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2019

Full
Circle

ONCE HOMELESS, TYLER
WEATHERUP NOW WORKS AT THE
SALVATION ARMY SHELTER THAT
SAVED HIM FROM ADDICTION. P.16

Friendship

“T wo are better than one, because making some people anxious, isolated Beverly A. Ivany, Words of Life January-April 2018, London, England
they have a good return for their and even more disconnected.
labour: If either of them falls
down, one can help the other up.” There’s nothing wrong with social media
—Ecclesiastes 4:9-10 if used with discretion. But no app will
ever replace rich friendships or times set
Many people today have “friends” via aside for people to meet face to face.
social media. They might “like” a post or
“love” a certain picture. People then feel So, at least for today, let’s not simply
that they are “connecting” with friends. reply to someone with a “like” or a
“love.” Rather, let’s give them a call
But often, sadly, it can be to the and arrange, if possible, a time to
detriment of actually getting together meet together. There’s nothing like it!
in order to deepen relationships and
strengthen loyal friendships. To learn more about friendship,
email us at faithandfriends@
Any of us can suddenly find ourselves can.salvationarmy.org or visit your
glued to our high-tech devices— local Salvation Army church.

May 2019 VOLUME 22 NUMBER 5

COVER SOMEONE CARES
STORY 5 Journey to Healing

The Salvation Army helped Inuk
cope with trauma.

LAUGHING MATTERS
8 Crank Up the Sound!

I loved my music. My mom loved
me. The music, not so much …

FAMILY TIME

5 10 Too Good to Be True?
God loves us even at our
worst moments.

FEATURES

13 Tolkien’s Fellowship

A new film tells the story behind The Lord of the Rings.

16 Full Circle

Once homeless, Tyler Weatherup now works at the
Salvation Army shelter that saved him from addiction.

22 Keeping God On Side

Mark Scheifele makes time for faith in the high-pressure
world of the NHL.

Cover photo: Ray Shum 22 COMMON GROUND
26 Positive Partnerships

A Salvation Army thrift store and
Community Living come together to
break societal barriers.

LITE STUFF
28 Eating Healthy With Erin

Sudoku, Quick Quiz, Word Search.

NIFTY THRIFTY
31 Fun in the Sun

Five thrift store finds for your vacation.

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Faith&Friends FROM THE EDITOR

Happy Endings Mission Statement
To show Christ at work in the lives of
When staff writer Kristin Ostensen real people, and to provide spiritual
interviewed Tyler Weatherup about the resources for those who are new to
worst day of his life, she was incredibly the Christian faith.
moved. Homeless and suicidal, Tyler found
himself sleeping at the bottom of a concrete Faith & Friends is
staircase. published monthly by:
The Salvation Army
“I’m so sorry,” Kristin said to him. 2 Overlea Blvd, Toronto
Without missing a beat, Tyler replied, “It’s OK. It’s Ontario, M4H 1P4
a good ending, so just hang in there—we’ll get to the International Headquarters
good stuff!” And then he laughed. 101 Queen Victoria Street,
“The fact that he could joke around about that London, EC4P 4EP, England
day demonstrates just how far Tyler has come,”
says Kristin. William and Catherine Booth
The Salvation Army’s Gateway of Hope shelter FOUNDERS
in Langley, B.C., was instrumental in Tyler’s Brian Peddle, GENERAL
recovery. Now, as a residential services supervisor, Commissioner Susan McMillan
he is helping others as he was once helped. TERRITORIAL COMMANDER
Tyler’s inspiring story is on page 16. Lt-Colonel John P. Murray
Another Army facility, this one in Yellowknife, SECRETARY FOR COMMUNICATIONS
played a role in Inuk’s journey to healing. Geoff Moulton, EDITOR-IN-CHIEF
The victim of abuse and trauma, both at home Ken Ramstead, EDITOR
and in the residential school system, Inuk found Brandon Laird
a safe place and a listening ear at The Salvation DESIGN AND MEDIA SPECIALIST
Army’s Bailey House, where he was helped on the Timothy Cheng
road to sobriety. SENIOR GRAPHIC DESIGNER
“Life is a whole lot better now,” Inuk concludes. Pamela Richardson, COPY EDITOR,
And in Whitby, Ont., an Army thrift store has PRODUCTION CO-ORDINATOR
partnered with a non-profit organization to help Ada Leung
people with intellectual diabilities break societal CIRCULATION CO-ORDINATOR
barriers. Kristin Ostensen
These are just a few happy endings illustrating STAFF WRITER, PROOFREADER
Giselle Randall
the good work that The Salvation STAFF WRITER
Army does from coast to coast.
For more snapshots, go to Scripture
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Faith&Friends SOMEONE CARES

