Self-Love

F A Y R EApril 2021 Issues
HEALTH I CULTURE I LIFESTYLE

Self-Love "Am I More
or Than
WORTItH?" Enough
Narcissistic?

STNETNOC INTRODUCTION 04
07
1.1 What is Self-Love 08
1.2 Quote Of The Day

1.3 The Definition of Love Yourself

MEDIA TWIST

2.1 The Media Twist of Self-Love 10

2.2 Quote Of The Day 12

2.3 People's Perceptions on Self-Love 13

AFFIRMATION 15
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3.1 Positive Encouragement 17
3.2 Quote Of The Day

3.3 Learn Boundaries To Say “No”

HEALTH 21
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4.1 A Sense Of A Healthy Mind 23
4.2 Quote Of The Day

4.3 A Healthy Life

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STNETNOC GET YOURSELF
TOGETHER I

5.1 Saying Goodbye to Social Media 25

5.2 Quote Of The Day 26
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5.3 No Phone? No Worries

GET YOURSELF 29
TOGETHER II
31
6.1 Soothing Therapy 32

6.2 Quote Of The Day

6.3 Self care Tips

DEDICATION 34

8.1 Music Suggestion 36
8.2 Quote Of The Day 37

8.3 Movie Suggestion

INSPIRATION 39
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8.1 Inspirational Stories 43
8.2 Quote Of The Day

8.3 Adios!

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FAYRE I INTRODUCTION Self-love is about more than just

SELF choosing to wear pretty clothes,
expensive cosmetics to match and
then stating that you love yourself.
Self-love is a combination of various
affection we use physically and non-
physically towards ourselves.

FAYRE I APRIL ISSUES “One of the greatest regrets in life is
being what others would want you to
be, rather than being yourself.”

― Shannon L. Alder

Self-love means loving yourself

without making significant
negative comparisons, taking
pride in your ability and
accomplishments, providing
yourself with the validation you
need, and understanding that it's
okay to be unpredictable and
doubtful at times.

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Why would you love and accept a Professional psychologist Leon F.
fault, weakness or mistake? Seltzer, PhD, author of
Paradoxical Strategies of
Self-love is described as a Psychotherapy, has something to
offer regarding embracing
combination of self-esteem, self- ourselves, flaws and all:
compassion, and self-acceptance. " You must acknowledge that,
Indeed, it's about appreciating with your defences, blind spots,
your uniqueness and adoring your insecurities, and the potentially
authenticity. However, it also dangerous experiences you've
involves acknowledging your been subjected to, you're doing
flaws, knowing your weaknesses, the best you can and have been all
and completely embracing them. along. -

It really is an essential process to Furthermore, you must stop
acknowledge that you don't have judging yourself against standards
to be a fictional perfect image of that do not accurately reflect who
yourself to be worthy of love. you are or what you can
Perfection is impossible to reasonably expect of yourself. ”
achieve, and it has no room in our
self-love path. There will never be We are all worthy just as we are,
a perfect image of you. There isn't right now, beautiful imperfections
a single version of someone that is and all.
without flaws.

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types of self-loveelfCompassion

S When you act the same
way toward yourself Narcissis
when you are going m
through a tough time
that you would act
towards someone.

i.e, empathy

Narcissism is about claiming that When a person becomes
you're greater than everyone else obsessed about
and ensuring that people see you
the way you want to be seen, themselves in order to
while self-love is an honest and look good and has a
genuine admiration for oneself. continuous desire for
Narcissism is other-focused, while validation from others.
self-love is self-focused. i.e, opposite self love

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FAYRE

FAYRE I INTRODUCTION

Loving yourself should not be an act of disrespect, it is an

expression of gratitude towards yourself because someone
else would not have to put up with your lingering issues when

you L O V E Y O U R S E L F

There's an old proverb that says;
You can't please someone else unless you love yourself.
Although this isn't entirely accurate, how we feel for
ourselves have a significant influence on the relationships we
develop and how we see them. We appear to be less
comfortable with our relationships and less enthusiastic
about the future when we have low self-esteem.

“ TRUE LOVE FIRST BEGINS WITH
LOVING MYSELF.”

We may also underestimate how much our partners love us
because of our lack of self-love.

" When we don't feel confident for ourselves, it's
impossible to believe that somebody else would. "

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MEDIA TWIST

Celcom 5G

12:00

Wednesday, December 22

GOOGLE Just Now

According to research, even
expecting likes after uploading
something will trigger a surge of
feel-good dopamine in our brains.
Still, as the saying goes, what goes
up must come down, and research
shows that the negative emotions
associated with social media use
will far overshadow the positive.

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00 The simplest words or
cember 22 phrases can cause an
impact on someone. We
can't expect them to be
like us. Every people have
different personalities.

Being active especially on Be aware of the media
social media can bring because it shapes our
many speculative as we're mindset. Don't let what is
going to doubt ourselves. portrayed on the Internet
We don't think our beauty influence you. You can be
matches the beauty yourself and practice self-
standard that people think love but don't let
of, for instance. narcissism overpower you.

