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FIRST LOVE YOURSELF

OUR ENDotIeTsOR'S

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We are proud to present you with our very own first magazine!
"First Love Yourself" magazine is a collaborative magazine written and
produced by us with love especially for those who struggle with self-love.

The goal of our campaign is to promote self-love and acceptance.
Let's hear some messages from our board of editors!

Dear readers, I hope this magazine helps you to find your true inner Anis Afrina
self. I'm Anis, and I want to express my gratitude, especially to Dr. Nor
Fadzlina, for giving us this opportunity to express ourselves through this Editor-in-Chief
magazine. To my fellow team members : thank you for all your hard
work and cooperation along the journey of completing this magazine.
Practicing self-love might be hard for some people, but it can be
achieved with much effort and determination. I really hope this
magazine touches the hearts of the readers, thus helping them in their
own self-development journey to grow into a better person with high
self-esteem. For those who are still struggling, don't worry much. You
are not alone, and there’s always room for improvement. Enjoy reading
and may this magazine heals your inner self!

FIRST, LOVE YOURSELF!

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Editor’s Note

Introducing our creative director and Associate Director!

Hello everyone. Please give this message a moment of your time. I'm Nazz
and firstly I would like to thank Dr Nor Fadzlina, my beloved lecturer for
giving me the opportunity to write this e-magazine and my group
members, who always encouraged me as I worked on this publication, are
also remembered. The fact that you feel different compared to others does
not mean that you are in the wrong and are to blame for your situation. We
are all still humans, regardless of how diverse our personalities, skills, or
appearance may be. This world is a lot more lighthearted and exciting to
live in with people like you because of all these differences. Happy reading
and don’t forget to love yourself too even though you’re different because “if
you’re always trying to be normal, you will never know how amazing you
can be”.

Nazzrezal

Creative Director

Hye everyone, how are you doing? I hope that everything is going just fine Danish Izham
with you and do not forget to always love yourself. First and foremost, thank
you to Allah SWT for giving me the strength and peace throughout my Associate Editor
journey in finishing the writing of this article. Secondly , not to forget my
beloved lecturer, Dr. Nor Fadzlina Nawi who has guided me in the making of
this article and shared her knowledge in psychology that to some extent
helps me in giving some ideas to write an article about self-love. Lastly, i
would like to thanks my parents that always encourage me to finish this
article. Dear readers, my article that i wrote is about the magical feeling that
you could have gain when your starting to put yourself first instead of others.
This article helps you a lot in acknowledging your own priority instead of
others. I hope that you will enjoy reading it. That's all. Happy reading and
remember LOVE YOURSELF!

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Editor’s Note

Hello everyone, I hope all of you are having a nice time. Let me introduce
myself, I’m Safi. Firstly, I want to express my gratitude to my lecturer, Dr.
Nor Fadzlina Nawi for giving us an opportunity to come up with our own e-
magazine and guiding us during the process. Next, I cannot thank my
fellow group members enough for their cooperation and hard work in
order to make this e-magazine a success. And to our lovely readers, I
really hope that this magazine finds you well and helps you, in the way
that you need. While living, we are bound to face some difficulties, but it is
okay. Always remember to love and prioritize yourself above anything
else, because at the end of the day, only that would matter. Only you,
matter. This is our first and last time living this life, we should make the
best out of it, by loving ourselves first. Enough from me, I hope the readers
would enjoy reading our magazine and I wish nothing but all the best
things in the world for our dear readers.

