How To Make Girls Chase

HOW TO MAKE GIRLS CHASE CHASE AMANTE 239 • She wants revenge on a current or former lover • She’s always wanted to try a man like him (his race, his nationality, his body type, his style, etc.) • She’s on the rebound and needs to feel desired again • She’s horny – and she just wants it Those are just a few. Point is, if you scan that list real quick, you’ll see there are lots of reasons a woman might want to sleep with a man fast. Heck, I know a girl who slept with a few men she met at nightclubs after she’d watched a lot of Sex and the City and decided she wanted to try what she’d seen on TV. There are countless more reasons for women to chase intimacy. Further, women don’t just have relations with amazing men they could spend their lives with. Women take it slow with men they want to date. They don’t want to risk messing things up by having sex with a guy too fast. They only sleep quickly with men they find attractive, but lessflthan relationshipflworthy. Sometimes a girl doesn’t really even like the man she sleeps with, but thinks he might be good in bed, or just needs to get intimate and the man she sleeps with is persistent enough that she says to herself, “Oh, okay, I’ll go for him.” It’s perhaps not thrilling to think of yourself as a man that women “settle for”, but even the best of us have had women who “settled” for them. Say, a woman who’s out looking for the man of her dreams, but is desirous of intimacy too (she’s in both her boyfriendflfinding mode, and her getflintimate mode), and decides that you don’t meet her standards for “boyfriend” Women frequently get intimate with men they have little feeling for; in fact, they are more likely to get intimate faster with a man they care less for

HOW TO MAKE GIRLS CHASE CHASE AMANTE 240 – but that you’re cute and fun and she’d like to have a fling with you. “Settling” is not necessarily that a man isn’t good enough, but rather that he better meets her standards for a lover than her standards for a boyfriend. Or, a girl might say to herself, “I will only hook up with a man with washboard abs. I want to feel a six pack when I have sex again next,” but she meets a charming man with a good wit and sense of style who just happens to have a little bit of a belly. He’s not what she was aiming for originally, but she goes and sleeps with him regardless – “settling”, you might call it, but really more the case of her not fully realizing beforehand the full range of men she could be attracted to in a sexual way. Multiple Modes Multiple Modes It’s possible for women to be in multiple modes at a time. For instance, a woman may be highly reserved, but underlying her reservation is hoping to find a boyfriend. Or, she may be partying like crazy with her girlfriends, but is open to the idea of going home that night with a sexy guy she meets. Here are the most common combinations you’ll see, and how they play out: • Looking For Boyfriend, Open to Getting Intimate: So Looking For Boyfriend, Open to Getting Intimate me women have finding a new boyfriend as their primary objective, but, because they’re single, or are not seeing

HOW TO MAKE GIRLS CHASE CHASE AMANTE 241 anyone seriously, they’re open to sleeping with a man they meet whom they’ve ruled out as boyfriend material. That’s very key – if they think a guy is a potential boyfriend, they won’t sleep with him quickly. On the other hand, if they think he doesn’t meet the cut as a boyfriend, but still find him attractive and sexy, they’ll be open to sleeping with him. • Party Time, Looking for Boyfriend: These are the wo Party Time, Looking for Boyfriend men out with their friends, partying and having a good time, who are open to being approached by potential boyfriends if the timing is right. Usually better to wait until a woman like this takes a break in her festivities and is relaxing by the bar for a little bit, and not so excitedly engaged in conversation. Time things properly and move in when you see an opening. It’s not as important to win her friends over, as you’ll likely just be talking to her for a few minutes and grabbing her phone number to talk and meet up with her later on. • Party Time, Looking to Get Intimate: These are the Party Time, Looking to Get Intimate women out with their friends who will hook up with a guy, usually at the end of their night as their friends are leaving or after their friends have left (or, alternatively, once they’ve had enough to drink that they don’t care what their friends think). Winning over a girl like this’s friends is of paramount importance here, much more so than with the girl enjoying party time who wants to find a boyfriend. The reason it’s so important is that you’ll be spending more time with the girl in front of her friends, and likely will be working to take her home with you with the friends’ knowledge – which means they need to trust you, approve of you, and like you.

HOW TO MAKE GIRLS CHASE CHASE AMANTE 242 • Distracted / Unsocial / Highly Reserved, and Looking to Get Intimate or Find a Boyfriend: These are the girls y Intimate or Find a Boyfriend ou meet who have a lot on their minds or feel social pressure to not engage you, but may be open to more with you if you play your cards properly. These can be difficult to tease out, as most women in the first mode tend to be deep in the first mode and not thinking about sleeping with a new acquaintance or going on a date with him. The only reliable way of finding the ones who are is to just keep meeting these kinds of women and pushing to see what you can get going with them until you find the ones with the right secondary mode. His Side His Side When it comes to whether a woman will sleep with a man or be interested in dating him, the mode she’s in is only part of the equation. A man can’t control her side, unfortunately – he can only look for women in a more receptive mode. But he can control his side – the things he does to position himself as the kind of man a woman might want to date or become intimate with. Here are some of the ways to do that: • Being attractive. Everything we covered in Section Being attractive One is directly related to being attractive. Many of the topics covered in this section will boost your level of attractiveness as well when used and executed properly. When a man is

HOW TO MAKE GIRLS CHASE CHASE AMANTE 243 attractive in all the ways we’ve previously covered, starting with the fundamentals, he vastly improves his appeal to the opposite sex. He makes himself into a very desirable man, and makes women want to date him and sleep with him far more efficaciously. • Moving things forward. Many men meet women and then Moving things forward just talk and talk and talk to them, never moving things forward. These guys are surprised or dismayed when the girl excuses herself for whatever reason. It’s often not that she didn’t like them – oftentimes, in fact, she does – but rather that she ended up feeling uncomfortable because these men should’ve moved things forward with her but never did. Moving things forward ensures that an interaction continues along the path to success. • Pushing for the close. Also of vital importance, an Pushing for the close d closely related to moving things forward, pushing for the close is everything considered “closing” in traditional dating – asking a woman for her phone number, inviting her home, and making a move while in private. These things often take great courage for men who are less experienced with women, but they are absolutely n absolutely n absolutely necessary ecessary ecessary to succeeding with them. That first point above – being attractive – is what we covered in Section One. Section Two is all about the second two points – moving things forward in your interactions and pushing for the close. This is what we’re going to teach you to do here. I just want you to see it, first –

HOW TO MAKE GIRLS CHASE CHASE AMANTE 244 how important these mindsets are. There’s a reason they each have a bullet, and being attractive has a bullet. It’s because moving things forward and pushing for the close aren’t together as important as being attractive – they’re each as important! Why is this so? Simple reason: women will almost never do these things. No matter how attracted you get women, it’s quite rare for them to lead the way, move things forward, and push for the close. It does happen sometimes, but few women in America and Europe will do this. This is also dependent on location fl you’ll see this a bit more often in the big city than out in the country, where women are more accustomed to men being men and women being women, These women who push for the close do so only with men they are very into, or really want to sleep with. In Asia or South America, you can largely forget about seeing this kind of behavior from women altogether. So if a man is living in New York City, and he only dates or sleeps with women who make the first move, he’s severely limited his dating pool. It’s like paying a 98% tax on your income, or finding out that the majority of the food you bought at the grocery store is past expiration. Any man who’s been tentatively waiting for women to make the first move should take that in and realize how many women he’s been passing up. Make moving things forward and pushing for the close top among your priorities when meeting women you like