Imagine, a person trying

hard to follow the current TO BE BEAUTIFUL
trend that is portrayed on MEANS TO BE
the internet and end up YOURSELF.
being criticised just
because you don't meet YOU DON'T NEED TO BE
their standards. Picture ACCEPTED BY OTHERS.
the feelings of that person. YOU NEED TO ACCEPT
Are they okay? How will
YOURSELF.

they cope with the

criticism?

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FAYRE

The universe will keep handling you the same
lessons, the same relationships, the same type

of love and the same type of pain until you
realise that the common denominator is you.

Until you are finally tired of your own
patterns.

Until you finally love yourself enough to raise
your standards and believe you are worthy of

holding them.
You see thing is,
until you learn to love yourself more,
you will continue to accept the love that
mirrors how you truly feel about yourself.
The answer to everything you desire is within

you.

- Where's Mollie

MEDIA TWIST

Celcom 5G

13:00
Tuesday, December 21

REMINDER Just Now

The internet plays with someone's
mind. You have to have your own
principle as you don't want negative
thoughts taking over you.

1.Meeting people in real life is
way better than communicating
through social media.

2.Putting yourself first before
others is not a selfish act.

3.Taking a break from the
internet can serve you a
pleasurable feeling.

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FAYRE I AFFIRMATION Positive Enco

Every word that is coming from ment

your mouth is like energy to
define the quality of your life.

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Train your mind with the words of
encouragement and become your own
greatest source of courage and hope.
You’ll have a strength you can rely on
in hard times.

You don't need validation from someone. You, yes, you!!
need to give a compliment to yourself first. How? go
stand in front of your mirror and say;

"I am healthy, I am wealthy,
I am rich, I am that bitch

I am gonna go get that bag and
I am not gonna take your shit
I am protected, well respected,

I'm a queen, I'm a dream
I do what I wanna do and

I'm who I wanna be
'Cause I am me"

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AFFIRMATION

We can't do all of the things at
the same time, although we'd
like to. When you tend to take
in all that comes your way,
you'll realize that you have to
stay awake late to finish it all.
Then, drained, instead of
relaxing in the morning, you
hit the snooze button. Before
you know it, you're too
exhausted to exercise, which
it's essential for everyone's
wellbeing.

Getting countless invitations It's a tricky issue that begins
with us prioritizing other
whether directly or people's needs over our own
and ends with you being too
intentionally, can be too overwhelmed or doubting
your truthfulness to
overwhelming as we're trying contribute to somebody's
needs, including your own like
to balance our personal life. spending less time for
yourself.
Therefore, everyone should be

aware and learn when to set

boundaries and how to say

"No" in a polite way without

hurting other people.

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FAYRE I AFFIRMATION

❤If you want someone to respect ❤ People will know when you start
your needs and avoid making you putting boundaries. They'll start
feel the emotions mentioned calling you selfish and self-centred.
above, you need to voice out your ❤ Keep in mind that you're doing
needs. You can’t expect your this for yourself. Boundaries allow
needs to be met if you don’t voice us to reserve our strength for things
them out. that are more valuable to us.

In order for you to learn the
steps are by doing it

thoughtfully. Worry less, here are
some tips on when to set the

boundaries and how to say "No".

❤Don't be scared to lose anyone ❤Our mindsets must change. You'll
if you wish to hold them. When feel guilty any time you set a
you get attached to somebody, boundary or say no if you don't
you must be genuine. You can't want to prioritize yourself.
get past them by being fake and
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❤ You must be yourself, if or
when you lose them, they will
never really know who you are.

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FAYRE I AFFIRMATION

❤ Try to differentiate ❤ You are the most significant
between what you believe person. You are allowed to a
you desire (due to social happy and content life. You
expectations) and what don't have to say yes even if
you really want. someone has requested your
help.

❤If saying no makes you feel bad, ❤ You have no influence on how
you should come up with any others feel. It is not your fault if
words to make you feel better. To you have offended someone. It’s
be honest, you don't even need to their fault for not being
justify your decisions. emotionally independent of
❤ E.g, It's fine, I'm good, themselves.
thank you.

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FAYRE I HEALTHY A Sense Of A Healthy Mind

It is indeed if we want to live Study shows that laughing,
with a peaceful mind and a
healthy body, we need to removes discomfort,
manage our stress level,
balance our food intake, get strengthen the heart and
enough sleep, less scrolling
through social media and make lungs, enhances muscle relief,
sure to exercise regularly.
and may make you feel better.
Take a break from doing
anything that can flop your Having a positive feeling can
mood. Go for a walk, watch a
Zumba video or maybe you can greatly reduce stress hormones
have your meditation session.
Create a new hobby and make and boost self-belief.
it consistent. Your mind is a
system in your body that is Take a look at the strong
constantly working and it also beautiful tree. Look how
needs a quality rest. strong it stands. Wonder how
the tree can stand
enchantingly? It is because the
tree gets the nutrition it
needs. Just like a human, we
get enough nutrition for our
body, for sure a sense of
peaceful mind and healthy
body are waiting for us.

