Glamour USA Jan 2017

Kick-start Your Star
Wars’
2017 Felicity
Jones
Style!
Warrior,
These 60 feminist,

fashion& beauty wine
drinker
ideas are
everything
right now

PIThseasrutey! The first
year after...
New options for what to “I left an
wear, eat, drink & dance to
abusive
Starring Jessica Chastain, Soo Joo Park, Emily DiDonato, Maria Borges, relationship”
Joey Bada$$, Teyana Taylor, Lil Buck, Felicity Hayward, Diana Gordon, and more “I dropped
210 pounds”
“I lost my job”

Real stories of
what happens next

January 2017







Mix It Up

The music
and the clothes,

page 64.

From left: Miu Miu
crop top, sweater,
skirt. Gucci jacket,
dress. Marc Jacobs

dress, blouse.

PARTY: MIGUEL REVERIEGO Cover 16 Unedited 48 The First Fashion 100 Glamour Dos
Reads Bathleisure (it’s a Year After… & Don’ts
& Hot thing), Beyoncé’s Very personal 23 The 2017 A look back at
Topics songwriter, and stories about Essentials eight years
more obsessions what happens It’s time to make of memorable,
The Party Issue! du jour after life’s biggest closet space for masterful Dos
moments the new go-tos, by First Lady
You’re invited to 23 Kick-start Your including kitten Michelle Obama
Glamour’s New Year’s 2017 Style 88 Star Wars’ heels, two-toned
kickoff, featuring: The 60 best Felicity Jones! denim, chokers,
fashion updates Meet our cover and more
• Tons of party looks, of the new year star, owner
and how to rock of the biggest
from denim to them. Plus, beauty role of the year
black tie, starting inspo for days (in Rogue One)
on page 64 (page 36)

• And our after-party

guide! Joey Bada$$,
Teyana Taylor, and
more give you ideas
on what to wear,
eat, drink, and
dance to (page 94)

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Beauty leaving an abusive This month, …Rapunzel hair… …and classic with
husband. Five we’re into: page 38 a modern twist.
36 The Biggest women—and these pretty page 28
Beauty Ideas one man—tell
of 2017 their roller- plates… Monica Rich
Our beauty coaster stories page 56 Kosann necklace
editors know ($550, monicarich
exactly what 52 Crowdsourced
makeup, nail art, Our experts solve kosann.com)
and hairstyles one new mom’s
they’ll be trying sex-life issues Talk
this year
54 The Story of Us 60 “True Badassery
Wellbeing A peek into one Has No Gender”
couple’s eight- Jessica Chastain,
44 To Hell With year relationship Gugu Mbatha-
Resolutions Raw, and Alison
We’re throwing 56 This Is My Job Pill talk about their
out all that “new Here’s how Helen new political film,
year, new you” Levi turned her Miss Sloane
crap. Join us, hobby—pottery—
won’t you? into her paycheck 62 The Power of
an Outsider
Life 59 Work Mistakes Designer
to Avoid in 2017 Christian Siriano
48 My First Year Real women didn’t feel
…after getting share their hard included by the
sober. Or losing lessons with you fashion industry.
210 pounds. Or So now he’s
changing it
Everything 98 Glamour PLATES: HELEN LEVI. RAPUNZEL HAIR: VANNI BASSETTI/GETTY IMAGES. NECKLACE: TIM HOUT
ElseYou Shopper
Need
99 The
10 From Me to You Glamour List
The election is Thirteen
over. Now what? resolutions other
people really
12 @Glamourmag need to make
this year

GLAMOUR GOES ROGUE!

Felicity Jones is not just on our cover—she’s on Glamour covers around the world,
including those in Mexico and the United Kingdom.

Jones was photographed by Patrick Demarchelier in Paris. Fashion editor: Jillian
Davison; hair: Teddy Charles at The Wall Group; makeup: Mary Greenwell at Premier
Hair and Makeup; manicure: Alexandra Falba at Mercenaire; production: ProdN Paris.
U.S. and Mexico covers: Dior red dress, bra. U.K. cover: Christopher Kane dress. For
Jones’ fresh look, try Dior Rouge Dior Lipstick in Grège ($35), Diorshow Pro Liner in Pro
Black ($33, both at dior.com), and Garnier Fructis De-Constructed Texture Tease
($4.50, at drugstores). See Glamour Shopper for more information. Read more
about Jones on page 88.

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Damn,

Demi!

You were moved by Demi Lovato’s
“raw and real” story—and the
other straight talk in our
November issue.