Safidatul Hasanah

Managing Editor

Hi my dear friends !! First of all, I would like to thank to our lecturer
Dr. Nor Fadzlina for giving us this chance to make this magazine
and we are thankful for the guidance. I am really thankful for my
groupmate for giving full cooperation and helping me throughout
the entire journey of finishing this magazine. While I was writing
my article, I realized that I actually did not love myself full enough
as I still have doubt in myself. There’s a lot of questions roaming
in my mind that keep making me anxious however, I managed to
overcome it and I'm proud with myself. I hope that my article can
help whoever struggling with self doubt to learn how to love
yourself more. Receiving love from others are great but nothing
better then loving yourself the fullest <3

Nur Syahirah

Digital Art Director

Mirza Afrina Assalamualaikum to my fellow readers. First, I’m grateful to the
Almighty for giving me a chance to finish this article. I also want to
Editorial Assistant thank my lecturer, Dr. Nor Fadzlina Nawi for giving me the
opportunity to write and present for this assignment. Not to forget
my fellow group mates that have been with me since day one. I
want to say thank you for being patient with my indecisive self and
supporting me throughout the making of this magazine. While doing
the article, I always remarked in my mind that whoever reading this
article, I want them to relate to it. I want them to think that they’re
not alone and there are people who got their backs. I hope by
writing this article, I get to reach and touch people’s hearts even if
it’s one person. As we are all in the journey of finding and accepting
who we are, hang in there. We got this >.<

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From us to you

Dear our lovely readers,

Thank you for taking your time to read this magazine.
We hope that during your reading of this magazine, you
will lift your spirit and, as you go deep into our
magazine, you will feel the spark in you to develop
some love for yourself. If you are still struggling,
remember that this is a journey. This is a journey that
you need to feel and enjoy in order to build a strong
mindset and to embrace the beauty of you.

Remember this our dearest reader,
There is only one you so this is the time for you to start
embracing yourself. Every aspect of you is part of what
makes you interesting and unique. You should love
yourself enough to stop comparing yourself to others.

It is time to stand in front of the mirror and see how you
has given yourself so much, say thank you to it and love
every inch of it , as you are perfect as you are.

Sincerely,

Group 5

anis, safi, mirza,
shay, nazz, izham

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BY: MIRZA

MONTHLY
EDITOR'S PICK
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The Self Confession
Highlights

HI! You’ve arrived at the highlight stop of
this magazine (joking)!! Before you read
further, how about I introduce myself first?
So, the name given is Nur Mirza Afrina binti
Zamri. I am 18 years old. If you wondered
about my MBTI, I’m an INFP! AHA! You might
be thinking that this is the perfect
assignment for me, well you could say so.
Anyway, I want to take this chance to show
my appreciation to my group members.
Without them, I’m nowhere near gotta finish
this article. I hope they read this hahaha.
So, in this article, we will dig deeper into
our editors’ thoughts about themselves. Are
you as curious as I am? Now, without any
time wasted, shall we start? >.<

Q : What do you remember the most about your
childhood?

" One thing I remember about my childhood is that I used to play
with my cousins every weekend. Because I'm staying at my
grandparents' house, my cousins always come every weekend for a
family gathering. We would eat and play together. Sometimes,
during the school holiday, we will have a sleepover at my
grandparents' house. We'd stay up all night talking and even
watching our favorite cartoons until we passed out. I'm always sad
whenever my cousin needs to go back to their homes and always
wish they would stay even longer because when I was still 5 years
old, I was the only child and I'm always scared if I don't have any
friends to play with when I get back from school. However, when I
turned 6, my little sister was born, and I'm not that lonely anymore
because, at least with her, I always have something to look forward
to when I get back from school. " - Anis

Q: If you would choose one word, what word would you
choose to describe your 18 years old life? And why did you
choose that word?

" Basic. The way I view my life, it doesn’t differ from my peers. Entering
university, meeting new people, learning something that I knew zero about
before, all these things not only happened to me, but to any 18-year-old.
However, I’m looking forward to being different than the rest by keeping
making mistakes and learning from it. Why? Because I want to be a better
person than before and most importantly, it is because this is my first and last
1 0 time living this life, might as well make everything worthy while it lasts. " - Safi

The Self Confession Highlights By: Mirza

Q: Have you ever thought that you would
get to this stage of life?

" No, because when I was a child, I never had this
kind of mindset where I will not be able to achieve
what I have ever dreamt of, and I don’t believe that I
would compete with my friends because they’re so
much better than me. " - Izham

Q: Have you ever felt regret with the life
you live in right now?

