Just realize at 16?

Just realize
at 16?

Contents

Story #1 : Stop comparing
yourself with others

Story #2 : Knowing that
everyone have their on
challenge /not have same
feelings

Story #5 : Having a time for
yourself

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Story #1

Stop comparing yourself with others

Hello everyone ! I have this things for the past few weeks , I
suffer from a very bad case of impostor syndrome .

Just thought I should let you guys know that before we go on

“How do I explain what is impostor syndrome?”

Ok , its perceived farudulance involving feelings of self-doubt
and personal incompetence that persist despite your
education , experience and accomplishments .

To counter these , you might end up working harder and
holding yourself to ever higher standards.yeah that’s kinda a
long explaination .

It has been really bad these past few weeks . Matter in fact
but these past few weeks in particular I feel like all of us are
living very different lives from each other because of this , its
just going on the social media is like a whole other experience
. But this weeks , I would like to journal my thoughts and bring
you guys along with the journey of how to fix this habit .

So , the story begin with I’m scrolling my Instagram and I saw
some pictures that made me compare myself with someone’s
desk.

Yaaa , its just a desk …..

The desk is beautiful ,

It’s looks pretty ,

It’s looks cozy …..

I took it personally and I compared my desk to the person’s
desk.I cannot afford most of the stuff that I need to make
sure that my desk looked like they asked .So I just convincing
myself that it’s okay to have my desk .

I’m sorry if this sounds really crazy or out of propotion but I
go to this on daily basis .

“How to get rid of of that habit from comparing yourself with
others ?”

The first step is you need to write what you’re grateful for .

So, its just says that you have to write down things that you
should be grateful for . I guess this exercise is kind to like
remind yourself of the things that you have rather than things
that you don’t have because it’s easy to kind of like do well on
what you don’t have and impose negative thoughts on it
rather than just reminding yourself of your surroundings and
understanding that those are the things that you have and
you should not be taking it for granted. I wrote down some of
the lists off with my desk .

“Wht I’m grateful about my desk?”

It faces good view when I do my work in general , I’m not
facing like a wall , I’m facing a view a very pretty view in fact
and it’s functional .Like it supports my things very well like it
doesn’t collapse , it doesn’t have dents on it or it doesn’t have
cracks , it’s functional . I can use it you know because some
people don’t have functional desks right ? and it’s spacious
like it’s not small like I have space to put my books , my laptop
and it doesn’t feel like it’s small . Easy to say that it serves its
purpose and I like that it’s spacious and I think it’s a privilege.
No matter how on pinterest it is .

So , the next thing that I wrote is my capabilities ……..

I don’t know why but I couldn’t think of a tangible item, so I
picked an intangible one which is my capabilities. I feel like I
should be more grateful about my capabilities because like
I’m like decent at a lot of things. I have hands and I have feet
to do a lot of things that I like some people don’t.Sometimes, I
always have self-doubt about what I can I cannot do. Like I go
on Instagram and I see people have good achievement than
me and they’re better at studies than me and they express
themselves very well you know and I wish I had that but I just
realized that myself and these other people the only
difference between us is they take action and I don’t.

So, why I’m sitting in my room dwelling about why I’m such a
loser when I can legit just wake up and start doing the things
that I want to do right. I don’t know, it’s like simple as that
actually because self-doubt and overthinking and I do it
consciously right, but I just have to remind myself that the
difference between me and a lot of people is just I need to
start doing and less of worrying about things in general. You
know when we worrying about what people think of me or
worrying about if I can do it better than other people, why
would I worry when I can just do it yeah .

For the second steps is “give your inner voice and name”.

It says that you have to give that critical mean voice that’s in
your head or name.If you give something a name, it has less of
power. Like for an example,I gave my inner thought name as a
“Gopal”the character in Boboiboy animation movie.

So yeah , my inner voice is called Gopal,HAHHAHAHAAA.

I picked this name because when my inner voice come, I can
simply said that “Ohh it’s just Gopal, the character in
Boboiboy movie , who are fat and kind of like dumb but
sometimes make funny jokes HAHHAHAHAHAA just ignore it
intan”.

