Christmases Past

Christmases
Past

It seems like yesterday that I was sitting at the computer writing my annual Holiday letter. Damn, where
has the year gone??

There really isn't THAT much to report this year…except that there were no hospital visits, except for
one that I will tell you about towards the end of this letter. So that is good news. I am still suffering with
the foot and leg problems associated with being diabetic for 43 years, and I do fear for the loss of more
toes that are bad enough to need medical attention, but not bad enough to be hospitalized. My other
ailments / complications are stable, yet still present, and if I watch myself carefully, they don't bother
me a lot of the time.

In September, I accepted a part time cashier position at Orchard Supply Hardware as a cashier, which
meant standing at a cash register for 5 hours at a stretch, but because of my degenerating hip problem,
I had to give it up after only 3 months. I am glad I got the chance to make myself feel useful, though,
even for a short period of time. So here I am, not working again, and still on social security, but I am
still keeping busy with my website photography and creative writing.

I have been working diligently with my doctor and nurse educator to try and get me onto the insulin
pump which will help stabilize my blood sugar levels, and hopefully stabilize the complications I have.
So far, the insurance company has denied me the pump, but we are appealing their decision, and
hopefully within the next few months I can get it. I am looking forward to blood sugar levels that are
more consistent with good health, so wish me luck.

I am still living with my mom in Sherman Oaks, and the arrangement is a good one. She and I are very
compatible, so living here is not a problem. I see Georgia and the kids every now and then. Scott is
going to be 21 in March, and is working for an outfit selling “CUTCO” knives that you may have seen
in higher quality kitchen accessory stores. He is doing well, and is able to support the new car he
bought (which is a good thing, because every time his car broke down, who do you think was out the car
for a while?? Yes, that would be me.)

This year, I decided as a Christmas gift to those who so lovingly were there during the last several years
of my ill health, I recorded a CD of music with a message…my gift of thanks to those who were there. It
was an inspirational album of music that tells a story; a story of love and thanks. I want the album to be
as special to the recipient as the recipient is to me. Now, what do I do NEXT year??

Katie was 19 this December 19, and as I mentioned before, I would tell you about the only hospital trip I
made this year. It was on December 2, and only for the day, so I could be there when she presented me
with a gorgeous granddaughter. Kristina Marie was born around 11:30 AM, weighing 6 pounds 6
ounces…sort of like the size of a roast…Katie is doing marvelously as a mother, so far, and is getting all
the love and support our family has to offer.

There are so many things in the world…in our lives… to be thankful for. And I am very happy that I can
count my blessings, and not boo hoo about the things I DON'T have. I have been blessed with a loving
family, warm friends and in general, a happy life.

This holiday season, and as always, I wish you and your family, friends and loved ones, the warmth of
the season, the joy and anticipation that the new year brings, and the hope for good health for everyone.

As always,

Michael

BSQ Mikie @ aol.com

Christmas, 1999 . . . As the century turns . . .

It seems like we just turn around, and before we know it, the year has come to a close….but this time, in less
than month, we change years, we change centuries, (but with any luck, no area code changes . . .) and our lives
go on. I never thought I would see the day that I would see the turn of a century.

I was hospitalized again, in February, for yet another amputation. The #2 toe on the left foot (my poor left
foot…..) developed gangrene, and had to go. But when I think of the alternatives, a toe is nothing. I am
suffering from arterial insufficiency in my right leg, (arteriosclerosis says the doctor) so that is being carefully
evaluated, but I guess the good certainly outweighs the bad, and I continue to be blessed with health that allows
me to wake up each morning and see a blue sky.

I haven’t worked since last year, it was too hard on me, but I did start school this semester, taking a class in
German and photography, and enjoying it. I decided that even if I can’t work, I still need to have that sense of
responsibility and routine in my life that people need.

I was finally given approval for my insulin pump in March, and for the first time in my life, I feel like I have a
handle on the disease rather than vice-versa. My doctor is very pleased with the results, as am I. It has really
made a difference, physically and psychologically.

I am still living with my mom in Sherman Oaks, and the arrangement is a good one. She and I are very
compatible, so living here is not a problem. I see Georgia and the kids every now and then. She and I are now
officially divorced, and she is keeping busy with her work at Schindler Elevator, and of course, her Amway. To
my knowledge, she is not seeing anyone, and as for me, well, perhaps on a one-on-one basis, if you write back
or e-mail me I will tell you what is going on in my life. Scott is going to be 22 in March, and is still working for
“CUTCO” knives that you may have seen in higher quality kitchen accessory stores. He is doing well, and I am
very proud of him.

Katie is out of her teens, and doing remarkably well as a young mother. She is working as a cashier at a local
hardware store (OSH) and it's, well, a job . . . Kristy is as cute as can possibly be (could that be Grandpa
talking???) and every day she gives us something more to remember. She celebrated her first birthday on
December 2, is beginning to walk, and brings more joy to our lives than I could ever imagine possible. Being a
grandfather is probably the most rewarding experience I have ever had. I watch her several times a week while
Katie works, so it saves her some bucks. I enjoy doing it; Kristy loves her grandpa. (Lest she should bite the
hands that feed her, huh?? )

It never ceases to amaze me how strong we are. I have endured so much these past 3 years, more than I could
ever attempt to explain in a once-a-year letter. But suffice to say I am happy, I am well. I have been blessed,
truly, with a loving family, fantastic friends and great support system, without which I would surely fall apart.

This holiday season, and as always, I wish you and your family, friends and loved ones, the warmth of the
season, the joy and anticipation that the new year brings, and the hope for good health for everyone.

As always,

Michael

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Christmas, 2000

Greetings, as the year comes to a quiet close. I didn't know if I should get a holiday letter out or not, but knowing
most of you, I’d hear about it if I didn't.

It was a wonderful year for me. I wasn’t in the hospital at all, so that’s a plus. Although, I just found out this week,
that I have torn the cartilage in my right knee somehow…and I suspected it months ago because of the pain, and I
will undoubtedly have surgery on it after the first of the year. I am looking forward to it, because the pain at times is
so bad, I don't even want to get out of bed.

Carlos and I have been seeing each other for nearly 2 years now and for once in my life, I have found peace and
happiness. That is not to say I wasn't happy married…but I am, for once, comfortable and content with myself, and I
think that is every human’s right; to be happy with themselves for who they are as a person.

We travel frequently, as he has earned MANY miles on his Delta Sky Miles, so it doesn't cost us anything to go
places every now and again and to get away for an extended weekend. He travels for his work as an educator /
consultant for a software firm, dealing with schools and children. When he has the opportunity to get away for
pleasure, it’s a welcomed change.

January found us in Ft Lauderdale for my birthday, just relaxing in the warm winter Florida sun, and seeing things I
have not seen before. It’s always nice to get to see “how the other half lives…….” And oh, all those old people in
Florida…you know, the ones with the orange hair and jewelry, the snowbirds from the cold north. In February, we
went to Guernville and Sausalito for a few days. Man, was it COLD! Carlos is one of those people who feel that if 1
is good, 2 is better, and 3 is best. Consequently, when it was 20º in Guernville, he put not one, not two, but THREE
logs into the wood burning pot bellied stove in the room…and it was everything we could do to shut off the fire
alarm. I mean, I thought we were going to burn the place down. Its funny now, but sure wasn't then! 