Picked up @ddlovato’s @glamourmag The new @glamourmag I was very disappointed to read Cindi LOVATO: CARTER SMITH
issue. Because queen. has some *amazing* Leive’s article encouraging support for
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@AnnaKendrick47 azine for all women and not a political
Just read @ddlovato’s @glamourmag @ddlovato magazine or forum. If this is a magazine
interview. She is so raw and real. A true #RachelBloom for for all women, then all content should
role model for your kids!!! —@trevorok_, speaking their truths remain neutral and unbiased for women
via Twitter to decide for themselves. I am able to rea-
—@keara_maureen, son and think for myself. No one cares
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honest and moving celebrity interview Greener, Aurora, Ill.
I’ve ever read. I suffer from an eating dis- You promote paid maternity leave in “Hil-
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sure are very much connected, and her consider the consequences such a pol- ical views. This election is different, and I
strength and candidness has inspired me icy could lead to. It’s difficult for a small see it every day in my classroom as a gov-
to seek help. Thank you for featuring such employer to pay an employee who’s not ernment teacher. I’m proud to subscribe to
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accurately shows what working in law policies are important, but let’s consider views. Our willingness to respectfully
enforcement is all about [“This Is My how to counter the cons before signing on disagree with others is one of the many
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Role Model
From far left: the
First Lady talking
girls’ education
with actress Yara
Shahidi at Glamour’s
International Day
of the Girl panel in
2016; as a Glamour
Woman of the
Year in 2009

ThankYou, FLOTUS! OBAMA AND SHAHIDI: PAUL MORIGI/GETTY IMAGES FOR GLAMOUR. OBAMA IN RED: MATTHIAS VRIES-MCGRATH. OBAMA, PARKER, AND WASHINGTON: PATRICK DEMARCHELIER
For your example. For your authenticity. And most of all,
for your damn good advice.

ichelle Obama is a hugger. We at Glamour or about you, in a negative light, but you turn them around
learned this back in 2007, when we first and you make them positive attributes. Because, let me tell
met her on the campaign trail for her hus- you, to compete…you’re going to have to be aggressive. And
band, then senator Barack Obama. She you’ve got to be confident. And there are times when you
extended her arms along with a smile. need to be loud and speak your mind. I’ve had to do that in
In the 10 years that have followed, Mrs. Obama has sat down every room of power that I’ve sat in.” —October 2016
with Glamour five more times—most recently on the Interna- On finding an equal partner: “[Barack] was always special,
tional Day of the Girl this past fall. (Girls worldwide joined via you know? And not special, like, He’s gonna be important,
Skype and asked FLOTUS, whom one called “the First Lady he’s gonna be president. He was special in terms of his hon-
of the World,” their questions about confidence, her Let Girls esty, his sincerity, his compassion for other people. Cute’s
Learn initiative, and her favorite novel.) By her words and good. But cute only lasts for so long, and then it’s, Who are
example, she’s taught women and girls everywhere to be proud you as a person? Don’t look at the bankbook or the title. Look
of their intelligence, to speak their minds, and to advocate for at the heart. Look at the soul. Look at how the guy treats his
themselves and others. (She also nails the fashion thing; see mother and what he says about women…and, more import-
page 100.) As she leaves the White House, we’re revisiting ant, how does he treat you?” —December 2009
her best Glamour moments. What will Mrs. O do next? One
request: Memoir, please! White House Field Trip
Mrs. Obama, Sarah
On nailing a job interview: “We, as women, don’t like to Jessica Parker, and Kerry
talk about ourselves. This is one time where you have to brag Washington discuss
a little bit. You’ve got to pump your chest out. You’ve got to support for military
[wheel] out your bag of goodies. You’ve got to pull yourself families for Glamour’s
out of the team and shine a light on yourself.” —May 2015 May 2015 cover story.

On prioritizing yourself: “I have always tried to put my kids
first and then…put myself a really close second, as opposed
to fifth or seventh. One thing that I’ve learned from male
role models is that they don’t hesitate to invest in them-
selves, with the view that, if I’m healthy and happy, I’m
going to be a better support to my spouse and children. And
I’ve found that to be the case.” —December 2009

On reframing labels: “Aggressive. That’s the word that
[has] been used for me often. Too aggressive, too loud, too
bossy…. Well, aggressive is assertive. Loud is confidence.
It’s how you take those words. Maybe they were said to you,

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Everything we’re binge-talking about this month

Bathleisure:
It’s aThing

So long, yoga pants. Fashionistas are all
about bathrobes and PJs. So: yea or nay?

Picture this: You’re walking down the street, wearing noth- in-broad-daylight look. Perhaps it’s because bathleisure,
ing but a slept-in blowout, your favorite house shoes, and as we’re officially calling it, is all about using fabrics (the
a loosely belted bathrobe. A dream for some, a nightmare softest) and silhouettes (the sexiest) to celebrate feminin-
for others, and now a very silky reality. After Burberry sent ity and romance with just a touch of over-the-top luxury.
models down its fall 2016 catwalk in layered “dressing “There’s no denying the comfort,” says Glamour deputy art
coats,” style stars like, at right, Kim Kardashian West (at the director Victoria Ravest, here, who slipped into Burberry’s
Givenchy spring-summer 2017 presentation in Paris), Lily fresh-off-the-runway outfit for cocktails in New York City.
James, and Jourdan Dunn quickly adopted the boudoir- “I fit right in.” Out on the sidewalk, believe it or not, Rav-

