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CONTENTS IN THIS ISSUE

08 11 13

TAMARA HASSELBERG - RISING STAR BATHO DAMBE-GROTH SIMPLE DESIGN IDEA

Tamara Hasselberg is an up and Dambe-Groth reminds us that Dambe-Groth reminds us that
coming young horse rider hoping pursuing our dreams remains our most pursuing our dreams remains our most
to represent Botswana in the World powerful path to success. Choosing the powerful path to success. Choosing
Equestrian Games in 2019 and possibly entrepreneurialpathhasallowedDambe- the entrepreneurial path has allowed
the 2020 Olympic Games. Groth to leave the corporate world and Dambe-Groth to leave the corporate
design for herself a life of business. world and design for herself a life of
business.

07 Edito’s Note 16 10 Awesome Venues To Visit The Shallows, Blood Wars
08 Cover Story - With Kids Healthy Eating Recipes
Fashion And Make Up 28 Recipes 3 Course Meal
Tamara Hasselberg Back To Basics
Woman In Business - 38 Fashion Article 18 Back To Beauty Basics
Success Stories 39 Make Up - Laurie Innovative Ideas - Arts & Crafts
11 Groth - Taking Life By The Reins. 20 Featured Product Must Have’s 34 Medically Speaking
42 Baking Her Ideas To Life Liberating Women Towards
43 Empowering Women Shiatsu Massage Machine An Hiv/Free Generation
Through Mosadi khumo 08 Woman In Sport
Women In Tech
13 Safari Creative Hub Health And Fitness
Woman In Art 21 Curves Strength Training
14 Unleashing Talents Through
Performing arts Woman In Relationships
Women In Travel 23 Disengaging From Manipulators

Mums And Tots
25 School Readiness

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Editor’s Note

PUBLISHING COMPANY lbelieve in 2017 and all the changes Motivators like Bookie Ketusigile and
Woman to Woman (Pty Ltd.) that it’s bringing with it. I believe in Yewande Austin have tried to encourage
Offfice Mobile: + 267 73568629/74022511 having resolutions. Resolutions, to and empower women whilst changing
Email: [email protected] me, are all the goals that we have set their lives for the good. Their efforts have
Website: www.womantowoman.co.bw out to achieve this year. And we are laid the groundwork of courage for other
getting there. Recently we noticed women to follow. They are two of many
EDITORIAL thousands of women marching in the examples of women empowering
News Feed: Women3 women against the agenda of Trump’s women – by thought, by conviction, by
Telephone: + 267 73568629/74022511 administration showing that women action and yes even through song. That is
Email: [email protected] can definitely be agents of change. the path of great change. Great courage
It is all about changing the way is displayed in those who see a need for
[email protected] the world perceives or views us as change and are willing to do what it takes
women and how we are viewed in to affect that change.
EDITORIAL CONTRIBUTORS society.
Reporters A big thank you goes to the team for a
At Woman to Woman we striving to job well executed. Laurie James has done
Christine Bardenhorst bring a new dynamic to Motswana in an awesome job putting together a new
Kitt Peters terms of our stories and new exciting concept for the mag, one I am sure will
design, diverting from the usual and enhance your experience as you journey
Laurie James expected format to bringing you a through our pages with us. We also give
CONTRIBUTORS IN THIS ISSUE new and fresh read. A read that will a warm welcome to the new members on
motivate and channel you to change board Christine Badenhorst and Kitt Pieters
Kitt Peters your life for the better. not forgetting our other staff writers.
Christine Badenoust
This month we feature horse rider Again let’s embrace change and be shining
Laurie James Tamara Hasselberg as the cover examples of the change we want to see.
Refilwe story, brings you insight in the There is always a way, never despair, never
glamorous world of horse riding and give up on your dreams, and ladies don’t
Lorraine Chivasera takes you on a tour of her life of what forget to have a little fun with it.
MARKETING AND ADVERTISING it really takes to make it to the top in
this very challenging sport. Happy Reading.
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in the footsteps of those who have
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innovators, explorers and disrupters
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Email: [email protected] us to reach new heights in business
and in life. From iconic business
Mobile: +267 75263879/77794785 women and intellectuals like Batho
Website: www.ayzont.co.bw Dambe Groth to upcoming business
women like Mma Boitumelo who are
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COVER STORY

TAMARA

HASSELBERG -

RISING STAR

By Laurie James

The first time I saw Tamara Hasselberg
ride was in Ruretse at the 2015 FEI World
Dressage Challenge. I hadn’t been in
Botswana for very long at the time, having recently
emigrated from South Africa and was surprised
to see such a talented rider here. I was highly
impressed with the tall, elegant and obviously
humble girl who rode Rita Brink’s stallion,
Criffendor, so beautifully and as it turned out, to
victory in the event.

Tamara Hasselberg is an up and coming young Tamara Hasselberg & Rita Brink
horse rider hoping to represent Botswana in the
World Equestrian Games in 2019 and possibly the Brink with more arriving continuously as to win each class. I managed to achieve
2020 Olympic Games. Tamara does not come from Rita strengthens her string with valuable the highest score in the world in the
a wealthy family and has not led the easiest life, imports from Europe. preliminary class since 2009. Another
having faced her fair share of challenges through memorable moment was achieving a
the years. With the assistance and guidance of Rita The life of horse rider demands dedication. 78% in the elementary medium dressage
Brink, her sponsor, she is a rising star in Botswana An average day in her life starts when most test and winning my first ever advanced
Dressage. of us are sleeping soundly in our beds. In championship with scores in the 70’s.”
summer Tamara is awake and on her first
I sat down with her last week in order to explore horse at 3am, this is necessary due to the According to Tamara, the most challenging
the life of this very dedicated young horse woman debilitating heat in Botswana. She rides aspect of her job is one most rider’s face.
and to find out just what it takes to make it in the under the floodlights until 9am - putting Given that she works with and spends
very tough world of competitive riding.Tamara in an hour a day on each of the 6 horses hours training Team Brink’s horses at
was born in Bonn, Germany in 1993. Tamara assigned to her. She uses her free time home, they get comfortable with the arena
admits that her love affair with horses started at during the heat of the day to study for and used to the home surroundings. “The
an early age. She started riding in Germany at age her Tertiary Degree in Economics and biggest challenge for me is duplicating
7, where she used to gallop through the fields just Business Management in an office which the performance at home at the shows
having fun with family and friends. This casual Rita has provided to her. She goes to the away from home, where the horses are
riding continued until she was about 14 years old. gym on alternate evenings 3 times a week, out of their comfort zone.” She goes on to
After her family landed in Botswana in 2008 she this is tor to maintain and develop core state, “Success is not achieved overnight.
continued riding in Botswana with local coach Sue and general fitness as well as the stamina Another challenge is the constant hard
Bookbinder who shaped her riding career early needed for optimum performance. work and dedication which is required to
on. Tamara works a 6 day a week, and also succeed in this sport.”
hones her skills for competitions which
Tamara met her current sponsor Ms. Rita Brink frequently take up her weekends. Tamara Show-jump’s and competes in
in 2014 though her ex-boyfriend’s father Piet van Dressage but every rider has their strong
Wyk. Rita asked Tamara to try out a couple of When asked, which competition success point, I inquired from her where her heart
her horses shortly after being introduced to her. stands out for her and which she is most is and where, given the choice she would
Impressed with the young Tamara’s skill, Rita proud of? Tamara answered, “In 2015 like to focus her efforts? She indicated
offered Tamara a full-time position riding for her I competed in the FEI world dressage that with Rita’s help, she has over the
stable Team Brink. Tamara of course, jumped at challenge with 2 horses and managed past couple of years been fortunate
the wonderful opportunity. Tamara revealed that
Rita has not only been her employer for the past
three years but has become, “ a very important
person in all aspects of my life. “ A friend, a mentor
and a confidant. She is extremely grateful to the
Brink family for their generosity and support and
for allowing her to represent their family name -
Team Brink.

Currently Tamara rides 5 to 6 horses for Team

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to have some of the best coaching on the the setback is the most important thing. Never When Tamara gets time off there are a few
continent (Natalie Hobday - South African give up. If you can’t handle the setbacks, then activities that help her relax such as: reading
Dressage Champion and Stuart Walker - you are in the wrong industry. You have to books on how to be a better rider, spending
Show Jumping). She is grateful to her coaches accept the fact that a horse has a mind of its quality time with her French Bulldog, Bentley
who have helped her to hone her skills and own and there are things that are out of one’s and going fishing with her “awesome and
steer her in the direction where she will be control.” patient boyfriend.”
most successful. “It turns out that dressage, is Horse riding as a sport can be very time
where I feel most competent and where Team Rider’s have always joked about the fact consuming, and balancing her riding and
Brink thinks I should be using my talent.” that horse riding is the only sport in which relationships can pose challenges. She is
she says.Tamara’s goals for the next 5 years your equipment may decide to simply not extremely grateful that her other half supports
include, “Producing my horses to the highest cooperate with you on any given day. It’s her passion for riding wholeheartedly and
levels I can. This will manifest in me becoming something that we have all had to live with. understands that it is a 24/7 job.
a winning Grand Prix rider and compete at For Tamara, what makes it all worthwhile is
the world equestrian games as a Motswana.” Of all the horse’s she works with Tamara has that she is fulfilling her lifelong dream and is
a special bond with Voscar. She smiles as she on the way to becoming an internationally
Rita Brink, Tamara’s sponsor has invested in recounts how, “sometimes the grooms spend recognized Grand Prix rider. Another
some valuable horses for her to ride. With hours trying to catch him in the paddocks, as huge pay off is the sense of self pride and
this, a natural expectation for achievement soon as I am in the paddock I can catch him accomplishment gained from all of the hard
must exist. I asked her how she deals with immediately. He’s a very nervous horse and work she has had to put in. Last but not
the pressure? Her response was surprising once I am on him or around him he calms
and refreshing and I quote, “Rita has afforded down straight away.” Tamara with Freddie Style and
me some of the best horses & riding facilities Bentley the Bulldog.
money can buy. Yes, there is of course an Maintaining weight is obviously important as
expectation around doing well, but I put more a rider, and I asked Tamara about her diet least she is focused on making her sponsor
pressure on myself as I know a lot of money and exercise routine. She explained, “Due to proud of her, knowing that all the time, effort
has been invested in me. the rigorous nature of training horses 6 days and money spent on her is worth it and not
a week, maintaining my physique becomes of misplaced.
The pressure I put on myself comes in a a product of how hard I work. Obviously one With our interview about to close I asked
couple of forms: Representing the Brink cannot eat McDonald’s everyday! A balanced Tamara if she had any advice for up-and-
family and making them proud; Making my diet is however critical to maintain a healthy coming young riders in Botswana?
coaches proud because of all the effort, time, state of mind as dressage is a mentally
knowledge and belief they have vested in me demanding sport. I always have one day off
- I don’t want to let them down; Making the where I eat without guilt! Tamara feels that
grooms proud, as they are the support base the personality traits or qualities that have
that often goes unmentioned. There’s an helped her succeed when it comes to riding
old saying, ‘pressure makes diamonds’ and I are perseverance, dedication and being
truly believe that without pressure, my career willing to work very hard no matter what the
would never be as shining and bright as it has circumstances. She tells me, “The driving force
been with it.” behind everything I do is to make everyone in
my team proud. My mantra about success is
According to Tamara, setbacks in horse riding work until you no longer have to introduce
can take a number of forms and need to be yourself.”
dealt with in a particular manner, positively
and decisively! She says, “There are always
going to be setbacks, the way you deal with

“If you truly want to be successful in this sport
there are no short cuts to reach your goal. Be
prepared for lots of blood, sweat and tears
(it’s worth it) and the pay offs are extremely
rewarding!”

