IssueSeven

Table of Contents

Front cover

by Ying Qian 10A

Write-ups

"Friendship" a poem by Jasiel Hor 1

Dealing with disagreements, tension and

fights- Jasiel Hor 2

Relationships- Bowen teh 7

Dear Friend, by Saranya Ragu 11

Teachers' Write-Ups 12

How to Recognize Toxic Relationships 16

Leisure 18
19
Hidden Gems 20
Baked with Love
The Watchlist

friendship

a poem

let that lonely feeling
slowly wash away
know that i'm only
a phone call away
when you’re down
on the ground
reach out your hand
you will be found


between oceans,
galaxies and stars,
i see you, i hear you,
among these
rocky waves,
i'm by your side,

on this ship with you.

dealing with disagreements,

tension & fights

IN FRIENDSHIPS

*p.s. it doesn't always have to

have a bad ending (:

Ever disagreed or argued

with your friends before?

Yeah, friendships can be

complicated at this time in

your life (and at any point,

even when you grow older!).




Know that you always have the

right to say “no” to your friend.




In a healthy friendship, saying “no”

should not be something to be afraid


of. It is important that you
show the same respect when they


disagree with you too.

"If we disagree

on something or

even fight, does

that mean our

relationship is

unhealthy or

falling apart?"



You will never agree with

everything your friend has to

say. It is important that you

and your friend can talk and

listen to each other and work

through a disagreement.
And more often than not,


arguments do happen!
We’re humans after all.

Reasons why friends fight:



feeling excluded
changes in priorities
personality clash

bullying
jealousy
betrayal
different values
competitiveness
misunderstanding
different interests
broken trust
feeling disconnected
different opinions
manipulation
peer pressure
changes in the friend group

You learn a lot about yourself

as you develop relationships:

how you cope with frustration,


what you like to do, and

ultimately, the kind of friends

you want to surround yourself

with and the kind of friend you


want to be to others.

Relationships Pt.1 ByBowenTeh

how to not mess them up

Hi readers, in today’s chapter I wanted to
talk about the several actions you can
take to better and strengthen your
relationships into one that will last even
after you’ve finished school.

You just have to follow this one simple The Quality of Your
rule. Relationships
Determines the
The Golden Rule
The Golden Rule states that if “you want Quality of Your Life
people to like you, you have to make
them feel good, If you make them feel
bad, they will avoid you”. Sounds Simple
right? But there are many many ways
that people accidentally break this rule.

5 September 2022

Mistake #1: Bad Body Language
Ever had a conversation with one of your friends who is on
their phone, and is displaying closed off body language (for
example closed off arms)? When you speak to someone
who is unhappy and uninterested, you often feel ignored
and you think to yourself, “Is what I’m saying boring?”, “Are
they even listening to me?”, “Do they not care?” and when
this happens over and over again you will instinctively start
to avoid that person in the future.

Connect

Mistake #2: Making everything about Mistake #3: Too Much Negativity
yourself What Sort of Emotions are you making
The majority of people enjoy talking others feel? It can be Anger, Disgust,
about themselves. It feels good to tell a Jealousy or Sadness but all these
story and have people listen to it. But emotions have one thing in common ‘They
when someone cuts you off and don’t feel good’. When you talk about
proceeds to tell their own story they're negative things or emotions. When you
doing two things wrong. 1. They are tell a story about how your dog died
telling you that they don’t care about people will feel some of your sadness.
you or your story which is a terrible When you tell a story about how you have
feeling. and 2. They’re telling you they been treated poorly by a superior, people
want you to listen to them, to make will feel some of your anger. There’s a time
them feel good and not the other way and place for stories like these but you
around. Think of it like asking someone have to be careful about these types of
for their happiness without giving them things, especially if you only started to get
anything back in return. to know someone because they make
people feel bad. They will start to
associate you with all of those negative
emotions and avoid you.

By Bowen Teh

Relationships Pt.2ByBowenTeh
how to not mess them up

5 September 2022

Do you ever feel like something is lacking in your life that somebody you know is We will be talking about the 5 simple habits that can preserve
your friendship for years to come.

Have Good Communication
You should work hard to see your friend whenever you can if
you can’t see them then phone if you can’t phone then email it
shows that you are serious about the relationship and allows for
longer, more intimate conversations. Here’s something you can
try when you have nothing to talk about. Ask Them About Their
life, Their opinion or an open-ended question whenever
possible (questions that can’t be answered with a yes or no).