" Not at all, even though I must admit that there’s a
time where I have to face difficulties but that never
changes my mind. I believe that life is not as sweet
as honey but I’m glad about the life I live right now. I
met such amazing friends who always accompany
me, I experienced lots of new things with them and
that makes me so happy. Even if I get a chance to
change my life with other people, I will definitely
decline it since I know that I won’t experience all
these bittersweet lives the way I experienced it in
my life right now. " - Shay

Q: Have you ever hated yourself?

" Yes, I have. Even now. But currently I’m on my journey to love
and appreciate myself more. As a bully victim, I can’t simply
forget and move on with all the pain I’ve been going through.
I’m still struggling to find myself amid world chaos. To be
honest, I never thought that I would hate myself this much when
I was a kid. I don’t really remember when it went downhill.
Moreover, almost all my childhood memories have vanished
from my memory, and I could barely mention one. As a result, I
am suffering from anxiety and having suicidal thoughts. It took
me years to finally accept my own self. I receive lots of support
from many people around me, my family, my friends and even
strangers. I really can’t thank them enough. Even though they’re
still times where I can’t control my feelings and got out of
control, I’m glad that it didn’t get as worse as before. It is also
because of my classmates; they make me happy. Though the
feeling didn’t last long, I was genuinely happy that time. There
was nothing on my mind. All I felt was happiness and
peacefulness. They’re one of the big reasons I’m starting to love
myself. At last, I still have the scars from the past and still hate
myself, but this body and mind need a healing and this time
isn’t too late to start it. I don’t want to blame myself for not
being able to see what the world has displayed to me due to
my selfishness and hatred towards myself." - Mirza

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THe Self Confession Highlights By: Mirza

Q: If you were able to go back to your 8 years
old days, what do you want to say to
her/him?

" I would tell her that it's okay not to be good at
everything. You don't need to prove anything to anyone.
One day you’ll realize that you should not be
discouraged by anything that anyone ever said to you.
You are perfect and amazing just the way you are. I
hope that you will not stop being you and always
explore the things that you really want to do. Please
don't let anything stop you from achieving what you
really want in life. To be honest, I really look up to you,
my little 8-year-old self. " - Anis

" I want to say that you’ve got to be strong and
believe in yourself that you can always be as good
as someone else " - Izham

" I want to say that I’m proud of you. Thank you for being
happy as the 18 years old you could barely feel
enjoyment. Also, thank you for surviving. You’re stronger
than you thought. I hope you’ll not be disappointed with
what you’ve become now. Your 18 years old self is
fighting trying to fix the mess she has created. I want you
to love yourself more. Although you’ll not going to
remember much of your childhood as you grow up, I
want to say that it’s fine. You’ll create even more
meaningful memories in the future. Just trust the process
and journey and you’ll be fine. Believe in yourself and
don’t be too hard on yourself. I wish you didn’t resent me
for not pursuing and achieving your dreams as you’ll
know why. Finally, you’ll be okay. Don’t be afraid and
move forward. You’ll soon reach your golden hour, my 8-
year-old self. " - Mirza

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DANISH DISCOVER
IZHAM
THE MAGIC OF
LOVING YOURSELF

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THE MAGIC OF


Loving

Yourself

Written by :
Muhammad Danish Izham

We are living in the era where loving yourself

is a crucial part in your life. We have never

been taught self-love as a subject in school

and most of us didn’t even practice self-love

at home. As a result, we only learnt the

importance of success and tend to work hard

and make a lot of money as we can. However,

we didn’t learn on how to keep ourselves

feeling fueled for that journey.

When we started the love affair with ourselves,

we will recognize and prioritize our needs. To

form a loving relationship with ourselves, the

first thing that we have to do is we need to

recognize our needs and prioritize them.

Without self-love, we often dismissive our

needs and ignore them. Instead, we always

prioritize others such as our partners, friends,

family and many others. Self-love is always

about identifying your needs and making them

priority in your life.

