FRENCH CHILDREN DON'T THROW FOOD

marital satisfaction 221–2
‘marshmallow test’ 73–4
Masson, Estelle 256
maternelle see école maternelle
meals 81–2, 248, 255–7, 263–5, 281

see also eating
Merle, Sandra 248, 249, 250, 251
Merryman, Ashley 312
Message 35–6, 146
Mischel, Walter 72–4, 84
Mogel, Wendy 300
Mother and Infant Protection service (PMI) 125, 150–1
mothers see Anglophone parents; French mothers; French parents

narrated play 168–9, 170
natural childbirth 37
naughtiness, small acts of (bêtises) 197, 287
nights see sleep
n’importe quoi (whatever) 85, 86, 87
no, saying 270–1, 295
nurseries, America 140
nurseries, France see crèches
nursery schools (école maternelle) 183–7

Ollivier, Debra 234
overweight children 244

Pailhas, Géraldine 160
parents see Anglophone parents; French parents
parisienne 17
patience 76–7, 84, 134–5

pausing 56–9, 61, 68
perineal re-education 224–6
Pernoud, Laurence 247
physical aggression 288
Piaget, Jean 100
playing

alone 83
narrated 168–9, 170
pleasure 29, 105
Pleux, Didier 90
PMI (Protection Maternelle et Infantile) 125, 150–1
praise 309–14
pregnancy 25, 28–35
privacy 66–7
Protection Maternelle et Infantile (PMI) 125, 150–1
public services 8
pushy-parent syndrome 4

rational beings, children 111–19
rhythm 52, 56, 61, 71, 94
Rousseau, Jean-Jacques 101, 106, 295

sage (wise and calm) 76, 109, 315
saying no 270–1, 295
self-control 76, 109
self-reliance 66
self-soothing 56
sensitivity 84, 140–1
sex, during pregnancy 25, 30
sleep

Anglophone parents 45–6, 47, 54, 61

bedtime 288–9
disturbed 45–8
French children 3, 49–52
pausing 56–9, 61, 68
rhythm 52, 56, 61
sleep cycles 57–8, 60
sleep studies 62–4
sleep deprivation 46
sleep training 48
social codes 187–93
spanking 294–5
Spock, Benjamin 114
Steingarten, Jeffrey 252–3
strictness 286–7
sweets 259–61
swimming 98

tantrums 290
telling on someone 306
Thompson, Caroline 93
Turkle, Sherry 114

vegetables 245–6

waiting 77–8
calm attitude 75
eating 72
frustration 66, 77, 89–94
patience 76–7, 84, 134–5
pausing 56–9, 61, 68
practising 78–83

Warner, Judith 4
weight

after pregnancy 152–7
during pregnancy 32–4
overweight children 244
whatever (n’importe quoi) 85, 86, 87
whims (caprices) 91
words, ‘magic’ 188
work 164–5, 166–7
work–life balance 179

yogurt cake (gâteau au yaourt) 96–7

About the Author

Pamela Druckerman is a freelance journalist commenting on lifestyle issues
married to English football writer. They live in Paris and have three young
children. Apart from using her own first-hand observation of her French
friends and neighbours for this new book, she has interviewed scores of
French mothers, teachers and child experts.

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