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PARENTING STRATEGIES FOR UNCERTAINTY AND STRESS Hashana Shrestha
Licensed Clinical Psychologist
As parents, we want to do everything we can to protect our child. The coronavirus disease (COVID-19) pandemic has brought with it new challenges for all of us around the globe.
It is natural instinct of parents to protect child. Sometimes when trying to
protect them, are we overprotecting them? Are we doing things for them
which they can do it for themselves? Are we micromanaging them? We
tend to do such things more when we are more worried and not able to
manage our own emotions. Present situation is something that is creating
persistent stress in a topic or other. As parents, let’s explore some of the
ways that are helpful for us and for our children as well during situation of stress and uncertainty.
Parents should encourage their kids to let them know if they’re not feeling well, or if they are feeling worried about the virus so that the parents can be of help.
Adults can empathize with the fact that children are feeling understandably nervous and worried about COVID-19.
Another thing we can do is actually help them look outward. So to say to them, ‘Listen, I know you’re feeling really anxious about catching coronavirus, but part of why we’re asking you to do all these things — to wash your hands, to stay home — is that that’s also how we take care of members of our community. We think about the people around us, too.’
Children need structure.
Parents make sure that there’s a schedule for the day — that can include playtime, get on their phone and connect with their friends, but it also should have no screen time and time set aside to help around the house. For parents who are not able to supervise their children during the day, explore with your caretaker ways to create a structure that works best.
Get your children involved too.
We need to think about what we value and we need to build a structure that reflects that. It will be a great relief to our kids to have a sense of a predictable day and a sense of when they’re supposed to be working and when they get to play.”
For children 10 and 11 or older, ask the child to design it. Give them a sense of the kinds of things that should be included in their day, and then work with what they create.” When it comes to younger children, “depending on who is supervising them structure their day so that all of the things that need to get done before anything else happen: all of their schoolwork and all of their chores. For some families, doing that at the start of the day will work best for kids. Other families may find it may work okay to start the day a little bit later after sleeping in and enjoying breakfast together as a family.
News is just a click away and it’s in our hand.
Not only us, news is just a click and it’s in hands of our children as well. Supervision in content they are watching is important. At present, it is more accessible for children with ongoing online academics. Precautions and rules to follow while using social media should be reminded them frequently.
Don’t assume that children don’t need to know or they must have known this before so I don’t need
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to tell them.
Check with your child how they are understanding and perceiving about the news going around. Give them proper information depending on the age how they understand.
When it comes to processing difficult emotions, “take your cues from your child, and really think a lot about balancing talking about feelings with finding distractions, and allow distractions when kids need relief from feeling very upset.” Have a family game night every few days or cook meals together.
With teens and their screens, allow for some flexibility, but not a free-for-all. Ask your teen, ‘how can we handle this? Create a structure and we will talk on this”
Let your child feel their emotions
Support, validate and normalize that they are very sad and very frustrated about the losses they are going through- loss of daily routine, loss of being with friends, loss to socialize, loss of hanging out with friends, loss of playing out in ground/park or loss of plans.
Ways to respond to your child
• Acknowledge your child’s feeling, not their words: Search out together what your child is feeling, explore it and give a name to the feeling. It helps child to identify what is bothering him/her. Importantly, it helps child to separate the problem from himself.
• Be specific when you praise your child: Rather than praising on his outcome, praise your child’s effort. It is one of the best way to focus on the problem solving skills he/she is using to get through a situation. Tell your child what you have noticed, how you felt about his/her effort, skill, attitude. In this way you are allowing your child to help getting connected positively with the situation.
• Mix humor in your communication helping them to see things differently: Role playing the situation, using the funniest possible circumstance can help to see the problem differently. If your child is worried about going to school, you can dress up in fun and tackle the problem as his teacher, friend.
• Talk openly with your child about their negative self-talk: We as parents should realize that negative self-talk can often be symptom of fear, explore this with your child. Explore together what child might be afraid of. Address the identified fear and again work together to find the solution.
• Share about your ‘failures’ : Everyone in the family can share something they failed on that particular day or relating to problem of child. Empathize with each other, celebrate the learning from failure. Let your child know, sometimes it is OK to feel not so OK.
• Create an affectionate, warm base: When we provide a strong and warm base, they can explore more because they accept that they are loved no matter what would be the result, it matters about their effort.
As a parent, are you -sad, irritated or angry? Reflect your own emotions and monitor your own behavior.
How is your behavior towards your child? Because........