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Figue ($295, figue.com for stores) And for
Your Feet…
Pajama Party
From top: Dunn, Only want to dip your toes
Andreja Pejić, into the bathleisure waters?
Nausheen Shah… Never fear: CTOs (chief
trend officers) like Rihanna
BATHLEISURE: KATIE FRIEDMAN; HAIR AND MAKEUP: MIA SANTIAGO FOR OUAI; LOCATION: WWW.THEVNYL.COM, NYC. DUNN, and Man Repeller’s Leandra
JAMES: DAVID M. BENETT/DAVE BENETT/GETTY IMAGES. PEJIĆ: WAYNE TIPPETTS/BLAUBLUT-EDITION.COM. SHAH: VINCENZO Medine have taken to
GRILLO/IMAXTREE.COM. SANCHEZ BARRENECHEA: PIXELFORMULA/SIPA/REX/SHUTTERSTOCK. K ARDASHIAN WEST: STEPHANE wearing furry, festive, wine-
CARDINALE/CORBIS VIA GETTY IMAGES. SLIPPERS (2): COURTESY OF COMPANY by-the-fire footwear for
day. When I want to avoid a
full-on PJs look, I pair ’em
with jeans and a crisp button-
down. Oh, and the more
texture, the better. Bring on
the feathers! —Elissa Velluto,
senior accessories editor

Brother Vellies ($285, nordstrom.com)

est also received her fair share of you-go-girl thumbs-ups. …Sofía
Sure, some guys already have a handle on the look (see: your Sanchez
very polished grandfather with his pipe, The Dude in The Big Barrenechea,
Lebowski, and Tyler Durden in Fight Club), but we think the James…
ladies can take it from here. —Noah Silverstein, associate
fashion writer …and
Kardashian
Burberry robes, belt, bag. Grenson brogues. See Glamour Shopper West
for more information.

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Fans of HBO’s who- Glamour: Tell us Hear Me Now?
dunit The Night Of about Bodhi Rook.
may recall the exact RA: He’s not a Sick of fumbling for your phone
moment when Naz, war-hardened soldier every time it rings? Sgnl, whose
the mild-mannered like the others, but he’s creators raised nearly $1.5 mil-
murder suspect, not exactly at peace lion in 37 days on Kickstarter, is a
adopted a smoldering with the intense rebel very Bond-esque solution. Just
stare and—schwing!— heist situation either. attach this smart strap ($150–
became last summer’s Glamour: You’re part $200, mysgnl.com) to any
most cerebral sex of political rap group existing watch face and, thanks
symbol. Let me Swet Shop Boys. to Bluetooth, conduct conversa-
repeat: Actor Riz What’s your mission? tions through your actual finger.
Ahmed made a possi- RA: Our whole (The sound turns into vibrations
ble murderer seem philosophy is to tran- that travel through your body.)
sexy. Here, the Brit, scend the boundaries But does it work? A call made
who plays bad boy that people hem us from my cell to company project
cargo pilot Bodhi into, such as Indian manager Saemi Kim in South
Rook in Rogue One: or Pakistani or Korea was remarkably clear and
A Star Wars Story, British or American. interference-free. (Worry not: I
gives us a peek inside The reality is most watched via Skype, and she was
his beautiful mind. people are mongrels, truly hearing through her finger.)
Glamour: You must a mishmash of Sgnl doesn’t launch here until
know everyone different labels and April, which gives you plenty of
is going crazy over identities and experi- time to decide which finger to
your eyes. ences. We’re here use when your ex calls. —Justine
Riz Ahmed: I think to celebrate the mon- Harman, senior editor
real eye contact and grels. And hopefully
concentration is pow- stretch culture a You Reviewed It!
erful in this day and little to make room
age because everyone for all of us. —Kate For this month’s Glamour book club, 15 readers dug into The Ani-
is usually staring at Branch, senior enter- mators, Kayla Rae Whitaker’s feisty, funny debut novel about
their phones. tainment editor two filmmakers who are alternately kindred spirits and mortal
enemies. Our crowd of critics recaps: When they meet as art stu-
dents, Sharon is “a shy transplant by way of rural Kentucky”
and Mel “a badass lesbian with a drug problem,” but the pair is
bound by their art and “the trauma of childhood.” It feels like “a
mix of Beaches, Girls, and Thelma & Louise.” So, you know, a
“complicated,” “sensual, sexy” raw nerve of a “roller coaster”
through a “tumultuous” friendship. The novel’s best line? “You’re
gonna let the world happen to you, and you’re gonna love it.” One
reader summed it up this way: “If you let this story happen to
you, you’re gonna love it.” —Elisabeth Egan, books editor

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Uncensored Diana Gordon
As someone who routinely cuts the bows off “Before the Beyoncé thing, I hadn’t had something good hap-
her lingerie—seriously, why are there always pen to me in a while,” says singer-songwriter Diana Gordon.
bows?—I was stoked to discover Negative, a The “Beyoncé thing” she’s referring to: three writing credits on
brand for girls who don’t do girly. And start- the icon’s Lemonade, including one for “Sorry,” which launched
ing this month, you can buy a set of undies with a nationwide witch hunt for “Becky with the good hair.” Now
your own embroidered phrases ($85–$100 for Gordon, who previously performed under the name Wyn-
two, negativeunderwear.com). Think of the ter Gordon, is putting the final touches on a “rebirth” album,
possibilities: Bachelorette party gift? Try “Ride due out this spring. And if recent tracks are any indication—
It/My Pony.” Best friend’s b-day? “Shine On/ “One hand on the pussy and the other on a Harley,” she spits on
You Crazy Diamond.” Breakup? “New Phone/ “Woman”—she’ll be totally capturing the zeitgeist. But where
Who Dis?” They’re like cheeky inside jokes… does she even get her material? “It comes up from the youth. It’s
with myself. —Alanna Greco, editorial assistant like, what’s their language?” she says. “A lot of the best writers
say things people say already. It’s just not proper English.” TFW
20 glamour.com someone finally gets me. —Justine Harman, senior editor

