Centering in Relationship

Centering in Relationships

A relationship guide to honoring your sovereignty,
while deepening connection and inner knowing.

Written and Designed by Janet Frost

Foundation Themes

Write about each of the relationship themes below.
Be slow and go on a search within your being

about what each theme looks and feels like to you.
❖ Intimacy:
Intimacy with myself is…

Intimacy with my partner is….

❖ Respect:
Respecting myself looks like…

Respecting my partner looks like…

❖ Kindness:
Kindness toward myself is...

Kindness toward my partner looks like…
❖ Trust:
Trusting myself looks like…

Trusting my partner looks like…

❖ Communication:
My self-talk looks like…

Communication with my partner looks like…

❖ Interest:
I show interest in myself by…

I show interest in my partner by…

❖ Flexibility:
Being flexible with myself means…

Being flexible with my partner means…

Breathe a luxurious breath.
What did you notice while writing? Any

sensations, thoughts, questions?
Did you learn something new about yourself?

What is clearer to you now after writing?

Inner World

What are your innate gifts, strengths, and
essences? How do they show up? Write about 5 or
more. Share with your loved one.
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Inner World

❖ What did you learn about your partner after
sharing? Anything surprising, endearing or
curious? Write below.

❖ How do you know when you are loved? What
makes you feel loved? Write about a time you
felt deeply loved and why and then share with
your partner.

Getting Current

❖ What are your growing edges? In what ways
do you want to grow as an individual?

What are you currently doing to improve yourself
as a partner? Get specific and practical. Write
about 3 ways to become action oriented in this
pursuit.
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Sovereignty

What are doing to take care of yourself? What can
you do for your well-being? Write three or more
ways you can show up and take care of yourself.
Keep in mind, this list can and should change over
time.
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Sovereignty

Take this time to write about your top 5 current
interests, passions, visions, goals and pursuits.
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❖ Of the five you wrote about, are you pursuing
any? Would you like to? What do you need to
discuss, plan for or shift so that you can pursue
them?

❖ Share with your loved one. Listen to their five.
Get curious, ask questions and listen.
Afterwards, write anything new, surprising or
important that you learned about your partner
and their visions, passions and pursuits.

Values

Choose 6-10 values that speak highest to you now
(see the values list). These values are like a
compass, pointing you in the direction of your
deeper truth and how you show up for yourself and
in this relationship. Your values can change over
time, as you grow, shift, and adapt…
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Share your values with your love one.

❖ Did you learn something new about yourself or
your loved one? Write it here…

Values

Co-create the guiding values of your relationship.
Choose 6-10 values together (either from your
combined values or others from the list). Refer to
these values often as navigation in calm, stormy or
foggy seas…

If you and your partner both choose
courtesy as a top ten relationship value,
you can navigate in stormy or foggy seas by
choosing to steer toward courtesy or
courteous actions. A real-world example
might be:

You and your loved one are both stressed
from a hectic work day and you feel
agitated inside. Since you both value
courtesy, simple politeness in your
interactions can offer relaxation and
connection. Courtesy might also look like
verbalizing that you are stressed and taking
care of yourself. Being courteous is
considerate. You choose to steer toward
courtesy as opposed to becoming short and
irritated with your loved one.

Our Guiding Values

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Questions for your partner:

Values List

Acceptance Communication
Accomplishment Community
Accountability Compassion
Accuracy Competence
Achievement Concentration
Adaptability Confidence
Alertness Connection
Altruism Consciousness
Ambition Consistency
Amusement Contentment
Assertiveness Contribution
Attentive Control
Awareness Conviction
Balance Cooperation
Beauty Courage
Boldness Courtesy
Bravery Creation
Brilliance Creativity
Calm Credibility
Candor Curiosity
Capable Decisive
Careful Decisiveness
Certainty Dedication
Challenge Dependability
Charity Determination
Cleanliness Development
Clear Devotion
Clever Dignity
Comfort Discipline
Commitment Discovery
Common sense Drive

Effectiveness Grace
Efficiency Gratitude
Empathy Greatness
Empower Growth
Endurance Happiness
Energy Hard work
Enjoyment Harmony
Enthusiasm Health
Equality Honesty
Ethical Honor
Excellence Hope
Experience Humility
Imagination
Exploration Improvement
Expressive Independence
Fairness Individuality
Family Innovation
Famous Inquisitive
Fearless Insightful
Feelings Inspiring
Ferocious Integrity
Fidelity Intelligence
Focus Intensity
Foresight Intuitive
Fortitude Irreverent
Freedom Joy
Friendship Justice
Fun Kindness
Generosity Knowledge
Genius Lawful
Giving Leadership
Goodness Learning

Liberty Recognition
Logic Recreation
Love Reflective
Loyalty Respect
Mastery Responsibility
Maturity Restraint
Meaning Results-oriented
Moderation Reverence
Motivation Rigor
Openness Risk
Optimism Satisfaction
Order Security
Organization Self-reliance
Originality Selfless
Passion Sensitivity
Patience Serenity
Peace Service
Performance Sharing
Persistence Significance
Playfulness Silence
Poise Simplicity
Potential Sincerity
Power Skill
Skillfulness
Present Smart
Productivity Solitude
Professionalism Spirit
Prosperity Spirituality
Purpose Spontaneous
Quality Stability
Realistic Status
Reason Stewardship

Strength Traditional
Structure Tranquility
Success Transparency
Support Trust
Surprise Trustworthy
Sustainably Truth
Talent Understanding
Teamwork Uniqueness
Temperance Unity
Thankful Valor
Thorough Victory
Thoughtful Vigor
Timeliness Vision
Tolerance Vitality
Toughness
Wealth
Welcoming
Winning
Wisdom
Wonder