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WHY IS IT

IMPORTANT TO

LOVE YOURSELF?

When we started the love affair with ourselves,

we will recognize and prioritize our needs.

To form a loving relationship with ourselves,
the first thing that we have to do is we need to

recognize our needs and prioritize them.

Without self-love, we often dismissive our

needs and ignore them. Instead, we always

prioritize others such as our partners, friends,

family and many others. Self-love is always

about identifying your needs and making

them priority in your life.

Furthermore, adopting this self-love behavior

will eventually avoid ourselves from having

this victim mentality. Self-love is all about

taking responsibility for your actions and the

way you choose to be perceived by others. You

only adopt a victim mentality when you refuse

to acknowledge your own contribution to your

circumstances. You start to see your

experiences differently when you start to put

self-love first. It’s all about learning lessons, not

denying them. Ownership is empowering.

All in all, self-love is all about putting ourselves first instead of others for our own

benefits. At the end of the day, it is us who are suffering from our own problems and not

others. We can’t say that self-love is the same with the term selfish because it is all about

tuning into your innermost needs, reclaiming your freedom to be who you are, and

recognising that while letting go of your negative patterns. Being kind to oneself is

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HOW TO LET GO
OF THE PAST

OCTOBER, 2022 19
BY: SAFIDATUL HASANAH

HOW TO LET GO OF THE PAST

Trauma. It is a common word that we usually
hear, but not something that everyone can
relate. It is familiar, but distant at the same
time. Only few people, that have gone
through something terrible or horrible,
something that brings harm to them, can
acknowledge how dangerous a trauma can
be.

In general, trauma results from an event,
series of events, or set of circumstances
that is experienced by an individual as
physically or emotionally harmful or
threatening and that can have lasting
adverse effects on the individual’s
functioning and physical, social, and
emotional well-being.

Humans can experience
various types of trauma
including:

• Sexual abuse
• Physical abuse
• Domestic violence
• Traumatic grief
• Victim of crime
• Loss

Learning to love yourself doesn’t happen overnight. It’s even

more complex if you’ve been through trauma and have been

made to feel unworthy or unlovable. But this is the reason I

made this article for you, to remind you that you are worthy

of love and very deserving of it. 20

HOW TO LET GO OF THE PAST

In the following are few self-love tips that might be helpful for you:

SELF-LOVE TIP #1: STOP HIDING YOURSELF FROM THE WORLD

People who have experienced trauma often find themselves avoiding. Avoiding
people, avoiding attention, avoiding intimacy, avoiding affection, or avoiding
anything that might remind them of hurt. I understand that. Avoidance protects
you. Avoidance keeps you safe from the unknown. But avoidance also prevents you
from living and fully accepting what the world has to offer you and what you can
offer the world. Trauma survivors who have hidden so much of themselves from
others, only later they would learn that in many ways, they have also been hiding
from themselves. And for that, I encourage you to think about letting yourself shine
through, not just to other people, but to yourself as well.

SELF-LOVE TIP #2: ACCEPT WHO YOU ARE

Loving yourself after trauma involves accepting that some of your interactions 21
out in the world are no longer going to be the same. You may not be eager to open
yourself to others without getting to know them extremely well. You may not
want to interact with other people. There’s nothing wrong with that. After a child
touches a hot stove and gets burned, we would assume they’d be more sceptical
to touch the stove again without knowing for sure that it’s off. It’s the same with
you. I would expect you to be at least a little more cautious in your personal
relationships. Here, I want you to know that allowing yourself to experience true
love from friends and family is part of what makes life so worthwhile. But trauma
recovery takes time. Don’t be so hard on yourself. Other people may not
understand you, but you do. You know why you’re protecting yourself. And I do
too.