The All-Grown-Up

Anklet
The second I spotted a pair of mismatched
Mary Janes on Instagram, I emailed my most
fashionable friend, Danielle: “What are these
shoes with ankle cuffs?” She wrote back imme-
diately: “They’re not with the shoes exactly.
These girls run their own brand, Attico. So
they’re, like, ankle bracelets.” The “girls” are
Italian street-style stars Giorgia Tordini and
Gilda Ambrosio, and starting in January,
their silk-and-satin creations will be my very
own ankle chokers ($205–$330 per pair, my
theresa.com). Worst-case scenario: People
think I’m under house arrest. Well, then, how’d
I get into this sexy club, hmm? —J.H.





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The New Basics in Action!
From left, influencers Ece Sukan,
Yasmin Sewell, Gilda Ambrosio, and
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haves you’ll see on the next pages.

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Fashion / The Essentials

Start Here J.Crew ($395, 1
jcrew.com) The Admiral

Coat Try any of these
options for work with a
You probably shirt, a sweater, and a
know about pencil skirt (like Poppy
the old fashion Delevingne, here),
essentials: the or with a graphic tee
white button- and jeans on the
down, the little weekend—the coat
black dress, the instantly dresses
skinny jeans. up either look.
(All still valid, but
if you don’t own Zara ($199,
’em by now, it’s zara.com)
probably because
you don’t want
them!) So what
are the new closet
heroes? Meet
the contenders
here and on
the following
pages—wear and
rewear all year!

Tibi ($725, tibi.com)

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The classic French Equipment Me + Em ($58,
stripe is a step up ($358, meandem.com)
from your simple
tee or turtleneck. equipmentfr.com) Joie ($298,
Wear with denim, joie.com)
à la Leandra 2
Medine, right, or
under a dress. The Breton
Top

This 2016 trend J.O.A. ($95, Self-
is here to stay! For dillards.com) Portrait
a casual vibe, take ($545, net
a cue from model Organic by John -a-porter
Winnie Harlow, Patrick ($189,
left, and wear organicby .com)

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underneath.
The
Slipdress

Fashion/ The Essentials Edited by Elissa Velluto

Nine West
heels ($89,
ninewest.com)

Efva Attling Céline clutch (select STYLIST: GABRIEL RIVERA AT R.J. BENNETT REPRESENTS
cuff ($550, efva Saks Fifth Avenue
attling.com) stores, 877-551-7257)

4 Photograph by Tim Hout

And Now:
The Essential
Accessories

No shopping regrets here!
Kitten heels, two-toned
bags, and metallic cuffs are
wear-everywhere choices.

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Fashion / The Essentials American Eagle
Outfitters jeans
5 ($55, ae.com)
Two-Toned
Denim Frame Denim
It’s this year’s jean of jacket ($549,
choice: the reworked net-a-porter.com)
masterpiece
Closed skirt
($229, erdon.co)

Blue Jean Baby Denim &
Stylist Megan Supply shirt
Bowman Gray ($165, ralph
does some lauren.com)
patchwork magic.

A 3-D SIGNET GRAY: TOMMY TON. SMITH + MARA EARRINGS: COURTESY OF BRAND. STILLS: TIM HOUT; STYLIST: GABRIEL RIVERA

Christian Dior

ring ($440, select

Dior stores) THE SIMPLE
GOES-WITH-
ANYTHING CHAIN

Kate Spade

New York

bracelet ($88,
katespade.com)

6The
New
“Forever”
Jewelry
The idea is classic
pieces with a twist.

A FUTURE HEIRLOOM UPDATED
HOOPS
Monica Rich Kosann
necklace ($550, Justine

monicarichkosann.com) Clenquet

DAINTY EAR CUFFS ($80, justine Ksubi dress ($190, ksubi.com)
clenquet.com)
Smith + Mara ($150 each,
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Fashion / The Essentials

What They’re Wearing Three mini trends that
are 2017’s must-haves.
7Chokers
Rihanna, Irene Kim, and Kendall Jenner have gotten the memo: Chokers are back. One designer
BreeLayne choker ($80, reimagining them in a modern way is Los Angeles–based BreeLayne Carter, whose made-in-the-USA
breelayne.com) clothing and accessories—like the netted nylon choker at left—are created from recycled materials.

