Identity Formation - Lazarides 4B

Identity Formation:  

A study in human development. 
 

Is nature or nurture more impactful on your identity?  

Ms. Lazarides - B4 
 

 

What affects a person's character more, how they are raised or how the world affects them
when they are older and on their own? These effects can completely alter how someone acts and
how they treat people. That is how the world can dramatically change people, which is why I think
people should nurture their children.

The first reason I believe nurturing has the most impact on my mother is because of her
character, her upbringing and because of how caring she is. My mother is a very considerate person.
She is so considerate because of she loves her family. I love watching everyday as she passes on
her teachings to us. It truly shows me how much her good character affects us as she affects others.

Another reason I believe nurture has more of an impact on my mother is because of how
caring she is. My mother knows how to idolize and but the things that matter to her the most above
everything. She always cares so deeply about her children and her family. She has had to put her
dreams to rest so that she could take care of her children. She has made so many personal sacrifices
for her family it is honestly astonishing and I will always appreciate her for that.

The next reason I believe nurture is more impactful on my mother because of her upbringing.
There was so much love in my mother's house while she was growing up and because I now live with
my parents and my grandparents there is double the love and I can see it everyday. I get to see
firsthand how my mother was raised and how her parenting tactics have rubbed on her from my
grandparents.

The last reason believe nurturing is more impactful on my mother because of her character,
her upbringing, and because of how caring she is. Nurturing children is so important to me because I
feel that right now parents should not only prepare their children for the world, but give them as much
love as they can so that their kids can know how to spread love exactly like their parents did.

My dad’s favorite quotes is,‘Always get good grades’ so that I can get far in life and get in a good college.My
dad was very successful in school so he quotes to me to always get good grades so that I can be successful
like him.If I get into a good college then I’m more likely to get a good job with excellent paying.I believe it's
important to learn from others because relating to others,learn from mistakes and future goals.

Relating to others can help me learn from others experience.Going through the same event as someone else
can help you and the person better understand each other and be friends.It can also bring us closer cause me
and the person understand how we both feel about the event.So I regret breaking up with my boyfriend
because I love him so much but he is with someone else now.Relating to others can help you and the other
understand each other better and that might help you both be good friends.

Learning from others mistakes can help you know not to do the same thing.Not going down the same bad path
as someone else can keep you out of a lot of trouble.Not following down someone else's bad path can help
you avoid any bad outcomes in your life and you learn what to do and what not to do.So for example don’t
send inappropriate pictures to people or you could get in trouble.Learning from other people's mistakes can
help you not to go down the same path so that you can avoid any bad outcomes in life.

Set future goals for yourself so that you have something to achieve in yourself.Having people influencing you
can have good outcomes where their influence can come in handy one day.Getting a well paying job is one
way of setting a future goal for yourself cause the better the job the better the paying.Getting good get grades
in middle school has the most effect cause it decides the class you get in high school which then you have to
pass to get a diploma to get a normal paying job or if you get accepted in a academy you can get a better
diploma for better jobs.Set future goals for your so that you have to achieve and get a good job that you like.

Its important to relate to others,learn from their mistakes and set future goals.Try to be as successful in life as
you can.Tell my story so that's others can benefit from it.I believe its important to learn from others.This is why
I believe its important to learn from others.

My dad’s favorite quotes is,‘Always get good grades’ so that I can get far in life and get in a good college.My
dad was very successful in school so he quotes to me to always get good grades so that I can be successful
like him.If I get into a good college then I’m more likely to get a good job with excellent paying.I believe it's
important to learn from others because relating to others,learn from mistakes and future goals.

Relating to others can help me learn from others experience.Going through the same event as someone else
can help you and the person better understand each other and be friends.It can also bring us closer cause me
and the person understand how we both feel about the event.So I regret breaking up with my boyfriend
because I love him so much but he is with someone else now.Relating to others can help you and the other
understand each other better and that might help you both be good friends.

Learning from others mistakes can help you know not to do the same thing.Not going down the same bad path
as someone else can keep you out of a lot of trouble.Not following down someone else's bad path can help
you avoid any bad outcomes in your life and you learn what to do and what not to do.So for example don’t
send inappropriate pictures to people or you could get in trouble.Learning from other people's mistakes can
help you not to go down the same path so that you can avoid any bad outcomes in life.

Set future goals for yourself so that you have something to achieve in yourself.Having people influencing you
can have good outcomes where their influence can come in handy one day.Getting a well paying job is one
way of setting a future goal for yourself cause the better the job the better the paying.Getting good get grades
in middle school has the most effect cause it decides the class you get in high school which then you have to
pass to get a diploma to get a normal paying job or if you get accepted in a academy you can get a better
diploma for better jobs.Set future goals for your so that you have to achieve and get a good job that you like.