HOW TO LET GO OF THE PAST

SELF-LOVE TIP #3: PLEASE SHOW YOURSELF SOME LOVE



If you’ve been through trauma as a young child, you most likely grew up
knowing what it was like to feel unloved. After years of this, I get why
you’ve learned to feel unworthy of love. Even if your trauma happened
later on in life, you know what I’m talking about-- that feeling of not being
good enough or not being worthy of love and attention. You actually may
still be waiting for that love from a parent or partner that you never got.
But that kind of love you’ve been yearning for probably isn’t going to ever
come from them. YOU need to learn how to give yourself the love you
have not received. Do you know why? Because you are worthy of love.
So very worthy of love. Remember, loving yourself is more than just the
feeling of love but more like the act of love.




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HOW YOU CAN START
LOVING YOURSELF

1 Participate in activities you enjoy

(either alone or with someone else)

2 Spend time with the people that you

love and that love you

3 Enjoy healthy foods but also indulge in a
dessert that you love and enjoy every single
bite!

4 Prioritize your physical and mental health, and
find a therapist- preferably one who specializes
in trauma

5 Find your favourite positive mantras and

quotes and live by them

And here we are, at the end. I hope this article finds 23
those who are really in need of it, so that this article
can be your light in darkness, your unknown saviour,
and your helpful guidance in living. Always remember
that you are not alone. Do not worry on being
different from everyone else, you are unique in your
own ways. After all, this is our first time living this
life, it’s okay. It’s always okay.

Self Care
check-in

CHECK THE BOXES OF THE
ACTIVITIES YOU DO TO TAKE CARE

OF YOURSELF.

EAT THREE MAIN MEALS
FIND A QUIET SPOT TO MEDITATE
LIGHT AN AROMATIC CANDLE
DO A GRATITUDE LIST
PRACTICE DEEP BREATHING
LISTEN TO GOOD MUSIC
EXERCISE
CATCH UP WITH A FRIEND
VISIT A FAMILY MEMBER
SPEND TIME OUTDOORS
HAVE A MINI PAMPER SESH
CUDDLE A PET
TRY SOMETHING NEW
READ A BOOK

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SELF-REMINDER
“I am not what has happened to me. I am
what I choose to become.”

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word of affirmation THERAPY THAT DEVELOPS
SELF LOVE

Self Validation

I am loved

By: Anis Afrina

i am enough

i love myself for who i am

i create my own happiness

i am strong I am successful
i am powerful
I am confident.

Therapy that develops self-love : October, 2022

By : Anis Afrina

Dear Readers, have you ever
wondered, are you good enough for
the person you love? Are you doing
enough? It's easy for us humans to feel
insecure and doubt our self-worth.
Thus, this feeling leads us to seek
validation from others.

It is indeed normal, but know that it is
not other’s job to validate us, but it’s
actually our job to validate ourselves.
Relying on others' validation could be
toxic for our self-growth and
development. That is why it is
important for us to validate ourselves
in order to love ourselves.

What is self validation? 27

Self-validation is accepting your
own internal experience, your
thoughts, and your feelings. Self-
validation also includes telling
yourself some kind words,
encouraging yourself to do
something good and praising
yourself for something you have
achieved. Ever heard of self-
sabotaging or self-criticism?
Those are the things and
thoughts that we should avoid to
ensure that we develop a
healthy mindset and growth.

Self Validation

Why is self-validation important?

It feels good to be praised, acknowledged for
your feelings, heard that you did a good job,
and appreciated. Instead of relying on
external judgments, tell yourself that you are
good enough and absolutely perfect just the
way you are. By doing this every day, you can
increase your self-esteem and ultimately
develop love for yourself.

In addition, self-esteem helps us accept and
understand ourselves better, leading to
stronger identities and better skills to deal with
intense emotions. We can't rely on others to
make us feel better about ourselves. When we
do this, we allow others to determine our
worth. And we discredit our own thoughts,
feelings, and judgments. We assume that
others know more than we do and that their
opinions matter more.

That’s why it is important for us to learn how
to self validate.

How to Start?

