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Sybil Carey

Celebration of life

Feb. 3, 1944 - Dec. 20, 2015

Franconia Town Hall - Jan. 2, 2016 - 1 p.m.

Order Of Service

Welcome and Calling the Directions - led by Sue Miller

Mourner’s Kaddish - led by Cantor Amy Mitz

is is the traditional Hebrew prayer to honor the dead. A translation
and transliteration are printed in the center.

Avinu Malkeinu - sung by Cantor Amy Mitz

Recently Sybil told us that she sang this Hebrew prayer to her father as
he crossed from this world into the next. Likewise, Amy came and sang
it to Sybil in her final days. A portion of the words translate to:
“Our Father, Our King / Be gracious and answer our prayers / For we
have little to commend us / Deal kindly and gently with us / And save
our people”

Memories - Mary Knab and Joan Kargel

Memories - Jonathan and Kathy Parker

Memories - Betsey Phillips

I Am Love - read by Leah Carey

is poem came to Ellie Drew (a dear friend of Sybil, Leah & Sue) one
night as she was assisting her friend Mindrol in her transition from this
world to the next. Rather than sending a particular memory to share,
Ellie asked that this poem be read instead.

Dearest Sybil - read by Chris Jacobson

Chris wrote this poem in August and it brought Sybil tremendous com-
fort. A portion of the poem hung on the wall across from her bed for
the last couple of months, and we read a portion of it for her immedi-
ately after her passing.

Memories - Becky Fitzpatrick

Memories - Alison Dodd

Memories - Mark Taylor

Memories - Joanne Carey

Memories - Beth Simon

Memories - Ruth and Jack Cook

Your memories

Two of Sybil’s favorite things in the world were to share stories and to
laugh. We invite you to stand and share a memory of her that you will
hold dear.

Leah’s memories

Sue’s memories / Closing the circle

Cake and ice cream

Over the past two years, Sybil was extremely careful about what she ate,
using food as another means to control the cancer. A few months ago
she asked Leah to promise that, if things went downhill, she would
bring her as much chocolate cake and ice cream as she could eat. So
today we invite you to partake in chocolate cake from the French Sisters
Bakery (with your choice of chocolate or coconut frosting!) and ice
cream in Sybil’s honor.

The Memory Tree

Today is an opportunity to share our most treasured memories of Sybil.
Some loved ones who were unable to be here today have sent their memo-
ries in writing and you will find those hung up around the room, along
with some of our favorite snapshots of Sybee.

We’d also like you to share your favorite memories with us. At the back
of the room there is a table with cards and pens to write your memories.
Please take a card - or two or six - and record your favorite moments with
Sybil. Tell us about an adventure you had together, something she taught
you, a time you laughed or cried together, or anything else that stands out
in your memory. Hang your card on the tree and they will remain as a liv-
ing testament to the impact Sybil had on so many lives.

Do you see a paper flower that you like? Please take it home with you. Sybil
wasn’t a cut flowers person, so Leah made these paper flowers in her honor. May
they brighten your home and keep her memory alive.

‫ ונורכיז הכרבל‬- May her memory be a blessing

For the past two years,
e ree Musketeers
(Sybil, Leah and Sue)
were blessed with an
oncologist that we
loved, Dr. Joyce Liu of
Dana Farber in
Boston.

On learning of Sybil’s
passing, Dr. Liu
shared this thought
that has meant a lot
to Leah and Sue over
the past days:

“Sybil was a fantas-
tic, remarkable
woman who dealt
with the challenges
with such grace and
an ability to think of
her life as a whole,
which not a lot of
people can do.”

I Am Love

By Ellie Drew & Mindrol
I AM LOVE
A drop from the eternal ocean
I come from Love, I return to Love
I AM LOVE
My drop of Love catches a ride on a spark of light
I come to experience, to create
in this playground of God
e light, my container,
A powerful tool – a body with thought and feeling
Allows me earth's precious experience
My drop resides in the center of light
With my heart the only true teacher
I AM LOVE, riding the light until it fades
Lost in the trappings of the mind
Attached to the illusions of experience
I sometimes forget I am Love's perfection
But when I leave this experience of riding the light
I return to Love's embrace
To remember I have always been LOVE
I release the illusion of imperfection
For I am Love,
I come from Love,
I return to Love
I AM LOVE

Mourner’s Kaddish

Hebrew Transliteration
Yit'gadal v'yit'kadash sh'mei raba (Cong: Amein).
b'al'ma di v'ra khir'utei
v'yam'likh mal'khutei b'chayeikhon uv'yomeikhon
uv'chayei d'khol beit yis'ra'eil
ba'agala uviz'man kariv v'im'ru:
(Mourners and Congregation:)
Amein. Y'hei sh'mei raba m'varakh l'alam ul'al'mei al'maya
Yit'barakh v'yish'tabach v'yit'pa'ar v'yit'romam v'yit'nasei
v'yit'hadar v'yit'aleh v'yit'halal sh'mei d'kud'sha
(Mourners and Congregation:)
B'rikh hu.
l'eila min kol bir'khata v'shirata
toosh'b'chatah v'nechematah, da'ameeran b'al'mah, v'eemru:
(Mourners and Congregation:)
Amein
Y'hei sh'lama raba min sh'maya
v'chayim aleinu v'al kol yis'ra'eil v'im'ru
(Mourners and Congregation:)
Amein
Oseh shalom bim'romav hu ya'aseh shalom
aleinu v'al kol Yis'ra'eil v'im'ru
(Mourners and Congregation:)
Amein

Mourner’s Kaddish

In the Jewish tradition, a mourner is asked to respond to the death of a
loved one by standing to recite the Mourner’s Kaddish. Surprisingly, this
prayer contains no reference to death, to the deceased, or to the experience
of bereavement. But it asks that God’s name be expanded and sanctified in
this world, and it yearns for a time when all live in harmony on earth. One
explanation suggests that, when a good person dies, God is somehow dimin-
ished. At least in this world, among us, the divine presence has been re-
duced. It is as if a little bit of God has disappeared with the person’s death,
because it was through our loved one’s best actions that God’s presence and
values were being activated in our world.

Now that our loved ones are gone, we must rise to occupy their place; and
so we pray that, through our actions, God’s presence be expanded and mag-
nified to fill that vacuum.

~ Rabbi Harold Kushner

English Translation

May God’s name be exalted and hallowed throughout this world, created by
God’s will. May God’s sovereignty be established during your life and your
days, and the life of all the house of Israel, speedily and at a near time; and
say, Amen.

May God’s great name be praised for ever and to eternity.

Blessed and praised, lauded, exalted and extolled, honored, elevated and ac-
claimed be the name of the Holy Blessed One, beyond all the blessings and
songs, beyond all the praises and consolations which are uttered in the
world; and say, Amen.

May there be abundant peace from heaven, and a life of goodness for us and
for all Israel; and say,

Amen.

e Maker of peace on the high heavens, will make peace over us, and over
all Israel; and say,

Amen.