Tamara with Team Brink support staff Henry Dzapasi, Dennis Ncube We wish Tamara Hasselberg and Team Brink
and David Coetzee every success with their drive to accomplish
their Olympic Dream!

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HEALTH & FITNESS

THE HEALTH BENEFITS OF HORSE RIDING

By Laurie James guided- this is what coordination consists of. •Stable Strength: Riding is not the only
Therapeutic riding programs for the sight- way this activity gives the body a workout.
Before we all had cars to drive in, people impaired have had a lot of success developing Working in a barn and taking care of a
used horses to get around, and almost better coordination. horse strengthens muscles and increases
everyone was taught to care for and cardiovascular capacity.
ride a horse. Today, our dependence on •Core Strength: Horseback riding is an
these large mammals is non-existent and isometric exercise, which means it uses •Mental exercise: There are so many
horseback riding has become recreational. specific muscles to stay in certain positions, mental benefits to horseback riding. Not only
There are many obvious health benefits to in this case, keeping balanced on the horse. do you really learn about yourself as you
riding, including strong core and legs, but Because of this, postural strength is very experience time on a horse but it can also
there are also many less obvious benefits, important when riding and the posture of have a meditative effect because for the time
such as boost in confidence and meditation. riders improves even in day to day activities. being, the only focus is on riding and staying
Horses are even used in therapy for mentally on the horse. While horseback riding is a
disabled children- which only proves further •Muscle Tone and Flexibility: Along with great exercise, there is a real benefit in the
how healthy they are! Here is Samir Becic, 4 the core muscles, the inner thighs and pelvic connection with the animal and the peace of
times Number 1 Fitness Trainer in the world muscles get the biggest workout as a rider mind that comes with every ride.
and Health Fitness Revolution’s, list of the positions himself or herself. Riders often
health benefits of horseback riding: have to maintain a squatting position while So if you have never ridden a horse or
they ride, constantly adjusting to the cadence considered riding as a sport for either yourself
•Body Awareness: Horseback riding really of the horse. This exercise helps with good or your kids, think about it and take it from me
works the core muscles that stabilize the overall muscle tone and flexibility. riding will change your life.
trunk: the abdominal, back, and pelvic
muscles. However, it’s not just about the
strength of the core, but the coordination
and stability of it as well. The more you ride,
the more the body learns to move with the
horse.

•Quick Thinking: riding a large, powerful
animal with a mind and agenda of its own
is a full-body workout that will force you to
engage muscles you didn’t know existed and
be constantly adjusting to the form of the
animal.

•Coordination:There are many movements
that need to happen simultaneously
while riding for the horse to be properly

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WOMEN IN BUSINESS

BATSHO DAMBE-GROTH
TAKING LIFE BY REINS

Dambe-Groth’s story reminds us that pursuing our dreams remains our most powerful path to success.

By Rosaslind Kwinje of business. Batsho has been in business for the corporate world groomed her to
13 years and her portfolio spans on; being n executive and board member.
Batsho Dambe-Groth is the owner Attention is focused today on one of her Dambe-Groth does not regret her
of Resource Logic Human Resource portfolios growing in bounds (RESOURCE decision - she sees herself destination
Consultants – follow this story as LOGIC) a human resources consulting firm as an entrepreneur and not an
Woman2Woman features her chronicles on which she co owns with her husband Oliver employee.
her business career and journey to success. Groth. “I believe the days of working at one
Today, she is a leader among her peers in the job for your whole employment career and Talk about mentorship - Having
business world, and has been honored with waiting to get a pension is over. Even our kids a good mentor channeled her for
numerous awards citing her commitment, are not going to live like that”, she reiterated. success. “l once a had a boss who
skill, and integrity. would say don’t try to do it, do it. And
She is of the opinion that people have so that is where l derive my personal
Dambe-Groth reminds us that pursuing our to evolve with how the world changes. motto from”, she echoes. She shares
dreams remains our most powerful path Leaving the corporate world is the best that her journey was not easy but that
to success. Choosing the entrepreneurial decision she has made thus far although she had to persevere.
path has allowed Dambe-Groth to leave the
corporate world and design for herself a life

Batsho encourages women to
balance their lives as mothers as well
as workers, she emphasized that
none of the two should be sacrificed.
“l thank the day the laptop technology
came into the normal working world
as it facilitated being able to take work
home, be with your kids until they went
to bed, then do some work if there
was a deadline”, when they have gone
to bed. Dambe-Groth said she worked
her way up to an executive level but
had other personal goals with regards

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WOMEN IN TECH

SAFARI CREATIVE HUB

HOSTING WOMEN IN TECH AFRICA CONFERENCE

By Refilwe

The idea that men are innately more would be allowed to freelance. this area is particularly important. With
rational than women dates back Their lack of infrastructure does not more diverse perspectives in the mix,
to Aristotle, and remains deeply deter the growth of their brand. With we can understand problems from all
embedded in society’s collective some out-of-the-box thinking and angles and are more likely to devise
consciousness. The long-standing collaborative strategies, Safari Creative effective solutions to problems.
dichotomy of rational vs. emotional Hub hosted the Women In Tech Africa
is still pervasive today, and lends Conference in September at Botho WITA was established by a female
credence to the suggestion that women University, Gaborone. The 5-day event Ghanaian, Ethel Cofie, who’s vision is
are just not as cut out for certain jobs took place simultaneously in over 40 to create today’s female leader and
as men. Defying the societal-norm or 400?? countries worldwide, such as role models for tomorrow’s women,
odds are three vibrantly ambitious Nigeria, London, Cape Verde; conveying showing the world what a strong
females namely, Segolame Mmopi, the purpose of the women in tech African woman is capable of achieving
Lilebo Tibone & Peo Sebotho; founders Africa (WITA) organization. and supporting African growth through
of Safari Creative Hub. technology. Not unlike Safari Creative
The daily themes broadly encompassed Hub.
Hubs are a popular new-age means of an entrepreneurial take on technology,
providing concept incubation and Safari female leadership in the work place Safari Creative Hub has begun making
Creative Hub, as a start-up, aims to be and fund sourcing. Speakers included moves through their networks to host a
innovative in their creative services. representatives from Mascom, DiTech second event based on mentorship and
Providing services that range from Mobile, First Sun Alliance, Standard are ploddingly settling into a niche that
graphic design to brand management Chartered, and many more. is yet to be exploited nationwide.
and package deals. One of their
objectives is assisting in Botswana’s An intrinsic part of tech is breaking
hiking unemployment crisis in the form boundaries and presenting new ideas
of an HR agency since joining members to the world, so having women lead in

Hubs are a popular new-age means of providing concept incubation
and Safari Creative Hub, as a start-up, aims to be innovative in their

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program. She explains that the story
WOMEN IN ART originates from the Herero tribe. Njambi
she says is an African god creator who
after creating the world carefully placed
the primordial Omumborombonga tree
upon the earth, from which Mukuru, is
the first human emerged. Supreme gods
Njambi retreated to the safety of heaven
as soon as humans turned up on the
scene. Now he is another aloof Sky god
who lives in the clouds and rules through
spiritual wisdom alone, an omnipotent
deity that does not really do anything.
Seakanyo Mpedinyane led the second
group and in the play she adopts the
character of Motlatsi. The performance is
titled the chronicles of Manthatise.

Women Unleashing Talent Pesalema Motshodi is the lead act
Through Perfoming Arts to the African tragedy performance
dubbed Moratiwa. Of the three musical
By Rosaslind Kwinje ensembles, Moratiwa is the one that is
popular for it was the debut performance
Through the UN’s 16 Days of Activism bringing to life. of the group and it premiered at
against Gender-Based Violence Mantlwaneng theatre. This is a tragic
Campaign, Egyptian creators remind A thorough screening saw hundred talented story and Pesalema manages capture
us of the importance of raising awareness youths being chosen to showcase arts every emotion so well. Having assumed
about violence against women while through diverse forms. WomantoWoman the role of lead actress that she so wanted
promoting female empowerment magazine sought to catch up with the despite her parents’ plea for her to study
The Egyptian arts have always played a three lead performers namely Lebone law, ‘Pesa’ was lucky to land a role in the
powerful role in shedding light on gender- Ramasilabele, Pesalema Motshudi and performing arts 100 as this was what she
based violence, empowering women through Seakanyo Mpedinyane who were chosen wanted to do after high school.
movies, theatre performances, caricatures from the three groups that were created.
and street art such as graffiti. Each group had a mandate to perform a In her role she manages to capture
story with an African flair from an African the audience’ attention for she vividly
The most recent examples emerge from the perspective. and emotionally narrates the story of
UN’s 16 Days of Activism against Gender- an albino girl who was killed for ritual
Based Violence Campaign, which took place Lebone Ramasilabele from group A, is the purposes. Pesa narrates how the girl was
between 15 November and 10 December. lead singer for the performance named killed by the business man Moffat for his
Joining this international movement, Njambi Karunga . Ramasilabele who already own selfish beliefs. What really pains in
Egyptian artists used a variety of creative was a student of performing arts was ecstatic the story is that the police officers new the
expressions to raise awareness about people who were behind the killings but
violence against women and encourage were afraid to convict them because they
female empowerment feared for their life. Despite all efforts by
the villagers to expose the murderers,
nothing was really done by the police.