Self validation is a skill that takes time and
practice. You can do this during your free time
and it can be as a form of therapy. With
practice, it will become second-nature to
validate yourself. And as you get better at
validating yourself, you’ll seek less external
validation and you’ll have less tolerance for
people invalidating you, too.

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How to 29
Self Validate

STEP # 1
TREAT YOURSELF AS
YOUR OWN FRIEND.

Think about what you would say to a
close friend who was going through the
same thing if you are having trouble
coming up with an affirming response to
your thoughts and needs. Try telling
yourself the same thing. At first, it can
appear strange, but it's all right!

STEP # 2
GIVE SOME LOVE FOR
YOURSELF

Consider what advice you would give your
younger self. Think as if we are speaking to
our younger selves whenever we are
considering saying something negative or
demeaning ourselves. Would you criticize
your younger self in any way?
For ourselves, we would always want the
best. Say it to yourself and put it in writing.
It might be helpful to repeat this technique
for a variety of emotions and situations.

SELF-VALIDATION #1 SAY THIS TO YOURSELF

My feelings are valid. remember, words have power!

SELF-VALIDATION #2

I’m proud of myself.

SELF-VALIDATION #3

I am worthy.

SELF-VALIDATION #4

Its okay to cry.

SELF-VALIDATION #5

I’m making progress.

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note to self

The only approval you need in
life, is that of your positive

inner-self."

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write a letter to
yourself

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DAFFODIL

FOR YOU

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Daffodil

- FOR YOU -

Have you ever look through the mirror and found out
that you look great? If the answer is yes then

congratulations you already aware that you are amazing
just the way you are ! I know for some people it might
sounds narcissistic but actually this is just a form of
self-appreciation.

First of all, before knowing about self love in details let
me tell you a quick trivia about daffodil. Daffodils are
named after the Greek God Narcissus and represent
self-love. Because daffodils bloom in the spring, they
are said to symbolise new beginnings; this meaning is

also perfect for your self-love journey.

Now, let’s back to the topic about self love.
In general , self-love is a feeling of admiration for
oneself that stems from actions that promote our
physical, psychological, and spiritual development
.Self-love entails having a high regard for your own
happiness and well-being. Self-love entails taking
care of one's own needs rather than sacrificing
one's own well-being to please others. Self-love
entails refusing to accept less than you deserve.
Self-love can mean different things to different
people because we all have different ways of
taking care of ourselves. Understanding what
self-love means to you as an individual is an
important part of your mental health

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Self - love

-MEANING STARTER PACK-

Prioritizing yourself
Giving yourself a break from self-judgement

Trusting yourself
Being nice to yourself
Setting healthy boundaries

There are a few reasons why self love considered as the best kind of love and why
it is important to love yourself first before focusing on loving someone else. To
begin with, one of the reason to love yourself is that loving yourself help you to

stand firm with your decision without having hesitation to tell people about your opinion.

It becomes easier to say no to people and things that do not align with your values
when you love yourself. In this way,you recognise that your time is valuable and
should be spent doing things you enjoy so you are ready and willing to make
decisions without regard for how others will react. Consequently, you will make

decisions that will only benefit your quality of life. You eat better, sleep better, and
exercise more because you understand that looking after your mental and physical

health is critical to your success. You feel better when you look better, and you
perform better when you look better.



Next, self love help you by giving you a space for you to heal yourself
whenever your emotions getting hurt. In addition loving yourself opens you up to and

makes you more aware of the healing process. You understand that every day isn't
going to be the best day, where you feel like you can conquer the world. However,
instead of wallowing in self-pity, you accept whatever mental and physical state you
are in. You find light even in the bad days because you know that even in the down

moments there is an opportunity to learn and grow.

Other than that, self-love help you to openly communicate with others

While learning how to love yourself, you actually spending your figuring out who you
are and what you want. Once you understand this, you will be able to have open and
honest conversations with anyone and everyone. Furthermore ,as you work to love,
accept, and be honest with yourself, you inspire others to do the same.This allows you

to open up and connect with others on a deeper level, unafraid to show the rough
edges of yourself and see the same in others. You understand that being honest about

your feelings and beliefs can only help your relationships with others.You have
expectations and are willing to get rid anyone who fails to meet them.