“Children have never been very good at listening to their elders, but they have never failed to imitate them.” - James A. Baldwin
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2021-22 THEME ADDRESS
Shekhar Mehta RI President-elect 1 February 2021
Namaste. Hello, the movers and shakers of Rotary around the world. You, the DGEs, are the movers, and I am Shekhar.
Today you are taking a very important step in your journey of service and leadership. The forthcoming 17 months will be the most amazing, fruitful months in your life. You can turn this period into the most satisfying period of your life. During this period, I urge you to dream big, guided by our shared vision for Rotary. You will plan and set goals, inspire and motivate Rotarians to reach goals — goals to expand the reach of our organization by increasing membership, and goals to increase the impact of Rotary by serving the world. And in this journey, you will play a stellar role as you share your goals with Rotarians and Rotaractors in your district and inspire them to “do more and grow more.” Friends, this will be our guiding mantra. “Do more” as in bigger and impactful service projects, and “grow more” as in increasing our membership and expanding
the participation.
Membership, friends, continues to be our biggest challenge. For the last 17-plus years, our membership has been at 1.2 million. Together let us change that over the next
17 months. My dear change-maker governors, here is your opportunity to make the biggest change in Rotary history as far as membership is concerned. What we have not accomplished in the last 17 years, I challenge you to accomplish in 17 months.
But that’s too big a dream, you may say. Well, if I ask you to dream big, I have to lead from the front. One of my inspirations comes from what George Bernard Shaw said. He said, “You see things; and you say ‘why?’ But I dream things that never were; and I say ‘Why not?’ ”
So, friends, the dream is to increase our membership to 1.3 million by 1 July 2022!
How can we reach that incredible goal? The answer is each one, bring one — ask each Rotarian to bring one member to Rotary in the next 17 months. Just one member in
17 months is all you need to ask of every Rotarian in your district. You can ensure this by leading by example and having your club presidents lead by example as well. As Rotarians in every club do this, they too will become change-makers, as they will change for good the lives of each person that they make a Rotarian.
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Governors-elect, we need to grow more to do more. I have always hugely been inspired by the motto of Rotary — Service Above Self. It has taught me to care for others and share with others. Service, to me, is about thinking of others even before I think of myself. On thinking about others, let me share one of my Rotary moments.
I had just joined my Rotary club, and the club organized a limb camp. Here we were, distributing calipers, artificial limbs, and hand cycles. Every member was given some responsibility and so was I. I was to check if the beneficiary of the hand cycle had enough strength in his hand to ride the tricycle by his hands. And I was to do this by asking the beneficiary to pull my hand, so that I could fathom the strength in his hands. As I stood in my designated spot, waiting for the beneficiary to come, I saw him crawling towards me. He had no legs, so he had to crawl towards me. I stretched my hands to hold his, and I’ll be honest, in that moment, I was thinking about me and not about him. I was thinking about my cleanliness, my health. I did not want to hold his hand. But I did it and kept thinking of myself for the second and third set of hands. But suddenly after the sixth, seventh set of hands, my empathy towards their plight grew and soon enough I could feel their pain, their challenges, and I was thinking more about them than I was thinking of myself. It was at that moment, friends, when from being just a member of my Rotary club, I became a Rotarian.
Soon I started attending more club projects. As a Rotarian, when I had first gone out to the rural areas of India 35 years back, I truly understood the plight of my brethren. They had no toilets in their homes, the water they drank was from the same pond that they bathed in, the schools were in the shade of a tree, and the black painted wall was the only blackboard in the school. The nearest health center was a few miles away with basic facilities. And then, through my Rotary club, we helped set up toilets, provided clean drinking water, enhanced the education system, and set up world-class health facilities, not just in my community or my city, but in my country.
Rotary kindled the spark within me to look beyond myself and embrace humanity. Service became a way of life for me, and my life’s guiding philosophy became, “Service is the rent I pay for the space I occupy on this earth.” And I want to be a good tenant of this earth. I am sure each of you also has found your opportunity to serve. You too may have provided eyesight to the blind, food to the hungry, homes to the homeless. They may have been small opportunities for service or large projects. More than just the size, it is the attitude that defines service.
Gandhi was once getting up on a train. Even as he was getting up on the train, the train started moving, and one of his slippers fell off. Gandhi’s immediate reaction was to throw his other slipper to where the previous one had fallen. His friend was traveling with him and asked him, “Why did you do that?” Gandhi said, “Someone will find that slipper. What good will be one slipper to him? So I threw the other.” Friends, it was a small act of service, but I think it was a big attitude of service. Are we also ready to think of others before we think of ourselves? As Rotarians, we can do just that.