HOW TO MAKE GIRLS CHASE CHASE AMANTE 245 Can you think of a time when you had a girl all alone, maybe at your place or hers? You noticed she was breathing heavy, or sitting close to you, touching you a lot… things got quieter, and she was gazing at your expectantly? And then… nothing happened? She went home, and you kicked yourself for not making a move? I had to learn this through hard experience and repeated failure in the beginning. My first sameflnight pull from a nightclub in 2006 was a girl who pulled me. She called me after I left and told me she wanted to keep hanging out with me – it took her aggressive action for us to get together that night. I should’ve pulled her, and probably about ten other girls before her, but I was too gunflshy or didn’t see the signs. And I lost several girls after that by not moving fast enough, or not moving at all. I had one girl sprawled out on my bed in California, a tall, slender, extremely sensual girl from India whom I’d met on an airplane, with a tabletop book I had out about sex in her hands, just waiting for me. She was just gorgeous, one of the most beautiful girls I’d met at that point, and I just froze up and couldn’t do anything. I resolved to never let a girl in my place for more than ten minutes without at least trying to kiss her after that. I see this as one of the biggest mistakes men make. They just move too slow, don’t take action, and let something peter out that could’ve been something wonderful. There is a phrase I use to hammer the point home when coaching guys: You’re the man. You must lead. You

HOW TO MAKE GIRLS CHASE CHASE AMANTE 246 Lots of men the world over get nervous or shy and hope the woman is going to make a move, take the lead, make things happen. But that’s not the woman’s role. Women are the ones who wait for the man to take charge, make a move, move things forward, push for the close. It’s your job as a seducer to make sure that these women who are hoping to be with you get the chance to. It’s your job to make sure that they don’t go home alone and unsatisfied. It’s your job to make these women feel good. So, her side is important. But your side is even more important – because your side is the one you can control. You must have the mindset of a closer. You must know, deep down in your bones, that women want you. They want to kiss you, and hold you, and be intimate with you. They want to date you, if they can, and they want to have relationships with you. They want everything and anything they can get from you – you need to know this and believe this. Part of that knowledge will come from experience as you become more seasoned and get increasingly better reception from women. But part of that knowledge comes from just realizing that women are sexual beings who want intimacy just as much as a man intimacy. Women are people with the same basic drives, wants, and needs as you; they are less different than you might think. MOVING FAST

HOW TO MAKE GIRLS CHASE CHASE AMANTE 247 We’re careful when much is at stake. When you’re crossing a busy street, you look both ways, and proceed with caution. If you fail to do so, you might be gravely injured by a speeding vehicle. When you’re trying to solve a complicated problem on an important exam, you slowly work your way through the problems. Well, it’s a common mindset that most men apply to dating too – if a guy really likes a girl, he takes things slow. Because he doesn’t want to make a mistake. One of the main indicators a woman looks for as a determinant of how likely a man is to be successful with women is confidence; and one of the main indicators of confidence is how quickly and selffl assuredly a man progresses with her. When men take their time, they seem less confident. They then come off as less successful with women and thus, less desirable. Women lose interest in slow moving men, and then the slow moving men get frustrated and tear their hair out and wonder why they can never get girls. And slow moving men, by moving so slow, give themselves a lot of time to make mistakes, missteps, and generally muck things up for themselves – opportunities for error that fast moving men avoid. Men who move fast with women are thus more attractive and more effective than men who take things slow. Now you might say, wait, women always say they appreciate a man who’s a gentleman and isn’t in a rush to make things happen.

HOW TO MAKE GIRLS CHASE CHASE AMANTE 248 Our response to that is a mindset that’s going to be an extremely important tool in rebuilding your thoughts on and relations with women in this section; it’s a mindset that is of the utmost importance: Listen to women’s Listen to women’s women’s actions, not their words. actions, not their words. What do women’s actions tell you? Well, often when men take things too slow, and take their time trying to get intimate, women disappear. Maybe they lose interest; maybe they think the man isn’t interested in them; or maybe they get scooped up by another man who moves faster. Other times, when men take things too slow, women will press for much more than they would out of a man who moved faster: they’ll ask for nice dinners and gifts, they’ll ask for promises and assurances, and they’ll ask for a relationship. Even if that’s what you want, it’s better for you to give it yourself than it is to be put in the position of the woman demanding these things in exchange for intimacy. It’s very unhealthy for longflterm stability in a relationship. Make no bones about it, this is a critical mindset to have: you have to move fast. You have to. You may have some success moving slowly, but I guarantee you will have greater success moving fast. Slow and steady does not win you the race when it comes to romance and seduction; speed and persistence take the prize. HOMEWORK

HOW TO MAKE GIRLS CHASE CHASE AMANTE 249 Mindsets are a difficult thing to teach, and an even more difficult thing to prescribe homework for. But there are, I believe, a few exercises that will serve you well. Exercise A: Compare and Contrast Exercise A Go out and meet women in different modes. How do you find them to be different? • How are distracted women different from women looking for a boyfriend? • How are women in party mode behaving differently from women looking to get intimate? Do some exploring and see if you can find out the contrasts. Talk to different women – at least five women who seem to be distracted or unsocial; at least five who are partying hard; and at least five whom you notice are observing the people around them and look almost as if they’re looking for something and hoping to find something. The latter are most likely to be in boyfriendflhunting or intimacyfl searching modes. Compare these three kinds of modes. Exercise B Exercise B rcise B: Slow vs. Fast If you’re reasonably experienced with women, what I’ll ask you to do now is to look back on women you have lost. Not women you’ve had success with; but the women you wanted but never got. How many of those women did you progress quickly with? And how many of those women did you move slowly with? What do you take away from the comparison?

HOW TO MAKE GIRLS CHASE CHASE AMANTE 250 TOUCH A significant difference between a flirt and a closer is touch. Flirts don’t touch much or touch in “friendly” ways. Closers know their ways around women’s bodies and touch them in ways that are warm, intimate, and exciting to women. There are three subsets of men: • Guys who don’t touch. • Guys who touch, but don’t know the right way to touch. • Guys who touch, and do it in sexually exciting ways. Women refer to the second category when they complain men touch too much. I have had women complain to me about guys touching them too much when I’ve had my arms around those women and them sitting in my lap. I’ll ask them what they mean, and they’ll mention some guy earlier who kept touching their arms or hand. And here they are sitting in my lap with my arms around them. Which guy touched them more? What they were really trying to say was not that they don’t like being touched. They do – women love being touched in the right way. What they were trying to say was that they don’t like being touched awkwardly by men. Touch closes the gap of awkward tension that exists between a man and a woman when there is interest or attraction that isn’t being

