you act.
Never hit your child if he / she has done something wrong.
Rather make him / her understand his / her mistake and
give him / her a chance to correct them. This pause will
teach you to analyze the situation from his / her point of view
and will help you to raise him / her effectively. Since we
expect them to behave well, these do’s and don’ts are very
much important for us to have a healthy bonding and a
peaceful life.

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10. PASSION
Children are bought in this world out of parent’s love and
affection and so think how passionate are we to raise them,
to nurture them and to support them at every path of their
life.
There would be many instances, when parents feel low due
to certain behavior or actions of their child.
Here, as parents, you need not lower down your morale.
You got to be firm on your decision of raising your child in
all the circumstances and that will keep you driven.

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The passion to keep talking to your child for hours together,
to understand, to train, educate and to give the life your
child deserves must be your prime motto.
Like for instance, talking to your child about the day in
school or class, keep asking what happened / how did your
child feel today at the place he / she visited (family or
friend’s house, mall or movie or any other place). Try to
understand his / her liking and disliking from the
conversation. Talk about his / her dreams (short term / long
term). Give him / her enough time and space to fulfill his /
her dreams.

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11. PATIENCE

It is the first and foremost quality a parent must possess.
You need to understand that everything happens for a
reason. There are pros and cons to every situation. If a child
is behaving indifferently, there has to be some reason for
his changed behavior. As parents, you need to act patiently.
Be a good listener. Practice the habit of listening to the
grievances of your child, you need to understand what a
child is going through you need to actually put yourself into
his shoes and analyze the situation rather than imposing
your thoughts upon him.

Yes friends, only this approach will keep you close to your
child.

Many a times it does happen that a mother loses her
patience as she has to handle many tasks at one time and
at different times. Today’s mother is expected to handle
personal, professional and household chores and therefore
she is bound to behave impatiently. Having said this, we
need to understand that your child doesn’t understand all
these material affairs at all. He only knows you. Here we
need to pause ourselves before acting and talking. Please
note that mothers are the first and the closest human figure
for a child and kids long to be with her and her attention
counts a lot.

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For instance, when a child makes the house messy, many
a times, mothers feel irritated, angry and they even beat
their child. Rather you should teach your child to clear the
mess after playing and help him to do so. The best way to
coach is to indulge yourself in this activity. You can ask your
child which toy is this and where do we keep this toy and
then let us put it back in its place. Likewise, keep asking him
/ her again and again and then let him / her do it on his / her
own. Show him / her that you are happy or you are surprised
that he / she remembers and this is how you can inculcate
the habit of cleaning the mess on his / her own.

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12. PLAYFUL
By being playful, it means that parents needs to behave like
a child, play with your child as much as you can. This will
not only help him / her to grow physically but mentally too.
Mental growth of a child can be done by playing various
block or board games. Games which are good for his / her
memory and involves physical exertion. This will keep you
physically and mentally fit too.

Believe me, playing with your child acts as a stress buster
too as you share lot of happiness and you get an
opportunity to create an unbreakable bonding unknowingly.

These are the memories for your child of his / her childhood
which he / she will remember throughout his / her life. Be
ready to play at least for half an hour daily with your child
and his / her friends. Please note that in this manner your
child’s friends will also get closer to you, understand you
and this is how you can build a good rapport with them.

Major advantage is that they would not support your child if
he does anything wrong or will inform you about his / her
doings and then you can take preventive measures
accordingly.

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Even a small game like for example, you can become an
elephant and you can show your hand as an elephant trunk
and you can tell your child that this trunk is coming to help
you keep your room clean. The trunk can pick up each toy
and keep in the basket saying that the elephant is very
happy to see the house clean. Similarly, you can ask your
child to behave like an ant and ask him to pick up small toys
and put them in the basket. This will keep him excited too.
It will also make him feel the importance of keeping the
house clean and gradually, a habit will be developed.

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13. PARTICIPATIVE
We, parents, usually expect our child to be more
participative in school and college activities. We have seen
many parents keep pushing kids in singing, dancing
competition where as his / her interest is in sports.
But parents forget to understand if their child is really
capable of doing it so or even if he / she is capable of, is he
/ she willing to go for it? Or even if he / she is willing to, is
he / she able to express himself / herself totally to parents.
Expression of feelings in the form of words or gestures is
very important.