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Why else have Rotarians spent billions of dollars and volunteer hours over the last 35-plus years to eradicate polio and serve mankind? Why else have we set up thousands of schools, hundreds of hospitals, provided water in parched villages, brought dignity to people by providing toilets in their homes, given the gift of life to tens of thousands of children by doing their heart surgeries? Rotarians keep serving because we want to change lives. One project in Nepal changes the lives of a few thousand people, the family health program in Africa has served millions of people, a water project in Haiti has changed the lives of more than 10 million people. Back home in India, the T-E-A-C-H program of literacy and education has impacted the lives of millions of children.
Many of you have been an important part of similar service projects, and you have changed the lives of people. There was a need to serve, and you served. Today the need to serve has become even more necessary and apparent. So, my dear change-maker governors, in the coming Rotary year, I request you, urge you, cajole you to serve people and help to change their lives. So, my dear governors, our theme for the year 2021-22 is Serve to Change Lives.
I urge you to lead by example and inspire Rotarians and Rotaractors to participate in projects that have a sustained impact. Join hands with other Rotarians, other organiza- tions, corporations, and do projects that impact your community, your city — projects that can change lives of people across the country and around the world. At the end of your term as district governor, you should feel that because of your leadership, because of your inspiration to the Rotarians and Rotaractors, the world has changed for better because of the service done by them during the year.
As we all serve, we ch ange the lives of not only others; we change our lives , too. Vivekananda, one of India’s greatest philosophers, said, “When you help someone, do not think that you are obliging him or her. In fact, it is he or she who is obliging you by giving you an opportunity to give back something to this world from where we have received so much.” Also, he added beautifully, “In life, take the position of the donor or the server, and yet be so humble in giving and serving that let the donor or server kneel down and ask: ‘May I give? May I serve?’ ”
Friends, to live for others, to care for others, to serve others and change their lives is the best way to live our own lives. Just as Albert Einstein said, “Only a life lived for others is a life worthwhile.”
And friends, as we go about our service initiatives, our special focus this year will be on empowering girls. One of Rotary’s core values is diversity. We have a public statement that outlines our belief in DEI — diversity, equity, and inclusion. It is important that we empower the girl as we all find that more often than not, the girl is disadvantaged. We will serve all children, but our focus will be specially on the girl. There are many issues that girls face in different parts of the world, and you as leaders will ensure that we try and mitigate the disadvantage of the girl that they may have.
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Why else have Rotarians spent billions of dollars and volunteer hours over the last 35-plus years to eradicate polio and serve mankind? Why else have we set up thousands of schools, hundreds of hospitals, provided water in parched villages, brought dignity to people by providing toilets in their homes, given the gift of life to tens of thousands of children by doing their heart surgeries? Rotarians keep serving because we want to change lives. One project in Nepal changes the lives of a few thousand people, the family health program in Africa has served millions of people, a water project in Haiti has changed the lives of more than 10 million people. Back home in India, the T-E-A-C-H program of literacy and education has impacted the lives of millions of children.
Many of you have been an important part of similar service projects, and you have changed the lives of people. There was a need to serve, and you served. Today the need to serve has become even more necessary and apparent. So, my dear change-maker governors, in the coming Rotary year, I request you, urge you, cajole you to serve people and help to change their lives. So, my dear governors, our theme for the year 2021-22 is Serve to Change Lives.
I urge you to lead by example and inspire Rotarians and Rotaractors to participate in projects that have a sustained impact. Join hands with other Rotarians, other organiza- tions, corporations, and do projects that impact your community, your city — projects that can change lives of people across the country and around the world. At the end of your term as district governor, you should feel that because of your leadership, because of your inspiration to the Rotarians and Rotaractors, the world has changed for better because of the service done by them during the year.
As we all serve, we ch ange the lives of not only others; we change our lives , too. Vivekananda, one of India’s greatest philosophers, said, “When you help someone, do not think that you are obliging him or her. In fact, it is he or she who is obliging you by giving you an opportunity to give back something to this world from where we have received so much.” Also, he added beautifully, “In life, take the position of the donor or the server, and yet be so humble in giving and serving that let the donor or server kneel down and ask: ‘May I give? May I serve?’ ”
Friends, to live for others, to care for others, to serve others and change their lives is the best way to live our own lives. Just as Albert Einstein said, “Only a life lived for others is a life worthwhile.”
