SILENT NO MORE DEFYING AGGRESSION DEFYING AGGRESSION VIOLENCE HEAR ME OUT!
Hi and good day everyone! first and foremost I would like to thank our lecturer for giving me and my friends the opportunity to express ourselves creatively by creating this magazine. Big thanks for my group mates for contributing energy and effort as well as fantastic ideas and abilities throughout the project. I hope that the readers will learn and acquire something from this magazine. Never normalise any form of hostility or violence. Let us work together to make the world a safer and better place for everybody JANEY CHEN MEI FUNG (2023658124) Greetings to everybody! Firstly, I would want to thank my lecturer , Madam Sharifah Shatrah Binti Syed Hamid andmmy group members for their help and efforts. I would say that I found the writing of this e-magazine to be extremely entertaining. I sincerely hope you share my appreciation for the publication. Last but not least, I want to remind those who are aggressive that there are many people who are eager to defend you, so do not be reluctant to ask for assistance. There are others with you in this battle! MAISARAH HANIS BINTI MOHD HAIRUDIN (2023463824) 1 First and foremost, I wish to express my thanks to Allah for granting me the opportunity to enhance my knowledge throughout the whole research, Secondly, I would like to extend my heartfelt appreciation to my lecturer, Madam Sharifah Shatrah Binti Syed Hamid, for her guidance in the area of Social Psychology. Thirdly, I want to convey my profound gratitude to my fellow group members for their unwavering commitment to our shared goals. As for readers, please pay close attention to the depictions of aggressive behavior in this magazine. It's essential to keep in mind that any type of aggression leads to unfortunate consequences for its victims. Let's make sure to convey this message to everyone. howdy, friends Much obliged to my lecturer and my group members for their kind help and contributions. i can't never do this alone yet I'm incredibly appreciative that I can contribute to making this fantastic publication. Although it can be extremely exhausting, this task was enjoyable, in my opinion, I did learned a lot of things that I didn't even know exist and the effort was well worth it, and not going to said any less ,enjoy our writing nonetheless! NURHANNANI INSYIRAH BINTI MOHAMMAD KHAIRI (2023882386)
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Agression is a behavior or an action that involves the expression of hostility, anger, or violence. It can manifest in various ways, from physical violence like hitting or fighting to verbal aggression such as insults or threats. According to Social Psychology, agression as an action that intentionally inflicts harm on others. It is also defined as a behaviour directed towards the goal of harming another living being who is motivated to avoid such treatment. It also classified as instrumental or hostile. Individual aggression may involve physical violence and verbal abuse. In another world agressions is defined as human behaviour that results in another person suffering injury or discomfort. Aggression is often defined as a behavior that is done with the intent to harm an individual who is believed to want avoid being harmed (Baron & Richardson, 1994) 3
Verbally aggressive people want to use words to manipulate and dominate other people. Verbal aggression is a personality characteristic that causes people to attack other people's selfconcepts rather than their viewpoints on communication-related issues. One's values and beliefs might be grouped together to form one's self-concept. A person's aggressive characteristics and how they interpret situations where they are prevented from acting aggressively as a result of anything in the scenario lead to aggressive behaviour in interpersonal communication. The use of words or expressions to hurt, intimidate, or degrade another person is referred to as verbal aggression. It can appear in a variety of ways, including screaming, name-calling, insults, threats, and sarcasm. According to Social Psychology research findings indicate that physical or verbal provocation from others is one of the strongest causes of human aggression. When we are on the receiving end of some form of provocation from others, such as criticism we consider unfair, sarcastic remarks, or physical assaults, we tend to reciprocate, returning as much aggression as we have received, or perhaps even more, especially if we certain that the other person meant to harm us. There are many different verbal kinds of aggressiveness, and each one can have negative effects on the target. The use of negative words to disparage or denigrate the other person is a common kind of insults and name-calling. Sayings like "You're so stupid , you never understand anything" or "You're a complete failure at everything you do" are cruel instances of how words may be used as weapons to destroy someone's self-worth and intelligence. “I’m repelled….…by this world“ 4