April found us in Portland for a few days, not doing much because of time restraints, but just getting away. We went
to Maui and Oahu in May, and of course, up to Haleakala Crater, where it was 30º compared to the 75º in the
city…and of course, we in our shorts…. But, what a nice get away for a few days. In the heat of the summer, in July,
we went to Las Vegas (something is dreadfully wrong with this man……) where we sweltered in temperatures
exceeding 120º. We splurged and spent over $100 a ticket to see “Eau”, a water version of Cirque de Soleil. I would
do it again in a heartbeat.

In October, it was off to the Balloon Fiesta in Albuquerque, where the weather was not favorable…rain, wind and
cold…and consequently, no balloons flew. We spent the weekend in the hotel room, him watching football, and me
going to Wal-Mart. Thanksgiving weekend found us in Chicago for a few days of doing nothing. My leg was
bothering me, so we didn't do too much walking. He has a friend he used to work with, who lives in Milwaukee, so
on Saturday we drove up there and had dinner with her, then Sunday, back to Chicago for the trip home.

We are leaving for London on December 29, and home January 2, so that will conclude our numerous trips for the
year, and I hope we continue to enjoy each other’s company like that for a long time to come.

God, I’m tired just WRITING about them!

The children are wonderful. Katie just turned 21, Scott will be 23 in March, Georgia and I are best friends, and
Kristy, our baby, just turned 2, and is such a joy in our lives.

May the warmth of this holiday season be yours now, and into the New Year. I think back through all the years and
am so humbly grateful for all I have…for all I am…and I wish the same for each and every one of you.

Merry Christmas

Michael

Christmas, 2001

Greetings, as the year comes to a quiet close. I didn't know if I should get a holiday letter out
or not, but knowing most of you, I’d hear about it if I didn't because I missed last year.

It was a wonderful year for me. A few episodes in the hospital, nothing serious, hand surgery
and a back procedure. The issue I am dealing with now is that I lost the hearing in my left
ear in April, and suffer tremendously from “tinnitus” which is a constant ringing in the ear.
It is with me 24 hours a day, and because of that and the hearing loss, I have had to give up
my singing with the chorus. It is a dramatic and drastic change in my life, and I wish I could
say I haven't lost sleep over this…but…I can't begin to tell you what this has done to me. The
doctor thinks I may have had a stroke that caused this, but it is not diabetically related, so as
devastating as it is, that’s a plus.

Carlos and I have been together for nearly 3 years now and for once in my life, I have found
peace and happiness. That is not to say I wasn't happy married…but I am, for once,
comfortable and content with myself, and I think that is every human’s right; to be happy
with themselves for who they are as a person.

We travel frequently, as he has earned MANY miles on his Delta Sky Miles, so it doesn't cost
us anything to go places every now and again and to get away for an extended weekend. He
travels for his work as an educator / consultant for a software firm, dealing with schools and
children. When he has the opportunity to get away for pleasure, it’s a welcomed change. He
is very protective of me, and with my disability progressing, I have to take it very easy on
what I do, and he is there with me making sure I am ok. I couldn't ask for a better man…a
better person…in my life.

January found us in Ft Lauderdale for my birthday, just relaxing in the warm winter Florida
sun, and seeing things I have not seen before. It’s always nice to get to see “how the other
half lives…….” And oh, all those old people in Florida…you know, the ones with the orange
hair and jewelry, the snowbirds from the cold north.

We visit Florida often; its like a 2nd home to me. Our friends who live there, welcome us with
opened arms, and they own a hotel there, so we have a place to stay. We were in Honolulu
for a few days, Arizona and Chicago. Thanksgiving saw is in Seattle, where I had never been
before, then a week after that, it was back to Honolulu. New Years will be spent once again
in London as we did last year, where we have reservations to go to Bath and Stonehenge on
one of the outings. It will be a fast trip, but a welcomed one.

God, I’m tired just WRITING about them!

The children are wonderful. Katie just turned 22, Scott will be 24 in March, Georgia and I
are best friends, and Kristy, our baby, just turned 3, and is such a joy in our lives. I still live
with my mom and Art, and the three of us get along very well with no problems at all. I am
very grateful for their love and their support and for giving me a home…not just a house…to
live in.

May the warmth of this holiday season be yours now, and into the New Year. I think back
through all the years and am so humbly grateful for all I have…for all I am…and I wish the
same for each and every one of you.

Merry Christmas

Michael

My dear friends Christmas, 2002

It astounds me that this time of year is upon us once again. Why, it seems like only yesterday that I was sitting at the
computer thinking of what to tell you all, and before I knew it, a full page was written.

Let’s get the health crap out of the way first….As all of you know, I continue to suffer from the effects of being diabetic
going into my 47th year. For the most part, things are stable. Nothing new, but those ailments that plague me plague me
GOOD! My hearing loss has been diagnosed as permanent, and I have therefore had to say goodbye to the chorus I love
so much and was part of for over 10 years. It’s like accepting the death of someone you love…you never get over it, but
you adjust. I am doing the best I can.

New Years saw us in London again, and a side trip to Bath and Stonehenge. It amazed me to think that I visited these
historical grounds that are over 5,000 years old. I took some pictures, despite the freezing weather and snow on the
ground, and the desire to get back into the bus, but who knows when we will ever get there again. Thank God for Delta
SkyMiles and the Meridien hotel certificates for a free room!

On a picture perfect day on July 6, my daughter Katie was married in a beautiful yet casual ceremony at the church
where she grew up. My granddaughter served as flower girl, and the biggest hurdle of all, was for me to sing at the
ceremony. A song I have sung to her all her life, “The Best Gift” was, I’d say, my swan song. It was emotionally
difficult to do, as well as physically challenging. Katie is now 23, and adjusting to married life very nicely (do you
remember those letters of years gone by saying, “well, Katie just turned 5….”).

Scott will be 25 in March…and this man…this beautiful person…is doing well in school, ready to graduate Cal State
Northridge, and working in marketing as a sales manager. His presence in my life is what keeps me going. One of the
greatest thrills I have is not only being a father to these two magnificent people, but also, being a dad.

Georgia lost her job after 11 years with Schindler Elevator, and is now a security agent for TSA, which, oddly enough,
she loves. She is doing well, and she and I remain the best of friends.

August saw more surgery, another amputation of the #2 toe on the right foot…and hopefully, that will be the last for a
while. I guess I am thankful that I was born with 10 toes…

Carlos and I have been together nearly 4 years now, and every day is like the first day we met. He is a pleasure to know,
and an honor to be in his life. We continue to see the world (well, the United States anyway…) when we can, and we
just returned from a trip to Rome over Thanksgiving. To say we have stepped foot inside the Sistine Chapel and St.
Peter’s Basilica…wonderful treasures. The coliseum was, to say the least, awesome. What memories these trips are
producing.

I am trying to keep active with my photography so I don’t vegetate in front of the television. I am working on a book
called Second Chances that hopefully will help others to realize life is not lost, just because we have our downfalls.

As the year comes to a quiet peaceful close, my hope and wish for you is continued love for one another, peace we all
deserve, and harmony between all human kind.