HOW TO MAKE GIRLS CHASE CHASE AMANTE 251 satisfied through conversation alone. If an interaction builds attraction but goes too long without touch, the social tension can become overwhelming, causing a girl to simply bow out of the interaction to relieve the awkwardness. Touch is not only useful for moving things forward – it quite often is essential. It’s possible to go without when you get expert at navigating tension with verbal and nonverbal communication, but for all intents and purposes, assume touch to be something vital. In this chapter, you will delve into the right way to touch, and get confident in being physical with girls you like. You want to be the guy who touches, and does so in romantic and sexually exciting ways. You want to be the charmer whom women complain to about other men being too touchy while you pull them up against your body and have them hold your hands minutes after meeting you. You want to touch them the right way and be a closer. THE TENSION GAP The tension gap is the name for a phenomenon that occurs between a man and a woman when there is mutual interest and attraction, but a lack of a physical connection. Because it is natural for men and women attracted to each other to touch, a lack of touch creates a feeling of tension and awkwardness that simply grows stronger the longer the interaction proceeds without touch. Women like being touched by men in romantically and sexually exciting ways

HOW TO MAKE GIRLS CHASE CHASE AMANTE 252 If you can, think of a time you met a new girl, and the two of you stood facing each other and talked, and talked, and it began feeling increasingly awkward. Now try to remember if you were touching her at all – I’m betting you weren’t. And I’d also bet she felt every bit as awkward as you did. This is the tension gap. Fortunately, it’s an easy issue to defuse – just touch her. Touching women closes the tension gap, and allows them to feel more comfortable around you. Note that tension gaps also occur when too much physical space lies between a man and a woman who like each other, and when escalation windows are open but are being missed and are in danger of closing. KINDS OF TOUCH There are all manner of ways of touching women. We’ll categorize these here, and describe each kind and give examples of ways you might touch in each category. These should get you primed for getting increasingly physical in the right ways. • Incidental Touch: The kind of touching you do light Incidental Touch ly and throughout a conversation as mostly a social function; for instance, touching a girl’s elbow on a high point, or sitting next to her with your legs touching hers. • Protective Touch: Touch you use in protecting or gu Protective Touch iding a woman, such as placing your hand on her lower back while

HOW TO MAKE GIRLS CHASE CHASE AMANTE 253 guiding her through a crowd, or placing you arm in front of her chest or stomach to stop her stepping into the street when you notice cars coming. • Romantic Touch: More intimate touch that you do as Romantic Touch the interaction progresses to physically signal your interest. This can include things like briefly stroking her chin or cheek, or playing with her hair, or holding her hands. • Sexual Touch: Touch that stimulates a woman sexuall Sexual Touch y. Generally, you want to wait until the two of you are in private to begin doing sexual touch, so that you can move immediately into getting intimate without worrying about people watching or having to worry about what her friends might do. Sexual touch includes stroking her inner thighs and kissing her neck. The fun thing about touch, like everything in this book, is that you can learn to speed through the stages in certain scenarios, and have women being romantic and sexual with you almost immediately. This is dependent upon what mode they’re in, but also reliant upon your comfort level with executing these different kinds of touch and progressing quickly. Something you can do in crowded bars and nightclubs if you’re feeling particularly bold is make eyes with a cute girl walking nearby and, if she’s game, take her hands as she passes and pull her in very close. I have had women come up and kiss me on the lips and face whom I haven’t spoken to yet doing this. It gets them very interested in you right off the bat, as they’re not used to men doing things like

HOW TO MAKE GIRLS CHASE CHASE AMANTE 254 this. You can’t do this with every girl, but the ones who are giving you strong eye contact and a bit of a mischievous smile – they’re the ones who are usually going to be up for this maneuver. That’s one way, actually, to use strongly suggestive touch as an opener with a new girl. For now though let’s look at specifics for each kind of touch, before we get into talking about when and how to use them. Incidental Touch Incidental Touch Use incidental touch often, and use it generously. You should be continuously touching the women you’re getting to know. When you meet a girl, take her hand in yours and draw her in for a kiss on both cheeks, as they do in Europe; let your hand linger in hers a little when you lower it afterward. This is a good indicator very early on of her interest level; many women will continue holding onto your hand even as you lower it. You can easily end up in the situation where you never let go of the girl’s hand, and she never lets go of yours, and you just hold hands and talk. When you find yourself here, give her a gentle yank after a few minutes and pull her into you. When women dig you like this early on, you can pull their bodies against yours and quickly transition incidental touch to romantic touch with a sexual tinge. Another powerful incidental touch is placing your hand on her side near her waist, and leaving it there while you talk; or, if she’s closer, placing your hand on the small of her back. You quickly develop a

HOW TO MAKE GIRLS CHASE CHASE AMANTE 255 close, intimate vibe in your conversation that you could never develop without such touch. With any of these three – holding her hand; hand on her waist; hand on her back – you can move her around physically. Often you want to draw her quickly into a conversation – just pull her closer to you. You don’t need to explain this or say anything as you do it – just do it. If she asks why you brought her closer (something only a few women ask), you can tell her that you wanted to get a better look at her, or if you’re in a crowded, highfltraffic area you might tell her you’re bringing her closer to hear her a little better. Incidental touch also includes any part of your body touching hers, like your arm touching her arm while standing together and waiting for something, your leg touching her leg while sitting next to each other, or her breast against your chest if you draw her in close to you and the two of you are having a good conversation. Also, generally speaking, as you become seasoned with touch, you can rely on your instincts more, and trust that if it feels good for you, generally it feels good for her too. By way of an example, riding in a taxi last night, I placed my arm and elbow against the waist of the girl sitting next to me, and thought to myself how good it felt. A moment later, she reached down and took my hand and interlaced her fingers between mine. It had felt as good for her as it had for me, and she’d felt compelled to find ways to touch me more, and more intimately. The reason that incidental touch is so vitally important is that it gets women accustomed to being touched by you so that when you go to become intimate later, it isn’t shocking and a complete surprise.

HOW TO MAKE GIRLS CHASE CHASE AMANTE 256 Incidental touch closes the tension gap and it differentiates you from the flirty males out there who never go any further. Incidental touch communicates to women that you’re the kind of man women love and respect and lust for and pursue. A few other bits and pieces to be aware of when it comes to incidental touch: • Using the palm of your hand to touch a girl is warm and receptive, while using the back of your hand is cold and distant. As a seducer, you will typically be using the palm of your hand, except perhaps when first meeting a new woman and initially getting her attention. • Avoid the “tap” at all costs. Social beginners will sometimes try to get their incidental touch in by “tapping” women – briefly alighting their hands or fingers on some part of a woman’s body, then quickly pulling them away. This communicates a lack of confidence that one’s touch will be wellflreceived – it’s almost better not to touch at all. When touching, always aim to let your hand linger for two to three seconds, at least – and sometimes longer. • Maintain eye contact while touching. Men who are new to touching will often look where they are going to touch / where they are touching, to make sure they hit the right spot. This looks very strange and calculated to women who are engaged in a conversation with them, though, and makes the touch feel quite awkward. Touch should be natural and effortless – a woman wants to feel like the man she’s