From words to Wounds Verbal abuse may have long-lasting, profound impacts on an individual, leaving them with emotional scars. One of the most noticeable effects is on emotional health, leading to increased levels of stress and worry. Verbal violence may drastically impair self-esteem and contribute to a poor self-image by making a person continually on edge and scared of the next verbal attack. This ongoing hostility and insulting behaviour may even worsen or cause the onset of depression symptoms over time, making it challenging for the victim to have joy or motivation in life. Verbal abuse may have a profoundly negative psychological impact on someone's mental health, leaving them with long-lasting scars. Even worse, it may bring on symptoms resembling those of post-traumatic stress disorder (PTSD), including intrusive memories, nightmares, and hypervigilance. The effect is very profound interpersonally. In order to protect themselves from more verbal abuse or condemnation, people may isolate themselves. This causes damaged relationships and makes it harder to start new ones. Because they are constantly exposed, it might be difficult for them to communicate and express themselves clearly because they are afraid of others' judgements. 5
Don't react in a way that could make the situation more aggressive. Avoid responding negatively in order to avoid escalating the situation. Detach from this SITUATION! Victims Taking a step back, making physical or emotional space, and coming back to the situation later might stop impulsive and violent reactions while feeling overpowered or enraged. Speaking with a mental health expert, such as a therapist or counsellor, can offer tailored ways to address underlying issues and direct the person towards non-aggressive communication. management educational programmes Participating in educational initiatives aimed at assisting with the constructive management of anger and disputes can offer useful resources and insights. OFFENDERS Take self defense lessons to gain more self confidence and learn strategies for staying safe in the case of increased violence. If verbal abuse takes place at work, report it to the proper authorities, your supervisor, or human resources. To manage the emotional effects, get help from therapists or counsellors. Space and Time-outs Seek expert Help Conflict resolution and anger Don't Provoke Self-Defense Training (for physical intimidation) Reporting and Getting Help 6
Anger is a strong emotion we all feel upset or threatened. It’s a state of tension that results from stress and happens when anything prevents us from completing our tasks. When this occurs, it may cause sentiments of rage, which may lead to feelings of aggression and violent behaviours. This threat isn't just about physical danger , it can be feeling envious or ashamed. It's totally normal to get mad now and then. In fact, It's a reaction that can prepare us to deal with problems or make changes. According to social psychology, we can perceive someone that is unable to control their anger by facial expressions. Even though it is non verbal communication, but we can see their flushed face and furrowed eyebrows. Usually, it happens when we feel hurt, annoyed, or powerless. Being angry is fine, but how we deal with it matters. If we handle it poorly, it can mess up our relationships and affect our health. When anger turns into aggression, that's when things get messy. Aggression means behaving aggressively or violently, like shouting, breaking things, or even hurting yourself or others. Some people, especially young ones, might result to aggression to deal with threats or because they've learned it works. Anger issues can be like a tempest that brews within, often unpredictable and overwhelming. It's a challenge faced by many, where emotions surge uncontrollably, impacting society , work, and overall well-being. For those grappling with anger issues, everyday frustrations can transform into towering infernos. The triggers may seem minor to others, but to the person experiencing anger, they are mountains. It's not merely about getting upset, it's about the regret, guilt, and the toll it takes on personal and professional relationships. Have you ever heard about someone who has anger issues tend to express their anger by hitting themselves? 7
