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CHAPTER 1 ENDNOTES

1. Josh McDowell and Norm Wakefield, Friend of the Lonely Heart (Waco, Tex.: Word,
1991), 11.
2. “Survey: Non-attendees Find Faith outside Church- USATODAY.com.” Survey: Non-
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CHAPTER 2
1. See Matthew 9:36; 14:14; 15:32; 20:34; Mark 1:41; 6:34; 8:2.
2. See Genesis 1:4-25.
3. See Genesis 1:28-30.
4. See 1 Corinthians 12:21.
5. Ivor Powell, Mark’s Superb Gospel (Grand Rapids, Mich.: Kregel, 1985), 318.
6. See Galatians 5:14; James 2:8.
7. George Barna, The Barna Report (Ventura, Calif.: Regal, 1992), 67–69.

CHAPTER 3
1. See Romans 5:8.
2. See Matthew 10:8.
3. See Philippians 4:19.
4. Adapted from Merriam-Webster’s Collegiate Dictionary, 10th ed. (Springfield, Mass.:

Merriam-Webster, 1995).
5. Ibid.

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6. See Romans 5:8.
7. Merriam-Webster’s Collegiate Dictionary.
8. See Ephesians 1:5; Romans 1:7; Romans 8:17; 1 Peter 2:9.
9. Adapted from Merriam-Webster’s Collegiate Dictionary.
10. See Exodus 20:12; Leviticus 19:32; 1 Peter 2:17.
11. See Romans 13:7.
12. Adapted from Merriam-Webster’s Collegiate Dictionary.
13. Ibid.

CHAPTER 4
1. Josh McDowell and Dick Day, How to Be a Hero to Your Kids (Waco, Tex.: Word,

1991), 127.
2. See 2 Corinthians 1:3-4.
3. See Matthew 19:13-15.
4. See Genesis 1:26; 9:6; James 3:9.
5. McDowell and Day, How to Be a Hero, 92.
6. See Ephesians 4:29.

CHAPTER 5
1. Eerdmans’ Handbook to Christianity in America (Grand Rapids: Eerdmans, 1983), 313.
2. See Matthew 7:9-10.
3. Marriage in America Report, Institute for American Values (New York: 1995).

CHAPTER 6
1. See Philippians 4:19.

CHAPTER 7
1. The Fuller Institute of Church Growth Report (Pasadena, Calif.: 1991).
2. David L. Goetz, “Is the Pastor’s Family Safe at Home?” Leadership (fall 1992): 38–44.
3. Fuller Institute Report.
4. George Barna, Today’s Pastors (Ventura, Calif.: Regal, 1993), 59.
5. See Acts 1:4.
6. See Mark 1:35.
7. See 2 Corinthians 5:21.

CHAPTER 8
1. See James 4:6.
2. See Ephesians 3:20.
3. See Ephesians 2:4.

CHAPTER 9
1. See Psalm 51:17; 2 Corinthians 7:10.
2. See 2 Corinthians 7:8-10.
3. See Romans 14:12.

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CHAPTER 10
1. Dennis Rainey, The Tribute (Nashville, Tenn.: Nelson, 1994).
2. See 1 John 1:9.

CHAPTER 11
1. See 2 Corinthians 3:2.
2. See 1 Thessalonians 2:7-8.

CHAPTER 12
1. See 2 Corinthians 12:9.
2. See John 1:1-2, 14.
3. See Philippians 2:6-8.
4. See Hebrews 4:15.
5. See Romans 15:7; 1 John 1:9; 2 Corinthians 1:3-4.
6. See John 17:21; 1 Corinthians 12:24-25.
7. See 1 Peter 3:15.
8. See Ephesians 4:29.
9. See 1 John 1:9; James 5:16; Ephesians 4:32.
10. See Romans 12:15; 2 Corinthians 1:2-4.

CHAPTER 13
1. See Hebrews 4:12.
2. See Acts 6:4 (NASB).
3. See John 14:23; 17:17-26.
4. See Philippians 3:7-10.
5. See 2 Corinthians 7:8-10.
6. See Romans 5:17; 8:32, 36-39.
7. See 1 Thessalonians 5:23.
8. See Proverbs 15:1.
9. See 2 Corinthians 5:17.
10. See Romans 7:25–8:1.
11. See 1 John 4:18.
12. Josh McDowell and Bob Hostetler, Right From Wrong (Waco, Tex.: Word, 1994), 37.
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10. See Luke 9:51-56.
11. See Matthew 23:37.
12. See Matthew 3:17 (paraphrased).
13. See Romans 15:7.
14. See 2 Corinthians 1:3-4.
15. See Revelation 3:17.
16. See 2 Corinthians 5:18-21.
17. See John 13:35.

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About the Author

Dr. David Ferguson and his wife Teresa lead a multi-disciplinary
team of trainers and professional associates sharing a message of
relational health and relevance in a variety of organizations, business
and faith-community settings. With a simple focus on loving God
and others well, the Great Commandment Network serves more
than 40,000 churches in the US and abroad with leader-care, training
and resources. The Center for Relational Leadership engages business
and community entities in a “Legacy Leadership” journey of doing
Business As UnUsual, in order to deliver Exceptional Customer Ex-
perience. As the developers of Intimacy Therapy, countless couples,
families and singles have benefited from the healing and hope shared
through those mentored by the Fergusons.
Passionate about the simple message of the Great Commandment—
loving God and loving others—the Fergusons are committed to
being vulnerable and transparent about their own journey of how
God continues to heal pain and lead them in walking together with
Him. They hope through the sharing of their journey, others will
also come to know God as He really is and find abundance in life
and ministry.
David has two doctoral degrees from Oxford Graduate School, is
a member of the Oxford Society of Scholars and has authored 28
books plus numerous articles. David’s graduate and post-doctoral
work in Theology, Counseling and the Social Sciences focused on
Biblical principles for personal, family and community transforma-
tion. He and his wife Teresa have been married 50 years and reside
in Austin, Texas. They are the parents of 3 children, 7 grandchildren
and 2 great-grandchildren.

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