Strong Faith
Inuk and Jason
Brinson. “Life is
a whole lot
better now,”
says Inuk

Journey to Healing

The Salvation Army in Yellowknife is
helping Inuk cope with family trauma
and the devastating legacy of the
residential school system.

by Linda Leigh

Between 1883 and 1996, the Inuk was just nine when he was
Canadian government sent sent from his traditional native
more than 150,000 Indigenous camp to a residential school. At the
children to residential schools across time, studying away from home
the country. These schools were was inviting since it allowed him to
designed to make them forget their escape his father’s physical abuse.
language and culture, and many But Inuk only went from one trauma
children suffered abuse there. to another.

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Place of
Safety
The
Salvation
Army’s
Bailey
House in
Yellowknife

Inuk’s Story a medical office, and then went on
“My school experience was lonely and to study legal administration at the
harmful,” Inuk says. “Discipline was university level.
harsh and students were prey to sex-
ual and physical abuse. “I eventually got sober, married
and had children,” Inuk says. “But
“Residential school traumatized I couldn’t give my children what I
me and, at 63, I now suffer from didn’t have—guidance and wisdom.
PTSD,” Inuk continues. “The aim And I struggled to find my identity
of the school was to eliminate all as an Indigenous person.”
aspects of my Aboriginal culture. I
was beaten for speaking my native Apology’s Aftermath
tongue. Other details are hard to Inuk had been sober for 18 years
give.” when, in 2008, Prime Minister Ste-
phen Harper expressed his regret over
After five years in the residen- the residential school system.
tial school system, Inuk, then 14,
returned to his fractured family. “When I heard Harper’s apology,
emotions were high and I turned to
“I lived in fear,” he says. “My par- the bottle,” says Inuk. “I was suicidal
ents were alcoholics and my father but didn’t follow through because
was abusive. I drank a lot of home I’d yet to find my sense of belonging
brew to dull the pain.” or purpose in life.”

Meanwhile, Inuk completed Inuk left his family and spent five
Grade 10, worked in retail and for

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“The Salvation Army gave me a roof over
my head and a listening ear.” INUK

days in an igloo for a time of self- Indigenous culture and identity.”
reflection. When he returned home, “The role of Bailey House is to pro-
his wife and children had moved
out. vide a safe environment, resources,
information, referrals and support,”
“The house was empty and they says Jason Brinson of The Salvation
left because of my search,” says Inuk. Army in Yellowknife. “The Army
“It was devastating.” has helped Inuk on his journey to
sobriety. We are very proud of Inuk’s
Full of Hope accomplishments and continue to
Inuk got sober again and moved to empower him in his recovery and
Yellowknife where he worked as a desire to heal and create a positive
cab driver. But when he couldn’t future for himself.”
renew his chauffeur’s permit due to
high blood pressure, he returned Inuk has secured employment
to drinking. with the Arctic Indigenous Well-
ness Foundation, a non-profit
“I ended up in a psychiatric ward,” organization dedicated to improv-
Inuk says. “They told me about The ing traditional and culturally based
Salvation Army’s Bailey House, and health care for Indigenous northern-
I agreed to go.” ers facing a high burden of disease
and unequal access to traditional
Bailey House is a 32-bed residen- health services. Inuk speaks at local
tial facility for homeless men that schools and shares his experiences
addresses issues such as addiction, with the students.
faith, relapse prevention, literacy,
anger management and self-esteem. “When he is not working, Inuk
attends services at our church,” says
“The Salvation Army gave me a Jason. “His faith is strong.”
roof over my head and a listening
ear while I addressed the cause of “Life is a whole lot better now,”
my addiction, which was my resi- says Inuk. “I have moved into safe
dential school experience,” Inuk and affordable housing. I have more
says. “They helped to restore my work to do, but I’m getting there. I’m
self-esteem and trust in people, and on a lifelong journey of healing and
encouraged me to show pride in my understanding.”

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Faith&Friends LAUGHING MATTERS

Crank Up the Sound!