And friends, as we go about our service initiatives, our special focus this year will be on empowering girls. One of Rotary’s core values is diversity. We have a public statement that outlines our belief in DEI — diversity, equity, and inclusion. It is important that we empower the girl as we all find that more often than not, the girl is disadvantaged. We will serve all children, but our focus will be specially on the girl. There are many issues that girls face in different parts of the world, and you as leaders will ensure that we try and mitigate the disadvantage of the girl that they may have.
Friends, to do more and grow more, we have designed some presidential initiatives.
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CLUB ACTIVITIES 2020-21
Rotary Club of Baneshwor handed over the 400 meals sponsored by Ms. Sneha Shrestha ( IMAGINE ) the first Nepali International Female Graffiti Artist, in cooperation with RC Baneshwor, to the J & J Free Covid Clinic on 30th June 2021.
RC Baneshwor installed much awaited “Time and Temperature”digital board at Gaushala Chowk on 29 June 2021 in the presence of the Ward no. 9 chair Mr. Ram Krishna Shrestha.
It will definitely help to enhance the Image of RC Baneshwor, RI District 3292 and Rotary International, nationally and internationally.
Rotary Club of Baneshwor handed over
two Oxygen Concentrators to the COVID 19 Isolation center at Sharada Ma Bi, Tilganga on 12 June 2021.
RC Baneshwor has been one of the active partner in establishing this center. We provide free isolation facility with oxygen and food.
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CLUB ACTIVITIES 2020-21
Rotary Club of Baneshwor on 30 May 2021 handed over 90 sets of disposable PPE sets and 100 pcs KN 95 Masks to the Director and VC of Bir Hospital for COVID 19 medications. Like wise we handed over a cheque of NPR 2,35,000 and 10 PPE sets for the Sharada Ma Bi COViD 19 isolation center at Tilganga . Also a special medical bed and a wheelchair was handed over to the isolation center.
Rotary Club of had been supporting Isolation Centre at Sharada Ma. Bi. , Tilganga since may 2021 with 16 beds, masks, sanitizes, 2 Oxygen Concentrators , wheel chair.
On 31 August 2021, RC Baneshwor handed over Rs.100,000/- (Rs. One Lakh) to the Centre for the things they require.
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CLUB ACTIVITIES 2020-21
Rotary Club of Baneshwor , organized an Exclusive webinar on 24 March 2021 with IMAGINE (Sneha Shrestha), a Harvard Graduate & first Nepali international female street artist to exhibit at the Museum of Fine Arts, Boston, one of the largest museum in the US.
RC Baneshwor along with the RC clubs hosted a virtual event “Pre Dashain Musical Eve 2020” welcoming all friends and families around the globe on 12 Oct 2020
RC Baneshwor along with Sister clubs RC Makawanpur and RC Yala conducted webinar on “Know Your Kidney esp During Covid “ with Senior Consultant Nephrologist Dr. Rtn. Rishi Kumar Kafle on 19 Sept, 2020
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CLUB ACTIVITIES 2020-21
RC Baneshwor has successfully laid foundation of 12 Classrooms School Construction as its GG Project of USD 169,000 at Nunthala, Solukhumbu on 22nd Feb 2021.
Global Grant Project of RC Baneshwor“School Construction at Nunthala, Solukhumbu” Almost 75% completed.
Pictures taken on 13 May 2021
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CLUB ACTIVITIES 2020-21
Rotary Club of Baneshwor on 5th March 2021, contributed Rs.200,000 Scholarship fund to the Girls Children of Ananda Bhairab School, Mulpani as its continuous project. At the same time COVID-19 Prevention Kits like surgical masks, fabric masks, sanitizers and face shields were also presented to the teachers, staffs and students of the school
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CLUB ACTIVITIES 2020-21
Rotary Club of Baneshwor on 5th March 2021, contributed Rs.200,000 Scholarship fund to the Girls Children of Ananda Bhairab School, Mulpani as its continuous project. At the same time COVID-19 Prevention Kits like surgical masks, fabric masks, sanitizers and face shields were also presented to the teachers, staffs and students of the school
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CLUB ACTIVITIES 2020-21
District Governor’s Official Club Visit & 13th Charter Day of Rotary Club of Baneshwor , 30th July 2020
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CLUB ACTIVITIES 2020-21
Installation ceremony of President Kalpana Piya Shrestha & Board Members on 3rd July 2020
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