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TREAT YOURSELF WITH Love yourself first?
KINDNESS ! What a mistake

Self love & Self esteem Why loving yourself is
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A poem for you: You
Matter October | Vol. 07

CONTENTS EDITOR
S NOTE 1-2
3
What Is Self-Love 4-5
Self Love & Self Esteem 6-9
Rosenberg Scale
The Magic of Loving Yourself 10
Is Self-Love Considered
Narcissistic? 11
Love Myself by BTS

TABLE OF 8 Simple Ways to Love 12

Yourself 13
40 Self-Care Ideas 14-15
The Color of Self-Love 16-17
Love Yourself First? What a
mistake 18
Why Loving Yourself Is Hard?

Random Words for You! 19

10 Journal Prompts For Self 20
Love
It’s Quotes Time, Honey!
4 Signs You Don't Love 21
Yourself 22

Effects of Not Love Yourself 23
Love yourself: The Art of Self-
Acceptance 24

CONTENTS Guide to Loving Yourself 25

A poem for you: You Matter 26
How you can learn to love 27-28
yourself
Little Things by One Direction 29
This or That: Love Yourself 30
edition
Quotes Section 31

Travel for Loving Yourself 32-37

REFERENCES

TABLE OF

EDITOR'S NOTE

Hello everyone, first of all, I would like to thank my lovely MUHAMMAD SHAMIEL BIN
lecturer, Madam Shatrah for her assistance throughout the MUHAMAD SAHRIN
making of this e-magazine and also kudos to my team 2021479018
members who love to assist one another and are attentive to PI007K06
every small detail of this e-magazine in order to come out
with this amazing e-magazine. In my view, even if self-love
isn't taught in schools or universities, it can be passed on
from one person to the next by example. By encouraging
self-acceptance and demonstrating that we don't have to
conform to societal expectations as teenagers, we can be
true to ourselves. Because we are free, we don't have to be
self-conscious about our appearance or our mentality all the
time. We were taught as adolescents that we are all unique
in some way, and now it's time to accept that. To all my
dearest readers, I hope you enjoy and gain new knowledge
from our e-magazine. Last but not least, remember always to

。 。love yourself and be yourself all the time ◕‿◕

KHARIATUL ADAWIYYAH Hello, everyone! First and foremost, I'd want to express my
BINTI ROSLAN gratitude to Madam Shatrah, my lecturer, for her assistance and
2021215158 advice in the creation of this magazine. Also, I'd like to applaud
PI007K06 my group members for their outstanding contributions throughout
the process of our E-Magazine. It’s really a tough work, but it was
a terrific learning experience for us. As we all know, the term
"Love Yourself" is no longer uncommon in our society. "Love
Yourself" is a phrase that everyone is familiar with. However, do
they really understand how this phrase works? The vast majority of
them will answer no. The majority of us have no idea how to put it
into practice in our own lives. We had no chance to learn,
practice or even experience the feelings that we are good,
valuable and worthy. As a prove, when we're doing something,
we are concerned about what others think of us. However, the
behaviour will gradually cause us to lose confidence in ourselves
since we would feel insecure in everything we do as if we're not
good enough. To my prospective readers, I hope you gain and
learn something from our E-Magazine. Our magazine gives you all
the information you need to know about how crucial it is to love
yourself. Make yourself a priority and ignore what people think
about you. Do what makes you happy, honey <33

EDITOR'S NOTE

Assalamualaikum and hello everyone! First and foremost, I

want to send my biggest gratitude to my lecturer, Madam

Shatrah for giving the advice and providing guidance during

this e-magazine production. I sincerely appreciate your

guidance and time spent helping me. Secondly, I would like

to thanks my groupmates for their support and giving the

very best commitment to finish this e-magazine together with

success. Your dedication and enthusiasm are really

inspiring. Moreover, I truly appreciate you guys’ effort as we

have really worked well as a team. The purpose of this e-

magazine was made to advocate and informing people about

the topic called “Firstly Love Yourself” after I made a lot of

research on this issue, I received so much knowledge about

the importance of the topic. This issue surely opens my eyes

to acknowledge the importance of loving yourself. Many MAISARAH BT AHMAD

people however who still has a tough time expressing and FAIRUZ

loving themselves. Surely, it is not easy to start loving 2021825634

yourself back after hating what you hate the most about PI007K06

yourself. Nevertheless, it is not hard to seek help and always

be aware that it is important for everyone to take care of their

mental health it is just like taking care of their physical

health.