I loved my music. My mom loved
me. The music, not so much …

by Phil Callaway

Illustration: Dennis Jones

L ast night was Nostalgia Night days even ahead of girls. My buddy
at our house. Ramona and Steve Rendall and I would purchase
I flipped through some old the latest albums, rush them home,
music records and played them. tape them, then insert them in our
Remember records? Records were car tape decks. Cassette tapes were
hugely popular back when the earth awesome.
was cooling and I was attending high
school. I have a few hundred in my I remember the day Steve pulled
basement. A part of my past. A part up in his 1970 Montego. “Climb in,”
of the good old days. A part of me. he said, a grin connecting his ears.
I lowered my expensive thrift store
Music was highly important to sunglasses and climbed in. “Roll up
me when I was a teen. I ranked it your window,” he said. I rolled it up.
slightly ahead of eating and some Then, as we pulled away, he calmly

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inserted a tape and set the volume at Which was twice.
about 150 decibels. The influence of someone who

Moments later our ears were cares—who simply takes time—is
flapping behind our heads, it was so immeasurable. Many parents of that
loud. era said, “Turn it down or throw it
out!” But she who yells the loudest
“STEVE!” I yelled.

I’m thankful for a mom whose attitude was,
“If he’s gonna listen, I’d like to know
what he’s listening to.” PHIL CALLAWAY

“WHAT?” isn’t always heard the best. I’m
“THAT’S GREAT! ABSOLUTELY thankful for a mom whose attitude
GREAT!” was, “If he’s gonna listen, I’d like to
He turned the volume way down know what he’s listening to.”
to 500. “You’re gonna be late?”
“No, I said, ‘That’s GREAT.’ Turn I asked her years later about the
the volume back up.” talks we had after the music died
down. She said she was always
Sneaky Parenting looking for ways to teach me about
I began playing my music for my God, and she would take whatever
mother. I played songs that most I gave her as a launching pad. The
adults her age couldn’t stand. I don’t girl was sneaky.
know what was wrong with her, but
she would pull up a chair and sit Sometimes I miss those days.
down. Somehow she cared enough Mom told me once that she missed
to listen. And she encouraged me them, too, although she probably
when she heard something she liked. didn’t miss the music that much—
at least not as much as I miss my
hearing.

(left)
Phil Callaway’s Laugh Again radio
program airs 700 times a week in
Canada. Visit him at laughagain.org.

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Faith&Friends FAMILY TIME

Too Good to Be True?

God loves us even at our worst moments.

by Diane Stark

Photo: © dedigrigoroiu/stock.Adobe.com

“How are you today, Nathan?” My mouth dropped open, but
our dentist, Dr. Hall, asked before I could respond, Dr. Hall said,
my nine-year-old son. “I’m sure that’s not true.”
“I’m good,” he answered. “I’ll sit
still today while you work on my “It is,” Nathan said. “When I was
teeth.” He looked at me and smiled. four, I wanted a toy at the store, but
“My mom told me that when I was Mom said no. So I threw a giant
little, I wasn’t very nice to you.” fit—the kicking and screaming
kind—and Mom got really close to
Dr. Hall chuckled. “It’s OK. A lot my face and said, ‘You better stop
of kids are scared of the dentist.” that right now.’ I put my hands on
my hips and my pouty lip out and
“I wasn’t scared. I was just bad said, ‘I’m not afraid of you.’ That was
when I was little.”

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the maddest my mom ever was at little kids sometimes do.”
any of her kids—and there are five “I’m a big kid now, and I don’t do
of us.”
stuff like that anymore.”
Hiding a smile, Dr. Hall said, “I’m “That’s right, and I’m glad for that.
surprised that you remember that.”
But I need you to know that even if
“I’ve heard my mom tell the story you did, I wouldn’t love you one bit
lots of times.” less than I do now.”

It was true. Even the words he “So that day at the store?”
used to recount the story were “There has never been one
the exact ones I used. I’d share it moment in your life when I haven’t
with friends when we were telling loved you. Even at your worst
“Terrible Twos” stories. I’d thought moments, I love you with all my
I was being funny, but I’d left my heart, and I’m sorry if I made you

I’d thought I was being funny, but I’d left my
son with the belief that he was bad.  DIANE STARK

son with the belief that he was bad. question that.” I held his chin and
I decided in that moment that I looked right into his eyes. “There
is nothing you’ve ever done or ever
would never again tell that story. could do that would change my love
for you.”
Overwhelming Love
When we got in the car, I turned to Nathan nodded. “OK, Mommy.”
him and said, “Nathan, I owe you an On the drive home, it was difficult
apology. You weren’t bad when you to control my emotions. I felt
were little, and I’m sorry if I made guilty for repeatedly telling a story
you think that.” that made my son feel ashamed of
himself. I felt grateful to be his mom
“But that day at the store, when I and overwhelmed with love for him.
said that to you .…” I also felt overwhelmed with
God’s love for me.
“I was wrong to tell that story
over and over again. You shouldn’t Moments in Time
have thrown a fit that day and you My conversation with Nathan
shouldn’t have said that to me, but
you were a little kid and that’s what

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Faith&Friends FAMILY TIME

Happy Family
Diane Stark and
her son Nathan.
“There’s never been
a moment in my life
when I haven’t loved
Nathan,” Diane says

reminded me of one I’d had with God pletely believed it. It sounded too
when I’d returned to my faith after good to be true.
having lost it for more than a decade.
Even after God had welcomed me But that day, I’d said the same
home, I still had many moments thing to my son, and I knew in my
when I’d question His love for me. heart that I’d meant every word.