HOW TO MAKE GIRLS CHASE CHASE AMANTE 257 speaking with doesn’t have to think about it, and that it just happens. Avoid staring at your hand as you touch a woman – keep your eyes on hers. • You should begin practicing such contact touching a woman’s upper arm with your open palm or cupping her elbow. Do these perhaps two to three times each on high points. The next parts of her body you should generally touch are her stomach, waist, and outer / upper thighs (when seated). Ultimately, incidental touch should be light and fun, but still generate a boost in excitement and interest in women regardless. The brain is wired to respond to touch as a sign of attraction. Tell a woman she’s cute, and she’ll say, “Thank you.” Place your hand on a woman’s waist, and she’ll feel a burst of excitement rise up within her. Touch trumps the spoken word. Souse touch. And use it a lot. Protective Touch Protective Touch Protective touch is how you communicate to a woman that you’re looking out for her and that you have her interests at heart. Whether you are talking to the woman of your dreams or a girl you only plan on spending one night with, all women enjoy protective touch, and feel more comfortable and trusting around men who use this touch Use incidental touch generously. It does three things for you: • accustoms women to your touch; • closes the tension gap; and • shows you’re a man who acts

HOW TO MAKE GIRLS CHASE CHASE AMANTE 258 with them. Women seek out strong men who can make them feel safe and comfortable, and protective touch is your primary nonverbal means of communicating to a woman that you are one of those men. You will generally use protective touch in situations with other people or threats; in crowds, for instance, or while crossing the street. You can exaggerate a little; she probably isn’t actually about to step out into the path of an oncoming vehicle, but you can place your arm in front of her and hold her back regardless. A few examples of the most common forms of protective touch: • Hand on her back while moving through a crowd. This assures her that you want to keep her close and that you don’t lose her. • Holding her hand while moving through a crowd. Same as the first, although a little easier to do and not quite as powerful. • Placing your arm in front of her body to prevent her crossing the street when there is traffic. A good habit to get into the habit of doing, as it is easy for people to get distracted in conversation (especially a romantic, flirtatious conversation), and just good form in general – stop her a few feet back from the street, and she will get a small degree of the “my hero” feeling women get toward men they feel safe around. • Pulling her back when there is a fight or disruption nearby, or placing your hand on her shoulder. Even if it’s on the

HOW TO MAKE GIRLS CHASE CHASE AMANTE 259 other side of the room, it’s a nice gesture by you that shows you have concern for her, and will make her feel safer and more comfortable with you. The chief benefit of protective touch is reassuring a woman that she can feel safe around you. Women generally need to feel safe with a man to become intimate with him, so this helps you to speed up the process and make things happen more easily. Romantic Touch Romantic Touch Romantic can be a lot of fun, although you will likely want to avoid doing too much of it in public, for two reasons: 1. Her friends 2. Her selfflconsciousness Even if they like you, a girl’s friends are typically going to be looking out for what they consider to be her best interest – getting her into a longflterm relationship and slowing down intimacy from occurring between you and her for as long as possible. If they notice her getting too romantic with you too quickly after meeting you, even if they like you, they will often intervene and work to end your interaction and convince her to give you a call tomorrow – which may or may not happen. Her selfflconsciousness is the other primary concern. Women are conditioned by society to believe that getting very close to a man very

HOW TO MAKE GIRLS CHASE CHASE AMANTE 260 quickly is a very bad thing and wrong and means she is worth very little as a woman. This often translates into them being selfflconscious in public. How much so depends on the girl, but it is not uncommon to have women who are in a venue full of strangers who suddenly realize they have been acting too forward in public and will cut the interaction off right there. For that reason, I recommend saving most romantic touch for when you are alone with the girl you like. Kinds of romantic touch: • Holding hands with fingers interlocked / interlaced. This is far more meaningful than other forms of handflholding. The “fingers locked together” position very explicitly communicates “we are together”. This one is perfectly okay to do in public. • Holding a woman up against your body. Social beginners who give this a try will find that this can actually be surprisingly easy to accomplish and do with a great many women. Simply take her hand, pull her in, and place your arm around her, all the while continuing to talk. It’s quite easy, and fun to do. However, be wary of this one in public – you might want to do it briefly, and hold for perhaps thirty seconds, then lightly push her away. Too much can be detrimental. • Kissing. It’s such a huge cultural phenomenon, but it’s really a doubleflsided sword. My recommendation: avoid kissing in

HOW TO MAKE GIRLS CHASE CHASE AMANTE 261 public most of the time. Publicly kissing a girl whom you haven’t slept with yet lets her know she “has” you, and removes much of the intrigue and desire she might have had to go home with you and find out what might happen next. Many women are satisfied at getting the kiss and will ask you to call them later. Then, you may see them again, or, more often, you may not. Better to wait to kiss them in private. Additionally, once you are already seeing a girl, kissing in public (if you are the initiator) can look and feel quite possessive and needy. If she wants to kiss you once you have been intimate already, it’s okay; but be sure to end it gently if she goes on kissing too much. If you have yet to be intimate, and she fishes for a kiss, you can lean in as if you were about to, then lean back and smile at her. Tease her a little bit. You can also tell her, “Not here,” to communicate a lot of good, powerful things in just two short words. Romantic touch is quite a lot of fun and when used properly, it will quickly set the tone for the move into sexual touch – the desired end result of all maleflfemale romances. Sexual Touch Sexual Touch Sexual touch is where we take a romance into the end stages. You will almost always want to wait until you are in private before engaging in sexual touch. The sole exception is in rapid public seductions – such as on a dance floor, on a beach, or an airplane. In those circumstances,

HOW TO MAKE GIRLS CHASE CHASE AMANTE 262 where you are progressing rapidly through the stages with a woman who is also interested and willing, you will get sexual quickly and possibly even become intimate in only a semiflprivate location. These are the exceptions, however, and you will normally be alone with a woman before beginning sexual touch. The danger of beginning sexual touch in public is higher than with romantic touch due to the nature of the touch. Some types of sexual touch: • Stroking. Caressing your hands up and down a woman’ Stroking s body – whether her arms, her legs, her sides, her back, her face, her hair, or whatever else – are great to do in private, but best avoided in public. In private, this communicates affection and warmth. In public, it can be a little much, and risks looking possessive. However, if she’s doing it back to you, or started doing it first, then, a little bit is okay. • Body kissing. Rather than kissing her lips, focus o Body kissing n her neck, jaw, earlobes, shoulders, chest, breasts, nipples, arms, hands, stomach, thighs, labia, and other parts of her body. This is extremely erotic to women – much more so than kissing on the lips. • Rubbing and fingering her genitals. You will often Rubbing and fingering her genitals start by rubbing the outside of her pants, before sliding your hand inside her pants and down her panties. Rub the outside of her vagina, focusing on the clitoris, before slipping your finger Save romantic and sexual touch for places you have privacy

HOW TO MAKE GIRLS CHASE CHASE AMANTE 263 inside her to finger her. Once you have been fingering her for several minutes, her pants will come off very easily. • Oral sex: Performing oral sex on her is a big turn Oral sex on for a woman, and will prime her for full penetrative sex. Focus on stimulating the clitoris for maximum pleasure for your girl. She will also often be quite turned on performing oral sex on you, Once you have run through the various kinds of sexual touch, you will have gotten intimate with your girl. Together with incidental, protective, and romantic touch, sexual touch completes the package for all the ways you should be touching the women you like. MORE ON TOUCH Touch is the most powerful, potent way of communicating emotion, feelings, affection, and desire in human communication. Touch is vitally essential. Many men raised in colder or more distant households as children never learned to touch or to be as physically affectionate as they should be; for those men, the learning curve on touch will be slightly steeper. They will have to get themselves comfortable with the idea of touching often and touching liberally. For men more familiar with touch, they may actually have to restrain themselves from doing things they usually plunge into (such as kissing in public).

