KMU1013_HELPING RELATIONSHIP_Group 17_Magazine

KMU1013

HELPING RELATIONSHIP

GROUP 17

FRIENDSHIP

FRIENDSHIP IS ANOTHER WORD FOR LOVE

Lecturer:

Madam Nor Hasniah

binti Ibrahim

Members of Group 17:

Leow Hui Ting
(70179)

Kathy Kueh Yung
Sing (70055)

Wong Yu Cai
(71983)

Shathiswary Roy
Saravanan (71540)

Muhammad Rajaie
Firdaus Naim Bin
Zahari (70631)

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TABLE OF CONTENTS

Introduction: What is
04
Friendship? 05
07
The Importance of
09
Friendship 11

The Type of Friendship

The Stages of Friendship

The Ways to Maintain

Friendship

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A NOTE
TO SAY

By
Group 17

First and foremost, we want to
express our gratitude to Madam Nor
Hasniah binti Ibrahim, our Helping
Relationships course lecturer, for
her guidance, lessons, and
knowledge. Also, a big thank you to
Canva for providing free templates
for us to design and develop the
online magazine. We hope to share
knowledge and open your mind
through the articles we solely wrote,
as well as provide important
information for your amusement. It
took a lot of effort, time, and
ingenuity to edit and create this
magazine. All of the love and
support from friends and others are
much appreciated. Enjoy!

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What is

friendship?

Friendship is defined as a bond of affection between people.
Friendship, according to Helm (2021), is defined by a specific
kind of worry about your friend, a fear that might be understood
as a form of love. Friendships are necessary for a person's healthy
development and adjustment throughout his or her life.
Friendships exist at practically every stage of life, although their
forms alter considerably as people become older.

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The Importance of
Friendship

Good friends are like stars. You don't always see them,
but you know they're always there.

Good friends are beneficial to our health. They can assist us in both
celebrating good moments and providing support through our
difficult times. Do you know that friendship is important in our lives?
Friendship can make us stronger. They can helps us to stay mentally
and physically strong. By having friendship, we can easily cope with
stress, improve our lifestyle choices and recover more rapidly from
illness and disease.
Next, friendship teaches us a great deal about life. We tend to learn so
many precious lessons in life from friendship which we would not
find anywhere else. For example, we will learn how to love ourselves
by being our true self in front of others. It is crucial to learn to love
ourselves deeply and we might only figure this out when we
surrounded by friends.
Also, we will learn how to understand people better and trust others.
Real friends will always motivate and cheer us. Thus, they will guide
us to the right path with their own way. Here, we will learn how a
person dealing with obstacles differently. Subsequently, we manage
to know others better.

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Additionally, friendship help us in getting through lonely times.
Friends do not entirely heal loneliness but they do assist us when we
are lonely. We learn to appreciate compassion and to ask for aid
when we need it. Those difficult periods when we may be alone also
teach us to value the friendships that come and go in our life.

Furthermore, friendship can help us
learn to inject more significance into
our lives by changing our value system.
We fill our lives with amazing dialogue,
sincere care and support, and laugh-
out-loud fun when we spend with
friends. Friends are always there to keep
things in context and assist us while we
are going through difficult situations.
They are happy for our fortune when
we achieve success. We will be more
grateful and do pleasant things for
others if we surround ourselves with
down-to-earth, optimistic folks. When
we have strong friendships, we do not
simply live; we flourish.