The worst moments of my life If I could love my son in his worst
would play out in my mind like a moments, how could I doubt that
movie. I’d picture myself spending God would do the same for me? It
time with the non-believer I would reminded me of Jesus’ words in the
eventually marry, knowing he was Bible: “Which of you, if your son asks
pulling me away from my faith and for bread, will give him a stone? Or
not caring enough to stop it from if he asks for a fish, will give him a
happening. snake? If you, then, though you are
evil, know how to give good gifts to
“Then, God? You loved me even your children, how much more will
then?” I would ask Him. your Father in heaven give good gifts
to those who ask Him!” (Matthew
Every time I asked God that ques- 7:9-11).
tion, I felt His answer in my heart. It
was the same one I’d given Nathan. Clearly, God’s love for us is
“Even at your worst moments, I never overwhelming and unconditional.
stopped loving you. You are My child, And not too good to be true.
and your worst moments could never
change My love for you.” Our worst moments are just that
—moments in time. Although our
It was a beautiful sentiment, but actions have consequences, they will
to be honest, I’m not sure I com- never change God’s love for us.

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Faith&Friends FEATURE

Photos: Courtesy of Fox Searchlight Pictures

Tolkien’s A NEW FILM TELLS
THE STORY OF THE
MAN BEHIND THE

Fellowship LORD OF THE RINGS.
by Kristin Ostensen

Since their publication in the A Friendly Fellowship
1950s, The Lord of the Rings tril- While The Lord of the Rings was
ogy has become a worldwide published when Tolkien was in his
phenomenon, selling more than 150 60s, Tolkien takes viewers back to
million copies and inspiring multiple the author’s childhood. Many film-
adaptations. Thanks to six blockbuster goers may not know that Tolkien
movies based on the trilogy and The and his younger brother, Hilary,
Hobbit, as well as a forthcoming TV were orphans—their father died
series, J.R.R. Tolkien’s stories are more when Tolkien was four years old
popular now than ever. and their mother when he was 12.

But what about the man behind Fortunately for Tolkien, who
the books? Who was J.R.R. Tolkien showed great intelligence from an
and what inspired him to write such early age, he earned a scholarship to
imaginative novels? The fascinating King Edward’s School in Birming-
story of his life is told in a new biopic, ham, England, a prestigious boys’
Tolkien, in theatres this month. school. As the film shows, Tolkien had

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Faith&Friends FEATURE

Love and War
The coming of the
First World War
put the plans of
J.R.R. Tolkien
(Nicholas Hoult)
to marry his
sweetheart, Edith
Bratt (Lily Collins),
in jeopardy

difficulty fitting in, given his back- Collins), and start an academic career
ground. Nevertheless, he forged deep were put in jeopardy. He and his
friendships with three other young T.C.B.S. friends were separated.
outcasts there—Robert Gilson, Geof-
frey Bache Smith and Christopher While he did marry Edith in 1916,
Wiseman—who together created a Tolkien was sent to France only a few
semi-secret society called T.C.B.S. (the months later where he fought in the
Tea Club and Barrovian Society). Battle of the Somme, one of the dead-
liest battles of the war. Tolkien depicts
As Tolkien says in the film, the these war scenes in vivid detail, driv-
purpose of T.C.B.S. was to “change ing home the horrors of the trenches.
the world through the power of art.” The film draws explicit parallels
But the society was much more than between these experiences and Tol-
that for Tolkien (played by Nicholas kien’s later writings, as the exploding
Hoult); it was a fellowship. Years later, bombs he and his comrades face in
it would become the blueprint for the Tolkien bear a striking resemblance
Fellowship of the Ring depicted in to some of the evil creatures depicted
his trilogy—the group of men tasked in The Lord of the Rings. The friend-
with destroying the One Ring to save ships he made during the war are
Middle-earth. also reflected in his later works: After
the trilogy was published, Tolkien
Horrors of War stated that the character of Samwise
Unfortunately, as in The Lord of the Gamgee was inspired by his fellow
Rings, that fellowship would not last soldiers.
forever. When the First World War
broke out in 1914, Tolkien and his Tolkien left the battlefield in Octo-
friends were drawn into the fray. ber 1916 after contracting an illness.
Suddenly, his plans to marry his Sadly, some of his “fellowship” did
sweetheart, Edith Bratt (played by Lily not make it home—both Gilson and
Smith were killed in action.