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Unfortunately, people who have anger issues use self-harm or self-injury which includes hurting oneself as a coping mechanism for strong feelings like rage, frustration, agression, despair, or even numbness. Sometimes when they can’t express their anger to a particular thing, they end up hurting themselves. This behaviour could be a manifestation of the attempt to suppress overpowering emotions and recover control. WHY Self-harm? People who engage in self-harm often do so as a way to punish themselves aggressively. It can become a cycle, and create a vicious cycle that is difficult to break. They don’t even know how to stop behaving that way. “I WANT TO STOP THIS…IT’S DROWNING ME” It's upsetting when someone with anger management problems directs their rage inward by hurting or beating themselves. This is a symptom of their inability to handle strong emotions. This behaviour is a cry for assistance and a means of expressing and externalising internal suffering, rage, or frustration. For instance, this person loses a match in a video game and they release their dissatisfaction by hitting themselves. 9
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Utilise mindfulness Being mindful enables you to be objectively present and aware of your thoughts. It enables you to recognise unfavourable ideas and let them go without concentrating on them. Confront negative thoughts Actively confront and examine unfavourable thoughts. Try to rephrase these beliefs in a more optimistic or realistic manner by asking yourself whether there is any evidence to back them up. Cognitive restructuring Replace your negative, torturous ideas with empowering, uplifting ones. Be sure to think logically and realistically. Seek Professional Assistance Speak with a mental health professional, such as a therapist or counsellor, for assistance in overcoming and controlling these distressing ideas through treatment and perhaps medication. 11
PREVENT YOUR INNER THOUGHTS FROM TORMENTING YOU ‘Love yourself’ playlist 12
“ALWAYS THE FOOL!” “I AM SO DUMB I COULD DO BETTER” “I WISH I WAS BETTER“ “I DESERVE THIS PUNISHMENT” “I AM A FAILURE” 13
Brain dumping helps you clear your mind, If you’re like most people, you feel like you’re drowning in a sea of to-dos. It’s hard to keep track of everything. It’s almost impossible to work or rest because you have so much on your mind.This is because you are overwhelmed and underachieving. However, it lets you bring order to chaos Once you’ve transferred the chaos in your head onto your page, you can start ordering the chaos. Rewrite what you wrote further down the page or on the next page. Writing down everything on your mind helps clear your mind. Then, you can do what you need to be doing right now whether that’s work or rest. Many things to one thing. Writing in a journal that is called as brain dumping , Brain dumping is simple. All you have to do is : Grab a pen and paper, write down everything on your mind Good, bad, neutral. Business, personal, or otherwise. Write it all down. 14
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YOU HAD A HARD DAY BUT WENT TO THE TURBULENCE WITH PATIENCE, YOU DID WELL TODAY AND YOU WILL DID MUCH BETTER ONWARDS,IT'S ALL OVER NOW AND YOU CARRIED YOURSELF WELL 16
It is so hard to even control your emotion, as most of people that have aggression or experienced becoming one always have the urge to shut themselves on, words are even harder to describe how they actually felt, they somehow do regret after let out their rage and anger to the person arround them, they always think on how to get rid of the emotion and the way they behave “oh god free me out,let me live” We all know that. We all felt it. Oppose For those of us with anger issues, our health, our jobs, our relationships, and our entire quality of life are under the thumb of one supreme ruler. Fortunately, meditation improves the mental, emotional and physiological factors behind anger. We discuss some of them here: "Meditation is the flourishing of the prefrontal cortex to beat the rhythm of nature." – Amit Ray 17
it's good to feel angry since it is ur right to ; I hope it doesn't eat you up and let it consume your next few days 18