Hello everyone! I hope all of you have an amazing day today.

First and foremost, I would like to thank my lecturer, Madam

Shatrah, who has given us a lot of guidance throughout the

making of this magazine. Then, it is definitely to my team

members who have worked hard and given a lot of thoughtful

ideas to make this magazine project a success. Furthermore, I

would also love to thank my parents who have always

supported me and understood the busyness of my daily class

schedule and assignments. I feel that self-love is very

important for everyone. Yes, we also need to care about

others. However, we should take care of ourselves and care

AINUL MARDHIAH BINTI about our health first before anyone else. It is because of how
MOHD FARID we want to help others while we are neglected. Most
2021490692 important thing is that it is okay for us to express ourselves to
PI007K06 others and remember that our own mental and physical health
should always come first. I genuinely hope every person who

reads this magazine can learn to love and appreciate

themselves more. Last but not least, treat yourself and other

people with kindness <3

WHAT IS SELF-LOVE?

WRITTEN BY KHARIATUL ADAWIYYAH

Before an individual could execute it, YOUR TIME IS
they must first comprehend what it LIMITED,
entails. Self-love is a feeling of
admiration for oneself that develops SO DON'T WASTE
as a result of behaviours that IT LIVING
promote our physical, psychological,
and spiritual development. SOMEONE ELSE'S
Self-love is defined as having a great LIFE
regard for one's own happiness and

well-being. Self-love entails
attending to your own needs rather -STEVE JOBS
than putting others' needs ahead of
your own. Self-love entails refusing LOVE YOURSELF FIRST
to accept anything less than what you AND EVERYTHING
deserve. Because we all have
different ways of taking care of ELSE FALLS INTO LINE,
ourselves, self-love can mean YOU REALLY HAVE TO
different things to different people.
It's crucial to your mental health to LOVE YOURSELF TO
figure out what self-love looks like for GET ANYTHING DONE
you as an individual.
IN THIS WORLD



-LUCILLE BALL

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What does self-love mean to you?
For beginners, self-love can be
interpret as priotizing yourself.
We were taught as children that
being selfless is more valuable You need to patriotize yourself for a
than being selfish. We're meant change because you have your own
to give back to others, prioritise goal to be reach. You have a
others over ourselves, and make promising future ahead of you.
sacrifices for the greater good. Perhaps a marriage and children.
You have a lot of travelling to do, a lot
of learning to accomplish, and a lot of
Selflessness is crucial, but experience to gain. Sure, it's fantastic
putting the happiness and well- to give back to your community by
being of others ahead of our own volunteering your time, but don't lose
wants and needs is not always as sight of your own objectives and
justifiable as it appears. If we hr
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continuously put others before
ourselves, we will never be our the life you desire. Make yourself a
best selves or live our greatest priority!

lives. Prioritizing oneself, in the Furthermore, you need to prioritize
end, involves devoting time and yourself as no one is going to
attention to your own needs, prioritize you. The only person who
ambitions, goals, and desires. It will prioritise you in your life is
also implies that you provide the yourself unless you find the most
same compassion and beautiful and wonderful spouse in
understanding to yourself as you the world. You must be your own
do to others. strongest supporter. Make a stand
for yourself. Pursue your ambitions.
Spend your time doing things that
excite you, make you happy, and
make you feel fulfilled. You will have
a more rewarding life if you put your
happiness and dreams first.

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SELF LOVE &
SELF ESTEEM

Self-love is characterised as Self-esteem is defined as

unconditional acceptance our assessment of our own
image, or, in other words,
and affection for oneself. our assessment of our own
value and how we feel
You might think, but how

can I get there? Self-love, about it. Self-esteem is also

on the other hand, does not known as "sense of self-
appear out of nowhere; it is worth" or "feeling of self-
earned by consistent worth." It's not called
behaviour. It is currently "knowledge of self-worth"
without reason. This is

impossible to love ourselves, because self-esteem has

just as it is impossible to nothing to do with objective

causes for our worthiness or

love anyone we meet on the

unworthiness. It's more

spot. However, love, about how we value

especially self-love, can ourselves on a personal

develop with time. We level. The phrase "sense of
should start acting like self-worth" is made up of
someone we can love if we three words: sense, self, and
want to love ourselves! worth. The word ‘sense'
implies that self-esteem is

However, in order to do so, concerned with how we feel

we must have self-esteem about ourselves. The word
in ourselves! ‘self' refers to the topic of
our identity. And the word

'worth' implies that

something is being

measured.