People all have different stories. They all make and take their path. Wouldn’t you want to
know a person you see everyday, help you with your tasks but you barely know them?.
People you see as having a job and you know them for that only job, you say “ yeah she is
the check out lady “, but she is more than that. I believe nuture is most impactful on Mrs
Tannaps because of her culture, her family and her caring nature.

Mrs Tannaps was born in the Philippines and lived there until she moved to the USA by
herself when she was 20. She had to get a green card to work and apply to be a citizen as
well. For college, she went back to the Philippines too learn the language and culture.
Learning more about her culture was very important to her. Mrs Tannaps is now very
knowledgeable about her past and present.

Mrs Tannaps has family, not only in the USA, but in the philippines. Her life
determines around her family, she surrounds herself with her family. She got married in
the USA and had citizen children. Mrs Tannaps is very close to her family not only in the
USA but in the Philippines to. She makes sure that if they need her, she is there. Mrs
Tannaps is very proud of her family and her children very much.

Mrs Tannaps ma doe is to be kind and respectful to everyone. She learned to be that way,
she teaches people to be that way. In school, she is respectful to students, boss, staff and
co-workers. Mrs Tannaps is full of words of kind, especially when I see her, she says “hi”
and we have a few laughs here, and there. She is one of the kindest, most respectful and
caring to everyone.

I know that Mrs Tannaps is kind to everyone, heart warming to everyone and cares so
much about her family and culture. She is one person that you would be interested in. To
get to know people you never really talk to. All of you should meet someone you have
never really talked to. You never know, you could know how they took their path to get to
where they are now.

People all have different stories. They all make and take their path. Wouldn’t you 
want to know a person you see everyday, help you with your tasks but you barely know 
them?. People you see as having a job and you know them for that only job, you say “ 
yeah she is the check out lady “, but she is more than that. I believe nuture is most 
impactful on Mrs Tannaps because of her culture, her family and her caring nature.  
 
Mrs Tannaps was born in the Philippines and lived there until she moved to the USA by 
herself when she was 20. She had to get a green card to work and apply to be a citizen 
as well. For college, she went back to the Philippines too learn the language and culture. 
Learning more about her culture was very important to her. 
 

Mrs Tannaps has family everywhere. Her life determines around her family, she 
surrounds herself with her family. She got married in the USA and had citizen children. 
Mrs Tannaps is very close to her family not only in the USA but in the Philippines to. 

She makes sure that if they need her, she is there. Mrs Tannaps is very proud of her 
family and her children very much.  
 
Mrs Tannaps ma doe is to be kind and respectful to everyone. SHe learned to be that 
way, she teaches people to be that way. In school, she is respectful to students, boss, 
staff, co-workers. She is one of the kindest, sweetest people I know.   
 
I know that Mrs Tannaps is kind to everyone, heart warming to everyone and cares so 
much about her family and culture. She is one person that you would be interested in. To 
get to know people you never really talk to. All of you should meet someone you have never 
really talked to. You never know, you could know how they took their path to get to where 
they are now.   
  
 

Over the course of my interview my mom (my interviewee) displayed through her
answers that she was brought up through nurture more than nature.She told me how
her family influenced her throughout her life. She learned from her heritage and it
shaped her to who she is today. I believe that my mom represents how nurture impacts
identity the most because her heritage made her who she is today, her family taught
her/influenced her decisions, and after learning from great people, she has encouraged
and helped others around her. She loves encouraging people around her work and
changes the overall mood wherever she goes.

Her heritage made her who she is today because during our decision she stated
that, “I have always been proud of my background. My dad taught me the respect and
honor that his Korean culture taught him and my mom taught me the love and passion
for family.” She also told me that, “The most important lessons I have learned in life is
that faith, love and even just a little of kindness can change the world, brighten a dark
day and give hope for the future.”

She told me somethings that have taught her and influenced her are these words
she had learned, “Listen more. Slow down more and spend time with the ones you
love. Time flies when you are having fun so enjoy every day like it is your last.” She
told me what it was like when she grew up, “ I grew up in a very close and loving
family. My dad was in the Air Force so we travelled a lot and even got to live overseas.
Then when I was in 4th grade we moved to Va Beach and he got out of the Air Force.
This became home and has been home ever since.”She has learned that life can be
hard at times but that with faith, love and hope you can overcome anything

My mom has always been and very positive person and even said,“I like that I
have a loving husband and 4 amazing kids. My family is my world and I love them so
very much. I like that people say when I am around them that I bring joy and life to the
room. I really like encouraging others. Encouragement is good for the soul.” She also
shared that she recently got a new job, “I started a new job and it has been a dream
job that I have always wanted so that is what has been so rewarding. The challenge
would be learning all the new aspects to my job.”