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Other than that, loving yourself will
prevent you from seeking approval from others

When you truly love yourself, you understand that confidence

comes from within and that no one can make you feel as good

or happy as you do. You are less likely to feel compelled to do

things simply to be liked. Caring less about what others think

gives you the freedom to follow your own path and be your true

self. For instance, you know that you can count on yourself first

so that you limit the amount of times you have to depend on

other people which limits the amount of times they can let you

down. Moreover, You learn to believe in yourself and your

ability to be great even when no one else is present to support

you or witness your efforts. You become your own cheerleader,

encouraging yourself to stay motivated and push yourself to

achieve your goals.

In conclusion self love can make a huge impact in

your life and improve your life in many aspects.

Let me quote words from Thich Nhat Hanh :

“If you pour a handful of salt into a cup of
water, the water becomes undrinkable. But if

you pour the salt into a river, people can
continue to draw the water to cook, wash,

and drink.”

The river is immense, and it has the capacity to
receive, embrace, and transform. When our hearts
are small, our understanding and compassion are
limited, and we suffer.We can’t accept or tolerate
others and their shortcomings, and we demand
that they change.But when our hearts expand,
these same things don’t make us suffer anymore.
We have a lot of understanding and compassion
and can embrace others.We accept others as they
are, and then they have a chance to transform.”
You can’t pour from an empty cup. Love yourself
first and so, love others truly and wholeheartedly.
You deserve it and so do the people who love you.
It’s time to prioritize your well-being and give
yourself what you need.

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Self-Love LanguageGettoknowyourself

Physical Touch Acts of Service

Things that make your body feel good Arranging things for yourself that
or focus on your physical being : make you feel good :
Massages Therapy
Soft blankets Acts of kindness
Spa days Going Out
Skincare routine
Swimming Receiving Gifts
Stretching
Treating yourself by purchasing things
Quality Time that make you happy :
Trips
Spending time alone, hobbies & doing Craft supplies
things that you love : Comfy clothes
Meditation Little gifts
Hobby Indulgences
Relaxing Investing in yourself

Words of Affirmation

Giving yourself pep talks and encouraging yourself :
Positive self-take
Daily affirmations
Journaling

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Am I

DIFFERENT
- LOVE AND BE YOURSELF -

NAZREZZAL
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-- Different? --

Everyone wants to be special, but very few people According to the Oxford Dictionary
actually want to be different. Being special or different too, special means better, greater, or
is essentially the same thing; the difference is that being in some other way different from what
special is viewed positively while being different is is usual.
viewed negatively.
Different is defined by the Oxford
Dictionary as not the same as another
or each other; unlike in nature, form,
or quality.

Both definitions refer to something or
someone not being the same as others. So,
if someone ever tells you that you are
different, realize that it means you are
special and that you are unique. Don’t
worry if you act differently, dress
differently, talk differently, or have a
different appearance because to shine
your brightest light is to be who you truly
are.

“Why do I feel so different from everyone else?”

You discover that you don't have the same passions, drives, hobbies, or interests as those around you. You
question yourself all the time, "Why am I like this?" You start to wonder how other people engage with
such ease and why they seem to be enjoying things that you are not. Because of the differences in their
values, interests, and lifestyles from those of others, millions of people think something is wrong. Even while
we are all members of a community, each of us has an own personality, character, and set of life
experiences.Although everyone of us is different as a person, we are all human beings.

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Is It Only Me?

Let's take a look at some of 1
these well-known success
WALT DISNEY
tales of people who perhaps
questioned they were so His Mickey Mouse animation was disregarded
because it was seen to be "too disturbing for
different from everyone else. women." Not only that but "The Three Little Pigs"
was also rejected since it featured only four
characters. Thanks to Walt's decision to ignore all
of his detractors and pursue his ideas, we thankfully
still have the Disney company today.