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D O N O T S U F F E R I N T H E S I L E N C E Don't let it go on any longer! It could happen to you, it could happen to the people you love too! SHATTER THE SILENCE! BREAK THE BARRIERS! CUT THE CHAINS! These people are mothers, fathers, daughters, sons, nieces, nephews, and friends. Ifwe are this close to those peoplewhy dowe not knowwhen it happens? SHATTER THE SILENCE! BREAK THE BARRIERS! CUT THE CHAINS! Don't fool yourself into believing itwas your fault, Don't let yourself believe you deserved it, NONE of itwas your fault- NO matterwhat. You're not alone, I swear to you, YOU ARE NOT ALONE! 20
moveon. let the music into your veins and allow your body to flow like fluid. close your eyes , feel your heart beat, do you deserve to feel like this? photography by Drew 21
REACTIVEBULLYINGOCCURS WHENAVICTIM HASENDUREDSO MUCHABUSE FORSOLONGTHATTHE STRAINREACHESABREAKINGPOINT,THEVICTIM "SNAPS"ANDLASHESOUTATTHEABUSERS.THE VICTIM ESSENTIALLY"BULLIESTHEM BACK."IASSUREYOU. IAM AWARETHATSOMETHINGSAREBEYOND WHAT MOSTPEOPLECANHANDLE. IAM WITHTHEVICTIMS, WHOIREALISEARETIREDOF IT.THETARGETS FAILTOREALISETHATTHEBULLIESAREACTUALLYHOPINGFORAVIOLENTRESPONSE.THEYDESIRETHE TARGETTOLOSE IT.BULLIES WANTTHEVICTIM TOTURNONTHEM SOTHEY MAYLATERCLAIM VICTIM STATUSAND MAKETHEIRTARGETSAPPEARLIKETHEBULLY.INSHORT,BULLIESGASLIGHTTHEIRTARGETS WITHSTATEMENTSLIKETHESETO MAKE EXCUSESFORTHEBEHAVIORANDDEFLECTTHEBLAMEBACK ONTOTHEVICTIMS.ANDSADLY, IT WORKSLIKEACHARM,ANDBYSTANDERSAND WITNESSESBELIEVE THETARGETISUNSTABLE. Reactive bully I want you to know that there is a term for this IF you are a target. Gaslighting is a deception meant to make you feel uneasy. Recognise that when faced with that level of pressure, every single human being is capable of losing their composure. After being attacked and treated horribly for a prolonged period of time, we lose it and behave foolishly. IM GLAD YOU GET TO EXPRESS YOUR ANGER TO ME, MAYBE IT CAN LESSEN THE RAGE 22
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ISSUE NO.11 HEAR ME OUT! Are you listening when I talk to you ? Do you even care what I'm going through Your eyes are staring, staring right through me You're right there, and it's as if you never knew me I scream but you don't hear a sound I guess it's hard to hear when you're never around You've never listened to a thing I've said It's like you've forgotten me, like I'm already dead As if I'm non-existent to you You'll never listen, no matter what I do. It's not like it matters what I say You won't listen anyway With every day this problem only gets worse If it's you who won't listen, why must I be cursed ? I wish you could, but you'll never understand Why the distance between us will only expand You don't know how I really feel You don't get the point that this is all too real I find it quite absurd How my voice goes on unheard I'm running out of ways to get through to you I'm at a loss of what to do I shout the things you'll never hear I scream my feelings into your ear Yet you till won't listen to me I know you don't care, than much I can see You may say my voice doesn't mean a thing But its time you started listening 24
THE Narcissistic abuse “He was kind, gentle and attentive, and he seemed to completely get what I was all about. He bombarded me with compliments (a technique known as ‘love bombinh, in which an abuser overwhelms a partner with compliments in order to subtly but very quickly gain immense trust, so they can then manipulate them). His touch, too, was out of this world; he was actually the one who taught me what affection was. He was kind, gentle and attentive, and he seemed to completely get what I was all about. He bombarded me with compliments (a technique known as ‘love bombing’ , in which an abuser overwhelms a partner with compliments in order to subtly but very quickly gain immense trust, so they can then manipulate them). His touch, too, was out of this world; he was actually the one who taught me what affection was. “romia fraser apart from that ,the author found recovery from the damage caused by abuse using integrative modalities such as NLP, clinical hypnotherapy, and havening techniques. They were able to remove emotional triggers and flashbacks, update long-standing patterns and beliefs, and regain mental health. The experience led the author to become a trauma recovery coach, dedicated to helping others recover from abuse. 25