Love,

Michael

My dear friends:
It has been a year of ups and downs, as most years tend to be. My health has taken a turn for the worse with kidney
problems, another toe amputated, and in general, do not feel up to a lot of things. I try to keep going for the sake of
those I love and who love me, but it is getting increasingly difficult to do
Carlos lost his job in February, so it has cut our travels down a bit, giving us both a chance to appreciate everything
we have here. We spent a few long weekends this year in Ft. Lauderdale, which is always relaxing to us. He began a
new job a few months later, and enjoys it. He still works with the kids in school, educating them and the parents in
educational software. That is his calling, and he is a fantastic mentor to these people.
Georgia still continues with the TSA as a passenger security agent, and aside from it being a bit taxing physically, she
doesn’t have the stress she had as a credit manager. She and Carlos get along so very well, but then, they are both
wonderful people, so why wouldn’t they?
Scott is still in Bakersfield, doing well with his company that sells Cutco knives, and surely you will remember when
I used to say, “well Scott will be 6 this year, Katie will be 4”…That’s all behind us…Scott will be 26 in March, and
Katie just turned 24 this month. She and her husband, Lelan, and their daughter Kristina are remarkably happy, and I
get a chance to see them often. We seem to get closer as each day progresses.
My mom and Art are doing well, they take their little trips in the motor home a few times a year, and provide me the
comfort and security I find I need. They are wonderful people, wonderful friends.
A short letter this year…but sincere as they always are, filled with love and warmth from my heart to yours.

Michael Dardenelle

Christmas, 2004

My dear friends:

Once again, it’s that time of year when I become very thankful for the past year. Rough as it’s been in the past,
I’m still around to write and enjoy the season.

This year has been a quiet one for me, health wise. I have not had a hospital visit, my kidney problem that I had
last year appeared to be infection related rather than diabetically related, and the doctor is confident that I will
not suffer kidney problems. After 49 years of this disease, and losing friends to it, I feel grateful that for the
most part, things are ok. This year has been stable for me, and I haven’t been able to say that for a long time.

I’m still with my mom and Art, and of course, Carlos, who sees to it that I am well taken care of. He’s quite the
man to endure my health issues, but there isn’t a person on the planet who doesn’t have some kind of situation
to deal with.

I still speak with Georgia nearly every day. She is well, has lost about 75 pounds, and doesn’t come close to
looking like her 59 years. She is still not seeing anyone, but she keeps busy with her work and church activities.

Scott, who will be 27 in March, still lives in Bakersfield and manages his office from there. He is still involved
in selling Cutco knives, but now as a manager, has people under him to do that. He is a hard worker..and it
shows. 27. My God!

Katie turns 25 this month, on the 19th. She is doing data processing for an office that deals with nationwide
companies. Her husband, Lelan, is an exterminator, and after 2 ½ years of marriage, they seem to be adjusting
quite well to the “settled down married” life.

Kristina turned 6 December 2. She is quite the funny girl. If you scratch her back, she will kick her leg like a
dog to be cute, and the first time I saw her do that, I thought I’d…..well, never mind, but you get the idea. She is
in first grade, and I see Katie written all over her personality. I don’t know if that’s good or bad…but what a
delightful child she is….just the light of our family.

Let’s see…who’d I leave out? Mom and Art are 83, and still participate in the Pearl Harbor Survivor’s
Association and the City of Hope…and are absolute whizzes at the computer!! Both are in good health, and
enjoy their golden years. My brother turns 60 next year…talk about making someone feel old!! I’m nearing that
myself, turning 58 in January. Yes, 58. But I only look 57.

I guess that’s about it for 2004…a good year, and better to come in 2005. I wish you the warmth of the season
and the love we have shared as friends for more years than I can count.

Christmas, 2005

My dear friends:

Here we are again, at the close of another year…getting older, wiser…well, older anyway…

Mom and Art were married on Valentine’s Day, so he claims to have made “…an honest woman out of her…”
It was a small civil ceremony at the courthouse, and in the pouring rain they said their “I Do”s, then we all went
to lunch at a fancy restaurant to celebrate. You may remember stories about the rain the first part of the year that
was simply torrential…well, those were the rains that came on their wedding day. These two people love each
other so deeply, and they are always making each other laugh at something. Art will be 84 in April, Mom will
be 85 in June…so its just great that at their ages they are still around to enjoy the life they so richly deserve.

I am doing well health wise. No major complications as I have suffered in the past, although the diabetes still
wants to take over, I just won't let it. October of 2006 will commemorate 50 years of this disease, and I feel
grateful that I have a team of doctors who work with me to help control it. My doctors tell me that it’s not them,
but it is ME who manages the disease. And while this may be true, they are the kind of doctors who I enjoy
seeing, that make me want to come back. It’s a win-win situation, I think. I will never be free of this disease, but
as long as it remembers who the boss is, we’ll get along just fine.

Carlos and I have 7 years together, and each day I remind myself how lucky we both are to have each other. We
haven’t taken many trips this year; one to Lincoln Nebraska for his work, and over Thanksgiving we went to
San Diego on the train. We spent 4 days there, just relaxing and enjoying a little time away. At 62, he is giving
thought to retiring, but we don’t know for sure yet.

My children (if you want to call them that….) are doing very well. Scott will be 28 in March, and is engaged to
a very sweet girl. Liz is about 8 years younger, and it’s great to see them together. They live in Bakersfield with
their Yorkshire terrier, “Jack” and their rabbit “Fuzz”. Katie and Lelan are doing well, as is Kristina. Kristy is 7,
and growing so fast, it’s incredible. I remember when I used to write about Katie at that age and how it was her
who caused my gray hair …

Mom and Art still participate in the Pearl Harbor Survivor’s Association and the City of Hope…and are
absolute whizzes at the computer!! Both are in good health, and enjoy their golden years. Now if they can only
tear themselves away from their computers….No wait…now that they’re married, they might get into trouble…

I guess that’s about it for 2005. A good year, for sure, and looking for a wonderful 2006. I wish you the warmth
of the season and the love we have shared as friends for more years than I can count.

Christmas, 2006

My dear friends:

Happy holidays to you all!! Really not much to write about, no major health problems. I don’t know why this
diabetes thing can't figure out that it’s really worn out its welcome…maybe it sticks around because it thinks I like
it…but in any event, October saw 50 years with it, so I guess it’s here to stay. My doctors are pleased at my
numbers, and if they’re happy, so am I. I will be 60 in January, so that, and the 50 years, are milestone dates for me.

My mother turned 85 in June, and she is showing signs of slowing down, but still quite active. so I get concerned
about how much time and energy she puts into her projects with the City of Hope and the Pearl Harbor Survivor’s
Association. Art will be 85 in April, and he, too, is still very active. He has his moments, though…don’t we all.

Carlos and I are into our 8th year, and he retired in March, only to stay in retirement for 3 months. He is very active
and just can't “retire” so he started a position with a company that has proven to show it’s colors as someplace he’d
rather not work, so in December, he gave notice. I’m glad he did; even though there was no travel other than local, it
wasn’t providing him the opportunity he craves, working with the kids. We once again went to San Diego for
Thanksgiving, but the trip was cut short by my falling ill due to some medications I was on for my neuropathy.
When I realized what was causing the problems, I got myself off the medication pronto.

Mom and Art and I were in Honolulu the first week of December, and we were the registration committee for over
2,000 guests with the Pearl Harbor Survivors 65th anniversary national convention. It was strictly a working trip; I
never left the hotel. While I was there, though, I learned that one of my dearest friends, Ian Praiser, passed away
suddenly. It was a numbing and devastating experience, and will take a long time to deal with. Also while there, I
learned that a credit card had been compromised, and I was an identity theft victim to $1,100. I returned home on
December 7, to learn that my dog, Hershey, had gotten out of the back yard some how, and hasn’t been seen since.
Needless to say, it was a rough week, but every day, something else happens to make me glad I’m still here. These
things are just part of the life we live, and we get through them.