HOW TO MAKE GIRLS CHASE CHASE AMANTE 264 Even with girls who think they don’t like touch, it’s very good and very powerful. My architect girlfriend in Beijing came from a culture where people don’t touch each other often,. When we first started seeing each other, she would remark, “Don’t touch me!” upon me placing my hands on her. I’d generally respond by pulling her closer to me and putting my hands all over her, and she’d melt. Sometimes she’d still protest weakly, but with a big smile and clearly enjoying the closeness. She told me later that her former boyfriends had been very physically distant, as had her upbringing. Touch is a universally pleasing human experience. So even if a girl comes from a background of not having been touched much by her family or prior lovers, if you touch her in the right way you will make her feel happy and cared for like no one else has. Touch is great, it’s potent, and it’s a highly versatile tool. If you’re doing something different than what I have here, and it seems to be working, you don’t necessarily have to change it. Touch works a little differently for everyone, but these rules are the ones I’ve found to be pretty universal for most men. If you’re the kind of guy who likes to make out with women passionately in public, and then has a high degree of success at converting those women into women he becomes intimate with, then perhaps disregard the bit on not kissing in public. In general what you will see though, is men who kiss women in public, then lose those women later and consider it the luck of the draw. If that happens to you – try not kissing women in public! See how it increases your success rates. Overall, women love being touched, and they love the men who touch them in the right way. Being a seducer is about knowing how to speak the same language as women, and touch is one of the most powerful

HOW TO MAKE GIRLS CHASE CHASE AMANTE 265 ways that women communicate. Just watch them interact with girlfriends and close friends and you will see how often they touch others. Always be excited to touch women. Done right, the simple act of touching will be a consistently good experience for both you and the women you touch! HOMEWORK Time to start including touch into your interactions with women, if you haven’t already. Your homework begins with incorporating each of the four main types of touch, and using them at the appropriate times in your romances. Incidental Touch: Use this right away with every wo Incidental Touch man you like. To get started, write down three types of incidental you’d like to work with the next time you go out. For instance, you might want to try out the cheek kiss upon first meeting girls, so that will be one of the items that goes on your list. Protective Touch: You will mostly be using this whe Protective Touch n moving around with women, so won’t get the opportunity to practice it quite as much. However, it should also go on your list, and you should make an effort to use it and become familiar with it whenever you are moving from one place to another with a girl. There are also opportunities to use it while sitting or standing still – e.g., drawing a girl closer to you in a

HOW TO MAKE GIRLS CHASE CHASE AMANTE 266 high traffic area so she won’t be bumped or nudged by passersby. You have lots of room to be creative here; use your imagination! Romantic Touch: If you focused first on incidental Romantic Touch and protective, you might come back to romantic a little later on. Though, if you’re bold, you can write down three of these to try out on your cheat sheet as well! Romantic touch again is something best done in privacy or semiflprivacy – the cab ride back to your place; the sofa when no one is looking; the bathroom or a private room if you can sneak away. Sexual Touch: Review the kinds of sexual touch and Sexual Touch have them in your mind, and keep in mind that even when you feel like rushing toward intimacy, you will often get there faster when your girl is more primed by your sexual touch. As you incorporate touch more often, your interactions with women will become steadily warmer, more fun, and rewarding. Touch won’t just feel good for girls – it will feel good for you, too!

HOW TO MAKE GIRLS CHASE CHASE AMANTE 267 DATING AND FOLLOWflUP So you met a cute girl with an engaging personality and the two of you get along great. You’ve romanced her, she’s comfortable with your touch, but now you need to go. How do you set things up for the next time you’ll see her? In an ideal situation, you’ll continue moving things forward and can forego grabbing contact information and setting up a second meet at all. We’ll talk about that in the next few chapters, though. For now, let’s assume you simply must go, or your instincts are strongly telling you that you’ve gotten about as far with your girl today as you’ll be able to take things with her. You’ll need contact information so you can get in touch with her again. And you may – depending on the girl and the circumstance – want to schedule your next meet with her. But a lot of guys freeze up here after a perfectly smooth, normal interaction, they get nervous and simply exit with, “Nice to meet you!” or they go for the followflup in a rather awkward way. A guy’s met a girl he likes, and she likes him back, but rather than take action to help them meet again, he exits stage left without grabbing anything to follow up on, and they both leave disappointed. For the guys who do get contact information, many of them have no idea what to do with it. Phone numbers sit uncalled, dates go Many men get contact information and just don’t do anything with it. We want to be on top of ours and use it to make something happen

HOW TO MAKE GIRLS CHASE CHASE AMANTE 268 unscheduled. That girl a guy had a great connection with when he met her never heard from him again. She probably ended up wondering what happened – in fact, I’ve had girls I’d met insist that I call them, because, they said, men always took their phone numbers then never called. Other women have said how guys canceled dates with them using some of the lamest excuses you’ll ever hear. Men will work hard to get phone numbers and set up dates, then fail to follow up or make things happen. This tends to occur when men just don’t know what they’re doing, and give up before even giving it much of a shot. Let’s make sure this doesn’t happen with you. The aim of this section is to equip you with all the tools you’ll need to be getting in touch with women you’ve met, and setting up your next meeting with them. GETTING HER INFORMATION If you’ll notice, this subflchapter is not titled “Getting Her Number”, for a very good reason: you always want to avoid using the word “number”. Why’s that? • “What’s your number?” • “Can I get your number?” • “Can you give me your number?” These are the standard manflaskingflforflwoman’s followflup information lines that the majority of men use. Here’s what you should notice about these lines:

HOW TO MAKE GIRLS CHASE CHASE AMANTE 269 1. They are all compliance requests 2. They all use the word “number” Thing is, by the point in the conversation where things have supposedly progressed well enough that a man and a woman are going to meet again, the last thing a man should have to do is ask her if he can have her followflup information. It should be a foregone conclusion. Since he phrases it as if it isn’t, he makes himself look and sound weak, and has also puts the woman into the position of needing to make a decision. Except for situations in which it benefits you and the seduction, do not put women in the position of having to decide. Women tend to follow the path of least resistance, and if the case is anything other than that she simply cannot wait to see you again, it’s going to be easier for her to decide on inaction (“No”) rather than action (“Okay”). Women look to men to lead and decide; furthermore, if she clearly likes you, she is going to assume that you’ll take her information. If a man she had previously assumed would just take her information then asks her if he can have it, she’s going to have to pause and reassess her assumption: “Hmm… can he have it? That’s a good question!” Don’t ask. Also, don’t use the word “number” – she’s heard that word a thousand times before, tied to a weak, needy question that forces her to do mental labor and come to a snap decision on a man who is putting social pressure on her to say okay. In other words, when a woman hears anything akin to, “Can I get your number?” she automatically recoils. It’s like hearing police sirens if you’ve been pulled over for speeding recently; even if they aren’t for you, you still