SUNGAI BESAR (Malaysia) — A 20-year-old man who has just completed his studies at an institution of higher learning has been charged with murder of his pregnant girlfriend at the Sabak Bernam Magistrate's Court in Selangor on Thursday (June 1).SUNGAI BESAR (Malaysia) — A 20-year-old man who has just completed his studies at an institution of higher learning has been charged with murder of his pregnant girlfriend at the Sabak Bernam Magistrate's Court in Selangor on Thursday (June 1). MANSLAUGHTER 26 The charge is laid down in Penal Code Section 302, which carries a death sentence. As murder cases are heard atMalaysia's High Court, Muhammad Fakrul Aiman Sajali, who showed up to court wearing a yellow t-shirt, did notmake a statement. He was charged with the murder of Nur Anisah Abdul Wahab, 21, who was found dead atJalan Sungai Limau in Selangor sometime between 8:30 p.m. on May 22 and 8:08 a.m. on May 23. Since lastweek, the murder of the 21-year-old victim, who was four months pregnant at the time, has dominatedheadlines. In order to aid in the murder investigation, a 20-year-old man was detained by the police on May 24,according to Sabak Bernam district police chief Superintendent Agus Salim Mohd Alias. The defendant intoday's magistrate court is the same individual who was arrested. Waitress was the victim's line of work. Herfoetus was extracted before her body was cremated after she was fatally stabbed in the abdomen. At a palm oilplantation, her burned bones were discovered. The murder, according to the authorities, happened on May 22 ataround 8:01 a.m. Mr. Agus claimed that over the course of the investigation, the accused confessed to datingthe victim after beating her until she was rendered unconscious and then stabbed her in the abdomen with aknife to extract the foetus. He added that the defendant continued to burn the victim by dousing her in petrol. AGGRESION CANKILL SOMEONE, LOVER,FAMILYOREVEN RANDOM PEOPLETHEY MET
Kim So-hyun portrays identical twins Go Eun-byul and Lee Eun-bi, who are split up after one is adopted at the age of 5. Eun-bi is a mother figure to the younger inhabitants of the Love House orphanage in Tongyeong, South Gyeongsang Province. While teachers remain silent, she conceals the truth that she is being tormented at school by a group of mean girls lead by Kang So-young (Cho Soohyang). The most prominent private high school in Seoul's Gangnam District is Sekang High School, where Go Eun-byul attends school. Han Yi-an (Nam Joo-hyuk), the school's top swimmer, is Eun-byul's best friend and has been in love with her since they were young. But only Eun-byul is conscious of the other's presence. Eun-byul, in contrast to the upbeat Eun-bi, is sarcastic and private. Based on the drama provided it is shown that aggression can lead into so many scene , this issue will somehow let others suffer after the individual suffocate themselves and having the urge to pay back and giving the same from previous events School 2015 (who are you) kudos to the writer since it is a great storyline drama about how the twin sister seek a revenge and throw up her aggression towards the bully her sister and ate up all the bully but somehow she become a reactive bully to pay for the price that her sister become of the bullies victim 27
Healing from aggression can be a difficult process, but it is possible with the right strategies. One effective approach is to seek professional help from a therapist or counselorwho can guide you through the healing process. It's also important to practice self-care, such as getting enough rest, eatingwell, and engaging in activities that bring you joy. Learning healthy coping mechanisms, such as mindfulness and deep breathing, can also help manage feelings of anger and aggression. Additionally, it can be helpful to identify the root causes of your aggression andwork on addressing them through personal reflection and growth. Remember that healing takes time, so be patient and kind to yourself throughout the process. THE PROCESS 28
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AGGRESSION DOES NOT ALWAYS INVOLVEVIOLENCE, BUT VIOLENCE ALWAYS INVOLVES AGRESSION. AGGRESSION DOES NOT ALWAYS INVOLVEVIOLENCE, BUT VIOLENCE ALWAYS INVOLVES AGRESSION. ANGER AGRESSION Anger without aggression Aggression or violence without anger Anger-driven aggression or violence IMPORTANT DIFFERENCE Anger is typically characterised as an ‘approach’ emotion, meaning it is an emotion that helps a person to address threat or overcome barriers to achieve a particular goal(Carver & Harmon-Jones, 2009).In removing the barriers to achieve a goal, anger is a motivator or mobiliser of productive action. Anger can thus drive different types of behaviour. Aggression is generally considered a behaviour that is intended to cause physical or psychological harm to another person. Violence is more likely to refer to an extreme form of aggression that has intentional injury as its primary goal. On a continuum of severity, we have relatively minor acts of aggression on one end and violence at the other end (Allen & Anderson, 2017). 31
