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Ministry with the Bereaved

Bereavement Support Programs
2006-2007

Office of Catholic Cemeteries
Diocese of Rockville Centre

Elaine E. Stillwell, M.A., M.S.
Bereavement Coordinator

Diocese of Rockville Centre
Catholic Cemeteries
PO Box 182

Westbury, NY 11590-0182

(516) 334-7990, x 122
Voice Mail

(516) 334-4383
Fax

[email protected]
or

[email protected]
E-mail

Additional copies of this booklet may be ordered for $3.00 each,
checks payable to: Catholic Cemeteries

Introduction: The Journey from Grief to Healing

(understanding support groups)

Nassau County Bereavement Support Groups

(parishes and others offering support groups)

Suffolk County Bereavement Support Groups

(parishes and others offering support groups)

Special Focus Groups

(additional support groups)

Hospital Support Groups

(more support groups)

Support Groups for WTC Families

(for families affected by WTC attack)

Training for Bereavement Ministers

(offered by Office of Catholic Cemeteries)

Spiritual Centers

(offering spiritual help for the bereaved)

Request for Sacred Vessels and Vestments

(missions need chalices and vestments)

Widows and Widowers and Singles Social Groups

(socialization available after bereavement groups)

Helpful Books, Magazines and Pamphlets

(reading material for the bereaved)

The Journey from Grief to Healing

The first reaction to a serious loss is usually a sense of unreality – it didn’t happen – it’s
all a bad dream – I’ll wake up soon. Gradually, both intellectually and emotionally, awareness of
the reality is increased. Perhaps it is because the funeral, the rituals and memorialization helped
to acknowledge that death has occurred and that it has happened to your loved one.

The simplest and most obvious fact about loss is that it hurts. Grief is painful.
Separation pain is experienced most intensely. Feelings can overwhelm you, extreme strange
feelings never experienced before. Anger, guilt, helplessness, anxiety, jealousy, and sadness are
felt in many forms. There is sometimes a fear that control is being lost and a fear that what is
happening is not normal.

Support groups can help you to name your feelings. Feelings are neither right nor wrong.
They simply are. Feelings are neither good nor bad, positive or negative. Feelings are merely
neutral. Group members can often be helpful in naming feelings that they observe in other
members, and it is usually helpful to observe the feelings in others that we can identify with at the
time. The named and accepted feelings can now be expressed and acted upon in appropriate
ways. Sometimes, feelings that are not named, accepted or expressed can prolong the grieving
process.

Loss forever changes our world. It’s now a new environment. An ending has occurred
that demands a new beginning. Before that can happen, a period of transition takes place.
During this time we closely examine what has been lost and what had remained the same. What
has actually changed?

What is new? What experiences, roles, expectations, values, opportunities and dreams
have to be given up? And yes, you even can look to the positive areas of growth due to the major
change.

As we move toward healing we begin to create a cherishable memory. Some have said
that memory is part of God’s gift to us when we experience loss. Memory can be that link of love
that continues between your loved one, yourselves, and your God who loves you very much.
Don’t be afraid of the remembering process. Stories will need to be told and retold until the
memory moves from pain to its healing possibilities. Memories are transformed into internal
images as they are incorporated into your very being.

The Israelites in the biblical image of Exodus may be similar to our experience of grief
and letting go. They had to leave their familiar place. The future was uncertain and the
experience of the desert was painful. They wandered in the wasteland for forty years, all the
while complaining, struggling, hurting and hoping.

Sometimes our grief causes us to have a similar desert experience. Here in the Diocese
of Rockville Centre our hope for you is that you will not allow yourself to be stranded in the desert,
in your own grief. St. Paul assures us: “We were afflicted but not crushed; perplexed but not
driven to despair.” (Corinthians 4:8-10)

We invite you to join your brothers and sisters in faith on the journey towards healing in
these Bereavement Support Groups that are available to you in your parishes, local hospitals and
agencies or coordinated by the Office of Catholic Cemeteries here in the Diocese of Rockville
Centre.

Individual Bereavement Information or Referrals

Should you, or someone you know and care about, need to locate a support group or
counselor in your locality, we invite you to contact our Diocesan Bereavement Coordinator, Elaine
Stillwell, at Voice Mail (516) 334-7990, x 122, leaving your name, phone number and brief
message of what information you need. She will return your call promptly. Or you may wish to e-
mail your concern to her:
[email protected]. Often a call to the Office could also help you to decide the
most appropriate group for you at this time or alert you to the formation of new groups or lectures
to be offered.

“Trust in God at all times, my people. Tell him all your
troubles, for he is our refuge.
Psalm 62:8

The Bereavement Support Group

Bereavement Support Groups have multiple functions.
They are places of:

Empathy…

• To receive positive feedback that the experiences of grief are normal – “I’m not going
crazy.”

• To know that others – “just like me” – have been there too, and have survived.

Acceptance…

• To be encouraged to share – pain, fears and frustrations.
• To be enabled to tell your story – repeatedly.
• To be able to share the physical, emotional and spiritual pain of loss and to be

understood by a caring group of friends.

Safety (Confidentiality)…

• To ask for help and receive encouragement.
• To give to others as they give to you.
• To revive and review memories.
• To receive the strength to let go – to say goodbye.

Growth…

• To test the appropriateness of decisions.
• To find more effective coping strategies.
• To tolerate unanswerable questions.
• To become open to God’s presence in your life.
• To experience God’s love through his Church in the companionship of sisters and

brothers in faith.

About the Facilitators

The Support Groups are facilitated by trained volunteers or professional counselors,
many of whom have participated in various diocesan training programs offered by the Office of
Catholic Cemeteries. Continued facilitator training and skills enhancement seminars are offered
throughout the year, sponsored by the Office of Catholic Cemeteries.

About the Membership

Group membership varies, and the nature of the group is determined by the membership,
facilitator, and the experiences of the group. General Bereavement Groups welcome all losses
while other Support Groups are designed for a particular outreach, e.g. loss of spouse, loss of
child, loss of parent, and perinatal loss. Regardless of the type of group you choose, you will find
a supportive facilitator who will assist you with your entry into the group experience.

About the Meeting Times

Some groups meet weekly, some twice a month, and others are scheduled to meet
monthly. Some meet for 6-10 weeks, twice a year. Some meet all year round; others meet Sept.
to June only. We encourage regular attendance. Do call the Contact phone number to register
and to check the meeting’s time and place in case of last minute changes.

Training Program for Bereavement Ministers

The goal of the training program in the Ministry with the Bereaved is to train parish
ministers so that those who grieve the death of a loved one may know the comfort and care of
God through the embrace of their Church. The Parish Family includes: a grieving community,
those who need to feel God’s love in a time of crisis and pain; and a caring community, those who
feel a need to heed Jesus’ call to bring His love to those who are suffering. The Goal of the
Ministry is that no member of our parish family will grieve alone. The Bereavement Training
Programs focus on: the grief process, communication skills, the art of listening, caring for the
minister, planning a program, setting up support groups, referrals and resources. Call Elaine
Stillwell for details (516) 334-7990, X 122.

NASSAU COUNTY BEREAVEMENT SUPPORT GROUPS

BALDWIN
ST. CHRISTOPHER PARISH
11 Gale Avenue (School Faculty Room)
General Bereavement & Widow/Widowers Program
2nd Wednesdays at 7:30 P.M., Sept.-June
Contact: Deacon Charles Muscarnera (516) 223-0723
BAYVILLE
ST. GERTRUDE PARISH
28 School Street (Rectory)
General Bereavement Program
Contact: Rectory (516) 628-1113
BELLMORE
ST. BARNABAS THE APOSTLE PARISH
2320 Bedford Avenue
General Bereavement 8 week Program, twice a year

Rectory Basement, Wed., 7:30-9:00 pm
Contact: Terry Clarke (516) 826-3643 or Parish Outreach (516) 785-6243

BETHPAGE
ST. MARTIN OF TOURS PARISH
40 Seaman Avenue
Widow/Widower Program as needed
Contact: Deacon Frank Carrello (516) 822-5242

CARLE PLACE

GOOD SHEPHERD HOSPICE-NASSAU
528 Mineola Ave., Carle Place (loss does not have to be from cancer)
8 week support groups for Spousal/Partner Loss, Adults Whose Parent Has Died, Bereaved Parents, Adult
Sibling Loss, Bereaved Children 5-8, 9-12, 13-17, and Perinatal Loss - offered throughout the year, call for
details and to register
Contact: Clarice Curry, CSW (516) 876-8485

EAST MEADOW
ST. RAPHAEL PARISH
600 Newbridge Road
Lazarus (General) Bereavement Group
2nd and 4th Tues., 7:30 PM
Contact: Deacon Bob Mongillo (516) 785-8066