As performing Arts continue to hold a Pesalema Perfoming Moratiwa
stronghold on the lives of women in
Botswana,the recently hosted ‘Performing
Arts 100’ played a similar role. It was formed
as an initiative that embraces all genres of
performing arts to include music, dance,
drama, poetry among others. It is also a part
of the Ministry’s target 20 000 up-skilling and
up-scaling which is meant to equip the youth
with the right skills to be able to participate
meaningfully in the ecomomy and reduce
unemployment, the legendary jazz musician
Socca Moruakgomo taking the lead in

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GLOBE TROTTING

10 AWESOME KID FRIENDLY
VENUES IN GABORONE

In Gaborone we as moms are the two water slides, and/or the kiddie Kgale Hill
constantly asking the question, ‘how water areas.
do I keep my kids entertained?’. Lying on the outskirts of the city to
While some opt for travel and visiting Maitisong the south, are the Kgale Hills which
family and friends or a vacation to the add to the beauty of Gaborone. The
west, some simply wish to stay in here Maitisong (“place of entertainment” in Hills offer an enjoyable climb and
the City. Here are some interesting Setswana) is a theatre owned by Maru- breathe taking views of the city and
places to visit and keep the little ones a-Pula School. Maitisong is a pioneer especially the dam. They are popular
entertained. in celebrating arts in Botswana. The with fitness and fun lovers who climb
Maitisong Office has become a useful and them all throughout the year.
Airport Junction mall celebrated cultural resource. Information
and advice regarding performers, music
A mall with kids restaurant favourites lessons, theatre management and fund
such as Nandos, Wimpy, Spur and raising has been sought at Maitisong over
Chicken Licken. A play area with a the years. Maitisong’s voice has even been
water feature is the centre piece of the heard on the Botswana Cultural Council –
area where most of the restaurants the country’s most senior cultural body.
can be found. An area aimed at It has also been closely associated with
catering for children activities. It’s the Botswana Music Camp and the ‘My
definitely the mall for kids. African Dream’ national talent search.

Lion Park Resort The National Museum and Gaborone Dam
Art Gallery,
Lion Park is a fun amusement park Gaborone Dam is a major landmark
geared toward family entertainment A vibrant focal point of artistic and cultural in Gaborone, which is used by the
on the south side of Gaborone. This is activity since its inception; the National public including the local yacht
the only place with a wave stimulator Museum and Art Gallery has gone from club for recreational activities.
and some rides in Botswana. Some strength to strength in the collection of It is popular with birdwatchers,
of the rides include a ferris wheel, a artefacts, research, exhibitions, national windsurfers and picnic lovers, but
small train that takes you around the and international collaborations, and in is not suitable for swimming as it
perimeter of the park, the tea-cups, its vigorous outreach programmes that is infested with crocodiles and the
merry-go-round and a few others bring the museum – and instruction in bilharzia parasite. The Gaborone
make up the small park. If you have cultural heritage – to rural residents. Yacht Club is situated on the dam
young ones, this will definitely be a It is frequented by thousands of and offer a super pub lunch on
fun stop for them, but you may find schoolchildren every year, as well as Wednesday and Friday evenings.
yourself riding, re-riding and re-riding residents of and visitors to the country. The venue can be hired for private
the same ten or so rides. Be sure to parties if it’s a super view you are
pack a swimsuit if you want to enjoy after.

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Avani Hotel Gaborone Game Reserve Mokolodi nature reserve

There are many great recreational Gaborone Game Reserve is considered Mokolodi is famous for its wildlife
facilities at the hotel such as tennis the third busiest game reserve in projects such as the re-introduction of
and squash courts and a swimming the country! Given the competition the white rhino and the re-location of
pool. The hotel is great for families as between game reserves within the problematic cheetahs. The reserve
there is a children’s playground, and Botswana, this speaks volumes about has been established for conservation
entertainment is provided during the the reserve. The reserve lies to the east and educational reasons. Animals like
holidays of Gaborone. It is teeming with animals baboons, steenbok, eland, white rhino,
Ecological Park (Somarelang Tikologo) that include zebra, kudu, warthog, hyena, warthogs, giraffe, mountain
The park is the favourite place for wild boar and ostrich. additionally it is reedbuck, antelope, hippo and ....of
children with its well-resourced home to antelope and rhino. The place course cheetah can be found in the
playground that is open all throughout makes for wonderful game viewing, area.
the day. It also has a community birding, picnics and memorable family
organic garden, a re-cycling drop-off and business retreats for people who
centre and a shop that provides re- want to escape the city noise.
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WOMAN 2 WOMAN ISSUE 1, VOLUME 3

There can be a lot said about
moving back to the basics,
stripping away the of old and
starting afresh. Focusing on the
fundamentals. Feeling good on
the outside as well as the inside.
Refreshing our skin, body and
mind.

Back To Beauty Basics You can moisturise
Honey, Coconut Oil; V
By Christine Badenhorst Egg yolk. As with any
is advisable to test it
first.

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BREATHE GOOD SKIN INSIDE OUT

Take time to relax. When we are HEALTH Your skin is a reflection of your digestive
anxious, either we hold our breathe system. A poor diet and lack of hydration
in or we breathe too fast. Learning Simplicity is the key to great skin. It doesn’t can deplete vital nutrients and minerals
to breathe deeply and freely has many matter what your age is, it’s NEVER too late which can be seen in your skin. Omega 3
benefits. Breathing correctly lowers blood to start looking after your skin. A simple, & 6 Oils (found in Oily fish, avocados, olives
pressure and heart rate, which optimises daily routine of Cleansing, Exfoliating etc.) are essential for healthy skin. Omega
oxygen absorption and energy. Proper and Moisturising is all that is needed to Oils also regulate blood sugar levels and
breathing makes your skin look younger, have skin that looks younger and more balance hormones. A.C.E. your skin… as
improves your posture and you receive radiant. Skin care products don’t need to in Vitamin A, C and E. These vitamins –
an adequate supply of oxygen to all your be expensive. A growing trend is seeing amongst others- work wonders on your
organs. many ladies (and men) moving away from skin. Preventing not only premature ageing
chemically enhanced skin care products and DNA cell damage but are also critical to
toward using ordinary, every-day items the stability of your skin.
found in your pantry. These products can
also be used to achieve healthy glowing
skin.Natural Cleansers includes lemon and
honey. Lemons can also be used help to
fade marks or dark spots on your skin, while
Honey is also an excellent Moisturiser. Be
sure to avoid the delicate Eye Area.Exfoliate
with a paste made from Bicarbonate of
Soda and water. Using a GENTLE circular
motion, exfoliate clean skin. Bicarbonate is
chemical free, anti-bacterial and can aid to
ease Acne and other skin conditions.

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YOUR HEALTH IS
YOUR WEALTH

with basics like Stopping the Stress Cycle and
Vaseline or even understanding the effects it has on
y new “product” it your health is life changing. Stress
t on a small area can affect your body in many ways,
causing inflammation, headaches etc.
and can damage you’re your physical
and mental health.
Ditch smoking, drugs and excessive
drinking. Enough sleep and the correct
nutrition are more important than a lot
of people realise.

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LESS REFINED SLEEP IS SACRED Oats
AND MORE
WATER Sleep not only makes you feel good, Colloidal oatmeal is one of the few
it is vital for your health. Sleep natural ingredients that the FDA has
Avoid refined white foods and improves memory and can help approved to treat skin irritation such
sugar as much as possible. you live younger. A good night’s as eczema, dry skin, poison ivy, poison
Water is imperative. The more sleep improves your physical oak, and insect bites, says Dr. Wu.“Oat
hydrated you are the better performance at work and sports lipids and proteins help replenish and
your skin will look and feel. If and improves mental vitality. maintain the skin barrier,”she explains,
you want healthy glowing skin, “A lack of sleep can contribute “and oats contain anti-inflammatory
ensure you drink an average of to depression,” Dr Jean says. “A and antioxidant chemicals.”
2 – 3 litres of clean water per good night’s sleep can really help
day. a moody person decrease their 19
anxiety. You get more emotional
stability with good sleep.”

Our body’s are our temples. We should
love andcherish them. Bylookingafter
our bodies, we can create a healthier
balance between mental, physical and
emotional well-being.

WOMAN 2 WOMAN ISSUE 1, VOLUME 3

KITT’S MUST HAVE

PRODUCT OF THE MONTH

By Kitt Pieters

Bennett Read Shiatsu Massager
For deep penetrating, relaxing massage

My life changed for the design to ease away
better when my Aunt stress in the comfort of
introduced me to the your home! So Yay! No
Shiatsu Massager last having to go out for that
week. I have suffered massage which I can now
from back pain and stiff have just before bed.
muscles for most of my The Shiatsu Massager is
adult life. I was a gymnast made from premium-
in my younger days and quality, durable materials
as a result carry a lot of and has a one year
injuries that are now Warranty.
exacting their toll.
Shiatsu, is a specific form of healing touch, which offers us a way of supporting A visit to a masseuse or
our body at all times of our life. It is a complete health care system which works physio was costing me
with the body’s own resources.This is both its strength and weakness. If the body about P280.00 a session.
is really sick and out of balance, then sometimes more interventionist measures, I purchased the Shiatsu
such as those offered by conventional medicine are needed. However whatever is Massager for P899.00
happening, our body can always be supported to process it in some way. The only and it offers a premium
time it can not really be included is during emergency medical procedures. It can massage experience with
support both before and after as there are no reactions with drugs as it is only ever a simple, yet effective
supporting the body in its processes.

SHIATSU MASSAGE
MACHINE ,

The Bennett Read Shiatsu Massager’s
ergonomic design allows you to get to all those
hard-to-reach areas bringing relief to tired
and aching muscles. The 3D massage action
alleviates stress and soothes muscles while the
silent, dual-rotational motors coupled with self-
adjusting acupressure spheres reduce tension
and stiffness. The Thermo Therapy stimulates
blood circulation. What’s great is that you to
control the intensity of your massage through
its comfortable arm loops. You can pull down
on the arm loops to get a deeper, more vigorous
massage or relax your arms for a lighter massage.
One of the best features for me is the inclusion
of a car charger, so you can use it on the go!

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WHY STRENGTH TRAINING?