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By being Participative, we also mean that parents need to
spend their quality time with their child to understand what
a child is going through in his school, college or any
environment. Parents can involve themselves in joint
activities where your child can enjoy being with you and in
this manner, you can build a good cordial rapport with him /
her, communicate your message to him / her. In this manner
you can imbibe values which can impact lives, create a
good society and a bright future.
This will not only boost his / her confidence but will also
develop a sense of responsibility towards the family and
society as a whole.

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14. PEER
Peer means a friend. Yes, parents need to act as an all-
rounder. Since you are very close to your child, you are
everything for him / her. A parent, a close friend and so if
you wish to be close to your child, then you need to become
his / her friend. As a friend, you need to understand his / her
needs, desires and accordingly guide him / her. Make your
child understand the difference between a want and a need.
This will make him / her understand the value of money in
life.

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A child should feel free to express his / her thoughts with
you rather than going to his / her peer. So maintain good
bonding with your child.
For instance, you can take your child to show the real world,
orphanage, old age home to make him / her understand the
value of money (Not to spend on unnecessary things).
Read out motivational books or tell stories of successful
people. Let your child know what struggle is and what
successful people goes through to reach higher heights in
life. Even maintaining that level is very difficult. Narrate
them the stories of self - made successful people like Ratan
Tata, Dhirubhai Ambani, Mother Terresa and many more.

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15. PROBLEM SOLVER
Parents are a problem solver for a child and so if your child
has any issues, you need to sort out his / her difficulty rather
than demoralizing him / her. This will prepare him / her for
the upcoming challenges of life.

For instance, if your child comes to you saying that he / she
is facing issues with his / her friend in school. You should
check what the exact issue is.

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Here a parent can handle this situation by role playing. You
can behave like your child and ask your child to behave like
his / her friend and repeat the scene which took place in the
school. After one episode, you can become his / her peer
and ask him / her to become himself / herself and repeat
the entire episode once again. Make him / her analyze his /
her behavior in both the situations. Let him / her explore
other possibilities of actions of his / her school scene. This
will help him / her to understand both the sides of the role
and he / she will be able to take decision accordingly. It will
teach him / her to become empathetic. This will not only
build his / her critical thinking skills but will also help him /
her to take his / her decisions on his / her own. Teach him /
her to make relations and nurture them. Let him / her
understand the value of friends in life and how they should
be treated.

“Treat others as you would want to be treated by them”.

Remember, you are a parent and you need to give your
child all the positive solutions to his / her problems. What
you sow, you will reap and so positive thinking will always
lead to positive actions.

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16. PARTICULAR
Parents are requested to be Particular in their behavior.

For instance, we have come across many parents who
comes up with sibling rivalry / jealousy issues. We have
noted them saying “My elder child envies the younger one”.
Believe me, 90 percent of the parents feel so. Please note
that there could have been instances where a parent must
have behaved in a manner that the younger one is given
more attention and so elder child feels left out. Parents must
have a particular behavior for both of them. They should act
similar with both in the same situation. Over pampering the
younger child will create a negative feeling in the elder child
and he may feel left out.
Friends,

Having one child makes you a parent
But having two or more makes you a referee…
Yes, especially when there are two boys or two girls, isn’t
it?

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Let us understand this with an example of a particular
situation.

When your elder child comes to you for your help or advice
and at that time you are busy with the younger one. Now
this is the actual time where your parenting know how is
tested. You got to tackle this situation very patiently. You as
a parent must spend at least a minute listening to his query
and then advice to think on other options and explore
various possibilities. This is how you can buy some time
from him.

Mom, I will take
care of my
younger sister.
I love her a lot.

The best way is to indulge your child with you nurturing the
baby right from pregnancy. Mothers are experts doing so.
She can ask the elder one to help her to take good care of
the child. This is how you can train his mind and make him
prepared for the arrival of a new family member in the
house. The elder child will rather support you in upbringing
the younger one.
Once acceptance becomes easier, the siblings will develop
a sense of responsibility towards each other.

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17. PROGRESSIVE
By progressive, we mean that parents should be
progressive / competitive. But this progress must be a
healthy progress. This competition must build your child.
Don’t teach your child to become destructive in making his
/ her own progress. The major root cause of destruction or
a negative thought in a child is parent’s expectations.

We all know that parents keep comparing their child and his
/ her behavior with others especially with his / her peers.
Here the parents forget that even they need to compare
themselves with their peer’s parents. The comparisons
must be both ways. It is possible that the peer’s parents are
very rich and they are offering everything on earth to their
child and you are not from the same back ground and still
you expect your child to behave like him / her.