ABUSIVELOVE I S N O T HAN D S S H O U L D B E U S E D T O H E L P RAT H E R T HAN HAR M . T O G E T H E R , L E T ' S TAK E A S TAN D A G AI N S T D O M E S T I C VI O L E N C E . 1 I N 3 W O M E N —AN D 1 I N 4 M E N — HAVE B E E N I N AB U S IVE R E LAT I O N S H I P S , AN D 1 I N 5 W O M E N AN D 1 I N 7 M E N HAVE FA C E D S EVE R E P H Y S I C AL VI O L E N C E Know someone who needs help? We can help stop it. Talk to us at WAO Hotline (+603 3000 8858) ALL FOR HUMANITY GROUP 32
''why it happened?'' DOMESTIC VIOLENCE Domestic violence is a pattern of abusive behavior in any relationship that is used by one partner to gain or maintain power and control over another intimate partner. Domestic violence can be physical, sexual, emotional, economic, psychological, or technological actions or threats of actions or other patterns of coercive behavior that influence another person within an intimate partner relationship. This includes any behaviors that intimidate, manipulate, humiliate, isolate, frighten, terrorize, coerce, threaten, blame, hurt, injure, or wound someone. WHY STAY? The victims often stay with their abuser because of the fear. They are afraid that the abuser will become more violent if they try to leave . Some fear that they will lose their children. Many people believe that they cannot make it on their own. Some victims believe that the abuse is their fault. They think that they can stop the abuse if they just act differently. Some cannot admit that they are abused victim. Others feel pressured to stay in the relationship. They may feel cut off from social support and resources. Abused victim often feel that they alone and no where to turn for help. WHY DID THEY DO THIS? Abusive people come from all walks of life. They may be successful in their career and respected in the community. Abusive person often share some common characteristics. They tend to be jealous, possessive and easily angered. The man abuser believe that woman are inferior . They believe that men are meant to dominate and control women. Usually, the abuser will deny that the abuse is happening or they minimize it. They may blame their partner for the abuse, saying " YOU MADE ME DO THIS” Alcohol and drugs are often associated with domestic violence but they do not cause it. A person who commits an act of violence may be acting with aggresion. An abusive man who drinks or uses drugs has two different problems : substance abuse and violence. Both must be treated. According to Law Psychology , The oldest and famous explanation for human aggression suggests that human being are somehow programmed for violence by their basic nature 33
BREAK THE CIRCLE, PLEASE SPEAK UP ! ''why it happened?'' Domestic violence often happens again and again, The victims usually face this phase more than one time. The cycle happens when the victims keep on giving the abuser chances and hoping that there would be any changes. This is call the cycle of domestic. The stages of the cycle of abuse may not always happen in the same order, or some of them may not happen in some cases. You have the ability to break the cycle ,The cycle of abuse isn't unbreakable , even though it might feel like it. When you're ready to break out of the cycle, start with ''I'M READY TO LEAVE , NOW WHAT? ''. It will safe your life. It's essential to recognize the cycle of abuse to prevent it from happening. Victims should know that they are not responsible for the abuse, and there is help available. There are resources such as hotlines, shelters, and therapists that can provide assistance and support. In conclusion, the cycle of abuse is a serious issue that we need to talk more about. By understanding the different stages of the cycle, we can recognize and prevent it from happening. Let's use our voices to raise awareness and help break the cycle of abuse. 34
''LET ME HELP YOU'' YOUR INNER THOUGHTS AND FEELINGS DO YOU : feel afraid of your partner much of the time? avoid certain topics out of fear of angering your partner? feel that you can't do anything right for your partner? believe that you deserve to be hurt or mistreated? wonder if you're the one who is crazy? feel emotionally numb or helpless? YOUR PARTNER'S BELITTLING BEHAVIOUR DOES YOUR PARTNER : humiliate or yell at you? criticize you and put you down? treat you badly that you're embarassed for your friends or family to see? ignore or put down your opinions or accomplishments? blame you for their own abusive behaviour? see you as property or a sex object, rather than as a person? 35