FARMINGDALE
ST. KILIAN PARISH
462 Conklin Street
8 Week Program for General Bereavement, Spring and Fall
Widow/Widowers, and Loss of Child, as needed
Parish Meeting Room/Homes
Contact: Deacon Frank Barone (516) 249-0127

FLORAL PARK
OUR LADY OF VICTORY PARISH
8 week General Bereavement Program, Spring and Fall
Contact: Winnie Hughes (516) 437-1315

FRANKLIN SQUARE
ST. CATHERINE OF SIENNA PARISH
33 New Hyde Park Road
Widow/Widowers Program; 1st Tues., 7:30-9:00 pm
Peter Meyer Room, Convent, 995 Lutz St.
Contact: Martha Castel (516) 437-9861
General Bereavement Program, Tues., 7:30-9:00 pm (no Aug.)
At Outreach Office, call for specific dates
Contact: S. Miriam Kreppein (516) 775-0840

GARDEN CITY
ST. JOSEPH PARISH
130 Fifth Street
Widow/Widowers Programs, Spring and Fall
Saturday mornings, 11:00 am – 12:30 pm
Contact: Sister Marie Flaherty, O.P., (516) 747-7120
Bereaved Parents Program (loss of child)
1st Thurs., 7:30-9:00 pm, Convent Center, 120 Fifth Ave.
Contact: Kathy Ryan (516) 746-4267

GLEN COVE
ST. PATRICK PARISH
235 Glen Street
8 week Widow/Widowers Program as needed
Parish Social Ministry Center
Contact: Rectory (516) 676-0276

HICKSVILLE
HOLY FAMILY PARISH
5 Fordham Avenue
Widow/Widowers Program, Spring and Fall
Rectory Meeting Room
Contact: Sister Jeanne Deas, O.P. (516) 938-3846

HICKSVILLE
OUR LADY OF MERCY PARISH
500 Oyster Bay Road
Widow/Widowers 10 week Program, twice a year
Convent, Wednesdays, 7:30 pm
Contact: Sister Eileen Lawlor, RSM (516) 931-4351

HICKSVILLE
ST. IGNATIUS LOYOLA PARISH
129 Broadway
8 week Widow/Widowers Program as needed, call for details
Meetings held in Convent Basement, 20 E. Cherry St.
Contact: Maureen Nitkewicz (516) 798-8253

INWOOD
OUR LADY OF GOOD COUNSEL PARISH
68 Wanser Avenue
Caregivers Group, 2nd Mon., 7:30 PM, Convent
Contact: Sister Ginny Down, CSJ (516) 239-0953

LEVITTOWN
ST. BERNARD PARISH
3100 Hempstead Turnpike
8 week Widow/Widowers Program, Spring and Fall
Parish Center, Thursdays, 7:30 pm
Contact: Ruth Ramos (516) 735-1877

LONG BEACH
ST. MARY OF THE ISLE PARISH
315 E. Walnut Street
General Bereavement Program, once a month as needed
Contact: Sister Frances Monuszko, O.P. (516) 431-5210

LYNBROOK
OUR LADY OF PEACE PARISH
25 Fowler Avenue
6 week General Bereavement Program, Spring and Fall, as needed
Meeting Room of Parish Social Ministry Office, usually Fridays, 10-11 am
Bereavement Program for Children, “Patches,” as needed
Contact: Sister Barbara Faber, RSM; (516) 599-7448

MALVERNE
OUR LADY OF LOURDES PARISH
65 Wright Ave.
8 week General Bereavement Program, April-June
Outreach Office Meeting Room, Tuesdays, 7:00-8:30 pm
Contact: Denise Williams (516) 887-4560

MANHASSET
ST. MARY PARISH
1300 Northern Blvd.
General Bereavement Program and Widow/Widowers Program
Parish Social Ministry Office, 140 Plandome Road
Contact: Sister Nancy Bacci, M.S.B.T. (516) 365-2705

MANORHAVEN with PORT WASHINGTON
OUR LADY OF FATIMA PARISH & ST. PETER OF ALCANTARA PARISH
Offer General Bereavement Program jointly at St. Peter of Alcantara
1327 Port Washington Blvd., Port Washington
Parish Outreach Center, every Friday, 8:00 pm, all losses welcome
Contact: Rose Osterberg (516) 767-1460; Yvonne Calabrese (516) 883-4817
Bereavement Program for Children, as needed
Contact: Kelly Sullivan Dennis, CSW (516) 883-2782

MASSAPEQUA
ST. ROSE OF LIMA PARISH
2 Bayview Avenue
10 week Program for Widow/Widowers, Spring and Fall
Tues., 7:30-9:00 PM; Thurs., 1:30–3:00 PM
Fr. Graham Center, Parish Social Ministry Office
Contact: Patricia McDermott, CSW (516) 798-4954

MASSAPEQUA
SURVIVORS OF SUICIDE, “A Time for Healing”
St. Rose of Lima Rectory Basement Meeting Room (use outside staircase)
Corner of Merrick Road and Bayview Ave., Massapequa, 4th Wed. 7:30 PM
For spouse, parent, child over 16, sibling, relative or friend
Contact: Anne Marie Maiorana (516) 868-8457

MERRICK
CURE OF ARS PARISH
2323 Merrick Avenue
8 week Program for Widow/Widowers as needed; Rectory Meeting Room
Contact: Sister Miriam Michael Joos, O.P.; (516) 623-1400, x 105

MINEOLA

WINTHROP UNIVERSITY HOSPITAL
259 First Street, Mineola
Support Groups for Perinatal Loss (Miscarriage, Stillbirth, Infant Death), Subsequent Pregnancy After Loss,
and Interruption of Pregnancy due to anomalies Offered throughout the year; call for details
Contact: Margaret Fusco, CSW (516) 663-9363

NEW HYDE PARK

CENTER FOR H.O.P.E., SCHNEIDER CHILDREN’S HOSPITAL
270-06 76th Ave., New Hyde Park
Support Groups for loss of child, parent, and sibling offered throughout the year
Contact: Susan Thomas, ACSW (516) 470-3123 for dates and times

NEW HYDE PARK
HOLY SPIRIT PARISH
500 Jericho Turnpike
General Bereavement Program offered in the Fall
Contact: Sister Ann Horgan, RSM (516) 358-5339

NEW HYDE PARK
NOTRE DAME PARISH
45 Mayfair Road
8 week General Bereavement Program, Spring and Fall
Convent Basement Meeting Room; Tues., 7:30 pm
Contact: Cathy Blackman at Social Ministry Office (516) 326-3403

NORTH MERRICK
SACRED HEART PARISH
1921 Old Mill Road
General Bereavement and Widow/Widowers Programs; call for details
Parish Center, 720 Merrick Avenue
Contact: Sister Pat Turley, C.S.J.; (516) 379-1356, x 19

“I will strengthen you, I will help you, I will uphold you…”
Isaiah 41:10

OCEANSIDE

ST. ANTHONY PARISH
110 Anchor Avenue
YOUNG WIDOWS SUPPORT GROUP (50’s and under)
Six-week program, Fridays, 7:30-9:00 P.M., Sept. through June, Parish Center
Call to Register: Ann Marie Pedalino, CSW; (516) 536-7720

OCEANSIDE
ST. ANTHONY PARISH
110 Anchor Avenue
Children’s 8 week Bereavement Group. for ages 6-10, Spring and Fall
Parish Center, day and time to be determined by needs of group
Contact: Marilyn Clarke (516) 764-8099

OYSTER BAY
ST. DOMINIC PARISH
93 Anstice Street
8 week General Bereavement Program as needed
Contact: Fran Jennings (516) 922-4488, x 1277

PORT WASHINGTON
ST. PETER OF ALCANTARA PARISH
1327 Port Washington Blvd.
Offers General Bereavement Program jointly with Our Lady of Fatima, Manorhaven
Parish Outreach Center, every Friday, 8:00 PM, all losses welcome
Contact: Rose Osterberg (516) 767-1460; Yvonne Calabrese (516) 883-4817
Bereavement Program for Children, as needed
Contact: Kelly Sullivan Dennis, CSW (516) 883-2782

ROCKVILLE CENTRE
ST. AGNES CATHEDRAL PARISH
29 Quealy Place
8 week General Bereavement Program, Spring and Fall, and others as needed
Contact: Sister Gena Travers, O.P.; (516) 766-3516