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HOW DO WE
IDENTIFY OUR
SELF ESTEEM?

CHECK YOURS WITH ROSENBERG SCALE!

I FEEL THAT I AM A PERSON OF WORTH, AT LEAST ON A

EQUAL BASIS WITH OTHERS
AGREE
DISAGREE

I feel that i have a number of good qualities


AGREE

DISAGREE

all in all, i am inclined to feel that i am faillure
AGREE
DISAGREE

i am able to do things as well as most other people
AGREE
DISAGREE

I FEEL THAT I DO NOT HAVE MUCH TO BE PROUD OF

AGREE
DISAGREE

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HOW DO WE
IDENTIFY OUR
SELF ESTEEM?

CHECK YOURS WITH ROSENBERG SCALE!

I TAKE A POSITIVE ATTITUDE TOWARDS MYSELF
AGREE
DISAGREE

ON THE WHOLE, I AM SATISFIED WITH MYSELF
AGREE
DISAGREE

I WISH I COULD HAVE MORE RESPECT FOR MYSELF
AGREE
DISAGREE

I CERTAINLY FEEL USELESS AT TIMES
AGREE
DISAGREE

AT TIMES, I THINK I AM NO GOOD AT ALL
AGREE
DISAGREE

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In a society that teaches We developed the ability to
us to put others before put others before ourselves.
ourselves, self-love may We came to understand the
seem selfish. We make an significance of achieving
effort to keep a consistent success for ourselves. We
self-love practice because learned the value of hard
skipping self-love time work and saving money.
leads to regret. It's a pain However, we failed to learn
in the neck. Self-love is how to properly feed
something we all know we ourselves so that we would
need, yet it's something be well-prepared for the
we struggle with. Isn't journey ahead. Self-love and
that bizarre? establishing a deep, internal
relationship have a slew of
positive effects. You have a
chance if you start a
romantic relationship with
yourself.

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You Deserve FLESRUOY EVOL
To Be Happy

Set Loving
Boundaries

In tim e, your capacity to discern
what is and isn't in your best
interests will im prove along with
your sense of self-worth. Sim ply
put, the m ore self-love you have,
the less tolerant you'll be of awful
treatm ent. Your life will becom e
clearer if you have the objectivity
to see what you are and are not
willing to accept in it.

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Embrace Your FLESRUOY EVOL
Own Peace

Recognize &
Prioritize Your
Needs

Before you can establish a
genuine relationship with yourself,
you m ust first uncover your own
needs. Without self-love, you will
always put the needs of others
before your own. This applies to
your romantic partners as well as
friends and family members. Self-
love entails assessing your life
objectives and achieving them. It's
all about following your instincts.

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Filled With FLESRUOY EVOL
Positive Energy

Prevent Self-
Sabotage

W hen things are going well, have you
ever realise that you've ruined the
m om ent by doing som ething hurtful?
Self-acceptance elim inates self-
destructive behaviour. As we help
you grow in love, it will be easier to
appreciate the good things in life.

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IS SELF-LOVE
CONSIDERED
NARCISISSTIC?

WRITTEN BY KHARIATUL ADAWIYYAH

By as far as we know, self-love is the Narcissists spend most of their time alone
unapologetically embracing of oneself,
prioritising one's own needs, and because most people could identify their toxic
being proud of and confident in one's
accomplishments. Contrary to traits. Narcissistic conduct usually manifests
narcissism, self-love is indeed a
healthy mentality. Narcissism on the itself in the early years of maturity, especially in
other hand is a personality marked by
an exaggerated feeling of self- men. Males contribute to 50-70% of persons
importance and a complete absence
of empathy. They believe they are with Narcissistic Personality Disorder. It's
superior to the majority of people and
can only be understood by individuals unclear what's causing this. Perhaps it's a
who are similarly unique. This sense of
distinction comes at a cost, and it is combination of elemental composition,
incredibly unstable. Because their self-
esteem is so brittle, people with parenting, and experiences as a child.
narcissistic illnesses require frequent
reassurance from their friends. Throughout their childhood, boys are typically

taught that they are unique and special. While

this may appear to be classical conditioning, if

praise is not given appropriately, these boys

may grow up to be men who believe they are

superior to others.