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Seven Types

TYPE OF FRIENDSHIP

The Description

Lifelong Best Friend Close Friends
Friends
Best friend is the closest and Close friends are the people
Lifelong friends are most cherished friend who you on whom you can entirely
persons with whom you appreciate above all other
connect and believe you friends in your life. rely. In life, you can have
will be friends with forever. close friends at different
It's someone you enjoy stages like having a bunch of
You may not see all the time, spending time with, believe close pals during school time.
but you always pick up in and whom you can share
where you left off. They everything. As you get older, you may
are also someone you have made new friends at
know and who knows you. They will support you in any university or even at work
decision you make even if it's with whom you have been
Friends for life difficult for them. close to.
acknowledge and value
each other just the way You can be completely A close friend does not judge or
they are and always make yourself around this person condescend but understands
time for one another. without feeling uncomfortable. and comforts the friend. He
or she is constantly present at
You may have many good This individual will always tough moments and is
friends throughout your have your best interests at concerned about the buddy.
life but you are unlikely to heart, just as you will do the
have many lifelong friends. same for them.

Through all the stages of life
and troubles that come
along with it, the affection
for a true best friend will
never fade.

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Friends of Convenience

Friends of convenience are friendships that persist for as long as one or both individuals find
it convenient. They are the folks with whom you may share carpooling, parents of kids sports
teams, neighbourhood, and so on.

A convenient friend is frequent a fair-weather friendship who would probably not endure a
hardship, conflict, or big favor. It is someone with whom you keep a pleasant connection just
for the sake of convenience.

Social Friends Acquaintance Activity Friends

Friends with whom you An acquaintance is someone Individuals with whom you
socialize but do not share who you have met and only share a special bond due to the
know a little bit about them. common interest in a certain
intimate relationships are activity.
referred to as social friends. They are people you see
every day while walking or They are folks whom you
We will ‘friend’ them on at work place. gather ritualistically to
accomplish a specific task.
Facebook, follow their social They are folks you know to
talk to, but not about Friends with whom you
media accounts and participate in certain
anything important or very activities, such as club
eventually call them friends. personal members, gym buddies,
church circles, and etc.
They are the type of person You and an acquaintance do
that will ask for your favours not have a strong tie or
but will also perform mutual fondness.
favours for you in return.

We spend a greater amount People who are just
of time with social friends acquaintances do not interact
and knowing them will save on a regular basis
us a lot of grief.

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THE STAGES OF
FRIENDSHIP

Stage 5 : Strangers

We begin to exchange information with
strangers on a basic level. This person may
be someone we encounter in the "hallway"
of our workplace or school. A stranger
could be someone who "makes" eye contact
together on the bus or who has been
presented to us for the first occasion by
someone else.

We would begin a conversation with a
stranger in generic words that convey little
personal information, if any. Topics may
include the weather, current happenings,
or where they reside. If we both react well
to the "first" talk, we may explore joining
the stranger in some of the things he or she
enjoys. If everything goes well, we will go
to the next circle, which consists of casual
acquaintances.

Stage 4 : Casual Acquaintances

We do not yet know each other too well exchange
private details. If it is natural or "appropriate," we may
share certain sentiments and ideas, but only "good"
ones about noncontroversial themes. We're there to
have fun, to share a task or a cup of coffee, and our
chat should reflect this.

This stage is important about learning to know each
other better, without sharing too much personal or
sensitive information. If things keep going to go well,
we will go to the next circle, which is friends.

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Stage 3 : Friends

As we get closer to each other in this circle, we start to
trust each other more. When we're with the other
person, we feel safe enough to be more impulsive,
laugh, giggle, tease, and tell stories and lessons from
life. It's fine to talk about bad things as long as we spend
most of our time talking about good things and end on
a positive, emotionally supportive note. If everything
goes well, which could take a few months or a year or
more, we would move on to the next circle, which is
deep friendship.

Stage 2 : Deep Friendships

It takes a long time to get to this point. By now,
we've both known each other for so long and
spent so much time together that we really trust
each other. We're very close and best friends.
Our friendship has been put to the test, and
we've been there for each other in good times
and bad. We would have also lived through
seeing together at our worst.

Stage 1 : Self - Intimacy

We are the only ones in this innermost
circle. It's good for us to keep some ideas,
thoughts, hopes, wishes, aspirations, and
feelings to ourselves. On the other hand,
remaining in this circle too much can make
it hard for others to get close to us.

