KMU 1013 HELPING RELATIONSHIP

KMU 1013 HELPING RELATIONSHIP

IS ARGUING A

NATURAL PART


OF ALL

RELATIONSHIPS?

FACTORS THAT LEAD TO ARGUING
DOES ARGUING BENEFITS YOUR RELATIONSHIP?

TIPS ON HOW TO ARGUE BETTER!

GROUP LEADER
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THERESA CLAUDINE AK HARRYKIRK
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MEMBERS

ERIKA TASHA ANAK TOSIM
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FILZAH NABILLA BINTI MOHAMAD
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JIMMY WONG SIE HERNG
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MOHAMAD ADAM SALMAN BIN

MOHD AZAMAN
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LECTURER

DR SALMAH BINTI MOHAMAD

YUSOFF

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C O NPAGE 1T E N T S
WHAT ARE THE TYPE OF

RELATIONSHIPS? THE EDITOR-IN-CHIEF
WHAT TYPE OF ARGUMENT
The editor in chief heads all the

THAT WE USUALLY ENCOUNTER
departments of the organization and is

WITH THEM? held accountable for delegating tasks

to staff members and managing them. 
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HOW TO REPAIR A RELATIONSHIP

AFTER AN ARGUMENT? SURVIVING THE FOREST
Survival skills are techniques that a

PAGE 9 person may use in order to sustain life

in any type of environment. 
DOES ARGUING BENEFITS YOUR

RELATIONSHIP? PAGE 3

PAGE 10-11 THINGS TO CONSIDER
WHILE TRAVELING
TIPS ON HOW TO ARGUE BETTER
Travel is the movement of people

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locations, and can involve travel by

REFERENCES foot, bicycle, automobile, train, boat,

airplane, or other means.

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WHAT TO PUT IN YOUR
TRAVEL BAG

The use of bags predates recorded

history, with the earliest bags being no

more than lengths of animal skin,

cotton, or woven plant fibers.

TYPE OF

RELATIONSHIP


Family is a group of two or more


persons who live together by birth,

marriage or adoption; all such related

persons are considered members of one


family.

FAMILY

WHAT TYPE OF ARGUMENT THAT WE USUALLY ENCOUNTER WITH THEM?

MONEY FAMILY
FAMILY

BUSINESS EVENTS

FROM FIGHTING OVER PARTNERSHIPS ARE HARD, FAMILIES OFTEN ARGUE

INHERITANCE TO REGARDLESS OF WHETHER ABOUT TOPICS RELATED

DISAGREEING ABOUT THE PARTNERS ARE TO EVENTS, ON ISSUES

WHO WILL PAY FOR RELATED OR NOT. BUT SUCH AS: WHO IS ON THE

AGING PARENTS OR WHEN PARTNERS ARE INVITE LIST, WHO IS

FAMILY EVENTS, FAMILY FAMILY MEMBERS, THE PAYING FOR WHAT,

FINANCIAL CONFLICT IS BUSINESS CONFLICTS WHICH DATES WORK FOR

TOP OF THE LIST WHEN OFTEN SPILL OVER INTO EVERYONE, THE

IT COMES TO WHY EXTENDED FAMILY LOCATION OF THE EVENT,

FAMILIES FIGHT. CONFLICT. AND WHO TO USE AS

VENDORS.

CARE OF
DISCIPLINE

ELDERLY
OF

PARENTS
CHILDREN
SOME PEOPLE FEEL THE
BEST PLACE FOR THEIR THE PROPER CARE AND
PARENTS WILL BE IN ONE DISCIPLINE OF SHARED
OF THE CHILDREN’S CHILDREN IS A CENTRAL
HOMES OR IN AN ASSISTED POINT OF CONTENTION
LIVING FACILITY, WHILE FOR MANY PARENTS. ONE
OTHERS FEEL THEY PARENT MAY HAVE A
SHOULD REMAIN IN THE MORE RIGID STYLE, FOR
FAMILY HOUSE OR IN A EXAMPLE, WHILE THE
RETIREMENT COMMUNITY. OTHER IS MORE LENIENT.