My mom represented that nurture is greater than nature through her answers in
way that shows its truely impacts people identity the most.I think the importance of
nature vs nurture is that it help people to develop their own unique personality and
behaviour.However, nature refers to a person's genetic traits thats are most likely
passed down from other generations. Many others believe that someone's behaviour is

based just on their genes.On the other hand, it’s really up to you to decide what you
think will impact your life the most by nature or nurture.

“When you know what happened, you normally don’t need to understand why it did,
just how it did” and what can be done to achieve a different course. When people tell
you their stories it’s usually for good reason, when I'm told a story it's because they
don’t want a past mistake affecting you in the long run. Why repeat?

I believe that it’s important to understand and learn from the past mistakes of others so
you yourself don't end up repeating them. Your story is your own, but it can easily
reflect that of someone else who may share something similar, this can bring someone
closer together. Like past trauma, maybe something happened that traumatized you
and you can’t come back from it, someone else could’ve easily gone through the same
thing and a bond can form from that shared experience.

Past mistakes can be repeated, even if you didn’t realize it, so to learn what led to what
and why, can help you from repeating something else. To avoid a consequence of
what happened to them, and more often than not, you can clash with someone with a
similar background (even though this contrasts what i said earlier, I mean it differently,
your background is how you grew up while your story is something that doesn’t give
way of what that is, your story is how you put it, while your background can’t be twisted
all to easily.)

While learning from the past is all fine, especially if they stop people from repeating
disastrous mistakes, but sometimes you can learn from the simple mistakes too. Like
to always wear a seatbelt or not to smoke etc. Of course there are the horrible events
like 9/11 and the Holocaust that people really don’t want to see repeated, unless
they’re, ya’know, psychopaths.

S’all fine and dandy, all what I said, but there is one more thing that is more opinion
then really fact, while it is good to learn from mistakes of the past, I just don’t see why it
should be said to children all the time. Make a mistake that you’re parents did that
really wasn’t a mistake but their own fault? They go on and on with how you screwed
up but it wasn’t your fault at all but really is their’s. This isn’t how learning from the past
should be, but really something more from serious mistakes, one's that really c​ ount​.
And this is why I think learning from one's mistakes shouldn’t be used all the time but
really for one's with a serious after effect. How would you face your actions?

My dad’s favorite quotes is,‘Always get good grades’ so that I can get far in life and get in a
good college.My dad was very successful in school so he quotes to me to always get good
grades so that I can be successful like him.If I get into a good college then I’m more likely to get
a good job with excellent paying.I believe it's important to learn from others because relating to
others,learn from mistakes and future goals.

Relating to others can help me learn from others experience.Going through the same event as
someone else can help you and the person better understand each other and be friends.It can
also bring us closer cause me and the person understand how we both feel about the event.So I
regret breaking up with my boyfriend because I love him so much but he is with someone else
now.Relating to others can help you and the other understand each other better and that might
help you both be good friends.

Learning from others mistakes can help you know not to do the same thing.Not going down the
same bad path as someone else can keep you out of a lot of trouble.Not following down
someone else's bad path can help you avoid any bad outcomes in your life and you learn what
to do and what not to do.So for example don’t send inappropriate pictures to people or you
could get in trouble.Learning from other people's mistakes can help you not to go down the
same path so that you can avoid any bad outcomes in life.

Set future goals for yourself so that you have something to achieve in yourself.Having people
influencing you can have good outcomes where their influence can come in handy one
day.Getting a well paying job is one way of setting a future goal for yourself cause the better the
job the better the paying.Getting good get grades in middle school has the most effect cause it
decides the class you get in high school which then you have to pass to get a diploma to get a
normal paying job or if you get accepted in a academy you can get a better diploma for better
jobs.Set future goals for your so that you have to achieve and get a good job that you like.

Its important to relate to others,learn from their mistakes and set future goals.Try to be as
successful in life as you can.Tell my story so that's others can benefit from it.I believe its
important to learn from others.This is why I believe its important to learn from others.

When you are growing up your parents teach you lessons that you will use in your life.
When they teach you it is an example of nurture because you are learning from someone
teaching you. Nature is when you learn about the nature and the environment around you
like some animals. I believe my dad's identity is mainly impactful on the people in which
influence him because he is persuasive, knowledgeable, and compassionate.