HOW TO MAKE GIRLS CHASE CHASE AMANTE 270 have an automatic negative reaction to them, because of your past experiences. Having women react in an automatic negative manner to you is definitely something we want to avoid! So, when you’re wrapping up a conversation with a girl you like, have a standard followflup line something like one of these: • “Let me grab your contact info before I forget.” • “Let’s trade cells so we can grab some food another time.” • “Let’s stay in touch. How do I get hold of you?” You can also use one of these midflinteraction – and actually, in my opinion that’s the best time to do it. Make it a point to always grab contact information on a high point – it’s an easy snap decision for the girl to say, “Sure!” Sometimes men will wait for the conversation to die, and then, as it’s circling downward, they’ll say, “Okay, well, I’m going to go, but let me grab your number first!” She’s already feeling awkward and unexcited with this man – what are the chances she’ll want to see him again? Even if she feels too much pressure to say no, and gives him her number anyway, she’s far less likely to respond when he calls or texts her later. Conversely, catch her on a high point, and you’re flying. So, after she’s laughing and having a great time, you tell her, “We need to stay in touch – let me grab your cell, before I forget.” Then get her number,

HOW TO MAKE GIRLS CHASE CHASE AMANTE 271 call her phone, and continue on with the conversation as if nothing had ever happened. This is the best way to do it. Also, back to the point of calling her phone – absolutely necessary. You want to always follow these steps: • Put her in your phone – you do it, or have her do it • Next, call her phone • Then, have her save your number This does a couple of things for you: 1. Seeing your number on her phone lets you know that you got the right number – occasionally women will enter the wrong number, either on purpose (if they don’t really want to keep in touch) or by accident (if they typed in the wrong number, or you did). 2. Seeing her answer and save your number will give you an idea how serious she is about you. If she tells you she doesn’t have her phone on her, you know she isn’t serious (every woman carries her phone on her). If she takes her phone out and says, “Yep, got it,” without saving you, she may or may not be interested, but she gave you a real number, so you know you have something to follow up on later. If she saves your number, and makes sure she has your name spelled properly, you’ll know she’s interested and wants to hear from you again.

HOW TO MAKE GIRLS CHASE CHASE AMANTE 272 You can also have her put you in her phone first, and then give you a call so you’ll have her number. Either one works – just make sure one of you has called the other. There is one other advantage of grabbing the number during a high point vs. during a low point. Women will automatically associate things based on what kind of value you’re following them up with – so the guy who asks for her contact info when the conversation is dwindling is clearly offering the value of keeping in contact with him to any woman he can talk to, regardless of how lifeless the conversation. Then there is the guy who asks following a high point, when there is laughter and good feelings and interesting conversation. This guy communicates that he stays in touch with people who bring good things into his life. Which guy do you think a woman would want to stay in touch with more? The last thing to keep in mind with grabbing contact information on a high point is that there is a natural lull in the conversation following the number swap. Most people are accustomed to contact information exchanges coming at the end of a conversation, so the woman you’re speaking with is naturally going to wonder if this means the conversation is over now. You’ll need to take charge here and resume the conversation yourself – you can do so by recalling an earlier topic (“So anyway, you were telling me about…”) or by asking her about something she hasn’t fleshed out yet (“So why did you move here from London?”). By resuming conversation, you’ll relieve her of the social pressure to end the conversation, and allow her to continue enjoying talking to you. It’ll also reassure her that she made the right decision Grab a woman’s contact information on the high point of a conversation – it’s much more natural than grabbing it at the end, as most men do

HOW TO MAKE GIRLS CHASE CHASE AMANTE 273 of giving you her number – a man with as much social grace as you must surely be a good catch. Other Kinds of Contact Information Other Kinds of Contact Information r Kinds of Contact Information There are other ways to keep in touch besides the phone, of course. Some of them are: • Email • Social Networking • Business Cards Generally, if a woman offers you her business card, give it a quick scan and take note of whether her mobile number is on the card. If so, that’s all you need. If it’s just an office number, ask her if her mobile is listed anywhere on the card – you can tell her you’d hate to bother her at the office. If she offers you her email, this can be because she travels frequently, or it may be that she is simply more cautious when meeting new people. It’s not quite as good as a phone number, but you can often turn it into something productive. I have had women I ended up having great encounters with off of nothing more than an initial email – so don’t necessarily dismiss email outright. If a woman offers social networking, on the other hand, it’s often a polite decline on her part. While social networking can be something you use in your interactions with women, it’s not typically an effective

HOW TO MAKE GIRLS CHASE CHASE AMANTE 274 way to set up dates. Rather, it is something that girls will use to increase their friend counts / online status. Politely turn down social networking invitations – you might tell her you’re not on the website she asks about, or you might simply say, “Do you have a more direct line of contact?” If she still hems and haws, it isn’t going anywhere, so you can smile and tell her not to worry about it, bid her farewell, and move on. GETTING IN TOUCH Once you’ve gotten a girl’s contact information, you’ll want to follow up soon. A general rule of thumb is to send her a text message within a few hours of meeting her. For instance, you might grab a girl’s phone number and a few hours later (whether at night or during the day), send her a text message telling her it was great to meet her, ending by signing your name. Like so: “Great to meet a fellow traveler :) –Tom” This initial text serves a few essential functions: 1. It reminds her of you and gets her thinking about you while the memory of you is still fresh in her head. 2. It “breaks the ice” on communicating via text and phone, allowing her to contact you more easily, and making it more natural and expected the next time you contact her. Send a follow-up text message a few hours after first meeting a girl. It helps your cause in a number of ways

HOW TO MAKE GIRLS CHASE CHASE AMANTE 275 3. It gives her your name, just in case she’s forgotten it. A woman might have really loved meeting you, but if she forgot your name might be too embarrassed to respond to you again. This removes that as a risk factor altogether. The First Phone Call The First Phone Call People have different opinions about this, but generally you’ll find that the next day is the best time to call. the next day Why? Well, as the very knowledgeable Sebastian put it to me some time ago, if you wait a few days to call a girl who really liked you, she might be a little happier to hear from you if you wait a few days vs. had you called her the very next day. But the benefit is small, if any. On the other hand, for a girl you had a fairly neutral interaction with the advantage of calling her the next day while she still remembers you is much greater than waiting a few days while her memory and impression of you fades away. Here are some tips for that initial phone call: • Walk around. If you’re nervous, as is quite common Walk around for beginning social artists when making calls to women they’ve just met, getting up and moving around will alleviate a lot of the anxiety. You can make phone calls while walking around your home, or to distract yourself even more, while walking on your way somewhere.