Yeah, it sounds so lame and such a dumb name for me.Like
every time I have an inner voice saying that I’m a loser and I
imagine that Gopal saying it , yeahh I’m not gonna take this
seriously and I’m sorry. At the same time, I’m giving it less
power.

You know , sometimes I’m asking myself like:

“What the h*ll ! How did this work?”HAHAHAHAHAHAAA I’m
just giving it a name.

Go guys and have a try to this method. It is really work.

Ouhh by the way I’m so sorry if your name is Gopal but
whatever you name your critical voice, it kind prevents you
from like placing too much weight on them.

To be honest as much as I want to like unfollow these people
that makes me really insecure about myself and makes me
like compare myself to them as much as I want to block them
or unfollow them, I honestly cannot run away from the fact
that this is their life or that is who they are and they are going
continue doing whatever they’re doing.

I think acknowledging those self-defeating thoughts is just so
much better than running away from it but acknowledging it
does not mean that you believe it but understanding that the
thoughts that you have is valid and your capability of
reassuring and reaffirming yourself that isn’t true, I guess that
is a healthy way of nevagating whatever I’m going through
right now.

Questions Time !!!

Here, I will give my own opinion or answers question that I
often got from my friend or even the question that I think
most of the teenagers had.

“Am I often find myself comparing myself to someone
else?”

Well I can said that I’m not often comparing myself to others
because I kind of like grateful for what I have right now but
sometimes I kind like jealous .You know , jealousy is actually a
normal feeling.I’m not comparing myself to others because I
only tend to compare myself with people that I don’t know
because its easy to assume like things about their life.

Its kind like you easy to assume that they have a perfect life
because you don’t know who they are.But when you with
your friends or your close friends,I found that its hard for me
to compare myself with them or it just hard for me to be
jealous or resent or feel a type of resentment towards them
because I know them personally and I know what they have
been through. Like I see the struggles they went through to
get to where they are and I guess if you’re in that situation, I
think you should to get to know more about your friend
because everyone has different struggles and I’m pretty sure
you friend has one too.

“My parents often compare me with my siblings/ neighbours/
cousins and I grew up thinking that I’m not enough”- this is
phrase that I saw a lot from social media

Honestly, it kind of sucks that a lot of us are young like young
as still in school and not yet graduating.

The thing is when I heard that some of the parents telling you
these kind of stuff .I mean its easy for me to say like oh just let
it go or just don’t think about it.It’s kind of hard because
you’ve grown up being used to hear those kind of words from
not only yor parents but yor environment in general.I know
how hard it feels like but trust me things will get better
because I was like that before .I used to think that the world
sucks and everything and then the more I meet more people,
the more I see how unique everyone is and the more I tend to
embrace differences because like at the end of the day, your
parents can tell anything they want but what’s important is
that are you gonna take it seriously or not. I mean whatever
you heard from the others, you can’t really control what
people say, its just you can control how you react with it I
guess. So it well get better, trust me.

“Just ignore what people say about you
because we can’t stop them.The thing is right
now you should start take an action and show

them what you can do”

“Trust me, everythings gonna be better and
not everyone know what you’ve been through

and also believe me that everyone have their
struggles too”

“Just enjoy yourself and show to the loved
one”

Last question that I got from some people is

“It’s crazy how I compare myself to because to them, I’m
good enough”

Uummmm….. well , here’s in this book show how I should
improve myself and I also have my demons. I want to start
showing this side of myself because I feel like it is important
for us to show the bad moments .

I guess it is not bad , no this is not a bad moment this is
normal.It’s important for people to see the truth in the
mundane .People just just don’t show their true side or
people just don’t show like a hundred percent who they are.
Probably, whatever you see online that you deem as perfect is
probably 10% of who they are. So, why are you taking the
10% as like their whole character when it’s just a very small
poryion of who thwy are you know.

Like you just have to step back and just look at it on a
different perspective I think.

I’m so glad that I can share this thoughts with you and I
appreciate if you read it from the begin without skip at any
pages HAHAHAHAHHAAA. I hope you can handle this and let’s
be more open with this kind of problem. Insyaallah , God
always have with you to go through all this .