My dad shows the trait of nurture. My dad is nice and is willing to accept others. My dad is
a very open and a respectful person even to people he doesn’t know. My dad will respect
your opinion whether he thinks the same way or not, he may argue the topic to get his
point through, but at the end of the day he will respect your opinion. When I was working
on my high school application I had trouble on my last sentence and he gave me an
example, when he gave me the example I changed my mind to something else and he
respected my decision because he understood it from my point. My dad has a lot of
friends because he is a very open person and he is easy to trust.

I think my dad is nurture. My dad is almost always able to get the family and I work with
him or help him out. He is able to get us to help him because when he asks for help he is
encouraging and persuasive. Not only thing, but helping out is just something you should
do with your parents.One day I was playing my game and he came into my room and
asked me nicely if I wanted to help him do some work with the house, i asked him if I
could in a minute and he said that's fine. When you are very persuasive and respectful it is
easy to get people to do what you want.

My dad is showing the nurture trait. My dad has lots of common knowledge and uses it in
smart ways. I believe my dad could teach anyone anything that he knows about because
of the way he teaches. He will wait for you to understand and continue to give you
different ways you could try something. Until you understand and can do it easily, he will
keep working with you. He an figure out anything, just by trying and never giving up.

My dad is influenced mainly by nurture due to him being Persuasive,
knowledgeable, and compassionate. Just in general my dad is a nice person to work with
and live with. My dad shows lots of skills that he has learned from his parents. He is a
caring and smart person all together. Nature vs Nurture is determining whether you are
raised by the nature and show skills from the nature or your show skills from what your
parents teach you and if you show what they teach you.

Sitting across from me an old friend with a traumatic past, based on many things not just
skin deep. Talking to him it became clear the reason why he is who he is. I believe nurture
is most impactful towards people. I had interviewed my friend Marionte’ and this is my
evidence. I know about his experiences and how his decisions made him who he was,
how is family influence him, and how he copes and reacts towards things.

Marionte’ has had many good and traumatic experiences in his life. One of his happiest
moments in life is when his mother had his sister. He knows that family is important
because they will always have your back. Another happy moment is when he had met
some of his closest friends at Plaza Middle School. He feels he is able to depend on and
cater to them.

When his mother and father had separated, it was a difficult time in his life. He knew it was
what it was, and he still continued to focus on the positive things in life. Marionte’ used to
get bullied and joked for any and every little thing, but he didn’t pay any mind to it. “Giving
a reaction to that is only going to make it worse,” he said.

Marionte’s family passes on important lessons in life that many don’t give. His father is
a very hard worker that works long hours to support his children. To Marionte’ that is
showing him to never quit what you start. His mother is a hard working woman that gives a
lot of advice. She shows him to stay on his grind everyday, even when you’re tired. On
Sunday’s his family gets together to eat, share their day to day life, and so spend time with
each other. Marionte’ tells that family is very important and that they will always be there
for you through the thick and the thin.

Marionte’ is a very composed person in difficult situations. When he was getting bullied,
at one point in his life, he was really calm about it. He didn’t become a puppet in the
situation; instead, he had told the teacher and ignored the whole situation. The bullying
had stopped. In football, he had always played a receiver's position, until one day the
coach decided to put him in a different position at linebacker. Instead of freaking out about
the coach's direction, he did his best to cooperate. He ended up being better at that
position than any other position he had been in.

Marionte’s life is based off of how he is neutered. His experiences, family influences,
and reactions are all things that make him who he is. He is his own nurturer. By knowing
him as a person, it’s understandable why he is who he is.



Do you like the outsiders?, if so you should read my paper because it’s
about someone i know that is just like darry from the outsiders.If i were to compare
myself to one of the outside characters i would most likely be johnny because he is
brave,and smart and i am brave,and smart.I believe nuture is important because the
person interviewed learned a lot in life and still is using what his parents taught
him.Another reason why nurture is important because my step dad took what he
learned and is teaching it to my brother and I.

What he learned. My step dad learned a lot in life and about a lot of thing
on what to do in life. When both of his parents died he kept teaching his self on how to
live life. He still is using those things to get through his life. He never stops using what
he learned.

What he is teaching us.Whatever my step dad learned throughout his
life.He is teaching us what he learned and what he experience and he is telling us.He
always said dont do bad do good and you will get through life.He will always tell us
inspirational quotes for other people.Whenever my step dad teaches my brother and I
we take is and we sometimes use it in our life.