Scott, who will be 29 in March, and his fiancé Liz, bought a home in Bakersfield. He accepted a position with
Johnson and Johnson in March, and really enjoys it. Katie and Lelan, on the other hand, filed for divorce in April,
and while it sounds “tragic”, it truly is a blessing for everyone. There is no sense staying in a marriage that has gone
stale. Katie is on the verge of accepting a position with the county, so things will look up for her. Kristy just turned 8
and is in the 3rd grade, and doing very well. I don’t see her as much as I’d like, so the time we have together is
special.

Wishing you a happy, healthy 2007 with all that is warm and kind, from my heart to yours.

Christmas, 2007

My dear friends:

Well here we are again, same computer, different year. I can’t believe 2007 is about to come to a close; it seems
like it was just yesterday that I sat here doing this.

My health continues to behave itself; I guess after 51 years, it knows who’s boss, and knows I won't take any
crap. I continue to get good reports from the doctors, and for that, I am very grateful. I have had no major issues
this year at all. I did have arthroscopic surgery on my knee in August, but that wasn’t life threatening or
particularly dangerous, although the problem still exists and I am dealing with it best I can.

Mom turned 86 in June, and she continues to be active with her Pearl Harbor group and the City of Hope. How,
is beyond me, but she does. She continues to drive, and shows no signs of health issues that you might
otherwise expect. Art will be 86 in April, and he has had some rough moments this year, but he has pulled
through those, and continues to do well. He is the National Vice President of the Pearl Harbor Survivor
Association and takes his post very seriously and reverently.

As Carlos and I approach year #9, we continue to cherish the time we have together. He began working in
January for a company that deals in education with the Los Angeles Unified School District. He has education
in his blood and loves working with the kids. We were once again in San Diego for Thanksgiving, spending a
couple days there, enjoying the season.

In October, I went to Oregon to visit with a new friend, Mark, and he and I have become absolute best friends in
such a very short period of time. Mark is a recording artist, and I first heard one of his albums about 12 years
ago, and I remember thinking what a great experience it might be some day to meet him because we both enjoy
the same music and share the same ideas about many things. Mark and I treasure the love and caring we both
provide each other. And me, at 60 years old…who said you couldn’t teach an old dog new tricks?? Mark is my
inspiration to begin recording again, and after the first of the year, I will be working on an album called
“Inspired By Love”.

No trips to speak of this year. We did manage to get to San Francisco to see Connie Francis in concert again,
but for the most part, not many trips.

Scott will be 30 in March, and he and Liz are planning to be married in August. He is working for a medical
supply company and seems to enjoy it. Katie is on the way to the alter again in October; she and her fiancé are
very good for each other. I am very proud of both my kids and the way they love and respect each other. Kristy
just turned 9 and is in the 4th grade, and doing very well. I don’t see her as much as I’d like, so the time we
have together is special.

Wishing you a happy, healthy 2007 with all that is warm and kind, from my heart to yours.

Greetings to you all!

One of the great things about the internet and web designing is the ability to post what you want,
when you want, and make it as long as you want. In previous holiday letters, I would try to limit
myself to one page, 11pt type and include as much as I could in a limited amount of space. Those
of you who know me well enough, know that I'm generally not a one page - 11pt type kind of
guy. So, for ease of typing, and not wanting any of you squinting to read such small type, I
present to you the Happy Holidays letter for 2008, in glorious 24 pt type. No need for glasses on
this one.

New Years saw us with our dear friends, John and Jim, as the four of us celebrated with a
wonderful dinner and movie on New Years eve. Sweeny Todd...quite the movie. Couldn't think
of a better way to bring in the new year, than with those you love, and who love you back.

My step-dad, Art, was hospitalized early in January and this time they decided to insert a pace
maker. He has been wonderful ever since.

January also saw some heavy rains, which apparently our home decided not to deal with, so
shortly after the storm, the ceiling in my folks' room collapsed at 2:00 pm....and as bad as it was,
it could have been at 2:00 am, causing more than just $35,000 in structural damage. About 1/3 of
the ceiling collapsed, and after about 4 months of them sleeping on a blow up doll.....er....blow
up BED...they moved back into their room in April.

January 31 was the reunion for 3M Company where I worked from 1970 - 1977 and I saw people
I haven't seen in 30 years. Barbara and Jim Birch, Marlene Bush, to name a few, and I won 2
door prizes...a basket ball hoop, and a pad of 3M post-it notes.

Well worth the effort LOL

March found Carlos and me in Portland, to visit with one of my dearest friends, Mark, who was
putting on a performance at a country club. It was a nice get away, and Mark and Carlos had
never met, so it was especially nice to have that happen.

I had surgery again on the left knee, only to find out the pain in my leg is not related to the knee
at all, but as I found out later, spinal stenosis in my back. After all this time, I have JUST
received approval from the insurance company to have back surgery, so that will take place in
January. All I want...all I've ever wanted...is to be pain free and not walk like I'm 61 years old!

Wait....wrong choice of words. I AM 61 years old. How fast those years creep up on you. A good
friend had extensive back surgery in June, so he's been my inspiration to have mine done next
month. He has a 22" scar down his back and was laid up for months. I don't expect mine will be
that involved.

Scott turned 30 in March (do some of you remember when I used to say, "Scott will be 6" or
"Scott just turned 10" or "I can't believe Scott got his driver's license today..." So now I have

this adult son, 6' 3" of the nicest boy around. He and his fiancé still live in Bakersfield, and doing
really well.

Katie was married in October, and she and her new husband are living with Katie's mom. She
and Matt are both working for the County of Los Angeles, and enjoying this new life they are
creating. Her daughter, Kristy, just turned 10 this month. She is growing at a rate that well,
scares me. She is tall, thin, and very pretty as you can see here. She adores Matt, which is very
important in a new "step" relationship.

I still keep in close contact with Georgia. She is doing well at the airport, still working for
TSA though she suffered an injury in July as she tripped over a rug in the terminal. She broke her
elbow and damaged the cartilage in her knee and is now in the process of litigation with the
city and I suspect she will prevail.

My mom had a series of small strokes in July, and was hospitalized for about a week. Although
she is doing remarkably well, there are times I need to remind her of things she used to
know...why the printer has to be turned on before it will print, how to change a channel on the
television remote. I thought this might be the good time to remind her she promised me a car.
THAT, she remembers, she never did.

I did buy a new car this year, though, a 2007 Buick LaCrosse. I finally retired the 96 Ford Taurus
after 13 years of faithful service. The car was considered used, but it only had 4700 miles on it. It
was an opportunity I couldn't pass up. This picture was taken the morning of Katie's wedding. In
fact, it was taken by Kristy!

Carlos and I will have 10 years together in May. It's amazing that at our ages, we still were able
to find someone who is so compatible and caring. He's an amazing man, and we complement
each other very well. He started singing again with the Gay Men's Chorus of Los Angeles, and
will be performing with them this holiday season. I would really like to join them as well, but
with my hearing loss I suffer, it's just not possible right now. All in good time, my pretty, all in
good time....