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An experience like the First World War
would be enough to challenge anyone’s
faith. But for Tolkien, this was not the case.

Infused With Faith ledged in a letter that The Lord of the
An experience like the First World Rings is “a fundamentally religious
War would be enough to challenge and Catholic work; unconsciously
anyone’s faith in God. But for Tol- so at first, but consciously in the
kien, who was a devout Christian, revision.” While there are no direct
this was not the case. references to his faith in the books,
it comes through in the story itself.
Before she died, Tolkien’s mother Consider the humble hero of the tril-
arranged for her sons to be brought ogy, Frodo, who carries the One Ring
up by Father Francis Morgan, a Cath- to Mount Doom in order to destroy
olic priest in Birmingham. The faith it and save Middle-earth. His selfless
Tolkien developed as a child stayed actions echo those of Jesus, who car-
with him his entire life and gave him ried His cross to Calvary and died in
strength during and after the war. As order to destroy the power of sin and
biographer Bradley J. Birzer writes death. Motivated by His love for the
in J.R.R. Tolkien’s Sanctifying Myth, world (see John 3:16), Jesus sacrificed
Tolkien believed that the loss of his Himself to save all of humanity.
closest friends during the war “gave
him an even greater duty to carry on Tolkien takes viewers into the dark-
their jointly conceived project, which est time of the author’s life. But as
was to do God’s will in the world.” Tolkien believed and his books dem-
onstrate, darkness cannot withstand
As a result, Tolkien’s faith infused light. Love conquers all.
everything he wrote. Tolkien acknow-

From T.C.B.S.
to L.O.T.R.
Tolkien’s Tea Club
and Barrovian
Society became
the blueprint for
the Fellowship of
the Ring depicted
in his trilogy

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Full Circle

WHEN HIS ADDICTION
SPIRALLED OUT OF
CONTROL, TYLER
WEATHERUP BECAME
HOMELESS. NOW, HE WORKS
AT THE SALVATION ARMY
SHELTER THAT SAVED HIM.

by Kristin Ostensen

TYLER WEATHERUP WOKE Drowning
up drenched. Rainwater was cas- Tyler’s struggle with drugs and alco-
cading down the concrete staircase, hol began in college. “At first, I was
forming a puddle at the bottom drinking on weekends, then dur-
where he was trying to sleep. Evicted ing the week—eventually I stopped
from his apartment, he had nowhere going to classes because I was hung
to turn—drug and alcohol addiction over,” he says. “After my third year of
had taken everything from him. college, I simply dropped out.”

Depressed and utterly alone, Tyler At that point in his life, drinking
had spent the day making plans to
commit suicide.

“That was the lowest moment of
my life,” he says now.

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On the Job
“This role is the best of both
worlds because I get to
interact with staff and
guests,” says Tyler
Weatherup of his position
as residential services
supervisor. “When I’m
coaching staff, I can share
personal experiences about
how I was welcomed here
with kindness and respect.
And with guests, my
experience brings credibility
to what I do”

was a way to escape from the emo- ships and I felt like I was missing Photos: Ray Shum
tional turmoil that was happening out—that I would never have what
inside him. “I knew from a young they had. Alcohol drowned out
age that I was gay, but I grew up in a those negative feelings.”
conservative family so coming out
and being truthful about my identity After Tyler dropped out of college,
wasn’t a possibility,” Tyler says. “By he moved in with his sister, who was
the time I went to college, my sisters also an addict.
were getting into long-term relation-
“It goes to show just how clouded
my judgment was then,” he says rue-

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“A t the Gateway fully. “I still thought I could climb
of Hope, I was my way out of it, even though the
treated like a reality was that I was unemployed, I
human being. had no money, I had tons of debt and
It was I had no relationships—my sister
overwhelming.” was the only person who was willing
to support me.”
TYLER WEATHERUP
A few months after he moved
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evicted. “I came home and the locks
had been changed,” Tyler recalls.
“The sheriff had removed everything
from the apartment. I had nothing.”

Workplace Harmony
Tyler Weatherup with his
direct supervisor, Cristina
Schneiter, the residential
services manager. “We met a
few years ago when I was a
support worker and she was
a volunteer,” Tyler says. “I
must have trained her well
because now she’s my boss!”