TYPE OF WHAT TYPE OF ARGUMENT THAT WE

RELATIONSHIP USUALLY ENCOUNTER WITH THEM?


Friendships are relationships that
BROKEN PROMISES

involve two very critical dimensions
Friends are crucial for our physical and mental well-being,
- interdependence and voluntary
but these relationships aren’t always smooth sailing. In
participation. fact, it’s common to experience some serious hurt from
your friends and a major way this happens is through
FRIENDS broken promises. Perhaps he cancelled plans at the last
minute, or she declined to attend an important party. But
while it may sting, the first thing to do is remember that no
one is perfect.

SCHEDULE CONFLICT

These days, with packed calendars and competing obligations, rescheduling plans with friends is all too common.
Arranging hangouts with pals can take weeks of back-and-forth.

EXPERIENCING ENVY

Maybe you’re still single and your BFF is married. Maybe your best pal is traveling the world and you’re broke,
stuck in a cubicle, paying off student loans. Even though you love your friends, you can end up feeling jealous of
them.

THINGS FEEL UNBALANCED

It’s common for relationships to experience periods where things are unbalanced. Maybe one friend is going
through a breakup and needs extra support or perhaps it’s possible another friend simply has more to discuss at
any given time.

BEING GHOSTED

Have a friend disappear on you is tough, especially if you felt close or if the connection seemed promising. Maybe
after a fun night out, your friend didn’t reply to messages or left an email unanswered. If you linger on the
heartache of being ghosted for too long, we can start to feel resentful and angry.

FEELING LEFT OUT

There’s no worse feeling than when you check Facebook
Monday morning to find out that your friends went on a
weekend getaway without you.

WHAT TYPE OF ARGUMENT THAT WE
TYPE OF
USUALLY ENCOUNTER WITH THEM? RELATIONSHIP

SEXUAL DESIRE
Two persons married, engaged, or

otherwise romantically paired.
This is probably the most frequent source of
conflict between couples. Often there are COUPLES
disagreements about the frequency of sex with one
person feeling their needs are not being met and
the other person feeling harassed or badgered.
Some couples argue about who does the initiating,
the lack of foreplay, sexual position, or sexual acts.

JEALOUSY

If you're both truly into one another, it's
inevitable that it will come up in some
form or another. This fight can also look
like, "Why are you still friends with your
ex on Facebook?"

CHILDREN MONEY

Many couples find themselves The issues related to money that couples
arguing even before they have argue about are numerous and many.
children. They may fight about Examples include what to spend money
whether to have them, when to have on, how much to save, what we are
them, how many to have, names, and saving for, wants versus needs, whether
so much more. Sometimes there are to merge money or keep it separate, how
arguments while trying to get bills should be divided and paid for, how
pregnant especially if there are to create a budget, or what should be
issues with fertility and deciding to included in the budget. Conflicts have
what extent the couple will go to the potential to increase when money is
have a child. running short, couples are going into
debt, fighting about how to get out of
debt, or who is responsible for the debts.

JOB

Losing or quitting a job is stressful. And it's highly likely to happen
to either one or both of you at some point during your
relationship.

OWN UP TO YOUR
HOW TO

MISTAKE REPAIR A

RELATIONSHIP

It's difficult to feel like you AFTER AN

constantly have to be correct. ARGUMENT?
That's a big boulder to carry
around every day. But if you fail GIVE EACH OTHER

to admit your mistakes, it will be TIME & SPACE
harder for you to grow
personally or in your Tell them that we are giving
relationship since it will feed them time and space because
your ego into thinking that you we care about their wellbeing.
are the better person than the During this time, don’t call or
other. text them more than you
agreed. When someone
FEEL YOUR
requests space, it is because
FEELINGS they want to explore their
independence and determine
Allow yourself to feel your what they want from the
emotions and ponder on the relationship.
situation when you take a break
from your partner. Allow the

feeling to pass until it no longer
feels as strong. You might be
ready to discuss the fight once
you've both calmed down.