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mindset, habits,
and routines are the
building blocks
for success toward your
wellness goals.

by Robyn Conely Downs

HEALTHY LIFErecommendations

1.Eat a portion of 2. Sit outdoors or 3. Enjoy the
healthy food. facing a window, breeze. Cherish
get comfortable every moment.

5. Be grateful with
what you have.

6. Set the atmosphere 4. Open your eyes
with your favourite and listen to your
smell. Light a candle favourite music.
or spray a perfume.
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FAYRE I APRIL ISSUES 7. Journaling. Write your
thoughts. Empty your
mind with zero thoughts.

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GET YOURSELF TOGETHER I

Saying Goodbye to

Social Media

If you depend your life on social media, you better get off it
slowly. People are in love with social media platforms. Not
really a romance or obsession, but the kind of passion that
leaves them up late at night and disturbs their productivity.
Being active on social media can affect your mental health
as it gives you a feeling of Fear of Missing Out (FOMO),
Inadequacy about your life or appearance, depression and
anxiety.
Little did you know, not everyone can accept or adhere to
what it says or portrays on social media. Besides, it can
make you start comparing yourself with others. You should
be less active on social media as it can bring so many
negative impacts to yourself.

Social media is still growing, but it's always a crucial part
of the online target market. It is not enough to actually
switch up; you must also understand the rules of the game
and how to enhance its effectiveness.

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GET YOURSELF . SOOTHING
TOGETHER II . THERAPY

Worry not, you have to find a new
hobby. Learn new things by watching
youtube videos or DIY videos. Go for a
walk or doing a shopping spree. Give
yourself some love by doing "me-time".

When our bodies are overwhelmed with Also, you're suggested to do a
discomfort or intense feelings, we use meditation for yourself as the research
relaxing and self-soothing methods to claims that meditation offers calm and

cool them down. Without even helps with anxiety and depression,
recognizing it, you might be doing some cancer, chronic pain, asthma, heart

self-calming or therapeutic exercises. disease, and high blood pressure.
When situations get overwhelming or

you can't settle, developing your
toolbox of expertise can help you find

something that helps.

If you've been through a traumatic
event, self-soothing and relaxation

methods will help.

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There are plenty of ❤ Deep Breathing: Sit or lie down
ways suggested on the comfortably. Rest your hands on
internet that you can your stomach. Slowly count to
practice by yourself. To four while inhaling through your
find soothing therapy, nose. Feel your stomach rise. Hold
you need to declutter your breath for a second. Slowly
your surrounding first count to four while you exhale,
as you need to prepare a preferably through pursed lips to
peaceful atmosphere. control the breath. Your stomach
will fall slowly. Repeat a few
By doing meditation, is times.
the most suggested way
❤Mindfulness Meditation: Focus on
but, there are some your breath. Notice anything that
types of meditation that passes through your awareness
without judgment. If your mind
you can learn as starts to tackle your to-do list,
recommended by just return to focusing on your
Mental Health of breath.

America: ❤ Visualization: Close your eyes,
relax and imagine a peaceful place,
like a forest. Engage all your
senses: Hear the crunching leaves,
smell the damp soil, feel the
breeze.

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who we are, because we often
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standards and expectations in
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INSPIRATIONAL

Some inspiration and dedication to the celebrities
who sustain developing self-love vibes to the people:

❤ BTS has always been conscious of caring for the world.
Ever since their debut in 2013, they have been focused on
providing messages of comfort for young people. They never
hesitate to express social messages in songs as well as music
videos. The member artists of BTS strive, in their own ways,
to make the world a better place to live. As part of this, BTS
released the first album of a series with the concept of Love
Yourself in September 2017 and talked about the meaning of
true love in songs featured on the album.

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RM, the leader of BTS group did mentioned during his
speech at UN, 2019;

“Maybe I made a mistake yesterday, but yesterday's me is
still me. Today, I am who I am with all of my faults and
my mistakes. Tomorrow, I might be a tiny bit wiser, and
that will be me too."

❤ SELENA GOMEZ made some
intimate disclosures during her
recent interview. She stated;
" To me, beauty is confidence. I think
I'm pretty confident in the decisions
and the choices make in my personal
life and career, but at the same time,
I also let my fans know that, just like them, I have
insecurities. I have moments when I don't feel good about
myself. I think people can forget that, at the end of the
day, I'm just a normal girl dealing with lots of the same
issues as them."

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❤ LIZZO took her rapper
years to learn to appreciate
herself, but she is now
encouraging fans to do the
same with her empowering
songs.

“Don’t hide no
emotions and Wear
‘em on my sleeve”

She mentioned during her last
interview, “Talking bad to
yourself works. It’s the
antidote to, ‘So stupid.’ It’s
like, ‘No, you deserve this.
You’re intelligent.” So, the
next time you’re feeling down
and need to be reminded of
how fabulous you are, or
perhaps need a killer caption
for your girl boss Instagram
photo, let the Lizzo lyrics
remind you.

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Finding real personalities is pretty much scary as we
need to fight and cope with it. The obstacles may vary

as we need to adapt them but surely sure it will be
going to be okay. A quote by Michael A. Singer says,
true personal growth is about transcending the part of

you that is not okay and needs protection.