HOW TO MAKE GIRLS CHASE CHASE AMANTE 276 • Plan your greeting. A normal standard greeting is f Plan your greeting ine: “Hey, Susie, it’s Brian. How’s the rest of your week / weekend been going?” She will either launch into a story of her own, or tell you her weekend has been fine and ask you how yours has gone. You can then move to the next point in this list. • Have a story at the ready Have a story at the ready. Something short and interesting that happened to you recently; ideally since the last time you spoke with the girl you’re calling. It doesn’t have to be anything amazing – it can be about the Italian restaurant you ate at for lunch and how great the calamari there was. But it must be short (too long, too early in the conversation makes her wonder what she’s gotten herself into) and it must be at least reasonably interesting. • Keep a time limit in mind. So the conversation does Keep a time limit in mind n’t drag on forever, keep in mind that you’ll only talk for about ten to fifteen minutes maximum. If it’s going really well and you want to talk longer, that’s okay too; but have it in your head around what time you’ll get off the phone. • Plan your exit. Have an idea what you’ll say. “Okay Plan your exit , just got to the store, so I’m going to let you go for now. Talk to you soon, Betty!” or, “Okay, well, I have to hop in the shower before it gets too late. Glad I was able to reach you, Katie – let’s talk soon!” You should normally not set up a meet on the first phone call, for a pair of reasons: you get the opportunity to get her more comfortable speaking with you on the phone without the pressure of her having to

HOW TO MAKE GIRLS CHASE CHASE AMANTE 277 decide on a meet, and you start off without making her feel like every time she talks to you she’ll be asked to go out and do something. You also give her the opportunity to enjoy talking to you, but not know if / when you are planning to ask her out. As you improve your skill on the phone, you’ll discover that more women will actually ask you out during the first or second phone conversation, or hint that the two of you should meet sometime soon. Once that happens, girls are chasing after you, and you’re right where you want to be. Texting Texting Text messages are a fantastic tool for men of all skill levels, and one well worth learning. Texts are short, easy to send, and low investment – unlike a phone call, which a woman can feel a lot of pressure to respond to. With texts she can take her time to answer you, think her answer through, and read and respond at her leisure. The downsides of texts are that it’s difficult to communicate any meaningful sentiment via SMS, that you can’t convey the level of depth and emotion that you can over a voice call, and that texts are their own unique skill that needs to be honed, as much as phone calls or inflperson conversation. Text messaging is powerful though, and should not be overlooked. Texting is more flexible than phone calls are, both timeflwise and Plan key moments of your phone calls out to help them run more smoothly

HOW TO MAKE GIRLS CHASE CHASE AMANTE 278 communicationflwise. You can text a girl while she’s at work, in school, out partying at night, running errands during the day. You can text her to tell her about a great idea you had or a delicious meal you just ate, things that would usually be silly to make a phone call over. Personally, while I was formerly a huge proponent of phone calls over texts, I don’t even use phone calls anymore. I haven’t actually called a girl in ages. I do everything via text now. Once you know you can reliably win girls over via telephone, you can move onto text. You should rely on phone calls for cementing connections and setting up dates, until you’ve gotten your texting down to the level that you can do that over text, too. Phone calls are easier to master as there are more nuances in text. After mastering phone calls, you’ll pick up texting much faster and get to a higher level with it than the guys who do texting alone. Here are the general rules you’ll want to follow for texting: • Keep texts short. Particularly for text messaging b Keep texts short eginners, there is a great temptation to write long, detailed texts. Avoid this temptation as long texts are bad texts. Keep in mind the Law of Least Effort – your communication should be roughly the same length as what she is giving you in return, and ideally will be slightly shorter. She should be investing more time and effort than you if you are to set the frame that she is chasing after you. • Avoid questions as first texts – Avoid questions as first texts – especially boring questions especially boring questions especially boring questions. “How’s your day going?” “Hey Annie, what’s up with you?”

HOW TO MAKE GIRLS CHASE CHASE AMANTE 279 “Feel like doing something today?” These are all examples of some of the worst texts you could possible send to start a text conversation. Don’t send these! Avoid anything similar to them, for that matter. They are weak, boring text questions that are bad for three reasons. The first reason is that they imply the sender has nothing better to do than thinking about the receiver and texting her (his life must be uneventful – and she also knows she has him now, too). The second is if the question goes unanswered, it’s negative precedent for investment, and the third being that it communicates the sender has nothing better to say than, “What’s up with you?” (i.e., no communication skills). Putting a little care into your texts will communicate positively to your recipients. • Keep messages fun Keep messages fun . Texting isn’t supposed to be serious. Either talk about fun, cool, interesting things going on with you, or tease your girl a little bit. She should enjoy getting texts from you and look forward to it – it should be a high point of her day. But, do not make them over the top fun or silly – you’re not trying to entertain, you’re trying to build a little rapport and set up a date. • Keep your eye on the ball. The ball, in this case, Keep your eye on the ball. being the date you’ll set up with her. You should have a direction you’re moving with your text messages – forward, towards a date. If you’re texting aimlessly or having long text message conversations, you’re doing it wrong – and moving too slow. And remember what happens with girls you move too slow with – they autoflreject. If you take too long texting or spend

HOW TO MAKE GIRLS CHASE CHASE AMANTE 280 too much time beating the bush, you’ll lose girls. Get to the point quickly. Arranging the Meet Arranging the Meet the Meet After you’ve done a little initial texting and maybe made your first phone call, you’re ready to plan an inflperson meet. Depending on how things have been going thus far, you have a few options available to you on how to plan your date. Your Place – Your Place – Ideal If a girl seems very into you and is pushing for the meet hard herself, it’s best to tell her to come to your place to hang out, or to tell her to head over so the two of you can make some food and then go out a little later. This is the ideal meet for three reasons: 1. It’s easy – she comes to your place and all you have to do is straighten things up a bit before she arrives. 2. There is a higher degree of investment on her end – you’re relaxing at home while she comes over to visit. 3. It minimizes legwork for you to get her alone with you – you start the date alone with her.

HOW TO MAKE GIRLS CHASE CHASE AMANTE 281 Have some good music (like Thievery Corporation or Sade), a few candles, and a wellflset up home – ideally have the only places to sit be your bed and a small couch or loveseat that lets you be physically close with your woman. You can stack boxes and a little dirty laundry (might sound gross, but she won’t touch dirty laundry, whereas pillows she might move! If you don’t want to go that route, maybe put a stack of really heavy books there) on the couch to take up room if it’s too big – you want to avoid the awkward situation of you sitting down on one end and her sitting down on the other. Physical proximity is tantamount, both for her getting comfortable with you, and for you initiating kissing and physical escalation. When she first arrives, have her take her shoes off at the door. Since she has now removed an article of clothing (the shoes), and is making a commitment to stay a while – and hand her the matches or the lighter and have her light the candles, so she is participating in the seduction from the beginning. Both of these get you investment from the outset, which is quite big in helping her feel like this is something she’s willingly participating in, rather than something she has gotten into and could have doubts about. You want to be kissing and escalating as quickly as possible. Make sure she’s comfortable first – if she seems nervous or aloof, give her time to settle in. Be warm and friendly and have fun with her. But get to getting physical as quickly as possible – she wouldn’t be at your place if she didn’t think it was a possibility the two of you might get together. See the later sections on physical escalation for strategies on how to find the most success here.

HOW TO MAKE GIRLS CHASE CHASE AMANTE 282 Somewhere Casual Near You – Somewhere Casual Near You –Next Best Thing to Your Next Best Thing to Your Place If she doesn’t seem like she’d be comfortable enough just hanging at your place, or she’s pushed for a meet at a coffee shop or food, plan to meet her somewhere near you. Ideally, you want her to pick you up – tell her to swing by your address and the two of you will ride together. If it’s a very short walking distance, tell her to come by and you’ll meet at your home or building and head out. The reason why you’re doing this is twofold: 1. Women flake. Sometimes they just decide not to show Women flake up for dates. It’s always far better for you to have them meet you at your place, so that if they flake you aren’t stuck somewhere tapping your foot waiting for them to arrive when they never do. You’ll be far less annoyed with her than if you’re out sitting at a restaurant table by yourself, and thus far more likely to respond appropriately and not scare her off by making a big deal about a missed date. 2. Her coming to your place is investment. It’s her ge Her coming to your place is investment tting used to following your lead, and if she meets you in your home, it gets her comfortable with your place beforehand, so when you bring her there later it is familiar territory. Never underestimate the value of getting women familiar with places, scenarios, and ideas whenever possible (that’s also a large benefit of chase framing – getting them accustomed to and comfortable with the thought of intimacy with you).

