Puppy Love eBook v8

Discover

True Love

And Free Yourself from the Bondage of

Puppy Love

理解真爱让你摆脱
青春期恋爱的束缚

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True Love vs Puppy Love?
真爱 vs 早恋?

Written By: Deacon PJ Yeo
• A member of the Gideon international [2019]

• The speaker, PJ Yeo is married to Rose Ngieng since 1986.
• God has blessed them with 2 daughters.
• The eldest daughter, Dr Jasmine Yeo is 31 years old &

married to Dr Gregory Tan.
• The youngest daughter, Eunice Yeo is 26 years old and is

an Interior Designer.
• Blessed with a grandson – Josiah Tan Yi, 1 year old

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Introduction
引言

• What toy do you play when you were
5 years old and below ?

(please draw)

请画出你五岁前所玩的玩具

• What toy do you play now ?
你现在玩什么玩具呢？

• How do you feel if you are still playing
the same toy as when you were 5 years old ?
如果你还在玩着你五岁时所玩的玩具，你有何感受？

• You will find it weird, right?
你会觉得很奇怪，对吗？

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Perspective about love changes
during the growing stage
关于成长阶段爱情变化的观点

• You’re growing up.

By 25, your thinking will be matured by then.

因为你长大了。25岁时，

你的思想将日趋成熟。

• In the same way, your perspective about Love is

immature during the

growing stage.

同样的，在青春期，你对爱

的看法也相对的不成熟。 3

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The meaning of love
爱的定义

1. A tender, passionate feeling for another person.

对他人有深厚真挚的感情。

2. A feeling of warm personal attachment,
as for a parent, child or friend.

对父母，孩子或朋友的温情深情。

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What is Puppy Love?
什么是早恋/青春期恋爱?

Temporary passion of a boy or girl for
another person.

男孩或女孩对某个人暂时的情感

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Psychological facts about love?
从心理学眼中的“爱情”?

Wonder WHY we acts so inappropriately & irrational
when we fall for someone? Well, it’s not your fault,

it’s the chemical known as CORTISOL.

有没有想过，为什么恋爱时，我们会变得不理智？

其实这不是你的错，这是因为

“皮质醇”这化学物所造成的。

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1. If you falls in love during this growing stage,
then you are getting into puppy love relation.

如果你在这个成长阶段坠入爱河，就是早恋。

2. Statistic has shown that most puppy love fails!

统计显示，很多的青春期恋爱都没有结果。

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Some common
Pattern of Puppy Love
早恋普遍的情况

Behavior before marriage 恋爱中的行为

Romantic Love - Every day in wonder-land and fairy tale

because you are under the drug effect.

浪漫的爱 - 每天生活在童话般乐园中，

因为你正受到药物的麻醉。

Sweet, gentle & patient, etc 8

甜蜜，温柔，忍耐。。。

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Here are some real life issues
现实生活中的问题

Spend Now, House
Save None. Chores

只花钱，无储蓄 家务

Wedding Finance Family
Cost Planning
经济
婚礼费用 家庭规划
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Puppy Love Behavior after Marriage?
踏入婚姻后的早恋行为

Unable to cope with the real world,
when Romantic Love changes to
Committed Love.
Drug effect subsided.

当浪漫的爱变成承诺的爱时，
就无法应对现实世界。药物作用消退。

Unable to face the
real life issues in the luggage

无法面对“行李箱”里的种种现实问题

Impatient, short temper, etc.

没耐心，急躁等等

High divorce rate. 离婚率高 11

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What is True Love?
什么是真爱?

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Passion Commitment Intimacy True Love

热忱 承诺 亲密关系 真爱

“WE” mind-set in handling the real life issues.
Not “I” or “You” mind-set.

以“我们”的心态来面对以及处理现实生活中的问题。
不应该是“我” 或 “你”的心态。

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Quality of True Love?

真爱的品质？

Patience & Kind

耐心和善良

Not Proud or Rude

不骄傲或无礼

Not Selfish
不自私

Not Easily Angered

不容易激怒

Never Gives Up, Never Lose Faith, Always Hopeful

永不放弃，保持信心，抱着希望

Endures All Things Through Every Situation 13
克服一切困境

*Source: from the Bible 1 COR. 13

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How couples with True Love
handle real life issues?
拥有“真爱”的夫妻如何

处理现实生活中的问题?