Reasons To Include It In Your Workout

This morning, Doris Tumagole a 59 year One of the hidden benefits of strength helps you perspire.
old woman from Gaborone said to me training is managing depression. Edna Tibe,
“Dee, before Curves my knee and ankle a member says she was “always tired and So wouldn’t you love someone to say to
was always in a support, walking was a worrisome”. She felt she “wasn’t a pleasure you “Wow looking good – what are YOU
nightmare, climbing stairs was beyond to people around her” but after a few weeks doing?”
difficult. Today I can run & jog, I have a of strength training she is oozing with
bounce in my step. Housework is so much energy first thing in the morning and now I have highlighted a few benefits of strength
easier to do.” she wakes up feeling positive. She sees a training here but it improves your daily
healthy, happy and promising future. She activities by:
This is what strength training is, training has gone back to the person she was in the • Strength training trains muscles that
up your muscles especially your quad 90’s. “It has become part of me now, I enjoy are used less frequently in normal daily
and hamstrings to steady thigh lifting and the social aspect speaking to young and activities.
foot landing in walking. It alleviates stress the older members. My clothes are all too • It improves your body’s flexibility and
on knees in each step. It prevents and big as well.” range of motion.
improves knee pain. • You can perform daily activities such as
Who doesn’t want to feel happy when they going up and down the stairs with less
Who doesn’t want less knee pain? wake? Have more energy all day? See a effort.
promising future? What exercise does, is • Your chances of falling are decreased.
“I sit at my desk all day now I have back boost serotonin, which is neurotransmitter • Strength training helps increase physical
pain and I have gained weight. How can in the brain. Serotonin is important for strength.
strength training help me?” Joyce Maneto managing mood, appetite, sleep, and • Training abdominal and back extensor
said to me back in 2010. Today she spends dreaming. Boosted serotonin levels helps muscles improves lung capacity and helps
her lunch hour at Curves and her aches you feel happy and relieve your stress and your body feel less fatigued.
and pains have gone and she has more depression. Exercise probably helps ease • Adequate amount of exercise during the
flexibility. This is due to training muscles depression in a number of ways, which may day helps secrete melatonin and aids in
that are also used less frequently helping include: sleeping better at night.Strength training
your body’s flexibility and range of motion. - Releasing feel-good brain chemicals that also benefits you psychologically and
Weak muscles lead to back pain. Training may ease depression (neurotransmitters emotionally:
muscles that surround spine (back, the and endorphins). • Gain confidence. Meeting exercise goals
sides, abdominal, pelvic) help alleviate -Reducing immune system chemicals that or challenges, even small ones, can boost
stress on your spine and back. can worsen depression. your self confidence. Getting in shape
- Increasing body temperature, which may can also make you feel better about your
Who wouldn’t want less or avoid back pain have calming effects.Many people suffer appearance.
totally? from non communicable disease and • Take your mind off worries. Exercise is a
just give up and just take the medication, distraction that can get you away from the
As we age, we lose lean muscle mass and strength training is so beneficial to cycle of negative thoughts that feed anxiety
gain fat. Physical inactivity can cause loss these conditions as it increases muscle and depression.
of lean muscle mass as much as 3% to 5% mass in assisting the body in burning • Get more social interaction. Exercise may
per decade after age 30. Decrease in muscle fat more efficiently and improves give you the chance to meet or socialize
mass can cause weight gain, change hypercholesterolemia (high cholesterol). with others.
in body shape, and physical problems. This leads to lower blood pressure, glucose • Cope in a healthy way. Doing something
Regular strength training increases muscle levels, and lower cholesterol levels. positive to manage anxiety or depression is
ratio and improves the appearance of your a healthy coping strategy.
body. Who doesn’t want to be firmer as As women and as we get older we are
they age, instead of getting flabby? prone to suffering from stress incontinence Curves workout is safe and effective for
and with training our pubococcygeus women of all ages and fitness levels. Our
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pound of muscle than it does to maintain stress incontinence and female genital motivate you every step of the way.
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VOLUME 3, ISSUE 1, WOMAN 2 WOMAN

WOMEN IN RELATIONSHIPS

DISENGAGING FROM
MANIPULATORS

By Laurie James

One of the most challenging things option when it comes to saving your For people who are not wired this way, it
for many of my “reasonable” clients to own sanity. This is especially difficult if can be very easy to get manipulated as
understand is that not everyone can you’re the type of person who is sensitive the other person can seem so innocent
be reasoned with. Some unhealthy to abandonment or disconnection on the surface…but in fact that they are
people play by their own sets of rules in relationship. You may believe that completely dismissing the other person’s
and no matter how much reality they somehow you should be able to manage separateness and their effect on the other
are confronted with, they manage to your own needs in the relationship and is completely out of their awareness.
disregard the very real effects that the keep the other person happy at the same
rules they play by have on others. Their time- or at least have them get where Healthy, reasonable
genuine confusion about the what it’s you’re coming from. How hard it can be people who are able
like to be on the receiving end of their when the other person’s psychology does to see another’s point
behaviors can make it very hard to see not allow them to admit the truth of your of view can find it
their level of manipulation for what it is separateness or to accept the boundary hard to imagine that
(intentional or not). that you are trying to set! others are not always
so uncomplicated.
It can be rather difficult for a kind and Healthy, reasonable people who are able
understanding person to learn the skill to see another’s point of view can find 23
of complete disengagement that is often it hard to imagine that others are not
necessary when it comes to dealing with always so uncomplicated. While some
people who are so narcissistic that they difficult people become angry when
treat another person’s needs, boundaries, others try to set a boundary with them,
or criticisms as completely irrelevant- and criticize something they are doing, or let
all with a total naiveté about the fact that them know the effect they are having on
they are doing so. And although it can be others, others cope with this by using
very hard to disengage completely when denial. They simply dismiss the feedback
such people act as if you haven’t set a in their own minds and go on as if nothing
boundary or acknowledged a need in the has happened.
first place, often this is the only viable

WOMAN 2 WOMAN ISSUE 1, VOLUME 3 especially when he needed Mary to help are like a game in which the rules can be
him clean up messes he had made with made up at will and the other is expected
In a sense, the incongruence between his mismanagement of the company. to simply play by the rules of the game,
their behaviors and their superficial At first, Mary complained about how never introducing reality. “But I never
presentation is ego syntonic and non- hurt and caught off guard she felt at meant to hurt you” doesn’t mean very
conflictual for them. They manage to being let go. Her boss acted completely much when someone repeatedly betrays
live in a world in which they can mess understanding with his words but his/her partner, whether it’s by cheating
over the other person and still feel a seemed completely oblivious to the and acting as if nothing has happened,
sense of personal integrity at the same actual effect he had had on Mary’s life- not paying the bills that were supposed
time, totally ignoring the contradiction and was totally mystified when she didn’t to be paid and then acting as if the
inherent in this. want to help him out with problems at other shouldn’t be upset at all, or simply
the office. continuing with old, offending behaviors
Mary was a case in point. Her boss while simultaneously apologizing for
manipulated her for many months, Mary eventually had to stop answering those very behaviors.
always acting friendly on the surface and his phone calls completely to get the
smooth-talking her with his superficial message across that their relationship Sometimes actions do speak louder
charm. Mary was completely blindsided had been changed by his behavior and than words, but when the other person’s
when she was let go abruptly from the the event of her being let go from her words are incongruent with behaviors
company and later found out that her position…and even then, her old boss just that are very dismissive, it can be very
boss had been planning this behind her didn’t seem to “get it”. It took Mary a long hard to sort out which end the disconnect
back for a number of months, without time to get over feeling “guilty” or “mean” is coming from.
letting on at all that this was in the works. for ignoring his messages and emails.
In his mind (unconsciously), he could be Do you second guess yourself in such
“best friends” with Mary while planning to It can be extremely confusing and situations? It’s hard not to! But maybe the
get rid of her- at the same time. He simply maddening when someone hurts us or problem is really not you…and sometimes
used denial to manage the contradiction/ violates our boundaries, only to act as letting go and completely disengaging
incongruence in his actions. if they have done nothing wrong. Trying is the only way to go. This may mean
to explain one’s position to this kind of deleting a person’s emails, not picking up
Even after Mary was fired from her job, person usually elicits a lot of “yessing” their messages, or simply ignoring their
he acted as if he hadn’t done anything behavior and superficial remorse, in overtures when a long history with them
wrong and continued to treat Mary as which the other acts as if he understands has led you to know that engaging is just
if everything between them was just the impact he has had or what he “has not the way to go if you’re looking for a
fine…even as she found herself feeling done wrong”, but in fact he goes on as if healthy outcome.
enraged and betrayed. Mary withdrew nothing has happened at all. Such people
abruptly from the relationship, but her live in “pretend mode”, as if relationships
boss continued to contact her as if
they were on completely good terms…

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FEATURE VOLUME 3, ISSUE 1, WOMAN 2 WOMAN

MUMS & TOTS

SCHOOL READINESS

By Christine Bardenhorst

With the start of the new year, many children will be starting Sleep:
school for the first time. The transition to School is a major
milestone in your child’s (and your) life. Being ready for school is It is beneficial to both parent and child if you are able to establish
more than just knowing your 123’s or ABC’s. It is also important good sleeping habits at an early age. It is recommended that
for your child to be both emotionally and physically health children aged between 6-13 years get between 9 – 11 hours
too. Once all your child’s basic needs are met i.e. Emotional, of sleep a day. Sleep supports both mental and physical
Physical and Mental they are able to focus on learning. These development.
early school years are essential to their success in school and
ultimately in life. Nutrition:

Emotional Needs Breakfast is “Brain food”. Although it may be a challenge to
feed kids a healthy breakfast, it is the most essential meal of
Talk to your child, let them tell you how they are feeling. Its the day. Without the right nutrition, the brain is unable to focus
ok for your child to be nervous or anxious. Perhaps meet a correctly and can lead to learning difficulties and fatigue. Often
few of the moms whose children will be starting school with hungry children are more focused on when “Break time’ is, than
your child. Arrange for the children to meet on the first day of on learning. If time is a factor, some breakfasts like hard-boiled
school, this will help your child be less afraid or nervous. Let eggs, muffins or even smoothies can be prepared the night
your child know when and where you will collect them after before. Lunch boxes should be healthy too! A combination of
school. Knowing when they will see you again can ease their all food groups is ideal. Protein, fruit and veg, Dairy, as well as
separation anxiety. Try your best NOT TO BE LATE. It is also a starch. Water is essential. I suggest a strong, leakproof bottle
helpful (actually essential) to teach your young ones I.C.E. or In with a sports lid. If you live in a hot climate, try freezing the
Case of Emergency details. Their full name, where they live, your water bottles to keep them cooler for longer. Avoid sugary and
contact details etc. This can help not only them but you in an fizzy drinks.
emergency.
Speak with your child’s Teacher. Communicate any fears etc. Mental needs:
your child might have. This will enable the Teacher to understand
some of your child’s behaviour or reactions to school or other Your child will love their new independence, but will still need
children. lots of love and attention. Connecting with you and their family
is the most important thing in their lives. Children need your
Physical needs: approval and praise as well as discipline.
Starting school opens up a whole new world, which comes
A child’s physical well-being is linked directly to their learning with a whole new set of rules. Establishing healthy parameters
ability. Meeting a child’s physical needs will improve mental and boundaries will help your child cope.
vitality. School can be demanding and tiring, it is normal for your child
to be moody or easily upset after a long day. Whether your child
is anxious about school or jumping with joy, a bit of preparation
and planning can ease the transition.

Starting school opens up a whole new world,
which comes with a whole new set of rules.
Establishing healthy parameters and boundaries
will help your child cope.