Spend Time Together Be Trustworthy/ Have Impeccable Honesty
What do friends and family have in common? They spend time Don’t EVER lie, everytime you lie, even if it’s just a little lie “I’m on the
together, you should try to work hard to talk to that person or way when you’re really in the shower” or if it’s a big lie the type of lie
family member whenever you can because Friends bring more that can potentially ruin a relationship, no matter what it is even if you
happiness into our lives than virtually anything else and don’t don’t get caught, even if there’s no negative consequences to the
forget about your family as said by freshman Joe Hogan . “They relationship, the problem is that you build a reputation for yourself that
teach you lessons and skills you wouldn't ever learn in school or sometimes you lie, sometimes your words are not to be trusted and
from friends. They also are the first relationship you have. even if no one else finds out you know this.
Spending time with them allows you to grow with them and
deepen your love for each other. You create bonds and special And the truth is, there’s going to be a penalty to pay, if you’ve started
memories you'll never forget.” to build a relationship based on convenient lies that might have seen
worth it at that time, walking back and exposing the lies the truth can
Ideas you can try to spend more time with your friends and hurt but do it anyway. There are times when you have the green card
family: long walks, exercising together, volunteer work, to lie like in a life or death situation but in the 99.9% of the time where
attend a class course together or host a game night and that isn’t the case, tell the truth what is a good friend if not an honest
play games together friend.

Don’t Focus on the differences
Sometimes Friends grow apart, you might not have the same interests
or they might have grown out of a similar interest the important thing
to note is that People Change through Life, Focus on your shared
experiences and above all, cut your friend some slack, think of the
person you were when you first met them, you’ve changed, why can’t
they?

By Bowen Teh

5 September 2022Relationships Pt.2ByBowenTeh
how to not mess them up

Be there when they need you
You may or may not have experienced those moments in life where
you felt alone, when no one can understand you or that you find it hard
to be sane and talk to people right now, the key point is to focus on
what you were feeling during those moments and what you wanted to
happen. Now try and imagine your friend or family member in that
same situation, are they crying, maybe they are experiencing a lighter
version or maybe a heavier more gloomy symptom. People have
different needs for what to do when they are upset but here are some
general ideas that can help you become more dependable when the
situation calls for it. 1. Be Understanding, you don’t have to agree with
their opinion, the point is that you understand what their point of view
is. 2. Listen, sometimes they don’t want advice but just someone to
understand and listen to them. 3. Give advice but not solutions,
because no one wants solutions (unless they are actively asking for
them.) they just care that you are there to support them in their time
of need.

Sometimes You need to ask yourself if this is acceptable
Sometimes you don’t have to behave a certain way or for a family
member to change their behavior using a repetitive series of questions
and asks. Simply asks and then decides. 1. Okay If The answer is yes
then Great, however if the answer is NO, Can I deal with this person in a
way that is acceptable to me or Do I need to filter this person and this
relationship out. If someone is not treating you the way you want to be
treated, the answer is to accept that that relationship is going to
remain the way it is or to filter them out of your life. This can be hard
but once you start filtering those periphery relationships maybe those
old friends that don’t treat you the way you wanna be, those old
friends that don’t push you in a way that you like to be pushed when
you start to filter those people out you start to make room for the type
of people that can lift you up.

By Bowen Teh

The power of relationships
By Bowen Teh

“We are our Relationship. They are the very core of our
existence. The Source Of Our Life.” - Andrew Root.
Relationships are the most powerful force on the planet and
when we sometimes dismiss and discount them, what we are
actually doing is dismissing and sidelining the most important
thing in our life. Even Science says the same thing, that if we
want to live a happy and healthy life, our whole life is actually
having good connections and friendships around us. Did you
know that if you have good relationships that you are less likely
to get a cold, That you are able to recover quicker from Surgery
and that you are 2-5 times less likely to have major health
challenges if you have a close relationship. Relationships are
actually this really powerful thing but we have this tendency to
discount them, dismiss them or to neglect them.

5 September 2022 A social psychologist at harvard found out that ‘Your friends
account for as much as 90% of your success and failure in life.’
Relationships can actually save people around you, you can
actually be a part of rescuing and healing and moving people
towards a better future. “Your friends will determine the quality
and direction of your life” - Andy Stanley that is absolutely
true. But the thing that can change your life isn’t a thing at all
but a person. Here’s something that you honestly already know
deep within, is that if you’re in difficulty what you are going to
actually want is friends to actually care and commit to you
through the whole thing andi your life is bursting with
movement with passion, momentum when things are going
really great what you will also want, is relationships with people
to actually share them with us.

Commit to someone before they are even worth committing to, to not
just be friends with them when it is actually convenient but to actually
be friends with them through the thick and thin of their life. The other
thing you can do is to actually care for your friend, you can listen to
them without actually waiting for your turn to talk. I believe that right
now right here we can actually change the world by how you invest in
their life by how you actually care for them, how you actually commit
to them no matter what is going on and saying I will be there for
you(not sure if I should make this part, part of part 2), because when
you are getting older when you're getting near the end of your life,
what will matter to you isn’t the money or popularity or fame what will
motivate you are the relationships that you have created and
cultivated. Relationships are all around us, They are the most invisible
and most powerful force in the world, so never devalue them instead
let’s invest in them and actually start changing the world that way by
actually caring for us.

By Bowen Teh

Dear friend,

To whom it may concern,
Do you ever look back at those memories with your friends where you've
laughed so hard you felt like your stomach was about to explode, or the
time you'e both failed a test and cried it out together and comforted
each other, or when you lied to your parents saying "i'm just going
there to study" when in reality you did anything but study.