Narcissism is a highly toxic personality trait, and

anyone who recognises these troubling

characteristics will be ejected from your life. As

a result, persons who suffer from this illness had

very few friends and spend most of their time

alone. They see other people's rejection as their

own personal rejection. Because they are

superior to all others and no one is deserving of

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BTS LOVE MYSELF LYRICS

I OPEN MY EYES IN THE DARKNESS LOVE MYSELF

WHEN THE SOUND OF MY BEATING HEART BY BTS

FEELS UNFAMILIAR,

I FACE YOU IN THE MIRROR

AN AFRAID LOOK, A LONG-PENDING

QUESTION

PERHAPS, THAN LOVING SOMEONE ELSE, IT

IS MORE DIFFICULT TO LOVE MYSELF

LET’S BE HONEST AND ADMIT WHAT WE

HAVE TO ADMIT

THAT YOUR STANDARDS ARE MORE STRICT

WHEN THEY ARE APPLIED TO YOU

THE WIDE GROWTH RING IN YOUR LIFE

THAT IS ALSO A PART OF YOU, THAT IS

ALSO YOU

SO LET’S FORGIVE YOURSELF NOW

OUR LIFE IS TOO LONG TO BE GIVEN UP
TRUST ME IN THE MAZE
ONCE THE WINTER PASSES, THE SPRING
WILL COME AGAIN
THE STARE OF A COLD NIGHT
TO HIDE MY MISERABLE SELF,
I TOSSED AND TURNED, BUT
DID I FALL TO BE SHOWERED BY THOSE
COUNTLESS STARS I
’M THE ONLY TARGET AIMED BY THOSE
THOUSANDS OF GLITTERING ARROWS
YOU’VE SHOWN ME I HAVE REASONS
I SHOULD LOVE MYSELF...

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GET SOME MORE ZZZS
MAKE 'YOU' TIME AS
PRIORITY
#DOYOURJOB
STOP CRITISING
YOURSELF

8 SIMPLE
WAYS

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GET IT OUT

GET UP AND GO!

FEWER LATTES

CHANGE THE WAY

YOU ENGAGE WITH

SOCIAL MEDIA

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CHECKLIST!

40 self-care ideas

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Watch funny Sit in the grass and Stargazing
your crafty: colouring, sit in a comfy chair observe the passing

knitting, stitching, etc. YouTube videos.
and read books
clouds.



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EVOL- FLES Pink
FO ROLOC EHT
Represents the
Heart Chakra

The colours pink and green signify the heart
chakra, respectively. Pink, on the other
hand, is exclusively associated with self-
love, while green is associated with love for
others. Pink is an important colour because
it helps us love ourselves before we can love
others. It can also have a significant impact
on our lives if used correctly. In terms of
emotions, pink evokes feelings of
compassion, kindness, value in one's own
eyes, and acceptance. It is a symbol of
innocence and purity. It aids in enhancing
our ability to both offer and receive love. It
adds a softer, gentler tone to existence by
reflecting the love of life and kindness.
When dealing with grief and emotional
pain, the colour pink might be beneficial.

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H OWo aTffOectUyoSuEr liPfeINK

tWhen you want to convey that you are a calm, collected individual:
who is not a threat, please wear anything pink. This is useful while
working with others as a teacher, on a first date, or as a healer.
Just entering the massage room and seeing someone in soft pink
establishes the mood for relaxation and tenderness right away.

Wearing pink

To an Interview:

Choose pink when you want to downplay your power. If
a brighter color would be appropriate for the company
you're interviewing with, pink is good option for
expressing confidence. "The Daily Mail" reported in
2012 that wearing a pink shirt is related with being
confident, providing higher salary, and having achieved
greater education.

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Love Yourself First?

What a
mistake
Written By: Muhammad Shamiel

he Beatles sang, “All you need is love,” an
admirable sentiment, even if a bit naïve. For you
also need food, shelter, and some luck. While you

T need more than love alone, love—and its
companion, caring—comes close to the two
things that make life sweet and worthwhile.

A song's lyrics will never be able to express everything
that's going on in the world. John Lennon elaborated on
the idea, saying, "We need to learn to love ourselves
first, with all our splendour and our defects. In order to
fully awaken our potential to love others, we must first
love ourselves.