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Please note that our expectation gives birth to the feelings
of jealousy, inferiority complex and other rivalry issues. We
must stop expecting too much from our child. Raise your
child in such a manner that is incomparable. Develop
virtues, good habits, strengths and build a strong character
with unshakable principles in your child.

Teach your child to compare his today with his / her
yesterday. Yesterday he / she would have been good at
something and so make him / her practice and make him /
her realize that he / she is the best today. Regular practice
has made him / her “the best” today.

Likewise, if your child doesn’t score good marks today, don’t
scold him, rather check his / her past performance and
appreciate that. If he / she is still lagging behind, try to find
out the reasons and his / her likings on that subject. Try to
change his / her learning style. Try to make his / her studies
interesting. Parents are the best teachers and teachers
always bless their students to be progressive in life.

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18. PERSISTENT
Parents are not allowed to feel tired. Yes, my dear parents,
you are nurturing a life and you cannot play with that life.
You are a gardener of your own garden. It is your whole and
sole responsibility to cultivate this plant with the best
fertilizer on earth and by watering it regularly. Hence parent
needs to be that firm in this job that they should make it by
whatever it takes.
I have seen many parents of the teenagers saying “Explain
my kid, make him understand as he / she doesn’t listen to
me. You can charge any fee for that”. This happens when
proper attention is not given during their childhood. Had it
been that few important measures would have taken right
from the childhood then this situation would not have
occurred.

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Issues tackled during childhood will lead to good habits and
child when grows up understands things morally and can
decide like what is good and bad for him and can take wise
decisions. So, persistent efforts by parents during childhood
will lead to remarkable results. Dedicated efforts to put in to
let the child be expressive in his / her manner so that you
understand his / her feelings and make things very easy for
him / her. Believe me, it becomes very difficult for a child to
tackle situations at various stages of life but with your
attitude of being persistent in smoothening the path will
keep him / her motivated and happy throughout his / her life.

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19. PROTECTIVE
It’s the responsibility of the parents to be protective and they
need to be precautionary. By protective, here, we mean in
terms of the safety and security of the child. The Do’s and
Don’ts to be followed as security measures and must be
clearly explained like parents must have kept some code
languages so that the child can figure out the difference
between known and unknown people. Being proactive and
protective is good but being over protective will lead to a
shy child / over pampered / a dependent child who cannot
think on his own, act on his own or decide on his own.

Secondly, parents are expected to plan various stages of
life with respect to their child’s needs like physically and
mentally, financially, socially, intellectually and emotionally.
Now let us understand this in detail.

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By physically, you are expected to keep them physically and
mentally fit throughout their life.

Financially means fulfilling their financial desires related to their
growth, plan their career and their day to day needs.

Socially, means making them feel comfortable in the society,
amongst your family and friend circle, amongst their peer group
and in other gatherings. You as a parent need to socialize with
people so that your child gets used to the people around and
enjoys mingling with others. You should take your child for a
walk / a garden / to market. Let him / her get used to various
types of environment, talk to people around. You need to teach
him / her how to behave in the society. Let him get used to the
crowded areas / bus / trains. This will make him / her internally
strong and build his / her self – esteem.

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20. PERMISSIVE / PUNISHING

To be permissive and punishing is very important.
Permissive means you need to expect less and be lenient
as per situations.
Insist on a particular behavior. Explain them what a good
behavior is and what is a bad behavior. Explain them how
to deal with it. Punish undesirable behavior. A mild
punishment is must to show that it is unacceptable. Now the
question is “How to Punish?” You can punish your child by
not preparing his / her favorite meal for lunch / dinner. By
not giving additional perks as gadgets / additional screen
time / play time. Here, you got to be consistent in your
actions.
Be specific while explaining the undesirable behavior,
give logical details.
For instance “The table is dirty. Ask your child to clean the
plate / spoon / bowl on it. Just by saying “Clear the mess”
would not and actions matters a lot. Please note that the
basic learning for your child is through observation.
You got to strike a balance between being permissive and
punishing. It needs to be handled very smartly.

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21. PRAISES
We all very well know the power of praise in our life. And so
the most important factor in raising your child are the
praises. All on earth is hungry for that, isn’t it? Praising your
child will give your child an identity, recognition and will build
self - confidence.