Divine Timing following day. “I was thinking,
Tyler spent his first night of home- maybe I can get 20 bucks and buy
lessness on the streets of Langley, whatever I need to end my life,”
B.C., walking all night so that he he shares. “But there was a couple
would stay awake. He went to the there who had seen me at the wel-
welfare office the next day and was fare office the day prior. They told
referred to The Salvation Army’s me they were discharging from the
Gateway of Hope shelter. Unfortu- Gateway of Hope that day, and said,
nately, the Gateway was full that day, ‘Maybe you can get our bed.’ I went
which is how Tyler ended up at the back to the shelter with them and,
bottom of the staircase. sure enough, that’s how I got in. It
was divine timing.”
After that awful night, Tyler
returned to the welfare office the Tyler’s experience at the Gateway
far exceeded his expectations. “I
thought that I would be judged and
criticized, but it was the opposite,”
he says. “I was treated kindly, like a
human being. It was overwhelming.
I didn’t understand why these
people were treating me so well. I
didn’t feel like I deserved it.”

While Tyler stayed in the shelter
for 30 days, the Gateway staff
encouraged him to apply for the
facility’s transitional housing, where
he lived for the next two years.
During that time, he took courses,

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learning essential life skills, and my own, but I felt ready,” he recalls.
underwent counselling to improve “I was equipped, even though I was
his mental health. scared.”

After one year in transitional As Tyler made the transition to
housing, Tyler was asked to speak living in his own apartment, the
at the Gateway’s annual golf tour- Gateway staff continued to support
nament. “It was one of the hardest him. “I had built good relationships
things I’ve ever done,” he says. “I with them,” he says. “I knew when I
didn’t think I spoke very well, but it left that it wasn’t goodbye.”
was good enough that the owner of
the golf course offered me a job!” Tyler ended up saying hello again
to the Gateway much sooner than
Saved to Serve he expected. “After a few months of
By the time Tyler left the Gateway, being out, one of the program advis-
he was prepared for independence. ors encouraged me to apply for a job
“It was the first time I was truly on
there,” he says. “So I did and, to my
shock and delight, they hired me.”

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Order Up!
In recognition of his transformation,
Tyler received The Salvation Army’s
Hero for Hope award at an event in
Vancouver last December. Here, he is
at the Gateway of Hope with Suzanne
Van’t Haaff, the food service manager

That was in November 2012. Tyler doors. “It’s very meaningful for the
worked at the Gateway in various staff here to see him find his way
capacities until July 2017, when he and be so successful. He’s an incred-
stepped away to work on his own ible young man.”
business. But when Emmy Skates,
executive director, called him last “I’ve come full circle,” Tyler
summer to see if he could fill the smiles. “For me, to come back and
position of residential services be able to serve at the Gateway,
supervisor on a temporary basis, he where I was served so wholeheart-
came back and the job soon became edly, is incredible.
permanent.
“When I was in addiction, home-
“I’ve seen such amazing growth in lessness and helplessness, I couldn’t
Tyler over the years,” says Suzanne envision what a healthy, happy
Van’t Haaff, food service man- future looked like. Now that I’m
ager, who has known Tyler since he here, I am so thankful. The Gateway
first walked through the Gateway’s of Hope, The Salvation Army—they
saved my life.”

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Faith&Friends FEATURE

Keeping
God On Side

MARK SCHEIFELE MAKES TIME FOR FAITH IN
THE HIGH-PRESSURE WORLD OF THE NHL.

by Jayne Thurber-Smith

In the hotheaded world of hockey, saying—that’s their life—so I got Photos: Courtesy of the Winnipeg Jets
the Winnipeg Jets’ Mark Scheifele’s used to tuning it out. Some guys
use of G-rated vocabulary stands would joke here and there about
out. If he gets really upset at a bad or me not swearing, but I was lucky to
missed call, he might raise his voice— have great friends around me who
but that’s as bad as it gets. understood ‘that’s the way Scheif is’
and accepted me for it. If I were to say
In fact, it’s so unusual that it was a curse word in front of my mom, she
mentioned in a highlight video of would lose her mind!”
Mark shown during his first and
long-overdue NHL All-Star appear- Faith and Fellowship
ance in January. Mark’s mother, father and siblings
have all been very supportive
How did he escape incorporating throughout his career.
some of the foul language used by
players and coaches at the local rink “In minor hockey, I wore the
his entire life? same number I have now—55—
because my brother Kyle wore it and
“Growing up, I got used to hearing I wanted to be like him,” Mark says.
swear words on the ice,” he says.
“You can’t change what people are