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MOVIE She takes to the water to surf, but soon
REVIEWS finds herself on the feeding ground of a
Great White shark. She sustains a serious
THE SHALLOWS bite to the thigh. After managing to climb
onto a rock, she begins the fight for her
Starring: Blake Lively life. The movie details Nancy’s fight for
Directed By: Jaume Collet-Serra survival which ultimately becomes a battle
Written by: Anthony Jaswinski of wills between her and the Great White
shark, requiring all of Nancy’s ingenuity,
“The Shallows” is an 87-minute thriller set resourcefulness, and fortitude.
in shallow water starring Blake Lively. Lean and solidly crafted, The Shallows
Shortly after the death of her mother, transcends tired shark-attack tropes with
medical student Nancy Adams (Blake nasty thrills and a powerful performance
Lively) travels to a secluded beach in from Blake Lively. The film was most
Mexico, which had special meaning to her enjoyable. I was riveted. Definitely worth
mother. watching.

UNDERWORLD
BLOOD WARS

Starring: Kate Beckinsdale, Theo James, Charles
Dance and Laura Pulver
Directed by Anna Foerster
Running Time 91 min

Vampire Death Dealer Selene (Kate Beckinsale) What follows is the usual, vampire-turning-on- saying uninteresting things. And ultimately
continues her struggle against the Lycan clan and vampire while under attack by a clan of Lycans. about seven minutes of real action.
the Vampire faction that betrayed her. With both It’s interesting to note that although the film
sides trying to use the blood of both her and her has four credited writers, there is nothing new More frustratingly, one leaves the theater with
daughter to become Corvinus Strain Hybrids. After to see. The juxtaposition of the gun-brandishing the central question of “What is really so special
hiding her daughter, Selene, David (Theo James) “Chic” vampires against the feral, unarmed about Selene’s daughter?” unanswered. There
and his father Thomas (Charles Dance), attempt to Lycans is unsubtle as usual, with bullets flying is a tease that this question will be answered in
end the eternal war between Lycans and Vampires, everywhere while Selene and her daughter the next film. Barring the die-hard Underworld
though Selene must take a risk that may cost her move from place to place. fans, I can’t see anyone rushing to see the next
her life. installment. Kate Beckinsdale, as usual, looks
The problem isn’t really the clichéd action amazing in her black leather, but if you are
In “Underworld Blood Wars”, little has really scenes - but the fact that there is so little action looking for great entertainment, this film is
changed and Selene is still battling the Lycans and in the film. The Director seemed to think that lacking.
the Vampires who betrayed her. Although she now long winded monologues and morose banter
has a new love interested David (Theo James). The is far more interesting than vampires fighting
2 team up with his father Thomas (Charles Dance) Lycan’s, which results in uninteresting people
to try end the war between the Lycans and the
Vampires. During their struggle, they uncover a
plot against Selene’s daughter by the evil vampire
- Samira (Laura Pulver from Sherlock).

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HEALTHY RECIPES

EASY, HEALTHY SUMMER RECIPES

Main Course: Honey Glazed Chicken
with Green Pea and Mint Sauce

Ingredients
Grilled Honey Glazed Chicken:

• 1/4 cup honey

• 3 tablespoons balsamic vinegar

• 4 whole bone-in chicken breasts

• Olive oil, for grilling, optional

• Salt and freshly ground black pepper

Starter: Eggplant Ricotta Bites Green Pea and Mint Sauce:
Ingredients
• 2 cups frozen peas, blanched and drained well
• 2 medium eggplant • 1/2 cup white wine vinegar
• Kosher salt • 3 tablespoons chopped fresh mint leaves
• All-purpose flour, for dredging • 2 tablespoons chopped fresh cilantro leaves
• 2 large eggs • 1 jalapeno, grilled or roasted, chopped
• 3/4 cup breadcrumbs • Salt and freshly ground black pepper
• 1/4 cup grated parmesan cheese • 1/4 cup olive oil or canola oil
• 1 tablespoon plus 2 teaspoons extra- virgin olive oil, • 1 tablespoon honey

plus more as needed Directions
• 2 large plum tomatoes, diced
• 2 teaspoons red wine vinegar Grilled Honey Glazed Chicken
• 1 cup ricotta cheese •Heat grill to medium. Whisk together the honey and balsamic
• Shredded fresh basil, for topping vinegar in a small bowl. Brush the breasts on both sides with oil,
if desired, and season with salt and pepper. Grill the breasts for 7
Directions to 10 minutes per side or until golden brown and cooked through.
Brush with the honey glaze during the last few minutes of cooking.
• Thinly slice the eggplant into rounds and season with salt. Pour Serve on a bed of sauce or with sauce drizzled over.
some flour into a shallow dish. Beat the eggs in another dish. In Green Pea and Mint Sauce:
a third dish, mix the breadcrumbs and parmesan. Dredge the •Place peas, vinegar, mint, cilantro, jalapeno, and salt and pepper in
eggplant in the flour, then dip in the eggs and coat with the a blender and blend until smooth. With the motor running, slowly
breadcrumb mixture. add the oil and taste for seasoning.
• Heat 1 tablespoon olive oil in a large skillet over medium heat. •Add the honey and blend again. If the mixture if too thick, blend in
Working in batches, cook the eggplant until golden, about 2 a few tablespoons of cold water.
minutes per side, adding more oil between batches, if necessary.
Drain on paper towels and season with salt. Recipe courtesy of Bobby Flay
• Toss the tomatoes with the remaining 2 teaspoons olive oil and
the vinegar in a bowl. Spoon some ricotta onto each eggplant slice. Dessert:Grilled Peaches with Cinnamon
Top with the tomato mixture and basil. Sugar Butter
Recipe courtesy of Food Network Magazine Ingredients

28 • 1 or 2 table spoons stick unsalted butter, at room temperature
• 1 teaspoon cinnamon sugar
• 2 tablespoons granulated sugar
• Pinch salt
• 4 ripe peaches, halved and pitted
• Canola oil
• Mint leaves, for garnish

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Directions

•In a small bowl add the butter and stir until smooth. Add the cinnamon
sugar, sugar and salt and mix until combined.
•Heat grill to high. Brush peaches with oil and grill until golden brown and
just cooked through. Top each with a few teaspoons of the butter and
garnish with mint leaves.

Recipe courtesy of Bobby Flay

VOLUME 3, ISSUE 1, WOMAN 2 WOMAN

FEGO
CAFFÉ,
THE PLACE TO BE

At Fego Caffé, there’s warmth in
every cup. It’s a heartfelt welcome
and the friendly feeling of visiting
a familiar place. It’s where the delicate
aroma of freshly roasted coffee lingers
and where light meals are freshly
prepared. It’s taking a break from a busy
day and enjoying a cup of coffee worth
pausing for.It’s your regular stop, your
favourite local coffee shop.Fego Caffé,
more than just a coffee break.

Franchise concept: Fego brand image only be matched when the race is won has been embraced in the Botswana
emanated from South Africa in 1997. on latest developments both technically because of the diverse cultural cuisine
The franchise then hit the capital of and cutting a trend setting niche with its history. That of course has been a great
Botswana in 2008 as a citizen owned coffee house charm and its traditional launching pad. But I think what has made
café business. From 2012, meeting full service Italian Bistro orientation. us successful is our ability to innovate;
and growing in bounds, Fego Caffé Fego Caffé, has built a solid reputation we have great pioneering craftsman
established itself in the central business for delivering a wholesome and fulfilling in the kitchen, but he also has a deep,
district of Gaborone offering more than customer experience, making it a almost incisive knowledge of food and
coffee and beverages but; a full menu popular customer destination (especially food history. This allows us to deliver
from Teas, Breakfast, Lunch Light meals today’s business woman), families and a food that can be totally unexpected. One
to Dinner specials. Amongst the spectra discerning group of the business caucus. of our greatest personal and professional
of dishes offered it specializes and is successes has been to raise the profile
popular on its traditional full service Who are your customers and how do of Italian, Parsee and Goan food into the
Italian Bistro orientation. you maintain long-term relationships? mainstream.
Our customers are a good cross-section.
Savoury experience: Fego Caffé, aims to All genders, age and race – focus on Ambience: the set and structure of Fego
capture the magic in every moment with women in the business sector and from Caffé CBD branch is designed around
their decadent coffee and sumptuously ALL walks of life with the changing and stylish continental décor where patrons
prepared meals. They provide the kind fast pace society, Fego is gaining much can take a break from the helter-skelter
of warm, welcoming atmosphere where support in Botswana because of its schedules and relax and enjoy a whole
you walk in a customer and inevitably efficiency and best fit unique dishes. range of espresso based coffees and
walk out a friend. With a small survey Fego still enjoys a good bulk of our quality freshly prepared food. There is a
of women who visit the caffe in the business from the City – and some of perfect blend of amazing tasting coffee,
business community in and around the our longest standing clients who have fine cuisine and a signature atmosphere
city of Gaborone tend to describe the become friends first came to us because that is distinctly “a la mode”.
experience in a few common words - they worked nearby.
“A passion for cafe-style dining, service We Owe Our Success To Our Customers… Social Responsibility: In its growth in
exceeding expectation & a sophisticated bounds and mounds, and with a social
ambience where a robust cup of coffee & Italian cuisine is very popular – It conscience in business, Fego Caffé has
light meal can be savoured...” depends on what you mean by popular, benchmarked its success story to its
or what Italian cuisine you consider society, hence the need to give back to
Tough face of competition: Saving face popular. As a whole, yes, Italian cuisine society. Whenever its resources allow, the
amidst a plethora of competitors can
company continues to assist deserving
individuals, groups and communities
in various charitable ways, including
financial and food donations.

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SUCCESS STORY

YEWANDE AUSTIN

Musically changing the world.

By Laurie James

As a little girl, Yewande’s greatest dream was to change the world
like the pioneers she read about in the solitude of her closet.
At the height of civil conflict, historic figures like Martin Luther
King, Jr., Mahatma Gandhi, Harriet Tubman, Sojourner Truth proved
that change was possible through peace and non-violence. And that’s
just what she wanted to do...

The Global Institute for Diversity and Change (GDIC) is committed
to keeping that dream alive. This organization founded by Yewande
has become an international resource for diversity and inclusion
programming, leadership training, integrated curriculum development,
youth empowerment and social consciousness building. Today’s global
leader must not only be effective, but socially and culturally competent.
The GDIC’s multi-disciplinary approach teaches participants to think
critically about how to foster creative solutions to real world problems
in collaborative environments.