HOW TO MAKE GIRLS CHASE CHASE AMANTE 283 From there, head out to a place nearby, and spend some time there relaxing and getting to know each other. You might go for a walk to a park or the beach after that, and head back to your place to watch a movie or have a drink. Then, of course, you will escalate physically with the goal of becoming intimate. Scenarios to Avoid Scenarios to Avoid These are the top scenarios to avoid when setting up a meet, and why to avoid them: • Bar / Nightclub / Party. Even if you know everyone Bar / Nightclub / Party there and are the most popular person in the venue, these can be hard places for a meet. If you aren’t a minor celebrity there, they are the absolute worst places for a meet. When you go to a nightclub with a girl, expect that you are going to have lots of male competition. These other men will try to peel her off of you while her friends will be a distraction and place judgment on her. Further, alcohol can influence her to flirt / dance / kiss other men, and there are a cacophony of potential bad things going on and may hinder your ability to turn this woman you’ve met into a woman you’re intimate with. Avoid bars at all costs. Even when you think you’re a nightclub pro, it’s still better to avoid these scenes for a meet. The ideal date location is either at your place, or at somewhere very close to your place

HOW TO MAKE GIRLS CHASE CHASE AMANTE 284 Too much can go wrong to make this worth it, and there are virtually no advantages over any other kind of meet. Save the bars, clubs, and parties for until after you’ve slept with a woman at least three or four times, and she’s firmly “your girl”. • Long travel times. If you have to travel long to me Long travel times et a girl, unless you know her well and have been seeing her for a while, this is better to avoid. This is especially true if you are meeting her somewhere other than her home. There is no worse feeling than traveling an hour to meet a girl, and having her not show up. Don’t put yourself in that situation. If you’re going to meet her at her home, that’s perhaps the one reasonably acceptable situation here. • Expensive dates. Expensive dates. Don’t do these, either. There are women whose modus operandi is to get men to take them out to expensive shows and dinners. The men typically do not get intimacy from these women, and the women doing this viewed the expensive dinners and shows as the price that men are willing to pay for their company. Keep your dates cheap and don’t get into situations where you are paying for things for women – contrary to what many men think, the more you pay for a woman, the harder it is to get intimate with her later. • Group activities. Group activities. If you want to become her friend, feel free to join her when she invites you to group activities, or to agree if she asks to bring a friend along. Otherwise, keep it strictly oneflonflone. No exceptions. You don’t want to meet her

HOW TO MAKE GIRLS CHASE CHASE AMANTE 285 friends until you’ve been dating her and sleeping with her for a little while (or you may not want to meet them at all, period, unless you decide to go the traditional boyfriend / husband route) – certainly not beforehand. Friends will slow everything down for you – once her friends know you, they’ll want to know how it’s going with you, and she’ll be pressured by them not to move too quickly with you. Avoid the friends at all costs before you get together with a girl. Basically, keep it oneflonflone, keep it casual, and have your girl at your place as soon as possible so things can proceed smoothly. Cut out anything that draws things out unnecessarily – you want you meets to be fun, exciting, enjoyable, and efficient. You’re a busy man with lots going on so keep things simple and fast. Date Templates Date Templates There are three kinds of date templates will serve you well. You should be able to fit all your dates into one of these three templates: • Informational Date. An informational date is used w Informational Date ith a girl you’ve only spoken with briefly, and/or you can tell is not very comfortable with you yet. You’ll schedule something very light and casual with her – lunch, for instance, or a quick coffee or ice cream. You can knock out a meal and give her the chance to get to know you a little better in the process. After you’ve spent some time together, let her know you enjoyed talking to her, and end the date. One or two

HOW TO MAKE GIRLS CHASE CHASE AMANTE 286 hours are typically enough here. If it goes really well, though, you can always invite her back to your place to cook dinner or have a drink. Typically, this date is just for giving her the chance to get more comfortable with you and begin feeling more connected with you. • Structured Date. A structured date is one where you Structured Date plan everything out. You’ll use this with women who are more comfortable with you than you’d ask on an informational date, but less so than you’d plan an easy date with. The gist is that you set up a number of steps to the date so that the two of you spend time doing different things, and end up back at your place. One example of a standard structured date is as follows: o Have a girl meet you at your place, or pick you up there o Go and grab a coffee or a tea, or get some ice cream o Go do a fun activity – go see a comedy show together (and get very cozy with her during it) or go to the beach (and pick her up and throw her in the water!) o Have the two of us head back to your place to unwind o Make dinner or drinks as necessary o Get intimate Another example: I helped a friend set up a structured date of his own that he used to great success. His looked like this:

HOW TO MAKE GIRLS CHASE CHASE AMANTE 287 o Have girl come to his place and help him make a picnic lunch o Take girl and picnic lunch out to the beach near his house or a nearby park o Head back to his place after the picnic to watch a movie in bed o Get intimate • Easy Date. If a girl seems quite interested in you, Easy Date you can use the easy date format, and have her just come over to your place. You can either tell her you’ll make dinner and drinks or chill, or that she should hang out and watch a movie, or that the two of you can have a drink and head out for a night on the town later. Regardless, the main idea is that she’s spending time with you at your place, and you will never really leave, except perhaps to hit the store for groceries and alcohol, and then head back to your apartment. This is the easiest and most straightforward date template available – use with any girl who’s reasonably comfortable with you to get to intimacy with the least amount of time, expense, and hassle. That last one is what I try to steer all of my dates toward being, in fact, whenever possible. It’s just a lot less demanding on your schedule, and the odds you get together with the girl are a lot higher than just about anything else.

HOW TO MAKE GIRLS CHASE CHASE AMANTE 288 My Standard Date My Standard Date It’s early 2011, and I’ve already taken a bunch of new women as lovers. I took four new lovers in the first fifteen days of the year, and I was hardly even going out and meeting women. A big reason why I’ve been doing so well is that I streamlined my dates. Each one of those girls I slept with on our first date. These days, it looks like this for me: • Meet a girl and talk to her briefly and tell her we should meet up and grab her cell number. • Get right to it and text her within a day or so to meet up – something close to, “Hey Sarah, let’s grab that bite! When are you free over the next couple of days?” • Find out her availability and tell her to meet me at my subway stop. • Meet here there on the day of and take her to a little café very near my apartment. • Talk to her for one to two hours and have a bite to eat. • After our food is finished, tell her to come home with me. Fade to black. Dealing with Flakes Dealing with Flakes First off, preventing flakes: make sure you pick times and dates that are convenient for the girl, and make sure everything is kept simple enough that she doesn’t have to do much mental effort to meet you.