Posters and the internet are replete with John Lennon's
ideas. It perfectly encapsulates the mood of the last half-
century; in fact, the attitude is so universal that it may be
used as a cliché. The belief is that love is the most
important thing in the world, but it can only be achieved
by first learning to love yourself. However, the concept is
flawed due to the fact that it goes against the essence of
human beings. Yale sociologist Nicholas Christakis
asserts that human nature has a design. An architect's
sketch limits the ultimate design, but it has no bearing on
either how it will work or what its appearance will be.
The blueprint for a cottage cannot be used to build a
skyscraper, but the eventual use of the skyscraper is
defined downstream, not in the architect's office.

Love for partners and children is part of the human

blueprint, according to Christakis in his book Blueprint:

SELF-LOVE The Evolutionary Origins of a Good Society. 16

"Love and attachment are rarely recognised as basic "You are worth
human feelings, but they strike me as vital for all more than your
social animals," says primatologist Frans de Waal in
Mama's Last Hug. He claims that love is a uniquely second
human emotion since it is based on a feature that just thoughts and
a few of the other mammals share. We can sense a
special connection not just to our species but also, in maybes."
the end, to those who are not related to us because of
love. OurMindFulLife.Com

The love we have for our children and partners is built
into our DNA as social beings. It's how we've
managed to survive as a species. To put it another
way, the group comes before the individual, as was
generally believed until the dawn of the modern
period. A person is the product of their interactions
with others in a group. The love that we experience,
feel and give happens as a result of our interactions
with other people.

It's the internal attitude that makes life worth living,
not the outward display, that makes love so important
in our lives. When love is properly understood, it is
ultimate. Self-love happens as a result of loving
others in a way that benefits both parties. Others
aren't just a side note; they're a vital part of who we
are. When we care profoundly for someone, we
experience love. The paradox is that because love and
caring are unselfish, they serve as a breeding ground
for the love of oneself.

If love doesn't grow, it isn't love. The power of love
transforms people, making them better and stronger
as a result. Love is a feeling that comes from the
depths of the soul. And as they honour and
appreciate one another, their love deepens. We
increase in size in direct proportion to the amount of
love we provide. In this manner, love is a reality-
maker since it generates its circumstances.

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The short answer to this issue is that we Acknowledging the pain and letting WHY
were raised in an environment that did yourself to be completely honest LOVING
not teach us how to love ourselves. with yourself is a significant step YOURSELF
IS
Self-love may not seem significant to toward loving yourself. Forgive HARD?
some, yet it is one of the most important yourself for past mistakes and things
you're embarrassed about. WRITTEN BY KHARIATUL ADAWIYYAH
things you can do for yourself. You gain Bearing a lot of unpleasant emotions
self-confidence and self-worth as a result such as envy, hatred, and fury can be
of loving yourself, therefore you feel harmful. We must learn to accept not

more positive in general. You will feel just the feelings that lead to love, joy,
much happier and start taking care of and happiness in our life, but also

yourself if you can start loving yourself. those that lead to anxiety, insecurity,

When we look in the mirror, we see a and rage. While we must learn to
variety of imperfections and recall far too reconcile with a cold and closed
heart, we must also learn to
many prior experiences and failures to acknowledge and embrace the agony
love ourselves. You will become more that comes with love. Questioning
confused, irritated, and disappointed in yourself if you really love yourself

life if you don't love yourself, listen to can be challenging because you must
yourself, and comprehend yourself. accept your shortcomings and flaws.

Things will gradually improve in each and Today is the day when you can love

every way conceivable as you learn to yourself entirely and without holding
love yourself and continue to love any hopes for yourself.

yourself more and more every day. Self-

love isn't always simple, unfortunately.

FIRST LOVE YOURSELF

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10 JOURNAL PROMPTS

FOR SELF LOVE

section 1: Dive Deep

1. Make a list of your most pressing insecurities right now.

2. How long have you been dealing with this insecurity? Do you
recall when it all began?
What happened if you answered yes?

3. How does your insecurity affect your day-to-day life?

4. How is your insecurity preventing you from achieving your life
goals?

section 2:Dreams

5. What would it be like if you didn't have to be concerned about
this?

6. What would your ideal living be like if you weren't so afraid?

7. What would your ideal living be like if you had infinite resources?
What would you do for a living, where would you work, how many
pets and children would you have, and so on? Let your imagination
run wild and dream big.

section 3:Plan of
Attack

8. Make a list of at least three things you admire about yourself.

9. Write your insecurities on the opposite side of the page. This is
going to be your own mantra. It's best to do it three times a day or
whenever your insecurity pops up.