When Yewande isn’t addressing lecture halls or rocking the stage,
this 2014/2013 CNN Hero nominee can be found fulfilling another
great passion - working with children. Since 2006, her humanitarian
organization (www.changerocksfoundation.com), has empowered
some of the world’s most vulnerable youth by using music to promote
education, leadership, health awareness and sustainable skills from
Africa to the Americas. It is this inspiring commitment to social change
that has ignited a movement heard around the world.

From M. T. V. and B. E. T. to the historic Rock and Roll Hall of Fame,
Yewande’s socially charged music has taken centre stage with the likes

I was fortunate to meet this incredible woman at
Stepping Stones International where I was riveted
listing to her insights and rather haunting voice as
he hummed Amazing Grace. Her commitment to
the same causes that as a criminologist impact
on my daily life such as Human Trafficking;
Trauma Counseling; The plight of Vulnerable
Children; The re-education of Child Soldiers,
made us sisters in arms so to speak.

Yewande with Students @ Shakawe Seconadry School

of the Black Eyed Peas, Maroon 5, Sean Paul power to change the world.” The response (England), to establish the Global Institute
and India Arie, but it is her inspiring work as to this seemingly simple mantra revealed for Diversity produced programs for over
a lecturer, activist and honorary U. S. Cultural testimonies about discrimination, identity 250,000 vulnerable youth, student leaders
Ambassador that has become perhaps her and other deeply personal obstacles that and advocates in 13 countries from Africa
greatest achievement. young listeners were eager to share. With this and Europe to the Americas. When she’s not
sobering revelation, Yewande called upon working with children, her diversity company
In 2004, Yewande launched her first her studies at Howard University, Carnegie (www.globalinstituteforchange.com)
national “Change Rocks” College Tour with Mellon University Conservatory of Music produces programs that promote leadership,
one profound message, ”YOU have the and later the University of Sheffield cultural understanding and social activism

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for college students and educational professionals. It is this passion for
humanity that has inspired a movement heard around the world.
Yewande recently visited Botswana in order to spread her message of
hope and tolerance. She spent NewYear in here in Botswana, which she
describes as,“the first day of 2017 was anything but boring! Watched a
group of tribal dancers in Molepolole; Climbed Livingstone’s Mountain
(tried at least) to the cave where locals once practiced “witchcraft” and
survived the personalities of 20 human beings below the age of 21 on
another continent. It’s official. I can do anything;)!”

Yewande brought a group of students from Virginia Commonwealth
University (VCU) with her in order to provide both students from VCU
and University of Botswana(UB) with a life changing experience and
an opportunity to share their experiences and cultures. As part of the
program she spent time teaching her social entrepreneurship class,
“The Art of Change” at the University of Botswana; Taking a safari
with students and @Class Volunteers Foundation founder Phetso K.
J. Kgosiemang; Packing up nearly 200 pounds of goods to distribute
to local youth; Introducing students to the inspiring work of social
entrepreneurs Jocasta Bobeng (LADY J Briquettes) and Naomi Mengi
Makgolo (Moshawa Estates Water Reticulation Project); Meeting with
the U. S. Deputy ...Ambassador and his prestigious team; Leading
students in teaching healthcare lessons to youth at Stepping Stones
International; Cooking a traditional Botswana meal with Jill Blondin’s
friend One Young Chef’s Academy in a rain storm; and taking a fusion
dance class with students at Andrew Letso Kola’s Mophato DANCE
Theatre. That was just the first week with many more activities
planned....

Yewande Ausin Climbs Livingston Mountain Week three in Botswana saw Yewande saying goodbye to her
VCU students with the hope that, as she puts it “In spite of all of the
challenges, I can confidently say that we created an experience that
changed a lot of lives.” Let’s hope all the students had a positive
experience from which each of them could take something meaningful
away with them.

During her fourth week in Botswana she spend most of her time in
meetings and teaching youth in Maun and Shakawe about behaviors
that often get in the way of their dreams. She points out, “its not
easy to discuss issues like alcoholism/drug abuse, HIV/AIDS, teenage
pregnancy or gender-based violence but we did...and had a little fun
in the process!

I was fortunate to meet this incredible woman at Stepping Stones
International where I was riveted listing to her insights and rather
haunting voice as he hummed Amazing Grace. Her commitment to
the same causes that as a criminologist impact on my daily life such
as Human Trafficking; Trauma Counseling; The plight of Vulnerable
Children; The re-education of Child Soldiers, made us sisters in arms
so to speak.

As she travels around the world making a real difference on the ground,
Yewande has agreed to write a column for Woman2Woman, keeping
us in the loop with references to the challenges she faces, how she
overcomes them, the success stories and the heartbreak she is sure
to encounter. We welcome her on board and are waiting with baited
breath for her first column.

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ARTS & CRAFTS

Arts and Crafts
String Or Wool Wrapped Painted Jars

By Kitt Pieters

Wrap string around the Jars

Step 2
Place the jars onto your covered surface upside down and
spray paint them evenly with 2-3 coats. Make sure to let
them dry for 5-10 minutes in between coats.

Here is what you’ll need:

- Several cleaned jars. I always keep mine for projects. Soak

them in water to get the tags off Make sure to clean them

with soap to get all the glue residue off or else the paint won’t

stick.

- Wool, Yarn or some sort of string. If the yarn has a lot of Spray paint the Jars
fuzzy fibres they may stick to the jar a little but it won’t be very
noticeable so don’t worry about it too much Step 3
- A can of white spray paint. I used Matt. You can use any Once they are fully dried just cut the string in one place and
colour you want but for my needs white was best suited. unwrap.
- You’ll also need something to cover whatever surface you’ll I think it would also look lovely to wrap some twine around the
be spraying on. Spray paint doesn’t work as well when it’s bases of the jars for some more texture.
cold outside so it will take longer to dry. Make sure to give it
some extra time before you touch the jars.

How to make your painted Jars

I used some regular packaging string and some yard with
texture.

Step 1
Wrap the string around the jar tightly and tie a knot. Now wrap
the string around the rest of the jar tightly criss-crossing and
overlapping until you like what you see. Then just tie the end
to the leftover string where you started and cut off the ends.

Step 4
Now you can place a tea light inside and decorate away :)

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MEDICALLY SPEAKING

#HandsUp for HIV/Aids Prevention

By Lauren Chivasera

The 1st of December is World related matters one is met with fabulous if during female social making the purchase when
AIDS Day. Sadly this day is losing giggles, averted eyes, blushing events, in appropriate setting accompanied by their partners.
meaning as year on year new and shyness.. Women who speak some HIV/Aids education could Condoms can save your life and
infections continue. This day is freely about sex and sexuality are be introduced. It just might invaluable in the fight against
meant to commemorate the shunned or labeled“racy”. save a life and clear up some the spread HIV/Aids through
fallen and support those still misconceptions. sexual transmission. Condoms
fighting this war. This year’s The participants in these form a barrier between you and
theme is hands up for #HIV/AIDS conversations were predominantly Social stigma refers to extreme any potential carrier of the virus,
Prevention. As a young woman elderly and married women. The disapproval of (or discontent keeping you safe. We have no
I choose to raise both my hands youth for the most part avoided with) a person or group on alternative than to identify, face
up. these conversations, most socially characteristic grounds and fight social stigma as well
probably to avoid judgment. We that are perceived, and serve as religious and cultural norms
We have come a long way in as Motswana women applaud to distinguish them, from other in the hope that an HIV free
stemming HIV infection but the youth who abstain and members of a society. Stigma generation may be born.
sadly we still have new infections, chastises those with active may then be affixed to such a
especially among adolescent sexual lives. This jusdgemental person, by the greater society, As empowered woman of the
girls and women. The power to behaviour is not productive and who differs from their cultural 21st century, understanding the
ensure an HIV Free generation can never aid in the fight against norms. And its the social stigma need to prioritize our safety is
has been bestowed on women. HIV/Aids. Sexuality is a matter attached to openly discussing, paramount to our survival. As
If women take the necessary of choice. Understanding the sex, sexuality and even acts like women let us take the fight to
steps to prevent infection then youth and promoting safe sex purchasing condoms that are HIV, let us own condomising,
they will give birth to children by educating young wonaman part of the reason we continue all the time, every time, no
who are not infected, hence the without stigmatising them to lose the war against new aids exceptions. Let’s make it our
birth of an HIV Free generation. would far better serve the cause. infections. thing, take back our power. Make
Babies continue to be bornwith Our goal as mature women is not our health our priority and live
HIV/AIDS despite Governments to pass judgment, but to stop this I recently found myself long and healthy lifestyles.
globally, having made HIV /AIDS virus in its tracks. wondering, why I found the
a national priority which includes idea of buying condoms so
haveing made programmes like Having unprotected sex is one embarrassing? For the life of me,
PMTCT freely accessible to those of the major ways HIV is spread I have never bought a pack of
aflicted by the disease. Why then around the globe. Women hide condoms and I consider myself
do we continue to have new HIV/ under the cloak of modesty a part of the modern, born
AIDs infections? from the real issues regarding free generation. I considder
sexual behaviour. Our culture women who can buy condoms
There are several reasons why has dictated that men dictate so liberated be liberal and have
women are primarily affected. that part of our live to uss. It’s nothing but admiration for them.
Women tend to be timid and shy taboo to talk about sex unless Then I decided to interview other
away from demanding safe sex it’s behind closed doors. Men are women and questioned them on
from their partners. Surprisingly far better placed overcome and their comfort levels when buying
women are among the most fight HIV/AIDS because they talk condoms, 90% had never bought
social beings in the world but about pertinent sexual issues condoms, of the 10% who had
when it comes to discussing sex and share advice. It would be are ,most felt more comfortable
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ENTERTAINMENT & LIFESTYLE

Outdoor Living Trends

By Christine Badenhorst

New research shows that an increasing number of homeowners are
prioritising outdoor living as a major influence in their home designs.

New research shows that an increasing number of homeowners are overall trends continue to revolve around
prioritising outdoor living as a major influence in their home designs. creating attractive, homely and liveable
Garden and Outdoor makeovers are having a direct influence on outdoor spaces that are an extension of
the amount of time that is spent outdoors. Homeowners are also indoor living.
relaxing, eating and entertaining more in outdoor spaces than ever
before. Gardening is no longer the top use of outdoor space. The This trend has seen an increase in outdoor
structures being added to the overall
design of new homes. Patio extensions,
and decks are now utilised to their full
potential. Outdoor areas can also include
living spaces, dining rooms and fully
equipped kitchens. Themed spaces such
as Yoga Gardens or bocce fields can also be
added to further customise your outdoor
retreat.

Architectural designs now include
pavilions, porches, pergola’s and gazebo’s.
In hotter climates – like ours – pool houses
or cabanas create extra space that can
be used for changing, lounging or even
storage. It gives an added advantage of
not having to deal with water or mud in
the house.