8Oversize Coats RIHANNA: PASCAL LE SEGRETAIN/GETTY IMAGES. KIM: HAN MYUNG-GU/WIREIMAGE. JENNER: NEIL RASMUS/BFA/REX/SHUTTERSTOCK.
BALDWIN: GILBERT CARRASQUILLO/GC IMAGES. KRAVITZ: JEFF KRAVITZ/GETTY IMAGES FOR THE MEADOWS. KARDASHIAN, BELLA HADID: ALO
Raey jacket ($381, Another basic denim jacket? Not if you go supersize and with a fresh color, from bright blue, like Hailey CEBALLOS/GC IMAGES. GOMEZ: TEAM GT/GC IMAGES. GIGI HADID: JAMES DEVANEY/GC IMAGES. STILLS: COURTESY OF BRANDS
matchesfashion.com/us) Baldwin’s, to ultra faded, as seen on Zoë Kravitz (with a cozy faux-fur lining) and Kim Kardashian, to darker
washes, like the version at left by Raey, the in-house label from matchesfashion.com. So no, not basic at all.
9Round Glasses

Krewe sunglasses ($255, Circular sunnies have always had a John Lennon–cool vibe, and today’s stars, like Selena Gomez and Gigi and
krewe.com) Bella Hadid, are showing off fresh takes on the iconic shape. As is Krewe, a New Orleans brand that honors
the city’s culture through its styles; the pair at left is inspired by the French Quarter’s wrought-iron balconies.
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BeautyEditedbyYingChu JILL STUART: SPENCER C. AMONWATVORAKUL

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The Biggest

Beauty Ideas of
Our beauty editors
know exactly what they’ll
2017 betryingthisyear!

MermaidThe mesmerizingly pretty looks on the fashion runway glamour.com 37

at Marc Jacobs, Rachel Comey, and, here, Jill Stuart are

Eyesa brighter, dreamier take on the dark and smoky

standard. Here’s how I’m pulling it off: Apply shimmery
purple on the inner halves of lids, blue on the outer halves,
green just below the eyes, and gold at the inner corners.

(Eye primer helps.) Blend with a fluffy shadow brush;
liner and mascara optional. (Watch a full how-to at

1lipstickcom/makeup.) —Jennifer Mulrow, @jen_mulrow

Beauty/ Biggest Ideas of 2017

2 Bangs, Baby I have yet to venture into bangs territory—at least in my adult life. But
with celebs like Selena Gomez and Georgia May Jagger making the chop
(and looking this good), I’m calling my stylist this very moment. These are
a few of the styles I’m considering. —J.M.

SIDESWEPT LONG & BLUNT SHORT & BLUNT LAYERED CHOPPY

The gateway bang; keep Do like Jennifer Hudson and Pair mini bangs with long Go for a piecey rock ’n’ roll Cut ’em straight across, as

them superlong like Gomez’s. taper the sides for drama. waves, as at the Monse show. vibe like Jagger’s. at Zero + Maria Cornejo.

Urban Decay 6 Hair
Naked Ultimate
Basics palette Dafoyr s
for eyes ($54,
sephora.com) I first started noticing Joni
Mitchell–length strands
MTheNaetwte on the streets; then more
Rapunzel looks showed
Sure, you can do the full-face matte makeup that’s all over up at Proenza Schouler’s
social media. But let’s be real: Matte everything can be a and Prada’s spring shows.
little harsh in daylight. My approach is to focus on a single All of this made me regret
feature at a time. —Katheryn Erickson, @kateeerickson cutting my own very long
hair last spring. Now I want
345 it back! Here’s my plan.
A growth booster: specifi-
Do Your SKIN Or Your EYES Or Your LIPS cally, Nutrafol, which
has vitamin E and anti-
New lightweight matte I’m feeling the nineties Liquid matte lipsticks need inflammatories to help
finishing powders blend all-matte-lids thing. no introduction, but this grow thicker, healthier hair
is new: powder lip color. (nutrafol.com)
right in and cut down My product of choice is Apply a small amount Masks: Every other
shine—without masking. the palette from wash, I use the Shu Uemura
Try Nyx #nofilter Finishing of CLE Cosmetics Melting mask, below, instead of
Urban Decay, above, Lip Powder ($20, conditioner to keep ends
Powder ($12, nyx which contains 12 less prone to breakage.
cosmetics.com), which neutral matte clecosmetics.com) on top Dry dustings: That’s
comes in 15 shades. Focus hues ranging from of lip balm. It transforms hairdresser lingo for
on the T-zone and avoid creamy vanilla to lightly trimming only the
the sides of your face pastel mauve to rich into a creamy texture frayed ends; I go every
to prevent flat-looking skin. chocolate brown. for a lightly stained effect. six weeks. —K.E.

Gorgeous! Shu Uemura
Urban Moisture
Deep Treatment
($68, shuuemura
artofhair-usa.com)

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K ARDASHIAN WEST: MINDY SMALL/FILMMAGIC. JASON WU OMBRE LIP: VICTOR VIRGILE/GAMMA-RAPHO VIA GETTY IMAGES. LasersEverything 11OFmierybré
ALEXANDER WANG SURF GIRL BLONDES (3): SPENCER C. AMONWATVORAKUL. STILLS: JOSEPHINE SCHIELE Lips
If you’ve spent any time near a
Kardashian social media account, The classic red lip—yeah, I’m into it. But this year I’m also all about step-
you know that the world of lasers ping things up. And I found the perfect inspo backstage at Jason Wu:
(and other energ y dev ices) ombré—and a wearable ombré lip at that, not the extreme made-for-
now includes everything from Instagram-only variety. How to do it? Makeup artist Yadim layered
neck-wrinkle treatments to, two mattes. Start with a bold red shade (he used Maybelline New York
er, vagina tightening (not Color Blur in Cherry Cherry Bang Bang, $9) along the perimeter of lips
something I’m endorsing). to define the shape, then fill in the center with a brighter orangey tone
That said, I’ve seen laser (try Maybelline New York The Loaded Bolds in Orange Danger, above,
technology, and the results, $7, both at drugstores). For added punch (which I’ll probably skip for
really improve in recent the office), he finished with a glossy, vibrant orange highlight (one of
years. I asked a trusted pro, my favorites is Kat Von D Everlasting Liquid Lipstick in A-Go-Go, $20,
New York City dermatolo- sephora.com). —Erin Reimel, @erin_reimel
gist Anne Chapas, M.D.,
what’s most popular right 12 SurfGirlBlonde
now. Here, the treat-
ments I’d recommend to Visual proof that bleached hair works on anyone: Alexander Wang’s spring
friends. —Simone Kitch- show, where 18 models with wildly different styles—from close cropped to
ens, @simonekitchens choppy—all got their own version of the beachy look. To keep blonde bright,
I like Redken Blonde Idol Custom-Tone conditioner ($32, ulta.com). —J.M.
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A good entry treatment—and one
doctors like—is the Clear +