What he did in his childhood.What my step dad did in his child was good
and bad from what he said. When he was a child when his parents divorced

Experience From Others

Everyday at night time my parents come in my room talking me to death. My parents love telling
me their stories about there mistakes in the past. I mean I love when my parents tell me experience.
They really help me when it comes to making the right decisions. They know what I go though in my
everyday life because they use to also be kids. The reason they talk to me is because they dont want
me going down the same road they did. They always tell me they want me to do better then they did. I
believe it is important to learn experience from others because relating to others can play a big part in
someone else life. They really help me learn from their mistakes and help with my future goals.

One of the reasons why experiencing life lessons is important is because relating to others can play
a big part of their life. Relating to others is good because someone could be going though the same
experience you been though. When people come together and share it brings people closer together.
When I moved from North Carolina to Virginia I meet new friends in my neighborhood we all got
closer by talking about what sports do we like to play. Me and my friends got closer by just talking
about something simple like sports. That's one reason why relating to others is so important.

Another reasons why experiencing others because you can learn from your mistakes. It teaches
you not to go back down the path that you made a mistake on from the past.If you avoid the bad
choices or mistakes you will also avoid bad consequences.My dad always tell me not to smoke
because he use to smoke and he made some bad mistakes in the past so he doesn't want me to go
down the same path. My dad is really just trying to look out for me because he knows if I smoke I
would make bad decisions like he did so that's why learning from others mistakes can help or change
you in a good way.

One of the reasons why I believe that it is important to have experience with others because they
can help you with your future goals because they help you with your choices or decisions in life that
you already been though. So the real reason is because they know what is best for you so they try to
lead you down the right path for your future. My mom always tell me that she wants me to be
respectful to my teachers and to get a good education why I got it. The reason she tells me that is
because she wants me to be successful in life and go to college. I believe the reason she wants me
to go to college is to get my masters degree because with her masters degree she has got a good
paying job because of her masters degree,and she wants the same for me. That's why I believe that
getting advice for your future is important.

These three topics that my parents and family gave me have impacted my life so much it means a
lot to me. I am grateful to have family to help me experience how there lives where and how they dont
want me to follow all there mistakes they want me to avoid those mistakes that they went though. A
lot of kids and adults don't have parents to teach them lessons in life and tell them there experiences
in their past. I am glad that they have shared their experiences with me because know i feel like i'm
prepared for my future.



The person that I got a lot of advice was my grandpa he gave me advice about getting own

The right track and doing the right things. When I get older and don’t do what he did when he was younger and
learn all you can in school and go to college and he also gave me advice. So I won’t end up like people that
have done wrong got punished for it and he doesn’t want to see me in jail.

One of the reasons it is important to learn from other people is relating to others by going through the same
things and having the same background as that person knowing how that person feels and going through,or
bringing people close meaning if you shared a story with someone and you and that person has the same
situation then that’s bringing you and that person closer together and now you connect with that person and
like I share a lot of similarities to people like me liking football and that football is my sports

One reason it is important to learn from other people is learning from others mistakes by teaching you not to
go on the same path that person with threw it can help you with your mistakes and try not to do what that
person did when they were younger and their telling that so you don't do what they did and just try to do better
than the people around when they did bad things and they don’t want you to go down the wrong path and want
you to stay on the right track and when it says avoid consequences it means it avoid the wrong things and try
to stay on the right things and not try do the bad things so you can avoid the consequences and the bad things
that people try to want you to do and like my mom said not to be disrespectful to people older than me because
you would have to bad consequences for the bad stuff you did to get a bad consequence.

One reason it is important to learn from other people is future goals by people influence you to do great
meaning like learning from people success and getting good evidence from people and learning from that
evidence and try to do better than that person that gave you .That great evidence and just trying to succeed in
everything you do in try to achieve every day and to be successful is going down the right path and just trying
to learn all you can in school and when you succeed you will be able to live a little and do what you want to do
and getting a better job how successful you will be is meaning if you be successful you will be able to pick
anything you want to do when you get older and just have a little fun with your life and be successful in life can
help you down the way you can live in a big house and be famous or celebrity if you succeed it will really help
you in life and to find a better job and do something you love to do and want you to get up to do something you
want to wake up for and just try to succeed every day and just learn everything you can in school and outside
of school and just try to go to college and do something successful in college and if you listen to other people
stories you might learn from their mistakes or their success they had and just tell them your story so they can
relate to your story so you two can bond together and connect with each other so you can be close friends.
Relating to others, Learning from others mistakes, and future goals. To learn from others means learning from
people stories and evidence and telling them your story so they can learn from you and you can learn from
them and you two can be close friends and bond and feel comfortable with telling each other your stories and
learning from each other's stories and trying to be successful from each other stories and to tell your stories so
people can benefit your questions and answers.