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Faith and Intensity
“God’s on my side,”
says Mark Scheifele

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Faith&Friends FEATURE

“ No matter what I face, I want to shine
my light and glorify God.”  MARK SCHEIFELE

“We wished we could have played on very happy with the way things
the same hockey team but couldn’t worked out, as God showed me the
because he is two years older than right way to go.”
I am. As kids, he and I did every-
thing else together: basketball, road Mark was drafted by the Winnipeg
hockey, football. He is one of my big- Jets in 2011, but making it to the NHL
gest fans. I wouldn’t be where I am is not a guarantee of staying there.
without my family.” He was sent back down to the OHL
twice in his first two seasons, and was
The Scheifeles also knew the benched with a knee injury for the
importance of making time for faith last two months of his third season.
in their lives.
“It’s tough in the Canadian mar-
“We went to church every Sunday ket—they decide how good you’re
unless there was some conflict or going to be at 18,” Paul Maurice,
other,” Mark says, “and I have kept the Jets’ head coach, said to Sports-
up that habit ever since. Church net. “But that didn’t faze Mark at all.
is hard to fit in right now with our Each year he just got a little bit bet-
hockey schedule, but we have a team ter, a little bit stronger.”
chaplain through Hockey Ministries
International. My teammates and Winnipeg Jets fans were with-
I do chapel with him when we can. out a NHL team in their city for 15
Days we can get together are always years, so they were ecstatic to wel-
good days. Fellowship is a huge part come Mark along with the entire
of my life.” team, which relocated from Atlanta
in 2011. Mark uses the pressure of
Even Keel playing in a highly followed hockey
Mark’s strong faith in God has market to help push him to greater
helped guide him through his life heights, rather than let it get to him.
choices thus far.
“As athletes, we are always com-
“I was committed to Cornell Uni- petitive with ourselves anyway,” he
versity’s hockey team, but then my says. “Obviously, you go through
rights were traded to the Barrie ups and downs. I know I will have
Colts from the Saginaw Spirit,” he to deal with adversity, but God has
says. “So I decided to go the Ontario a reason for everything. No mat-
Hockey League (OHL) route. I am ter what I face, I want to shine my
light and glorify Him. I take the role

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I play in the community here as a But knowing He has a plan for me
Christian very seriously.” definitely keeps me close to Him.
Days don’t always go as planned,
He maintains a healthy devotional both good and bad things happen,
life, taking time every morning to but I remember God’s on my side.
study the Bible and how it relates That allows me to keep at an even
to his life and whatever he is going keel.
through.
“So don’t worry whether it’s a
“Sometimes you go through times good or bad day. At the end of every
when you doubt God,” Mark says. “I day, you can always thank Him for
would be lying if I said my relation- what He has done.”
ship with Him was always amazing.

Star On Ice
Mark is a sport
ambassador for
KidSport Winnipeg,
a charity that aims
to remove financial
barriers to playing
organized sports.
In that capacity,
he runs an annual
camp for boys and
girls on behalf of
the organization

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Faith&Friends COMMON GROUND

Wonderful
People
Community
Living Ontario
volunteers
Kevin (left) and
Mark pose with
Brenda Hornby,
Salvation Army
thrift store
manager

Photos: Brenda Hornby

Positive Partnerships

A Salvation Army thrift store and Community
Living come together to break societal barriers.

by June Li

Finding employment can be dif- Community Living Ontario in Pick-
ficult, but for those living with ering, Ajax and Whitby to provide
a developmental disability, volunteer placement opportuni-
the barriers to entering the labour ties at The Salvation Army’s thrift
market can be next to impossible to store in Whitby. Community Living
overcome. Historically, persons Ontario is a non-profit organization
with disabilities have been under- for people with intellectual disabil-
represented in the workforce, and ities. Through their hard work and
research has shown that they have dedication, individuals from Com-
the highest unemployment rate. munity Living are proving to their
community that they are valuable
Just People members of society.
To help break these barriers, The
Salvation Army has partnered with “We have no idea what these
individuals go through,” says Brenda

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“I t is wonderful to see the growth in each
person and the joy they have in their
accomplishments at the thrift store.”  BETTY ETELI

Hornby, the Salvation Army thrift partnerships also help promote our
store manager. “It is a learning curve shared vision that we all belong in
for us all, but the more we get to one inclusive community.”
know these wonderful people, the
more we understand they are just “These are people who work hard,
that: people.” laugh, smile, cry and feel just like
the rest of us,” continues Brenda.
Creating Change “I feel so blessed they were brought
The staff and patrons of the Army’s into my life.”
thrift store have observed how com-
passionate, kind and hardworking When opportunities are opened
these volunteers are. to individuals regardless of their
disabilities, positive change is
“Kevin, a Community Living vol- created. The Salvation Army’s
unteer, is one of the most wonderful partnership does just that.
people I have ever met,” says Brenda.
“He’s strong, kind, giving and above Men at Work  Kevin and Mark bring
all loves coming to help here at the donations to the thrift store to be sorted
store. He is a very hard worker and and priced
brings a smile to all our faces when
he is here. I am so lucky to have had
Kevin come into my life. I am a
better person for knowing him.”