RVC SUPPORT GROUPS AND INDIVIDUAL GRIEF COUNSELING, fee for service
Ongoing WTC Widows Group (30-50 years old)
Ongoing Reconstruction Group for Widows, 3+ years after loss, (40’s)
Young Widows Bereavement Group (40’s and under)
Young Adult Singles Bereavement Group (20’s and 30’s)
Contact: Julia Schuerger, C.S.W. (516) 678-6196

ROCKVILLE CENTRE
GUARDIAN ANGEL PERINATAL SUPPORT (miscarriage, stillbirth, & infant death)
Sponsored by Office of Catholic Cemeteries, Diocese of Rockville Centre
Meets at Molloy College, Wm. J. Casey Center, Rm. 107
1000 Hempstead Ave., Rockville Centre
1st Fri. of every month; 7:30 pm
Contact: Martha Weiss (516) 249-8589

THE COMPASSIONATE FRIENDS OF ROCKVILLE CENTRE
Support groups for bereaved parents & bereaved siblings
Molloy College, Kellenberg Hall, (main building on circular driveway)
1000 Hempstead Ave., Rockville Centre
Parents Group: meets in Reception Room, (middle of first floor)
Sibling Group (18 and above): meets in Basement, Room 20, left wing of building
2nd Friday of every month, 8:00 pm
Parents Contact: Elaine and Joe Stillwell (516) 334-4383
Siblings Contact: Theresa Pellegrino (516) 249-7480 or Lorraine Fitzgerald (516) 616-3197.

ROOSEVELT
QUEEN OF THE MOST HOLY ROSARY PARISH
196 W. Centennial Avenue
General Bereavement Program
Rectory Basement, 2nd Tuesday of every month, 7:30 PM
Contact: Grace Callahan (516) 223-4548

SEAFORD
MARIA REGINA PARISH
3945 Jerusalem Avenue
Widow/Widowers Program, Sundays 2-4 pm; Spring and Fall
Adult Loss of Parent and other programs as needed
Contact: Kathy Ryan (516) 795-7438

SEAFORD
ST. JAMES PARISH
80 Hicksville Road
10 week Program for Widow/Widowers throughout the year
Adult Loss of Parent as needed; Parish Center
Contact: Vilma Nuzio (516) 735-8690

VALLEY STREAM
HOLY NAME OF MARY PARISH
55 East Jamaica Avenue
8 week General Bereavement Program, Spring and Fall
Contact: Sister Margie Kelly, CSJ; (516) 825-0177

WANTAGH
ST. FRANCES DE CHANTAL PARISH
1309 Wantagh Avenue
Widow/Widowers Support Group, Rectory Basement, every Thurs., 7:30-900 pm
Contact: Anna Milillo (516) 785-2333, x 241
Young Widows Support Group, Rectory Basement, 1st and 3rd Tues., 7:30-9:00 pm
Contact: Roberta Roeber at Parish Outreach (516) 785-2333, x 241

CATHOLIC BEREAVED PARENTS SPIRITUAL SUPPORT GROUP
Offers three Prayer Services a year for bereaved parents, Tuesdays, 7:30 pm
St. Frances de Chantal Parish Chapel, 1309 Wantagh Ave., Wantagh
Advent Prayer Service – Dec. 16, 2003; Lenten Prayer Service – March 16, 2004; and Eucharistic
Celebration – June 22, 2004. Contact: Parish Outreach (516) 785-2333, x 241

WESTBURY
ST. BRIGID PARISH
75 Post Avenue
Home Programs for General Bereavement, Widow/Widowers, and Loss of Parent
Contact: Maria Laufs (516) 334-8841

WESTBURY
WIDOW/WIDOWERS AND BEREAVED PARENTS SUPPORT GROUPS, fee
St. Brigid School, 101 Maple Ave., Westbury
10 week programs, twice a year – begin Sept. & March, Wednesdays, 7:15-8:30 pm Facilitated by Lou
Sabatini, Ph.D.
Contact: Adriana Miller at St. Brigid Parish Center to register (516) 334-0021
TRAINING FOR BEREAVEMENT FACILITATORS, fee
St. Brigid School, 101 Maple Ave., Westbury
6 week program, twice a year, begins Sept. & March, Wednesdays, 8:30-9:45 pm, led by Lou Sabatini,
Ph.D.
Contact: Adriana Miller at St. Brigid Parish Center to register (516) 334-0021

WEST HEMPSTEAD
ST. THOMAS THE APOSTLE PARISH
24 Westminster Road
8 week General Bereavement & Widow/Widowers Program as needed
Rectory Meeting Room; Tues. or Wed. evenings, 7:30-9:00 pm
Contact: Maria Malone (516) 538-7465 or Ray Ann McGill (516) 489-0237

“It is you who light my lamp; the Lord, my God, lights up my darkness.”
Psalm 18:28

WILLISTON PARK
ST. AIDAN PARISH
505 Willis Avenue
Widow/Widowers Program, Fall and Spring
Contact: Sister Mary Ellen Harnett (516) 746-6585, x 410

WOODBURY
HOLY NAME OF JESUS PARISH
690 Woodbury Road
General Bereavement Program as needed
Contact: Clarice Mathes (516) 921-2334

“ The Lord hears my weeping; he listens to my cry for help and will answer my prayer.”
Psalm 6:8-9

If there are any corrections, additions or deletions you would like to make before the next updated annual
printing of this booklet, please contact Elaine Stillwell, Bereavement Coordinator, Office of Catholic
Cemeteries, Diocese of Rockville Centre, Voice Mail: (516) 334-7990,x 122; Fax (516) 334-4383; e-mail:
[email protected].

Updated August 1, 2006

SUFFOLK COUNTY BEREAVEMENT SUPPORT GROUPS

AMITYVILLE
ST. MARTIN OF TOURS PARISH
Meets with Maria Regina Parish of Seaford
At Maria Regina Parish Center, 3945 Jerusalem Ave., Seaford
Widow/Widowers Program; Sundays, 2-4 pm
Contact: Kathy Ryan (516) 795-7438

BABYLON
GOOD SHEPHERD HOSPICE-SUFFOLK
655 Deer Park Ave., Babylon (loss does not have to be from cancer)
8 week support groups for Spousal/Partner Loss, Adults Whose Parent Has Died, Parents Whose Adult
Child Has Died, Adult Sibling, Bereaved Children 5-8, 9-12, 13-17, and Perinatal Loss, offered throughout
the year; for details
Contact: Jane Malone, CSW (631) 376-3850

BAY SHORE
HOSPICE CARE NETWORK
14 Shore Lane, Bay Shore
Support Groups for Spouse, Sibling and Children 4-18
Contact: Mary Gravina, CSW (631) 666-6863

BAY SHORE
SOUTHSIDE HOSPITAL
300 East Main Street, Bay Shore
General Bereavement Group, Spring and Fall, Mondays 7:30-9:00 pm
Contact: Barbara Redmond (631) 630-3835

BAY SHORE
THE GATEWAY CENTER
54 Park Avenue, Bay Shore
Offers 3 day residential bereavement workshops for adults and children
Contact: Jo Ann Thomas (631) 968-4677

BELLPORT
MARY IMMACULATE PARISH
16 Brown’s Lane
General Bereavement Program as needed
Contact: Clair Herrmann (631) 286-0154

“You show me the path of life. In your presence there is fullness of joy;
in your right hand are pleasures forevermore.”
Psalm 16:11

BOHEMIA
ST. JOHN NEPOMUCENE PARISH
1140 Locust Avenue
5 week General Bereavement Program, September and April
5 week Bereaved Parent Program, February
5 week “Grief the 2nd Year” Program, July
Conference Room, Mondays, 6:30-8:30 pm
Bereaved Children’s Programs offered twice a year
Contact: Karen Anderson (631) 567-1995

BRENTWOOD
ST. LUKE PARISH
Offers individualized bereavement support through its Bereavement Ministry bringing various resources
specifically designed for its English and Hispanic Communities, including services of bi-lingual, part-time
Social Worker
Contact: Sister Teresa Geigel, CSJ (631) 273-1110

CENTERPORT
OUR LADY QUEEN OF MARTYRS PARISH
Prospect and Mill Dam Roads
Programs for General Bereavement, Young Widow/Widowers, Widow/Widowers, Bereaved Parents, Suicide
Families, Miscarriage, Stillbirth and Infant Death; Breast Cancer Support Group and Alzheimer-Caretaker
Support Group, throughout year as needed
Parish Outreach Office, call for details
Contact: Marilyn Borghard (631) 754-9045

CORAM
ST. FRANCES CABRINI PARISH
134 Middle Country Road
General Bereavement Program, Parish Center, Room 4
2nd and last Tuesdays, 7:30-9:00 pm
Contact: Kathy Pernice (631) 698-2368 evenings