So now as the year comes to a quiet close, so does this year's holiday letter. I hope that each and
every one of you finds the love, peace and happiness that I have found with those I love. May
this bring you the love and warmth of the season, with wishes for a wonderful 2009.

Love,
Michael

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Seasons Greetings, 2009

Right now, as I write, it is February 16, 2009, on a cold and rainy winter's day. I decided to start writing the
Christmas letter at the beginning of the year so I didn't have to wrack my brain in December to try and remember
what happened all year long. Will it last? We shall see.

January saw me in the hospital for some long awaited surgery on my back. If you recall in years past, I had
mentioned that my back and leg pain were becoming unbearable, so the doctors and I made the decision to have
the surgery.

January 6 was my date, and although the operation lasted about 6 hours, and not without my share of pain and
problems, it has now been 6 weeks and I truly am feeling better. I still have some pain in my back but I suspect in
due time that will subside. At least I can walk without my limp (gee, I had become so fond of the pain and the
limp...) and now only time will tell. The doctors say the recovery can take anywhere from 6-12 months. And yes,
I can walk upright...

Scott celebrated #31 on the March 5. He told me he doesn't look at birthdays the same
way now that he's grown. I suspect we all do that. He is now in the process of continuing
his education and going for a teaching credential to teach high school history. He is really
excited about it. I know he would make a great teacher because of his personality and
attitude. Here is Scott from Katie's wedding in October, 2008, but he hasn't changed...

He and Liz are still in Bakersfield...and oddly enough, he doesn't speak with an accent.

May found Carlos and me in Ft. Lauderdale for a few days. We hadn't
been there for a few years and it is a favorite get-away place. Here is a
recent picture of the two of us as we enjoyed an evening with some
friends. He has decided to take some classes in the travel industry and is
doing some apprentice work at a local agency. It keeps him busy and
active. With both of us in our 60s now, we are finding ourselves slowing
down a bit.

June found me going through some very routine cataract surgery and as my doctor said, it's a shame to call it
surgery it's so mundane. It took about 10 minutes to perform and I was home within the hour. It amazed me how
well I could see after a few days of healing.

After a couple months, in August, it was time for the right eye. It too went without complications but after a few
days, I still could not see clearly. We waited another couple weeks for the eye to heal, and when I told the doctor
I still could not see, he said that we ''have a problem'' (a doctor should never tell a patient that, don't you think??)
It seems I was 3 "diopters" off in the power of the lens and he said it needed to be replaced. Surgery was
scheduled for 3 days later, and on September 11, I was back in for another surgery. You'd think that 3 cataract
surgeries on 2 eyes would be a bit much. When that lens surgery took place, all went well until 11:00 that night
when I awoke to excruciating pain. Long story short, the pain was caused by eye pressure, which was caused by
the doctor leaving something in my eye during surgery. The pressure caused violent vomiting, dehydration, and
eventually diabetic ketoacidosis (DKA for those of you wishing to google it...) and 4 days being in the hospital. I
am in the throes of a lawsuit against the doctor because none of this would have happened had he not implanted
the wrong lens in August. The subsequent hospitalization was critical and should never have happened...but it
did, and for several months I was absolutely miserable. Actually, in the first week or so of December was when I
really started feeling decent again, and luckily my eye is almost back to normal. There is still an image I see in
my eye that cannot be identified, but I feel lucky that I was not blinded by this. During my hospital stay, I had to
ask Carlos several times if my eye was open because I could not see.

As I write, my dog Lady, who will be 17 in March, is still with us, but her days are numbered I fear. She is such
a precious pet to us, and those of you who have long time pets know that they are like part of the family.

Kate and Matt are doing quite well. She finally got transferred from her office in Lancaster to one that is 75%
closer, in Chatsworth. They are both still working for the county as "eligibility workers" for the DPSS. They
celebrated their one year anniversary in October.

Kristina turned 11 on December 2. She is now in the 6th grade, in middle school, and doing very well and loves
her math class. She likes them all but she told me math is her favorite.

Mom and Art, now in the upper 80s, are still very involved with the City of Hope and the Pearl Harbor
Survivor's Association, where Art serves as National President. They are showing clear signs of slowing down
but still active to a point. There are times I have to step in and say, "enough is enough" but they're not quite
ready for the rocking chairs yet.

I hope this finds you well and happy and that your holiday season is as special to you as you are to so many
people. As potentially bleak as 2009 could have been, I am happy that I can say I made it through a difficult year
and that 2010 will be as wonderful as most of 2009 was.

Love,
Michael

I really wanted to start this earlier in the year as I have done in the past, but I'm sure all of you know how things can
slip away from us. So here we are, on December 10, 2010 and I will try to re-cap the last 12 months by
memory...and that scares me...

The year has actually been pretty quiet. Finances have prevented Carlos and me from doing the traveling we used to
do, but we make do with what we have at home and locally. We did manage to get away to Ft. Lauderdale in July
for a few days get away. It's always nice to take a long weekend to a familiar location. That's pretty much the only
trip this year for enjoyment. We did go to Honolulu just last week and returned late last night. As many of you
know, my step-dad, Art, and my mom are very heavily involved in the Pearl Harbor Survivors Association, and this
year marked the 69th anniversary of the attack. A new visitor's center was opened and dedicated this week, so the
national convention was held from December 4-10. Carlos and I were involved in the registration of about 700
people so that kept us very busy for 4 of the 6 days we were there. We did manage to get out on a drive Wednesday
and took Art and Mom around the island for some relaxation.

October 10 saw us with a new addition to our family. Matt and Kate welcomed their
daughter, Julianna Elizabeth Bruns...now this may be coincidence, it may be a sign of
something special...but her birthday of 10-10-10 at 10:10 a.m., weighing in at 6 lbs 4 oz
(6+4=10) and 19 inches long (1+9=10) I think will have some bearing on her life. She is
absolutely gorgeous, and though I haven't seen it yet, her smile is going to break hearts. Mom
and Art as great grandparents couldn't be more thrilled, and Grandma Georgia, Matt's mom,
Grandma Sandy, and of course me, the old fart, couldn't be happier.

Kristina, now 12, is quite the young lady. She is in the 7th grade...something I simply cannot
comprehend, and doing very well in school. She is the very proud big sister, as you can imagine.
She is a big help to Kate in taking care of Julie. As you can see here, Kristy is quite the beauty.
Our whole family could not have any more pride than we do of our two young ladies who bring
such joy and happiness to our family.

Scott is still in Bakersfield, and in March will turn 33. He and Liz have decided to end
their relationship which is probably for the better. It's best to find ut now than wait. They
parted as friends, which is the way it should be. Scott is teaching in a school for alternative education, and is very
very happy in his new position. I am very proud of him for everything he has gone through.

Kate will be 31 next week, and still works for the County of Los Angeles. She will go back to work from maternity
leave on January 3, 2011 and Georgia will be the baby-sitter as she is retiring from TSA on December 31. The
timing could not have been better.

We lost Lady in April, and as sad as it is to see a pet go, we have the beautiful memories of her and the joy she
brought us for so many years.

That about wraps it up for another beautiful year. I am a firm believer that we make our own joys in our lives, as
well as our own sorrows. We make do with what we have, and somehow, it always seems to work out.

I wish you the warmest of holiday seasons, and a new year filled with joy and love and peace.