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Outdoor kitchens have long been used in many cultures, including
Motswana. However, now outdoor kitchens now rival their All the furniture you have inside, you can now have outside. Thanks
indoor counterparts. Homeowners are creating multiple cooking to advance in design and technology, modern outdoor furniture is
and working surfaces, brick ovens, fire pits and even installing made from materials that are both water and fade resistant. You
professionally rated kitchen appliance. These permanent outdoor can create a permanent living room outdoors with all the comforts
kitchens are as ergonomically and aesthetically pleasing as indoor of your indoor space. And the outdoor can just as easily reflect your
kitchens. personality and style.

The sound of water flowing in your outdoor space or garden is
both relaxing and soothing. More and more homeowners are
adding water features, with the latest trend moving towards self-
contained systems, earthy ponds and ‘natural’ swimming pools.
Storm water system management in also increasing, harvesting
rain in catchment ponds, that serve as an auxiliary source. Solar
powered water pumps are also adding to the effectiveness of this
new trend. With outdoor showers often being included in modern
designs.

A large majority of people are eager for outdoor spaces that are
aesthetically pleasing yet require low maintenance. The reason
is both environmental and economic. Recycled and reclaimed
furniture and fittings are widely used. Pallet furniture is also a
big outdoor trend! As are pavers made from recycled plastic and
rubber. Less concrete, with more natural elements that seem to
be making their mark as conservation has become a big concern.
Whatever your choices are with regards to your outdoor living, the
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WFOAMSENH&IFOASHNIONON THE RED CARPET

Here Are Our Picks For The 6 Best And Worst Dressed On The Red Carpet At The Golden Globes

By Kitt Pieters

Hailee Steinfeld Naomie Harris Sofía Vergara Viola Davis

The princess moment of the night came Although she didn’t win, nominee Naomie There were a number of yellow gowns on
from courtesy of Hailee Steinfeld. The lilac Harris was a red carpet winner in this Sofía Vergara brought the sexiness to the this red carpet this year, but no one looked
color and voluminous train elevated the silver dress with sweetheart neckline. red carpet in this Zuhair Murad dress.
Vera Wang dress from prom to princess. as stunning as the How To Get Away With

Murder star Viola Davis in Michael Kors

collection.

Lily Cooper Emily Ratajkowski Felicity Jones Sophie Turner

Lily Cooper looked gorgeous. Her vampy Emily Ratajkowski looks incredible in Felicity Jones’ Gucci gown had way too We appreciate Sophie Turner going modern
makeup combined with her youthful braided
hairdo complemented her Zuhair Murad this gold Grecian-style Reem Acra dress. much going on, from the overly ornate in Louis Vuitton, but her dress had one too
couture gown, a romantic lace masterpiece
in all the right ways! bodice and hem to the bow to the two many ideas going on, from the epaulets to

tones of pink. the belt to the mixed materials.

Heidi Klum Anna Kendrick Naomi Campbell Gwendoline Christie
“Game of Thrones” star Gwendoline
Heidi Klum may be a supermodel, but even We loved Anna Kendrick’s darker tresses, Like her supermodel counterpart Klum, Christie was completely washed out by her
she couldn’t work this garish, graphic but even she looked like she couldn’t work Naomi Campbell’s dress was just too dress.
J Mendel dress. the grey Vionne gown. busy for the eyes, despite looking fierce
as always.

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MAKE-UP COLOUR ME BEAUTIFUL

Eyebrow Shaping 101: Pluck the Perfect Eyebrows

Perfectly groomed eyebrows balance your features and frame your eyes. Here is how to get them.
BY Kitt Pieters

1. Locate your Starting Points

Want perfect eyebrows? Here’s where to start. Flip your tweezer
(try Tweezerman Slant tweezer,) upside down so the open end is
pointing downward, and place it vertically alongside the outer
edge of the bottom of your nose. The point where the vertex
lands marks the beginning of your brow (which should also be
about one inch above the inner corner of your eye). Using an
eye pencil, draw a vertical line to demarcate the start of each
brow, then check that the space above the bridge of your nose is
centered between them. Remove the strays that fall in between.

Grab strands right at the root and slowly pull them out.

2. Mark Your End Points

Lay the tweezer on an angle against your cheek so that the open
end is at the bottom of your nose and the other end reaches the
outer corner of your eye. The spot where the tweezer intersects
your brow is where the hairs should end. Mark it with the eye
pencil, then pluck the hairs beyond the line.

3.Determine Your Brow Thickness

How to do your eyebrows right: Starting just below the fullest
part of your brow, use an eye pencil to draw a line along the
bottom edge of your brow; it should be above any stray hairs
and it should follow the natural shape of your brow’s top line,
which may be angled, slightly curved, or even straight. Pluck the
strays below the line. Ultimately, your brows should be between
a quarter inch and a half inch at their thickest.

4. Shape Your Arch

Look straight into a mirror. The arch should peak above the outer
rim of your iris and lie right on your brow bone: “Imagine upside-
down check marks, but with soft angles,” says Vucetaj. Mark the
point with your eye pencil, then remove a row of hairs along the
bottom, from your inner brow point to the peak point. After the
peak, shape the tail.

“Make it a bit thinner than the main part of your brow, tapering at
the end,” she says.
Follow these easy steps and perfect eyebrows will be yours

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WOMEN IN THE NEWS.

MOMSTERS

Late Saturday afternoon in “parents”. Katlego Queen Lejage Facebook Photo
Tlokweng on 7th of January 2017 Two of Lejaje’s Facebook pages
Katlego Queen Lejage allegedly under the names of Keneilwe such he supported her through the child. Lejage was not pleased.
murdered her two2 year old Lejage and Sebobi Keneilwe reveal pregnancy and later tried to adopt Despite The involvement of Social
toddler, Jason Lejage. After an a highly narcissistic personality little Jason. After DNA tests were Services and various agreements
apparent argument with the child’s accordingtoForensicCriminologist, carried out, he was shocked to having been reached, Lejage
father Alan Smith, the enraged Laurie Pieters-James. Pieters-James discover that he was not the child’s continued to frustrate Mr. Smith’s
woman is alleged to have grabbed indicated, “The pages contains a biological father. When questioned access to Jason. She was clearly
a kitchen knife and brutally cut number of photos (mostly selfies) Lejage stated that she did not using the child to hurt Mr. Smith,
the toddlers throat. Thereafter she picturing the young woman in know who the biological father of despite claiming that she was still
allegedly took a taxi to the Central various poses wearing a number of the child was. She appears to have in love with him. Alan Smith in the
Police Station and handed herself in wigs, clearly obsessed with her own had a highly deceptive relationship interim was desperate to build a
toofficers tellingthemthatshehad image. with both men, manipulating them relationship with his little boy and
killed the child. Police officers then On the first page there are just to supporting her needs. Pieters- was indeed making headway with
took her back to her home, walking two photo’s of her toddler son James indicated that deceptive and his endeavours. The special little
into a bloody scene in the bedroom pictured with his father. This would manipulative behaviour patterns boy was beginning to bond with
where they discovered the lifeless indicate a serious detachment or are regularly evident in people his father and before his untimely
body of little Jason Lejage. lack of attachment to the child having both Narcissistic and Anti- death had just started calling Alan
This heinous crime begs the critical who she possibly perceived as Social personality disorders. Smith“daddy”.
questions? Who is Katlego Queen an inconvenience at best and an Lejage allegedly continued to
Lejage?Howdoesamothermurder obstacle to her future at worst.” Lejage later approached Mr. Alan torture Smith emotionally for the
her baby? What type of personality Smith and informed him that he following five months, making it as
would go to these extremes? What It appears that Lejage is not was young Jason’s father. DNA test difficult as possible for him to see his
were the circumstances that led up employed but lives a largely proved this to be fact and paternity son. For the next five months after
to the horrendous murder of the parasitic lifestyle. She appears to was established. It seems that the her great reveal Legaje sent Smith a
innocent young victim. Are there attach herself to wealthy foreigners reason for her revelation to Mr. number of bizarre communications
any lessons that we could possibly living in Botswana or abroad and Smith was financial and that Lejage wherein she threatened suicide.
learn from the tragic death of this use them to fulfil her financial needs needed financial support for school Told him he would see Jason over
poor little boy that could prevent by entering into relationships with fees and the like. At the time she her dead body and so on.
such a crime from reoccurring? them. Pieters-James confirmed that was allegedly still trying to facilitate Then life took another surprising
Katlego Queen Lejage was born this is typical of those suffering from the child’s adoption by Mr. Proyer. turn. Lejage moved homes and
in Ramotswa on the 17th of Anti-social personality disorder, and Lejage was about to become refused to disclose her address to
October 1990. She grew up in criminal psychopaths.. trapped in her web of deceit. Alan Smith. She took the child out
Manyana, Botswana raised by Lejage appears to be pathologically Mr. Smith stopped the adoption of school, and simply disappeared
her grandmother until the age deceptive. After her relationship process in its tracks and assumed into thin air. Lejage manipulated
of eleven after which she moved ended with Alan Smith, the parental responsibilities for the her friends into lying for her and
to Mogoditshane to live with her biological father of the murdered
mother Virgina Montsho and her toddler, she became involved with
stepfather Oboneng Montsho. Alex Proyer who was lecturing
She claims that her upbringing at University of Botswana in May
was troubled and that she had 2013. She told Mr. Proyer that she
a strained relationship with her was expecting his child after he
tried to end their relationship. As