Yeah, those are memories that will last a lifetime. Those are memories
that even on your hardest days will somehow manage to spark a light in
you. It's a friendship because even when your calls go silent, it
doesn't get awkward, it's a friendship because when you just need to
fall, there's always someone to catch you on the other side. It's in
moments like these when I wonder what will be of me without my friends,
or what my life would have looked like if I had not met him or her.

Your friends should be your anchor when the waves get too rough, they
are your guidance, your compass when you just don't know where your life
is going anymore. Keep your friends close, because when you feel like
you are just about to lose everything, they might be the ones to help
you pick yourself up again.

FriendWITH LOVE,

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the ideal student and
teacher relationship?

Ms. Sally

The ideal relationship of any kind is one of
honesty, integrity and open communication.

A classroom built on mutual trust and
respect is, in my opinion, the best

environment to learn and grow in - not
just academically, but also emotionally.

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Of course, a student-teacher relationship will
involve interactions that are not solely focused on
learning, such as discussing personal interests, likes
and dislikes, current public affairs, etc., though the
purpose of such interactions is to develop a strong
teacher-student relationship that will support the

learning process.

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TOXIC
RELATIONSHIPS

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CTOOXMICMUNICATION

Toxic communication can come in many forms & patterns, like getting
triggered and blaming the person instead of calmly communicating and
resolving the issue. Other examples are, jumping to conclusions, using
frustrated language, shaming, negative body language and many more.

Being chronically late, casually

PATTERNS “forgetting” events, speaking
lowly of you or your family and
friends. Other signs are
nagging, criticism,

OF stonewalling, lying, put downs,
pressuring the other, and many

DIRESPECT more.

Hostility in a ATMOHSOPSHTEIRLEE
relationship
manifests as an
attitude of
contempt with a
conscious intention
to do harm. This
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covertly or through
gossip and slander
or more explicitly
through verbal or
physical attacks.

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In a healthy relationship, no matter platonic or romantic, there’s a significant
back-and-forth where you’re complimenting each other, bringing out the best

in each other, and letting each other know ‘that "I care for you".
There’s not a lot of this going on in a toxic relationship. Instead, they could be
comparing you to other people and damage your self esteem. If this is going

on in the relationship, you know it is toxic.

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UMI

Neo soul / R&B

Tierra Umi Wilson, best known as UMI, is an American singer
and songwriter born in Seattle, Washington. Her artistry
being a reflection of her personality, unique and nostalgic

allows listeners a personal connection to UMI and her music.
Remember Me

"I wanted to write about heartbreak from a different angle, one that was both sad and
uplifting. I was trying to capture the nostalgia that comes from remembering a past

relationship and the mixed feelings you get when you want someone to be happy, but
know that it might not be with you."

Midnight Blues

This song portrays the feelings and thoughts of when that someone who has
pull you out from a rut, misery or an agony leaves your side, and all is left is
how that person has made you feel, lovable, and worthy

Butterfly

This song delivered a message that no matter where you are in life, your soul is
powerful and can overcome any obstacle. Most people has spent their lives trying
to make other people smile and happy, but kept forgetting that you, deserves love

from you, too.

1 serving 10 minutes

Baked with L ve

Episode six: Chocolate Lava Cake

Ingredients Method

-¼ cup dark/semi-sweet 1) Preheat the oven to 180°C / 355°F
chocolate chips 2) Generously grease a large 1-cup capacity ramekin
-60 g salted butter
-¼ cup plain flour with canola spray or cooking spray
-¼ cup unsweetened cocoa

powder
-¼ cup icing 3) Place chocolate chips and butter in a large heat-proof
sugar/powdered sugar jug. Microwave on high for 1 minute. Whisk together
-¼ cup milk with a fork until smooth.



4) Add flour, cocoa powder, icing sugar and milk. Whisk
with the fork until thick, shiny and smooth.



5) Pour into the prepared ramekin and bake for 15
minutes.



6) Dust with icing sugar and enjoy!

The Watchlist

TRIGGER WARNING: DRUGS & SUBSTANCE ABUSE

BEAUTIFUL BOY

DIRECTED BY FELIX VAN GROENINGEN

GENRE
Biographical drama
STARRING
Steve Carell, Timothée Chalamet, Maura Tierney, Amy Ryan...
PLOT
Is this kind of addiction a disease, a behavior disorder, or a moral
failing? Is this trend a side-effect of American culture and
history? Is it genetic or learned? What is it like to be addicted?
Can addiction be treated, and are relapses common and likely?
These questions and more are explored in Beautiful Boy, the
story of a teenager who gets addicted to crystal meth and,
despite the loving support of his family and his own best
intentions, can't stop using it. In the film, Timothee Chalamet
plays the teenage addict, and Steve Carrell portrays his loving
and idealistic father who is willing to do whatever it takes to
retrieve his son from the prison of addiction and bring him home
to heal.

120 MINUTES