Brilliant laser, which improves
tone and texture. “It creates new
collagen and gives you a glow,”
Dr. Chapas says (about $600 per
session). For home treatments,

she suggests using Tria Age-
Defying Eye Wrinkle Correcting
Laser ($249, triabeauty.com)

daily for visible results.

8 Laser Hair Removal
If you’re doing regular morning underarm
shaves, constant leg-hair maintenance, and
routine bikini waxes—well, think of all the
other ways you could use that time. Recent
advances mean treatments work on almost all
skin types; five or six required treatments range

from $350 to $1,440 (variable by body area).

9 Scar Therapy
You might be into the look of your scar—or not—
but some scar tissue can become so contracted

that it can make movement difficult, Dr. Chapas
tells me. She recommends a radio frequency micro-

needling treatment called Intensif (from $750
per visit; expect one to three sessions).

10 Tattoo Removal
Ink regret? The reversal options have come a
long way. Lasers like PicoWay remove more ink
in one session by treating the area multiple
times, Dr. Chapas says (about $300 to $1,000
per visit; you may need a few sessions).

Beauty/ Biggest Ideas of 2017

HHaairrdware 13 14 17
VS.The Embellished Braid The Belted Pony
Dramatic Hair
I first saw this look on Shay Mitchell’s Backstage at Tibi, it looked at first Transformations
Instagram, above. It’s a row of tiny as if they were doing just another
gold rings looped into a French low-slung ponytail. Then I noticed I’m all for it—and
braid—delicate but also cool. (Ask hairstylist Frank Rizzieri fastening you can do it with a wig.
a friend for help at home!) Next I this long fabric over the base (over Of course the person who’s
clicked over to her hairstylist Chris an elastic); it fell to the same length
Appleton’s account and discovered as the pony’s end. And then I saw the been nailing it these
more ways to work in rings. For me: a buckle. I love belted anything—swim- days is Zendaya. Inspired
multibraid look, accented with mini suits, jumpsuits. Now, apparently, I’ll by her varying looks, I’m
metal cuffs, below. —J.M. be belting my hair too. —Julianne
Carell, @juliannecarell shopping the options
Urban Outfitters Metal at rickysnyc.com. —S.K.
Hair Cuff Set ($16,
THE CHIC MULLET
urbanoutfitters.com)
A dramatic multilayered cut
15 16 NailsArts&Crafts makes a stylish statement.
When I saw these
B.O.M.B. blinged-out nails at THE CLASSIC BOB
Balenciaga, I knew
Beauty I had to give them a Choose a blunt cut and bangs
shot. The artist for a sophisticated vibe.
When vlogger Jackie Aina responsible for them:
challenged the YouTube Mei Kawajiri, who THE WAVY LAYERS
beauty community to post sources her gems
tutorials using only black- from craft stores like Textured bends and pretty
owned makeup brands (a.k.a. Michaels. To do it: grown-out highlights look soft
B.O.M.B.), she wanted Apply your polish,
contributions from all users. then place your stone around the face.
“Just because you don’t wear using nail glue for
the same foundation shade bigger gems or a drop THE SLEEK BOWL
as me doesn’t mean you can’t of topcoat for smaller
rock a blush from Fashion ones; let dry. Then, The key to bowl-cut success:
Fair,” she explains. “We must more topcoat. high shine and polished,
make room [for these brands].” And voilà! You have curled-under ends.
Well, the Internet is paying full-on nail
attention. Search for the jewelry. —E.R.
videos on YouTube and you’ll
find women of all skin tones
playing with brands like Iman
and Black Opal. My personal
obsession: Black Up Mono
Eyeshadow in OAP 11M ($20,
sephora.com), an electric
blue I wear as eyeliner. —K.E.