“It is wonderful to see the growth
in each person and the joy they
have in their accomplishments at
the thrift store,” says Betty Eteli, a
Community Living support worker.
“Opportunities like this help people
with barriers to gain employment
while also educating the community
about the great skills and work ethic
they bring to the workplace. These

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Eating Healthy With Erin

20-MINUTE MUSHROOM STROGANOFF PASTA

TIME 20 min  MAKES 2 servings  SERVE WITH fresh baguette

375 ml (1½ cups) dry bow tie 1. In pot, boil water and add dry
pasta bow tie pasta.

30 ml (2 tbsp) butter 2. In large frying pan, melt butter

60 ml (¼ cup) white onion, over medium-high heat. Add

diced onion and garlic and cook until

1 garlic clove, diced translucent.

250 ml (1 cup) mushrooms, 3. Add mushrooms, broth and
diced paprika. Continue to cook over
medium heat for about 5 minutes.
125 ml (½ cup) low sodium
beef broth 4. Remove from heat and stir in sour
cream and parsley. Stir in
7 ml (½ tbsp) smoked paprika Parmesan cheese and allow to sit
for 5 minutes.
60 ml (¼ cup) full-fat sour
cream 5. Remove pasta once fully cooked.
Drain and rinse. Toss in olive oil to
60 ml (¼ cup) fresh parsley, prevent noodles from sticking.
diced

15 ml (1 tbsp) Parmesan cheese 6. Distribute pasta in 2 bowls and
5 ml (1 tsp) olive oil top with stroganoff sauce.

BANANA COCONUT PIE TARTS

TIME 1 hr 45 min  MAKES 18 tarts  SERVE WITH coffee or tea

250 ml (1 cup) cold 1. In blender, add coconut milk, instant Recipe photos: Erin Stanley/veganvirgin.ca
coconut milk pudding mix and overripe banana,
and blend for 2 minutes. Place in
175 ml (¾ cup) vanilla small bowl and put in fridge.
instant pudding mix
2. Preheat oven to 190 C (375 F) and
1 overripe banana (with cook pie tart shells for 10 minutes on
brown spots) baking sheet, then remove from oven
and allow to cool completely (about
18 premade pie tart shells 30 minutes).

30 ml (2 tbsp) crushed 3. Spoon pie filling into shells and allow
walnuts to set in fridge for an hour.  

60 ml (¼ cup) shredded 4. On dry pan over medium heat, toast
coconut walnuts lightly.

1 additional banana, 5. Garnish tarts with shredded coconut,
sliced sliced banana and walnuts.

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Faith&Friends NIFTY THRIFTY

Fun in the Sun

Five thrift store finds for your vacation.

Are you taking a tropical holiday soon sure the wheels, zippers and handles
or planning a short trip this summer? are all in good working order.
The Salvation Army thrift store is a
great place to find budget-friendly Books. Thrift stores have amazing
vacation items that will keep your trip collections of affordable used books.
affordable right from the start. Here’s Mystery, romance, history—whatever
a list of must-haves. you fancy, you’ll find your next beach
read at The Salvation Army.
Sunglasses. Thrift stores have shades
in all colours, shapes and sizes. Pick
a pair that matches the style of the
clothing you plan to pack.

Straw Hat. Stylish sun protection is
essential. Do you need a small hat you
can fit in your bag? Or are you looking
for a floppy hat to make a statement
on the beach?

Sundress. A staple for a summer
getaway. Look for a dress you can
wear during the day but can dress up
at night—this will save room in your
luggage.

Luggage. The length of your trip will
determine the bag. If you need an
overnight bag, look for one with a
sturdy, comfortable shoulder strap. If
a suitcase is the better choice, make

(left) Tijana Popovic is the frugalista behind
A Plentiful Life, a lifestyle blog that shows
readers how to live their best life on a budget.
She is also a creative expert for The Salvation
Army’s thrift stores. Find a thrift store near you
at thriftstore.ca.

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