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Story 2
Knowing that everyone have different challenges

If you know me , you will realize something different in this
year.
“Yes , I wear spectacle because of I had short-sightedness”
At first I’m not comfortable with it but to make sure the
power of the lens not getting increase , I should wear it.
I knew there were some people looks weird on me because
this is my fisrt time wearing it and at the same time I kind of
shy but as a matter of fact it’s my priority and it’s actually help
my eye health.
“Its okay to look at me , its uncomfortable for me but this are
the things for me to go through at the moment.I am pretty
sure that it will be fine soon.”

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This story same goes as to our challenges as a teenagers
where everyone will go through some changes and definitely
we should gothorugh because it give a benefit to us.This can
relate with the word strength.

“The strength I’ve gained from embracing who I am”.

Strength is defined as a good or beneficial quality or attribute
of a personal thing. It takes strength to be a teenager to look
after a teenager and to mentor teenager but if there’s one
thing I;ve learned it is that “You never alone”

-There is not such thing as normal , and we all has our own
uniqueness and specialin our own ways.

Can we just imagine a person that premature handling their
life with not perfect body.”How they be an independant when
the are young? How they manage to dodaily works at least?”.

Although this are some defiency for them and maybe created
increased anxiety , I’m pretty sure they attempt to make the
best in every situation.

I realized that it was probably my friend’s own insecurities and
jealousy impacting their actions. I am working to forgive
them.As well as forgiving , it’s important to find a good
support system.I found a good support sytem in my friends
and family.Fun facts . I get most of my strength through my
faith and it is because I realize that I can be my true self
surround them ant that amazing.

Believe me that that you are not alone in the struggles that
you face whatever those may be. From acedemics to sports to
personal life.

I have this one dreams where I would like to be a
psychologist. It is because psychologist will give me the
chance to help others in any situations . Despite my
limitations , I should go on point and that is my goal for this
yaer.Hopefully I can make it happen.At the same time, I learnt
that never giving up is the key to succeeding your dream. It’s
taken a lot of strength to face challenges trust me. I am super
blessed to have support of my friends , family and many
more.

Strength is something everyone needs and you are
experiences teach you.Strength is something hard to come by
and it is truly unique when it comes from your own
experiences. I’m sure you have been through a lot to become
who you are today , so say it loud and proud because one
you’ll know who youinspire in the process and the toughest
battles give you the most strength.

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Story 3
Having time for yourself

Sometimes when it get to much activities in school ,
the packed study table and when you join the big organisation
at School it just tired but it make yourself busy . So that , you
realized that you used the time in a good way .

When it comes to this situation , I realize that actually I
needed some time for myself<3

It's not selfish to love yourself , take care of yourself and to
make your happiness is a priority .It's necessary.

Just because you're busy does that mean you being effective
or efficient with your time.

You get to take a break from daily life and give a chance to
shut off all the noise and distractions and a chance to give
your brain the rest it needs just like any other muscle in your
body.Your brain begins to fatigue over time by taking even 10
minutes to relax.You will rejuvenate your mind and be able to
more clearly and effectively

This helps to improve your concentration and allows you to
focus on what is most important to you by getting a clear
understanding of your priorities.

You will become more productive in tackling them turn your
phone off and spend more time alone .you might be surprised
how clearly solutions come to you when you're focusing on
them without distractions. Probably the most important
benefit to solitude is learning more about who you are , what
makes you happy , what gives you joy , recognize your
strength and weaknesess , what you do and how you spend
your time.

Tells you who you are!

You cannot pour from an empty cup if you're not giving to
yourself. You will not be able to adequately give to others .

Remember , nobody is too busy , it's just a matter of priorities
."When the last time you cooked a meal for yourself ? , Are
you getting as much exercise as you did like to be ? , How
many books have you read in the last three months ?, Have
you traveled anywhere new and exciting lately go for a walk ,
take a hike , make a list listen to your favorite music , write a
letter to your family , do a crossword puzzle ,what kind of
investment are you making in you ?

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