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refusingtodivulgeherwhereaboutstothechild’s her explaining that she was not doing herself JamesopinionLejage’sbehaviourwascalculated
desperate father. This impulsive, irresponsible,
manipulative behaviour is another set of any favours, behaving as she was. He allegedly and pre-meditated designed for maximum
behaviours associated with psychopaths, anti-
social and narcissistic personality’s. It also shows informed her that she may be arrested on the impact.
a complete lack of empathy for the trauma that
her behaviour would cause to the child’s father. assault charges he had laid against her and that As more facts surface, the muddy waters around
Clearly she wanted to cause him stress and pain. the police were looking to arrest her. Smith said the alleged murder will clear. In the interim,
From mid November until the day she killed the he could hear the muffled cries of his son as the Botswana remains shocked and in mourning
toddler Lejage refused Alan Smith access to his confrontation was unfolding. Not wanting to over the tragic loss of an innocent child who’s
son. upset the child any further, Smith says he told light has been permanently extinguished by the
According to Laurie Pieters-James, despite him through the closed door,“Jason Daddy loves person obligated to protect him and keep him
her suicide threats, it was unlikely, given her you, I will see you soon.” safe. His mother!
narcissistic and anti-social traits that Lejage According to Pieters-James this is possibly Lejage was released on bail in the last week of
would harm herself. However prior to the child’s the worst course of action Smith could have January. Shortly after she was released she took
death Pieters-James believed and indicated to embarked on as far as the toddler’s safety to making a number of highly inappropriate
Smith that she was of the opinion that Lejage was concerned. What Smith could not have comments on Mr Smiths Facebook pages using
posed a serious danger to the toddler and that understood or appreciated is that, with a at least three of her Facebook identities. She has
he should seek to remove the child from her narcissist any challenge is seen as an insult, stated that she did not kill Jason and in fact has
custody as soon as possible. resulting in narcissistic injury which is a perceived not killed anybody. She appears to be fixated
Pieters-James cautioned that Social Workers threat to a narcissist’s self-esteem or self-worth. on the status of Mr. Smith’s work and residence
are generally insufficiently trained to identify This triggers a narcissistic rage during which permits and on proving her allegations of him
unstable, dangerous parents and because of the narcissist is quite capable of resorting to being dishonest. She had gone so far as to
this lack of training they are unable to predict violent and even murderous behaviour aimed imply that Alan Smith may have committed
imminent threat to young children. Sadly they at destroying the“thing”they feel may inflict the the murder. Pieters-James is not at all surprised
receive little or no psychological training and next insult which they feel would shatter them. by this behaviour as it is typical of anti-socials
are generally incapable of recognising traits This coupled with Lejage’s impulsive behaviour, and narcissists not to take responsibility for
attributed to dangerous personality disorders. lack of empathy, irresponsibility, inability to their criminal behaviour and to misdirect,
Unfortunately until this is addressed children foresee consequences would have enabled her manipulate and attempt shape the narrative to
will continue to suffer at the hands of potentially to kill the toddler with relative ease. Despite her their advantage. It is interesting Lejage is uses her
volatile parents who display unrecognised claims of loving him on her second profile, she sexuality to attain her goals and has managed to
psychopathic traits. was clearly not acting in the best interests of the find herself a few male sympathisers online.
RegrettablyPoliceservicesfacesimilarchallenges child. Inherown distortedmindit ispossible that The only lesson that we in society can take away
and are often manipulated by perpetrators, who she felt that she would rather kill him than share from this tragedy at the moment is - before you
regularly influence law enforcement personnel him with his father antagonise a potentially dangerous person,
into furthering their agendas. In this case Police Enraged after the confrontation with Smith, make sure that you have taken steps to ensure
had every opportunity to arrest and detain Lejage was probably feeling threatened at Smith that they can’t lash out at an innocent victim.
Lejage for questioning on an open assault case having learned her new address, opening an We at Woman2Woman would like to extend
prior to her killing the toddler but failed to act assault case against her and possibly having to
timeously. face criminal charges. Pieter’s-James is of the our condolences to Mr. Alan Smith during this
On the day of the alleged murder, Alan Smith, opinion that Lejage may have perceived the difficult time. In the interests of protecting our
after discovering the whereabouts of Lejage’s child crying for his father as a further insult to her, nations children we will continue to closely
new residence inTlokweng, decided to approach as a betrayal, causing her to turn on the baby. monitor this story as it unfolds and highlight any
Lejage in an attempt to see Jason, who he had Pieters-James also points out that Lejage clearly lessons that can be learned from this tragedy in
missed since Lejage’s disappearance. Smith says wanted to hurt Smith and the child was the only the hope of saving future victims. Let’s hope we
that she refused to open the door and allow instrument with which she could accomplish can get some Justice for Jason. .
him to see the child. He explained that Lejage
maintained that she would not allow him access this. She explains that the narcissists goal is to
to the child until he presented her with a court
order to do so. Smith says he tried to reason with inflict pain on the target. Lejage knew that by

killing the child she would cause maximum pain

to Smith, whereas by killing herself she would

actually facilitate Smith’s getting custody of his

son and being able to live a happy life without

her interference and manipulation. In Pieters-

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WOMEN IN BUSINESS

EMPOWERING WOMEN THROUGH

MOSADI KHUMO

By Rosalind Kwinje

Having been the Deputy system model as well as to take organization tries to deal with any needs of each woman. There is the
Secretary General of South deliberate actions to invest for social encomperances also wanting finance standing committee and
and to assist women invest and women to deal with their issues. also the investment and welfare
African Development grow their businesses, incomes The organization is anchored standing committee. The latter’s
and wealth, creating jobs and around 12 standing committees committees worth was put to test
Committee Parliamentary Forum, alleviating poverty in the process. around the country, which look at the during the sale of the Botswana Tele-
“Women are more than men and so strengthening of the organization communications shares.
and spearheading the SADC we would expect that since we are itself. There is a standing committee
many things would be favourable that looks at corporate growth and The committee was able to purchase
Parliamentary Forum collaboration to us. Instead we find that in most issue s around the development the shares for the women regardless
countries women are the largest of the image of the organization. of their titles, social status nor age.
with UNECA for the provision of of the poor, they are affected by Internal Relations committee looks The shares were sold at 1pula but
challenges like violence, poverty and at Mosadi Khumo as an entity, the minimum that an individual
technical support to SADC member lack of negotiating space”, she said. how its geographically spaced and would buy was 1000 pula. “If we go
Bookie reiterated that the intention how it links up and how it relates to the villages women cannot put
states, Bookie Kethusegile now of Mosadi Khumo is to provide to other organisations as well as together 1000 pula, so we then went
a space and a platform where the members, how they relate and as Mosadi Khumo and collected any
heads an NGO called Mosadi women can come together without resolve conflicts amicably. External amount an individual would get and
intimidation fear and without being Relations standing committee looks we were able to purchase shares
Khumo Woman Wealth Socio contested. at how Mosadi Khumo relates with worth 47 000 pula”. Bookie shared
other entities. light on some of the challenges
Economic Empowerment forum. Mosadi Khumo looks at addressing that affect women directly like
social inadequacies, social The are standing committees that registration of companies and
With this background and expertise, challenges and hindrances. The look at the different women that submitting tenders of which she
we have in society. There are the strongly believes that women should
Mma Kethusegile was able to young women and youth standing be given first preference.
committee and the elderly. “At the
mobilise 7 other women to start moment we are engaging with the A mother, business woman,
Ministry of Youth and Culture so that mentor and leader of the woman’s
an organisation that now boasts of we can see the opportunities that organization believes that money
are there for the youth so that we should work for people and
more 700 members. can access them and make them not people to work for money.
available to the young women,” she Ketusegile then said, We believe as
Mosadi Khumos mandate is said. Again there is a committee for Mosadi Khumo that there are lots
leveraging the numbers of women. the elderly women. of capacities in women, if we look
Its mandate was to properly harness at the whole spectrum of women
and leverage woman’s power to This committee is concentrated from the young to the elderly, there
transform and impact society at by PHD holders, Former Botswana is a whole richness of knowledge,
large by utilising the value chain University lecturers, Professors and a whole richness of experience,
researchers, diplomats, senior staff a whole richness of skills and
in government and beyond these education and all of this if we pull it
are the women from the villages. all together and harness it. If it does
The most central committee is the not get harnessed a country or a
women’s empowerment committee nation misses out on the input of
because that is why the organization women, it will not fully develop.
exists. This committee looks at the

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PSYCHOLOGICALLY SPEAKING

USING APTITUDE TESTS TO SUPPORT
YOUR CHILD’S EDUCATION.

HOW CAN WE USE APTITUDE TEST
RESULTS?

In general, aptitude test results have three major
uses:

By Laurie James A True/False/Cannot say, Verbal Reasoning Instructional:
test could help an English teacher
High school is an important time in the lives determine the ability of a student to draw Teachers can use aptitude test results to adapt
of all teenagers. Our current generation of conclusions from an English set work book. their curricula to match the level of their students,
teenagers want to change the world. With A concentration test could help a teacher or to design assignments for students who
all the information and choices available, evaluate a student’s ability to keep focused differ widely. Aptitude test scores can also help
teens can get confused about who they are while being involved in monotonous work. teachers, form realistic expectations of students.
and what their mission is in life. Knowing something about the aptitude level
WHATISTHEVALUEOFAPTITUDE of students in a given class can help a teacher
Trying to understand their own strengths, TESTING? identify which students are not learning as much
interests and skills can be stressful. So as could be predicted on the basis of their aptitude
many teens don’t have a clear path for their Research data shows that individually scores. For instance, if a whole class were
future. This is where aptitude testing can be administered aptitude tests have the performing below what would be predicted from
helpful, highlighting for students where their following qualities: aptitude test results, then curriculum, objectives,
natural talents lie. When teens are unsure teaching methods, or student characteristics
of what their strengths and weaknesses * They are excellent predictors of future might be investigated.
are and which professions would be most scholastic achievement.
suitable for them, an aptitude test is able to Administrative:
guide them in the right direction. * They provide ways of comparing a child’s
performance with that of other children in Aptitude test scores can identify the general
Aptitude testing is critical today in order to the same situation. aptitude level of a High School, for example.
assist teens with making subject choices in This can be helpful in determining how much
the final phase of high school. They should * They provide a profile of strengths and emphasis should be given to college and
be choosing subjects in line with their weaknesses. university preparatory programs.Aptitude tests
natural strengths and abilities, ensuring that can be used to help identify students to be
they perform to their highest potential at * They assess differences among accelerated or given extra attention, for grouping,
school, and later on at university. individuals. and in predicting job training performance.

When combined with personality, * They have uncovered hidden talents Guidance:
intelligence and career aptitude tests it is in some children, thus improving their
relatively simple to determine which type educational opportunities. Guidance Counselors use aptitude tests to help
careers would be best suited to the teen in parents develop realistic expectations of their
question and well informed subject choices, * They are valuable tools for working with child’s school performance, as well as to help
which align with career choices, can be handicapped children. students understand their own strengths and
made by the teen. weaknesses.
In addition, aptitude tests can be given
WHAT IS AN APTITUDE TEST? quickly and reasonably inexpensively to To date there have been limited testing
large numbers of children. Children who opportunities available in Botswana and sending
An aptitude test is any type of assessment obtain extreme scores can be easily children to South Africa for testing is both time
that evaluates the talent/ability/potential identified to receive further specialised consuming and can be expensive. Profiler Laurie
to perform a certain task, with no prior attention. Aptitude tests are valuable in James now resident in Botswana has set up
knowledge and/or training. To simplify making Program and Curricula decisions. LightMind in order to fill the gap in the sector and
the concept, think about the following assist you and your family in making the right
examples: choices for your teen.

44 Additionally, LightMind will, on evaluating
your teen be able to advise you how to best
support your teen should they need support in
an academic or psychological capacity. Early
identification means early intervention, opening
up more opportunities for your child. For more
information or an appointment contact Laurie
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