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J.K. ROWLING HENRY FORD

Can you believe that twelve publishers rejected His ideas were initially wholly rejected? Ford
the Harry Potter book before finally accepting it? attempted to present his engine proposal to a
Too conventional, too long, too strange, or too out- group of industrialists, but no one bothered to
of-date were among the (ostensible) grounds for give him any attention. They would have placed
rejection. However, now we have one of the most what Ford presented in the trash since it was
fascinating books of the modern era because of worthless to them. However, today everyone is
her perseverance and strength in bringing her benefiting from his vision of reasonably priced
different ideas. cars for the average person.

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What Should

I Do ?

"Otherness" ought to be considered normal.
I'm sure that many others feel the same

way, but they're reluctant to expose their
true selves.

Do I have to follow the others?

It's simple to contrast yourself with others and worry
about matching social expectations. Being different
from one's family, coworkers, classmates, or friends
can be challenging at times. People who try to fit in
with others are really just taking the easy way out;
since they aren't forced to think for themselves, they
just end up following the crowd.

IMany people have become outstanding leaders,
entrepreneurs, innovators, and thinkers by being
different and thinking outside the box.

It Might Help You Succeed.

To succeed in the modern world, you need
to be unique, creative, and productive.
Being different can help you reach your
goals more quickly than you might think, but
nobody wants to be different because they
are afraid of failing. You begin to doubt
your capability to achieve anything
because of this fear.

I'm going to explain why you shouldn't ever
be afraid to stand out from the crowd and
how doing so can be your biggest success
secret.

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It Might Help

You Succeed

BEING DIFFERENT MEANS YOU
STAND OUT

What differentiates you from other common people? You should ask yourself that
question. Because being different doesn't necessarily mean possessing an extra

1 brain, arm, or leg... Instead, it is about your perspective on the world, how you act,

and how unique and different your thinking is.
It may surprise you to learn that our world loves things that are different. We are
drawn to disruption and the unusual, which explains why new iPhone models, apps,
and cosmetics are constantly being released.

BEING DIFFERENT GROWS YOUR
SELF-KNOWLEDGE

There are many influencers who give advice on what to do and how to succeed,

2 but in order to stand out in the crowd, you must do your own research and form
your own thoughts.
Because of this, being different can help you learn more than those around you,
and the increased self-awareness encourages unwavering confidence. Obviously,
you always need confidence to succeed and survive in the modern world.

BEING DIFFERENT ENCOURAGES
YOU TO FIND MOTIVATION

One of the things you will need in order to carry out your ideas and succeed is

3 motivation. It can actually be an additional motivator for you to succeed if you
feel different compared to other people.
This is because you want to prove with everybody that you are not less capable
than them, or alternatively, that you are actually more capable than others.

TIPS “Don’t be afraid of being different, be afraid of being the same as everyone else.”

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Self Care

CHECKLIST

SOMETIME WE ARE WORK TO MUCH
TO STAND OUT FROM THE OTHERS,
UNTIL WE FORGET TO TAKE CARE

OF OURSELVES

5 MIN MEDITATION OR
BREATHING EXERCISE

2 CUPS OF FRUIT AND 3 CUPS
OF VEGGIES

UNFOLLOW NEGATIVE PEOPLE
ON SOCIAL MEDIA

UNPLUG FROM TECHNOLOGY
FOR 2 HOURS

KEEP A CLEAN DESK AND
HOME WORKSPACE

START A DAY WITH A GLASS OF
WATER

TAKE A NAP WHEN YOU NEED
IT

SAY NO TO EXTRA
RESPONSIBILITIES

LISTEN TO MUSIC THAT MAKES
YOU HAPPY

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Self Validation : Therapy that develops
self love

Martin, S. (2019, November 15). Why It's So
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Daffodils for You!

George. (2019, March 28). 10 Important Reasons
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F.L.Y

FIRST, LOVE YOURSELF

BE THE REAL YOU.
OCTOBER, 2022