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The Ways to
Maintain
Friendship

True friends are never apart, Next, you can deepening your
maybe in distance but never in friendship by never make
heart. assumptions about your best friend.

- Helen Keller Your friends are like you who are
continually evolving. And, no matter
Friendships can have a significant impact how similar you two are, keep in
on our health and well-being, but mind that they are not the same as
developing and maintaining friendships you. It is just crucial to celebrate your
is not always easy. So, how can we differences as it is to savour your
maintain our friendships? Here are some similarities. The dynamics of your
ways which may help us to maintain our friendship may shift as you grows
frienships. older. If you are willing to change,
you will be well on your way to a long
1 Deepening Your Friendship lasting friendship.

In order to maintain friendship, you Furthermore, build trust with your
may deepening your friendship by friends can help to deepening your
knowing each other better. friendship.

When it comes to deepening a One of the most crucial parts of every
friendship, self-disclosure is essential. relationship is trust. It takes more
It is through that vulnerability that than just telling the truth to establish
you can come to know them and they trust. It is about being there for your
can get to know you. Some of this friends when they need you,
should be included in any long-term preserving secrets, and respecting
friendship with your best buddy. It is their privacy.
fine to set limits, yet being vulnerable
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2 Maintaining Contact keep your friendship going on, it is
Maintaining contact with your friends crucial for you to do so. Friends can
can help you to maintain your understand if you are occasionally
relationships. You may call your busy or if there are moments in your
friends on a regular basis. life when you are unable to make the
time, but if you are constantly too busy
Having phone call with your friends is for your friend, you may want to
especially crucial when your friends reconsider your priorities.
are relocating in different places.
Checking up on them frequently 3 Working Through Conflict
shows that you are concerned. It Conflict can be easily happened
demonstrates that you care about their among friends. However, we can solve
lives even when they are not around them by staying calm.
you. Even if your friends are moving
out of the nation, there are apps that Every long relationship will involve
allow you to communicate with them conflict. Staying calm when having
via your phone. conflict with friends will let you able
to hear to their concerns. It will also
Besides that, you can maintain contact make them more likely to listen to you
with your friends by meeting in and prevent you from saying anything
person. that you will regret later.

You may meet your friend when
feasible. You can meet with your
friends once a week, or more
frequently if you are living in the
same city with your friends. If they
live out of town, make it a point to
meet when you are both in the same
place or have the financial means to
travel. If you are in the same school,
make an effort to spend some time
together outside of class.

Apart from that, try to be available
when you can. This may help in
maintaining contact with your friends.

This way of maintaining relationship
will be hard as it is easy to become
engrossed in our own concerns and
routines which lead us forget to make
time for our best friends when life
getting busy. However, if you want to

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Additional, you should work through You may also working through conflict
conflict by accepting accountability by listening to your friends.
for your part in the conflict.
Listening to your friends is especially
This is critical to the success of any vital when coping with conflicts. A
relationship. In a quarrel, blaming dispute between best friends might
your friend for everything will cause lead to the breakup of the friendship.
you to distance yourself from them. Listen to both your friend's and your
And they will think that you are not own best interests in mind. This will
looking out for their best interests. assist you in reaching a resolution.
Admit it if you know your actions Simply saying "I hear you" or "I
contributed to the problem. understand" can sometimes be
sufficient to make somebody feel
Also, you may make an effort to come heard. Other times, it's helpful to ask
up with a solution that works both of questions that summarise their
you when conflict happened. concerns, such as, "So when you say
what I said hurt your feelings, you
You should make no attempt to win didn't realise I meant the best?"
when you are having conflict. Winning
implies that someone loses, which is
not a good position to be in any
relationship. Learning to compromise
on an issue can also help you
recognise where your interests and
those of your friend align.

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A friend knows

the song in my


heart and

sings it to me


when my

memory fails. -

Donna Roberts

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