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Wellbeing/ Anti-Resolution Special

for-you things in the world that if goals,” says Tonya Rapley, founder Even Dinner this good,
you’ve given one of them a shot and of My Fab Finance. “What’s really geniuses like no cooking required?
truly aren’t feeling it, let it go. Don’t important is trying to save roughly
swap quinoa for doughnuts, but if 20 percent of your net income for Albert Yes, please!
you prefer romaine to spinach, why emergencies and keeping impulse Einstein and
beat yourself up for it? You’re having purchases to a minimum.” No Tina Fey are But research shows it’s not the
a damn salad! spreadsheet required. first day of the year that holds
notorious the power of change. Instead, it’s
It’s OKtoNot Cook Please Don’t messy-desk- whether you’re actually excited
Use January 1 as havers. Now by any of these goals you’re set-
We’ll admit it—cooking is good for a Kickoff Date you know. ting. “Any occasion where you
you. But plain and simple, it’s not think, This is my moment, and
always an option, so chill out if you Look, we get the appeal of the fresh I’m ready to go!—that’s when
find yourself reaching for that app start that a new calendar offers. you should seize the chance to
where you can order a meal using make a change,” says Norcross.
just an emoji. Life happens. Plenty If that moment hits on the first
of takeout joints offer options day of 2017, more power to you.
loaded with veggies, lean proteins, If it doesn’t, then press that
and whole grains. PS: Making snooze button. Happy New Year,
your own is not always the money everyone!
saver some people make it out to
be either. For example, Munchery,
which delivers in 12 states, offers
healthy heat-and-eat dishes such
as soba noodle or rosemary salmon
bowls (like the one at right, $12, at
munchery.com) for about as much
as it would cost to buy the ingredi-
ents individually.

Don’t Freak Out
About Keeping a
Line-Item Budget

No, this isn’t about making 2017 the
year of massive credit card debt. But
if you’re trying to get your finances
in order (a resolution about 14 per-
cent of people make in the New
Year), general guidelines might do
you more good than obsessively
tracking every single cent you
spend. “Stressing over sticking to a
budget isn’t helping your financial

“Why I’m not making any SALMON BOWL: COURTESY OF MUNCHERY

NEW YEAR’S RESOLUTIONS”

Arianna Huffington, founder of the new Thrive Global, a venture aimed at reducing stress, explains.

After launching a new Because they set me up to fail… …and they don’t encourage me.
company in November, the
I used to use the transition of the New Year as a tool I believe the best way to change behavior is through
media mogul is full of to make a fresh start. But that doesn’t work—at micro changes rather than making pronouncements
resolutions for 2017, right? least for me. I ended up breaking my resolutions,
Nope. She’s forgoing them feeling bad about it, and judging myself for it. It and hoping our behavior falls into line. It’s about
turned into a New Year’s negative cycle. Not baby steps. And when babies start walking, they fall.
altogether. Here’s why. exactly a great way to start the year. And that’s fine! This New Year’s Eve I can enjoy the

moment—and champagne—without the guilt.

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MyFirst At the beginning I had days when I
Year felt deep down that everything would
…after getting sober. n…After ILostMyJob work out; then I had moments when my
Or losing 210 pounds. atasha Nyanin, 31, worked as soul felt as though it had been injected
Or leaving an abusive a health scientist in Atlanta— with lead, and I could not get out of bed.
husband. Five women until July 9, 2015, when she got My visa was running out—I’m from
(and one man!) tell a call: “Your contract is terminated.” Ghana—and I had an apartment I could
Kimberly Bonnell their no longer afford.
roller-coaster stories. The lady on the other end of the phone
said, “Don’t come in tomorrow.” I asked I checked LinkedIn constantly and
her to repeat herself I was so shocked. contacted friends to circulate my résumé,
Later I cried, out of fear, frustration, but I had to postpone my job search while
worry, abandonment. I had worked my green card was being processed. I
there for seven years and was surprised picked up odd jobs, like being an extra on
at how dispensable I was, even if I had a TV set and dog sitting.
suspected I might be dismissed—people
had been let go over the years. For my thirtieth birthday my friends
threw me a black-tie party. It was a glori-
ous evening. I was surrounded by people
who loved and believed in me, celebrating
in the midst of a shit storm! That night I
felt pure exhilaration and gratitude.

Their support helped me take a gam-
ble on a whim: I moved to New York City.
The first month was hard—I was sleeping
on a friend’s air mattress. For two months
after that, I subleased a room in Brooklyn
while I searched endlessly for a job. And

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A Year in the Life
From left: Poulson, Hash,
Hash on her wedding day,