E.g: Money is a source of struggle for me, but it is also a source of
abundance in my life.

10. What is one scary thing you can undertake this week that will
help you get closer to your goals? Begin with small and take things
one step at a time.

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It's Quotes Time,
Honey!

“How you love yourself is "I will not let anyone walk
how you teach others through my mind with their
to love you”
― Rupi Kaur, Milk and dirty feet."
Honey ― Mahatma Ghandi

“The most powerful “We can never obtain peace
relationship you will ever have in the outer world until we
make peace with ourselves.”
is the relationship with
yourself.” – Dalai Lama

― Steve Maraboli, Life, the "We are each gifted in a
Truth, and Being Free unique and important way. It is

“I'm safe inside this container our privilege and our
called me.” adventure to discover our own

― Haruki Murakami, Kafka special light."
on the Shore - Mary Dunbar

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You Judge You Often Put
Yourself For Yourself Down
The Mistakes With What You Say





4 signs You Don't Love
Yourself

You Don’t Allow You Don’t Accept
Yourself To Compliments With A
Take Time Off Genuine Heart




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Written by Maisarah

Effects of Not
Love Yourself

Loving yourself simply means you are emotionally
stable. They are many effects that will happen if you
don't love yourself. These things can happen due to a
lack of self-care towards one-self. Other than that,
loving yourself also can be seen as having self-
awareness of your mental conditions. Such things as
you may experience if you don’t love yourself is
emotionally distraught. If someone is emotionally
distraught, they are so upset and worried that they
cannot think clearly.

Some other emotions such as anxiety, As human beings, we must always
depression and anger are the other take good care of our health. If we
common things that can happen when you don’t love ourselves, we tend to do
tend to not loving yourself. These things many bad things to ourselves. Such as
happen when you are too worried about taking drugs and having a drinking
something until you may experience many problem. People who don’t love
sorts of mental health conditions. However, themselves believe that taking those
when you give yourself enough rest after things brings happiness. But, things
working so hard on yourself, these that they don’t realise is that it
emotions can be easily healed. brought many harmful effects.

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Love yourself: The Art

of Self – Acceptance


Self-acceptance means trying to accept whomever you are and it is a vital component of mental

health. Without it, people may experience various emotional difficulties, such as depression and
anger. Being caught up in self-evaluation can also lead to people being very needy. Exposure to
images of people with more attractive features can affect our self-esteem and confidence. Being
judged by others can affect one’s self-esteem and confidence. Once people start comparing
themselves to others, they may begin to base their self-worth on the parts of themselves that they're
not proud of. This, in turn, may lead to them developing negative social comparisons.

Next, adopting a mindset of mindfulness rather than mindlessness is one of the simplest and most
natural ways of reducing self-evaluation. The focus of mindful attention is on acceptance of and study
of present experience rather than self-evaluation and self-criticism, hence mindfulness by definition
includes a state of self-acceptance. When one is mindful, one is completely present and aware of both
context and perspective. In contrast, when we are mindless, we are trapped in a rigid mindset that
excludes context and perspective. Furthermore, when facts and experience are processed mindlessly,
the possibility of evaluation and reinterpretation is eliminated.
love another.

The ability and willingness to let people see one's actual self is a crucial part of self-acceptance.
Living thoughtfully requires going about one's regular business without pretence or fear of being
judged unfavourably by others. People always keep missing the part where everyone has their flaws.
Accepting yourself as you seem to be and coming to grips with those characteristics of yourself that
you cannot alter is what it means to love yourself. It includes having self-esteem, a positive self-image,
and unconditional acceptance of oneself. This does not imply being arrogant, conceited, or believing
that you are superior to others. It involves having good self-esteem and believing that you are a
valuable human being.

Self-acceptance and self-love are essential components of good health. Refusing to love ourselves
may sustain the energy from our life. We gradually grow disconnected from the life energy as a result
of this process. As a result, this can lead to a deliberate health issue. In conclusion, it is up to you to
discover what makes you unique and to further develop those qualities to appreciate yourself. It is our
responsibility to do so. You can't sit around waiting for others' approval. Make an effort to accept
yourself. You're the only "you" you've had. It is in your best interests to reach your maximum
capabilities. You won't be able to love anyone else until you love yourself. Only to the degree that you
love yourself can you love another.

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Guide to
Loving Yourself

TRY ME!