DEER PARK
SAINTS CYRIL & METHODIUS PARISH
125 Half Hollow Road
Offers individual and groups sessions as needed
Parish Center (former convent), at a mutually convenient time
Contact: Sister Marie de Montfort, CSJ (631) 667-4044

DIX HILLS
ST. MATTHEW PARISH
35 North Service Road of LIE
8 week Widow/Widowers Support Group; Mondays, 7:30-9:00 pm, 2x a year
8 week Loss of Child Support Group; Mondays, 7:30-9:00 pm, 2x a year
Contact: Rosella Marasciullo (631) 643-7391

EAST HAMPTON
MOST HOLY TRINITY PARISH
57 Buell Lane
Programs for General Bereavement, twice a year
Contact: Diane Astorr (631) 324-6757

EAST ISLIP

ST MARY PARISH

20 Harrison Avenue

8 week General Bereavement Program, begins Oct. and April

Wed. evenings, 7:00-9:00 pm, call to register

Contact: Rectory (631) 581-4266

“Trust in the Lord. Have faith, do not despair.”
Psalm 27:14

GREENLAWN
ST. FRANCIS OF ASSISI PARISH
29 Northgate Drive
8 week General Bereavement Program
Thursdays, 8 pm; Parish Center
Contact: Diane Lake (631) 499-0395

HAUPPAUGE
ST. THOMAS MORE PARISH
119 Kings Highway
“Healing Our Hearts” support group for Loss of Child
First Thursday of every month, 7:30-9:00 pm; Parish Outreach Center
Contact: Marie Dolce (631) 234-3149

HUNTINGTON STATION
ST. HUGH OF LINCOLN PARISH
21 East Ninth Street
General Bereavement
Widow/Widowers Program, 4th Tuesday of every month, 7:00 pm
Contact: Fran Leek (631) 271-8986

“I love you, O Lord, my strength.” Psalm 13:1

ISLIP TERRACE
ST. PETER THE APOSTLE PARISH
94 Valley Stream Street
8 week General Bereavement Program
Tuesday evenings in Religious Education Chapel
Contact: Millie Canzoneri (631) 581-4967
KINGS PARK
ST. JOSEPH PARISH
59 Church Street
General Bereavement Program, Wednesdays, 7:30-9:00 pm
Centennial Room, Travis Hall in School
Contact: Gerri Lehr (631) 724-2024

LAKE RONKONKOMA
ST. ELIZABETH ANN SETON PARISH
800 Portion Road
General Bereavement Program, every Wednesday, 7:00-9:00 pm
Sacristy – main church entrance
Contact: Anna Nicoll (631) 732-5724

“You will show me the path that leads to life; your presence fills me with joy and
brings me pleasure forever.”
Psalm 16:11

LINDENHURST
OUR LADY OF PERPETUAL HELP PARISH
210 South Wellwood Avenue
Widow/Widowers Program
1st Wed. every month, 7:30 PM, Rectory Vault Room
Bereaved Parents Support Group
Every other Monday, 8:00 PM, Convent Basement
Contact: Deacon Andrew Gargiulo (631) 226-7725

“The Lord gives strength to his people and blesses them with peace.”
Psalm 29:11

MANORVILLE
SAINTS PETER AND PAUL PARISH
781 Wading River Road
General Bereavement Program, three times a year
Contact: Helen Liggan (631) 874-4146

MASTIC BEACH
ST. JUDE PARISH
89 Overlook Drive
6 week General Bereavement Program, twice a year
Tuesdays, 7-9 pm, Marcellus Rm. in Church
Contact: Angela Gross or Renate Isbell (631) 281-5743

“Trust in the Lord. Have faith, do not despair.” Psalm 27:14

MELVILLE
ST. ELIZABETH
175 Wolf Hill Road
8 week General Bereavement Program, Mondays, 7:30-9:00 pm
Spiritual Life Center
Contact: Anita DosSantos (631) 271-4455

NESCONSET
HOLY CROSS
95 Old Nichols Road
General Bereavement Program, Spring and Fall
Wednesdays, 7:30-9:00 pm, call for details
Contact: Connie Calabro (631) 265-2200

“As a mother comforts her child, so I will comfort you.”
Isaiah 66:13

NORTHPORT
ST. PHILIP NERI
344 Main Street
Widow/Widowers Program as needed, call for details
Contact: Parish Outreach (631) 261-2485

NORTHPORT
VISITING NURSE SERVICE & HOSPICE OF SUFFOLK
505 Main Street
Adult Bereavement Group, Friday afternoons 1:30-3:00 pm
Children’s Bereavement Group, Friday afternoons 4:00-5:30 pm
Annual Weekend Retreat in Montauk for families with young children who have experienced a loss
Contact: Marion Johnson, R.N., B.S.N. (631) 930-9316

PORT JEFFERSON
HOPE HOUSE MINISTRIES
1 High Street
General Bereavement Program, held on Friday afternoons
Contact: Adele Maniscalco (631) 928-2377

PORT JEFFERSON STATION
GOOD SHEPHERD HOSPICE-SUFFOLK
4747-20 Nesconset Highway (loss does not have to be from cancer)
8 week support groups for Spousal/Partner Loss, Adults Whose Parent Has Died, Parents Whose Adult
Child Has Died, Adult Sibling, Bereaved Children 5-8, 9-12, 13-17, and Perinatal Loss, offered throughout
the year; for details
Contact: Jane Malone, CSW (631) 376-3850

PORT JEFFERSON STATION
ST. GERARD MAJELLA PARISH
300 Terryville Road
Widow/Widower Program as needed
Contact: Joanne Welsch (631) 928-0633 or Faye Greene at Parish Center (631) 473-2900

ROCKY POINT
ST. ANTHONY OF PADUA PARISH
614 Route 25A
8 week program for Loss of Spouse/Parent/Adult Sibling
Mondays, 10:00-11:30 am, Outreach Office
“Something More” – a group for those who have been in the bereavement program and want something
more; 2nd Mondays, 1:30-3:00 pm
Contact: Susan Paulson (631) 821-9450

RONKONKOMA
ST. JOSEPH PARISH
45 Church Street
General Bereavement Program (all losses except loss of a child)
Every Thursday 7:00-9:30 pm at Parish Outreach Office
Register at Rectory: (631) 588-8456 or Parish Outreach (631) 981-6888
Eight week programs for widow/widowers, bereaved parents, & bereaved teenagers, offered throughout the
year
Contact: Anne Kelly at Parish Outreach (631) 981-6888

RONKONKOMA
THE CENACLE Retreat House
310 Cenacle Road, Ronkonkoma
“Afternoon for Widows/Widowers” of all ages
Sundays, Nov. 2, 2003 and May 16, 2004
An opportunity for reflection, sharing, understanding, support and healing from the loss of a spouse, within
the context of a Christian Community;
Presented by Mary Gallagher, R.N., Grief Counselor and Mary Spratt, r.c., Spiritual Director.
Contact: Sister Mary Spratt (631) 588-8366

SAYVILLE
ST. LAWRENCE THE MARTYR PARISH
240 West Main Street
6 week General Bereavement Program, twice a year
Contact: Pat Spiegel at Stewardship Office (631) 589-0042, x 17

“Call to me and I will answer you.”
Jeremiah 33:3

SELDEN
ST. MARGARET OF SCOTLAND PARISH
81 College Road
General Bereavement Program – loss of spouse, parent
2nd and 4th Tuesdays, 7:15-9:30 PM Sept.-June
Contact: Eppie Larke (631) 736-6210

“Lord, I know you will never stop being merciful to me.
Your love and loyalty will always keep me safe.”
Psalm 40:11

SHOREHAM
ST. MARK PARISH
105 Randall Road
6 week Widow/Widowers and General Bereavement Support Group
Rectory Meeting Room, Tuesday afternoons; Spring and Fall
Contact: Sister Joan Quinlan, OP (631) 744-2800

SMITHTOWN
ST. PATRICK PARISH
280 East Main Street
General Bereavement Program, every Mon., 7:30-9:30 PM, Rectory
Contact: Fran Blagar (631) 265-2668

“May the Lord show his constant love during the day, so that I may have a
song at night, a prayer to the God of my life.” Psalm 42:8

WEST ISLIP
OUR LADY OF CONSOLATION NURSING HOME
111 Beach Drive, West Islip
8 week General Bereavement Groups
Offered afternoons and evenings throughout the year
Contact: Peggy Nixdorf, R.N. at Pastoral Care (631) 587-1600, x 8297

To keep our information updated, please contact Elaine Stillwell, Bereavement Coordinator, Office of
Catholic Cemeteries, if there are any additions or corrections to this booklet: Voice Mail (526) 334-7990, ext
628; E-mail [email protected] or [email protected], or Fax: (516) 334-4383.