Nyanin, and Max-Dixon

NYANIN: COLBY BLOUNT. MAX-DIXON: NICOLE LEBRIS. PLANT: MICHELA RAVASIO/STOCKSY. POULSON: COURTESY somehow, despite all the rejections, I felt c…Dating as aTransMan lot of women don’t bat an eyelash, which is
OF CHARLES POULSON. WEDDING: JACK LOONEY. HASH: COURTESY OF EMILY HASH. FLAG: DREW CLINE my creative impulses spark. I started to harlie Poulson, 25, is the founder probably my favorite reaction. A few have
write: a blog, poems, essays. With no luck and director of a Los Angeles design seemed surprised and said things like,
finding a full-time job, I became con- studio. About a year ago he started “You look so manly!” They mean well, but
vinced that I needed to make a freelance dating with his newly expressed identity. they make me feel like I’m supposed to be
career work. To build the world I want for or look a certain way. A better reaction?
myself rather than bang on perpetually I’d already had top surgery and spent “Tell me about your experiences around
closed doors. three years taking testosterone before I that,” which could lead to more meaning-
felt ready to date as a passing trans man. ful conversations. A few women have been
I never imagined I could survive with- (That means when people first see me, totally inappropriate; they ask, “Do you
out a regular job. Now, a little more than they think of me as a man.) My first date have a penis?” “Do you still have a vagina?”
a year later, I have more conviction than was with a woman I met through friends. “How big were your boobs?”
ever that losing my job was one of the bet- (I made us gluten-free macaroni and
ter things to happen in my life. It has put cheese, and I could tell she was probably Then there’s been the whole issue of
me on a creative path I might never have into me when she suggested we “Lady- sexuality: Early on I feared that if I dated a
had the courage to fully jump into. And I and-the-Tramp this mac and cheese.”) lesbian, she would still see me as a woman
don’t say this from a place of success—I’m When I drove her home, I came out to her (albeit an incredibly butch one). But I also
still couch surfing! But I have learned so as trans, in a panic. I can’t be totally com- worried that if I went to a straight bar to
much: how to become my own PR, how to fortable unless I’m being true to myself. talk to a (presumably) straight girl, I’d feel
pitch new projects. I’m in preproduction She was really sweet about it, but we like I had this taboo secret—even though
for a podcast and a travel show. didn’t last. I wasn’t keeping being trans a secret!
This was all exhausting. I thought about
It can be unsettling to no longer have Most of the women I’ve dated, I’ve met it more, and I began to understand that I
a steady paycheck, but I am a more com- through something transition-related, an don’t care what someone’s sexual orienta-
passionate person having suffered this event or a group, so I usually don’t even tion is. If we’re mutually into each other
upheaval, and that means I can be a bet- have to tell them I’m trans. When I do, a and the relationship is healthy, then every-
ter friend, a better daughter, and a better thing else is just secondary.
person. I am more fearless.

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Life / You, Me, We Moving On more than five years because of the health
“I walked risks associated with her weight.
…After Leaving an away without
Abusive Marriage guilt or any I’ve been plus-size since I was 10 years
regrets,” says old. Food was like breathing air for me. I
i n 2014 Shacre Bennett, now 35, pre- Bennett. couldn’t get enough of the good feeling
stocked her car with spare clothes that came from eating.
and documents, planning to finally depressed, and just downright felt like
leave her abusive husband of 12 nothing. For so many years all that nega- So when my husband and I found out
years for good. She lives in Delaware. tivity resonated in my spirit. I had to train that our son, Ayden, had autism, food was
myself to release those thoughts. Now I my comfort. You have all these hopes for
It was early on a weekend morning, know who I am: I am not a victim, but I’m your child, and to find out he has autism—
and I fled in the middle of an argument to a survivor. I have the victory. To anyone in well, that diagnosis hits you.
avoid being hit. I had to go to court as soon an abusive situation: Don’t wait. Go get
as I could to get a protection order. I didn’t help. There is life after domestic violence. I gained so much weight that I was
have my children with me, and he wouldn’t almost bedridden. When I hit 440 pounds,
let me pick them up. When I finally got …After Weight-Loss the doctor told me I possibly had only five
them later that week, they asked if we were years to live. I realized, I can’t keep eating
going back home. I told them no. a Surgery this way; Ayden is going to need me for a
shley Max-Dixon, 31, a model really long time. He was my motivator.
Previously when I tried to leave, there and mother of four in Columbus,
were battles, but I made up my mind not Ohio, had gastric bypass surgery The surgery was scary, but not com-
to go back in spite of all the barriers, like after her doctor told her she might not live pared with what came next: For six weeks
my finances, the legal fights, and where
my kids and I would live. If I had stayed, I
probably would be in my grave or in a men-
tal institution.

After we left, my children and I were in
a domestic violence shelter for a month. I
had good and bad days. I had to focus on
what was really important: I was free of
the years of chaos and turmoil.

The legal process was stressful and
exhausting. It took two years. It’s hard not
knowing what’s going to happen in the
court system with your children and not
knowing if you’ll have the finances to care
for them. All I wanted was to be divorced.

I’ve overcome so much, by the grace of
God. I was in church, I started therapy,
and I went to support groups; peer-to-peer
groups helped my kids. I took financial
classes with the Allstate Foundation. All
this gave me strength when I felt like life
was too tough.

I’ve found my voice over this year: The
more I spoke out, the more it helped me
heal. Leaving the marriage, I didn’t know
who I was; I was lost, angry, confused, and

“8 things 1 2 3 4 CAR: AMANDA MARSALIS/TRUNK ARCHIVE
I learned
in my first I’m not incurably Alcohol is a depressant. My favorite ice cream I deserve that ice
tired. That fried I knew this from flavor is banana. I cream, damn it. In the
year of past I had tried to quit
being sober” feeling I had health class; I just didn’t have tried thousands drinking by berating
for years? It wasn’t think it applied to of flavors at this myself for any slipup.
by Kristi Coulter, a writer This time I give myself
in Seattle. She has been sober fatigue. It was a me personally. Turns out, point—and somehow
since June 2013 and chronicling chronic low-grade when I stop putting a I still wonder why prizes: manicures,
depressant in my body, magazines, shoes.
all about it at offdry.com. hangover. it gradually stops being I’m not losing weight
from cutting out all Rewards work.
depressed. Who knew? those wine calories.

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