Mutual Share
Commitment Responsibilities

互相承诺 分担责任

Plan Budget Share Burden Joy in
Sacrifices
提前预算 分担负担
牺牲的喜悦
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What is Perfect Love? This is the best!
什么是完美爱情? 这是最好的！

Perfect Love in Christian’s perspective.

基督徒眼中的完美爱情。

GOD

上帝

关系

Relationship

Spouse Me

伴侣 我

*Source: from Rev Dr MG George

• Love Triangle

爱的三角形

• Couples live in U.L.T.A Love
(Unconditional Love, Total Acceptance)

无条件的爱&接纳所有

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For details, ask for “Bridge of Life” booklet.

Is Perfect Love stated in the Bible?
圣经是否有谈及真爱?

22 Wives, submit yourselves to your own
husbands as you do to the Lord.

你们作妻子的，当顺服自己的丈夫，
如同顺服主。

25 Husbands, love your wives, just as Christ
loved the church and gave himself up for her.

你们作丈夫的，要爱你们的妻子，
正 如 基 督 爱 教 会， 为 教 会 舍 己 。

Ephesian 5:22,25,31,33

以弗所书 5:22,25,31,33

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31 “For this reason a man will leave his father
and mother and be united to his wife,
and the two will become one flesh.”

为这个缘故，人要离开父母，
与妻子连合，二人成为一体。

33 However, each one of you also must love
his wife as he loves himself, and the wife
must respect her husband.

然而，你们各人都当爱妻子，
如同爱自己一样。
妻子也当敬重他的丈夫。

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So when is the BEST TIME to fall in love?
什么时候才适合恋爱?

Primary 1 to 6
(6 - 12 year)

小学一到六年级
(6 - 12岁)

Secondary 1 to 6
(13 – 19 year)

中学中一到中六
(13 -19岁)

Tertiary 18
(20 – 25 year)

大学
(20 - 25岁)

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When you start work?

开始工作时?

You are matured in your thoughts
and ready to pick a life partner.

你的思想已成熟，已准备好选择伴侣。

So during this time (primary to tertiary),
to whom should you show your love to?

目前的你（中学至大学）应向谁表达你的爱呢？

Your Parents, Guardians and Siblings ! 19

父母，兄弟姐妹

How? Help in house chores!

怎么做？帮助做家务！

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What to do if you’re already in puppy love?
如果已经陷入早恋了呢?

Get both together and
explain the same to them.

与双方见面并向他们讲解。

Advise both to break up
and just be friends.
建议他们分开，只维持朋友关系。

What if love turns to hate after break-up?

如果爱变成仇恨呢？

You have made the right decision to break-up.
This selfish love is not ULTA love.

你做的决定是对的，这是自私的爱，不是无条件的爱。

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Feedback, Question and Answers
反馈问答

I am not here to scare you.
I want you to fall in love at the right time.

Reminder – Love is good.

我不是在这里要吓唬你。
我希望你在适当的时候坠入爱河。

提醒–爱是美好的。

What is your opinion on LGBT, Same Sex Marriage?

您对LGBT（同性婚姻）有何看法？

Other Topic
Designer’s Sexuality, Parenting

其他主题
性的原貌，养育子女

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Thank you
谢谢你

A community service program brought to you
by “Gereja Disciples JB” for non-muslim.
You may use this book for
the benefit of others.
Kindly quote the author and

the name of the church for the glory of our Lord,
Jesus Christ.

No.5 Jalan Kekabu 2,
Taman Desa Cemerlang,
Ulu Tiram 81800 , Johor
Tel: 016-7100071 (PJ Yeo)

Author: Deacon PJ.Yeo
Endorsed by Rev Dr MG George (pastor)

Translated by: Jong Wan Chin
Graphic by: Eunice Yeo

Date: 08.04.2020

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belong to their respective owner.

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Testimonies 证词

“I learn that only a mature person has the
ability to handle boy girl relationship well.”

“我学到了一个人思想够成熟才能拥有
谈恋爱的能力，我觉得我比较幸运。”

“Through this talk, I know the differences
between puppy love and true love.”

“我听了这个讲座更加理解早恋和真爱的差别。”

“This talk is awesome!”
“这个讲座很棒！”

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