Updated August 1, 2003

SUPPORT GROUPS NEAR OUR DIOCESE

BRONX
CALVARY HOSPITAL
1740 Eastchester Road, Bronx
General Bereavement Group - last Wednesday of month
Widows and Widowers Group – last Monday of month
Loss of Child – 1st Wednesday of month
Daytime General Bereavement-2nd Monday
After School Program for Children Ages 6-11, 3x a year;
Teenage Bereavement – 4 week session bi-monthly;
Spanish Bereavement Group – 3rd Thurs; and offers other events; for details
Contact: Anne Byrnes (718) 518-2125

ELMHURST
ST. ADALBERT PARISH
52-40 84TH Street
Offers groups for General Bereavement, Bereaved Parents, Siblings, Children, and Perinatal Loss; call for
details
Contact: Eileen Pesek (718)

“O Lord, you give me light; you dispel my darkness.”
Psalm 18:28

Bereavement Programs Offered at Your Site

(available in Nassau and Suffolk Counties)

Children’s Art Therapy Support Group (for loss through death)
Contact: S. Peg Byrne, O.P. (516) 742-1086

Workshops for Children Suffering Loss (through death or divorce)
Contact: Patricia Jones, Bereavement Specialist (631) 205-1842

Children’s Support Programs Outside the Diocese

Bayside, Sacred Heart (school only)
Contact: Kathy Kilduff (718) 631-4804

**Bronx, Calvary Hospital, 1740 Eastchester Road
Precious Moments Group for Children – 8 week program, 3 x a year
Teenage Bereavement – 4 week session, bi-monthly
Camp Courageous – Day Camp for children and teenagers (free)
Contact: Anne Byrnes (718) 518-2125

Brooklyn, Blessed Sacrament, 198 Euclid Ave.
Contact: S. Catherine Thornton (718) 277-3231

Hollis Gardens, Holy Trinity Community School
Contact: Adriane Balducci (718) 465-3739

Save the Date

Catholic Cemeteries

Diocese of Rockville Centre

Invites you to participate in a
Six Week Facilitator Training Program

Presented by Kathy Ryan, M.A.
Offering training to new facilitators and/or enrichment for those

already ministering to the bereaved
Six Thursday evenings, Oct. 5,12, 19, 26, Nov. 9 and 16
7:00-9:00 pm; Emmanuel Retreat House, “Mozart Suite”

Kellenberg Memorial High School, Uniondale
$60 registration fee, includes materials, for 12 hour certificate

Week #1 (Oct. 5). Exploring Why I Want to Facilitate a Bereavement Group.
Examining my feelings, my experience of death, coping skills, supports and
understanding what is involved in setting up a group.
Week #2 (Oct. 12). Defining Bereavement. Seeing “The Process” through a
variety of authors’ eyes and observing how individual the process is and yet
discovering the common threads.
Week #3 (Oct. 19). Discovering the Spirituality of Grief. Delving into the inner
process, the meaning of life in death, sorting out faith pieces, discussing the
place of prayer and spiritual readings, the importance of rituals, symbols, and
music.
Week #4 (Oct. 26). Telling the Story. Finding out who I am and to whom I
belong, listening to the stories, discovering conversation starters, learning where
to find stories with lessons and how to tell a story.
Optional (Nov. 2). Opportunity to observe and participate in special All Souls
Day liturgy and ritual for the bereaved at Maria Regina Church, 3945 Jerusalem
Ave., Seaford, 7:30 pm.
Week #5 (Nov. 9). Designing the Contents of Each Session. Deciding what
type of group to run and how many sessions to have, choosing the topics,
reflections and prayers, outlining coping strategies, suggesting ideas for
journaling, and discussing resources.
Week #6 (Nov. 16). Honing Listening Skills. Practicing exercises in redemptive
listening, and reviewing helpful books and resources for facilitators and grievers.

Name__________________________________________Phone ( )_________
Street Address__________________Town_________________ NY _________
E-mail____________________ Parish ________________________
Send $60 registration fee, payable to Catholic Cemeteries, to: Elaine Stillwell,
Ber. Coord., Catholic Cemeteries, P.O. Box 182, Westbury, NY 11590-0182. Any
questions, call Elaine at (516) 334-7990, x 122 or Ann Carey at (516) 334-7990,
x 120.

Kathy Ryan, M.A.

Presenter

Kathy Ryan, Coordinator for Maria Regina Parish Social Ministry and Family
Life Programs (Seaford), has a Masters Degree in Theology and certifications in
Bereavement, Parenting and Storytelling. She uses these skills in her parish
work, and also in the seminars and workshops that she offers throughout the
diocese. Sharing all she has learned in her many years of working with the
bereaved, Kathy enriches our skills and deepens our knowledge with the inviting
topics that make up this 12 hour course, designed for new facilitators and for
refreshing present ones. She also invites us to attend a special All Souls Day
“Mass of Remembrance” which includes one of the beautiful rituals she designs,

nd

on Thursday, Nov. 2 , at Maria Regina Church, Seaford, 7:30 pm.

Directions to:

Emmanuel Marianist Retreat House at
Kellenberg Memorial High School:

1400 Glenn Curtiss Blvd., Uniondale, NY 11553

Take Southern State Parkway or Northern State Parkway to Meadowbrook
Parkway, to Exit M 4-West to Uniondale, Hempstead (follow signs to “NY 24
West” which is Hempstead Turnpike). Make left at first traffic light onto Glenn
Curtiss Blvd., (EAB Building is on the left corner, Marriott Hotel and Veterans
Coliseum on the right). Pass 2 short traffic lights and make the first right around
the bend onto Kellenberg Campus.
Drive past the high school entrance and go to end of the building and turn right.
The elevator entrance to the Emmanuel Retreat House is on the right. Park in

rd

that area. Take the elevator to the 3 floor. Turn right in the hallway. “Mozart
Suite” is on the left.

Visit our website for Support Groups Available Now: www.holyroodcemetery.org

Click on BEREAVEMENT on the bar on top of the home page and then click on
SUPPORT GROUPS AVAILABLE NOW.

Sponsored by
Catholic Cemeteries

PO Box 182, Westbury, NY 11590-0182
(516) 334-7990

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SPECIAL FOCUS GROUPS

Alzheimer-Caregiver Support Group, (see Centerport,)
Contact: Marilyn Borghard (631) 754-9045

Bereaved Parents Spiritual Support, (see Wantagh,)
Contact: Parish Outreach (516) 785-2333, x 241

Breast Cancer Support Group, (see Centerport,)
Contact: Marilyn Borghard (631) 754-9045

Caregivers Support Group, (see Inwood,)
Contact: Sister Ginny Down, CSJ (516) 239-0953

Gateway Center, (see Bay Shore,)
Contact: Jo Ann Thomas (631) 968-4677

Guardian Angel Perinatal Support Group, (see Rockville Centre,)
Contact: Martha Weiss (516) 249-8589

Healing Our Hearts Support Group for loss of child, (see Hauppauge,).

Contact: Marie Dolce (631) 234-3149

Hewlett House, resource center for breast cancer, workshops, library
Contact (516) 374-3190 (in Hewlett) www.hewletthouse.org

Paw to Heart, pet bereavement support group
Contact: (516) 785-6416; www.alln.org

Pet Loss Counseling, Bide-A-Wee Home, Wantagh
Contact: Wantagh Outreach Office (516) 785-4199

SIBS, support program for siblings of children with cancer and other
devastating illnesses (Hewlett) Contact: (516) 374-3000

Survivors of Suicide, “A Time for Healing,” (see Massapequa).
Contact: Anne Marie Maiorana (516) 868-8457

Survivors of Suicide, Brookhaven Memorial Medical Center Hospice
Contact: (631) 687-2960 (in Patchogue)

The Compassionate Friends of Babylon, loss of child
Contact: Sal Matera (631) 724-7250 (meets in Cross of Christ
Lutheran Church, Babylon

The Compassionate Friends of Brookhaven, loss of child
Contact: Maxine and Walter Katz (631) 738-0809 (meets in St. Sylvester Church, Medford)

The Compassionate Friends of Rockville Centre, (see RVC).
Contact: Elaine and Joe Stillwell (516) 334-4383

Well-Spouse Support Group, So. Nassau Com. Hosp. Mental Health Ctr.
Contact: (516) 546-1370 (2nd Thurs., 7 pm, in Baldwin)

Workshops and Programs for Children Suffering Loss
Contact: Patricia Jones (631) 205-1842