Warmly,

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Happy Holidays to you all!

Once again it's holiday time and I hope all of you had a wonderful 2011. It amazes me how
quickly time goes by. Acutally, as I write this, it's May 21, 2011 and although the year didnt
start off the way I'd like it to, there's still plenty of year left to make up for what has happened
so far. In March, Mom suffered a moderate stroke. In July 2008 she suffered a TIA but this
time, it was a regular stroke. She is able to walk and talk but not much of anything else. She can
no longer write, dial a phone, or use a television remote. Her short-term memory is gone, and
she repeats everything minutes apart. It's been very difficult to deal with this and be her 24/7
caregiver. Art is still suffering with his bad back so it's all left to me to wash, cook, clean,
change beds, etc. I really hope as the year continues, so will her health improve.

May 16 found me in a very bad accident in which my 2007 Buick was totaled. As I was turning
left after waiting through a green and yellow light, then turning when safe on the red, an 82 year
old woman ran the red light and broadsided me. I was injured with rib and back and head/neck
injuries and as I type right now, very painful. The doctor seems to think that some cartilage has
been torn away from the ribs and there is no remedy for that other than time and rest.

I never like to share bad news in a Christmas letter, so I can only say that the good part of all
this is, as of this writing, Mom is doing ok, and turned 90 in June; My car was replaced on May
20 with a 2011 Buick LaCrosse, and my injuries will heal.

Scott is now living and working in Fairfield California. He is engaged to a
radiologist and plans to marry soon. He is doing well, and will be 34 in
March. I'm sure many of you can remember when I used to write that
"...Scott will be 10..." or "...Scott started Jr. High School..." and here he is,
ready to marry. Kate will be 32 next week, and still works for the County of
Los Angeles. Her oldest daughter, Kristina, is 13, and Julianna just turned 1
in October. I am deliriously proud of my children and granddaughters. They
bring joy to my life that cannot be understood until you go through it
yourself.

On August 6, Scott proposed to Sonja, (the radiologist) and she said yes. I
don't know the date yet but hopefully it will be soon. We are very excited for
them both. She is a lovely lady and they make each other very happy.

Krisitina is in the 8th grade...something I simply cannot comprehend, and
doing very well in school. She is the very proud big sister, as you can
imagine. She is a big help to Kate in taking care of Julie. As you can see
here, Kristy is quite the beauty. Our whole family could not have any

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Despite the fact that Mom and Art are now sharing a room in a skilled nursing facility, (Art
since July, Mom since December 1), I know they are safe and comfortable, and some of the
burden on me will be lifted. All I want is for their happiness and safety for whatever time is left
for them.

Carlos and I have 14 years under our belts and the time we share together is so precious and
making each other laugh every day is one of the keys to our happiness.

In May, I joined the Gay Men's Chorus of Los Angeles as part of their "5th Section" mainly
being there for administrative and support, so while I no longer sing, being a part of this
incredible family has helped ease the burdens of daily life, and the guys in the chorus are just
the most wonderful people ever. If you ever get the chance to see one of our shows, you will
experience the love these men share as they sing their ways into your hearts.

I will turn 65 in another month, and after waiting 23 years, I will begin to receive my pension
from A T & T. I never thought I'd see the day...and while it's not a trip to Europe, it will add a
little to my monthly income I get from social security. I have a rough time believing that I'm old
enough to be a senior citizen. How could that be??

That about wraps it up for another beautiful year. I am a firm believer that we make our own
joys in our lives, as well as our own sorrows. We make do with what we have, and somehow, it
always seems to work out.

I wish you the warmest of holiday seasons, and a new year filled with joy and love and peace.

Warmly,

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Happy Holidays to you all!

Well here we are again, the end of yet another year. It astounds me how time flies.

Since last I wrote, my step-dad Art passed away on December 19 last year, about a week after I got the holiday le
Mom has been doing very well this year without him, although naturally, she misses him terribly. We had a b
memorial service for him in February, with 80 people in our backyard celebrating his life.

Mom's health is stable but at 91 she has her moments and her share of issues.

As you may recall, in May of 2011 I was involved in a car accident that totaled my car, so I had to buy a new o
2011 LaCrosse. It was giving me some problems to the point that it was in the shop for the same issue 6 tim
months, so I contacted a "lemon law" attorney who negotiated with General Motors to buy the car back. They p
every cent I paid for the car, so I was able to purchase a new 2012 LaCrosse last March. So far, still loving the car

July found us in Cancún for Scott's wedding to Sonja. B
Wednesday morning at 10:00 on the beach on the Caribbean Se

They are living in Fairfield, between San Francisco and Sacr
She is an interventional radiologist, and Scott is teaching hist
high school in Napa. He loves his job and his life. Sure
remember those days many years ago when I told you that "Sc
be 10" or "Scott just graduated Jr. High"....Well, Scott will b
March. I look back at that, and am amazed that he is 35 when I
only 40. How the hell did that happen??

Kate, as she now prefers to be called, is 33, still working for the County of
Los Angeles, as does her husband Matt. I'm pretty proud of both my
children, and the fine people they have become. Here they both are, with
Julie who just turned 2 in October. This was taken in July at Scott and
Sonja's wedding.

I would expect before long, Julie will be starting a daycare, but for now, her
grandma Georgia takes care of her during the day while Kate and Matt are at
work. Georgia comes over to be with my mom a few days during the week
so I can take care of a few things that I need to do.

Kristina is 14 and in high school. Beautiful girl. 14. Gees!

I know she will probably shoot me if she sees this on a Holiday let
she posted this on her FaceBook page, so as far as I'm concerned
for grabs.

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She lives a good distance from me, so I don't get the chance to see
much as I'd like to, so that makes it that much better when I do ge
her.

Carlos and I are still involved with the Gay Men's Chorus of Los A
and I really find the love and support from so many guys very rewa
have become pretty close friends with a few of them, and they are
there for me as I trudge through the trials and tribulations of my l
health, issues with Mom as she ages, and in general just the best
anyone could ever hope for. Monday nights are very special to me
spend a couple hours with them all.

My health continues to be stable, and my doctors call me "borin
guess that's a compliment. After 57 years of this *#^%)( disease,
me, it's long worn out it's welcome.

Carlos and I are going into our 14th year, and I just couldn't count
myself any luckier than to have someone in my life who cares about me
the way he does, and helps me to stay focused on the daily issues I am
presented with. He is my rock, my sounding board, for everything...and
one of the many things he does daily is to make me laugh. Maybe that's
why I only look 64 instead of 65.

So here we are, two old farts at Scott and Sonja's wedding. Loud shirts,
huh? That's the dress code Scott wanted, so that's the best we could do.

I treasure pictures like this because neither one of us likes to have our
picture taken but there are times we both just have to give in. This was
one of those times.

That about wraps it up for another beautiful year. I am a firm believer that we make our own joys in our lives, as
our own sorrows. We make do with what we have, and somehow, it always seems to work out.

I wish you the warmest of holiday seasons, and a new year filled with joy and love and peac

Warmly,

[email protected]

click the EasyLink to email me. I'd love to hear from you!

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Hello one and all..

Well, here we are, the end of yet another year, yet as I type this part of the letter, it is September 8,
and 112º outside.

2013 was another year filled with exciting things. It was a pretty quiet year, really, in the way of
things “gone wrong”. Nothing really did.