 Teach your child to receive all appreciations with open
arms and accept them with pride.

 Teach your child to appreciate others, which will keep
him / her going and things will get better to best very
soon.

 Teach your child to praise the God for what he / she
has been blessed today. Make him / her feel that he /
she is blessed and such privileges are not meant for
all. He / she is the chosen one to enjoy the privileges
of life.

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This will help you to develop the sense of gratitude in your
child. Your child would learn to appreciate others, motivate
others, may inspire someone and will get a feel of being
responsible towards others.

Similarly, teach your child to accept criticisms in a positive
manner. Tell him / her “You are not going to be liked by all
every time, there would be instances and situations where
you, your thoughts wouldn’t be accepted by all but if taken
positively for self-improvement, it will help you to have your
improved version. It is good to do the corrections well in
time rather than repenting throughout the life.

For example, appreciate his / her good acts, praise him /
her before others. Put his / her success stories on social
media and show him / her the likes and comments he got
from people. Allow your child to accept positive comments
and handle negative comments with courage and patience.
This will give boost to his / her good acts.

“Don’t let compliments get to your head
And don’t let criticism get to your heart”.

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22. PRAYERS
Needless to say the importance of prayers in our life. Keep
praying for your family. Inculcate the habit of praying in your
kids. Let them know that prayers keeps us well connected
to our creator and gives the feeling of being secured. It
gives hope to live life fully. We all pray for our wellbeing.
Are we inculcating the habit of praying regularly in our
child?
Nowadays, all are very busy but at least praying together
can be followed as a ritual in every house.

It’s referred to have a line of communication with god which
teaches one to talk to God openly, ask for answers and ask
for forgiveness. This will teach your child to be humble and
modest with people and stay grounded on earth.

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Not only that, it will also teach them to forgive people who
has done ill to him / her. Give him / her a new perspective
of life to have a peaceful mind – A spiritual way of living.
Teach your child to pray along with you in the morning,
before meals and evening time. Prayers when jointly done
in the family creates harmony in the family and lead to
peaceful life. Kids can be taught how important it is to pay
gratitude to God for all the blessings showered upon. They
must learn to pray for others too. This will enhance the
bonding in the community where we live and would make
this earth a best place to live in.

Let us understand this in detail.

Many a times, children fight amongst themselves due to
which parents too break their relations. After some while,
children are seen playing together whereas parents
continue to hold their grudges.

If your child comes to you with a situation where he / she
has been hurt by someone, you need to teach him / her to
let go and forget whatever happened as hurting others will
again create pain in hearts and the cycle would continue.
Tit for tat situation may arise. So, the best way to forgive
someone is to pray for him / her and let that person know
that you will always keep your doors open for him / her. Tell
him / her that “I am sure that one day you would realize your
mistake and come back to me. I shall be waiting for you
buddy. Meanwhile my best wishes will always be with you”.
Same feelings must be developed amongst siblings.

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23. PROUD
Parenting is a thankless job which demands continuous
efforts. Parents put in their best tirelessly and expect non –
monetary rewards in the form of their child’s conduct,
habits, character and personality.

It is the parent’s decision to have a family and having a child
brings fulfillment in life.

Whatever your child is today, is inspired by you. Yes, you
are a major source of inspiration to him. Be an example to
him / her and inculcate values that befits a responsible
human being.

 Express your love to your child with your words and
actions.

 Nurture your child in such a way that not only you but
the whole world feels proud.

 Believe in your child and let the child feel proud of your
upbringing.

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Celebrate proud moments with your near and dear
ones.

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Parents, remember

“Good is good only until you unleash the best”

And so you need to take this opportunity to explore yourself
as the best parent.

The best example here is the COVID 19 situation. Many of
us must have seen the situation as a disaster and many
must have enjoyed the lockdown period as an event where
they could celebrate each and every moment with their
spouse, kids, family, neighbors and others. It has really
taught us well.

COVID 19 lockdown, an eye opening period of our real life
where we could meet ourselves and explore our hidden
potentials. You must have got enough time to watch in and
around you, the nature and other surroundings. Ample time
to understand and sort out things. Learn something new
and teach something new. As the entire world stayed at a
standstill, we all remained equal in all means.

Survival at the top most priority where all turned out to be a
warrior. Nobody had ever thought that life would stop
suddenly and we would strive for even the smallest
happiness. But then, we learnt that we must prepare our
child for the bad days as you never know when and where
life takes a U turn.

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