Young Widows, 50’s and under, (see Oceanside)
Contact: Ann Marie Pedalino, CSW (516) 536-7720

Young Widows, various groups (see Rockville Centre), fee
Contact: Julie Schuerger, CSW (516) 678-6196

Young Widows and Widowers, (see Centerport)
Contact: Marilyn Borghard (631) 754-9045

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HOSPITAL SUPPORT GROUPS

(groups for loss of spouse, child, parents, miscarriage, stillbirth & infant death, suicide)

Brookhaven Memorial Medical Center Hospice, Patchogue
Contact: (631) 687-2960 (offers suicide group)

Calvary Hospital, support groups for adults and children & Spanish group
Contact: Anne Byrnes (718) 518-2125 (See Bronx)

Center for H.O.P.E., Schneider Children’s Hosp. (see New Hyde Park)
Contact: Susan Thomas, ACSW (516) 470-3123

Comprehensive Community Hospice, Lake Success
Contact: Lorraine Fitzgerald, CSW (516) 586-1514 or Harriet Vogel (516) 586-1509

East End Hospice, Westhampton
Contact: (631) 288-8400

Good Shepherd Hospice- Nassau, (see Carle Place)
Contact: Clarice Curry, CSW (516) 876-8485

Good Shepherd Hospice-Suffolk, (see Babylon and Port Jefferson
Station, p. 17) Contact: Jane Malone, CSW (631) 376-3850

Hospice Care Network, Westbury and Bay Shore, groups for children 4-18,
Spouse and adult siblings
Contact: Nassau (516) 832-7100; Suffolk (631) 666-6863

Long Beach Hospital Counseling Center, Long Beach
Contact: Counseling Center (516) 897-1270, (455 E. Bay Dr.)
General Bereavement Group, Thursdays, 2:30-3:30 pm

South Nassau Communities Hospital Mental Health Center, Baldwin
Contact: (516) 546-1370, (meets at 2277 Grand Ave., Baldwin)
General Bereavement Group, Mondays, 6-7 pm

Southside Hospital, Bay Shore
Contact: (631) 630-3835, (300 East Main Street, Bay Shore)
General Bereavement Group, Mondays, 7:30-9:00 pm

Visiting Nurse Service & Hospice of Suffolk, (see Northport )
Contact: Marion Johnson, R.N., B.S.N. (631) 930-9316

Winthrop University Hospital, perinatal loss (see Mineola)
Contact: Margaret Fusco, CSW (516) 663-9363

7/25/20062:30 PM

COUNSELING PROGRAM for WTC FAMILIES

Support Groups and Activities were set-up to meet the needs of parents, spouses, children, siblings and others affected by
the WTC tragedy. They will continue to meet as long as needed and/or funded:
South Nassau Communities Hospital WTC Child and Family

Counseling Program, held at 310 Merrick Road, Rockville Centre
Contact: (516) 678-2700; (516) 546-1370, no fee

Bereavement Training Available for Your Parish
If your Parish needs help in starting a bereavement program, enhancing a present program, training new
bereavement facilitators, coordinating with the Ministry of Consolation (wakes and funerals), or evaluating what
you have and learning to incorporate new ideas and resources, contact Elaine Stillwell, diocesan Bereavement
Coordinator, (516) 334-7990, x 122, to arrange a date, time and location for one of our programs to be given for
the bereavement ministers of your parish or deanery. Two hour seminars or full-day workshops can be
designed for your needs. At least 12 persons are required to register for a program to be given, so neighboring
parishes might wish to jointly sponsor a training program. Fee depends on length of program and materials
required.

7/25/20062:30 PM

Continuing Education and Enrichment
for

Bereavement Ministers
Ministry of Consolation Teams

Chaplains

sponsored by

Office of Catholic Cemeteries

“Save the Date!”

Bereavement Conference
for the

Newly Bereaved
and

Group Facilitators

Saturday, March 24, 2007
Time: Pending Final schedule

9:00 AM to 4:30 PM
Kellenberg Memorial High School

Uniondale, New York
Registration fee (to be posted here at a later date)
includes: breakfast, lunch, two keynotes and choice of
two workshops from many being offered and bookstore

All faiths welcome
For brochure or further information, call
Catholic Cemeteries (516) 334-7990, x 122
or e-mail [email protected]

Sponsored by
Catholic Cemeteries

PO Box 182, Westbury, NY 11590-0182
(516) 334-7990

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SPIRITUAL CENTERS

(offering various day, evening and weekend programs for the bereaved and other special focus groups; most programs are listed weekly in
The Long Island Catholic)

Anima, “Retreat at the Beach,” Cherry Grove (open May-Oct.)
Contact: Patricia Lagattuta (631) 597-3080; www.AnimaRetreat.com

Cenacle Retreat Center, Ronkonkoma
Contact: Sister Mary Spratt (631) 588-8366

Cormaria Retreat House, Sag Harbor
Contact: (631) 725-4206

St. Ignatius Retreat House, Manhasset
Contact: (516) 621-8300

Siena Spirituality Center, Water Mill
Contact: Sister Nora Nulty (631) 726-4740

Spirit Life Center, Plainview
Contact: Rev. Robert McGuire, S.J. (516) 938-7119

Tabor Retreat Center, Oceanside
Contact: Sister Helen Chasse, OSU 516) 536-3004

“He fills my life with good things so that I stay young and strong like an eagle.”
Psalm 103:5

REQUEST FOR
SACRED VESSELS

AND
VESTMENTS

Are you wondering what to do with the beautiful chalices and vestments that have been given to you in memory of your loved
one? Would you like to find a loving sanctuary for them where they would be appreciated, cherished, and well used for the
honor and glory of God?
The Mission Office of the Diocese of Rockville Centre welcomes your chalices, ciboriums, patens, pyxes, candle holders,
etc. and any vestments and altar linens you would like to donate for the Missions, where they will be used daily in memory of
your loved one.
Please call the Diocesan Mission Office, if you wish to “gift” them with your sacred vessels or vestments.

7/25/20062:30 PM

WIDOWS & WIDOWERS and SINGLES SOCIAL GROUPS

This is the next step for those persons wishing to feel included again after suffering a loss and/or completing a bereavement
support program.

NASSAU and SUFFOLK COUNTIES

BABYLON
St. Joseph Widows & Widowers, “Comforwid,” (50’s +)
Parish Center, O’Connell Room, 39 S. Carll Ave., Sept. - June
Monthly meetings on 3rd Thursday at noon for lunch, support, crafts, & movies
Schedules some social events; has Mass twice a year for deceased spouses
Offers yearly calendar of events
Contact: Jo Kelley (631) 669-3662; Joe Milazzo (631) 669-0068, X 108 on Wed.

BAY SHORE
Beginning Experience. For men and women who know the pain of divorce, separation, or the death of a spouse, a
“Beginning Experience” weekend can be the time for taking much needed steps towards resolution, wholeness, and new
direction. Beginning Experience is an active ministry of divorced, separated, and widowed men and women on Long Island,
designed to be a time of closure on the past and a new beginning in the present. Persons who come should be beyond the
initial feelings of anger and despair which usually follow the loss of one’s spouse. They should be at a point of desiring a
new beginning. They should be ready to make that desire a reality. Weekends are scheduled twice a year: Feb. 13-15,
2004 and Aug. 2004 at Montfort Spiritual Center, Bay Shore. Website: www.portjeff.net/be, $180 fee
Contact: Joyce (516) 623-5906; Tony (718) 591-5536.