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A poem for you :

Y You are not small. M
O You are not unworthy. A
You are not insignificant. T
T
U The universe wove you from a E

constellation, R


just so atom, every fibre in you comes from

a different star.

Together, you are bound by stardust ,
altogether

spectacularly created by the energy of the
universe itself.

And that, my darling,
is the poetry of physics,

the poetry of you.

—Nikita Gill, Your Soul Is A River



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TREAT YOURSELF WITH KINDNESS :

TIPS ON HOW YOU CAN LEARN TO LOVE YOURSELF

written by : Ainul Mardhiah

MPERFORM ACTS OF KINDNESS "We all commit random acts of kindness all the
any people indulge in self-indulgence time, so we may not realise it," she says, "but if
when they need a pick-me-up, but we do three, it's really noticeable; you feel like
research suggests that doing good for a wonderful person." Trying to accomplish
others, rather than for yourself, can boost more than that can backfire if you're not
happiness. Professor Santos cited research careful. It's almost as if it's a requirement.
that demonstrates that doing self-indulgent Varying Your strategy keeps you going.
things like getting a massage or napping Professor Lyubomirsky explains, "We found
can make you happier than volunteering to that if you didn't diversify your acts of
help someone or purchasing a coffee for kindness, you actually grew a little less joyful
the person behind you in line. "You just feel during the study because it was a type of
good about yourself as a person," research boring chore." "You can gain this bump at first,
author and psychology professor Sonja but if you always put money into parking
Lyubomirsky says, "whereas, if you're metres, you'll eventually lose it.". We felt better
pampering yourself, it could really lead to about ourselves as a result of these modest
feelings of guilt for not helping others." gestures, and they didn't cost us anything,
Professor Lyubomirsky discovered that unlike an expensive massage. Professor
doing three acts is more effective. One act Lyubomirsky says, "Sometimes it's even things
of kindness in one day enhances happiness like saying something nice, complimenting a
more than one act of kindness every day waiter or cashier." "It's such a modest effort for
for three days. you, How I Learned to Be Happy." It could be
quite beneficial to them."

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EXERCISE MORE INCREASE SOCIAL CONNECTIONS

Exercise can enhance your attitude, as anyone who According to research highlighted in the
has experienced a runner's high knows, and course, reconnecting with a buddy over lunch
Professor Santos emphasised this potent message, can improve happiness, but so can a
citing research. meaningful interaction with a stranger. People
People who were clinically depressed and exercised anticipated their levels of happiness before
frequently improved as much as those who took conversing with strangers on their commutes,
antidepressants, and exercisers were less likely to then scored their moods afterwards.
relapse after ten months. "Getting out of a "According to research author Professor Juliana
depression isn't the same as happiness, but the Schroeder, when people envision having a
studies all demonstrate that if you exercise, you feel conversation with someone, they expect it to
better," explains research author and psychiatry be unpleasant. "People report the exact
professor Dr K. Ranga Krishnan. "There isn't much reverse of what they expect: they found it to be
research done until people are depressed in some a more pleasurable experience... when
way. However, I believe that most people who compared to sitting alone or doing what they
exercise will tell you that they feel better and that regularly do. "Individuals are afraid of social
they will also tell you that they don't feel as good rejection, so they don't talk to strangers very
when they don't exercise." Exercise encourages the often," she says, "but her research reveals that
body to produce feel-good hormones and also aids in most people would converse with strangers."
the interruption of negative thoughts. Professor Schroeder says, "It's always fun to get
"You're getting out of bed and doing something, while to know another intellect." "One of the most
if you sit and dwell, your mood starts to go down, and difficult things we may interact with is another
that's called rumination, which means all you're doing person's thoughts, feelings, and opinions." It's
is thinking about the negative things," Dr Krishnan similar to peeling an onion. There's so much to
explains. We've even seen research that discover."
demonstrates that just one exercise session can
result in a slew of changes in the brain, which may be
the mechanism by which depression is alleviated."