To obtain wisdom one must have good judgment, pure confidence, and knowledge. When a person has obtained 

these three traits then and only then, will a person experience true wisdom. Even though these three traits seem to 

be easily obtainable most people will never truly experience wisdom. These traits are difficult to obtain individually, 

but can be obtained by following a few steps.  

  The first step in obtaining wisdom is possessing good judgment. One must use their analytical skills to have 

good judgment. By analyzing each scenario a person is able to arrive at a positive conclusion. For example, when a 

person is offered drugs that person must think in their minds what drugs are capable of causing. If that person can 

think of anything negative then the decision should be easy. Understanding the difference between good and bad is 

not always as simple as it may seem. There are times people do not use any judgment at all. There are cases where 

people go with their gut feeling. For example, if a person hates somebody that person is capable of making an error 

judgment. This can occur if a person does not analyze the consequences of their actions. Therefore good judgment 

can only be obtained if the person is willing to try to live a mistake free life. This task may seem impossible, but in 

reality it can be accomplished with practice. 

  Pure confidence is the second necessity needed by a person who is in the pursuit of wisdom. Pure 

confidence can be extremely difficult to gain for some. There are many people who were put down when they were 

children. This probably gave the child a low confidence level. Therefore in order for that person to gain pure 

confidence that person would have to overcome past incidents. The first step to gaining confidence would be 

obtaining a good self-image. This task is difficult because today's society has focused heavily on physical 

attributes. Therefore to gain a good self-image a person must set challenges, avoid negative self talk, come close 

with your family, learn to be assertive, take care of yourself, and build up your self esteem. So this is very important 

because how we think about ourselves affects how we feel and how we interact with the people around us. This 

would be really beneficial in life and can really help.  

Wisdom also has to do with having a high self esteem which is one of the most important thing we should 

have in ourselves because it affects how we feel. S​ elf esteem also​ refers to a person's beliefs about their own 

worth and value. It also has to do with the feelings people experience that follow from their sense of 

worthiness or unworthiness. Self-esteem is important because it heavily influences people's choices 

and decisions. In other words, self-esteem serves a motivational function by making it more or less 

likely that people will take care of themselves and explore their full potential. People with high 

self-esteem are also people who are motivated to take care of themselves and to persistently strive 

towards the fulfillment of personal goals and aspirations. People with lower self-esteem don't tend to 

regard themselves as worthy of happy outcomes or capable of achieving them and so tend to let 

important things slide and to be less persistent and resilient in terms of overcoming adversity. They 

may have the same kinds of goals as people with higher self-esteem, but they are generally less 

motivated to pursue them to their conclusion. 

Self-esteem is a somewhat abstract concept; it's hard for someone who doesn't already have it 

to know what it would be like to have it. One way for people who have lower self-esteem to begin to 

appreciate what it would be like to have higher self-esteem is to consider how they may feel about 

things in their lives that they value. For instance, some people really like cars. Because cars are 

important to them, these people take really good care of their cars. They make good decisions about 

where to park the car, how often to get it serviced, and how they will drive it. They may decorate the 

car and then show it off to other people with pride. Self-esteem is like that, except it is yourself that 

you love, care for and feel proud of. When children believe they are valuable and important, they take 

good care of themselves. They make good decisions about themselves which enhance their value 

rather than break it down. John Speer​/ showcase essay 

 

Nature vs. Nurture

Which do you believe, nurture or nature? I think nurture is more impactful on my dad because of 3 things,
inspiration, persuasion, and influences.
By: King Gaines

Once, A little boy, 10 years old grew up watching Spike Lee movies almost every day. He watched him so
much to the point that he wanted to be like him, directs movies, and TV shows. I believe nurture can be more
impactful on my father. I believe nurture can be more impactful on my dad because of inspiration, persuasion,
and his influences. The reason I believe it’s based on inspiration because he didn’t always want to be a
director. He wanted to be something like an actor not the man behind the camera. But he started watching lots
of movies by Spike Lee he never noticed how much Spike Lee made. My dad started getting more into
directing after seeing how big Spike Lee became. He wanted to be a famous director just like him, my dad
thought of him as a role model, he wanted to make movies and shows just like he does, thanks to him my dad
is who he is now. That is why inspiration is more impactful to people careers and life.

Persuasion is impactful on a person’s life because it can really change what a person wants to do. I believe
that because of my dad’s persuasions in his past. When he was a teenager, he looked at what Spike Lee did
and he wanted to become a director just like him, but he was not sure if he really had enough time and effort to
do that to do that. Once he talked to his parents about it they had persuaded him to do directing and go to a
filmmaking school to be a director and never try to give up on his dreams. Now because of my grandparents
persuading him, he is a director and editor of his own film business.