''LET ME HELP YOU'' YOUR PARTNER'S VIOLENT BEHAVIOUR OR TREATS DOES YOUR PARTNER: have a bad and unpredictable temper? hurt you, or threaten to hurt or kill you? threaten to take your children away or harm them threaten to commit suicide if you leave? force you to have sex? destroy your belongings? YOUR PARTNER'S CONTROLLING BEHAVIOR DOES YOUR PARTNER : act excessively jealous and possesive? control where you go or what you do? keep you from seeing your friends or family? limit your access to money, the internet, phone or car?constantly check up on you? IF YOU FEEL LIKE YOU'RE FACING SITUATIONS IN ABOVE QUESTIONS, YOU MAYBE IN AN ABUSIVE RELATIONSHIP 36
'WHO TO REACH' MyGovernment has enforced The Domestic Violence (Amendment) Act 2017. Under the purview of this Act, victims may report incidents of domestic violence to a Social Welfare Officer. Refer to MyGovernment's website for more info : https://www.malaysia.gov.my/portal/content/28911 Women's Aid Organization (WAO) is an organization that seeks to raise awareness about violence against women. They provide free and confidential services to survivors of domestic violence, rape, and other forms of violence Email: [email protected] Phone: +603 7957 5636 Contact them via :- Befrienders is a not-for-profit organisation providing emotional support 24 hours a day, 7 days a week. They provide a service called "befriending" that aims to benefit society by helping people to develop better emotional selfawareness which in turns leads to improved emotional health and well-being Email : [email protected]. Phone: +603-76272929 (Face-to-face appointment available) Contact them via :- 37
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WHY AM I THE ONE? You, me, everyone does it. Apparently, gossip is widely accepted as a common practice in our society particularly among women. Indeed, gossip has persisted for centuries as a captivating pastime, drawing people's fascination with intriguing topics. It's astonishing how frequently we engage in this behaviour without even realising it. The question that arises is how exactly is gossiping related to aggression? Indirect aggression refers to a behaviour designed to inflict harm on others, specifically targeting their social position and self-worth through indirect methods. It involves a type of social manipulation, in which the aggressor employs various methods to inflict psychological harm on the victim without directly confronting them. Most common behaviour of indirect aggression includes actions such as talking behind someone's back, spreading rumours, excluding them socially, and making derogatory comments. Unravelling the Threads of Gossip: A Closer Look at Gossip Among Women" Gossip, frequently disregarded as mere idle chatter or harmless conversation, can manifest as a form of indirect aggression. While it may not involve physical harm, gossip can inflict serious wounds on individuals' reputations, relationships, and psychological well-being. We will now explore the concept of gossip as a tool of indirect aggression, its underlying motives, and its far-reaching consequences. 47
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G O S S P IS EN V Y IN DIS G UISE Several motives underpin gossip as a form of indirect aggression. One of them is the desire to wield power by having privileged information about others, resulting in a sense of superiority. Additionally, gossip can be viewed as a tool for acquiring or preserving social standing within a group, particularly when those engaging in it are struggling with identity development and self-esteem challenges. Consequently, the act of diminishing others can indeed contribute to an individual's enhanced selfesteem. Moreover, gossiping can also serve as a means for the aggressor to garner others' attention. After all, possessing exclusive information about someone else, known to no one else, can make an individual feel significant. If other people within a social group are spreading gossip, an individual may feel compelled to join in and may have an urge to generate new gossip to fit in. Typically, the aggressors are desperately seeking attention as a result of a lack of love or feeling neglected at home. Consequently, aggressors may come to the conclusion that by engaging in gossip, they may find acceptance among their peer group WHY PEOPLE GOSSIP? 49