BAY SHORE
Catholic Compatible Singles Network (35-55)

Meets in Bay Shore home on varied nights and times.
Sign up for private home parties, covered dish socials, or make plans for future discussions, bicycling, networking socials,
educational and sports events. Volunteers plan events. No club fee or mailings; all faiths welcome; newsletter available via
e-mail: [email protected].
Contact: Bob (631) 665-3699

BAY SHORE
Music Socials (35-55)
Singles Cultural Group for active, above-beginner musicians (no-rock) and karaoke singers to share and network. Group
attends Country/Ballroom hall dances in Babylon after small private home socials. Cultural outings and private home socials
offered. Volunteers plan events. No club fee or mailing; newsletter available via e-mail: [email protected].
Contact: Bob (631) 665-3699

BELLMORE

St. Barnabas Widows & Widowers Club
2341 Washington Ave., School Cafeteria, all faiths and ages welcome
Meets twice a year – June and December
Has newsletter offering sign-up activities; $5 fee for Newsletter
Contact: Terry Clarke (516) 826-3643

BLUE POINT
Suffolk Young Widows and Widowers Group
Our Lady of the Snow Church Basement (older white church, first one)
175 Blue Point Ave.; meets 2nd Friday, 8 pm. - mostly 50’s and up.
Offers newsletter, activities, trips, speakers, dining
$20 annual dues; $2 a meeting for members, $3 a meeting for guests
Proof of widowhood required.
Contact: Betty Worthy (631) 363-7074

BOHEMIA

St. John’s Bohemian Singles (50’s +)
St. John’s Church, 1150 Locust Ave., social, refreshments, $3.
Contact: (631) 563-8982

“Teach me, Lord, what you want me to do, and I will obey you faithfully;

teach me to serve you with complete devotion.” Psalm 86:11

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CENTERPORT
Our Lady Queen of Martyrs DSC Group

Contact: Lois Bishop at Parish Outreach (631) 754-9045

DEER PARK

Sociable Singles at SS. Cyril and Methodius (young singles group, ages 20-30)
Contact: Carol (631) 242-4711

EAST HAMPTON
Most Holy Trinity Sunshine Club (ages 55+)
Most Holy Trinity Meeting Room, 1st and 3rd Thursdays, 1 pm (Sept. through June)
Offers social get-togethers, luncheons, dining out, guest speakers, local trips
$1 each meeting
Contact: Anne Koehler (631) 324-5350

EAST MEADOW

St. Raphael DSC Group
Contact: Joan Zeller (516) 794-4635

EAST NORTHPORT
St. Anthony of Padua Widow/Widowers Social Group
20 Cheshire Place
Outreach Office, Tuesdays 8:00 pm
Contact: Bridget DePasquale (631) 261-1695

EAST NORTHPORT
Social Christian Singles/Widows/Widowers (Christ-centered, non-profit coffee ministry, ages 30-75), as featured on
Telecare
Meets on Fridays, 8 pm, at Samantha’s “Little Bit of Heaven”
287 Larkfield Road (3½ mi. north of Jericho Tpke)
Enjoy friendship, live music, varied programs, dessert and unlimited coffee, $10.
**Other nights at Samantha’s offer programs for Bereavement Support Groups, Beyond Divorce recovery group, Comedy
Nights, workshops and seminars – all Christ-centered; offers free monthly calendar of events
Contact: Samantha (631) 262-1212; [email protected]

FARMINGDALE
St. Kilian’s Divorced and Separated Group, social
485 Conklin St., Church Basement, Mondays, 7:30 pm
Contact: Lyn Harper (516) 753-0923

FRANKLIN SQUARE
St. Catherine’s Widows and Widowers
Convent, Peter Meyer Room, 995 Lutz St.
1st Tues. of month, (no Jan. & Feb.), 7:30 pm; about 25 persons, 60’s and up
Contact: Martha Castel (516) 437-9861; S. Miriam Kreppein, OP (516) 775-0840

St. Catherine DSC Group

Contact: Mark Isacoff, Ph.D. (516) 825-2217

FREEPORT
Our Holy Redeemer Widows & Widowers Club
Our Holy Redeemer School Cafeteria, (downstairs), 87 Pine Street
All faiths, ages 55+ welcome; attendance runs about 50 people
Meets once a month, Sept. – June, on 3rd Sunday, 2:00-4:30 pm
Has monthly newsletter, sponsors trips and activities
$15 annual dues, prorated when you join.
Contact: Irene Guth (516) 378-2887

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“May your constant love be with us, Lord, as we put our hope in you.”
Psalm 33:22

GARDEN CITY

St. Anne’s DSC Group

St. Anne Convent Meeting Room, 26 Fairmont Blvd.
Contact: Linda Leone at Social Ministry (516) 352-5904

GARDEN CITY
Young Widows & Widowers Social Group (40-65)
St. Joseph Church Basement, St. Agnes Room; Franklin Ave. and Fifth St.
Meets 3rd Wednesday, 7:30 pm; death certificate and I.D. required.
Offers newsletter, friendship, activities, dining, and trips; $20 annual dues.
Contact: Margaret (516) 248-7786

GREAT NECK
St. Aloysius Fellowship Gathering (for Single, Widowed & Divorced)
St. Aloysius Parish Hall, 592 Middle Neck Road, Great Neck
Monthly “Coffee and Conversation” on 2nd Sunday, 11 am - 1 pm, $2.
About 50 people attending, mostly 45 and up
Monthly “Social Event” held on a weekend; hand-outs list activites
Contact: Rose Neubert (516) 482-5660 weekdays 1:30-4:30 pm

“May he grant you what is in your heart and fulfill your every plan.”

Psalm 20:5

HICKSVILLE
DSC – Nassau Chapter #1 (Divorced & Separated Catholics, Widows & Widowers, All Singles welcome)
St. Stephen Lutheran Parish Hall, 270 South Broadway, (large active group)
Monthly meetings 3rd Wed., 8:00 pm, (Sept.-June), ages 30 and up
Orientation meeting for new members 4th Wed., every month, 8:00 pm
Offers bi-monthly newsletter, activities, dances, speakers, Young Singles and Retirees activities; $25 annual dues
Contact: Carol Giambertone (516) 794-4933

HICKSVILLE

Holy Family DSC Group

Contact: Gale Vanore (516) 921-7706

HICKSVILLE

Our Lady of Mercy Adult Singles Group

500 South Oyster Bay Road (50’s+)
Meets Mondays, 8 pm (Sept.-June), Our Lady of Mercy Convent Basement
$10 annual dues, monthly newsletter, offers dinners, trips, shows, dances
Contact: Charles Schmitt (516) 747-6177

HICKSVILLE
St. Bernard’s Widows & Widowers
Joseph Barry K of C Hall, 45 Heitz Place, Hicksville (mostly 50’s and up)
Meetings 3rd Thursday of month, 8 pm, includes 2 hr social, DJ, coffee and cake; Monthly Dance on 4th Friday; monthly
dinner or brunch on Sunday.
Newsletter, activities, and trips; proof of widowhood required; $20 annual dues.
Contact: Ann Iadevaio (516) 349-0776

HUNTINGTON STATION
St. Hugh’s Widows and Widowers
St. Hugh’s School Cafeteria, East 9th St. and New York Ave. (Route 110)
Meets monthly on the 4th Tues., 7 pm, attendance runs 60-70 (ages 60’s and up) Offers activities, guest speakers, games,
entertainment, day and overnight trips, dining out, annual picnic at beach, & Christmas party
$20 annual dues
Contact: Lucy Mulzoff (631) 427-7645

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LAKE RONKONKOMA

St. Elizabeth Ann Seton DSC Group

Contact: Christine Harvey at Parish Outreach (631) 737-4416

LINDENHURST
Alician Guild of Our Lady of Perpetual Help
Meets 2nd Tuesday of every month, 8:00 pm, K of C Hall, 400 S. Broadway
Holds dance every 2nd Friday, 8:00 pm to midnight, $12.00 – includes open bar, cake & coffee; proof of widowhood required,
non-sectarian; $15 annual dues, guests $4; mostly 40’s-80+; offers monthly newsletter, activities, trips, speakers, annual
picnic and Christmas Party
Contact: Rose Baiera (631) 957-2334

MANHASSET
“Sundays for Singles,” St. Ignatius Retreat House
251 Searingtown Road, Manhasset
Monthly programs offering a presentation of current topic, socialization, private prayer, recreation, free time/tour of mansion,
mass and dinner; $25.

Contact: Fr. Damian Halligan, S.J. (516) 621-8300, x 24 to REGISTER
“Seniors,” St. Ignatius Retreat House

251 Searingtown Road, Manhasset
Day programs. 10 am-3 pm, include talk, liturgy and lunch; ages 47+; $20.
Contact: Rev. Damian Halligan, S.J. (516) 621-8300, x 24 to REGISTER

MANHATTAN
Wall Street Catholic Young Adults (www.wscya.com)
Based from Our Lady of Victory Church, 60 William St., NYC; no annual dues
Monthly dinner meetings 3rd Wed., at Captain’s Ketch Restaurant, Pearl St. between Pine & Cedar; seeks ages 20-40, but
not restricted
Offers well-attended meetings (100); 4 parties a year (200), speakers, Sat. night Mass and Dinners, Sunday Brunches;
Happy Hours, and Summer Music Cruises; Day and Evening of Recollection, Volunteer Opportunities, monthly newsletter
Contact: Anthony Baldini (212) 439-5918 or e-mail: [email protected]

