THE CURE CONNECTION booklet

TheCureConnection.com

by BettyAnn Golden

Introduction to The CURE
by Belinda Bolan

The CURE stands for the 4 components necessary to have any type of

successful relationship: COMMUNICATION, UNDERSTANDING, RESPECT
& the EVERYDAY practice of the afore mentioned components. Without all
four of these your relationships will suffer from various forms of disconnect
that may eventually lead to a complete absolution of relations between any
two individuals or parties. To further your understanding I’d like to address
and further define each component.

The first component is COMMUNICATION. There must always be com-

munication to establish any type of relationship. Every relationship is based
on the communication of information, intention and feeling. Without com-
munication a relationship does not exist. The quality of your communica-
tion will determine the quality of your relationship. If you communicate with
clarity and sinsarity your relationship will reflect these qualities.

The next necessary component is UNDERSTANDING. Communication

is focused on sending pertinent information while understanding focuses
on receiving information and making sense of it. It is the process of recog-
nizing the intention and purpose that is driving the person on the other end
of the communication cycle. If communication is successful understanding
is achieved.

The third component is RESPECT. Respect for the other individuals

thoughts and feelings. This respect allows for difference of opinions and
feelings between two parties. It is a recognition of the individual that exists
outside the relationship and is at the same time an integral part of it. All
individuals deserve respect XXXXX

The fourth and last component is the repetitive nature of the CURE. All of
these components must be applied and practiced on a daily basis - that

means EVERYDAY! Not occasionally. Not when you are having problems.

These individual components must be practiced everyday. It is the daily
practices that will define the health of your relationships, not the emergen-
cy reactions in response to poor daily relationship habits.

The CURE

For Strengthening Any Relationship

COMMUNICATE | UNDERSTAND | RESPECT | EVERYDAY

THESE FOUR WORDS WILL ENHANCE
YOUR RELATIONSHIPS FOREVER!

Having a great relationship is needed in all types of situations; love partners,
family, friends and business etc. Every relationship has basic components
and every sucessful relationship will show high levels of communication,
understanding and respect between the individuals involved. But before
honest communication takes place we must do some self introspection.
Most importantly, every relationship you have starts with the kind of rela-
tionship you have with yourself?

To
Really
Understand
The
Heart isTRUTH

Self introspection is the examination of one’s own conscious thoughts and
feelings. Self introspecion is the quest for TRUTH.

TRUTH in this sense is relative. It is relative to what you are thinking, feel-
ing and desire. It it your responsibility TO REALLY UNDERSTAND THE
HEART before entering into a relationship. Without this self knowledge

you will not be able to communicate honestly or articulate how you feel or
what your desire from the relationship.

The only one you are with every minute of the day, is yourself. Do you love
your self? Can you look in the mirror and ask the one you see in the mirror
who you really are?

This is where great relationships begin, no matter what kind of relationship
you are wanting i.e.; love partner, family, friend, business partners and even
acquaintances. You must start with being truthful and having a good rela-
tionship with yourself first!

Become the one you love to be with
since YOU are the only one you are
with 100% of the time.

Your emotions are always about your relationship with your own desires
and nothing else! If you are disconnected from your internal motivations
you may not understand where your emotions stem from. They may seem
irrational or illogical.

Honest communication with yourself will allieviate this disconnect and al-
low you to evaluate your true desires and make sense of your feelings. This

is the begining of the CURE.

Your thoughts are the basis for all things that you feel. To understand the

TRUTH or TO REALLY UNDERSTAND THE HEART you must com-

municate with yourself about your true intentions, beliefs and feelings.

It’s all you...therefore you really
do create it all.
 
Beliefs and Intentions do change
EVERYTHING!

COMMUNICATE with yourself:

Are you truthful with yourself? Or do you lie to yourself to avoid the truth?

Do you lie to impress people or worse, do you do things you don’t want to
because you’re afraid of upsetting someone?

Are you afraid you won’t be liked if you are yourself?

Do you really care for yourself by loving the real you?

Are you communicating the real you or are you trying to be someone else
for appearance sake?

These are question you must ask yourself. If you find answers you don’t
like it’s time to make some changes and become a person you can love
and have a healthy relationship with.

“Open minded people embrace being wrong,
are free of illusions, don’t mind what people
think of them, and question everything even
themselves.”

UNDERSTAND yourself:

Do you know and understand yourself and your true desires? Many times
we are so focused on the to do list and external circumstance and respon-
sibilites we never stop to understand ourselves - we simply cope with life
as it is thrown at us.
Do you know what you really want? Do you understand what motivates
you and makes your act the way you do?
Do you judge others or are do you allow others to speak their truth whether
you agree with them or not? Do you care why they say and act the way they
do? Are you understanding or judgmental?

Do you want others to understand and love you for who you really are or do
you hide behind an image of what you believe you should be or you want
them to see?

If you answered yes to any of the above you need to stop and contemplate
your motivations. Most people say “I don’t care what others think” but this
is not a truthful statement. Yes, it shouldn’t matter what others think IF and
only IF you are speaking and acting from your truth!

“If they respect you, respect them. If they disrespect you, still respect
them. Do not allow the actions of others to decrease your good manners,

RESbPecEauCseTyoyuourerpsreelfs:ent yourself, not others.” ~MOHAMMAD ZEYARA

Having respect for yourself gives you the ability to respect others. Respect
for self is number one. Even in your thought life you should exercise respect.
Negative self talk will effect your self-image in a negative way. Everything
you say and do should show that you respect yourself and in return respect
others. What you say and do reflects upon you and no one else.

Once we have learned to respect ourselves we can exercise respect for
others and creating amazing relationships whether in your personal life or

the business world.

Can you believe you can respect another person even if you don’t see eye
to eye? Do you believe that you can Love someone even if you don’t like
how or what they do or say? The answer is yes. If you respect yourself you
will not be threatened by people whose ideas and lifestyles are different
and maybe even counter to your own. You can agree to disagree without
being offended.

When you respect yourself you find confidence in your beliefs and options
even when they are not shared by those close to you. In that place you can
now seek to understand and thus respect the other individuals view point
without compromising your own.

EVERYONE / EVERYDAY

By communicating truthfully and allowing others to do the same, you’ll
understand and respect each other everyday. Like any aquired skill it must
be practiced to perfection. In the begining implementing these ideas may
not come easy. But with time and practice they will become second nature.
You will become a person who Communicates, Understands, & Respects
Everyone/Everyday.

These are all questions that you need to ask yourself everyday if you truly
want a loving and giving relationship with yourself and those around you.
Be truthful with yourself when answering and all your relationships will be
given the CURE.