“Even when we realize we are wrong, we keep denying it.

Winning an argument matters more than learning

something new—we love being right.”


Gustavo Razzetti

APOLOGISE &

RECONNECT

A good and sincere apology can help you to rebuild your
connection. To ensure that you are on the same page, you must
state what you did in order for your apology to be effective. You
have to let your partner know that you are on the same side after
you apologise. This can be anything from a touch to a hug, a grin,
an inside joke, or anything else that makes you feel connected. You
both gain closure by apologising and reuniting.

MAKE A PLAN FOR

THE FUTURE

When you don't have clear future goals, it's easy to feel adrift at any
point in your life. Having a goal in mind can assist to implement a
feeling of purpose, whether you are looking forward to anything in
the next week or year. Future planning is essential in developing a
healthy and long-lasting relationship. There are numerous reasons
why planning your future can enrich a relationship, the most
important of which is that it brings partners together. You may now
build a plan to help you handle future arguments more effectively
by using what you learned during this process.

“Be genuinely interested in everyone you meet and

everyone you meet will be genuinely interested in you”




8 Rasheed Ogunlaru

DOES ARGUING BENEFITS

YOUR RELATIONSHIP?

ARGUMENTS CAN HELP YOU BETTER UNDERSTAND

YOURSELF & WHAT YOU WANT IN YOUR

RELATIONSHIP

Diving deeper into what you argue about
and uncovering the underlying concerns

allows you to better understand yourself and what you want in your relationship and
then allows you to begin to actually address what’s at the heart of the matter.

ARGUMENTS CAN HELP YOU IDENTIFY CONCERNS

THAT NEED TO BE ADDRESSED



Sometimes we don’t know something is a problem until we fight about it.
Of course, most of our arguments are nothing new, we’ve had them a
hundred times. But, at other times they provide new information.

ARGUMENTS CAN LEAD TO GREATER

UNDERSTANDING, TRUST, AND CONNECTION




Arguments can be an important vehicle that takes you to a place of
deeper understanding, greater trust, and a more authentic connection in
your relationship.

KEEP THE ISSUES IN

1 A LOGICAL


SITUATION

Avoid letting emotion take over the logic of the
situation
Should focus on what happens in the situation
Control the emotion and speak rationally

HOW 2 USE "I" STATEMENT
TO
Do not blame wholly the other person
ARGUE Good example: “I have some objections in this

BETTER? proposal” and “I prefer this option in this plan,

other options are not my best choices”
Bad example: “This proposal has many problems”

and “I choose this option and reject the other

options”
Try to put yourself as the audience when delivering

your thoughts to the one who listens

3 DON'T BRING UP THE

PAST

Keep the argument to one topic rather than

drawing up the past events
Don’t let other issues lead the discussion to the

other direction
Straight to the point when arguing with other

people

LISTEN & CLARIFY
HERE
4 WHAT YOU DON'T
ARE
SOME
LISTEN TIPS
FOR
Determine the main point of the discussion (to avoid
YOU
misunderstanding)
Ask questions if you are not clear with the message from

the one who argues with you
Example : “Sorry, may I know what do you mean?”
Do not make any assumptions about the message

received

5 TAKE TIME OUT

Take a break when the argument still could not be

ended
Calm down and think about the better way to deliver

your thought
This is to avoid the argument become more worst

DECIDE WHAT IS

6 WORTH OF THE


ARGUMENT

The argument should be harmful to each other

include in the discussion
The aim of the argument must be clear (to solve

the problem by using the proper way)
Do not put to much attention to the small things

(small benefits) and focus on the impact on both

sides
The best argument would be the best way to

prove whether both sides get benefit or the

problem could be solved

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