Your influences in life have a major impact on you because, they are people like your parents, grandparents,
teachers can be anything that truly means something to you. I believe this was impactful on my father because
while he was in college because he felt like directing and editing wasn’t for him until his family and teachers
had put a major influence on him. He saw that they were all successful and they never gave up in what they
loved. He wanted to be like that too, to have been a good role model for someone in the future. He knew that
he would have to be a great role model like they were to him. So after this happened he kept trying and kept
going.

This shows that nurture is more impactful than nature. Nature is the things you were already good at the things
that you were born with through genetics, you can’t already know what you want to do with life as a newborn.
My dad wasn’t good at directing when he was born through genetics that’s not how it works, nurture is when
you have family and inspirations that build you into the person you are, he had to learn through life how to do
what he really wanted to do with his life, he didn’t know what he wanted to do as soon as he was born.

This is why I believe nurture is more impactful than nature in so many ways. To me, nature is nothing
compared to nurture because it involves so many more things in your life as I explained in the past paragraphs
of this paper. It is more important because it can really help a person pick who they wanna be. It shows who
you really are inside and who you can and cannot be. It shows how you are, and who you are. It shows your
emotion, feeling, and self-care, and body care. This is another reason why nurture is more important in nature.

NATURE V.S. NURTURE

Take a deep look inside yourself,what is your driving force, that makes you who
you are? Nurture is more impactful because you learn of off what you are introduced to
are your guardian.I think believe that he learned this from his parents and people that
influenced you. I believe nurture is more impactful on Dominick because he is
persuasive, smart, and he has a rich heritage.

Domonick is persuasive because he gets people to do what he wants.I know this
because he makes me do things i do not want to do.Like one time he got me to switch
my seat and i did not want to but i still moved my seat .I have also seen him persuade
other people to give him stuff or to do things for him.I think that he might have been
raised to be persuasive.

Domonick is smart because he is a good student.He gets his work done and he
is an A grade student.For example once he finishes his work he will help you if you
need help to.Another reason i think he is smart is because he got student of the month
and he was only here for half of the month. And he probably acts like this because he
was raised like that.So that means that nurture has been more impactful on his life.

Domonick has a rich heritage which you can notice if you are around him for a
minute.You can tell that his home life has a big impact on his life.We were in class once
talked a different language in class.And he also went to his hometown the
philippines.Like some people make fun of domonick like ethan below but everyone else
thinks he's pretty cool.It means that nurture has had a bigger impact on his life.

Nurture is more impactful on domonick because he is persuasive,smart,and he
has a rich heritage When you grow up you are raised by your parents are guardian
which they teach you how to do most of what you know and it is not your nature
because you are not going to do the same things as your twin in japan.Nurture is the
most impactful because your parent teach you most of everything you know.

My dad always tells me to stay on the, “Regular, Schedule, Program.” 
This means stay on your regular schedule and never switch it up. He’s 
telling me this because he’s sharing his words of wisdom and his 
experiences. I believe it’s important to learn from experiences from 
others because it’s helping you relate to others, learning from others 
mistakes, and also help you with your future goals. 
 
One of the reasons it’s important to learn from other’s experiences is it 
helps you to relate to them. Relating to others could also be important 
because you and the person that your relating to could be going through 
the same thing you are. When you are relating to someone and you both 
have something in common you both come close together. Like say if you 
and someone likes the same thing like me and my dad like the same 
basketball team. When we are watching basketball together my dad is 
talking to me and we are relating by having a common interest which 
helps our bond. 
 
Another important way to learn experiences from others is by learning 
from others mistakes. When learning from others mistakes it teaches us 
not to go down the same path as they did. So what you really need to do 
is avoid all negative consequences. My dad always tells me to get, 
“Straight A’s which isn’t hard it’s just challenging and very confusing. 
He wants me to get straight a’s because he wants me to be someone in 
life. My dad wants me to do better than he did in school. He was not 
paying attention in school and he doesn’t want me to have those same 
consequences. 
 
What is also an important way to learn from experiences it can help you 
with future goals. These future goal will influence you to do good in life. 

You also have to be successful in life, because if you want to be someone 
in life then you should start on your future goals. One thing that you 
actually should do is get good grades so you can get a perfect job in life. 
He wants me to get a better job than he does and for me to start my own 
business. By listening to my father I can achieve my future goals. 
 
Relating to others or learning from others mistakes can help you with 
your future. To learn from other people stories and when you tell your 
story that is an example of relating, maybe learning from their 
mistakes. But most important it can help you with future goals. Tell 
your stories so that people can benefit you. By learning from others 
stories, can help you better in life.  