Scott turned 35 in March (ah yes, those years when
he was a kid and me tearing my hair out as to what
happens from day to day). He and Sonja are still
living in Fairfield, between Sacramento and San
Francisco. She is still practicing at the air force
base there as an interventional radiologist, and
Scott is still teaching. How proud a dad am I that
my two children and their spouses have such
wonderfully responsible jobs and lives.

Kate and Matt are doing well; Matt accepted a
supervisory position with the county but that
meant he had to relocate his office about 25
miles away...down the 405 freeway...and is
trying to get back into the valley. I hope so. I’ve
driven that route before when I worked down by
the airport. Not pretty. Kate is still with the
county, and works about 8 miles from home.
Both are doing well and raising Julianna...who
by the way is now 3. She is such a pretty girl
but I really wish she would give me a kiss and
hug when I ask for one...perhaps I scare her.
Kristina is now 15 and as you see...quite the
beauty.

Mom turned 92 in June and is slowing down (who wouldn’t at 92...) and I am doing my best to
keep her out of hospitals and nursing homes. So far, so good.

June found us driving to San Francisco to see Scott being presented with his Master’s Degree in
Education. What a proud moment for the entire family.

Also in June, as I am sure you know, the supreme court made the decision to repeal DOMA, and
also to refer California’s Proposition 8 back to California. California had previously ruled that the
ban on same sex marriages is unconstitutional, so when it was referred back, the state Supreme
Court ruling stood.

Carlos and I, together 15 years, decided
to take advantage of that ruling, and we
were married on July 24 in a quiet
ceremony at the courthouse. 12 of our
closest friends and our family attended
the marriage and the lunch afterwards.
It’s a wonderful feeling that two people
who love each other...regardless of
gender...are now permitted to have equal
rights. We motored to San Diego for a
couple days in our new car, then in
August went to Ft. Lauderdale for a
week.

In August, Scott and Sonja announced their plans to become parents in January. We found out that it
will be a boy, and they are, as we, ridiculously excited for this new addition to the Dardenelle family.
Frankly, I don't see how I am old enough to have 3 grandchildren.

So as most of you know, I get this bug up
my butt every now and then and in July I
was infected with that bug, and bought my
dream car, after all these years. I traded in
my 2012 Buick for a 2013 Cadillac XTS. I
have never named a car in my life, but this
one I named “Irene” in honor and memory
of my grandmother who always told me,
“You need to have a Cadillac! Don't buy a
Pontiac. You need a Cadillac!”
So...Grandma, this one’s for you. It’s a
gorgeous machine and I thought that
Carlos was the only one I could fall in love
with, but even being an inanimate object as
a car, I fell in love all over again.

Carlos has been doing a ton of volunteer work for the Hollywood Bowl and the Los Angeles
Philharmonic Orchestra, and for their gratitude to the volunteers, they issue vouchers to the Bowl, so
we have been going to MANY concerts this year. Since I use a walker on these long uphill walks, we sit
in the handicapped section, usually center stage, in the middle of the Bowl. In September, we got to see
Blue Man Group with a spectacular fireworks show afterwards. We had never seen BMG so didn't
know what to expect...but WOW...what a show. A few weeks before, we also saw John Williams “At
The Movies” with Julie Andrews as host. It was unbelievable.

We recently had new sod placed in the back yard, and of course, new lawn has to be watered
constantly, and water attracts grubworms. Grubworms attract raccoons. Need I go on??? The raccoons
have demolished my new lawn with their digging up the grass in an effort to get their meals. I am
compelled to share with you how I hopefully am repelling the raccoons. I read on the internet that
coyote urine is a good repellent because raccoons think there has been a coyote around, and they are
deathly afraid of coyotes.

So, I ordered some coyote urine pellets from Amazon, overnight delivery, for about $16. What I
received instead of the coyote pellets was a brand new MacBook Pro laptop computer!! OK....lets go
back and read that again. A MACBOOK PRO LAPTOP COMPUTER....In place of coyote pee! First
off, I don't do Macs. I do PC’s. Second, I wanted the pellets!! The thought ran through my mind, as it
would most, to say, “hey, I can use the computer somehow...” but my integrity got the better of me and
after a weekend of phone calls to various places (Amazon said they couldn’t take it back because they
didn't sell it to me...how lame...) I was finally able to convince Amazon that they need to take it back
because basically, I received the wrong item. Finally I convinced them to send me a shipping label, and
back it went.

A computer instead of pee pellets. Seriously.

Mom’s brother Bob turned 90 this year and my cousin hosted a wonderful 90th birthday party for him,
including cousins my mom and uncle have not seen in many years. It was a wonderful day and one he
will remember forever. So glad we were able to be there. I mean, how many times does someone turn
90? 2, 3 times tops?

September 27 found us at Dodger Stadium
in the first LGBT night in the 51 year
history of Dodger Stadium, singing the
National Anthem with the chorus. Bucket
list: Check. As you know I’ve stopped
singing because of some health issues, but
tonight I was back, standing next to my
new husband, and it felt wonderful!!!
Once again, we were part of American
history! Pictured here are the tenors...but
we had nearly 150 men on the field. It was
amazing to be escorted out to center field
where some of the biggest stars in history
have performed.

I think for the last 5 years or so I have told you of my plans to record again; an album called “Inspired by
Love”. I haven’t recorded for over 15 years so this was another “bucket list” item for me. With the help
of my friend Kirk, I began about a month ago. I had hoped to have it ready by Christmas but because of
unforeseen events around the Dardenelle household, it looks like it won't be ready until after the first of
the year. But I DID go into the studio, and I DID record. It’s just in it’s final stages of mixing and post
production. Art isn’t easy, that’s for sure!

That about wraps it up for 2013. So much that goes on in our lives, true that. But I love my life, I love
it’s ups and downs, and I love my myriad of friends and family.

Have a wonderful season, a warm New Year, and health and happiness that we all deserve.

Love,

Mike and Carlos
Christmas, 2013

Christmas, 2014

I can't believe we are at the end of yet another year!!!

Our year started off beautifully, with the birth of our first grandson,
Troy Arthur Dardenelle on January 14, 2014 to our son Scott and his
wife Sonja. Carlos and I travelled up to see them in March to meet
Troy, and it was a wonderful time, even if it was only for the day.
Troy is now 11 months old and I believe he weighs in at 142 lbs.
Such a gorgeous smile and winning personality. Scott and Sonja, as
has the rest of the family, fallen in love with this newest member of
our family.

Scott has "retired" from teaching as he is now a full time "stay at home Dad"
taking care of Troy while Mom goes to work. They were transferred to
Andrews Air Force Base so now live in southern Maryland (Mechanicsville)
and have purchased a home. Sonja was promoted to Major and as such only
works days, Monday through Friday.

Katie and Matt are still working for Los Angeles County as eligibility
workers. My oldest granddaughter, Kristina (now 16) and my youngest,
Julianna (now 4) are wonderful. Thanksgiving evening found Kristy and her
Grandpa Carlos playing the piano...amazing me. Kristy is showing a
remarkable interest in music. She plays by ear, and says "I just play what
sounds good to me". I'd love for that to last. Julie is in a day care where she is
learning what 4 year olds learn, and loves it there. She learns something new
every day. Matt &Kate are still living here in the valley with Georgia and we
all get together as we can.

