KMU1013 Helping Relationship

KMU1013 Helping Relationship

Mourning

and

GRIEVING:

How To Deal With The Mourning
and Grieving Process?

GROUP 18

Rowena anak
Andrew Jaidi

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Nur Faezah
binti Sabli

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Lecturer: Madam Nor Hasniah binti Ibrahim
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TABLE OF CONTENTS

What is grief? 1

The Functions of The 2
Funeral

5 stages of grief: the 3-4
kubler-ross model

what is mourning? 5

how to deal with the 6
grieving and mourning
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process?

WHAT

IS Grief is the emotional response to a
loss. There are various ways in which
you may respond to grief after a loss.
The grief response solely focuses on

emotions.

GRIEF?

Grief is Internal




While they are often used interchangeably, the words
grief and mourning contain a subtle but important
difference. The term grief refers to our thoughts and
feelings on the inside. After the loss of loved one, our
initial, private response is grief. We feel bereaved,
which means “torn apart.” Mourning is the next step
in the process.

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The Function of The Funeral

A good funeral helps us to begin mourning by
externalizing our feelings. It offers us a “good
beginning” and moves us from grief to mourning,
from solitude to community. This is a necessary part
of the journey to healing.

It is important that we find an outward channel for our
grief, an opportunity to mourn publicly. By coming
together with a group of people to express our honest
feelings, we find a healthy way to release these
feelings. We also find love, support, and
encouragement in each other, and we find the
strength to begin our journey through grief.

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5 stages of grief:

the kübler-ross model

1. DENIAL

Denial is a common defense mechanism. It may help you buffer the
immediate shock of the hurtful situation. As an immediate reaction,
you might doubt the reality of the loss at first. After this first reaction of
shock and denial, you may go numb for a while. At some point, you
could feel like nothing matters to you anymore. Life as you once knew
it has changed. Denial is a temporary response that carries you
throughthefirstwaveofpain.

2. ANGER
According to Kübler-Ross, pain from a loss is often redirected and
expressed as anger. Feeling intensely angry might surprise you or your
loved ones, but it’s not uncommon. This anger serves a purpose. It
might be particularly overwhelming for some people to feel anger
because, in many cultures, anger is a feared or rejected emotion. You
might be more used to avoiding it than confronting it. During the
anger stage of grief, you might start asking questions like “Why me?”
or “What did I do to deserve this?”. You could also feel suddenly angry
atinanimateobjects,strangers,friends,orfamilymembers.Youmight
feelangryatlifeitself.

3

Bargaining is a stage of grief that helps you hold on 3. BARGAINING
to hope in a situation of intense pain. You might
think to yourself that you’re willing to do anything
and sacrifice everything if your life is restored to
how it was before the loss. Guilt might be an
accompanying emotion during this stage as you
inadvertently might be trying to regain some
control, even if at your own expense. All these
emotions and thoughts aren’t uncommon. As
hard as it might feel, this helps you heal as you
confronttherealityofyourloss.

4. DEPRESSION Just as in all the other stages of grief, depression
is experienced in different ways. There’s no
right or wrong way to go about it, nor is there a
deadline to overcome it. In this instance,
depression isn’t a sign of a mental health
condition. Instead, it’s a natural and
appropriate response to grief. During the
depression stage, you start facing your present
reality and the inevitability of the loss you’ve
experienced. Understandably, this realization
may lead you to feel intense sadness and
despair.

Acceptance is more about how you acknowledge 5. ACCEPTANCE
the losses you’ve experienced, how you learn to
live with them, and how you readjust your life
accordingly. You might feel more comfortable
reaching out to friends and family during this
stage, but it’s also natural to feel you prefer to
withdraw at times. You may also feel like you
accept the loss at times and then move to another
stage of grief again. This back-and-forth between
stagesisnaturalandapartofthehealingprocess.

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What

Is

mourning?

Mourning is the outward response
to grief. In other words, it’s how you
express grief after experiencing a
loss and how you adapt to grief
after a loss. Cultural and religious
traditions and customs may be a
part of mourning.

For example, a funeral or celebration of
life after someone passes is a ritual of
mourning. Other practices of mourning
after someone passes may include:
· sharing positive memories of the
person
· planting a tree or flower in their
memory
· donating to an organization they were
a part of
· starting a foundation to raise
awareness of a specific condition
· praying

Anything that expresses grief that isn’t
precisely the emotional reaction is a part
of mourning.

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How To Deal With The Grieving and Mourning
Process?

Seek support from family members or friends: Talk
to your family members or your closest friends
about your feelings and avoid being alone for a long
time to avoid being depressed.

Taking care of yourself by getting back to hobbies or
activities that brings you happiness and help you
cope with the grieving process: Do activities that can
entertain you such as painting, planting flowers, and
starts making a journal.

Seek for professional help: See a counselor or a
psychologist to talk about your emotions so that they
can give advices on how to deal with the situation.

Avoid taking drugs or alcohol as a coping mechanism:
Drug and alcohol abuse could never solve the
problems, instead it could lead to other problems
such as health issues.
Don’t push yourself too much to cope with the
situation: Slowly accept the fact that it is normal to
feel the pain of grief but be gentle on yourself by
drinking plenty of water and eat healthy food
because mourning and grieving is indeed exhausting.

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