Rough Draft

Nurture is things you’d learn from the way you’re raised while Nature is the things
from your genes. I think of nurture as something that really builds a person’s
personality while nature is something that builds a person physically and through DNA.
I believe that nurture was most impactful on my best friend because she learned things
from her family, community, and her friends that builds her character today.

When I interviewed her she told me things about her family that she still can
follow with today. She’s a very kind person because of them, her parents are kind
themselves and not very strict. She knows how her parents feel about not being active
currently so they always makes sure she’s active so she wouldn’t make the same
mistake. She also knows that she is always required to be on her best behavior,
especially in front of her siblings mostly because she is the oldest. I remember one
time I went over to her house and experienced being around her family myself. I can
see now where she gets her sense of humor from. She told me the most important
lesson from her mom was “Don’t touch her chocolate”. I think her family had affected
her the most.

Where she grew up, making friends was easier. Even though she had to move
around alot, her community taught her things that she lives off of now. As much as she
moved around, it got harder to make it so that the memory of her father doesn’t end in
tears. She got help from local therapists and it worked. She was taught to think about
how her dad affected her during his time in life and now, she feels more comfortable
talking to certain people about her father. Being taught something as important to her
as this, nurture gets another point. +1

Lastly her friends, as one of her friends she tells me everyday that she
appreciates me and is very thankful for me being her friend. Her friends are very
supportive and caring. This makes her a good friend herself. From her friends, she also
learned to think more positively. She used to think really negative about herself ( she
still does that kind of but she’s still working on it ) but with our help we encourage her
and show her that she she should be more positive.

My best friend was really moved through nurture more because the way she was
raised and the things she learned made her the person she is now. Nurture is from
experience while Nature is from genes. I think the importance of nature and nurture is
the fact that they both make you, you. I think nature isn’t really that important because
that is saying that your behavior is based on your DNA which isn’t exactly true for
humans. What do you believe is responsible for how you act? Nature or Nurture?

Have you ever heard of nature vs. nurture affecting how people are? Well it affects
people everyday and shapes who you are. Different people get affected by one or the
other and some are affected by both. It all matters on how these two things affect the
person and who they are. For my mother i believe that nurture affected her the most
because of her uprising, personality, and caring nature. I believe that nurture affected
my mother in this way because of the following reasons.

The reason i say uprising is because of how her parents taught her as she was
growing up. Her parents taught her many lessons, most of them have helped her get
through life and others lessons helped her with other people. One of the lessons she
was taught was to “live your best life”. To her this meant that she had to live her life
helping others as much as she could.

I say personality because of how she was in the past. Many people grew up in different
places and where my mom grew up around many different people which changed who
she was and how she acted towards everyone. For example my mom grew up around
many good people so her personality changed through those people.

Lastly i say her caring nature because she has, over the years, became the caring
mother of a huge family. This is because she made a big family and she cares for
every individual person just like the last one. Everyday she does what she has to do
but instead of doing it out of having to she does it because she wants to. While doing
what she does she shows love and care. To her once she starts loving something there
is no stopping her and she will never stop loving those things even after death.

That is why i think that nurture affected my mother more than nature. Throughout her
life she has had many things happen and most of them have affected her. It affected
her upbringing, her personality and her caring nature. In conclusion to all of this i think
that nurture affects people more than nature does. I say this because nurture affects
who you are but nature only affects what you look like.

I believe it’s important to learn from the experiences of others .While i was in the car with
my dad, he told me to put on my seat belt. It was for my safety and it’s a law that’s for us
to follow.Also so i when we get into a crash I wont get hurt.So this is the reason why I
relate to others.

I relate to others by their stories that influence me. If it ever comes down till the point
where I'm in the same situation. As my friend, or a family member.That’s what bring
people together .So that we won’t make the same decision
Learning from others mistakes will help you later on in life.

So that you won’t follow the same path as other p​ eople​. My grandfather and got in a bad
accident and passed away. I’m not trying to avoid those consequences he made. Now I
know how really important it is to make sure you have on a seat belt.

My future goals it for me to set purposes on how you suppose to be your best.Like to
make sure you save.And to be successful in life.So there won’t be too many mistakes
because you heard of other people mistakes and how they went about it. To make a
difference and do better.so To make a difference and do better.so that's what I'm going
do for now on.

Relating to others and learning from others mistakes and for their future goals.is to take
stories so it can help you later in life. Then two other people I can share my stories so that
they can learn from my mistakes.so then they can also tell other people. So that’s what I
learned and that's what other people should also learn.