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LITTLE THINGS 29

by : one direction

Your hand fits in mine like it's made just for me
But bear this mind, it was meant to be
And I'm joining up the dots with the freckles on your cheeks
And it all makes sense to me
I know you've never loved
The crinkles by your eyes when you smile
You've never loved your stomach or your thighs
The dimples in your back at the bottom of your spine
But I'll love them endlessly
I won't let these little things slip out of my mouth
But if I do, it's you
Oh, it's you, they add up to
I'm in love with you
And all these little things
You can't go to bed without a cup of tea
And maybe that's the reason that you talk in your sleep
And all those conversations are the secrets that I keep
Though it makes no sense to me
I know you never loved the sound of your voice on tape
You never want to know how much you weight
You still have to squeeze into your jeans
But you're perfect to me
I won't let these little things slip out of my mouth
But if it's true, it's you
It's you, they add up to
I'm in love with you
And all these little things
You'll never love yourself half as much as I love you
And you'll never treat yourself right darling, but I want you to
If I let you know, I'm here for you
Maybe you'll love yourself like I love you, oh
And I've just let these little things slip out of my mouth
'Cause it's you, oh, it's you
It's you, they add up to
And I'm in love with you
And all these little things
I won't let these little things slip out of my mouth
But if it's true, it's you
It's you, they add up to
I'm in love with you
And all your little things

THIS OR THAT

LOVE YOURSELF EDITION

Your favourite fun ways to pamper yourself

READING TV SERIES
FACE MASK DOING NAILS
FAV PLAYLIST
PODCAST ORDERING TAKE OUT
GOING OUT TO EAT

MANICURE PEDICURE

GETTING A MASSAGE BUYING A CANDLE

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QUOTES SECTION

"We have a choice "Dreams are like "Whatever you got going on
every single day stars. If you in you life, no matter what
it is, if it's a struggle, you
that we wake up of follow them, they
what you can put will lead you to just gotta fight and stay
in to world and I the destiny". positive, instead of just
ask you to please
choose love every LIAM PAYNE sitting there feeling sorry
single day". for yourself, just go make it

HARRY STYLES better and stay strong and
come back stronger".

LOUIS TOMLINSON

"AND REMEMBER , NOBODY'S FEELINGS ARE MORE IMPORTANT
THAN YOUR OWN. SO TAKE TIME TO LOVE YOURSELF".

ZAYN MALIK

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Travel


for loving yourself




To be in love is to want someone else to be content in their life. It's hard to start liking
yourself unless you meet and befriend yourself precisely where you are right now.
Travelling by nature has a framework that allows you to spend time alone with
yourself. You have the opportunity to initiate and deepen self-love when you travel.
This will awaken the desire within you for genuine happiness.

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4 Best Self-Love
Retreats

One Wellness Farm
Amanbagh
Kirpal Meditation
& Ecological
Center
Mindspo

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One Wellness Farm (Jamaica)

1.5k view

Look no further than Jamaica's shoreline to re-energize
yourself while taking in breathtaking Caribbean Sea views
and stunning sunsets. What the doctor ordered: Oneness
Wellness Farm. Regain your equilibrium and vigour by
attending a yoga retreat, a wellness retreat, or a
meditation retreat aimed at helping you discover more
about yourself.
The farm-to-table eating experience can include any
number of the wild fruits and vegetables that thrive on the
land.

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Amanbagh (India)

1.5k view

Get ready to immerse yourself in an otherworldly experience in
the foothills of northwest India’s Aravalli Range—right near the
Sariska Tiger Reserve! The Amanbagh resort is a magnificent
retreat that creates amazing opportunities to see tigers in their
natural habitat, take part in lakeside yoga classes, and munch
on fresh produce taken from the property’s organic garden.
While you’re at it, experience ancient wellness practices, enjoy
deep relaxation with a holistic massage, and even check out
abandoned ghost towns. You won’t run out of fun things to do
here.

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KCeirnptaelrM(Hedawitaatiiio) n & Ecological

1.5k view

The Kirpal Meditation & Ecological Center (KMEC) on Hawaii's
Big Island is a serene retreat encircled by lava rock walls.
Founder Leonard Sussman says, "This Center's objective is to
allow the weary Soul to rest from its entanglements, be able to
distinguish itself from the mind, and achieve inner peace."

You'll never want to leave this amazing place once you've been
there for a while!

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Mindspo (Bali)

1.5k view

The Mindspo Mansion, where Rachelle Fox's women-only
mindspo self-love retreat takes place in stunning Bali, is
where you'll find Rachelle Fox. It will be a big change from
your normal life to spend a week in a jungle house with a
group of women, living in a three-story structure with six
bedrooms.
Additionally, there's a yoga studio inside, an infinity pool
with views of the surrounding jungle, outside eating space
with an outdoor kitchen, and a rooftop patio with a home
theatre. And it's all done in total secrecy.

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