MANORVILLE
Sts. Peter and Paul DSC Group
Contact: Helen Liggan (631) 874-4146

MASSAPEQUA
L.I. NAIM Widows & Widowers (Naim – a little village where Jesus helped a widow.)
Elks Club, 2162 Veterans Blvd., Massapequa (parking by train station)
Monthly meetings on 1st Thursday, 7:30-11:00 pm, $3.
Attendance runs about 150; mostly 45-75
Sponsors monthly dances on 3rd Friday, 8-12 pm, $10, attendance runs 125-140
$20 annual dues monthly newsletter; proof of widowhood required for membership.
Contact: Augusta Behringer (516) 485-4828

MELVILLE

Men and Women Alone, at St. Elizabeth’s

Contact: Lillian Sharkey (631) 427-3096

MERRICK (for Cure of Ars parishioners only)
Merrick Singles Social Group
Contact: Sister Miriam Michael Joos, O.P. (516) 623-1400, x 105

“O Lord, you give me light, you dispel my darkness.” Psalm 18:28

NASSAU COUNTY
Catholic Alumi Club (a club for Single Catholic Professionals, sharing cultural and social events), ages 40’s-60’s
Contact: Evelyn (516) 294-7375

NASSAU COUNTY
Parents Without Partners (PWP)
Contact: Chris (516) 409-2145

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NEW HYDE PARK
Holy Spirit Singles (ages 30-60)
Holy Spirit Parish Center, South 6th Street, New Hyde Park
Planning Meeting 2nd Friday, 7:30 pm; Social Event 3rd Sat., 7:30 pm
Singles Group with a Christian Attitude meets once a month socially and also offers volunteer opportunities. Activities differ
each month and are offered in various locations. Check Parish Website for Calendar of Events: www.holyspiritchurch.com

No dues or fees Contact: Mary Lane (516) 775-0858; e-mail: [email protected]

NEW HYDE PARK

Notre Dame DSC Group
Contact: Cathy Backman (516) 326-3403

PORT JEFFERSON
Hope House Ministries Single Parent Support Group
Offers parenting classes
Contact: S. Mary Ann (631) 928-2377, x 15
PORT WASHINGTON
St. Peter’s Single Adult Fellowship (ages 40+)
St. Peter’s Pastoral Center, 1327 Port Washington Blvd.
“Coffee and Conversation,” 1st Sunday of month, 10:30 am-1:00 pm; $1 donation
Offers a yearly calendar of social events on 3rd Saturday – Wine & Cheese, Christmas Party, St. Pat’s Dinner, Bowling,
Game Night, Picnic, and October Fest. Contact: Pat Folan (516) 767-1809

ROCKVILLE CENTRE
Rockville Centre Christian Singles
Contact: Ken Kavanaugh (516) 536-0334

SEAFORD
Stepping Out (Widows & Widowers)
St. James Parish Ctr. Basement, Seamans Neck Rd.(off Hicksville Road)
All faiths and ages welcome; about 50 people, mostly 50’s and up.
Meets twice a month, 2nd and 4th Tuesdays, 7:30-9:30 pm, Sept. – June
Offers games, trips, activities, speakers, coffee & cake; $20 Annual Dues
Contact: Dolores Moroney (516) 731-9254

WANTAGH
St. Frances de Chantal DSC Group
Contact: Ele Fritsch at Parish Outreach (516) 785-2333, x 241

WEST HEMPSTEAD
St. Thomas the Apostle “Mature Singles”
St. Thomas Apostle Chapel Center, Hempstead Ave. & Nassau Blvd.
3rd Sunday of month except July and August, noon
Offers speakers, bus trips, dining, and friendly activities
Contact: Mary Grogan (516) 538-2008

WILLISTON PARK
St. Aidan’s Spirituality for Singles (of all ages)
505 Willis Ave., Upper School Cafeteria, 1st Saturday following 7:30 pm Mass
Welcomes widows, widowers, divorced, separated, and all singles to share monthly discussion of readings, homily, and
topics of interest; social time; refreshments. Contact: Lisa Filloramo (516) 365-1944; or (516) 746-6585.

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Source of Peace

“Peace I leave with you; my peace I give to you.”
John 14:1

Instill in me the wondrous peace that you have promised.
Ease my aching heart.

Allow me to “let go” of the pain.
Gently lead me forward on this journey.
Open my heart to your all-embracing love.

Calm my fears.
Quiet my anxious heart.
Be the wings that support me when I am overwhelmed.
Fill my emptiness with your serene peace.
Let me feel the safety of your love in my time of need.
Guide me to believe in the future.
Walk with me as my loving companion.
Lead me to a place of serenity.
Elaine E. Stillwell

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ELAINE E. STILLWELL, M.A, M.S.

A life-long resident of Rockville Centre, New York, Elaine Stillwell is a graduate of
Manhattanville College, Purchase, NY, with a B.A. in English Literature, and holds masters
degrees, M.A. and M.S. in Counseling and Education from the University of Notre Dame, South
Bend, IN and Hofstra University, Hempstead, NY.
She is a wife, mother of three children, grandmother, educator, author, and lecturer. Her
teaching career guiding elementary children through the wonders of learning spanned thirty-five
years and now she is teaching a new audience, bereaved families.
Following the deaths of her two oldest children, 21 year old Denis and 19 year old Peggy in
the same car accident in 1986, she learned first hand about the roller-coaster ride of grief and the
emotional potholes to be avoided while coping and surviving.
Fifteen months after the loss of her children, Elaine and her husband, Joe, founded the
Rockville Centre Chapter of The Compassionate Friends, a national self-help organization for
bereaved parents and siblings. As Chapter Leader, Elaine leads the discussion each month,
simply sharing what she has read and what she has learned, as she struggled to reweave her
family tapestry and to lead a meaningful life. Three years later, Elaine and Joe became New York
State Regional Coordinators for the Compassionate Friends.
She has shared her gifts of caring and humor with many audiences across the United
States at workshops, seminars, and radio and T.V. appearances, and through her magazine
articles, and videos. Simply telling what has helped her the most and what she has learned about
grief, she lovingly refers to as “sharing Peggy and Denis with the world.”

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ELAINE E. STILLWELL, M.A, M.S.

Her two videos, Helping Your Heart Through Grief, Volumes I and II, filmed at Grief Seminars in
Louisville, KY, have helped many grieving families across the U.S. And in response to parents
requesting help for their children, Elaine has written two books, Sweet Memories (1998) and A
Forever Angel (2001), published by Centering Corporation, which are hands-on crafts books
offering children, a variety of projects to make and share the memory of their special person who
died, whether it be grandma or grandpa, mom or dad, sister or brother, best friend, or family pet.
In 1998, she wrote five pamphlets for the “I Can Survive Grief Series” published by Abigal Press,
Inc. In 2001, Liguori Publications published two pamphlets by Elaine, Stepping Stones for the
Bereaved (meditations) – now available in Spanish and Healing After the Death of Your Child
(coping strategies). Her newest book, The Death of a Child: Reflections for Grieving Parents,
was published by ACTA Publications, January 2004. She is a Contributing Editor to Grief Digest,
a national quarterly magazine for the bereaved, published by Centering Corporation.
In 1998, Mrs. Stillwell assumed duties as the Bereavement Coordinator for the Diocese of
Rockville Centre, NY, bringing together the ministers to the bereaved representing 134 parishes, to
receive training and enrichment for beginning bereavement programs or for the enhancement of
established programs; answering special needs of bereaved families, making referrals, and
keeping bereavement information updated. She also coordinated programs for the Separated and
Divorced and Singles from 2003 to 2006 until her office moved to Holy Rood Cemetery, Westbury.
In 1999, Elaine Stillwell was called to serve on the Board of the National Catholic Ministry to
the Bereaved, (NCMB), offices in St. Louis, MO, which offers pastoral and spiritual support to the
bereaved, caregivers, agencies, congregations and dioceses, through education and resources. In
April 2000, Mrs. Stillwell chaired the NCMB National Ministry of Consolation Conference, held in
Belleville, IL, attended by bereavement ministers from all over the United States.
Elaine Stillwell coordinated the Rockville Centre Diocesan Bereavement Conference for the
bereaved and their caregivers in 2001, 2003, and 2005. In addition to setting up the WTC Book
Distribution Center in Oct. 2001, offering $100,000 worth of bereavement materials donated by
U.S. publishers for WTC families, she has helped parishes meet the needs of these families.
Elaine lives with her husband, Joe, and their black lab-mix, Buddy, in her hometown of
Rockville Centre, New York, where she serves as a Eucharistic Minister and Lector at Mercy
Medical Center. Her remaining child, Annie, a certified social worker and young mother, lives
nearby. An added joy to her life is her grandson, Christopher. (updated 6/1/06)

Wife, mother, educator, author, and lecturer, Elaine Stillwell shares her gifts of hope and inspiration
with the bereaved, simply telling what she has learned as a bereaved parent.

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