January saw us transfer Mom to a nursing home for a few
months, after she was released from the hospital for some
fainting spells. In May we decided that coming back to the
house really wasn't an option because she needs more care
than I can give her. We looked at many assisted living
apartments, and found one about 4 miles away in Tarzana. On
May 1, she was transferred to her new apartment, all fixed up
with her own bed, television, dresser; everything that was here
at the house is now there in her apartment. She has pretty
much stopped asking when she can "come home" and has
said she is very "content" there and at 93 seems to be doing
OK. She doesn't participate in the activities as I'd like but that's OK. She is considered a "high fall risk" and as
such has fallen several times, requiring medical attention for head injuries. Early December she was admitted
to home hospice care as she continues to deteriorate...sometimes it seems right before my eyes.

On July 9, I tripped at home and fell flat on my face (luckily there
was no video to witness the clumsiness) but I was injured very
badly and fractured my "femur neck" of my right hip. I laid on the
ground for about an hour before help came, as it took me nearly
that long to place a telephone call to Carlos. He called 911 for me
and I was taken to the hospital in probably the worst pain
imaginable. The surgery that followed as a hip replacement and
after the hospital it was about 15 days in rehab (call it what you
want but it was a nursing home...) until I could walk with the
walker and be sent home.
I understand that hip replacement surgeries can take many months
to recover and walk without help, and currently I'm still using the
walker to get around. All in all it could have been worse than it
was...so I'm lucky in that regard.
Here's a picture that doesn't happen often:

It is exciting to see that nearly all the states in the country are recognizing equality and allowing same sex
couples to marry. I laugh at all the news when a state simply doesn't want to comply.
This year we visited the Hollywood Bowl many times with free passes that Carlos receives from his
volunteer work. The highlight of the season though, was when our chorus was invited to participate in
"The Simpsons Take The Hollywood Bowl" in mid September. 115º heat...but it was spectacular.

Many of you recall my plans to record again, and I
mentioned in last year's letter that it was in the works.
After nearly 18 years of not recording for various reasons,
I made it happen. A definite bucket list item I could
scratch off. The album is called "When Sings The Heart"
and I decided to put a deadline on it to have it ready to go
by Mom's 93rd birthday June 21...and it was ready to go 3
days early. You can hear the tracks at
www.michaeldardenelle.com/music. I hope you get the
chance to listen and enjoy it. I recorded this for the spirit
and love I have for my music, and not for an audition.

May the warmth of this holiday season be yours now, and into the New Year. I think back through all the
years...the many many years... and am so humbly grateful for all I have…for all I am…and I wish the same
for each and every one of you.

Love from Mike and Carlos

Where DOES the time go??

Happy Holidays to you all. I hope 2015 proved to be a
memorable year for you. It was for us, in several
ways…mostly good, but out of 365 days, there's bound
to be a glitch from time to time.

Carlos and I traveled east in January to be with our
grandson, Troy, for his first birthday. We decided to take
the train this time rather than fly. We boarded Amtrak
train #4 in Los Angeles on a Thursday, arrived in
Chicago the following Saturday, the train #30 took us to
Washington D. C., arriving Sunday afternoon. We have
an interesting country in the winter…something I was
not used to seeing (gees, there was a lot of snow) and
Carlos says New Mexico was the biggest state ever! It
seemed like we would never get out of NM!

Train travel is something else. There were times I swore we'd never get
out alive, with the speeds and the curves and the stops…and sleeping
on a train traveling 100 MPH is something you must experience at least
once in your lifetime.

We spent until Thursday in Maryland where Scott and Sonja live. Troy
turned one on January 14, and honestly, I don’t think I'd have passed up
that moment to be with him on his first birthday. I was with all my
grandchildren on their first birthdays, and I wasn't about to let distance
keep me from Troy's.

While there, we visited Andrew's Air Force Base where Sonja works.
We were able to see one of the Air Force One planes…a 737…but at
Sonja's request, did not post pictures of it on social media.

The visit came to an end quickly, and we flew home on Thursday. We are planning to go back when we can.

In February I decided to upgrade the house a little; our
bathroom of 60 years desperately needed upgrading to
2015, so I decided to remove the tub and install a bigger
shower in it's place.

Then I thought, OK, the counter needs replacing, the
wallpaper needs removing…and before you know it, I
have a new bathroom that I am enjoying.

The walk-in shower is so much easier on me with my
infirmities. The old shower was way too small and the
bathtub was next to impossible to climb into.

I don't know what a "no tub" bathroom will do to the
resale of the house, but as long as I am here, I will enjoy
it. And really…isn't that what counts??

Scott and Sonja are enjoying their life in Maryland even with all the
snow. Their home in Mechanicsville, MD is about a 45 minute drive
from Sonja's work. They are wonderful parents to a wonderful little
boy. Scott is now 37 and stays at home with Troy.

He recently has picked up where he and I left off years ago making
chocolates. He's remarkable at it and some of the flavors he comes up
with amaze me. I don’t do much cooking right now so I'm glad to see
that the Dardenelle tradition has continued.

He and I used to hand dip chocolates every holiday season so he's just
taking up the slack where Dad left off.

Kate, who is now 36, is still working for
Los Angeles County, and has been there
for about 10 years.

Her oldest, Kristina ("Kristy" as I call
her) is 17…I have NO idea how that
happened…and so so pretty. She is in her
senior year in high school and doing
well. I don't see her much because of
time constraints and distance but when
we do see each other, we pick up where
we left off.

I'm far too young to have grandchildren!

My other granddaughter, Julie, turned 5 in October. Kate had a party over at my house for her and the place
rang with children laughing, screaming, etc…you know the drill…which this house hasn’t seen in quite some
time. Julie has the curliest hair you've ever seen so it gets pulled back to reveal her pretty little face.

I had my front and back lawns removed
and replaced with artificial turf in July.
The drought in California really made us
think about the water we've been using.
The year prior, I had, if you recall, new
lawns put in, only to be ripped to shreds
by raccoons. What a waste of $5,000
between the sod, the water, the raccoon
cages…so we decided to have the turf
put in.

After I did that, my water bill went from over $200 to…$3. Yes. Three dollars!! I stopped watering my
yards completely (artificial turf really doesn’t require much, you know….) so my electric/water bills went
from about $800 every 2 months (more when Mom was here) to about $150 every 2 months. Just a slight
savings, huh?? The yards are beautiful year round and require very little in the way of care. Wait…not
very little…NONE. Me likey. And yes, Irene is still with me, sitting majestically on the driveway.

Carlos and I have been married now for 2 1/2 years (July,
2013) and he is my rock when it comes to…well, just
everything.

I had pretty extensive back surgery in August (re-doing
vertebrae T3-T10) and he practically lived at the hospital
with me.

It's unfortunate that we have to go through what we do in
our lifetimes as far as health, but when we have someone
who loves us unconditionally, things are a lot easier to
handle.

We flew to Portland in October to see his mom as she
had taken a turn for the worse. She was 93 and we felt
her time was nearing, so we made the trip kind of
unexpectedly. We arrived around 3:00 P.M. and we were
no sooner on the road to drive 4 hours to Redmond, that
we received a call from his sister, also living in
Redmond, that his mom had passed away. We were 3
hours away from seeing her for the last time. We decided
to keep driving so we could see his sister and help with
arrangements. Carlos' mom had lived in Oregon for a few years since leaving southern California and we
hadn't seen her since she left. She led a good, long life.